TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

costwy55 Archive

View 1 posts and 83 comments by costwy55 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
3

costwy55/r/seduction09/08/18 12:47 AM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
-1

Yeah I've seen inside the groups on a friend's account. At least 95% of it is just petty gossip and making fun of dudes, there's almost no safety-related posts at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 11:39 PM
5

Yeah I'm having this issue too. I go out and it's all couples, guys, unattractive girls, 40s plus, etc. I want volume but almost never see anyone even close to what I'm looking for. Kinda frustrating.
/r/seduction04/06/26 06:10 PM
30

Dating apps have made 99% of women think they can get top 1% men. It's crazy how they can't connect the dots on this. Like if you constantly shoot way out of your league, then yeah you might get a hook up occasionally when the guy is drunk/horny/bored, but you're never gonna get a relationship. I swear, these days a girl who's a 5 legit think she has more to offer than a guy who's a 9.
/r/seduction27/05/26 11:04 PM
5

Are you in your 30s? I noticed the apps died for me at like 33/34, I figure it's just the age filters hitting hard when you get to that age.
/r/seduction25/05/26 06:53 PM
1

Coach Kyle and AG Hayden sound like they could be good for you to check out, they've both got a lot of good videos- especially for guys with social anxiety.
/r/seduction25/05/26 03:21 PM
7

Same. Higher quality girls irl too, it's like 5s sending me likes on the apps but 7-8s sending me signals or coming up to chat in person.
/r/seduction12/05/26 01:36 PM
8

Yeah that's what I see when I go out too. It's mostly guys and unattractive girls and couples. If there are any hot girls, they're in a pack of like 9 girls lol. Idk what happened to like 2-3 girls going out together, I used to see that way more just a few years ago.
/r/seduction08/05/26 04:40 PM
1

Since it's a professional job and not like retail or a bar or something, I wouldn't hookup with any coworkers. Best thing you could probably do is like make friends with them, then propose a happy hour or night out where they hopefully bring some of their (non company employee) friends.
/r/seduction30/04/26 04:15 PM
2

That's true. So what do you think is the way around the block- like just fight through it, go against your instincts and approach anyways, and see that it's really not that big a deal?
/r/seduction29/04/26 05:38 PM
1

I'm the same way man, a few years older than you. No problems talking with random dudes or women way older than me who I'm not interested in. But like when it's a girl 21-30 or so all my social skills kinda freeze up and I doubt myself and get shy. I think it's just because we're putting too much importance on the interaction when it's an attractive girl in our desired age range. Like when you're talking with a random dude you're not trying to "get" anything out the interaction, so you're more o…
/r/seduction29/04/26 04:28 PM
45

That's really anywhere on reddit that's male-oriented vs female-oriented. Like AskMen is talking about what hobbies people have, life advice, random troll posts, stuff like that. Then AskWomen is just like "why are men all so terrible??" generic man-hating nonsense.
/r/MensRights29/04/26 02:45 PM
2

Because they think it'll help them get laid (spoiler: it won't lol).
/r/MensRights27/04/26 08:28 PM
5

Nope. But I have been abused, harassed, and stalked before, so I really appreciate you bringing all that back up for me.
/r/MensRights23/04/26 09:40 PM
12

How many times are we gonna try this Yelp for people/"bad guy database" thing? Like AWDTSG, Tea, now this one. It's never going to work. There's no way to stop people from abusing this and putting even more people in danger.
/r/MensRights22/04/26 05:31 PM
2

Yep- "fake it until you make it". And after enough practice "faking it", eventually you won't even have to, you'll just actually feel more confident and outgoing since you've done it before and it turned out fine.
/r/seduction20/04/26 03:19 PM
2

It's why improv comedy classes are always recommended. Those are really helpful for coming up with shit on the fly, bouncing off what other people say, not overthinking, etc.
/r/seduction18/04/26 05:49 PM
3

I feel like observational comment is best at bars- ie that drink looks good, cool shoes, it's busy in here, shit like that.
/r/seduction17/04/26 10:57 PM
1

Well then think about it like going to a place you feel comfortable and that you know well. Your favorite store, restaurant, bar, etc.
/r/seduction16/04/26 11:47 PM
42

