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| 3 | Thoughts on Uber money?Same! Coffee or walking at a pier/beach and grab some ice cream or coffee. You can't run out of topics of discussion as there are things happening around you. As you mentioned you can control the duration of the date and have an easy way out. | /r/seduction | 24/07/26 06:18 PM |
| 31 | Thoughts on Uber money?As Matthew Hassey said in response to "men have to pay for dinner": if someone demands to start something on unequal terms then that's a red a flag. | /r/seduction | 24/07/26 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Why are dominate alpha male traits like possession frowned upon by women but by not caring it is not?Still pre-selection was attractive, competency was attractive, being popular was attractive even a hundred or more yrs ago. Possession wasn't attractive. | /r/seduction | 21/07/26 09:44 PM |
| 159 | Why all these alpha males on YouTube still unmarried or still figuring it outThe issue with many of them is that they become fanatic and turn the observed patterns and teachings to ideologies and dogmas. Then they declare "wars" and they start hating. You can't build a relationship without compromises from both sides. —Sometimes the people who give the best advice are the ones with the most problems— | /r/seduction | 24/11/25 06:01 AM |
| 3 | How to escalate it past a numberAre you asking how to physically escalate? If you get a number do you propose a date or just chat about random stuff? | /r/seduction | 13/11/25 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Talking feminism on datesI think the difference is in what someone weighs more: stay true to their beliefs or change their beliefs when new data comes in. If it's the former then good riddance, they will tell you "I still believe blah blah" and argue all the time. This type most likely will discuss such topics to see if you are an "ally". | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 03:33 PM |
| -2 | Talking feminism on datesThat's why we need to master the art of arguing and negotiation! I am happy to discuss if they can actually challenge my views. For all these simplistic cliche statements there are arguments all over the web that debunk them. However, I think that people restraint from such topics during the first date. | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 09:15 AM |
| 45 | women want to be "just friends" these days?Tell them you are not looking for friendships, so if they are open to meeting you halfway as friends with benefits, you are fine with that. Otherwise, thank them and move on. | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone think the "nice guy syndrome" thing is total bsBeing a "nice guy" doesn't mean you are not a good man. Nice guys are people pleasers to the extent of not having personal boundaries which is off-putting. When it comes to dating they will prioritize their date over everything which demonstrates low self value. Furthermore their behavior sometimes has ulterior motives: e.g the girl will like them. For me the difference is in the boundaries each one places. You can treat anyone right and still display self-respect and that you have priorities in… | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 07:36 AM |
| 4 | How to deal with other guysShe has to deal with him. If her attention sways that much then is not worth my time. | /r/seduction | 09/11/25 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Girl Went Cold after 4th DateI agree with OpinionThink that people behave the way they choose, not how others want or expect them to. However, it’s up to you to decide whether her ghosting behavior was rude. It’s like walking into a building, you can hold the door open for the person behind you, or you can let it close in their face. After all, you don’t owe anyone that gesture. Still, there’s a certain level of common courtesy expected, especially toward someone you were once intimate with. As OpinionThink mentioned, you g… | /r/seduction | 30/10/25 06:26 AM |
| 5 | Girl cancelled less than 1hr before first dateExactly. Also if someone doesn't take it well you can block them and ghost them afterwards. That girl didn't know how to handle the situation but still told him to reschedule! How can someone not be mad after all these games? | /r/seduction | 12/09/25 04:33 PM |
| 28 | Girl cancelled less than 1hr before first dateSo much "conflict avoidance". So many spineless people not being able to say the obvious in a respectful manner. Instead, they waste people's time, ghost them and come up with all sorts of games and mental gymnastics. I can't imagine how OP would feel getting ready for a date twice and waiting for a response from that person. | /r/seduction | 12/09/25 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Ignore her superficial standards. These are the real core standards that every woman has about men on an instinct levelHonestly I don't understand why you are downvoted. This is absolutely true. For example, we know that very good leaders have some level of narcissism. A dark triad guy offers the thrill and emotional rollercoaster that makes them addicted to him and his presence. | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 05:31 AM |
| 25 | Ignore her superficial standards. These are the real core standards that every woman has about men on an instinct levelNot every woman has such standards. For the standards you describe, a woman needs time to discover them. Someone at work, someone that you see in a class, might notice these traits and develop feelings for you overtime. I find this type of connection more deep as it develops slowly and is based on character qualities. However, there are other traits that spike attraction prior to the traits you describe. Nowadays, only a tiny minority of women will invest time to discover these traits in someone… | /r/seduction | 23/08/25 05:28 AM |
| 4 | Talking to my girl “friends”made me realise I’m actually not that guyPeople value more the rare reward than the frequent reward. So he treats her like she is low priority to him, and from time to time he becomes lovey-dovey for a moment. For her, that moment is exhilarating and soothes her insecurities about him. Getting validated by him spikes her neurotransmitters. The uncertainty, unpredictability and emotional rollercoaster keeps her hooked for good. Have you ever heard the expression that "women need drama in a relationship to not get bored"? That's exactly … | /r/seduction | 20/08/25 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Self-Improvement is Making me Worse with WomenYes I am in a similar boat. I think at an initial stage if you come across as too serious, intense and disciplined, women might be afraid that they will be judged and perhaps that you will also put them under your strict regime later on. I am sure that you give great importance to good decision making skills but most of the people do not live a very disciplined life. During the first interactions they want to feel that almost everything is spontaneous. However, the skills that you have are valua… | /r/seduction | 23/07/25 07:24 PM |
