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If she was genuinely interested in going out with you, she would provide her own transportation. That’s what adults do. If she genuine didn’t have the money to uber, but still wanted to see you, she would explain that she wants to see you but is in a. Tough place between jobs and needs to pay rent, or had an unexpected vet bill for her cat, etc.
/r/seduction24/07/26 05:53 PM
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I’ll give you an example. I was in high school and the was a girl who I had a few classes with. We became friends. She had a boyfriend, who I knew and he was a good dude. She and I became good friends and hung out a lot. We would make similar jokes, and she would ask me about sexual stuff she was trying with her boyfriend. I honestly thought she was just asking for advice. Few years later, I find out she had a huge crush on me and was constantly talking about sexual stuff with me bc she wanted m…
/r/seduction30/04/26 07:36 PM
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When these women are around you, their mind goes to the topic of sex. This is your sign. Next time she asks you a question about it, an easy and quick response is to ask “Actually, that sounds fun. Do you want to have some fun?”
/r/seduction30/04/26 05:41 PM
2

You enjoy the chasing, but does your desire for that man flatline once the chase is over?
/r/seduction22/04/26 05:02 PM
1

Nah. Peace and stability are far more attractive than you seem to give credit for. That’s a big part of what makes her “smokin hot.” I stand by my point, and in time, as you get more general experience, you will understand exactly what I’m talking about.
/r/seduction21/04/26 07:25 PM
1

Yes, my point is anecdotal, but so is your point. But it’s funny that you think you know that one guy’s motivation for why he married her.
/r/seduction21/04/26 06:34 PM
2

It’s easy to do these days. I appreciate your follow up explanation.
/r/seduction21/04/26 04:21 PM
2

Undoubtedly, the error is in the assumption that these comments are not read by the layman.
/r/seduction21/04/26 04:17 PM
2

This comment comes across as someone who thinks Alex Jones is someone worth listening to.
/r/seduction21/04/26 01:06 PM
1

Respectfully, your take is just a stupid as OP’s. Plenty of men select women for their height, wanting to make D1 athlete kids. And a neurologist is raking in the dough, to the point where he doesn’t need to work. I know a guy who does home renovations as a side hustle for fun bc his wife is a smoking hot gynecologist that makes so much money. They live in a $2.5m mansion, and he gets whatever free time he wants to golf, play soccer, travel, go on his kids’ field trips, etc. and still comes home…
/r/seduction21/04/26 01:02 PM
1

I mean, OP has short moments of making decent points, but those are overshadowed by completely stupid takes on everything else. OP may be sober now, but the brain damage has been done.
/r/seduction21/04/26 12:46 PM
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Yep. A 9-10 in the club at night is usually a 6 or 7 in the looks department when going about her daily life. With that said, the number system is dumb af, and not indicative of other more important aspects that makes women attractive or not: Finding a “9-10” going about her regular daily life is far more rare.
/r/seduction13/04/26 02:53 PM
1

In a trusting relationship, both partners should have access to each others phone, but will never feel the need to go through it. Think of a situation where you hand your phone to your gf and ask her to type in an address for driving directions. She could easily rifle through texts, snap, etc, but instead, she simply types in an address and then goes to Spotify to put on some music. Not even a 2nd thought front either of you about the risk involved with giving access to each other’s phone. If yo…
/r/seduction19/03/26 05:43 PM
6

Based on the title, I thought this post was a cautionary tale of what not to do.
/r/seduction11/03/26 01:01 AM
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Yes, actually. I was the guy in this exact situation. I had been on a few casual dates with a woman but it just kind of fizzled out and we never even kissed. Then she found out I was moving out of town. I was out having a few beers with my buddy when I got a random text from her that said “I want to get a piece of you before you move. Can I come over to your place?” I told her I was having beers with my friend, but how about a little later. And she said “Okay, 9pm. Don’t be late!” I was late, bu…
/r/seduction04/03/26 03:46 PM
12

Yep. It’s crazy how the older we get, younger women see us as more stable, established, and attractive.
/r/seduction12/02/26 03:39 PM
1

You are completely missing the point. Someone who is able to achieve that level of income doesn’t care about women like her.
/r/seduction12/02/26 03:16 AM
1

Ummm, why? Why would you want to dedicate your life to making enough money to date someone like that?! When a person is making enough money to pay for private flights, dating someone like that instathot is at the bottom of your priority list. And a much high caliber of women are at your disposal.
/r/seduction11/02/26 09:59 PM
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Yep. Direct and to the point. I hung out with this one girl few times, but we never kissed and we kind of just stopped hanging out. Then she heard I was moving out of town; she called me up one night and said “Hey, I want a piece of you before you move. Can I come over to your place?” As we were getting into it, I reached to turn off the lights, and she said “Leave them on. I want to see everything.” It was fantastic. I still think about that from time to time.
/r/seduction14/09/25 03:29 AM
1