Yeah basically comes down to "aura". Like imagine a tall handsome jacked dude walking into a room super awkwardly like he's ashamed to be there. Vs a short average looking guy who struts in like he owns the place.
/r/seduction16/04/26 06:26 PM
4

Yeah I'd think any women who still use these apps/facebook groups are pretty bottom of the barrel. It's trashy behavior honestly.
/r/MensRights10/04/26 11:05 PM
2

Yeah I'd guess in order it'd be like 7's, 6's, 8's, 5's, then 9-10's.
/r/seduction17/03/26 11:55 PM
4

Not just them, even like 7s/8s were pretty easy to get. The apps from like 2016-2022 or so were so easy, now they're all trash lol.
/r/seduction16/03/26 11:56 PM
1

Really no way of knowing unfortunately. But like think about this- do you really care about somebody who unmatched after a date like that? Idk, seems like a kinda petty/rude/unnecessary thing to do. I just hide old convos on hinge, I wouldn't unmatch unless they were super rude or showed up drunk or something.
/r/seduction16/03/26 05:20 PM
3

If you're looking for like 21-27 or so, the easiest place is unfortunately gonna be bars- especially like college bars, busier bars etc. Live music type bars are gonna tend to draw older crowds. Now if you do actual concerts, that could be a good move. Try to find bands that are a pretty gen z fanbase, and there should be a lot of girls around your age there.
/r/seduction06/03/26 10:56 PM
1

Yeah I've come around to the fact that IRL is way better too. Like dating apps that are 75% dudes where your message might not even get seen unless you pay, or real life where the ratio is usually better, and you can just go up to whoever.
/r/seduction05/03/26 07:04 PM
6

Yeah later seems like a shitshow. Plus a lot of the good looking girls will already have gone home or be with guys by then. This seems like a digging through leftovers play lol.
/r/seduction05/02/26 02:49 PM
4

That's pretty common, they'll post guys they haven't met up with yet just to see what the gossip is on him.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 08:49 PM
1

Girls always look older these days for some reason. Idk if it's like makeup or style trends or vaping messing up their skin or what lol. I just subtract 5 years from whatever my first guess at her age is. So if a girl looks like 25, she's probably around 20-21. If she looks 30, she's 24-25, etc.
/r/seduction20/12/25 04:28 PM
2

Yeah you gotta do some scouting work to find the good ones. It's fine to just grab one drink at a place and bounce- or even just walk in and immediately leave if you see it's not the right vibe there lol.
/r/seduction19/09/25 03:57 PM
1

A lot of people (men and women) are just awkward as shit now because of social media addiction and covid lockdowns lol. Especially people younger than like 26-27 or so- any older and they were out of college when covid started, there's a pretty big divide there.
/r/seduction04/09/25 08:22 PM
1

It's also hilarious that their answer to not being able to trust people they met online was to...trust a bunch of random people online who can anonymously post whatever made up or exaggerated stories they want lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 11:50 PM
5

A lot of times it's just one girl who posts a dude, then random first dates from years ago or girls who've never even met him pile on just to talk shit. These groups are pretty trash.
/r/seduction09/08/25 08:06 PM
1

Idk a lot of times the term love bombing isn't used correctly lol. TikTok made a lot of terms like that useless.
/r/seduction31/07/25 04:04 PM
2

Yeah social media has turned "red flag" into "something I didn't like", it's sad. Like red flags should be safety issues, cheating, addictions, etc. But now it's just shit like he doesn't like xyz show, he only wants short term, he ordered wine instead of beer, etc.
/r/seduction26/07/25 11:42 PM
2

You don't want to get involved with someone who uses that app. I wouldn't worry about it.
/r/seduction26/07/25 08:31 PM
19

It's the creepiest, most Black Mirror shit I've ever seen. God knows how pissed they'd be if the genders were reversed in this situation.
/r/MensRights24/07/25 03:01 PM
26

This. If someone is legit dangerous, gossiping wildly about them with random people on some sketchy app doesn't seem like a real great decision.
/r/MensRights23/07/25 10:35 PM
2

Also mass stalking, doxxing, revealing person info without consent, etc. This app seems like a mess.
/r/MensRights23/07/25 02:54 PM
29

And then in 5 years somebody will start another creepy app like this, they never learn lol.
/r/MensRights22/07/25 11:31 PM
11

