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| 2 | [deleted by user]Some women prefer smaller and others prefer larger. | /r/seduction | 16/10/21 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys think women value looks or money more?I work in an intersection of finance and tech. | /r/seduction | 15/10/21 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys think women value looks or money more?Different women will have a different balance based on the type of person she wants. If she wants to stay at home and be cared for, she may have a higher priority on money. If she put a lot of effort into her looks, she may want someone with good looks more than money too. Personally, both are important to me. I need someone I’m sexually attracted to because otherwise…you’re just a friend. I also want someone who makes at least as much money as I do because I’ve been able to have a good career. … | /r/seduction | 14/10/21 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Are bars and clubs REALLY the only place to meet women?I’m sure you can find opportunities or make them for yourself. Ask someone if they’ve been there before and have recommendations or if someone seems stuck on a book you’ve read, mention what you think of it. There aren’t just scripts to follow in these environments. It takes quick thinking, some creativity, and an eye to create the chances to meet people/strike up convo. | /r/seduction | 13/10/21 12:00 PM |
| 3 | Are bars and clubs REALLY the only place to meet women?I was at a coffee shop a few weeks ago and saw someone come in complaining that the last coffee shop had no wifi. I mentioned this was my favorite spot and had good wifi. We ended up chatting and she had just moved here, and I mentioned I was looking for friends and we exchanged numbers. We’ve hung out since and it’s nice to have a new friend. I like to do outdoor activities like skating or riding my bike and I met some people also learning to skate out at the park by me. They invited me to thei… | /r/seduction | 13/10/21 03:28 AM |
| 5 | Are bars and clubs REALLY the only place to meet women?Hobby groups or classes (think cooking, dancing, painting, etc), at social events (maybe someone from work has a house party or an industry networking event happens and you vibe with someone very well or some of your friends know people), and yes, bars and clubs are options too. But I’d recommend the more relaxed bars if you want to actually talk to someone. Ive also managed to make friends by making small talk at coffee shops or with people hanging out at parks. I’m currently in a relationship … | /r/seduction | 12/10/21 11:25 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Depends on how he does it. I like to be an equal partner in my relationships, so I don’t mind steering the wheel and planning a date or taking initiative. A man can put the ball in my court confidently. A man can also make me take the lead in a way that is unattractive as well. It’s really dependent on the guy and the scenario. As far as that saying goes, in my case, it’s true. If I like you, you’ll know and I’ll put in the effort. I don’t hide or play games. The answer to your question is going… | /r/seduction | 27/09/21 01:52 AM |
| 4 | What are your thoughts on a girl approaching a guy?Woman here who would make the first move/approach men that I wanted to pursue. Go for it. You could totally slide into his DMs. You’ve finished nannying now, so likely aren’t seeing him as much. You could say something like, “Hey! Been missing waving to you and seeing ya since I finished nannying for your neighbors :) How’s [insert something you talked about with him] going?” | /r/seduction | 07/09/21 03:38 AM |
| 6 | How to make my boyfriend hot and botheredThere are some helpful YouTube videos, otherwise just practice some things in front of a mirror beforehand and just let yourself have fun. I’m pretty sure he’d just really enjoy it even if it isn’t perfect. | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 08:23 PM |
| 7 | How to make my boyfriend hot and botheredI’m planning to give my man a lap dance next time I see him. Maybe you could try that? | /r/seduction | 27/08/21 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Not pulling in much cash right nowThen I think take a bit of a break from dating to work on that. Self esteem is super crucial in dating. | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 10:28 PM |
| 2 | Not pulling in much cash right nowI guess it sort of depends. Are you not pulling in enough cash to support yourself in a lifestyle you’re happy with as well as enough disposable income to enjoy going out on dates or doing things? If not, you probably wanna focus on feeling more financially stable. If you are able to support yourself and have at least a little disposable income to enjoy a meal out every so often but aren’t pulling in some super high salary, then possible youre in your own way. | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Antidepressants affect vaginal looseness?Anti-depressants can lower a person’s libido or make it more difficult to become turned on or orgasm. In women, if she isn’t physically turned on, she will be “tight.” It can impact people in different ways, so some people are able to be wet but are tight, while others experience dryness and no tightness, and some unlucky few experience both. Just because she physically wasn’t fully turned on (likely not helped via anti depressants) doesn’t mean she isn’t into you. It can just take extra time to… | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Is there an age when it is considered old to approach?People have fake ids that can look relatively real lol, but I guess asking for id is one way of going about it. | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 08:46 PM |
| 1 | Is there an age when it is considered old to approach?Sometimes it is and sometimes it isn’t. Maybe you’re great at it. Who knows. It’s definitely a risk someone could run, especially since I feel like younger snd younger teens are looking much older than their age! | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Is there an age when it is considered old to approach?Never said it was? Just saying not everyone may see it that way. Also if you’re going for super young looking women, you do run the risk of accidentally going for someone underage, which they may or may not disclose and could put you in a sticky situation. | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 11:04 AM |
| 1 | Is there an age when it is considered old to approach?You’re also going off of your experiences, so I can’t see how both of our view points are not valid and can’t both help OP. I’m also the one noting that people could totally see it your way too and not feel creeped out or weirded out and/or it can still work but Im guessing it’s likely gonna be a tad harder. You’re the one acting as if your opinion and experiences are more valid than others… | /r/seduction | 08/07/21 11:03 AM |
| 2 | Is there an age when it is considered old to approach?Aren’t there websites or apps specifically for age gap relationships? I’d feel like there are, which would make it easier to see the people actually interested in that rather than taking a guess. I could be wrong, but I’d assume that would make it better. If you’re going for in person, definitely approaching in a social scene or a place where people are looking to hook up or socialize would be your best bet. A much older man approaching a much younger woman just in the street can come across a l… | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 08:16 PM |
| 3 | Is there an age when it is considered old to approach?I’m not saying you can’t do that, but it’s very possible to get a negative reaction (probably at a higher rate than approaching someone who may be closer to your age). Anyone can approach whoever they want, but I think if you’re going for younger people you may do better either in a social scenario where people may be looking to hook up (ex. like a bar) or online where people can control the age range themselves. I was more so imagining approaching someone way younger in the street or at the sto… | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Is there an age when it is considered old to approach?I literally said in my answer that maybe some other people don’t mind… OP and you can do you or whatever you want, but I personally haven’t usually seen super old men approaching super young women in person working out well. I’ve seen that work out more times when it’s done online. Also, what’s creepy to you and me and someone else may all differ. | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Is there an age when it is considered old to approach?I don’t think there would be an age at which you’d be too old to approach, however you could be far too old for the person you’re approaching. Of course, sometimes you really can’t tell someone’s age, but if you’re 40 going after women who look like they’re freshly 18, you’re probably going to seem creepy. I’ve had a man who was very obviously 50+ approach me when I was 20 (and I have a very young face so could’ve passed for even younger) and that was creepy and weird to me. Maybe some people do… | /r/seduction | 07/07/21 06:25 PM |
| 3 | I've taken out a sabbatical to get a handle on my dating life and social skills. How should I start out?When it comes to the self esteem issues, tendency towards anxiety/depression, and the bouts of hopelessness, those are not just bad in the dating portion of your life, but likely also aren’t the easiest to handle in your day to day life. This is the advice that some people groan and roll their eyes at, but if you have access and the means to get therapy, I’d highly recommend it for these areas. Therapy really helped me improve my self confidence, manage anxiety, etc in my life which in turn impr… | /r/seduction | 13/06/21 01:04 PM |
| 2 | “Do women like muscles?”Again you do you dude lol, glad it worked for you. | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 01:48 AM |
| -1 | “Do women like muscles?”I mean okay, idk where you're getting your stats from, but I'd def love to see because while it may have been that stark a difference 10 years ago, I do think that conventional standards have shifted to bring other types to the front too. Sure, I mean, do what works for you. I never said not to, and I even agreed with the OP. | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 01:38 AM |
| 2 | “Do women like muscles?”Right! I feel like maybe it's a newer thing that ripped dudes aren't the only conventionally attractive type anymore. It turns me off personally. I also go for the skinny type or slight dad-bod look, generally! Good luck in dating :) | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 01:23 AM |
| 1 | “Do women like muscles?”Oh no, of course, I mean, I agree that there is a large group of women who like muscular men. It's one of those types that's considered conventionally attractive thanks to the media. That friend who is pretty muscular himself does great on dating apps, which is why he was shocked when I was like I actually don't find muscular men attractive. I never found those types attractive to me though, and I know of others who don't too, so I wouldn't necessarily say all women feel this way. Isn't there th… | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 01:15 AM |
| 2 | “Do women like muscles?”I have had some friends get pretty big without steroids! My boyfriend isn't muscular, and none of my exes have been either! I guess all I wanna say is that yes, there are women who prefer muscular dudes like the Chris Hemsworths and the Brad Pitss and whatnot, but there are definitely others who don't necessarily find that attractive (me being one of those, and quite a few of my friends too actually!). | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 01:04 AM |
| 2 | “Do women like muscles?”I recently had a conversation with a male friend about this, and he was surprised to hear I'm a woman who doesn't like a guy with a ton of muscles. Super ripped gym bods scare me for some reason, like mad respect you could accomplish that but aaaaaaaa. I'm also just one woman and cannot speak for all. You're right though, there is a standard muscley dude type that seems to be considered conventionally attractive. | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Is it true that most men don't cold approach?Of course! Happy to help. | /r/seduction | 12/04/21 02:18 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that most men don't cold approach?Idk if it's low/high since I haven't frequented bars/clubs any of those weekends -- these approaches happened just in the street or at a local park or at a coffee shop picking up food. These have all happened in less typical social-y scenes. Staring? That's definitely happened a ton. And it's alright! Staring I can deal with for the most part, but cat callers can be kind of scary. Pre-pandemic, if I went out to a bar/club, I could easily end up with like 10+ approaches in one night. I'm sure onc… | /r/seduction | 12/04/21 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that most men don't cold approach?I can speak for the recent month! For context, I'm 23, recently moved to a large city, work full-time Monday to Friday (so I don't get out much then), but spend my weekends out and about (as long as the weather isn't terrible!). In the last four weekends, I have been approached in the manner above approximately 2x per weekend, if I'm remembering correctly. This feels more than it was pre-pandemic, but maybe I'm misremembering/feeling like it's a lot because it has been so long since I've been ou… | /r/seduction | 12/04/21 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that most men don't cold approach?Woman here. In my day to day, most guys just stare. A handful will catcall or make aggressive sexual comments. And then a few will actually come up and talk to me politely. At bars/clubs, way more men will approach and talk, but I think this is because it's not that odd to do that in those environments. | /r/seduction | 12/04/21 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Why does the nude pics and videos of real-life people arouse me much more than those of celebrities and porn-stars?I had a guy friend tell me once that he prefers when he receives a nude from someone rather than porn or celeb nudes because it’s the thought of the fact that that person took the picture thinking of him and sending it to him for him to see — rather than him looking up photos. | /r/seduction | 07/04/21 08:05 PM |
| 3 | Life is great until a woman enters itOof, you’re definitely generalizing that all women are high drama and emotional and throw attitude — as well as your generalization that all women run on emotion and men always have logic. Gonna just ignore that bit. I get that that is your experience with the women you’ve dated and I’m really sorry it’s been detracting to your life rather than additive. While I know not all women are like the ones you are describing, there definitely are a good bunch like that. Maybe it’s more so that you’re do… | /r/seduction | 07/04/21 07:59 PM |
| 1 | How to overcome last minute resistance to sex?She's asking you for time and patience; give her that. And her other phrase sounds like she feels like you may be pushy or that you want in her pants and aren't really caring that the sex is with her. So more time and patience. And it's okay if you don't feel like you can wait longer. Then you would need to tell her that and leave the relationship/casual situationship/fwb. | /r/seduction | 19/01/21 01:47 PM |
| 1 | Got Fired for Mode One Approach (I'm actually scared)Of course, but for your sake, I hope this isn’t a mistake in the process you come to regret due to consequences (as you mentioned, jail time or making it difficult to get another job, etc). | /r/seduction | 08/01/21 06:43 AM |