| 6 | How to deal with men using physical force and threats of violence to cockblock you:So how did the girls that were flirting with you react? I am sure they know that are not property and should have a word with whom they can date/like. Imagine this scenario: you beat the guy unconscious. What will you gain? The girl? I doubt so after beating up a person in public. You will end up in trouble. Imho the most suitable person to resolve the situation is the girl of interest, except if she enjoys people fighting over her. I am not even sure if you beat the other person that she will b… | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 08:57 PM |
| 3 | This is why you guys suck at pulling women, keeping them and getting them interested with you ..Confidence is one factor...but there are many other factors and every woman has different criteria. Attraction, looks and timing are very important. And in order to attract a woman that you also like and are attracted to, typically you need way more than confidence. On the other hand I am a bit fed up with this narrative: "men you should develop yourself to be <put good traits here> up to perfection to attract a woman" and on the other hand: "women you deserve the perfect guy because you exist". | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 06:36 PM |
| 4 | Do any other men feel like it's impossible to make the first move?You can even place your hand over her shoulder and walk together (kind of side hug). Notice how she reacts. I did that to a girl I knew she liked me and she was kind of surprised and she slightly moved a bit away. I told her "ok you don't want me, alright" and moved a little bit further away being half serious half joking. She was all over me in a sec. It will also make it easier to go for a kiss later on instead of holding hands, if she is comfortable with your arm side hugging her. The more yo… | /r/seduction | 29/06/25 05:21 AM |
| 3 | Can a nice guy actually become a bad/confident guy?"Nice guy" means that always put others needs as a priority. Never sets boundaries. His opinion doesn't matter and can be changed easily by others. Changing state of mind takes many months if not years. You either need a therapist to get some guidance or other resources (books, videos etc). The first thing is to start prioritizing what you want. Start saying "no" politely. Then reflect on the interaction. What were the consequences? Why you couldn't say no before? Start evaluating your social ci… | /r/seduction | 28/06/25 05:11 PM |
| 2 | How do I convince my best friend for FWB ?You are at a needy and desperate state. She knows that. The hot and cold game she's playing (even subconsciously) it feeds to your false hopes and drives you crazy. You talk about friendship...what friendship? You want to have sex with her and because she is not into you, you are willing to get any scraps of attention she is giving you. My advice is to distant yourself and steer your focus to other women, hobbies etc After a few weeks the "spell" will break and you will start seeing things more … | /r/seduction | 23/06/25 07:31 PM |
| 27 | This question is for everyone about personal experience what do you consider obvious signals that someone is attracted to you and there's no doubt they want to *make out, fool around, have sex * with you?We, men are thick for sure. However, let's not overlook the mixed signals we receive from girls 😅 Many times the exact same signals might mean "i just see you as a friend" and "i am into you", "i am just polite" and "i am thinking of you everyday". Girls might act disinterested towards someone they like, with minimal interaction, and be even flirty with someone they don't. After many interactions, the only way to understand what's going on is to take action. | /r/seduction | 12/06/25 03:37 PM |
| 7 | Thought I had a date locked in- girl flaked without a word after showing major interestTo answer your question, yes this is the new norm: ghosting. I had similar experiences. A recent one: girl asks for my contact and tells me to text her when I will go out. Gives me all her days that she will be off from work for the rest of the week. I proposed a plan but eventually she couldn't make it and she proposed another place plus giving me her full availability for the next week as she was off work the whole week. I proposed a day and time at her suggested place and ask her if she is fi… | /r/seduction | 08/06/25 08:46 PM |
| 15 | Let girls introduce other girls: One of the Easiest Ways to Meet Women (That Most Guys Sleep On)It's a great concept, but I've rarely seen it work. Women can be quite jealous, even with their friends. I remember a girl who was in a committed relationship, and never brought any of her friends along during outings because she was afraid of losing her boyfriend. If it's a single girl who likes you and you don't reciprocate, she will never introduce you to another girl. If she's single and doesn't like you but you like her, she'll try to monopolize your attention. And if neither of you likes e… | /r/seduction | 31/05/25 12:46 AM |
| 3 | I'm tired of being a dumb fDo some homework with books and other material suggested here, to break out from the illusionary world that Romantic Cinema created. But don't over do it, as in most books/videos you will find the same things repeated again and again. In parallel, try to apply what you learn and observe the reactions and the results from your interactions. Texting game --> online apps. Interactions --> Practice small conversations with people, without necessarily being attracted to them or having romantic intent… | /r/seduction | 09/08/24 12:49 AM |
| 2 | Why no success in clubs?Very difficult to say and I doubt there is a rule. They use the same tactics when they are actually interested in you so very tough to differentiate. Personally if I see the signs you described and I see that I am being recorded by her friends I am just stopping the dance politely. Perhaps gauge the situation (if the girl that tries to come close to you is into you) outside the dancefloor, at the bar or when she is taking a break and isn't at the spotlight. Unfortunately, no matter what you do t… | /r/seduction | 15/07/24 03:36 AM |
| 5 | Why no success in clubs?Lots of girls are chasing validation, and nothing else, for all sorts of reasons. Also if appearance-wise you pop out from the crowd they get more points as they managed to attract the "hot guy". And they definitely want others to see them with you (her friends, guys that they want to attract, ex bf, friends of ex bf etc) | /r/seduction | 14/07/24 04:27 PM |
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