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| 12 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards? | Discussion | conte-candy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 12:29 PM |
| 0 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides. | CMV | conte-candy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 01:51 PM |
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| 1 | It seems like a lot of people view sex as something valuable that women give to men, which men then have to make up for in other ways.You truly must have no idea what “flying off the handle” is if you think either of my responses were too harsh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/20 10:36 PM |
| 3 | It seems like a lot of people view sex as something valuable that women give to men, which men then have to make up for in other ways.He referred to women as assets...objects...not people who depreciate in value as they age. Fuck having patience or kindness for that. I’m glad he’s mgtow. Men don’t choose mgtow, they’re forced into it...if beautiful women were falling all over him and he was a mentally and emotionally healthy person who didn’t stereotype/hate women, he wouldn’t follow mgtow. Also, it’s not my job to “help matters”—only therapy can do that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/20 02:53 PM |
| 6 | It seems like a lot of people view sex as something valuable that women give to men, which men then have to make up for in other ways.I can’t believe it has to be said, but most normal people know how to love. Men all over the world truly love their spouses and are happy with them. They don’t look at their wives as sex dolls; they look at their wives as people. And that’s why you have to do the whole “mgtow” thing—because for some reason you’re so filled with hate that you literally cannot look at a woman as a person—she is just a means to an end for you: sex. It’s so shallow and childlike that it’s actually baffling. I hope y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/20 01:14 PM |
| 2 | Genuinely curious if women can understand where men are coming fromYou wish you were in my league 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/20 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Genuinely curious if women can understand where men are coming fromUgh, nice guy alert. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/20 09:16 PM |
| 22 | Genuinely curious if women can understand where men are coming fromAgain, you’re looking at this from the loneliest perspective. I have never been worried that I’d be alone. If you don’t like the timeframes that I make for MYSELF on when to sleep with you, then BYEEE I’m going to go find someone else who isn’t an asshole. Y’all really are so dumb. You complain that you’re lonely and it’s always the woman’s fault. No. The reality is you’re a piece of shit who won’t honestly look at himself and try to grow into a more mature, confident MAN instead of an awkward a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/20 01:59 PM |
| 7 | Genuinely curious if women can understand where men are coming fromThis entire question is hilarious because you’re asking if we can see from your perspective when we LIVE your perspective. Since the world has always been led by men, including major corporations and media, we are RAISED through your perspective. Since media is run by men, that means the news, movies, tv, and music we listen to is decided on and filtered through the male perspective. We know what you’re thinking all too well, we’re just tired of having to give a shit when it’s our bodies and our… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/20 01:51 PM |
| 37 | Genuinely curious if women can understand where men are coming fromOnly because that’s how men look at it. We are FORCED to take that perspective because we know that’s how men perceive it. We don’t believe it, but we know men do, so we take the necessary steps so that the men we care about and see potential for a relationship with take us seriously and don’t leave us because now they think we’re slutty for sleeping with them. You understand it’s a lose-lose for us, right? Either we’re frigid and won’t put out, or we’re sluts that give it up and can’t be taken … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/12/20 01:46 PM |
| 6 | Seduction is TransactionAgreed. Any woman who believes she inherently deserves to be worshipped is just as bad as any man who only looks at women as objects. Both are selfish and do not view their potential partner as a full person. It is about equal respect and trust. | /r/seduction | 09/05/20 01:40 PM |
| 7 | Seduction is TransactionSo, I just discovered this sub. I’m not gonna lie, as an attractive woman, so much of what I’ve read on here is...terrible. Confused men taking advice from other confused men—and a lot of that advice sucks and would never work on someone like me. However, THIS is actual gold. This is thoughtfulness. This shows effort. What Casanova does is look at this woman as an individual, and THAT is the missing link for so many men. Most of the time, men look at a woman as just that—some woman. They get so … | /r/seduction | 09/05/20 12:37 PM |
| 1 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?So don’t have babies or live a natural, human life? You’re brainwashed into believing that’s okay by a capitalistic society instead of thinking for yourself and demanding better from the world around you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:54 PM |
| 1 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Do you seriously believe women are the CEOs of all these companies? Men are selling things to women MORE than women are selling things to women, and that’s just facts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:53 PM |
| 2 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?It’s my favorite comeback because they obviously have no idea what I look like, but they say it with such confidence lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:48 PM |
| 1 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Oh I thought I was going to be debating someone rational. My bad...that last sentence put the nail in the coffin of this conversation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:44 PM |
| 2 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Well, tbh, there has been a huge shift in female empowerment in recent years. I think women are finally starting to get comfortable in demanding more. If she’s pretty, smart, and sweet, she deserves the same in a partner. And because of societal shifts, more and more men are finally starting to see women as equals which means it’s not as hard to find someone who will treat you with respect and as an equal in the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:40 PM |
| 2 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Ummm America. 1) read the comments if you’re unsure about why women feel disrespected 2) women are murdered by their SO or random men on a daily basis (I believe 3 women are killed every day by their SO in the US). Women are beaten or killed for rejecting men all the time. 3) I don’t have a say in what I do with my own body based on federal law. I don’t get paid the same. There are so many other examples I could never list them all. Definitely not equal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:29 PM |
| 1 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?You had such promise... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:26 PM |
| 2 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Leave Susan B out of this. Ummm no one is bragging about fucking hot guys, just talking about how it’s normal for women to prefer attractive men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:24 PM |
| 2 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Not in our society, no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:22 PM |
| 2 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?I really don’t understand the tall thing. I prefer shorter men, the hugs are better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:19 PM |
| 3 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Calling it a “tuna box” is a pretty great example of why she probably didn’t want to sleep with you. And if you’re dumb enough to go out with someone shallow who expects you to pay for everything, then that’s your fault. The sad fact is you and that girl are both pieces of shit who expect something from the other. For her, she wants free meals. You just want to fuck her. Insinuated women have an expiration date is another reason you’re an imbecile and already sets your own future up for failure.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:16 PM |
| 3 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?1) women know men have standards, that’s why so many women diet, exercise, put on makeup, etc. 2) if you want a low n count that’s fine, but you better have a low n count as well. 3) wanting young women is creepy because it means you want someone to manipulate, which is obvious since you said it’s okay to want someone to dominate. Super creepy dude. That means you’re insecure and don’t want to be questioned because you’re subconsciously aware of your own bullshit. 4) only women want high tax rat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:12 PM |
| 2 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Small pp energy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:08 PM |
| 2 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Equality, safety, respect...yeah I can imagine | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:07 PM |
| 3 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?I care about how women are perceived and treated by all people, not just hot guys. I am brave and happy, it’s just that this is the only place where men will openly speak with all their truth and hate, so I can hear the full perspective for once. I would never, ever rate myself as a 5 or a 7; I’m definitely higher than that. Just because I care about women’s issues doesn’t mean I’m not hot to trot. But you wouldn’t think that because hot women can’t be intelligent. You live your sad life telling… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:07 PM |
| 6 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Hahahaha no women fear being murdered | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 12:59 PM |
| 4 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Small pp problems | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 12:58 PM |
| 2 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?I agree with this as long as you’re not talking in absolutes. There are absolutely shitty women just like there are shitty men. But the vast majority of both groups are better than that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 12:56 PM |
| 2 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?This is exactly what it seems like to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 12:55 PM |
| 7 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?First of all, I’ve never seen a man make 6 figures and be attractive (albeit short) and go after a woman who’s 300 lbs. What a strange example to try and use. Second, idk why anyone would shame a man OR woman for having standards. You’re attracted to who you’re attracted to. But if you’re insinuating that most women don’t try their best, then that’s just wrong. Most media directed at women is ONLY focused on physical appearance (skin care routines, makeup, weight loss supplements, sneakers that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 12:55 PM |
| 5 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?So if women aren’t interested in a man, they should put it as callously as possible and just straight up say “you’re fucking gross, bro. I would rather drown myself in sewer water than imagine you climbing on top of me”? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 12:47 PM |
| 4 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?Found one! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 12:45 PM |
| 7 | I’m just going to ask the hard question—why are men mad at women for having standards?The thing is, if you actually read what you’ve written, you don’t speak with much equality. You speak in absolutes. “Women have...unfeminine...standards.” Wtf does that even mean? “They crave money, physical attributes, status...”. You say this like all women want this, not just some. You lump all women together. “Pussy be privileged...” Women and “their pathetic nature” I can hear the hate in your words; it’s seething. I’m not angry with you, I just feel sorry for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 12:43 PM |
| 2 | Controversial Q: Do friends and family encourage marriage bc misery loves company? Or they’re in denial themselves?Tbh, you sound very scorned and angry in your post. The echo chamber thing is real, and you need to start questioning if you’re not happy in relationships because of you, not the other person. Many of the things I read on PPD show so much hate just based on gender, when in reality there are shitty people and there are good people. Shitty people come in all shapes/sizes/styles/background. Good people come in all shapes/sizes/styles/backgrounds. You need to start looking at people as individuals a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 12:16 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.They need to ask themselves why that’s the only thing that matters. Why is all the focus on physical attraction? That’s not what leads to happiness or a fulfilling relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 04:13 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.Right, but you have control over whether or not you kill yourself which is why this post focused on getting therapy and gaining self-confidence. You’re making my point for me, thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:58 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.Right, and once they have that license you’re going to say we can’t trust them. You’re talking in circles and doing whatever you can to foster argument. You’re just here to make noise, not to actually encourage intelligent discussion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:56 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.You asking those questions about surgeons, too? Let’s question everyone’s ability to do any job! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:53 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.Right. Which is why I said people need to go to therapy. But therapy is really, really hard, and standing up for yourself is hard, and refusing to jeopardize yourself for others is hard, so a lot of people don’t/won’t do it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:52 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.No, I just have eyeballs and understand what it means for someone to be physically attractive. Noticing attractiveness is not the same as choosing based on attractiveness. And I have grown more as a human than he has since we’ve been together BECAUSE of him. He is the best person I know, and that’s why I chose him. If the world were more like him, it would be a better place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:49 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.Yep. When you’re worried women will kill you when you go to the grocery store (this is one of the most common places for women to get abducted/killed), then you can act like your problems are as serious. Until then, grab some lotion and a tissue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:47 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.No, I’m sorry, but you’re wrong. Being able to talk with someone who has your best interests at heart and who has studied how to help people heal and move forward can only benefit people. To say otherwise is ignorant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:45 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.I don’t think it makes me worthy of praise, so let’s address that comment. People should be able to assuage their sexual needs however they wish, and if that means lots of partners, go for it. I didn’t want that because I knew I’d get emotionally attached to anyone I slept with, and I didn’t want that to cloud my judgment of whether or not they were someone I actually cared about. I wanted to have lots and lots of sex with someone I knew truly loved me and cared for me and my well-being, so casu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:43 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.No, I lucked out and he’s a hottie. He’s just the total package in my opinion, but he wasn’t like this when we met. He’s grown so much over the last few years and has really come into his own. He wasn’t as confident when I met him, but with the right woman at his side, he has flourished. He truly is kind and believes in doing what’s right, his jokes are never at the expense of others, he is incredibly intelligent. Maybe we are anomalies, and if that’s the case, I’m sorry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:41 PM |
| 2 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.Nah, I just didn’t want to take the time to list every single possible adjective that could describe humans. I was just giving a couple examples. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:32 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.I believe you could pay for sex. Actual inequality pervades every day life and existence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:29 PM |
| 0 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.I am attracted to confidence, kindness, intelligence, humor, and a man who sees me as a true equal. Nothing else matters because money and looks don’t stay. You have to love the human youre with because life might bring shit. I don’t care if you don’t want to believe that I value those things. I do, and that’s why I’m married to my soulmate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:29 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.Nah, that’s why you’re all sad. Step 1: be someone you can be proud of. Step 2: be that person no matter what. No one can help you but yourself. I think I’m just learning from this post that a lot of people are weak and scared. It takes strength and courage to live your truth, and a lot of you just don’t have it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:24 PM |
| 2 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.Thank you. He’s just trying to find a reason to be mad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:19 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.You don’t know anything about my life, so don’t presume to know. My parents abused me in every way you can abuse a young girl. I paid for my own therapy two years ago and am better for it. This is how we’re different: I make success happen, people like you whine about it and never make it happen for yourselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:16 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.The real answer is two, sorry. I do see myself above the fray and do think I have a better understanding of what leads to happiness. I’m not attracted to money, looks, or any of that. I knew what kind of man I wanted, and I waited for him. That’s why I get so frustrated on these threads. I exist. There are other women like me. My husband exists. There are other men like him. You’re not going to find them on Tinder...go outside and talk to people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:13 PM |
| 2 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.Because all any of you are focused on is sex. If you guys only view women as outlets for your sexual needs, I can’t help you with that. The women who post here are focused on actual equality, then men who post here are focused on getting laid equally. Its laughable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:05 PM |
| 2 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.Of course I’ve been to therapy. It saved my life and made me the person I am today. I would like point out something that is coming across in most responses to this post: you’re all just so fucking horny and sad, it’s gross. Again, you only look at women as capable of satisfying your sexual needs. That’s all your therapist could’ve done? Fucked you? Despicable. The only thing that makes your life hard is that you can’t stick your PP where you want? Boo fucking hoo. These problems PALE in compari… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 03:01 PM |
| -1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.I just don’t value physical appearance as much as other people. I’ve never been attracted to someone because of their physical appearance because I know that will deteriorate one day and it’s not an indicator of what kind of person they are. I’ve just always valued people based on who they are, not what they look like. And I think that comes from the fact that I see how many bonuses I’ve been afforded for no reason other than I’m hot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 02:43 PM |
| 1 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.I’m not asking you to. If everyone would just do what was right for THEM instead of doing what they think the opposite sex wants, we’d have a more genuine world. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 02:40 PM |
| 0 | I think more than any gender issue, insecurity is the biggest problem for both sides.This all still sounds so pitiful to me, sorry. No one owes you anything. No one in this world is going to go out of their way to make your life better/easier/happier. Only you can make that happen, and only you can take control of it. And no, I don’t feel bad about not caring what men want. I am on this earth only once, and I should be allowed to live my life for me, not you. I empathize with you, but I will not become the doormat so many men want time to be. As for winning the genetic lottery, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/20 02:16 PM |
| -1 | What would women caring about sexless/struggling men entail?Well that just sounds horrible. I don’t know how you fix that except therapy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/20 10:09 PM |
| 3 | What would women caring about sexless/struggling men entail?I’m sorry, but y’all sound so freaking pathetic I can’t stand it. No wonder you’re lonely—listen to you!!! What a goddamn first world problem if I’ve ever heard one. “I’m ugly and awkward and women don’t like my self-loathing”. Yeah, no shit. Life’s hard for everyone, and everyone has insecurities. It’s how you go about dealing with them and moving past them that improves your life. Maybe stop looking for the girl with a chiseled body and perfect face and accept that those women will probably ne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/20 08:21 PM |
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