| 2 | Got Fired for Mode One Approach (I'm actually scared)No offense, but I feel like a little common sense could have told you that telling a coworker/colleague that you would like to have “amazingly hot sex” with her and then completely ignoring how uncomfortable she was would definitely make its way back to HR... Nonetheless, I highly recommend not mixing work and relationships/dating just for a variety of reasons including something like this happening. | /r/seduction | 08/01/21 06:31 AM |
| 3 | Girls that are (or at least seem) out of my leagueTbh, you don’t know if she’s out of your league until you try. You might think you are, but you could be exactly her type. The only way to know is to ask her out. Don’t rule yourself out of someone else’s potentials. | /r/seduction | 03/01/21 07:24 AM |
| 1 | If girls know you have a reputation, does it work against you?Honestly, I think it depends on how attractive the guy is. If he’s super attractive and has a bad reputation that’s known, he may still be able to get women to sleep w them but likely not as easily or not as many. If he isn’t super attractive and with a bad reputation, then yes, it will work against him. I’ve seen both cases which is why I think is dependent on attractiveness. Regardless, it still hurts your chances (at least some) no matter whether you’re the super attractive or not. | /r/seduction | 02/01/21 09:26 AM |
| 2 | (Tinder) I've been getting likes from 7s and 8s daily, and now...I think I read somewhere that sometimes the apps will bucket you into different algorithms which can change up your # of likes dramatically. Also, the apps thrive on you being single, so it’s possible they let you have some likes and then took them away so you think about buying features. | /r/seduction | 02/01/21 06:53 AM |
| 3 | Guys. I think we need to talk about using "pervert" as a deragotary term.The definition of pervert I got from google was (noun) “a person whose sexual behaviour is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.” So yeah, it’s an insult and when used properly, you should feel ashamed for behaving in a sexual manner that makes someone uncomfortable. The kind of person to use it is someone who is dealing with someone who is acting inappropriately (sexually) with them. There might be some women who use the term when it’s not necessary/not appropriate, but if you’re being called … | /r/seduction | 01/01/21 09:25 AM |
| 1 | How to overcome last minute resistance to sex?You can’t heal her trauma for her. If I were you I would talk to her and ask what you could do to help her with the pushing you away w sex thing and whether or not she thinks her assault is why she freezes up. Be kind and caring and empathetic as you talk, and be more of a listener than a talker | /r/seduction | 29/12/20 05:40 PM |
| 2 | How to overcome last minute resistance to sex?It’s possible she just isn’t ready to take next steps with you or maybe she has dealt with sexual assault and this is her natural reaction. It could even be something else — like maybe she is insecure with parts of her body, etc. I think something that could help is talking about this outside of the bedroom. It sounds like the conversations around this have happened in the moment during hooking up. It’s possible that bringing it up in a non sexual interaction and just asking if she wants to talk… | /r/seduction | 29/12/20 11:59 AM |
| 8 | How do you know if a girl is in your leagueWoman here so I might not be super helpful, but I truly don’t think you can know if someone is “in your league” just by looking at them — you might as well try and see. Don’t rule yourself out of someone’s possibilities without even talking to them! I think of that as sort of like cock-blocking yourself. Again, not sure if my perspective is as accurate as a man’s might be in this scenario. I’ve dated someone who everyone thought was way below my league (and they’d tell him I was out of his leagu… | /r/seduction | 25/12/20 09:19 AM |
| 2 | Need help with good pictures for tinderHmmm, you’re spot on on wanting to change up your tinder profile pics if they’re all selfies. All selfies can be a turn off to a lot of people. On dating apps, the photos can have a huge sway for a swipe. You don’t have to be the going out type to get photos. For me, a guy who has a ton of going-out photos is a turn off since I’ll go every so often but not constantly. Also having a ton of going out photos would probably attract someone else who goes out a lot — likely not someone you’d have a co… | /r/seduction | 20/12/20 06:50 PM |
| 7 | how do women pickup men?Women here. I'll approach them and strike up a conversation. If we're at a bar, I'll say something like, "excuse me, have you been here before? I want to get a drink and was wondering if you had any suggestions?" Then you can transition easily into introducing yourself and then a conversation if he's about it. If we're in a public place, I'll comment on something around us or ask if he knows where the nearest xyz is or something to just slide into a conversation and gauge how busy/interested he … | /r/seduction | 18/12/20 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Asking women if they like to be approached?Totally fine with a guy approaching me as long as he is respectful. I know if a random man approaches me (and is not for asking for directions/where to find something/etc) and tries to start a conversation, it's likely because he is interested in me or attracted to me in some way. I have no issue with that, again, as long as it's respectful. You're right that a few weirdos really have ruined being able to talk to strangers/those around you. There are some women who are so scarred from those expe… | /r/seduction | 14/12/20 12:57 PM |
| 5 | How important is it to be able to defend yourself and your partner under the threat of violence?I think it's important to know when it's a battle worth fighting and what the right response should be. I don't think it is something you should be worrying about too much; if you're this concerned about it, maybe think about why you are so worried about it? Are you in a place with a lot of violence? Are you scared of losing your partner? Is this something you've witnessed/experienced? | /r/seduction | 02/12/20 08:49 PM |
| 2 | What are some tactics you guys do to display your value to a woman ?100% agree with you here. Some of the most alluring guys I have met have allowed their accomplishments/cool experiences/quirks/etc all come out naturally at the right time. Their self-assuredness and confidence is very attractive. I tend to meet too many men who try to throw all of their accomplishments at me at once to try to impress me and it just leaves me with a sour taste in my mouth and reeks of desperation/insecurity. Maybe that works for some women, but for me, it just feels too braggy/a… | /r/seduction | 30/11/20 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Any tips on strengthening bonds and avoiding disrespect?don`t talk too much about personal, philosophies and emotional stuff While this is fine when you're first getting to know her, it will eventually get important to talk about personal/emotional stuff. Not all at once like an ocean flood dump type thing, but little by little. It's in those moments where the bonds are built because it shows trust in her and also might make her comfortable sharing deeper things, which will continue to increase the bond. I get what you mean by treating women like you… | /r/seduction | 25/11/20 10:27 PM |
| 9 | The Power of A HaircutYou're very right; I've seen guys I know get a haircut that suits them and they are instantly more attractive! | /r/seduction | 25/11/20 10:19 PM |
| 1 | I'm no longer going to be scared to defend myself or my time. I don't feel any of us should be passive about what we want.I totally respect your desire for a 50/50 dynamic because I've dated so many women that have this entitled attitude where I basically run the entire relationship and their only job is to show up and look pretty. Graaaaah I don't understand how people do this. Like I would feel BAD if I didn't contribute anything to the relationship. Also, it's really fun to surprise your SO with things you know they'd appreciate?! Also, a dual-income household to fund our exciting life as a couple!? It sounds li… | /r/seduction | 22/11/20 03:25 AM |
| 2 | I'm no longer going to be scared to defend myself or my time. I don't feel any of us should be passive about what we want.It’s really unfortunate that they feel this way. No one, regardless of gender, should put up with bullshit from anyone else. Ghosting, flakiness, playing mind games, and disrespect might be common especially in online dating, but that is a huge indication that this person either is an asshat or is unaware of what proper dating/relationships should look like. AKA run the fuck awayyyyyyyy! As a woman, I hate being put on a pedestal and treated like I’m some sort of goddess. It freaks me out becaus… | /r/seduction | 22/11/20 02:14 AM |
| 4 | I'm no longer going to be scared to defend myself or my time. I don't feel any of us should be passive about what we want.I don't get why men think that they have to put up with bullshit from women in the first place. If she isn't a good match or is playing games or is disrespectful, absolutely you should feel no qualms to call her out and hold your own. It's not "needy" to explicitly say what you're looking for, imo. | /r/seduction | 21/11/20 10:26 PM |
| 12 | Quick piece of advice if you’re trying to approach a girlWoman here. Totally agree! | /r/seduction | 19/11/20 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Sex with a virgin who is unexperienced and a non virgin who experiencedIt's a personal preference, but just have to say that your brother's reasoning is biologically incorrect. A virgin is no "tighter" than she would be if she had had sex before; it all bounces back a little bit after sex. Everyone's body has a different size/tightness and that is only really impacted by serious injury or childbirth. Sex doesn't have a lasting effect on the elasticity of a woman's vagina. As a non-virgin woman, I don't necessarily have a preference. Non-virgin guys are cool because… | /r/seduction | 17/11/20 10:59 PM |
| 3 | desensitizationYou put that really well! Def agree w you throughout this thread. | /r/seduction | 16/11/20 11:20 PM |
| 2 | desensitizationI mean, it’s my opinion; doesn’t have to agree w yours and I could be right/wrong. Don’t get mad if I have a different viewpoint here/thought process. You asked for thoughts. I think the other commenter put it better and I agree w what they said. | /r/seduction | 16/11/20 11:16 PM |
| 1 | I was face timing one of my friends and he put this one girl on the camera to say hi and she said she ew to her face and urged him take the camera off her.She’s normally a very confident girl. Why was she acting like this around me?Agreed! I usually think I'm pretty attractive but a terrible camera angle has me cringe at myself -- even if I'm alone and accidentally flipped on the front camera to see me look like an absolute POTATO | /r/seduction | 16/11/20 09:40 PM |
| 3 | desensitizationThey might mean desensitized as in, you become less afraid of rejection and less worried/anxious about approaching. Sounds like it did do just that since your anxiety towards approaching has lessened (and that anxiety usually partly comes from a fear of rejection), but it's increased your anger (which is a different issue). | /r/seduction | 16/11/20 09:28 PM |
| 2 | (Question for girls/womens) Can you "feel" our desire?I guess that’s a way to put it. I can just sense it; it’s almost intuition or something! | /r/seduction | 14/11/20 04:59 PM |
| 2 | (Question for girls/womens) Can you "feel" our desire?I would say yes, usually. I obviously can’t tell you if I’ve been able to feel it every time (bc idk how many times a guy has been interested in me and nearby), but I’d say I think I am pretty good at being able to feel out if someone is interested in me via body language or how they’re behaving. You can also sort of feel when someone is looking at you, so that’s a big indicator as well. | /r/seduction | 14/11/20 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Question for guys about "choice" on today's scene!?Happy cake day! Hm, I'm sorry that therapy hasn't worked for you in the past. I'm wondering if another sort of professional might be able to help you in terms of your dating life...maybe a life coach or a dating coach, specifically? They'd likely be more qualified than those of us on Reddit and might have seen people like you too. I've seen people who turned to life coaches end up getting themselves out of a rut. Could be useful for you. I do read what you write, and I have told you multiple tim… | /r/seduction | 13/11/20 01:31 PM |
| 1 | How many of you guys have sex regularly with women?It sounds like you’re just not having good sex but ok lol | /r/seduction | 12/11/20 04:55 PM |
| 3 | As an average guy, when did you finally start getting girls you considered out of your leauge, and what did you do to achieve that? (Part 2)Look, everyone (men AND women) tend to tie a lot of their self-worth and self-confidence to outside abilities or their worth as determined by societal values (ex. are they pretty enough, do they have a good enough job, etc). But it is self confidence and self worth which can be redefined for yourself. I have done it and others have done it before. You're the one allowing society to tell you what you are and aren't allowed to feel about yourself; sure, it can have an impact on how you see yoursel… | /r/seduction | 10/11/20 12:58 PM |
| 6 | As an average guy, when did you finally start getting girls you considered out of your leauge, and what did you do to achieve that? (Part 2)In a weird way COVID might help you break up what you can do now and what you can do later and help you prioritize. Right now it might be a little hard to get out there to bars and such, depending on where you are, so focus on the things that are easier to change: getting new hobbies and developing a healthier viewpoint of yourself (i.e. confidence, self-esteem). It might seem like a lot, but you got this! Just break it into do-able chunks instead of worrying about everything at once. | /r/seduction | 09/11/20 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Confidence is not an issue for me. My issue is that I have ZERO opportunities to meet peopleThe pandemic has made this more difficult, for sure. Most people have flocked to online dating, so maybe take a dip there to see if you can find any success there. Just because your friends aren't using them doesn't mean you can't. Depending on where you are located (how pandemic-afflicted and how big or small a town) there could still be events going on or outdoor bars happening. Idk who your friends are, but most people around me have dating at a standstill or very much slowed, either of their… | /r/seduction | 09/11/20 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Question for guys about "choice" on today's scene!?I mean, there is always a chance of meeting someone...when you put yourself out there on dating apps or get out and try to meet people. That's the chance I'm talking about; I can't tell you how much that chance is exactly, but it's certainly more than right now. Right now, not doing anything to actively meet people or date means you have 0% chance because a woman will not just show up at your door. I was trying to push you to actually try something, rather than sit back. I have told you it is di… | /r/seduction | 09/11/20 01:36 PM |
| 1 | How many of you guys have sex regularly with women?Not a problem, best of luck dude! | /r/seduction | 08/11/20 07:56 PM |
| 2 | How many of you guys have sex regularly with women?Honestly I think this varies from person to person. Idk if I accurately represent most girls, but I can give you my opinion. I like to jump from topic to topic till we find one we are both super passionate or interested in. This varies from guy to guy, but bonding over something we both agree on is attractive to me and also makes you more relatable/less of a stranger. Sometimes it’s coding, sometimes it’s my absolute dislike of cockroaches, and sometimes it’s a favorite food. Sometimes it’s a si… | /r/seduction | 07/11/20 03:21 PM |