Besides her “trusting” you, why does she want your number? It’s a fair question to ask. Always remember how you first got attention from a woman… because that’s how the next guy will get her attention away from you. I’d straight up ask what she’s looking for. Does she want a distraction or a friendly shoulder to cry on? Her answer will tell you everything you need to know.
/r/seduction03/09/25 06:45 PM
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I ghosted a woman after our 6th date because she told me she never brings money to the bar and simply expects random guys to pay for her drinks all night. I then asked her if she would talk to those guys after they bought her a drink, and she said “No, but I do ask them if they will buy my girl friends a drink too.” I was immediately put off by her sense of entitlement. After dinner we were supposed to meet out at the bars, but I decided to stay home. I had 7 missed calls in the morning. Good in…
/r/seduction06/08/25 09:39 AM
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This is going to sound ridiculous, but try it. Ever heard of the phrase “She acts like her shit don’t stink” ? Whichever woman you are building up in your head, simply know that at some point in time (probably recently) she had a raging case of diarrhea. Like absolute liquid shits that smelled horrendous. She’s not this perfect representation of purity, cleanliness, beauty, kindness and goodness that you think she is. She has her own self-conscious issues, sees major flaws when she looks in a mi…
/r/seduction11/07/25 07:36 PM
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Disagree. She likes OP, and she likes flirting with OP, and she likes to string OP along, keeping him at arms length so she can fall back on him for validation. She feel safe and comfortable around him, but for some reason thinks that’s not what she wants right now. She’s probably been conditioned think that “love” is supposed to be turmoil and uncertainty. She won’t realize how good of a relationship she could have had with OP until long after he’s moved on, or once OP is seeing another woman. …
/r/seduction10/05/25 02:51 AM
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The majority of influencers are self-centered, lack self confidence, and have a buried doubt of their own self-worth. That’s why they seek out validation through social media followers, but are still insecure af. My buddy was dating an influencer with around 300k on insta. She was also in top 10% OF creators. He has no game and never strayed, but she got psycho controlling and jealous af about everything. She had no personality, was boring to talk to, and not that hot in person. Influencers are …
/r/seduction01/05/25 02:00 PM
4

Not telling sexual partners that you have an STD. That’s a douchebag move.
/r/seduction29/04/25 11:31 PM
3

Totally 100% NOT worth it. What a weird thing to ask strangers on the internet.
/r/seduction29/04/25 11:28 PM
2

This is kind of a silly exercise, but it can be a very effective method to overcoming this. You need to realize that those women have their own insecurities and self-doubt. There is something about them that when the look in a mirror, they think to themselves “Ugh… I hate the way my neck looks,” or “My ears are too big,” or “I wish my butt wasn’t so flat,” etc. You can also realize they are just a regular person like you. They smell bad after working out. They have bad diarrhea sometimes. They h…
/r/seduction18/04/25 07:45 PM
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Another guy wants to be exclusive. Cool. Did you try simply asking her if she wants to be exclusive with that guy? If she’s bringing it up with you and not answering the other guy with an immediate “Yes!” Then he’s probably her 2nd choice right now. But the real question is do you really want to be exclusive with someone who is keeping a queue of guys to move onto?
/r/seduction17/04/25 07:20 PM
14

I’m a guy and those text messages gave me the ick.
/r/seduction10/04/25 09:38 PM
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Yep. Something my much older sister told me when I was a teenager: Don’t think of women as “I’d be so lucky to get to sleep with her.” Know that you are worth it too, and think about it more in terms of “She should feel just as lucky to have the pleasure of sleeping with me.”
/r/seduction27/03/25 04:27 PM
6

While this is a very good response, it is only the tip of the iceberg in considering all the nuances of a situation that have an effect on how well received the approach will be.
/r/seduction25/02/25 08:13 PM
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To elaborate… You sexually assaulted her after driving to an abandoned parking lot.
/r/seduction19/07/24 08:17 PM
4

It’s not oneitis… what OP did is assaultitis, and it’s creepy af
/r/seduction19/07/24 08:15 PM
20

Some would consider this to be sexual assault… because it is. If my sister told me about a guy that she had already said “No” to then drove her to an abandoned parking lot and tried to force a kiss on her, I would tell her to call the police to press charges on him. It would also take a lot to suppress the urge to beat the shit out of that guy.
/r/seduction19/07/24 08:12 PM
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I shared a taxi after a bar with a co-worker. My apartment was first stop, but I didn’t want to pay for an additional cab fare, so I asked her “Hey, do you want to come over and make out?” She said “Okay!”
/r/seduction10/06/24 11:36 PM
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Not really the sub for this type of discussion, but essentially he finds a 10, and goes all-in. Brings them into his lavish lifestyle, spoils them with cars and expensive gifts but with necessary safety-guards (the car title in his name), gets those miniature-breed accessory dogs, opens up emotionally, etc. Then they start to walk all over him, stop respecting him, give him the cold shoulder, and his immediate reaction is to pull back emotionally and with the gifts, and the relationship just spi…
/r/seduction07/06/24 01:48 PM
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Yep, but money doesn’t replace companionship. One of my friends is on his 3rd Porsche and just bought a penthouse suite on the 36th floor for $1.6m, and a good looking guy. But he couldn’t maintain a relationship if his life depended on it.
/r/seduction06/06/24 06:25 PM
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I am now married with kids. I have some friends from college that are still single and never married. They are either very rich because they focused on their careers, date women here and there, but never settle down. The other extreme is they are depressed and poor because they can’t hold down a job. Whenever I have aired my relationship grievances to them, they have all told me that they envy what I have, because the player/single lifestyle becomes lonely and repetitive.
/r/seduction06/06/24 04:09 PM
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9 guys and you’re still married?! It’s not name calling; consider it more of an observation. Sorry that you married a shitty person. I hope you are able to gather up a what little self-respect you have left and end the marriage.
/r/seduction17/05/24 09:04 PM
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A couple things: 1) 10g’s for a wedding is cheap af. 2) 10g’s is a drop in the bucket when going through divorce. Think more in the 100s or higher. 3) OP is an absolute idiot if he’s even remotely considering this. Dumbass.
/r/seduction17/05/24 07:13 PM
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Yep. OP’s commitment to his marriage is already over. He doesn’t have respect for himself or his wife. smh
/r/seduction17/05/24 07:09 PM
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That girl is a walking Red Flag. 🚩 Self-harm is not a way to show love for someone. 🚩 She’s already cheated once. 🚩 She lied to the other guy about you. 🚩 She blocked and unblocked you. 🚩 She doesn’t respect you, and she never will. Block her on all platforms. Delete her number from your phone. Avoid all interaction from her. If she’s in your life, she will try to cause you more pain and ruin your life. She is not mentally or emotionally stable. Cut all contact.
/r/seduction16/05/24 06:17 PM
1

