condemnthetradfem Archive

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3	Single at 30 - how do I not freak out? Date - and date with a purpose. Sniff out what the man wants long-term on the first or second. If it isn’t “marriage and kids,” politely move on - and tell him why. Date many men at the same time (note: no sex. ZERO.) to widen the pool. Doing the ridiculous “relationship ladder” where you serially monogamously date one man at a time for years “waiting and seeing” about marriage will absolutely screw you over here at your age. This is a relatively new invention (60s) - remember - going on dates w…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/03/23 12:00 PM
68	Is lifting weights mutually exclusive with being feminine? No. Just don’t do roids and you’ll be fine.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/02/22 06:39 PM
1	Half the sub is saying it’s his fault for not taking ownership of a kid he didn’t even plan to conceive. I would say it is, definitely. Green cards are pretty valuable.	/r/AntiFeminists	25/11/21 05:49 PM
2	Half the sub is saying it’s his fault for not taking ownership of a kid he didn’t even plan to conceive. The fault in him isn’t his refusal to pay child support or get a paternity test in any way - but he is monumentally stupid for having that fling.	/r/AntiFeminists	25/11/21 02:56 PM
5	How to dress feminine in cold weather Exactly this ^ layers layers and more layers. Scarves and tights are your best friends.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/11/21 11:22 PM
10	Why Buy the Cow When He Can Get the Milk For Free...? Right...? Maybe I’m just old school then. Or rather, returned to old school - long ago, even dating exclusively was a no no - there was a whole moral panic in the 60s about “going steady”. Now it’s weird if you don’t commit to someone before you’re actually committed. I dated (as in first dates, not relationships) probably 50, 60 dudes. I had several long term relationships in my twenties, and lived with a guy at one point. They were all “situationships” - each time, I wanted more, I wanted a ring, I want…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/21 03:31 AM
17	Why Buy the Cow When He Can Get the Milk For Free...? Right...? Sex and love isn’t the only “wife privilege” though. And an employee-employer relationship isn’t a marriage dynamic. It’s one of them, sure, but so many women share assets, dole out housework, chores, labor, and financially support men who aren’t their spouses. And they scratch their heads and wonder why they won’t propose - as he’s sitting around, enjoying your “wife shit” with no commitment, waiting for the real woman he wants to come along. I appreciate the thought you put into this descripti…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/21 12:14 AM
3	How to show interest in the dating phase Yep! Little too direct I think if you’re just complimenting him to compliment him. I would tie it to any of his actions - it can be as simple as letting him know how appreciated you feel when he picks a restaurant he knows you will like. I think it shows that you’re interested without going overboard.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/10/21 10:23 PM
16	How to show interest in the dating phase It’s desperate if you’re telling him how much you like him early on - it’s tactful and graceful when you compliment his actions or tell him how he’s making YOU feel. I had a lot of success with “it makes me feel so valued when you did X - thank you!”. Don’t make it about him: make it about how he makes you feel. If he’s making you feel amazing, tell him specifically what he did and specifically what his action made you feel.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/10/21 10:10 PM
3	Advice: my HV fiancé wants to be in a polyamory relationship this is 100% against who I am. I am desperately searching for advice. ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^	/r/RedPillWives	12/10/21 08:15 PM
16	How do you find good therapy as a woman with traditional values? hot take but a pastor might be better. every single therapist I've ever had in my life danced around personal responsibility like it was the plague.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/10/21 08:27 PM
13	Still not official after four months - any advice appreciated! This read to me like he’s keeping you as an option on the back burner and tantalizing you with what you want just enough to keep his options open. You’re “good” and acceptable- but he’s holding out for a woman he thinks is better than you. All this stress and anxiety over a guy who won’t pick you first - not worth your time. Move on, find someone who picks you first.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/10/21 08:01 PM
1	What y’all think about MGTOW No idea if I represent the group or not in any way but I don’t think about them very much. They seem very bitter and act as if women as a group owe them something, instead of dealing with whatever life problem they have that was caused by a woman. Not a lot of constructive discussion. I also get a chuckle out of seeing a group determined to go their own way (away from women) speak so much about us. Not even RP or PUA talks about women as much as they do. Overall - kinda sad bunch of guys, probab…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/10/21 07:53 PM