| 3 | Does having a really high standard for men really bad?Hey, I feel that hard. You aren’t alone. I think most guys closer to my age are not yet looking for something serious, whereas I’d like a relationship to eventually end up serious. For this reason I tend to go for guys a (reasonable) bit older. One thing might be the pandemic, depending on where you are. I’ve noticed that most people have flocked to dating apps now out of boredom and not to properly date; I’ve personally taken a break from dating because of this and a lack of opportunity to natu… | /r/seduction | 07/11/20 03:11 PM |
| 6 | Does having a really high standard for men really bad?I've said something about this in another comment, but I'll paste it here! Everyone is allowed to have standards and honestly, it's up to you if it is too much. You just have to understand that the more standards you add, the more you tighten and lessen your dating pool of people who fit the bill, so it might take you longer to find a partner. You have to weigh the importance of having a partner with the importance of having the right partner and decide that balance. I (a woman) too have standar… | /r/seduction | 07/11/20 01:00 AM |
| 2 | How many of you guys have sex regularly with women?I'll approach people myself at bars or in public parks or social events myself. Gotta take it into your own hands sometimes. To seem approachable, I stray from doing things that would mark me as "unapproachable," so no earbuds, not on my phone, not doing work. I'm someone who is very content sitting on a park bench eating a $3 soft serve ice cream cone in a busy area and people watching when I am not busy with the rest of my life, so I often come across as available/approachable. I've also been … | /r/seduction | 06/11/20 01:30 PM |
| 2 | How many of you guys have sex regularly with women?Most women don't approach; it's still not very common. But if you aren't going out often, then you also lessen your chances. I'm taking a break from dating because of COVID and the lack of opportunity to just go out and meet people. | /r/seduction | 06/11/20 01:14 PM |
| 1 | How many of you guys have sex regularly with women?Definitely agree; it gets better over time, especially if both partners are communicating what they like, etc. | /r/seduction | 06/11/20 12:45 AM |
| 3 | How many of you guys have sex regularly with women?It happens more frequently when I'm in bigger cities, but it has happened a handful of times in smaller suburbs. I like to take walks in parks on the weekends, sit and enjoy the weather on a bench in a busy place, hang out in coffee shops, and go grab a drink with myself and people-watch in a bar from time to time, so I get out often. Part of this is because I genuinely like doing these things; another part is because I enjoy meeting people, so I try to make myself seem as open and approachable … | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 11:43 PM |
| 8 | How many of you guys have sex regularly with women?I use a mix of dating apps and approaching people (and people who approach me). I prefer to meet people in person rather than online, but dating apps are just convenient sometimes. Most people who like me also want to have sex with me lol, so usually that is a self selecting group if its online (i.e. the people who swipe right on me). In person, I've approached men and it usually goes well with a phone number exchange and an eventual date; I've also exchanged numbers with some men who approach m… | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 11:37 PM |
| 22 | How many of you guys have sex regularly with women?We women also are horny fuckers, that's why! Sex doesn't get boring after a while because you get better at it with your partner over time. And if it does get boring/routine for whatever reason, you can certainly spice it up with trying something new in the bedroom (...or trying outside the bedroom haha). But yeah, it doesn't get boring if you're both putting effort in! | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 11:23 PM |
| 2 | Texting my crushThere's no right or wrong and texting dynamic varies from person to person. My general rule is, I should be initiating around 50% of the times and my interest should be initiating around 50%. Neither one of us should be too unequal in the amount that we text (ex. one person shouldn't send walls of text to only receive one word answers every time). As long as there's a balance, I think it's fine. You don't want to be overly sparse (which makes you seem uninterested) but you also don't want to be … | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 10:29 PM |
| 3 | I’m lonely asl, I wanna stop that but Idk howIf you need a girl in your life to feel complete, then that's a problem on its own and you need to learn how to manage that. You should never need a girl to solve your happiness; she also will not be the answer to your loneliness/happiness. You should not entirely depend on another human for your happiness, whether you're 14 or 44. Find other ways to resolve that loneliness because right now, girls your age are not going to be good bets for dating, not to mention they likely aren't even that int… | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 10:25 PM |
| 1 | I’m lonely asl, I wanna stop that but Idk howYou're young at 14. Your life has barely begun. Most people aren't having sex at 14 and the extreme horniness at that age is due to puberty, which is normal from what I hear. So I would not focus on finding sex part as much as the loneliness issue. Girls at 14 are also going through weird times because of puberty, social pressures, etc. Some of them might be interested in "dating" but most girls just like the male attention because it can add to their social value as a person among their female … | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Overcomming social flirting shameHm, so sounds like you have the skills to flirt and flirting ability, but for some reason when you're around someone you know, you struggle a bit. Maybe you're worried about them judging you and the fact that they know you makes that judgment sting more than it would if it was a stranger or someone you didn't know. Again, I think practice is the right thing here, especially if you can flirt in other scenarios. Maybe don't go all out at first, but flirt lightly and apply what you use with other w… | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Overcomming social flirting shameUgh, sorry you dealt with bullying growing up. That shit sucks ass. Are you bad at it because you're nervous to approach? Are you bad because you don't know what to say? I would guess that the best way to work on this is to practice. When I had 0 experience flirting, I decided to get good by just meeting people and flirting, and while there were some awkward moments or bumps in the road, I'm now pretty confident approaching and flirting with people. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 08:48 PM |
| 1 | It just doesn't work for meMaybe they were just looking for a hook up or you weren't their type, but regardless, you managed to get them to go out with you and you successfully built enough chemistry/tension and kissed them (and I'm guessing they didn't pull away). That likely means you did something right. You're not going to be everyone's type, but I'd look at these experiences with the glass half full perspective; you did good, keep going. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Should very specific advice even be shared?I think some people may have their little quirks or things that they've gotten good feedback with prior and so have sort perfected their own little unique technique. I don't see the harm in sharing/discussing these things, but know that you may not be able to take that exact thing and pull it off. Maybe ask them how they figured out that this mannerism worked for them so you can catch on to what your unique thing might be. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 07:35 PM |
| 1 | How to date a pickup artist?Where do I say to pressure that person to make a decision that second? It's just bringing up the topic to see where he sees it going and saying "I am not sure yet" is perfectly fine. It's just for both parties to gain clarity on how the other is feeling about how the relationship is going. Maybe he has it in his mind that he 100% wants it to be casual, but OP doesn't know that because he hasn't outright said it. What you're saying is sounding a bit sexist, and I don't like to call things sexist … | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 07:20 PM |
| 1 | How to date a pickup artist?I gave you an example in our comment thread; I'm the same user who gave you the advice. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 04:51 PM |
| 1 | How to date a pickup artist?Uh...I’m a woman and have done this before, multiple times. It’s always worked out well. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 02:55 PM |
| 1 | How to date a pickup artist?I'm also not from the UK lol. I figure in any relationship, regardless of where you're from, having a conversation to see what each person is looking for would be important to ensure you're both looking for the same thing (casual, serious, etc) lol. Good luck! | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 02:15 PM |
| 1 | How to date a pickup artist?Wow, I'm surprised you haven't had this conversation before! Say something like, "Hey, I've been enjoying us spending time together over the last few months and I was curious to know whether you're seeing this as being something casual or something leading to a serious relationship. I just want to make sure we're on the same page here." I personally find communicating and being clear is very helpful in relationships. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 02:03 PM |
| 1 | How to date a pickup artist?You don't have to convince him by talking, but if this guy is currently not looking for a long-term relationship, then you need to know that so you know what you're getting yourself into. That's why I suggested talking to him to see what he is looking for right now, so you know where his mind is at. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 01:53 PM |
| 2 | How to date a pickup artist?If I were you, then talk to him about what he wants from this relationship you guys have. Does he see it as casual or potentially serious? Sounds like you haven't had that conversation at all and it's important to ensure you're on the same page -- pick up artist or not. I wouldn't entirely discredit this guy for being into pick-up and self-improvement. Some dudes on this sub really are here just to improve themselves and aren't necessarily trying to be pick-up artists, so maybe this guy thought … | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 01:36 PM |
| 3 | Is it worth creating competition/jealousy in the first encounter?That would be a complete turn-off to me, at least. It makes you seem distasteful and classless, in my opinion, even if you actually aren't those things. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Question for guys about "choice" on today's scene!?As you mentioned, we have been through this before. I don’t feel the need to explain myself again. You didn’t answer a single one of my questions to you. You’re constantly cynical in all your comments and avoid doing things that might actually help you. | /r/seduction | 05/11/20 11:56 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, does the way he asks you out affect whether or not you're going to see him?I can't speak for every woman on the planet, but yeah, being direct certainly pays off, at least with me and most of my friends. Yeah, honestly, I would just shake this one off. I don't think you did anything wrong here that could have turned her off. I think one is just her feeling odd about the rotation/work aspect of it later on. | /r/seduction | 04/11/20 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, does the way he asks you out affect whether or not you're going to see him?I can empathize with a guy that it can be daunting to ask someone out straightforwardly! I've asked guys out before and it can be very nerve wracking to put yourself out there. If a guy is more like "let's hang out" it's not an immediate "no" from me, but I'm less excited about the date usually. Something about that setting intention thing is mysterious and exciting and makes you seem very confident and interesting. Honestly, setting the intention and being straightforward is very attractive, at… | /r/seduction | 04/11/20 10:28 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, does the way he asks you out affect whether or not you're going to see him?Sounds like maybe she was interested in the moment but had second thoughts and concerns when she got back home (the "conflict of interest" thing). Possible she follows the "don't shit where you eat" rule herself and got caught up in the moment in person, but at home, she realized she'd rather not complicate things. In terms of your final question, yeah, the way a man asks me out tells me a lot about him and what he is looking for. If the guy is more straightforward, then I know he is likely conf… | /r/seduction | 04/11/20 10:12 PM |
| 2 | How to make a girl stop and give you her attention?Cool bro 👍🏽 | /r/seduction | 04/11/20 08:49 PM |
| 2 | How to make a girl stop and give you her attention?Ok | /r/seduction | 04/11/20 08:48 PM |
| 2 | How to make a girl stop and give you her attention?Ok | /r/seduction | 04/11/20 08:47 PM |
| 2 | How to make a girl stop and give you her attention?That’s how life is dude. Good luck. | /r/seduction | 04/11/20 08:44 PM |
| 2 | How to make a girl stop and give you her attention?Uh...I literally said in my post I’ve approached men myself and I never complained about never finding nice guys. In fact, I’ve met some wonderful men, some of whom I have gone on to date. Sometimes people regardless of gender want to be talked to and sometimes not. We (men and women) are humans, not robots. There is no exact manual that describes all of us. You cannot read everyone’s minds. If this is the attitude you approach dating and seduction with, then good luck to you. | /r/seduction | 04/11/20 08:43 PM |
| 2 | How to make a girl stop and give you her attention?It’s not really actually. Sometimes you want to talk to someone and other times you don’t. The only way to know is to approach because you can’t read anyone’s mind. | /r/seduction | 04/11/20 08:36 PM |
| 2 | How to make a girl stop and give you her attention?Sometimes we don’t. And if she doesn’t show interest then leave her be! The suggestions I have are really easy to use to gauge her level of interest in engaging in conversation (either a curt answer or detailed answer) and you can leave without seeming like you had any other intention. I’ve used these lines (tweaked a bit) with men and have gotten excited responses which led to conversation and also times with just quick answers and a “g’day.” But other times I am very happy to be approached and… | /r/seduction | 04/11/20 08:33 PM |
| 5 | How to make a girl stop and give you her attention?If you genuinely thought her top was nice, then was it really inauthentic of you to compliment her on it? You thought it in your mind anyways, so use it as your opener! You shouldn't feel inauthentic for complimenting someone on something you actually thought. I don't know about the asking for the time thing, since I guess I would assume if you want the time, you're likely late or in a rush for something, so you then stopping to chat would be a little odd. I feel like how you're describing it, i… | /r/seduction | 03/11/20 08:36 PM |