Yep. You nailed it. Good job, buddy.
/r/seduction28/04/24 02:19 AM
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Not really. If I see a woman out alone, there are a few different scenarios I assume and none of them are favorable. She could be a prostitute looking for a customer. She’s alienated herself from her friend group because she’s a mean and vindictive person that’s difficult to get along with. She’s waiting for her boyfriend to get off work, and he’s the bouncer. She‘s looking for an easy target to seduce, drug, and steal his kidney and I don’t want to wake up in a bathtub with stitches in my side.
/r/seduction27/04/24 10:21 AM
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I got some piercings. I bought a motorcycle. Then I realized that it’s possible to be decent to other people without coming across as a softy, or having to turn into a “bad boy”. Because pretending to be something that you aren’t is a bigger turnoff to the opposite sex than actually being a decent human being. And that confidence in being who you are is more attractive than pretending to be a “bad boy”.
/r/seduction10/04/24 07:28 PM
3

OP setting himself up to find women who view him as a meal ticket and eventually a free ride once he has a kid with them. I’d rather build a relationship with a woman who knows how to take care of herself in the a real world. Then I know she’s not with me just for my money or success.
/r/seduction02/04/24 01:13 AM
71

This is a terrible comment.
/r/seduction06/10/23 05:08 PM
39

We are our own worst critics. As someone who is 6”1’, athletic build, charismatic and personable, good sense of style and grooming, financially successful, respected by peers, complimented often by others, I couldn’t help myself from wishing I was as good looking as a co-worker who is know around the office as “Hot-Scott”. Then while we were having a private conversation about work, he confided in me all the same insecurities he has about himself as I do about myself. No matter where you are at …
/r/seduction02/11/22 02:05 AM
1

A quick chat with her. Small talk, make her laugh a little, then say “I gotta get going (back to work, back home after a shift, etc.) but this was fun. Give me your number and we can hang out.”
/r/seduction01/11/22 03:32 AM
33

Motorcycle class/license class. Some of the best $150 I ever spent in my 20s. Then $5k for a motorcycle… but totally worth it.
/r/seduction16/10/22 12:29 AM
12

Yep. Guy is gonna wake up missing a kidney.
/r/seduction27/09/22 05:23 PM
12

The best line I ever used on a woman, happened while sharing a cab. We were completely platonic friends at the time. After sharing a cab back to our apartments from the bar, I was getting dropped off first. The cab stopped to let me out. I paused before opening the door (because thats when the idea occurred to me) and asked “Hey, do you wanna come over and make out?” She immediately answered “Okay.” and opened her door to get out of the cab. Sometimes all you need to do is confidently and casual…
/r/seduction25/09/22 05:22 PM
2

Know when to run…
/r/seduction13/09/22 07:41 PM
1

Ummm… that’s the only one I found.
/r/seduction02/09/22 09:38 PM
2

Yes, text her. Her confidence and boldness in the moment may have worn off and now she is 2nd guessing herself, probably thinking to herself “oh no, I bet I acted so weird. I’m embarrassed and scared to text him.” Text with any of the following: “Hey, this is u/noodlecham- Do you like (insert common food item)?” She responds with agreement. “Ok, cool. Let’s go get some of that food on (insert day of the week).”
/r/seduction02/09/22 07:32 PM
1

I found a single period... It was the short pause between the word vomit.
/r/seduction02/09/22 02:00 PM
3

“You will learn as you get older that 18 year old pussy is the best of all and that doesn't change no matter what age you are. Enjoy yourself” -OP “A 40 year old man's sperm is going to be perfectly healthy and suitable for impregnation” -OP, talking about 18 year olds
/r/seduction01/09/22 08:45 AM
3

Holy crap- OP is perv-central, and borderline pedo.
/r/seduction01/09/22 08:26 AM
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Yes, I was in this situation in college. The best advice I can give you is to say less. Let them do the majority of talking and flirting. The more I talked, the more opportunity I had to fcuk my chances up. The less I talked, the more mysterious I seemed, and they were already interested in me. Talk less, make eye contact, and let them do the rest. Enjoy your senior year.
/r/seduction31/08/22 05:32 PM
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In my 20s I went to Ireland to visit a friend. The amount of attention I got from women was astonishing, and they all kept telling me that my American accent was “so cute.” The factor of differentiation is worth the airline ticket price alone.
/r/seduction21/08/22 02:05 PM
22

My immediate thought was “Well, my mom thinks I’m a catch.”
/r/seduction19/08/22 07:09 PM
16

“Hey- I saw your number in the group chat. I’m gonna grab some food at (insert cool place to eat here). Do you want to come?”
/r/seduction14/08/22 01:51 PM
7

Careful. This could lead to compartmentalization, which is a mental strategy used by people who try to hide from or ignore their fears and feelings.
/r/seduction01/08/22 07:48 PM
9

Reminds me of a woman all my college buddies used to be obsessed with what they considered as the hottest on the entire campus. One of my roommates and I didn’t really see what they all saw, and this didn’t pay that much attention to her. She had a bf at another college, but still had a really long physical fling with my roommate because he never put her up on that pedestal, and just treated her more as just another friend. One of the biggest lessons I learned in my 30s is that guys will class t…
/r/seduction01/08/22 07:46 PM
0

You need to realize that one girl isn’t that special. My college buddies and I had a saying to help remind each other if we noticed one of us was going down the wrong path over a woman. “No matter how hot she is, somewhere there is some guy who is sick of her shit.” Then you need to make her prove to you thats she’s actually worth obsessing over.
/r/seduction01/08/22 07:28 PM
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I have some clean laundry in the dryer at home. Will you come over and show me how to fold it properly? I have some ingredients in my refrigerator for a sandwich. Will you come over and make me a sandwich? Do you want to come over to my place order pizza and fcuk? ... \her shocked face** ... What's wrong? You ... you... you don't like pizza? My dog has this really weird smell, and you like dogs. Will you come over to check him out and see what's wrong?
/r/seduction29/07/22 01:51 PM
3

"Self-proclaimed alpha" that storytells like a beta.
/r/seduction18/07/22 03:57 PM
60

Right?! Anyone who dismisses this, and doesn't see any value in learning from something like this hasn't got a clue.
/r/seduction18/07/22 01:46 PM
4

Sounds like it’s not a thing for you, but casual sex certainly is a thing.
/r/seduction11/07/22 08:11 PM
7

The majority of Americans (especially women) are subliminally taught from a very young age that having casual sex is a bad thing, and not socially acceptable. Back in the 80s and 90s there was a thing called the Purity Movement, whereas teenagers and early-20s were taught to suppress their natural biological urges, and “stay pure” until they met their one life-time partner. This also means the stigma of women shouldn’t want or enjoy sex has stayed stayed with so many of them, that they are progr…
/r/seduction11/07/22 07:00 PM
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The effectiveness of this tactic will be short-lived. I recommend you not do this anymore.
/r/seduction07/07/22 07:30 PM
19

This. In college and throughout my 20s, I was the best luck my buddies could have on a night out. Have a good time of friends, help them recognize when a woman is interested in them, don’t let them second guess themselves, and do things to raise their value. It helps everyone.
/r/seduction07/07/22 03:25 PM
9

It is very difficult to convey tone in a text message, thus leaving it wide open for misinterpretation. But overall, I think you had a good response. I’d also stop texting her back.
/r/seduction05/07/22 03:58 PM
1

“Are you trying to sell those shady testosterone supplements again? Because that sales pitch isn’t going to work on me.”
/r/seduction03/07/22 02:44 PM
2

The next step in the GOP plan is to Federally outlaw all abortions, so that not a single state will allow women the option.
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:56 PM
3

Yes. In most abortion-banning states, Plan B and IUDs are already considered a type of abortion, and it’s looking like most other states will be going that direction as well.
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:51 PM
3

Condoms break and it’s a pretty shitty feeling in your gut when it happens. That’s not being a moron, just just something that happens.
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:17 PM
3

You should, bc those ratchet 304s will be the first to take you to court for child support.
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:14 PM
2

Spoiler alert: He is talking about his hand!
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:12 PM
3

Plan B is part of the deal in the states that are banning all abortion, because they are considering it a type of abortion. Just saying, don’t count on Plan B.
/r/seduction27/06/22 05:10 PM
1

I regret feeding the troll account.
/r/seduction25/06/22 02:23 AM
2

Not what you are suggesting.
/r/seduction24/06/22 07:27 PM
1

\nods in affirmation**
/r/seduction24/06/22 07:09 PM
5

This is the most desperate and pathetic suggestion yet.
/r/seduction24/06/22 06:51 PM
5

Yeah, OP just reeks of insecurity and trying to fake it to make it. He's a try-hard to the max.
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:41 PM
1

Timing is such an important part of the equation. Introduce yourself \*to the group*** then, if you cross paths with her in the future, that will give you the best chance. Otherwise, if you just approach her, it's gonna send a real creepy vibe.
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:37 PM
2

Confidence and self-worth are great, but you sound like a douche who's overcompensating for something. Turn your volume down a bit, and find a balance.
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:31 PM
1

A general rule of thumb is if there is a reoccurring problem that feels very one-sided and the other partner is not willing to even talk about it, then it's not a healthy relationship, and shouldn't continue. I was in a relationship that started as FWB, then moved to a committed relationship. There were times that she would throw a tantrum out of thin air for reasons that didn't even make sense. One time in my car after I had just picked her up, she tried to start an argument for something that …
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:24 PM
5

The pathetic part is that you are okay with just waiting around for the slight chance that she breaks up with her current bf. It's okay to introduce yourself **to the group\*,* but then move on with your life. If you make it obvious that you're just waiting around, it's going to lower your value and desirability in her eyes, and it's also might creep her out. It's okay to hope that you and her cross paths in the future, then see if she's available. But don't stop living your life in the meantime…
/r/seduction24/06/22 02:07 PM
4

My point is that the necessity to differentiate alphas and betas is a demonstration of trying to fake it. True alphas don't ever feel the need to put down someone else in order to prop themselves up. In fact, the thought doesn't even occur to them.
/r/seduction22/06/22 06:19 PM
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The mere act of designating "alphas" and "betas" in a group is something that insecure people would do. Also, the truly confident and secure people don't feel the need to ridicule anyone else that may not possess or show the same level of self-confidence.
/r/seduction22/06/22 06:06 PM
7

Agreed that there are a few key sentences from OP in the comments that could send this post from the “respect yourself and know your self-worth” territory over the edge to be crying about “why won’t she have sex with me”.
/r/seduction21/06/22 08:31 PM
6

I understand and respect the choice to wait on sex for either person. There were plenty of times in my dating days that I chose not to have sex when a woman tried to initiate it, and vice versa. I think this post is getting lost in translation. If any person (man or woman) delay sex for the sole reason of making the other person “earn it”, it’s a good indication that the outlook is poor for a future meaningful relationship and both parties should move on amicably. The chemistry and/or mutual res…
/r/seduction21/06/22 07:34 PM
15

“…guys want virgins or girls with low body count…” This is not true. I’d rather not be with a woman who was a virgin; too much burden to bear as her first. A higher “body count” indicates to me that she is comfortable with her own sexuality and knows what to do in the sack. That kind of confidence can usually only be learned after several encounters.
/r/seduction21/06/22 06:21 PM
21

Speaking as someone with friends and family that are cops, they do a lot of stuff that isn’t always completely legal too.
/r/seduction07/06/22 03:59 PM
3

She's seeking validation from other guys without taking a specific action that jeopardizes her relationship, which is likely already in the failing stages. Stay away from her for a while. Let her know that it's not a good time for you to hang out with her. In a few months, she may text you once she is done with that guy and looking for a rebound. Otherwise, just move on.
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:17 PM
3

“I’m not into it right now, but maybe later after I take a nap. Do you want to order take out?”
/r/seduction10/02/22 08:35 PM
1

OP - How can you feel so worthless when you haven’t yet met everyone that’s going to have a positive impact on your life? Seriously stop and take a long while to think about what this means.
/r/seduction09/02/22 03:50 AM
21

This is a beautiful life experience for so many reasons. You turned a cold-open into stimulating conversation with a deeper connection. You made a meaningful connection with someone you were genuinely interested in, and it ended up being an extremely pleasant evening for both of you. You will look back on this memory for many years to come, and you will remember certain details, things each of you said, and at times you may even want to kick yourself for not asking her back to your room or askin…
/r/seduction25/01/22 02:10 PM
3

Any time an ex is brought up, it’s a perfect time to show that it doesn’t bother you. Even if it it does, don’t show it. When I was 26, the girl I was FWB with would bring up her ex every once in a while, and he would pull asshole insecure shit to her. One time, she was meeting up with some of her old friends and her ex was there. I could tell it wouldn’t be good for me to be there, so I kissed her cheek, told her to have a good time with her friends and left. She called me later that night, inv…
/r/seduction21/01/22 03:02 AM
15

This is the best take here so far. IMO Instagram is pretty lame, but some women use for two main reasons: 1) as a safety buffer so they can easily block some who may creep them out, and B) use it as a window into the life the guy that just asked them out. IF OP choses to create an account in Instagram you should make sure to follow a few guidelines. - Don’t allow it to be the primary method of communication between you and her. Qualify this by saying some taking the lines of “Yeah, I have an acc…
/r/seduction07/01/22 10:54 AM
12

Just a random thought here, but maybe she is reluctant to have sex because she has an STD and is afraid OP will reject her when he finds out. Maybe her STD was flaring up at the times when she and OP were together, and she is internally battled with telling OP before they have sex.
/r/seduction04/01/22 02:24 PM
4

I’ve never heard of the term “sigma” until this post, but I can assure you that anyone claiming others are “beta” is just a cringy.
/r/seduction29/12/21 06:45 PM
5

I really like this idea. My son wants to take martial arts classes and it's a sport I never attempted in my life. It seems it can be a great avenue for both of us to learn concurrently.
/r/seduction29/12/21 03:47 PM
44

Self-proclamation of one's own dominant status typically means the opposite. Those who are truly dominant don't need to declare it over others; it's just simply understood.
/r/seduction29/12/21 03:41 PM
1

Totes.
/r/seduction17/12/21 12:17 AM
26

An eye-opening experience I had as a teenager: I was on a lunch break with a woman I worked with; completely platonic and I hadn't made any moves on her. She was attractive, a few years older than me, and I knew she had a boyfriend. During the drive, she told me a recent but random story about her boyfriend. She said they were driving in her car and he just randomly blurted out "I'm really happy in our relationship." To me that sounded normal, supportive, loving, etc., and I didn't see any issue…
/r/seduction08/12/21 04:15 PM
4

Better response: "look, can I be honest with you? I hate texting Texting is lame and I'd rather get to know someone in person. You seem interesting and you can come grab a drink with me sometime the next time I'm out with my friends. I'd love to get a drink together with none of the online bullshit that are supposed to pass for a genuine interaction nowadays. After all we're both on tinder for a reason"
/r/seduction06/12/21 03:08 PM
2

Yep. Don't be creepy, but also don't be just another friend. She knows why you're on Tinder too. Don't be shy about it or try to hide it, but don't let it dominate your texts. Keep them simple and short. Leave her guessing and be a little mysterious. "I don't use these apps to message much. Text me your number" Then make sure you aren't trying to have a conversation via text, and actually move to meet up in person because texting is lame. That's how you change the conversation from Tinder messag…
/r/seduction06/12/21 03:02 PM
2

Kinda not really but no but it seems like you not knowing how to type a proper sentence when expecting other people to understand what you’re trying to say when yourselves don’t know how to say what you’re trying to say and seemingly expect us to understand it? I be viewing this post on reddit. Talk about getting “Kingly ignorant 🥴
/r/seduction09/11/21 05:34 PM
2

The only thing you should ask yourself is if you are still having fun when you’re around her. If it’s not fun, then move on. Don’t be a jerk to her, just move on.
/r/seduction26/10/21 11:37 PM
-8

Your experience is not like everyone else’s.
/r/seduction23/10/21 08:44 PM
-5

But it’s not “rarely”. It happens more often than you think. Just because it doesn’t happen to you as often, doesn’t mean it “rarely” happens to everyone else.
/r/seduction23/10/21 08:25 PM
6

Nope. I’ve had a woman who I never noticed walk up to me, not say anything, grab my hand and lead me to the dance floor. I’ve had a woman walk over, lean onto the to bar next to me introduce herself and ask, “what’s your story?” I could go on. Girls approach guys.
/r/seduction23/10/21 06:50 PM
1

Yes.
/r/seduction23/10/21 06:46 PM
13

I had some successes before it clicked for me, but I didn’t understand the circumstances, situations, or what I was doing (the “why”) that made those successes happen. It clicked for me when I was 24, and in the 2 years before I met my wife, it was full of women who would essentially be perusing me rather than me chasing tail. I would focus on hanging with my friends more than trying to get laid. I dabbled in lots of different hobbies I always wanted to try but didn’t because I would find some r…
/r/seduction23/10/21 01:51 AM
16

You're in good shape. I had the same epiphany around the same age. Now I'm 40, married with kids, and I still get approached by women. At some point, it just clicks.
/r/seduction22/10/21 10:58 PM
13

This is the way.
/r/seduction22/10/21 10:53 PM
2

Texting makes it extremely difficult to convey the tone and infliction of what you are saying, which is usually what makes you funny, charming, witty, etc. with face to face interactions. At first, keep your texts short, simple, direct, and confident. Once you have even a few face to face interactions, or even a phone call, this provides her an image in her head of how you are saying things when texting, and you can get a little more creative in your messages. But this doesn’t give you full reig…
/r/seduction21/10/21 02:20 PM
57

This is a very good list, but points #1, #5, #7, #9, and #10 stand out the most. And if you get only one take away from this, pay attention to this sentence: "Seduction is a by-product of a well-lived life."
/r/seduction19/10/21 03:56 PM
4

No, don’t get involved with another girl just to make the first girl jealous. That’s playing childish games, and never ends well for anyone.
/r/seduction09/10/21 01:53 AM
10

She tried, but didn’t make it in time. She ended up sleeping on my futon in the same room while her friend slept in my bed with me for the rest of the night.
/r/seduction08/10/21 08:19 PM
16

I learned that lesson in college too. Was really good friends with a girl who was unhappy in a long-distance relationship. She would flirt with me like crazy, and I knew she liked me. I made a move, she hesitantly said no, then continued her relationship. We stayed friends, but when one of her friends wanted to hook up with me, she came knocking on my door at 2 am in the morning to stop it from happening.
/r/seduction08/10/21 07:39 PM
15

Best to be upfront and direct if you like her. Make the move. If you get rejected again, make sure you're the one to ask if you two can still be friends. As soon as you get involved with another girl, there's a good chance she will change her mind.
/r/seduction08/10/21 07:27 PM
6

This and then transition with “I’m headed to the café for a snack and drink break from studying. Do you want to join me?”
/r/seduction08/10/21 10:49 AM
4

Also, be confident and direct. Once she makes the move to get closer, you can move onto something that is the next step, and is innocent enough to be accepted by her. For example: “Do you want to go up in my loft and make out?” She will probably giggle or smile and say “Yes.” Then move on from there. Be aware of her queues; know when to move forward and when she’s not comfortable with something back off a bit. Take off your shirt and she will probably want to take off her shirt, etc.
/r/seduction29/09/21 04:17 PM
4

40 year old dad here. Couple of things: -I get hit on by younger women everywhere I go. Flattering, but I’m happy with where I’m at. -Why the hell would I want a 21 yr old girl who is still self conscious about how she acts and her body. I’d rather have the mature, confident, more experienced woman who knows what she wants, and more specifically knows what she’s doing in the sack. Peak dating for me has ranged from ages 20-40, and still going.
/r/seduction29/09/21 04:01 PM
1

I see it as more of an ironic twist of events... She says wants to reschedule. He reads tweets he thinks are about him, so he deletes her number. She texts him back because she genuinely wants to reschedule. He doesn't know it's her because he deleted her number like a self-centered fool.
/r/seduction20/07/21 03:01 PM
2

I didn’t want to have sex with her at that time. We talked, she handed me a book about astrology signs, with earmarked pages and notes written in the margins. She said she wanted me to read it to learn more about her before our 2nd date. It set off all my crazy-chic alarms, and I didn’t want to have sex with her. I “borrowed” the book out of kindness, but never went on a 2nd date with her because I didn’t want to, and the book sat on my bookshelf until she asked for it back. A few months and a f…
/r/seduction19/07/21 05:04 PM
7

LOL, hokay bubs.
/r/seduction19/07/21 03:25 PM
8

1) I didn't want to have sex at that moment in time. I was still deciding whether or not she was someone I wanted to have sex with. 2) I understand the push-pull, playful banter, and I also understand shit-tests. This was more of a shit test to see if I would get upset at the idea of her rejecting me of sex when I hadn't even asked for it. I passed the test with flying-fncking-colors. 3) Also, who said I didn't eventually have sex with her? It was on my terms, no-strings, frequent, fantastic, an…
/r/seduction19/07/21 03:23 PM
11

Some advice from experience: Be blunt. I went on a hiking date as a 1st date and afterwards, she invited me to her place. I said okay because I was thirsty and forgot to bring a water bottle. Then she turned around and said, "But we're not having sex." Sex hadn't even occurred to me because this was the first date and we hadn't even kissed yet, so I responded with "Yeah, I know. I just want some water because I'm parched." She laughed, we drank water and talked in her apartment. The point of the…
/r/seduction19/07/21 02:07 PM
204

*When she texts to reschedule the date* "Who is this? I don't have this number saved in my phone."
/r/seduction19/07/21 01:54 PM
4

The number one trait you need in order to get laid is NOT confidence, or being able to make her laugh. The number one trait you need in order to get laid is to know when to shut the fuck up. ... then OP proceeds to explain for a full paragraph, as an example of what NOT to do.
/r/seduction21/05/21 07:10 PM
5

Smile with your eyes. Or just smile with a mask and she will be able to tell that you're smiling.
/r/seduction18/05/21 02:29 PM
1

Yeah, this guy is setting himself up to be really lonely in about 10 years. I’ve seen how guys like this plays out over time, and most aren’t happy by the time they get to my age.
/r/seduction15/04/21 09:57 AM
3

Yes, adventures are where it's at because you focus on living rather than simply existing to attract a female. This helps your interaction and relationship-building skills with a wide variety of people. Backpack around Europe staying in hostiles. Volunteer for a campaign in Peace Corps. Move across the country without a job because a friend dares you to. Do something to enrich your life and make friends with random people.
/r/seduction13/04/21 11:40 PM
1

I'm Victoria. Hi.
/r/seduction13/04/21 11:32 PM
3

LMAO - No one ever said Philosophy was going to seduce women. One thing is for sure, using names like "beta billy" and crowning oneself a "Chad" or "alpha" is a sure-fire way to NOT seduce women. Also, "just stating pure facts" is often what angry incels say when they know they're wrong.
/r/seduction13/04/21 03:44 PM
9

Yeah, that comment is clearly angry incel and only looking to blame others.
/r/seduction13/04/21 02:31 PM
0

Not always true. Plenty of women who were not initially attracted to me ended up making the first move because I was aloof. Create an instance of interaction without hitting on her. “Oh, you need this chalk for your pool cue? Sure, here. Now can you move so I can take my shot?”
/r/seduction13/04/21 02:27 AM
8

All of my past FWB started differently, so you just have to let it happen naturally. Some started out with an initial date, but there wasn't any emotional connection, just sexual chemistry. The dating ended, but women need sexual satisfaction just as much as men do. Being honest and direct is important. Don't be creepy or pervy, and definitely don't be a jerk. Kindly explain that you think they are a fun person, they are attractive, but the two of you aren't compatible for a serious relationship…
/r/seduction08/04/21 03:13 PM
8

No, not at all, which is why we were FWB. We both agreed that the sex was fantastic, but we could never seriously date eachother.
/r/seduction08/04/21 01:46 PM
12

I completely understand this. I had a fwb who literally told me it’s a huge turn on when a guy tells her “No.” because otherwise it’s too easy for her.
/r/seduction08/04/21 11:58 AM
2

Yeah, I was all supportive of the OP, despite his absolute cringe word choice “blizzy... whip...tiddies.” But then he tells someone else to shut up because they are “nerds.” No wonder he still has that v-card. Fuck this OP... or, I suppose no one has at this point.
/r/seduction07/04/21 08:26 AM
2

Every other month?! Stop washing your clothes in acid. I use a dryer and my clothes last me years. I don’t wear fast fashion, and by the time a pair of pants have been worn out, that style isn’t relevant anymore. Excellent point about the detriment to our environment, which is why you don’t buy cheap clothes. Spend a little more on quality style and buy something that can last going through a dryer. Air-dry; ain’t nobody got time for that.
/r/seduction27/03/21 08:46 AM
4

By the time a dryer wears-out any of my clothes to the extent of unwearable, they aren't in style anymore. Use dryers, your style will stay current.
/r/seduction24/03/21 12:22 PM
4

Soccer. Soccer is where it’s at. 1) Soccer gets your cardio up and your legs strong and defined. 2) Soccer girls are hot af. They are athletic and strong. They aren’t prissy or pretentious. They are competitive, confident, and in shape. Holy shit, soccer girls are hot.
/r/seduction21/03/21 04:30 AM
1

Geezhus, man. You are getting way too worked up about this. I partly agreed with you. Take a deep breath and calm down.
/r/seduction20/03/21 11:14 AM
2

Gear down big-shifter.
/r/seduction18/03/21 08:33 PM
1

I've never claimed that marriage is necessary to show love and/or loyalty. What are you fussing about?
/r/seduction18/03/21 08:26 PM
1

That's a possibility and can see how "them" would refer to his parents. Here is what stood out to me in the comment: "...nuclear family has all but been destroyed..." Families form in a variety of ways; this doesn't mean nuclear families have been all but destroyed. "...most marriages end in divorce within five years, usually by the female..." Putting sole blame on one party, but it takes two to make a marriage fail. "...which causes the father to have to pay child [support]. Seeing how broken t…
/r/seduction18/03/21 03:25 PM
-1

My wishes for him to find happiness are genuine. My apologies if that was lost in translation and came across as rude. The guy sounds angry at the world and it's sad that he's trying to bestow that pessimism onto his kids.
/r/seduction18/03/21 02:54 PM
-4

Man, you sound depressed and your post comes across as very much blaming others for where your life took some wrong turns. I hope you find happiness somewhere.
/r/seduction18/03/21 12:49 PM
2

Agreed. It’s a thin line to be walked, but if done tactfully it’s a good way to get both people on the same level and help prevent the “putting on a pedestal” problem that often leads to friend-zoning.
/r/seduction15/03/21 08:46 PM
4

Notice little things about her that may be imperfections, bring attention to those with little hints, but don’t be a jerk about them. For example, if you notice she has lipstick on her teeth, tell her in a casual way. She will probably be embarrassed about it, making her feel a bit self conscious, but you confidently reassure her it’s nothing to be worried about, that you “find it kind of cute.” It’s a fine line to walk between coming off as a jerk, or being a complete pushover. The important pi…
/r/seduction15/03/21 05:34 PM
15

This is me. I am able to tease almost anyone I interact with within a few minutes of meeting them. If I know the person on a personal level, it's even easier and more effective. I do this with my boss, with my peers, and those newer to my profession. I think part of it comes naturally to me, as it was never something that I had to develop or work on. What I did notice later in life was*HOW* I used this skill when pursuing women I was interested in. As I understand it, the reason females are so r…
/r/seduction15/01/21 08:27 PM
4

Something my older sister told me in my teenage years that really resonated with me, as she learned the hard lesson herself and didn’t want me to make similar mistakes: “It’s not about if you are lucky enough to sleep with someone; it’s who deserves to get the privilege of sleeping with you.” It’s a very important aspect of self-worth that everyone needs to realize.
/r/seduction23/12/20 03:22 PM
1

I was more considering this the 2nd scenario. Well thought out explanation to help the OP. Kudos to you!
/r/seduction12/12/20 05:45 PM
1

The op was On the way to meet some friends. Don’t ditch friends to devote all your attention to a girl you just met. Go meet your friends after the open and exchange of numbers.
/r/seduction12/12/20 05:43 PM
1

I agree with this. Another big mistake rookies make is dropping everything when they get that initial response and it immediately lowers their value.
/r/seduction12/12/20 04:40 PM
9

So you’re going to drop everything in your life to just continue a conversation with someone you just met? That gives me the impression that you don’t have much else going on in your life, and comes across desperate. Not saying you are desperate, but that how it comes across to the other party.
/r/seduction12/12/20 04:34 PM
3

Good stuff. Approach to converse and nothing more. Just have a conversation like she’s a normal person, because she is. Have fun!
/r/seduction05/12/20 02:50 AM
17

Excellent way to show interest, but with indifference if she doesn’t text. That’s what hooked her interest. Make sure if she wants to set plans to meet up, don’t break other plans you may already have with friends/ family. You’re not just going to drop everything for a girl you hardly know, “...but another time would be good.”
/r/seduction13/11/20 03:46 AM
201

When you interact with women that positive attitude will be so ingrained that every time you open, you'll be asking yourself, "How can I add value to her life", if she's sad, make her smile and then tell her how beautiful she looks when she's happy. If she looks bored, inject some fun into her life by doing something ridiculous. Truth. This goes for every interaction in life, not just seduction.
/r/seduction06/11/20 03:41 PM
6

Yep, being too silly can lower your value. Walking the thin line of humor vs serious in the delivery can keep them on their toes guessing “Is he serious, or is he just joking?” is a very fine skill to develop.
/r/seduction05/11/20 05:41 PM
1

Complete over analysis. She contacts him back: Cool. She doesn’t contact him back: Whatever. Moving on.
/r/seduction22/10/20 09:13 PM
9

Think of it more in terms of having a positive interaction, then demonstrating a higher value that he has other things occupying his life that it doesn’t matter that much if she doesn’t call him back. Either way, kudos to OP for breaking out of his shell. It was a positive experience for him.
/r/seduction22/10/20 02:36 PM
19

It's story time! I worked in a sales office with a lot of confident, attractive, and assertive men. I consider myself less assertive, less confident, and was certainly not the best looking guy in the office. There were several attractive and confident women in the office as well. All the guys in the office flirted with them constantly. It was all welcome and accepted, but never moved beyond that for any of those guys. I ended up hooking up with one of the women in the office. I didn't even ask h…
/r/seduction22/10/20 02:27 PM
11

Rejection of what? All he's asking for is to know if the food was good or not. It shows her that he has confidence she will text her back, and indifference that it's not a big deal if she doesn't. It's completely up to her to contact him, and if she does, it will be a confidence booster for him. If she doesn't contact him, then nothing to worry about and easy to move on.
/r/seduction22/10/20 02:06 PM
36

"What stop are you looking for?" "Oh yeah, 'Clark Street' sounds exactly the same as 'Larimer Square'. I can see how you got confused. *slight smile at the tease*" "Oh, you're going out to dinner with some friends?" "I've heard of that place; haven't tried it yet though. Here's my number; let me know if the food is any good and its worth going."
/r/seduction22/10/20 01:33 PM
6

Woah, thanks! I didn’t even realize that was today.
/r/seduction15/10/20 04:52 PM
29

This is truth for all things in life, not just seduction.
/r/seduction15/10/20 04:11 PM
2

After the first few questions answer her last text with something like "OK" or "cool", then take some time away from texting, like a few hours. Then, around the next meal-time of the day send this text: "Hey, I'm going to Whole Foods for some food. Wanna grab a bite with me?"
/r/seduction09/10/20 07:32 PM
0

"Most girls have plenty of guys in their phones as backups/potential backups" That is also true. I'm not saying put all your eggs in one basket at every go around, but being respectful to your potential partners is important to successful and mutually fulfilling seduction. Honesty and good intentions are severely underrated.
/r/seduction10/09/20 09:19 PM
2

“A girl telling you no is nothing if you have another girl who will say yes at a moments notice already in your phone.” Yeah, I’m sure girls love being the backup plan. You should open with that. /s
/r/seduction10/09/20 09:07 PM
2

I have no problems with casual sex. It’s a wonderful thing to experience. You’re correct, with this strategy you will very likely come across a nice female, but also with this mentality you will very likely miss out on a more serious or deeper connection with said “nice girl”.
/r/seduction10/09/20 08:49 PM
2

And it’s a valid one at that!
/r/seduction10/09/20 08:32 PM
3

The overall tone of the post doesn’t come across as super respectful to women, and then the last sentence seals the deal that all you’re really looking for is to get your dick wet. You related it to a job search, and with your mentality, you’re never gonna find a career that you’re happy with. You’ll just jump from mundane job to mundane job never really being happy with what you’re doing to make a living.
/r/seduction10/09/20 08:27 PM
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