3	Advice needed on being too affectionate If the happiest, truest version of yourself involved tons of affection - and he hates it - he’s telling who he is. And he doesn’t like the true you. Cut your losses. I couldn’t IMAGINE not being able to show my husband affection.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/09/21 01:10 AM
4	Did FDS help any of you become red pill? I started as FDS. I used a lot of their strategies to find my husband - most aren’t new, and can be found in books like The Rules and some others. Sami Wunder runs by the same playbook but without all of the man-hating. If you lose the toxicity and negativity of FDS - it’ll land you a husband. Since then, RPW all the way.	/r/RedPillWives	11/09/21 07:26 PM
2	I can't go back to a world without WFH Thank you. I’m excited. I’m glad that you’ve found what works for you - I’m sure I would like WFH more with a different job. My old one was just a bottomless pit.	/r/RedPillWives	09/09/21 01:00 PM
8	I can't go back to a world without WFH Mine has been the opposite. I left my job because it would forever be WFH. It was affecting my marriage to the point that my husband asked me to quit - and I did. I have some introvert qualities and I DO require downtime to recharge but I’m mostly extroverted and I do my best thinking and collaboration in the presence of other people. I also have an inability to shut off and separate work from personal life - the last few months at my old job, I was regularly pulling 12 hour days, sometimes more…	/r/RedPillWives	09/09/21 12:10 PM
69	How to get over the fact that your guy has casually hooked up with other people before you? My (30) husband (32) has: hooked up multiple times was married once before killed people (army) done cocaine, meth, and heroin been arrested None of those behaviors in his past have anything to do with me. I was far more straight edge than he was and it doesn’t bother me at all. What matters now is how he honors, cherishes, and cares for me in the present - and he is absolutely amazing at that today. His past behaviors have no place in our marriage. My advice is to focus on the now and prioritiz…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/08/21 11:05 AM
2	I [22F] am doubting my online relationship with my [21M] boyfriend. Any advise? Not to be a naysayer - but it is easy to fake a relationship like this where you have never physically seen the man. If he can move and attend a new university during a covid lockdown, he can make time to see you. This sounds like the beginning of a lot of some ill-fated relationships when I was your age. I loved the idea of him and the idea of us together, but when it came down to it, he was putting up a front and exaggerating his qualities. Don't be in a relationship with him in your head. You…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/08/21 04:51 PM
6	Feelings towards splitting 50/50, going dutch? Nope. Financial incompatibility and arguments regarding finances is one of the most frequently cited reasons for divorce. If he’d have kids with you but wouldn’t buy you dinner - you’re looking at a “co-parenting” setup and not a marriage. After a year I would have expected a frank discussion about income, debt, and financial values. The fact that he keeps it safeguarded probably means he’s hiding something or embarrassed about something- maybe some credit card debt or some outstanding loans. Ei…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/21 11:31 PM
13	My bf went camping with another woman. I think it is too. I’m so sorry. I hope you have some friends to take you out or have a quiet night in for some support. His behavior is unacceptable - I’m so sorry he did this to you.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/08/21 09:41 PM
21	My bf went camping with another woman. Sounds harsh but dump him. A year and a half in, you’re both in your thirties, and he’s pulling this shit?? Sweetie - a year and a half into my relationship (when I was 29 and he was 30) I was engaged and months away from being married. The fact that he did something that made you uncomfortable (with good reason!!), you let him know prior, and he STILL did it, means that he’s not looking out for you or your needs. Cut your losses - I’m so sorry.	/r/RedPillWomen	07/08/21 09:25 PM
14	Femininity for Tall women I’m 5’11”. My husband is 5’8”. The height thing is such a nothingburger. If he can’t handle your height, pass him by.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/08/21 10:33 AM
62	Do you recommend living with your boyfriend or fiancée before getting married ? I only moved in with my fiancée when there was a ring and a date. No regrets.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/08/21 12:49 PM
18	Do you recommend living with your boyfriend or fiancée before getting married ? What are you going to learn about someone by watching them brush their teeth every day? It’s nonsense to share assets and expose yourself to financial and personal risk so you can make sure your habits are compatible.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/08/21 12:47 PM
2	Does any of you have no friends around? How do you deal with it? Church. ❤️	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/21 01:20 AM
3	Hoping to have a traditional relationship with my boyfriend :) Amen re: no such thing as a traditional boyfriend. I never dated my husband exclusively - one day I was single, the next I was engaged.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/21 02:20 AM