| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 31 | Here is a nice picture of pick me me at 21, staying in an abusive relationship because I thought it was the right thing to do. Look at my eyes — You can physically see how dead I was inside.when I got out of my abusive relationship I literally aged backwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 05:14 AM |
| 6 | Maintaining mental hygiene without unsubscribingso glad other women feel this way. I am a huge follower of LoA and definitely feel myself somewhat falling into lower vibes from this subreddit. this does not downplay by any means how much value I have received here! I just would like to focus on that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 03:33 AM |
| 5 | What have you been spending your money on since you’re no longer wasting it on a terrible relationship/dating?a lot of really cool adult things (down payments, removing debt, etc) and it feels awesome. But I’m going to answer this with what’s currently is making me the happiest.... shoes. like, being able to spend $500 on shoes in a month. freedom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 10:33 AM |
| 1 | If this has been posted before please remove it. But sisters, this is where 50-50 will get you. It's their kid, but her bills.I wish I had done the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 10:30 AM |
| 9 | Everybody, please acknowledge how wonderful she is and so not like other girls!!I love this omg. I wish the girl would read this and gather some REAL perspective. and great parenting tactic. My sister and I saved together for two of the original ds’s 😭😭 I really think that taught me the value of money at an early age and only helped me get where I am now! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:22 PM |
| 2 | Give me your FDS fiction recommendations!The Power. A modern world where suddenly all women have a power to shoot electricity from their hands. It’s adult fiction. It sounds a little weird - but it’s great. Written so well. I don’t want to give too much away, but really check it out!!! There’s a new religion focused on Mary, political upheaval in sexist countries, men living in fear, and teenage girls shocking people for fun. It really even shows the dark side of women in charge completely. I loved it so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 08:54 AM |
| 3 | Had to share because it made me crack up! Can’t even offer to but me a whole meal!What bothers me the most is he didn’t even pose a question. It was a command. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 08:49 AM |
| 2 | Losing male friends left and rightappreciate you sharing this. I’m so grateful to this sub, especially when I’m going through things. I have several really good male friends.... but they all have crushes on me. I am respected, to an extent, but that’s always the elephant in the room with all of them. Last week two of my male friends (who I introduced) decided to start a money venture together without even talking to me. (I make more than both of them, have immense resources in that specific area, and my family is in this kind of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 08:44 AM |
| 3 | “What you fear, you will want to destroy”so proud to be native and this is a big reason why. Our bloodlines are highly matriarchal due to the sacred wisdom passed down through women. Men trust in it and protect us in their own ways, too. They literally recognize that we CREATE life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 08:14 AM |
| 10 | If You Hate Online Dating, Delete Your Dating AppsJust deleted because I was inspired by this post! i had been subconsciously looking for a reason to finally get rid of the one I was on. I hadn’t been using them anyways. thanks for sharing. 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 04:15 AM |
| 3 | A non-pickme vibe from the 50's (though there is a bit of a libfem aftertaste)The best part is Lesley came out as lesbian! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 10:18 PM |
| 5 | Gaslighting, manipulation and mental abuse in 60 seconds. How much do we bet that he also expects his girlfriends to pay for his food and calls her ride or die when she forgives his cheating?I love this version. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:49 AM |
| 44 | Gaslighting, manipulation and mental abuse in 60 seconds. How much do we bet that he also expects his girlfriends to pay for his food and calls her ride or die when she forgives his cheating?this is why Ancient Greek men used to be homoronantic. they thought that “true love relationships” could only be made between equals - two men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 11:56 PM |
| 19 | Gaslighting, manipulation and mental abuse in 60 seconds. How much do we bet that he also expects his girlfriends to pay for his food and calls her ride or die when she forgives his cheating?“We come from their rib” 😭😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 11:55 PM |
| 217 | Gaslighting, manipulation and mental abuse in 60 seconds. How much do we bet that he also expects his girlfriends to pay for his food and calls her ride or die when she forgives his cheating?“We ate the apple cause of you” This is perhaps where misogyny started (in westernized countries) or one of the oldest statements supporting it. This line is embedded in every man’s subconscious. That HUMAN SIN AND SHAME entered our existence because of women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 09:24 PM |
| 48 | This is nice but if you’re on a date at Hooters it’s already not going well.I feel like this is a half-assed attempt to appear like they actually care about women.... a business known for and wide for objectifying women’s bodies for financial gain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 07:07 AM |
| 52 | Redirect that energy sishands down best advice I’ve received from this sub. this is PERFECT for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 07:12 AM |
| 40 | Video games are more important to him than helping his wife with their babyomg this triggers me. I swear it was like going back in time to living with my ex (which years later I will occasionally have nightmares about). I hope she gets the strength to just do it. 🙏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:59 AM |
| 3 | Height Correlation Survey- Do tall men infantilize shorter women?men seek out large height differences to feel like a “big man” on the inside. I think this is honestly across the board. Short girls I know, the ones who are really desperate for male attention, always talk about how small/short they are. My ex-manager, one of the biggest scores I have ever come across, told us “in (state) his fiancé was a 6, but in (state) she was a 10.” He also admitted to going for good looking women who were “tall” because they were easier that their shorter counterparts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 07:01 PM |
| 31 | The #bussitchallange: A Scrotes Dreamthank god this sub exists. I KNEW I was feeling weird about this trend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 06:47 PM |
| 64 | My Grandfather’s Rose Bush :')I love this story because it shows such realism in the people we love having both LV and HV properties. It’s awesome you’ve been able to understand the two and encourage the better. also, my grandfather grew roses too. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 08:48 PM |
| 23 | What’s the worst gift you’ve been given by a LVM? Here’s mine. Story in comments.This is wonderful, seems like such a dream. 😍 I’m a skincare addict, it’s almost like a love language all it’s own. I have a question though! Obviously his love language is gift giving and that is oh-so-special, but what are other reasons you would consider him a HVM? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 11:13 PM |
| 6 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”absorb everything, yet give nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:48 PM |
| 17 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”girl, don’t lose hope! our lawyer is your height and took on a judge and three opposing attorneys with her hair curled and tailored blazer popping. your aura reaches ~50 ft on average so let them feel it. 🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:47 PM |
| 7 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”I love love love this! with red lipstick on. 😉💄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:45 PM |
| 3 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”you’re welcome! let me know if you’d like to chat more on this topic. 🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:42 PM |
| 16 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”this just takes practice and some guts! ... and it’s not going to always work. There will be times where you just have to eat it, unfortunately, and decide to let that interruption go. I can’t tell you how many times in the beginning of my career where I was talked over and my ideas unacknowledged. What did I do? Follow my idea anyway and outperform the loud scrotes from the meeting. Half the time people are ALL TALK anyways, and sometimes new ideas are best dissolved into the company slowly wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:31 PM |
| 21 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”“What is he, a monkey” had me dying 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:25 PM |
| 12 | Confusion is a sign of abuse - can we talk about this more?oh absolutely. Those comments are both isolating and incredibly accusatory as to make you question yourself. my ex said stuff like that ALL the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:21 PM |
| 21 | Oh nooo..... this was the first thing I saw when I woke up this morning. Please discuss, this guy’s response is actually disgusting + the whole thing feels staged for some pickme attention.nail on the head. and if this exists, it should be private. Just honestly grossed out that she is willing to do all off this and the best response he can think of is that “he’s going to get her pregnant” and people support that. 🥲 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 02:46 PM |
| 13 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”Then on the other hand we have the “mentors” who call you abrasive... 😓 had to have a talk with said person about the fact that women are called abrasive in the office waaaaaay more than men are! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 01:06 PM |
| 67 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”I’m definitely all for this, but be extremely tactful about it. Once you get that lovely “bitch” label branded on you - life can become really difficult and it can be impossible to be taken seriously. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:57 PM |
| 19 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”Are we living the same lives in different industries?? 😭😂 I also have a HVM mentor! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:54 PM |
| 54 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”Omg SAME. I swear my old “work husband” would literally try to sabotage my reputation, in a way, so no other males would talk to me. he would downplay our friendship in political moments at the office, as well. I think work husbands are just bad news - there’s something to be said about a man who needs a pseudo-emotional-relationship-attachment in the workplace to get his shit done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:39 PM |
| 133 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”as a young woman with a job in technology - in a role that is highly male dominated - I can tell you that I literally eat these punks for breakfast. They DO NOT know how to react to an extremely skilled woman in a professional setting who doesn’t tolerate being interrupted. I can tell from this guy’s post that he’s actually trying to convince himself of these views... due to feeling threatened in the workplace by strong feminine essence. obviously, it wasn’t always like this for me. In fact it u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:22 PM |
| 33 | Oh nooo..... this was the first thing I saw when I woke up this morning. Please discuss, this guy’s response is actually disgusting + the whole thing feels staged for some pickme attention.the amount of women in the comments saying things like “takes notes for when I have a man” is what makes me the saddest here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:07 PM |
| 62 | Ignored and blocked, my dating life is starting to look like a sitcom lolsure is bothering to use hella emojis though. idgi. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:04 PM |
| 144 | Her boyfriend complained that she’s only spending $200 for his birthday after she already spent $300 on him for Christmas.and it’s like... would he still be as interested in her if she didn’t keep up her appearance and invest in herself??? ‘Cause that girl’s hair is beautiful. 😓 if she spent on him instead of herself, he’d probably tell her she was letting herself go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 12:02 PM |
| 70 | Ignored and blocked, my dating life is starting to look like a sitcom lolLmao Jeez. Usually they at least get the point when you “nuhhh-uh” their first “date” idea and then try to come up with something better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 11:57 AM |
| 61 | Confusion is a sign of abuse - can we talk about this more?this exactly. During my abusive relationship with a gaslighter, I was constantly confused. I’ve described it as feeling “in a fog all the time.” Gaslighters will do simple things that, over time, add up to make you question everything about yourself. It seems really silly, but when you live with it (or experience it in isolation - they will try to isolate you first obviously) eventually it starts to weigh on you. It can be simple interactions like this: “says something about going to eat” “yeah,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 11:32 AM |
| 41 | Mood for 2021It’s always the “empowered” women - the ones who approach men at bars, who text first, who do the most in the beginning of dating - who end up confused. “Does he actually like me?” How are you supposed to know if you don’t let him show you? And then show you again? And again, just to be sure? When you take the job of the man in pursuing, you lose your one chance to REALLY see how they feel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:13 PM |
| 37 | Random Things That Are An Immediate Swipe Leftshirtless photos winky/tongue faces “dominant” “my pet needs a mom” obviously military/a cop professional musicians less than 3 good quality photos no job listed (he probably doesn’t have one) height not listed (he’s probably short) I also never message first and only respond to messages that show the dude put in some effort to think up a unique convo starter. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:39 AM |
| 255 | I literally don’t even have wordshis tone of voice is what gets me. ew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:06 AM |
| 13 | Eloise from Bridgerton radiates FDS energy.I was hoping someone would write about this show on here! I agree and love Eloise. I would honestly say that Daphne has FDS tendencies at times (for the era) and is a good study subject for charm and the Art of Seduction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 05:25 AM |
| 25 | “Find a pretty girl with low self esteem” sickening. LVMs will take advantage of anything.oh yeah 100%. i meant i just DONT believe any redditor that says he has a gorgeous Gf. 🥱 I’m sure some do.... but the ones who openly say it? Suspect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:28 PM |
| 3 | The Fuck Off Fundabsolutely. my NV ex used to always tell me “you’re too dependent on your family.” no, i just have large support network and a lot of people who love me. Of course, he tried to isolate me. thankfully those friendships and relationships will always be with you, even after all of that. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:21 AM |
| 4 | The Fuck Off Fundmy mother was married to a HVM for years and still had secret accounts. she was the only person who would REALLY save out of the two of them. (He was very invested in in the stock market and was very smart with his money otherwise. he passed away recently and my mother is set up for life.) with her secret accounts she ALWAYS had peace of mind and was able to renovate her home a few times. often it really surprised & impressed him when she could pull her own financially (seemingly out of nowhere)… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:18 AM |
| 162 | “Find a pretty girl with low self esteem” sickening. LVMs will take advantage of anything.i honestly don’t believe anything a dude on REDDIT says. 😭 they wish! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:00 AM |
| 2 | I am glad more and more women are having that mindset in this day and age.oh this 100%. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:48 AM |
| 44 | There is always societal pressure to be ~attractive to men~, but breaking down this standard to the individual guys themselves takes a lot of the pressure off. The average guy is not worth pleasing.that first paragraph had me laughing so hard. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 08:11 AM |
| 48 | A huge piece of the puzzle that is misogyny is mothers.so sorry you have to go through this but you are not alone.🙏🏻 I’m in a similar situation (though not near as extreme). I’m the oldest and my brother is the youngest. he’s incredibly spoiled, entitled, lazy. uses his dad’s funding to take girls on dates (LOL!). my mom only will sing his praises, and allow herself to be manipulated when he texts her things like “you need to buy me more clothes so I can pull these hoes.” seriously. meanwhile, of course, I’m quite successful and doing pretty well an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 03:06 AM |
| 26 | A huge piece of the puzzle that is misogyny is mothers.your mom’s comment..... holy crap. Spot on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 02:59 AM |
| 2 | Wasn't the handbook a PDF file?would love to have this as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 11:05 PM |
| 36 | The Fuck Off Fundthis is so good. So, so, so good. everyone needs to read this. I learned this the hard way, twice. the first was upon having an abusive ex who I was financially dependent on. he was a typical narcissistic gaslighter that tried to ruin my career. no point in explaining, we all know the type. eventually, I got out of that relationship and focused on going back into my career full force. I needed a job ASAP and secured one quickly. unfortunately, it was a job that didn’t treat me as well as they sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 10:32 PM |
| 3 | My neighbor had sex with a guy she was interested in really soon, they had a condom slip incident, and he immediately changed. This is why we vet!!oh, this resonates with me so strongly. It’s really like you’re speaking my story here. I had it in my head for so long that HVM = someone really successful in their career/financials. So I just ended up being a pick-me for really wealthy LVM. which in some cases is worse, because they have more resources/options/ability to manipulate. I would go into the very deepest detail while strategizing in hopes that one of my friends would be like “oh well because he did x that means...” in my favor. mix… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 08:36 AM |
| 17 | Men really think being a functional member of society is too much to ask 🥲even if this is true, he doesn’t believe it. he’s trying to convince himself AND whoever is reading, tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 07:02 AM |
| 7 | My neighbor had sex with a guy she was interested in really soon, they had a condom slip incident, and he immediately changed. This is why we vet!!soooooo true. they want to vent and to be told that the guy is going to text them back. (I was this person.) Or strategize. Or be told “fuck him and go talk to ____.” it’s like.... girl, this probably isn’t the first time this has happened to you (probably even in the exact same way.) you have to stop lying to yourself and notice the common denominator here. for example - one of my best friends was texting me that she “wants d—-“ and while I too have sexual needs (lol), I realize what she really… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 06:59 AM |
| 5 | I knew I was going to get attacked for saying this, but I had to. I hope she takes my advice.I avoid these subs for this reason. it never does anything positive for my emotions and engaging typically makes it worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:25 PM |
| 36 | I knew I was going to get attacked for saying this, but I had to. I hope she takes my advice.this is kind of how I feel. Especially since she considered this their “starter home.” maybe they should focus on the OFFICE part of this game room so that their business can thrive / they can move on to another home. I study feng shui - having such contrasting energies (business vs laziness) in one room isn’t very optimal to achieving your goals. it’s the same reason why you shouldn’t have a desk in your bedroom if you can help it (sleeping/pleasure vs work). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:21 PM |
| 89 | how can I spot LVM Chameleons 🦎 👀THIS. Trust in your intuition, if it feels off, it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:51 PM |
| 26 | FDS is changing how I view the beginning of my relationship with my husbandjust like we often need to go through values rehab, so do men. I think if we get stuck on the view that HVM are just born that way it can be really harmful. I would say most of them are and it can have a lot to do with how they are raised. But I have seen men make these changes for the better and I have seen HVM come out of broken homes. definitely not excusing his past behavior but DO want to praise you for the way you’re handling this. don’t feel bad for looking back on the past - even if it’s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:35 PM |
| 36 | My neighbor had sex with a guy she was interested in really soon, they had a condom slip incident, and he immediately changed. This is why we vet!!perfect example of that line from coralline - “not all the people who are nice to you have good intentions.” I’m so glad you shared this because I’m finding it so increasingly difficult to nourish my relationships with female friends who have lvf qualities like this. since finding this sub, it’s not only strengthened my views on self love but TAUGHT ME NEW ONES regarding what I deserve, so I’m running out of patience to continue having these conversations. and women loooooove these conversations… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:25 PM |
| 107 | My neighbor had sex with a guy she was interested in really soon, they had a condom slip incident, and he immediately changed. This is why we vet!!sounds like he bought too big of a size.... lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:16 PM |
| 16 | I just realizedgood for them! So glad they found each other. 😘 seems like he got exactly what he wanted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:13 AM |
| 3 | NVM ex wanted me to choose between him and career in 2018. I chose career. Ending 2020 with 168k, halfway through my master's in CS, and just signed an offer letter with 400k of tech stocks vesting through 2025. NEVER sacrifice your career or education for ANYONE. (PS: He's still unemployed.)thanks girl!! This is exactly what I’ve been looking for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 06:17 AM |
| 120 | Block him. Delete his ass and get yourself a real man sis. 😭man who’s friends with his exes - 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 01:05 AM |
| 3 | She had me in the first half...regardless of whether or not she took him back (huge mistake btw), I really and sincerely hope she continues in her self love routine that she developed while they were apart. my instinct is telling me that will all fall to the wayside now, including the increased time with family/friends. I just can’t even imagine how she just feel when he even goes to the gym now. 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 12:56 AM |
| 3 | She had me in the first half...I was thinking this EXACTLY. Especially since this situation is so public - it’s just showing their children how you can treat people and if they love you enough they’ll let you get away with your terrible behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 12:53 AM |
| 66 | I just realizedwent on a few dates with a successful man who was 34 (I’m in my 20’s), when I asked him why he didn’t date women his age, he responded with “women in their 30’s always expect something from you.” I think it’s just typically the perceived age when women get their shit together / realizing their worth. 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 12:39 AM |
| 22 | NVM ex wanted me to choose between him and career in 2018. I chose career. Ending 2020 with 168k, halfway through my master's in CS, and just signed an offer letter with 400k of tech stocks vesting through 2025. NEVER sacrifice your career or education for ANYONE. (PS: He's still unemployed.)absolutely love to see this and congratulations. curious - what app or website are you using to monitor this way? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 12:37 AM |
| 6 | Saw this in an Instagram I follow..... I’ve noticed that LVM men insecure in their careers ESPECIALLY if their partner is in a similar field.The amount of women jumping on this post to say things like “AT LEAST HE’S ADMITTING HIS SHORTCOMING” make me 🤢 There was one positive comment I saw while scanning (by a male) that said “Either support each other unconditionally or don’t worry about it because she will be gone ❤️” and I sincerely hope so. (Also this is my first post and I just wanted to extend a thanks to this group. I have become obsessed with learning these tools and putting them to work, and have noticed a huge shift in my en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:39 PM |
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