Then they'd just post random guys from work or the gym or something though. Their need to gossip and get into everybody's business wouldn't magically go away.
/r/MensRights14/07/25 03:19 PM
1

Yeah that sounds like it's just an age filter thing on the apps, if you look the same and dress the same and everything. Same thing happened to me when I hit 34 on Hinge, it dropped hard. I've just shifted more to in person stuff.
/r/seduction26/06/25 11:07 PM
1

Yeah I think people have some weird notion that when you hit 30s you immediately turn hideous lol. Like as long as you keep in shape, dress well, keep your hair, and avoid a lot of wrinkles, you can easily look good well into your 30s or even later.
/r/seduction26/06/25 11:04 PM
1

Could be your age, could be just what's popular in your city, who knows. For me Bumble's the best, then Hinge, then Tinder.
/r/seduction11/06/25 02:48 PM
4

I've been seeing this too in my early 30s, it's so weird. Every bar I go to seems to either be super young early 20s college vibe, or like 45 plus boring cocktail bar. No idea where like 24-38 year olds hang out at.
/r/seduction18/05/25 09:32 PM
1

I like dive bars more because there's usually a lot more mixing and talking to people outside your group. Not like sad depressing actual dive bars, just chill places that are a little divey but also trendy and attract younger crowds.
/r/seduction10/05/25 03:21 PM
8

Yeah I've been doing stuff like this too lately, the dating apps have been slow. Getting there early to scope things out and get comfortable seems smart, you don't want to show up late and everybody's already in conversations. Probably good to wear something kinda memorable too (different shirt pattern or colors other than the usual blue/gray/black/brown). As far as conversation, gotta try to be unique/memorable too. Everybody's gonna do the usual boring "where are you from/where do you work/wha…
/r/seduction03/04/25 04:01 PM
0

Hopefully there's a big tiktok trend soon telling girls to start approaching more. It's weird how they immediately all jump on every single tiktok trend lol.
/r/seduction01/03/25 10:05 PM
16

Exactly. Whenever I've pulled a random girl home it wasn't because I had amazing game or whatever. It's because I started talking to a girl who was already down, and I acted normally and didn't fuck it up lol.
/r/seduction21/02/25 02:59 AM
1

Should just go down the list of US cities by population and mass report each city's group one by one. That'll keep things organized.
/r/MensRights05/06/23 10:01 PM
3

Yeah someone will respond for sure. I think there's just a lot of crazy/bored/drama-addicted girls who want to start shit on there.
/r/MensRights20/05/23 05:43 PM
6

Probably even more than that, I know my area's group is about 20k and has like 60 new posts a day. Might be your time for a bit, then a few minutes later the toxic group moves on to trash the next guy. No way anyone on that group can keep up with and remember all the posts.
/r/MensRights20/05/23 03:22 PM
2

These groups are so toxic and dumb lol. Not sure how girls don't realize how likely it is to lie or exaggerate on these. Plus I don't get how all the gossipy type stuff that they've devolved into keeps people safe at all.
/r/MensRights10/05/23 08:50 PM
2

Yeah I know for the group in my area there's like 50-100 posts a day. You might get ripped on for a bit, then a few minutes later there's a new post and it's on to trash the next poor guy lol.
/r/MensRights10/05/23 08:38 PM
7

That's why these groups are helpful in filtering out toxic girls- anyone halfway decent will have enough sense to not join.
/r/MensRights10/05/23 08:36 PM
1

Agreed, if anything these groups are helpful- I'm cool if the girls in these toxic gossip groups don't want to talk to me lol.
/r/MensRights08/05/23 04:05 PM
3

Were they all real profiles though? If it's a small city, how many model looking dudes that hide inside all day actually exist lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:31 PM
2

Good, doesn't seem like a hard case to win. At the very least, the more legal problems these groups cause, the more likely Facebook is to shut them down.
/r/MensRights23/03/23 11:05 PM
2

Can't find anyone I'm really that into. I go on a few dates a month, almost never feel like texting them for a second date though. I'm also fairly introverted so I don't mind being on my own, which is probably part of it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 02:55 PM
2

Plus turning it into an app (especially one that's not on the app stores) would result in a lot fewer users vs the Facebook groups which are easier to find and join.
/r/MensRights21/03/23 10:16 PM
1

Anyone with half a brain shouldn't go near these groups- the creator is gonna be in a ton of legal trouble, and mods or even members who post might get caught up in lawsuits too.
/r/MensRights21/03/23 10:05 PM
2

Seems like a scam, the groups are in trouble and she wants to make some money before they disappear.
/r/MensRights21/03/23 08:12 PM
2

Sounds like she's panicking and things are falling apart, definitely weird stuff going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:26 PM
2

Yeah I know a lot of sites do that. Seems like they could try it, but at the same time if the site's having legal issues I'd guess Facebook would cut the connection off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:07 PM
11

Seems like a scam to me, she's realizing the Facebook groups might get shut down so she wants to get some money before disappearing. An app or website wouldn't work as well as Facebook since it'd be harder for them to verify it's actually girls joining (vs Facebook where you can see profiles and how old the profiles are). An app or website would also cost more to run per month and would probably be easier to sue or get shut down since it wouldn't be running on Facebook servers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 03:42 PM
1

And TRP was toxic too lol. I'm cool with these groups if it's for actual red flags and warning about dangerous dudes. But if it's just for "he's bad at planning dates" or "we met up once but he didn't text me back", that's pretty pointless.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 03:28 PM
1

Interesting how so many comments were like "he didn't put in the effort, not worth dating". Like that just means he wasn't that into that girl, nothing more than that lol. These groups are toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 03:14 PM
1

Good to report these and raise awareness about how toxic and abusive these groups are. Another idea I had, not sure how possible it is though, would be for guys to get access to these groups and flood them with a lot of misinformation- obviously fake stories, photos, etc. With enough spam and misinformation we could make these groups pretty useless.
/r/MensRights20/03/23 01:15 AM
3

Good, not surprised the person who started those groups is trying to scam people now lol. What a mess.
/r/MensRights16/03/23 09:45 PM
1

I think covid is an easy go-to excuse now for some girls, whereas it used to be work, not feeling well, etc. Flakes are gonna flake in good time and bad, just gotta find ones who aren't flaky.
/r/seduction16/07/20 11:57 PM
1

I'm trying, my state's a hotspot for corona right now so it's tough though.
/r/seduction02/07/20 09:12 PM
2

Good idea. It just seems weird that she asked to hang out last night then never responded, I don't get that.
/r/seduction02/07/20 08:44 PM
2

How does #5 work in the coronavirus age? I'm a little more hesitant to make contact on dates now.
/r/seduction27/05/20 08:45 PM
1

I've had those too lol. I don't know if one or zero texts is worse
/r/seduction26/11/18 03:29 AM
–

Didn't hit ten but went out last night and talked to a couple girls, danced with one for a while. Already feeling a bit back to normal!
/r/seduction08/07/18 10:21 PM
1

Good point, I'd say my game used to be pretty solid. I'm naturally introverted but once I can get a girl one on one i have no problems. Approach anxiety and big groups is usually my struggle points. I've never really gotten blown out by a girl so I know I'll be fine, but I still struggle thinking of an opener and pushing myself at times.
/r/seduction07/07/18 10:43 PM
2

Yeah once in a while I don't let get to me. Just when there's a bunch in a row, then I get paranoid
/r/seduction29/06/18 03:35 AM
–

I've had a fair amount of success just earlier this year and last year with the apps though. I didn't change my photos or bio much, it's weird that the flakes have gone way up.
/r/seduction28/06/18 10:53 PM
1

Yeah I'm kinda done with it for now. I've hooked up with enough randoms, and I've never dated a girl I met out at the bars, so it seems like a waste of time and money at this point.
/r/seduction17/06/18 03:26 PM
–

Idk, I've gone out a lot the past few years. I've met a good amount of girls, but no one that i really wanted to see again. It's fun but kinda empty sometimes.
/r/seduction15/06/18 02:50 AM
1

From bumble
/r/seduction10/09/17 08:59 AM
–

Yeah she called me an hour before and said she'd be there, then actually said she was walking in as I was sitting there. She really worked hard to keep up the illusion
/r/seduction10/09/17 02:38 AM
1

Definitely, I'm not ever talking to her again. Can't excuse that behavior
/r/seduction10/09/17 02:37 AM
–

I like it. Her loss
/r/seduction09/09/17 11:30 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter