| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 4 | I’ve flourished so much since I’ve cut out the dead weight in my lifeThat’s amaZing!! So happy for you. Question: how did you cut out our toxic friends?? I have one that I need to cut out but haven’t really found a good alternative to just ghosting her…. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 07:49 PM |
| 10 | Can we talk about women who cancel on their friends so they can hang out with a guy?Ugh, I hate this! They always say they're "busy" but really they're just leaving their schedule free in case their new boy toy decides to plan something last minute. And then they get mad at you when you call them out on their behavior and how they are neglecting their friendship. So you start pulling away... And then they breakup and she's crying at your doorstep. The amount of time this happened to me in my teens and early twenties.... I think I didn't have friends for a year because I had to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 04:04 AM |
| 11 | Creepy scrote laments that “giving leads to disappointment” because the young women he wanted to prey on under the guise of “Mentorship” sniffed him out. Men, if you’re “doing something nice” to get something out of it, it’s not something nice.Also the third person speak to his anger? I find that scary. I wouldn't be surprised if it escalated to complete disossiaction at some point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 06:02 PM |
| 20 | Creepy scrote laments that “giving leads to disappointment” because the young women he wanted to prey on under the guise of “Mentorship” sniffed him out. Men, if you’re “doing something nice” to get something out of it, it’s not something nice.Wow, that's honestly super scary. I feel like a lot of serial rapists have this mentality. They want power and if they don't get what THEY feel is necessary, they take it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 05:37 PM |
| 2 | My divorce ring: when I stopped crying over the loss of a nvm and realised I'd gained myself. This ring marked the end of a bad life chapter, and the beginning of a new one, where I write the rest of my story.Beautiful! Congratulations 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 06:26 PM |
| 2 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Yas girl! You got this! House is next on the list :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:32 PM |
| 5 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.You're gonna get it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:31 PM |
| 4 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.I'm sure they're so perfect. I should just give up and call it a life. Tragedy strikes again haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:26 PM |
| 5 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Yas!! That sounds awesome!!! That's what this year is about too. Get out there and ride your bike. Someone called me a spreader and I'm like, to who, the trees? Haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:25 PM |
| 7 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Thank you! I appreciate it and you're so right on their value. Plus, even if I did cry, I'd do it in my new car driving away from their BS hahah | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 05:23 PM |
| 15 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Awww thanks! You said it yourself, they're garbage words haha Definitely will do next time! Thanks for the tip :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 02:24 PM |
| 42 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Already getting directs like "ain't no HVM want a fatty that can barely fit in her car" or "spend your money on getting lipo". Doesn't bother me at all. People are assholes. For safety reasons, should I just delete this post? Cause I don't know how to edit the pic without doing that step. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:18 PM |
| 57 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.They would be wasting their time cause I already have it lol Sucks you have had to go through that. They need to go deal with their correctile dysfunction somewhere else! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 03:26 AM |
| 10 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Thank you!!! And great to know. I'd say I'm pretty responsible as far as car maintenance goes, so I can't wait to get a long time with this baby :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 03:21 AM |
| 18 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Yes! Will do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:57 AM |
| 43 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Thank you!! I can't wait to get out there exploring and get healthier (another focus for 2021) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:57 AM |
| 36 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Yas!! Which one? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:54 AM |
| 4 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:54 AM |
| 3 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:54 AM |
| 17 | I love everyone's ring pics, I decided to join in. I got myself my dream car! Taking myself and my pup hiking all along the east coast for 2021.I've posted on other subs, but one-day will here for a car/hike update | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/21 01:53 AM |
| 5 | That's still not that bad, my ex has a collection of beer bottles and rotting takeout leftovers in his room... 🤢Oh interesting! I didn't know that. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 07:18 PM |
| 10 | That's still not that bad, my ex has a collection of beer bottles and rotting takeout leftovers in his room... 🤢Just curious, what culture is it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:39 PM |
| 12 | I finally cut the cord. [long]Congratulations on seeing the light! It's very difficult when we are emotionally entangled but you grew and realized how bad he was for you. It's okay to mourn but at the end of the day, we must move on :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 03:15 PM |
| 2 | I just downloaded tiktok, who are your fav woke queens that I should follow??Can you elaborate? I have it and maybe I should get rid of it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 03:55 PM |
| 5 | I just downloaded tiktok, who are your fav woke queens that I should follow??I love her! She's playing a role but goddamn do j want to be at that level of queen haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 03:55 PM |
| 10 | When things go right... Is it too good to be true?1) no one is claiming he's HV, just like one flaw does not a LV make. 2) you missed the entire point. It's not the phone checking, it's the prioritizing her and her likes over his friends. 3) it's clearly satire on how this WHOLE scenario is rare, hence the disbelief. The bar is high hence the shocked pikachu face cause he's meeting it....but still super skeptical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:57 PM |
| 15 | Stay independent and vet vet vet.Yes, but better to be frustrated that we can't find a good one vs that we are stuck with a potato with eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 02:16 PM |
| 40 | Stay independent and vet vet vet.Haha right? No one wants to come over to your "man cave" and smell last week's domino's. I'ma stay right where I am TYVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 02:14 PM |
| 119 | The saddest proposal story I’ve ever heard. She wrote it along with a recipe for Mac and cheese on a blog.Apparently that's how long it takes for a scrote to roast appropriately in the relationship oven. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 01:27 PM |
| 4 | Another trash Tinder profileCan we make a thing of posting amazing tinder profiles instead of trash ones? Those are dime a dozen and I want to learn what to look for. 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 01:03 PM |
| 10 | Never let yourself go!It’s not negativity, it’s proper reading comprehension. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 04:28 PM |
| 17 | Never let yourself go!You may have intended for this post to be about us women, but the fact that the text you posted says “a relationship isn’t permanent nor is marriage”, it carries the implication to the next sentence. So it implies that this is all about keeping appearances for your relationship aka your SO. Don’t be mad we see it another way, acknowledge it and respect it. Leveling up is also for self-awareness and defensiveness, not just looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 12:55 PM |
| 1 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downShe’s a weird version of a pick me: she’s the one that gaslights and mentally abuses the men yet she keeps trying to change them to meet her standards. Man, the more I keep talking about the less I want to be her friend haha Thank you ❤️❤️he’s definitely the HVM I’ve been waiting for these past years. We got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 09:19 PM |
| 2 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downThey sound adorable and like a wonderful addition to your family! I have a red-Tri Aussie (M) named Hank. He’s only a 5 month old puppy but he’s already making me feel safe and loved :) Thats the thing though, she has a dog. But he sleeps in his own bed and she’s a firm believer that the other side of the bed is for a man 🙄. When she first got her pup, I would help dog sit sometimes and when I took him to the dog park, she would ask me how many cute boy’s numbers I got cause he’s “a dude magnet.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 08:02 PM |
| 2 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downOmg that sounds amazing! What kind of puppers do you have? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:22 PM |
| 3 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downAgreed!!! Hank, my pup, is the best. He’s only 5 months but he protects me against strange men/people. Living in NYC, it’s scary being alone at night. He doesn’t growl often, so when he does, I make sure to let him know I appreciate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:33 PM |
| 3 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downI try so hard to trust my gut and she makes comments like “you’re just scared of commitment” or “you’re not giving it enough of a chance”. One time I didn’t want to go out with this guy I met OLD cause he was giving off weird vibes during the text on app phase. She guilt tripped me into “just give him a chance, you never know, how can you tell just by texting?”. So I go on this date (just drinks 🤦🏻♀️) and he proceeds to box me in on my stool with his legs and make the grossest comments ever. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:31 PM |
| 5 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downWow, that’s a great read (not that it happened to you, but story time. Thank you for sharing! You’re right. I have felt like I’ve outgrown her a bit. She’s made comments like that in the past or has been “mad” at me for cutting a boy off as soon as I felt uncomfortable. She’s a believer in giving the benefit of the doubt or trying to change him to suit her needs. Man has it been exhausting seeing her go through that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:26 PM |
| 6 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downI agree. Like, how did it come to that, you know? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 04:42 AM |
| 14 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downI’ve come to realize that she may not be the best influence. She is very dating focused and things are always about “how a man would see it.” For example, I have a matching tattoo with my cousin thats a silhouette of two little girls riding a bike. It represents our love for cycling (and riding bikes as kids). I remember when I told my friend about it, she said “don’t you think a guy is going to think you’re into girls cause you have girls on your body”? I definitely just blinked at her and said… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 04:41 AM |
| 28 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downBasically, no one to bring you down or being stuck as a pseudo-mom to a man who contributes nothing to the child care = constantly leveling up in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 04:36 AM |
| 7 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downIt’s hard since she’s been a huge part of my life, but I am distancing myself from her little by little. I’m horrible at cutting friends out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 04:35 AM |
| 35 | We thrive when we aren’t being dragged downYep. Ever since I joined FDS, I’ve been evaluating my friendships and I have found that I am distancing myself from her. It’s comments like these and her dating past (she dates these LVM and then wonders why she can’t find a “real man”) that just keep pushing me away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 04:35 AM |
| 7 | This is why the six month period before declaring someone a HVM is a MINIMUM. Strap in ladies, this is fun.I would like to know what he did as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 12:48 PM |
| 42 | This is exactly why I love the Queer Eye guys. I definitely think they guide straight men to be HV for straight women. (Sound on)I don’t think it was the same as “you can’t say that haha.” You don’t always have to be aggressive in order to get your point across. The fact that the fab 5 immediately said “no” and then said “you can do better” is what shows that it was critical. The guy who said the “wife” comment laughed because he got caught. People’s reactions to being caught or reprimanded is different. I’d say the Fab 5 got their point across and did a fabulous job of correcting someone without being aggressive. Sometim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 01:13 PM |
| 8 | No words.I know exactly how she can lose 160 lbs in one day: divorce that man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:35 AM |
| 226 | Find yourself a HVM like thisMy dad worked in construction and I can say that most of his crew were HVM.The stereotype of them being cat callers wasn’t even remotely true, at least in his world of paving roads. My dad set the bar high and most people think that I’m irrational or delusional for saying if I don’t find a man as good as him I’m not doing it. Whatever, I’ll live happy knowing I didn’t settle for a gangrenous turd. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:34 AM |
| 29 | That's word diarrhea if I've ever seen itLiterally my first instinct as well haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:51 PM |
| 265 | “I just don’t feel like I’m good enough for you”It’s a tactic to get you to lower your standards/expectations to make him feel better. Run 🏃♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:58 PM |
| 7 | And todays catch of the day ladies! Red flag central with a generous serving of emotional baggagec) all of the above also, LOVE your name! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:27 PM |
| 203 | Truth. We are not responsible for fixing or changing men!Just another way to get us to pick the worst of the worst and make it our fault when they don't change. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:21 PM |
| 22 | The cashier at Wendy’s just gave me his number 🙄🤢Maybe not. Some scrotes think that us women are lying when we say that. Regardless of her answer, he should have left her alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:18 PM |
| 4 | Regarding talking to multiple guysMaybe I’m doing it wrong, but the way I’ve done it in the past was talking to a guy but also actively searching for others to add to the list. You’re not always going to have 3 guys at once but the point is to not let yourself get too invested in one guy so that way you’re constantly vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:02 PM |
| 11 | Am I right, ladies?Yeah, you right! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:46 PM |
| 27 | The cashier at Wendy’s just gave me his number 🙄🤢Girl I’m so sorry. Older Hispanic men can be the fucking worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:41 PM |
| 2 | I want to stick to my guns but I feel guiltyYou don’t owe them anything. They can figure it out for themselves or find out from him. The only important thing to focus on here is you and your well being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:30 PM |
| 51 | "Open Minded" is code for sex dollHaha that’s an amazing response though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:28 PM |
| 9 | Can a man be both HV and an abuser?Nope. Having any abusive tendencies automatically makes them LV/NV | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:27 PM |
| 12 | Should I wait or?As someone who slept with a guy she barely knew just to “get it over with” at 27....don’t do it. I’m 30 now and honestly while it wasn’t necessarily a mistake, it just wasn’t good. I barely remember it and it was very awkward. I cringe a little bit when I think back at me texting him “wanna hook up?”. Omg what was I thinking! 🤦🏻♀️ Wait until you vet the man properly and there is a strong emotional and physical connection. There really is no rush. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:25 PM |
| 42 | The cashier at Wendy’s just gave me his number 🙄🤢Right?? Because she actually cares about what he needs. Fucking ridiculous | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:20 PM |
| 11 | The cashier at Wendy’s just gave me his number 🙄🤢Thanks! I’m sorry you had to go through that as well. Assholes ruining our mealtimes. I’ve definitely learned my lesson to not be as friendly to men I’m giving my credit card or information to. I used to work in retail so I know how it is when every customer is rude or quiet so I like to be nice. But now I definitely think twice when it’s a man, no matter how old cause you never know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:18 PM |
| 89 | The cashier at Wendy’s just gave me his number 🙄🤢Giiirrrlll. I feel you! I got cyber stalked once at a deli in NYC. I have a habit of being friendly with small talk to people who are of a similar background (I’m Mexican). It’s just how I grew up. So, I chat up the guy behind the deli just being friendly and making small talk about where he’s from. I get home, and I have a face book message from this guy!! It said something like “hola chula” 🤢. I never told him my name so the only possible way he could have found out was by getting it off my cr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:07 PM |
| 24 | How I feel about this subI’m right there with you. My life has changed for the better and I continue to improve it everyday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 05:56 PM |
| 1 | You don’t own me and you never will :)Sooooo good! My favorite line is “I’m saving my vaginity for someone special. I have standards” LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Found a HVM but after 10 months of dating I'm starting to be more and more suspicious.They’re not very acute when they make those comments 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:21 PM |
| 1 | What to do?BLOCK. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 03:06 PM |
| 1 | HVM friend turning into something more.If he's truly a HVM, he'll wait until you're ready. I'm of the belief that you need to get yourself straight and unpack the experiences with a LVM before you jump into a relationship with a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 02:27 PM |
| 24 | What irks me the most is the intro. Poor woman had been so brainwashed, but she's not one of "those" wives. She lets him watch "regular porn"He did not find this uncomfortable at all. He definitely liked it. I'd consider this a form of cheating. That poor woman..."I'm not like the other wives, I'm a cool wife" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:06 PM |
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter