cosmosconsiderations Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
7	Ask Amy: I think my wife is lazy for not having a career while raising our kids It's funny, I didn't see it until another user pointed that out but reading back over it with than lens - holy shit. He is incredibly entitled and obviously doesn't see his wife as an autonomous human. He indeed appears to be sociopathic. By the way he's describing her, she appears to be amazing and yet he's trying SO HARD to make her sound awful (and furthermore, reaches out to a NEWSPAPER for validation??). It's really astounding. He hates her and I hope she really is gearing up to leave him b…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	08/12/21 06:18 PM
18	“Promising Young Woman” Great post; I finally watched the movie last week. I think that to witness a man's reaction to this movie and learn his takeaway from watching is definitely a good litmus test. If a guy cannot watch a film centered around the horrors that women everywhere face (and in such a creative and powerful way) without resorting to DEFENDING the men in the movie and their behaviors... yikes. That is not a man you want to have in your life.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/08/21 07:13 PM
6	Share your badass breakup stories! I knew the relationship was in trouble prior to making my decision, as I had been contemplating if his behavior was emotionally abusive or not for a while at that point. I'll spare the many, many details of our relationship, but I was constantly walking on eggshells around him because his moods would change frequently, quickly, and I had no idea what would set him off next. I found myself most at peace when he wasn't home; like I could finally relax and just "be" without someone there to critici…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/08/21 06:57 PM
19	Don’t confuse “jealousy” for boundary pushing. Great post and a great reminder. Especially when you do turn the tables, and realize that wait, if I were in a relationship with someone, I wouldn't be following 40+ accounts of nearly naked men, I wouldn't entertain men from my past hitting me up to go get "coffee" (but it's NoT a DaTe!!") and tell my partner he's being irrational because he feels uncomfortable about it, and I wouldn't be doing things in general to make my partner insecure about our relationship. Why the hell would I tolerate t…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/07/21 05:45 PM
17	Don’t confuse “jealousy” for boundary pushing. Your ex and my ex sound similar! Wow. Down to the fact that he told his best friends and even his MOM (this man was 41 years old, btw) that I was being unreasonable and irrational because I would feel uncomfortable regarding his interactions with women. It almost seemed like he was trying to justify his behaviors through these people who he KNEW would back him 100% only hearing one side of the story, because just looking at the facts, it definitely looked shady on his part. Plus, one of these pe…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/07/21 05:38 PM
32	"Why haven't you had kids yet?" I feel the same way about all of those things. I find it confusing and sad and kind of gross that there has been such a push to "Raise the birthrates!! (but in America, only if ur white)" when there's a blatant lack of respect and care for those who do choose to birth and raise children in the current environment. Like you, I know that if I ever develop the visceral urge to nurture and raise a small human being, I'd rather help one who's already been born. I could volunteer with kids, I could of…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 05:24 PM
171	"Why haven't you had kids yet?" FORREAL. And as a US citizen... gestures broadly at the education system, healthcare system, & incredible lack of support in general for women who wish to become mothers Perhaps in another life I'd be more inclined to become a mother (or maybe if I were born in a different country), but as it stands now, I frankly feel that the world and the society I live in aren't good enough for my potential children.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/21 03:53 PM
5	For episode 20 of the podcast, we will be doing an extra-special (and extra long) listener feedback episode! Comment below with your questions/feedback for a chance to be discussed on the podcast! That's great that you recognized that feeling and how quickly it would fade away when given the chance! I think this is really solid advice - to limit contact in these early dating stages. It seems like seeing too much of the new person you're dating that early on helps to develops a sense of intimacy that's an otherwise more slow process... it feels unearned, in a way. You don't really know this person, like at all. You're not getting them at this point; you're getting their (very eager to have…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/07/21 02:38 PM
18	Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after that one guy I feel like J names in particular have been troublesome for me... maybe it's a coincidence (but I was also pondering that it was perhaps the style in the mid-late 80s to name boys Justin, Joshua, Jordan, etc. and a string of J-names appeared and this coincides with the age range I'm in and was dating in; just my crackpot theory lol) but many J names in my experience have been duds.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/06/21 02:57 PM
9	Nearly spit out my coffee reading this 😂 "It's somewhere in the back"..	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/06/21 05:14 PM
7	Older queens if you woke up as a 20 year old again, what would you have done differently? Happy birthday!!! For reference, I'm 34, and I'm much healthier (mind and body) than I was at 20. I'm about 50 pounds lighter, have gotten a little better at listening to my intuition about situations/people, and started taking better care of my mental health. If I were 20 again, like others have stated I would have saved money more efficiently and worked on my health (dentist visits, maintaining a healthy diet, etc.) a bit more. I went out with my friends a lot, but that's what your life at tha…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/06/21 10:02 PM
13	A scrote blocked the sidewalk with his car in order to flirt. pretty blatant to anyone with half a brain, and they are things that these guys would definitely be wary of if a man did it to them THIS. If I were a man, would you have acted the same way?? Probably not, because in scrotal behavior, blocking another man's path randomly and getting suspiciously close to him would probably result in a fight. Why, as a woman, should I take this exact same behavior as a "compliment"? You think this would make us like you/want to have sex with you? In what fucking w…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/06/21 09:31 PM
21	Dead bedroom? It's just biology at work, sweaty Amazing comment! It's so natural to blame yourself and not the situation you're in. Shitty how we turn it to ourselves first and foremost. I've experienced this, too. In a previous relationship, I thought I was "turning" asexual, because I was just never in the mood and the sex itself was lacking in any strong, pleasurable feelings on my end. Turns out, living with an emotionally abusive guy with anger issues will NOT let your body feel safe enough to want to have sex with that person.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/06/21 01:30 AM
2	You Don't Need To Be Grateful🤷 A scholarship is a wonderful idea!! I feel weird asking this, but if you want, could you please give examples of humbling attempts? I often have trouble deciphering peoples' (re: men) motives/subtext and while I definitely feel like I've been on the receiving end of similar attempts throughout multiple relationships, I'm always interested in hearing how other women realized that this was happening to them.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/06/21 08:06 PM
6	When it comes to snooping & men hiding things from their SO. The truth hurts! Let us normalize "snooping". I'm SO glad you did what you did and were able to avoid legally tying yourself to that clown. It's one of those decisions that in the moment is so fucking difficult to process, but you know that your happiness and future livelihood are greatly dependent on you making the hard decision in the first place. So bravo, lady! I caught my ex engaging in similar behavior regarding attention/validation-seeking with other women. It could be women he was friends with, former girlfriends/flings he'd be rand…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/05/21 05:48 PM
1	I've also been compared to having "steak " every day and other objects that grow old or boring Vehicles. "I like to look at and admire Lamborghinis, but I don't wanna own one." Yikes.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/05/21 09:03 PM
15	New Post Yesterday In Another Sub "Does watching porn/ looking at the naked photos women post to Reddit affect how you see or feel about your significant other?" Thank you for making this post. The fact that she's so meek about the entire situation (not as a judgment, but an observation; see my story below), makes my heart sad for the women who experience this in their relationships. It is far, far better (and healthier) to be single than to be partnered with a man who is like this. This is exactly the reason why my ex and I broke up nearly two months ago. Things didn't really get put into perspective for me until a close friend of mine said to me, "cosm…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/05/21 06:17 PM
1	Things That Perturb LVM 🤡 One of my exes was supremely dickish about music and had no problem making fun of me about bands I enjoyed, but lord help me if I said I didn't like his favorite band ever... LIMP BIZKIT (yes, that should have been a red flag for me, but I ignored a lot back in those days...). "Well, look at their record sales over the years - clearly they are great and you are wrong and don't know music." OK, bud. I think I read a quote in this sub that said something like one of the quickest ways to expose low…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/05/21 05:08 PM
63	Men will never understand how vulnerable it feels to be a woman YESSS. I'm recently out of a LTR (2 years, living together) and am processing things and absorbing this sub's insights and this comment brought back a memory of one of my ex's long-term friends making some comment about how "well if women wanted equality, why aren't more of them coal miners" (or something just as trite and ignorant), and just in general complaining about women in some capacity. Yes, because traditionally, historically, overwhelmingly... men have definitely allowed, accepted, and…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/04/21 01:11 PM
23	Men scientifically conclude porn doesn’t affect their perception of women 🤡 felt victimized by rhetoric demonizing pornography I'm new to posting (but have lurked for forever and am recently out of a long-term relationship, so this place is helping me immensely at the moment!), so I don't think I have a flair and I may format something wrong, but... I like how they manage to turn it towards themselves (and their feelings) as if their marked, changed perception of women and their relationships & acceptance of rape myths (according to another commenter who discussed more …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/04/21 03:41 PM