coolmistmama Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
513	My bouquet gift to myself after a challenging work week and dealing with strained family dynamics, to remind myself I’m doing what it takes to succeed and be my best self every minute of every day 💕	REMINDER 👑	coolmistmama	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/04/21 07:39 PM
146	Finally Done Learning The Hard Way	Story time ☕	coolmistmama	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/10/20 06:45 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
40	Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary things I love this so much! I feel like we could all benefit from more examples of exceptional behavior. My partner really stood up in a HV way during a family vacation. A family member of mine isn’t well, and we witnessed a spell of this while on vacation. Without asking or assuming, he helped this family member become comfortable. Helped organize an at home dinner so they could participate, and attended to the needs of all of those people who mean the world to me. I think it was after seeing someone …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/09/21 03:51 AM
29	If He Wanted To, He Would: A Short Story My boyfriend took time off of work, drove across state lines to stay in the same hotel as me during a work trip (but got his own room so I’d have space) just because I mentioned how stressful my new role was and how isolated I felt. So yes, if they want to they absolutely will.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/06/21 08:06 PM
3	Black women of FDS (mixed-race women can chime in too): How do you feel about the "swirler" movement? Ive found I’ve tended to avoid spaces like that, primarily to your point of the weird white worshipping. All of my relationships have been interracial, and my family is accepting of it, so that may have filled the need for support when I get pushback in the day to day. Those groups also seemed to have a majority of women whose personalities were their relationships, which is a massive pet peeve and fear of mine. To just diminish all that makes one amazing into something as commonplace as a relat…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/21 02:14 PM
7	Isn’t it interesting that men get more violent when they’re depressed? He’s doing all of those things, to his credit. He comes over 9/10, and the last time I was there was spontaneous and my idea. He has offered to confront him regularly and talk to his landlord about the situation. I have a prior history of abusive relationships and situations like these cripple me and I have residual issues of trying to keep the peace, which I’m working on. Any feedback or tips would be greatly appreciated.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/02/21 02:56 PM
23	Isn’t it interesting that men get more violent when they’re depressed? I’m on the brunt end of this right now. My boyfriend lives above someone who apparently had deep feelings for me and has engaged in verbal abuse against me, is actively trying to somehow ban me from being at my boyfriend’s place, and waits to hear when I leave to try to ambush me. It’s fucking terrifying. And what’s worse is the amount of coddling this over grown man child is getting. It’s why I don’t have male friends. You can’t even be nice to these assholes without them taking that kindness a…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/02/21 02:11 PM
2	Finally Done Learning The Hard Way Thank you! And I’m really glad you pointed that out because that’s so important to keep in mind ☺️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/10/20 03:58 PM
4	Finally Done Learning The Hard Way That’s honestly a great point! I can totally see how it comes across that way. I think in this I was trying to highlight his positives compared to the men from before. But I am still so so focused on myself, and understand that he’s human and flawed. And if he pulls any bs, or starts to gaslight/manipulate, I’m 200% ready to walk, because I’m my first priority	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/10/20 12:20 PM
6	Finally Done Learning The Hard Way Thank you so much! It’s been a lot of growing/learning but I’m glad I finally got my head out of the sand ☺️☺️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/10/20 07:38 PM