| 2 | Is the power/age dynamic too much here? Freshman & Phd studentI feel like she was likely just being nice just from what you're saying here. It's common to say someone "looks better" or "looks good" when they are recovering from an illness, and I wouldn't necessarily take meeting for math as being interested, especially if it's what her PhD is in. I've found PhDs tend to just be very passionate about their subjects and want to share with anyone willing to listen and learn. She was also literally assigned to help you while self-isolating, so she is likely a … | /r/seduction | 03/11/20 08:07 PM |
| 10 | How to make a girl stop and give you her attention?Fully agree with what u/thementalyogi said in their comment here. I'm a woman, and if a man approaches me with "how are you today?" or "are you okay?" or any variation of "you look beautiful today," I am automatically going to assume you are going to be one of those creepy men who follow me around and constantly bug me to get a date or who start off with a pretty decent compliment only to follow it up with "you got a fat ass" or something far nastier. I know that this initial reaction isn't fair… | /r/seduction | 03/11/20 07:59 PM |
| 2 | How to handle someone who is undecided between you and someone else?Sounds like she is at least partially emotionally unavailable. I wouldn't get involved with someone until they knew for certain they wanted to be with me and they were emotionally available. | /r/seduction | 02/11/20 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Are there any resources for “rich guy game?”Are you trying to attract someone who is only attracted to you for your wealth or are you trying to attract someone of a similar wealth status as you? I feel like those two things have different courses of action. | /r/seduction | 02/11/20 09:41 PM |
| 2 | Question for guys about "choice" on today's scene!?Hey, it's you again; I hope you've been well since our last conversations. Instead of analyzing the dating scene over and over, have you made an attempt to try to date and come back with some new information? Your last time on apps and dating you mentioned was years ago, and I'm curious if you've decided to try again and see whether it is the same or different. Have you worked on some of the other things, like trying to make your passion for art some sort of a small business? they either need to… | /r/seduction | 02/11/20 03:00 PM |
| 2 | Would you date a celeb?Woman here. I wouldn't want to date a celebrity. The fame, limelight, etc all come with dating a celebrity, and I don't think I would want my private life in the eye of the media or to have to constantly fight to keep it private. | /r/seduction | 02/11/20 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Why is it so damn difficult to find good women?Hm, I wouldn't relate having a high number of partners as them not being able to control their urges. I would be suspicious if they have cheated prior; however I don't think a number alone is enough to make that judgment. You're entitled to your opinion but wanted to share mine. So I'm 23, but I have had 2 relationships (one of the numbers you mentioned) where one of those relationships was over 2.5 years and another one of those relationships was 9 months. I'd consider both of those longer-term… | /r/seduction | 29/10/20 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Why is it so damn difficult to find good women?What are you looking for in a woman? What is a must-have and what is a nice-to-have? With every "must-have" you add, the smaller your pool of viable people becomes. If the # of guys she has slept with must be below a certain number or the # of relationships she has been must be below a certain number, you might be making it harder to find people. There is no issue with having some must-haves, but think about how that lessens your pool. I'm 23 and would consider an LTR with a guy who was 27/28, s… | /r/seduction | 29/10/20 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Tinder preformance changes depending on location?This is the case with most dating apps! They can be very location dependent. I would say this is because different places have different cultures or nuances (even within the same country or state!), so the types of people you will find both physically and/or personality/mentality-wise will differ. | /r/seduction | 29/10/20 01:16 PM |
| 3 | What signs do women show that they want you to make a move?Ofc! It can literally just mean she is cold if you’re outside haha. But it’s a common used example to give an idea of closed off body language, which is why I gave it. Yeah, no one should use crossed arms solely to determine if someone doesn’t like them. This list isn’t any sort of guarantee she likes you nor is it exhaustive! It’s just things I’ve heard or learned about and seen my friends and I do. | /r/seduction | 29/10/20 10:41 AM |
| 6 | How to properly give a complimentI'll add that the timing and type of compliment you give can also make a difference in how it's received/its sincerity. I'm a woman and I'm speaking from my personal perspective (and so cannot speak for all women). If you don't really know me and you compliment my appearance or my outfit, I'll say thank you and be appreciative of it for sure. You can sincerely mean that sort of thing without really knowing me. If you barely know me and try to give me some deep compliment about my intellect or my… | /r/seduction | 28/10/20 07:37 PM |
| 10 | Why do girls always catch me offguard? It's like every girl that has flirted with me has done so when I least expected itNot sure, but maybe you're more relaxed when you aren't actively looking for anything so you're more approachable/less scary to flirt with? | /r/seduction | 28/10/20 02:33 PM |
| 3 | What is your energy?People are drawn to people who are self-assured, at least I am, for sure. I'll also say that sometimes we think we are good at hiding lack of self-confidence/negative thoughts about ourselves/etc, but sometimes it is blatantly obvious to those around us based on the energy we give off. You don't have to say it aloud for people to feel it. Basically, I agree with you here. I've gone on dates with men where I've been able to just sense some "negative energy" throughout the date even though at firs… | /r/seduction | 28/10/20 02:23 PM |
| 50 | What signs do women show that they want you to make a move?Every girl is different: some are forward and clear, others are more subtle and difficult to read. But here are some classic ones I know of: Open body language: facing you, leaning towards you, not closed off (ex. arms crossed) Mirroring: if you like someone, you might subconsciously mirror their stance/body language, so if you're sitting together and you adjust your arm or change your position and they do a little bit later, that's a sign they could be interested Eye contact: might not be so ac… | /r/seduction | 28/10/20 02:07 PM |
| 2 | How to stop seeing approaching women as degrading?Approaching a person opens the window for opportunity. If neither person approaches, it is a lost opportunity. You're going after what you want. In terms of the judging thing, I believe you should also be judging her just as much as she is judging you. You actually did make some initial judgment since you decided to approach her. The only reason why she is "now the judge" and you are "to be judged" is because you've already made an initial judgment. At the same time, I think you should continue … | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 09:05 PM |
| 11 | Any tips for girls?I'm a girl and honestly the thing that helped me the most was practice. I used to be super shy and awkward, but at 18, I decided I would put myself out there and be confident enough to be the girl to make the first move on a guy. I was in Europe at the time, so I went to pubs and bars and met people. Of course, sometimes my flirting was awkward, but hey, it's fine! Over time, I figured out what worked and what didn't for me, and now I always approach if I find someone attractive. I've become too… | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 12:22 PM |
| 6 | 10 Simple Lines to Introduce Flirting and Teasing1: Mmmm, I think it might be more on the timing honestly. Whenever I've had these lines used on me it felt too soon. Maybe I'm weird, but if a dude said something like "I think I just fell in love" or "I may have to marry you now" too early it either reminds me of cringe teenage romance movies or I worry this guy is way too into me without really knowing me which scares me. I've had a guy become scarily obsessive after one date before so maybe that has made me super wary/become uncomfortable whe… | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 12:04 PM |
| 1 | Do you feel like when you give them too much attention they pull back?RIGHT idk what it is but I get very sus >___> | /r/seduction | 27/10/20 02:47 AM |
| 217 | 10 Simple Lines to Introduce Flirting and Teasing"I think I just fell in love." or "I might fall in love if you say that." or "I may have to marry you now." I agree with all your lines except this one. I'm a woman and I've had this used on me. Maybe it was used too early or too soon, but I find it either really cringe-y or weird if someone says things like this to me. I think it might stick better if used once we really got to know each other or if there is already an establishment of liking each other, but I personally find this one to not wo… | /r/seduction | 26/10/20 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Do you feel like when you give them too much attention they pull back?No, I don't expect the guy to ask me out on the first few dates. I might be in the less common category here, but I've asked out pretty much every guy I've been on a date with -- or at least split the effort in planning the date if he initiates. Would it be nice to be swept off my feet every date? Sure, but I'm looking for a partner to support me and for me to support, not to star in a Disney film. Of course, I do love to spoil my partner once we are together and occasionally plan those romantic… | /r/seduction | 26/10/20 06:48 PM |
| 2 | She gave her fb and insta instead of numberIt's possible she is uncomfortable giving you her number so soon. Sometimes people feel like it's safer to give Instagram or FB than a phone number. | /r/seduction | 26/10/20 04:39 PM |
| 6 | Can cologne really add to a woman’s attraction to you?I'm a woman and if a guy smells nice, it's a huge turn on for me. As other commenters have said, don't overdo it, but a light cologne can really turn me on. If you want a suggestion, most guys I've hooked up with or dated have worn Armani's Acqua di Gio. I (apparently) love that one! I didn't even realize it was that particular scent that may have drawn me to them at least a bit until it happened a few times. | /r/seduction | 26/10/20 03:51 PM |
| 32 | Do you feel like when you give them too much attention they pull back?Don't know how helpful this is since I'm a woman and you're asking about a dude, but I really don't like it when someone gives me a ton of attention at the beginning and it's overflow. I don't want to be put on a pedestal; my ideal relationship is 50/50 effort. Not to mention, someone treating me like I'm some sort of goddess puts me in a place where I feel uncomfortable because well, I'm not perfect and am not any sort of perfect goddess. I know my worth and I'm confident in myself, but when so… | /r/seduction | 26/10/20 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Big Thanks to this SubCongratulations!! Remember, while you did receive support from the sub, YOU also did this. That's a big feat. If you ever start to feel down about dating or anything, let this be an example and reminder that you can accomplish what you put your mind to! | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 06:50 PM |
| 2 | My girl broke things off with me this week over some simple things she said this to me. What would you do?I guess it depends on what you want to do/your end goal with this, but I'd just say okay and start to move on from her. When she comes back and is ready to be friends (if she ever is), then remember you have the right to not want contact from her and to not want to be friends with her for whatever reason. | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 06:48 PM |
| 1 | I feel like every guy is better than me and i wish i had their personality.Well, if you won't go and say 'hello' to people, why should they say hello to you? Why wouldn't they have the same mindset as you of, "I'm not going to say hello to anyone but I should be entitled to people saying hello to me"? If you go into social interaction feeling like people are your enemy, you may subconsciously or unconsciously give off that vibe to people around you, which certainly won't help in creating friends or relationships. Good you're working on some goals; keep that up. And goo… | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 06:35 PM |
| 2 | I feel like every guy is better than me and i wish i had their personality.I know it sucks you aren't in the bigger city you're planning to go to yet, but you can certainly still set goals for yourself. They don't have to be huge. Do you want to work out more? Start a new hobby like running or painting/drawing or biking or singing? Have you been wanting to clean out your closet and belongings? Or maybe you have been wanting to start to eat healthier. These are all things you should be able to try to do regardless of whether you're in a big city or small village. You sh… | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 06:08 PM |
| 2 | I feel like every guy is better than me and i wish i had their personality.Glad you've got a plan in place! I think you'll thrive a bit more in a more open environment where you aren't worried about consequences of just a text; not to mention, you might even meet more open-minded people who you could get along with better. It's a tough thing to redefine self-worth. It's taken me quite a bit of time to rewire my brain. A mix of therapy and introspection on my own has helped a lot. Maybe make a list of the things about yourself that you're proud of. Another list of goals… | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 05:18 PM |
| 2 | I feel like every guy is better than me and i wish i had their personality.If you're in a place where dating is not allowed and you could face bad consequences, I'd say the first thing to do is plan how you can leave, if that is something you're interested in doing. Only talking to people online can make it hard to feel a human connection with someone. It's why sometimes people on the internet can be so mean to others because it's hard to visualize/remember there's another person on the other side of the screen. Maybe you're feeling disconnected to the girls you're tal… | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 03:33 PM |
| 6 | Why does cold approaching feels frowned upon when it was practiced by previous generations and meeting girls in bars and online dating is similar to it?So there are certain scenarios with cold approaching that might not work. If you approach her at night while it’s dark on an empty street, it probably won’t go well for you and you’d likely make her uncomfortable. If she’s on the phone, you likely shouldn’t try to get her attention. If she is clearly busy then also it might be off putting to her that you’re distracting her. Cold approaching works most successfully at those social places where people meet people because they’re more open and prep… | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 11:27 AM |
| 1 | I've got a girl coming over later, what do I do?I second all this! Also if you all haven’t already established physical intimacy, I’m assuming you all will hang out a bit before hooking up or making any moves. It could be helpful if you have a few options for what to do or to suggest to her (ex. having some drinks and chatting/wine night vibes, have a few movies off of the top of your head that could be good, card/board games too could be fun). Good luck :) | /r/seduction | 09/10/20 01:23 AM |
| 2 | Different personalitiesEveryone is a bit different around different people! Changing how you naturally act around others takes willpower and conscious effort. You can't expect to be the exact same around everyone because everyone else's dynamics also impact how you determine is best to socialize. Making a conscious effort to be more open and fun with your friends will certainly help! It might feel weird at first, but eventually it could become your new norm around them. I'm drastically different in front of my parents… | /r/seduction | 08/10/20 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Does being sleep deprived improve your game with women?I can't see why it would. Being sleep deprived will likely cause you to look tired, not be as present or focused on conversation/interaction, not put as much effort into dressing up, and most importantly, likely affect your mood in a negative way. People can pick up on negative vibes, which can be a decent deterrent. | /r/seduction | 08/10/20 01:04 PM |
| 1 | Do hobbies only carry some weight if you are very good at it?I am a woman in her 20s and don't care how good or bad you are at your hobbies as long as you genuinely love them and are passionate about them and are willing to teach me about them. Hobbies can be just for fun and things you enjoy; not some crazy rat race where it's only meaningful and you're only fulfilled if you win. | /r/seduction | 08/10/20 12:55 PM |
| 1 | Venting: Am I(29M) a terrible person for not wanting to skype date and text endlessly during the pandemic?You aren't a terrible person for not wanting to skype and text endlessly during a pandemic; this is not how dating usually is and you're right to be frustrated. I 100% did not want to get stuck in that cycle too as a woman, so, I simply just stopped dating for a bit. I don't see myself meeting people properly or in a fun way that I expect dating to be right now given the pandemic and distancing protocols, etc. Additionally a good handful of people have also decided to not try to date right now w… | /r/seduction | 08/10/20 12:52 PM |
| 28 | I did a cold approach for the first timeI just want to stop by and say, good job! Rejection comes with approaching and hell, approaching is frickin’ nerve wracking and YOU did it! I know it didn’t end up with the outcome you want, but even just trying for the first time is a huge thing to have done and you should give yourself a pat on the back for doing it since a lot of people are terrified to do what you just did. | /r/seduction | 08/10/20 01:32 AM |
| 9 | Is prolonged eye contact something that gets overlooked?Good eye contact is super sexy and honestly a subtle but still firm way to up the tension. I've used it on others and had it used on me with great results! | /r/seduction | 08/10/20 12:37 AM |
| 1 | enlinghting on text meaningIf you aren't interested in dating this girl, who cares what she means? | /r/seduction | 08/10/20 12:34 AM |
| 6 | how to change her mindYou cannot change her mind, nor should you try. Why do you want to be with someone who currently does not want to be with you and that you have to convince to be with you? She knows you're interested; she'll come to you when she is ready. Maybe she genuinely is not in a mindset to date right now, given she has shown you positive signs but has point blank told you she is not trying to date right now. | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 07:41 PM |
| 3 | How can I deal with loneliness?Sounds like you're doing good trying to focus on your goals and practice gratitude. I'll note to make sure you genuinely are excited about your goals. For me, I have my goals divided into career/academic goals/goals that are more towards my general success and I had goals that are just things I want to do for fun for myself. I make sure I'm working on both at the same time. For example, my current career goal is to get to six months and produce my first project (since I just started working not … | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 07:40 PM |
| 1 | So who here had a successful history with one night stands? Can you do a play-by-play?Yay, glad to help :) | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Do you guys approach when girl's wearing sweats?Wearing sweats doesn't necessarily mean "don't approach me!" It's a bit more than that. I think it's more her overall vibe and body language. Some universal things that say, "Don't talk to me!," are wearing earbuds/headphones, moving quickly/clearly busy, and reading a book/deep into work. If she is acting closed off or just feels very unapproachable, it could be purposeful. | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 05:58 PM |
| 2 | So who here had a successful history with one night stands? Can you do a play-by-play?Not a dude, but I have had a good share of one night stands. The way they usually go is this: One of us approaches the other, either commenting on something like the party/event or a compliment, OR if we are at a club, we start dancing together naturally and then start a conversation If in a loud place, we move off to a place where we can talk a bit and hear each other. Usually accompanied with grabbing a drink or some food and finding the corner where we can speak Flirt for a bit; the timeline … | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 05:49 PM |
| 6 | Any good resources for how to actually be good in the bedroom?Everyone likes different things. I think that some of my best times in the bedroom were ones where we were both listening to each other and what the other wanted. I personally love giving, so for me it was really key to know what my partner liked and wanted so I could pleasure him as best as possible. What things my partner likes has varied from partner to partner! There isn't a secret recipe that tells you to do this, that, and the other and boom, great night in bed. I think the best thing you … | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 05:34 PM |
| 7 | What topics should you talk about with a girl?Definitely this too! I have had some wonderful video chats when it's been tough to meet up :) even over video chat it is much easier and more fun to get to know someone than over text! | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 05:09 PM |
| 19 | What topics should you talk about with a girl?I think it can be tough to make it seem less random over text, which it sounds like you were talking on. I personally prefer to limit text conversations and have more conversations in person; like I'm happy to talk about our days and basic things about you and planning when to hang out, but I think the real getting-to-know-you part is way more fun and better left for in person. | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 04:51 PM |
| 51 | What topics should you talk about with a girl?Yeah, basically! That is how getting to know someone is, you sort of flit from conversation topic to conversation topic, take each topic down as far as you can, then resurface and start a new topic. You definitely could talk about COVID screwed up plans and then be like, "So, by the way, speaking of COVID messing everything up, what restaurant have you been dying to go back to when it opens?" and then talk about food. If there's a pause in the conversation, you can totally just jump to the next … | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 04:15 PM |
| 6 | "You are not a couple, it's just your turn" How true is it with respect to women?That's not what I am saying. I'm saying different people want different things at different times. I also literally said it is less age-dependent and more dependent on the individual person. I (23f) have hooked up with men in their late 20s (28/29) and even early 30s (30/31). As people get older they tend to want more stability and more serious relationships, but it is certainly not true of everyone. I have met those who want to date seriously at your age and plenty who don't. | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 02:07 PM |
| 2 | "You are not a couple, it's just your turn" How true is it with respect to women?Well, definitely teens and probably early 20s, but honestly it depends from person to person. Different people mature at different times, and different people experience different relationships at different times, and generally, people are different, so it is hard to give you an exact number. I have met people in their earlier 20s who are sure of what they want in a partner and are able to commit, etc. I have also met 30-year-old men who are unable to do that. It's less age-dependent than it is … | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 01:56 PM |
| 2 | "You are not a couple, it's just your turn" How true is it with respect to women?Hook-up culture does tend to be more prevalent among young people (young men AND young women) since they aren't necessarily thinking about settling down at that point and also just want to explore. Women can be satisfied and are not necessarily always looking for a better guy than whoever she has at the moment. I think that women who do this tend to be on the younger side and also tend not to know what they want or value in a partner quite yet. Maybe they feel they haven't dated enough people, o… | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 01:24 PM |
| 302 | What topics should you talk about with a girl?Some good starter topics are: Favorites (food, places, hobbies, things to do, etc) Experiences (about school, vacations, craziest experience she has had, most unique experience, etc) Preferences (dog or cat person, beach or mountain person, this or that type questions) Let the conversation flow naturally and if a starter topic leads down into a more deep topic, then go with it. These are just sort of meant to spark convo. In terms of being funny, most people have their own sense of humor. You ca… | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone ever seen "low-value" guy with cool woman?I'm sorry you lost your reply. Sucks when that happens. With a man, it means you'll be a dateless virgin indefinitely, perhaps for an entire life. And I said you still did not appear to fully grasp this difference, which was disappointing. I actually did talk about it above in a paragraph: "Sure, in general, society perceives a valuable person to be someone who is neurotypical, has a very good career, is extremely attractive, is wealthy, has hobbies, etc. Then tell me, why the majority of people… | /r/seduction | 06/10/20 12:39 PM |
| 2 | I feel like nothing I say is actually Interesting. What can I do to be better?If this is based on your own perception of you, it's because you're comparing yourself to you and what you know of yourself. I think some of the things I have done and accomplished are minuscule while others are shocked at my accomplishments. We tend to be harder on ourselves than anyone else, so remember that. I think by seeming confident and positive, as well as presenting yourself in a self-assured, content manner can help make you be someone who people find interesting! | /r/seduction | 02/10/20 01:59 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone ever seen "low-value" guy with cool woman?I feel you don't take my doubts seriously. And those doubts are based in the way society perceives a valuable man, and the objective truth of myself not being remotely like that. This is not about therapy to fix my self-worth at this point, it's about what I actually have. I am taking your doubts seriously. You know that you have a tougher hand of cards to play the dating game with; I know that too and have told you before -- it is not going to be easy for someone like you. I have never said it … | /r/seduction | 02/10/20 12:45 PM |
| 3 | What’s a good way to approach a girl that is with a friend of hers?I've had men do this with their business cards so it's sort of the same idea; I'm guessing you don't have a business card lol hence suggested paper. With COVID, idk if you want to try to approach in-person because people are more paranoid these days with their 6ft bubble. And online classes, well, idk how you could approach that way. I found dating apps to be really successful while in college because of the close proximity of everyone; I wouldn't be surprised if there are a lot more students on… | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 04:19 PM |
| 4 | What’s a good way to approach a girl that is with a friend of hers?I think a good way to politely approach someone who may be in the middle of something or talking to someone else is to have a paper with your number or contact info on it, and to stop her and say something like, "Excuse me, I'm so sorry to interrupt, but I noticed you from over there and wanted to ask if you'd like to grab a cup of coffee or meal sometime. Here's my number if you're interested. I've got to get to class now, but take care!" Something like that is non-threatening, quick, and smoot… | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Fake wedding ring improve attention from women?I would not hit on a man with a ring on his wedding ring finger, even if just for a one night stand. If he is hot, I'd just be like, "damn good for whoever his partner is" and move on. It just feels icky and disrespectful to hit on someone who is clearly in a relationship. | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 01:24 PM |
| 6 | So how do you deal with dry texts?If she seems interested over facetime/in-person, then likely she's just someone who sucks at texting (honestly, don't ask me how, I don't get it, but some people are bad texters). Maybe try to stick to Facetimes or meeting in person if your conversation flows better there. Maybe she just doesn't like texting for whatever reason. You could also lightly tease her about it if there's a good moment to mention and see if she explains. Or you could just ask her if she dislikes texting. | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 01:21 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone ever seen "low-value" guy with cool woman?A shy/timid guy can have hook ups and FWBs. A more social butterfly guy can have hook ups and FWBs. Both can also date. I don't find blanket statements about these different kinds of men super helpful because every case is different. Regardless of what kind of relationship you're after (hook-up,FWB, relationship) a bit of social interaction is required. For hook-ups/FWB, you need to be able to interact enough to get to the stage of a hook-up. For a relationship you consistently need to be able t… | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:26 PM |
| 1 | After closing date 1 with a kiss goodnight, how do you approach the beginning of date 2?Depends on the girl and the date and the vibes. If the kiss the previous night was more cute/shy/quick, I’d opt for a warm hug. Tbh probably start with a warm hug and if the girl doesn’t entirely let go of the embrace or lingers close you can go in for another kiss. Just try and sense out the body language to get her comfort level! | /r/seduction | 29/09/20 12:00 AM |
| 1 | What’s the best place for first date with having little to no money?Of course! Happy dating (: | /r/seduction | 26/09/20 12:58 AM |
| 7 | Can I hear people’s experience with what happened after they got lean and fitIf you want to lose weight then do it for you and not for women because none of us on Reddit can really guarantee that losing weight == more success with women for you. I’ve seen stories on reddit where it really helped the person and other stories where they were frustrated there wasn’t some sort of immediate difference or any difference in dating at all for them. The only way for you to know how it will impact your dating life is to do it! | /r/seduction | 26/09/20 12:56 AM |
| 6 | What’s the best place for first date with having little to no money?I’m a girl and prefer dates that are cheap/don’t require either party to pay much so that the focus is on getting to know each other. Walk & talk dates are my favorite. Whether it’s walking around a local park or the city or a free sight seeing place like a zoo or national park, they are really fun and care free. Additionally, other cheap date ideas include: grabbing coffee, grabbing ice cream, hiking, picnic, biking (especially if you both have your own bikes), or take a free class together (so… | /r/seduction | 26/09/20 12:53 AM |
| 1 | Is it fine for someone who is already taken (has a spouse/SO) to still get attracted to other person?Of course, we’re human. Once you start dating someone it doesn’t automatically adjust in your brain that only your partner is attractive to you. It’s totally possible to find other people attractive while in a relationship. As long as you don’t ACT on it while you’re exclusive with someone, you’re fine. Hey, I’ve definitely checked out people (both guys and girls) with ex-boyfriends before hahaha | /r/seduction | 26/09/20 12:47 AM |
| 6 | Serious question, are emotional needs real? Does that go against being attractive and non-needy?Everyone has needs; that doesn't make you "needy" in a negative sense. These are important and you and your partner should be able to satisfy each other's needs -- and often times, that requires good communication about what your needs are. If one partner's needs are not satisfied and then subsequently not addressed, the relationship will likely crumble. In my opinion, I see the negative "needy" as something that can fluctuate based on who is defining it. To some people, it may be "needy" to hav… | /r/seduction | 24/09/20 12:49 PM |
| 1 | Can the girl be interested in you if she doesn’t check you out?I think starting a conversation is much, much better. The way you gave as an example firstly, feels rushed, and also if you were interested in me I would hope that you would want to actually talk to me, too. It's also just a bit awkward to jump from introduction to "can I have your [insert way to contact person here]." You're also still a whole stranger to me after that interaction and I wouldn't go around handing out my number or social media to random people; even just a 10-15 minute conversat… | /r/seduction | 23/09/20 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Can the girl be interested in you if she doesn’t check you out?Of course you'll screw up; you're just starting out and approaching people can be daunting. As long as you're respectful and kind, and take a rejection with grace, you'll end up alright. All it takes is one successful approach! I tend to be really forgiving if a guy approaches me and he's clearly nervous. At least he tried! And everyone gets nervous, I shouldn't ding him on that alone. The first guy I talked about was overwhelmingly obnoxious/arrogant/ignorant within the first 5 minutes of conve… | /r/seduction | 23/09/20 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Game in bars (How can I improve)Not sure about either of the scenarios, but wanted to pop in and say your friend who told you comp sci majors don't pull is stereotyping completely based off of the stereotype of programmers being awkward and shy dudes. He sounds like he is putting you down and you shouldn't let him. Firstly, your major shouldn't really affect your ability to pick up someone, and secondly, I'm a girl who has somehow almost exclusively found herself with people who studied computer science or are software enginee… | /r/seduction | 23/09/20 03:20 PM |
| 9 | How to avoid Introvert Burnout?I think there's ups and downs with dating. Sometimes you're super confident and excited, and other times you're exhausted. I consider myself to be an ambivert, leaning more towards extroverted, and boy, sometimes I get sick and tired of people, too. When you're exhausted, take a break and allow yourself to recharge; if you try to approach while you're burned out, that negative/tired energy may come across in your approach, leading to less chance of success, continuing the cycle. That break will … | /r/seduction | 23/09/20 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Can the girl be interested in you if she doesn’t check you out?She could have literally just not seen you and therefore did not check you out/even know you existed. The only way to really know is to approach her/talk to her. There's also a lot you can't tell about someone until you're talking to them; you get a better idea of how they carry themself, how hygienic they are, their sense of humor, if they smell nice, their sense of style, how they speak, etc. These are all can be very important in attraction. I had a really physically attractive guy approach m… | /r/seduction | 23/09/20 03:10 PM |
| 3 | PUSH ME TO COLD APPROACH again(3 fails)There’s hundreds of thousands of girls in the world and you only had 3 fails? Three is nothing! You got this, plenty more gals to talk to :) (Not necessarily a tip but hopefully a bit of encouragement!) | /r/seduction | 22/09/20 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Is 27 too old to start?Better late than never, is how the saying goes, so I'd say go for it if you want to! | /r/seduction | 21/09/20 03:02 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone ever seen "low-value" guy with cool woman?assume a guy you were "half-interested" in at a glance, turned out (once you knew him better) to be painfully shy and lacked interest in social mores and all that jazz. Would that exclude him from anything besides platonic? In terms of a relationship, it could potentially exclude him. I would likely be less interested in them, but it may not be a dealbreaker depending on how that introvertedness showed itself/affected our relationship. I can't just say yes right away without seeing how their shy… | /r/seduction | 21/09/20 01:23 PM |
| 79 | Asked a girl out...she said no in a nice way but continues to talk to me and snap meIf she is simply being friendly because you all were friends prior and she’s basically just treating you like always, then I think it’s fine to respond etc. If she’s being clearly flirty, I’d say call her out on it politely and say you respect she isn’t interested in dating but you’d appreciate if she wouldn’t blatantly flirt. If it’s all friendly but different than your communication levels prior, then I think it’s your call whether to continue talking or not. You can be polite and not really c… | /r/seduction | 21/09/20 01:57 AM |
| 2 | Why do I struggle to get an erection when it matters most?I think sometimes guys get performance anxiety or overwhelmed and when you’re anxious it’s hard to get your body to cooperate. So yeah, I’d bet it’s nerves. I’ve had guys have performance anxiety around me and I’m pretty understanding about it, if that’s partly a concern for you. I don’t think much about it and hey, you can’t be perfect all the time. I’m not a dude so can’t really tell you what works, but I’d guess getting more comfortable with the girl so your body can do it’s job might help? | /r/seduction | 20/09/20 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Guys don’t forget, the girl also has to attract you.only if u teach me about sports because unfortunately I don’t know much about most sports 😅 | /r/seduction | 20/09/20 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Guys don’t forget, the girl also has to attract you.Oh yeah, I commented saying that as a woman I agree! And that likely there are other women who think like me, too, so don’t let a few who aren’t serious about you or into you enough to treat you fairly through the dating process scare you away entirely from dating :) | /r/seduction | 20/09/20 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Mens' biggest advantageIf I look at my past partners (both relationship and hook-ups), there are very few physical characteristics that stay the same. They've been of different races, different heights, different builds (ranging from skinny/scrawny to slightly chubby), etc, etc, etc. Personality/other characteristics? Sure, there are some similarities that seem to be the same among them. For some reason (not consciously), I've always ended up with guys who studied/work in STEM fields and everyone I've properly dated (… | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Mens' biggest advantageI don't pay attention to celebrities/celebrity news at all, so I don't have a "celeb crush." | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 08:41 PM |
| 35 | Guys don’t forget, the girl also has to attract you.I'm a woman and I don't want to date a man who just ended up with me because I happened to be the first girl to find him attractive at the right time and he took what he could get. I want my partner to also choose me and evaluate me and be attracted to me (physically AND mentally) and decide I'm a good fit for him, just like I did with him. I want to be able to flirt and attract him too, because that's part of the fun of dating. I feel like that'll lead to be a better relationship long term, sin… | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Mens' biggest advantageIt's kind of hard to list because sometimes I don't realize I find something attractive until I see it on the right person. Physically, I tend to prefer guys who are a bit taller than me (I'm 5'6", so probably 5'9" and up?), clean-shaven (I don't usually find facial hair attractive, but that's just me), and in-shape (they don't have to be athletic or muscular or anything, just at a healthy weight for them). I can't really give too many specifics because sometimes I can't put a finger on what mak… | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Mens' biggest advantageWell, there’s a lot of layers to being attractive and different ways to be attractive imo. There’s physically attractive and mentally attractive (like personality); are you asking about both or one of those types? | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Girls have gotta take their shot more often, and handle rejection like WOMEN.lol I feel like I’m being interviewed. If I’m approaching someone it’s usually instinctual, but if you’re talking in general I can fall for someone after a bit of a thought process if it’s more of meeting through being in similar friend circles etc. Yes, I’ve initiated contact first. Yes, I’ve made the first move in kissing before. | /r/seduction | 19/09/20 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Mens' biggest advantageExactly! It's hard to tell what's scary or not for people, which is why I prefaced my comments with the fact that I can't speak for everyone. | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 08:34 PM |
| 6 | Mens' biggest advantageI think everyone is afraid of rejection and most people think of the worst case scenario -- which is a humiliating rejection in public. It was scary to approach and I really had to jump out of my comfort zone to do so. From a woman's perspective (again can't speak for all but some), you're usually approaching someone who is physically larger than you and that can be scary when not knowing the person or their demeanor. Also, societal standards say that the norm is for men to approach so you're al… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 08:01 PM |
| 6 | Mens' biggest advantageI think in my post history I've talked about this before, but I usually open with something about the situation/setting we are in, that way in case I do not get a receptive response, I can thank them and be on my way. For example, if I'm at a bar and I see a guy nearby with a drink, I tend to approach and say something like, "Excuse me, but I'm trying to decide which one of the bar's specialty cocktails to try -- do you have any recommendations?" If it's a positive response both with words and b… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 07:37 PM |
| 6 | Mens' biggest advantageI was studying abroad in the UK when I decided I had to get over my fear of approaching guys. I had about 2.5-3 months there, and I was living alone without any friends. I started by going to pubs with a few classmates or alone after 5 pm and just sitting by the bar and then striking up conversation. Additionally I had a few guys I approached at nightclubs (after a bit of liquid courage). That time period I approached 12 guys, and only had 1 rejection. I usually don't approach random men on the … | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 07:29 PM |
| 10 | Mens' biggest advantageI'm speaking from my own experience/observations, but as a relatively attractive woman, dating wasn't difficult for me when I initially started, before I started approaching. However, I found it annoying that I felt not confident enough to go up to a guy I was attracted to, not to mention societal standards seem to dictate that men should approach. Once I managed to approach guys myself, dating has been even more fun and exciting for me since I felt confident enough to break the mold and confide… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 07:20 PM |
| 89 | Mens' biggest advantageAs a woman, let me tell you, I've never enjoyed dating as much as I have once I learned how to and perfected approaching men. I made it a goal one summer to be confident enough and smooth enough to approach a guy and get his number and ask him out. Once I learned how to do that, I've never gone back. It's essentially a killer combo, and I don't know why more women don't approach men! All of my female friends don't do this and are shocked when they watch me approach, but just having the confidenc… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Guys, do you like a flirty girl?I (F) think it depends on the guy. I usually try to match his flirting level, which tends to work out great. | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 12:56 PM |
| 3 | How often do scenarios like the movie "She's Out of My League" happen in real life?Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't. I can't give you a proper statistic because I don't really know, but I can tell you my experience. I'm an attractive girl (in this sense meaning "conventionally attractive", ie. thin, tall, long legs, nice assets, pretty face, good style), and it has taken a lot of overcoming insecurities/not letting them impact me to be able to admit that. I'm quite successful on dating apps, in-person, cold-approaching, etc. Whenever my ex and I would go out together, o… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 12:53 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone ever seen "low-value" guy with cool woman?You didn't specify an age range, so I just gave an anecdote from my life that works. Nonetheless, you can always find excuses as to why it works in one situation (i.e. being younger in this case) and not another. This is because every situation is different, which is why I noted that unless you try, you won't know the outcome for you. On your point that I likely wouldn't date him now, you're partially correct. I personally have some pretty nerdy interests which I found to be a positive with him,… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Girls have gotta take their shot more often, and handle rejection like WOMEN.Hahaha you’re fine, and yes, I have before! Usually involves chiming into the convo and joining in for a bit before asking him for his number and politely leaving so I’m not some rando intruder into their convo lol | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Girls have gotta take their shot more often, and handle rejection like WOMEN.Sort of depends on context. If I’m at a bar, I’ll come up to him and ask him what he recommends since I wanna try a new drink and then strike up convo from there. If not, a line I’ve used is, “Hey, sorry if this is weird, but I love your shoes and would like to get something similar for my brothers birthday — where are they from?” Then transition into introduction. These are good intros because if I don’t get a receptive vibe, I can thank them and move on. Otherwise it’s easy to transition into … | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 02:28 AM |
| 7 | how to talk to a girl who's wayyyyy out of your league.Anyone who saw me and my ex would always say I was way out of his league. But then...why was I attracted to him? Because he carried himself like he was in my league. (I don’t really believe entirely in the league stuff, but if we are going with the comparison). You got this dude; you’ve got her attention since she is snapping you. Go get the girl :) | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Girls have gotta take their shot more often, and handle rejection like WOMEN.Some do, some don’t. It’s been a little while since I’ve been out approaching people because of covid, so I can’t remember exactly. I’m thinking on anecdotes and usually the far away flirting only lasts a couple minutes (or two back and forths) prior to one of us making a move. I’d say since I started approaching guys (it’s been a little over 5 years now) I’ve approached about 30 guys, and been successful with 90-95% of them. All of my approaches led to dates; not all of them led to anything phy… | /r/seduction | 18/09/20 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Girls have gotta take their shot more often, and handle rejection like WOMEN.Haha, I would say I've picked up how to flirt (both from afar and up close, with both body language and actual language!). It did take some practice, but now I'm pretty confident in my abilities to flirt. I also recognize that it doesn't necessarily come naturally to everyone, so I think I ended up being lucky at picking it up relatively quickly! | /r/seduction | 17/09/20 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Do you think your crush knows you like them?The only sign you can give that makes it clear is just telling them, which is my route of choice. Otherwise everyone has a different "obvious sign" that they use to show they're interested. Sometimes it's really easy to tell if someone likes me because it's actually obvious to me, but that means you have to be good at reading body language which not everyone is. | /r/seduction | 15/09/20 02:04 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone ever seen "low-value" guy with cool woman?My first boyfriend was someone you could consider "low-value." He wasn't very social/extroverted (didn't have a ton of friends/was usually the quiet one in the corner and didn't pick up social cues very well), didn't fit the societal definition of attractive (not super tall, not super fit), had very nerdy/geeky interests, had a more-logical/rational-and-not-feeling personality, and we were both in school together, so he hadn't made any sort of career for himself at that point. If your definition… | /r/seduction | 15/09/20 11:37 AM |
| 2 | Girls have gotta take their shot more often, and handle rejection like WOMEN.Well, just because there exist women who approach men doesn't mean you're entitled to being approached. I don't approach every dude who passes me on the street. I approach those who catch my attention; either they're dressed well, or carry themself in a confident, calm manner, or they're attractive to me, or I hear them talking about something I can relate to/am interested in, or they're participating in a hobby I like, etc. Approaching is usually nerve-wracking for the person (man or woman or w… | /r/seduction | 15/09/20 11:09 AM |
| 6 | Do women prefer facial hair or clean?Depends on the woman. If you have facial hair, you’ll attract the girls that like it. If you don’t, you’ll attract the girls that don’t. And either way, you’ll attract the girls that don’t care! Regardless I think you should keep your facial hairstyle (or lack of one) however you find yourself most attractive and how you feel most confident and sexy. | /r/seduction | 14/09/20 01:51 AM |
| 13 | Girls have gotta take their shot more often, and handle rejection like WOMEN.I’m a woman and I approach men all the time. I occasionally get hit with rejection and I know it’s a part of the process and move on. But it took effort and a proper mindset and a conscious goal to be comfortable approaching and asking guys out. I had to place myself outside of my comfort zone; now that I have, I don’t think I’d ever stop approaching guys. It’s my style now! I think I’ve asked out almost everyone I’ve ended up dating or hooking up with. I will say, learning to handle rejection f… | /r/seduction | 14/09/20 01:49 AM |
| 9 | Just a post for the ladies of r/seductionYes! Join us group of girls who approach men first :) I made it a goal the summer I was 18 (aka an adult) to be able to pick up a guy and take him home and slowly through approaching more and more I gained enough confidence to get closer and closer to my goal. By the end of the summer, I’d successfully approached 14 guys and gotten numbers after positive interactions, and the last guy I tried with, I managed to bring home from the club that night! A success! I’m too impatient now to wait for a g… | /r/seduction | 14/09/20 01:39 AM |
| 1 | Taking a break from trying to meet people due to Covid. How can I make the best of it?Hahaha appreciate the thought about the creeps. Sent ya a chat :) | /r/seduction | 10/09/20 07:16 PM |
| 2 | Taking a break from trying to meet people due to Covid. How can I make the best of it?Yes!! Hahaha, see there's more than just you feeling weird about dating right now. | /r/seduction | 10/09/20 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Taking a break from trying to meet people due to Covid. How can I make the best of it?Same! I don't really get it at all...like it's scary enough needing to worry if a hook up has an STD and now you also need to worry about the potential of an airbone virus that can be picked up and spread just from conversation. I feel kind of alone in choosing to step out of dating right now because my friends irl are like yours, but honestly, it's been 2-3 months since I deleted my apps and it's been great and refreshing tbh. | /r/seduction | 10/09/20 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Taking a break from trying to meet people due to Covid. How can I make the best of it?As the other comments have said, work on yourself! Make yourself the best version you can be, whether that's bettering your health and happiness or finding new hobbies or strengthening your friends. You're being smart and I respect your decision. I'm a girl likely around your age and I'm also taking a break from trying to meet people due to COVID. My thoughts are that if I work on my happiness and bettering myself now, when it's ready to jump back into dating post-COVID (whenever that will be), … | /r/seduction | 10/09/20 05:43 PM |
| 2 | The fact that a person has had several romantic relationships in the past should be considered as a good or bad thing?I usually consider it a good thing, but it depends on whether the person has learned and grown from those relationships. I've had long term relationships, and I would prefer to date someone at this point who has had at least one meaningful, long-term relationship. If you approach reflecting on your relationships right, you learn so much about what is important to you, what isn't, who you may be compatible with you, what you want, how to communicate in a relationship, etc etc. I've learned countl… | /r/seduction | 10/09/20 05:36 PM |
| 5 | When girls approach and show interest is it easy for a lot of guys to not pick up on the signs?Some girls are straightforward and others aren’t. I’m pretty damn clear, so you’ll know within 1-2 business days or so whether I’d like to go out on a date with you directly. Other girls try to drop hints and you need to think a little more carefully and notice subtle things a bit better. I find sometimes these “obvious clues” are not so obvious which is why I’ve swapped to being direct. I’m also just impatient as hell so if I like you, I want to know if you like me back. It’s ok if you don’t pi… | /r/seduction | 10/09/20 12:25 AM |
| 3 | performance anxiety? need adviceNervousness is normal and the fact that you were drunk may have impacted your ability to stay hard. You told her you were a virgin and had some performance anxiety and she still wants to meet up again, so don’t sweat it too much! Doesn’t sound like she’s judgmental and that’s awesome; she sounds like a nice person at least to lose it to. Take a deep breath. Everyone is jittery their first time, at least a little. | /r/seduction | 10/09/20 12:21 AM |
| 3 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceNo way! How can you date someone you don't find physically attractive? That's so important in a romantic/sexual relationship. I think it's superficial if you're following conventional standards of what's attractive instead of what you personally find attractive, which sometimes overlap somewhat, sometimes are spot on, and other times aren't alike at all. If your ideal partner looks conventionally attractive because thats what you're attracted to, then great! But if you're attracted to features t… | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 01:03 PM |
| 5 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceI think something like, "I was wondering if you'd like to grab a coffee/go for drinks/grab a snack together sometime" or "I've loved getting to know you and wanted to know if you'd be interested in going out on a date with me" or "By the way, I remember you saying you liked doing xyz. Would you be interested in doing xyz with me sometime?" I think honest and direct is the best way to go so that no one is confused on whether it is a date or not! | /r/seduction | 09/09/20 12:55 PM |
| 3 | Neediness and MotivationUsing your crush as motivation is all fine and dandy, but you do have to have your #1 priority be to do it for you because there is literally no guarantee that after you work out and get your shit together that your crush will like you. If you do it for your crush and don't get the results you expect from them because, well, they're their own person and you can't control that, you could lose your motivation and lose any healthy/positive habits you'd built for yourself. | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 10:11 PM |
| 8 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceI know! I've seen some of my guy friends in literally low key abusive relationships with girls b/c they thought those girls were the only ones interested in them and I'm like...holy shit, if the tables were turned and he was treating her like how she treats him there would be hell to pay. It hurts me so much to see them justify her behavior that's clearly toxic! I recognize dating is a woman's world, but I really hope guys don't let that make them settle for less than they deserve. | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 09:36 PM |
| 32 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceWell, you've met me! Hiiii! Also, I'm betting that there's got to be other women out there with the same mentality. There definitely can't be just me. I do think that it's less common than the classic mentality society thinks women should have, but over time, I bet it will be more common. | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Pros and cons of a wingmanAhh, got it! Yeah I wasn't sure whether the first scenario I described would be wingman-ing since it is a guy helping out his buddy get a girl. Oh yeah, no one should be forced to wingman...that would be awkward for everyone involved probably. | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Openers aren't as important as you think.More or less true; I'll only say that you should stray away from extremely sexual openers because they will likely not sit well (again, everyone is different). If you're trying to play it safe something like your direct opener example works great! Just don't bust into the DMs like, "Ay come ride this dick" or "You got a real nice ass." Might work for some girls, but will likely not stick with a lot. | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 08:36 PM |
| 173 | Stop developing oneitis and start being authentic and having abundanceI'm a woman, and I agree with a lot of this. When a guy puts me on a pedestal, it makes me uncomfortable; I want us to be equal in a partnership and treating me like I'm some sort of goddess is off-putting. I know my worth; I want you to respect it, but not act like I'm soooo much above you! There's a difference between treating me respectfully and kindly and putting me on a pedestal, and I'd much prefer the former. Also, yes, honesty is sexy. It makes you seem more confident and that you know w… | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 08:29 PM |
| 6 | Why cant all men admire a sex addict?This is a very confusing post, but just want to say that men also don't only care about sex. Granted it's important, but they also often want to have a connection beyond that. People sometimes forget that men are more than just sex-machines and have emotions beyond that, too. If you're actually a sex addict and it's getting in the way of your life, then you need to seek help for that. If you're not a sex addict and just have a higher sex drive, then you need to find someone who matches your sex … | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Pros and cons of a wingmanI'm a woman and every time a guy has had a wingman, it has been weird, and it's possible this is because of the way they were using their wingman/the interaction. Most often (and by most often, I mean every time), I've had a guy come up to me and say, "Hey, my friend over there thinks you're really cute; do you think you could talk to him?" This puts me in an awkward position because well...if he wanted to talk to me, why couldn't he come up and talk to me himself? This style of approach also ju… | /r/seduction | 08/09/20 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Advice talking to men (F20)Hiya! 23F here. Honestly it sounds like you're on a great journey of self improvement and you're on the path to success. People are attracted to people who are like you, working on improvement and heading towards your goals. Keep doing you and guys will start to come when they see your ambition, self-improvement, and commitment to success. In terms of advice on actually approaching, it depends on the context and where/when. If I'm at a party, I'll happily break open with some flirting right off … | /r/seduction | 04/09/20 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Is it coming off too strong asking a girl on a 1st or 2nd date that you like her & want to see her more?Of course! I think if you make it on the casual side and drop it at the end of a date, it will not come across as "needy" or "desperate" (as some on here might say) and actually shows that you are mature enough to communicate your feelings. Delivery and tone is everything, but there's no harm in being clear and upfront in what you want. I do this to guys after 1st/2nd dates and I've had guys do this to me after 1st/2nd dates. Love, love, love the honesty/clarity. | /r/seduction | 04/09/20 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Why does he avoid addressing the issue?Well...at some point you'd have to find out, and since you started the convo, just have it properly? These are normal worries but if you want your answer, then you have to just ask. | /r/seduction | 04/09/20 12:57 PM |
| 2 | Why does he avoid addressing the issue?Instead of ignoring the conversation because the guy was confused by your "semi-clear" (likely unclear) statement, why don't you just call him up and clarify and be very clear this time? Sounds like he wasn't upset but just confused so I don't understand why you'd think to ignore as the right way to pursue this. | /r/seduction | 04/09/20 12:47 PM |
| 2 | How to increase status after graduating college?I'm a woman your age and literally could care less if my future partner/hook-up/whatever played any sports in college or not. If he did and it was something he loved, hell yeah, I'd support that passion, but if he didn't, I would never hold something as small and insignificant as that against him! I'll support my partner in whatever his passion is. | /r/seduction | 04/09/20 12:45 PM |
| 7 | Is it coming off too strong asking a girl on a 1st or 2nd date that you like her & want to see her more?As a girl, I'd love that directness right off the bat; it's not common and sometimes it can be difficult to get a read on whether the guy is interested in me or not. Something at the end of the first/second date like, "By the way, I wanted to let you know that I'm really enjoying getting to know you and I want to see you again" is perfect. | /r/seduction | 04/09/20 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Do you expect a girl to arrange a date?I'm a girl. I've always planned the first date with my potential date together, so I make sure we are doing something we both like/want to do. I'll throw out some suggestions, see what sticks. Maybe he will suggest a few, and then we decide. To be fair, now that I'm thinking about it, I don't think I've ever had a guy entirely plan a date for us nor have I entirely planned a date for us until we were properly dating and in a relationship and one of us wanted to treat/surprise the other. Well, st… | /r/seduction | 03/09/20 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Still don't understand the "complimenting" game yetI'm a woman, but I'm one woman, so take what you will from what I say. I appreciate compliments, but when they are genuine and have some depth to them (i.e. you aren't calling me a genius after 2 mins of conversation b/c that may not have any base) and are varied (on physical, personality, intellect, etc). I like a compliment or two when well-used ("Ah, you're so knowledgable about xyz topic!" or "By the way, you've got a lovely smile"), but over-complimenting is a turn-off. I guess it makes me … | /r/seduction | 03/09/20 07:31 PM |
| 3 | So theres this girl I think is really cute in one of my college classes, whats a non creepy way to approach her and try to talk to herNot sure if this is in-person/what the lecture hall/seating is like at all especially with COVID. If it's in a large lecture hall, you could sit near her during the lecture. After, you could try to make eye contact, smile, and then say something like, "Hey, I'm sorry to bother you, but I missed what the professor said about the assignment; what did she say?" Once she responds, you could say, "Ah, thank you! Also, I'm [your name]. What's yours?" Then you could transition into saying you don't kno… | /r/seduction | 03/09/20 07:19 PM |
| 6 | How exciting of a life do I really need for a girl to want to date me?If OP guarantees weekends w/ food & cuddles, I'm in | /r/seduction | 02/09/20 04:43 PM |
| 4 | How exciting of a life do I really need for a girl to want to date me?hehehe hiii! | /r/seduction | 02/09/20 04:16 PM |
| 89 | How exciting of a life do I really need for a girl to want to date me?I've found that life with a good guy is exciting, even if we spend a lot of our weekends just cuddling on the couch and eatin' pizza. It's exciting just being around him. Given your path to medicine, anyone who knows anything about that path knows that it is daunting, requires a lot of time and commitment, and that you're ambitious. As long as you do have the time to commit to someone, you're fine. You can be an exciting person, who may currently not have the time for an exciting life. Maybe you… | /r/seduction | 02/09/20 01:03 PM |
| 3 | Hinting about other women to create urgencyIf the girl is making you considering behaving like this, then she is either already not very interested or extremely on the fence. Mentioning other women will likely turn someone on the fence off because it then makes it seem like you may not be that invested in them; so, why should they be invested in you? I think it would be difficult to do this approach without coming off like an ass, but I totally see what you're trying to cause. I think if she is on the fence you should lay it out there th… | /r/seduction | 02/09/20 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Is she being flirty?No worries!! Rooting for ya :) | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 09:59 PM |
| 2 | Is she being flirty?It's hard to give you a 100% confident yes or no answer, but I do think that this is likely flirting. Teasing more recently/a change from the normal friendly banter to now usually indicates some change in the way she views your relationship. So, if she's suddenly teasing you noticeably more, she's probably into you (since a lot of people also use teasing as a flirting technique). Additionally, she wants to spend more time with you! That sounds pretty positive, especially if she is referring to t… | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 09:43 PM |
| 21 | Super weird but a.. how do I stop staring at tits when I'm talk to any chick ? It's getting annoying and uncomfortable for me 😂😅Many women have this thing called a face! Men have them too! You can look there instead :) it's definitely more polite. | /r/seduction | 01/09/20 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Texting and she randomly gets mad and K’s me.Some people take longer than others. Recently had a guy friend tell me that his 28 year old (now ex)girlfriend threw a whole tantrum with screaming, crying, and yelling along with throwing things at him because...he asked her to put a dish away that he had asked her to put away for weeks. I was (( s h o o k )) by this but it honestly sounded like she had some personal things she needed to work on. Everyone moves at different speeds maturity wise and you don't need to wait for someone if they don… | /r/seduction | 31/08/20 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Texting and she randomly gets mad and K’s me.She sounds immature and unable to have a proper conversation about her feelings. You're likely better off distancing/not engaging with her. | /r/seduction | 31/08/20 09:57 PM |
| 5 | How do you deal with girls who wants to text alot before meetingI am a woman and 100% understand your frustration at not wanting to lose topics of conversation. Talking for too long over text sometimes also just ruins the initial spark. Ugh. Most of the time, if I tell a guy I want to get to know him a little more more before meeting, it's me feeling comfortable that you aren't about to kidnap me and sell me or rape me or murder me because these are all very real threats that exist to women. Honestly, exchanging some form of social media, learning about what… | /r/seduction | 31/08/20 08:08 PM |
| 2 | What are these three words? (Wrong answers only)"Leave me alone" or "go fuck yourself" | /r/seduction | 31/08/20 03:08 PM |
| 10 | How important are material items to women?Depends on the woman. I think for me, I wouldn't care if you had a Toyota from 2006 versus 2020, as long as if you take me somewhere in the car it won't break down LOL. I think I would care more about how you kept that car. Is it messy? Is it clean? If you got in 2006 and got it to last this long because you took care of it, that says MILES (pun intended) more about you than the make/model. | /r/seduction | 28/08/20 12:41 PM |
| 1 | Girls aren't going to like me........if they don't know I existOnline dating apps are perfect for this, especially given covid but honestly, I prefer meeting in person and find meeting online to be a little odd sometimes. If you’re looking for in person suggestions, during COVID I’ve been making time to get outside and go to a local park and take walks/skate/etc around and potentially run into someone. So far I’ve met some nice old couples and actually the other day a dude waved at me and asked me how long I’d been skating! Struck up a convo and wonder if I… | /r/seduction | 28/08/20 01:13 AM |
| 2 | How to ask for one night stand directly?I’m a direct woman so I like a direct man. I’ve had a guy turn to me at a party after we had had some physical touchy flirting and just say, “wanna fuck?” And that worked great on me particularly because a ONS was precisely my goal that night too and we got straight to the point! I’ll say though, if she’s not someone who appreciates directness or gets uncomfortable with direct people, even if she does want a ONS, she could get turned off by your delivery. To play it safe you could invite her ove… | /r/seduction | 28/08/20 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Tips on effectively gaming in a loud venue such as a loud bar or a club?Very true, as a woman! If I’m at a club, I’m usually there to dance because it’s way too loud to talk properly. I also love dancing; if you dance your way over and have some fun w me, I’ll totally be intrigued AND will be attracted that you also like to dance! | /r/seduction | 28/08/20 12:39 AM |
| 3 | To what questions/topic do women react positively?I think in general people like talking about their passions! So you could ask her what her hobbies are or favorite animal or favorite food and when you seem to hit a jackpot (ie. suddenly being lit up and more enthusiasm) pursue that topic further. While there isn’t a handy dandy list of what will work for all women, here’s a few that tend to be exciting for women more often than not: Hobbies: what do you do in your spare time? how did you start x hobby? what do you like about it? could you teac… | /r/seduction | 28/08/20 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Ive heard tattooed guys have it easy with womenMakes sense! Some girls probably do and others don’t! It is possible that the tattoos make the wearer more confident (some of mine make me love my body more) which also could help. | /r/seduction | 27/08/20 02:18 AM |
| 1 | Girl I like is in another state, I don't have a car or apartmentDefinitely makes it tough, and with the pandemic/COVID, not sure if you want to be risking your health, her health, and the health of others by taking an Uber/Lyft or using public transport. Does she have a car? If she's down she could come to you and/or pick you up. Do you have a friend with a car that you can sanitize/borrow? Without your own apartment, sounds like if you want something casual, her place is the only option (unless you have roommates who don't mind). | /r/seduction | 27/08/20 12:07 AM |
| 3 | Ive heard tattooed guys have it easy with womenF here. Depends on the girl, depends on the tattoos the guy has. I have some small tattoos of my own, but all are in locations that are easily hidden/only can be seen if I'm in a bikini. I think I personally would be attracted to a guy who had no tattoos or a similar set up where there aren't too many, but some. I've seen some attractive tattooed guys and some not. I've seen some attractive not tattooed guys and some not. I don't think the tattoos actually make it any easier for dudes. | /r/seduction | 27/08/20 12:04 AM |
| 8 | How + where do you meet women in the suburbs?Same situation as you, but I'm a gal who just graduated uni and moved back home. I'd say most people use the dating apps, but I find dating apps in the suburbs to be kind of lackluster and not as exciting as they are in cities. I prefer to meet in person anyways. Given COVID, I have put dating on pause, but I still make an effort to get outside every day after work and take walks around a neighborhood park, etc, in the off chance I might meet someone/run into someone who could be potential frien… | /r/seduction | 26/08/20 03:10 PM |
| 2 | Differences in gender?Works well for me! I think it's best to be open/direct about why you approached them in the first place; I don't know how else to approach someone without making it obvious. I think to differentiate between ONS and a date, you could be more specific when you end the convo ("Mind if we exchange numbers to continue our convo over coffee sometime?" or "I'd like to ask you on a date if you're interested"). If you were looking for a ONS, I'd assume you'd invite him over then instead of exchanging num… | /r/seduction | 25/08/20 07:11 PM |
| 3 | Girl is lazy to meet unless it's close to her place - how to maintain frame?F here. If I set up a proper date 5 mins by public transport or 20 mins walking distance away from my date's place and they complained, I'd be flabbergasted. I'd probably tease a little to see if it was a joke, and then if it wasn't, I wouldn't waste my time. If they can't spend as little as 5 minutes to see you...that says something about how invested they are in meeting you. Or she just wants you to come over to her place and have sex and be done. Guess it depends on what you're looking for! | /r/seduction | 25/08/20 04:49 PM |
| 30 | Stop trying to constantly please herAs a girl...100% true! I'd rather you be upfront and honest and be yourself so we can ensure we are compatible and a good match. I don't want to waste your time or my time if something like smoking is hidden and it's a dealbreaker for one of us! | /r/seduction | 25/08/20 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Differences in gender?I'm a woman who frequently hits on guys! I guess I can just speak to my experience, but I tend to come up and compliment something not super physical/sexual or I start a conversation. I also give context to coming up to them randomly so they aren't like, who is this random girl and why is she talking to me?! For compliments, I'd say, "Hey, I noticed your shoes and they're really nice. Where are they from? I might want to get my brother a pair!" or "Hi, how are you doing? I came up to you because… | /r/seduction | 25/08/20 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Male body language that shows interestDude, I didn't really believe the feet thing when I first heard it but it's kind of true! | /r/seduction | 21/08/20 05:59 PM |
| 8 | Muted Girl [18] I Just Want A Boyfriend...There are people who learn ASL just to learn it! I'm one of those people and it's such a beautiful language, and I am so grateful to have had the opportunity to learn it. I'm a girl, so probably not OP's target dating audience, but given I now know ASL relatively well, I'd happily date/befriend someone who was mute/part of the Deaf community and use ASL to communicate too if it made them more comfortable. Before knowing ASL, I wouldn't not date someone mute or part of the Deaf community, but I t… | /r/seduction | 21/08/20 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Male body language that shows interestI've heard turning your body to face hers is one (that is done both by guys and gals). So if you're sitting on a couch together, having your feet point to her is a good way to be able to tell if your body is turned towards her. Eye contact also! Great eye flirting/eye contact can build sexual tension like that! There is a line between the eye contact being light and playful v. creepy/intense, but as long as you aren't like blankly staring you should be fine. | /r/seduction | 21/08/20 02:16 PM |
| 6 | The better I get with women, the more guys are hating. How do I deal with that?People will hate you if they're jealous of your success. You need people who will support you/be happy for you and not allow jealousy/enviousness to get the better of them. | /r/seduction | 21/08/20 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Tinder bio advicewhatever you prefer! | /r/seduction | 19/08/20 02:56 PM |
| 2 | Tinder bio adviceA short 1-2 liner about you is great! If you toss me some things about you, I can try to come with something. What are things you like to do? Hobbies? Talents? Favorite type of food/music/movies/tv shows? What you're looking for in a person? Are you a fashion forward person? Are you extroverted/introverted? | /r/seduction | 19/08/20 02:28 PM |
| 2 | OpenerDepending on where you are, you could comment/ask about something in the place that you're at. The most obvious example of this would be that if you're at a bar, and you approach the person you're interested in, you could say something like, "Hey, have you been here before? What's good here?" Once they answer you could thank them and be like, "By the way, my name's ___. What's yours?" This might be kinda hard depending on where you are due to COVID, but something like that seems to work well. | /r/seduction | 17/08/20 08:33 PM |
| 2 | asking a girl out during covid 19?Your phrase "understand if nows not a great time" gives her more of a cop out and sounds a little like you aren't super confident in meeting up; so your observation about it is 100% correct. Not mentioning COVID is also kind of a turn off since it is a real concern and I wouldn't want to go out with someone who isn't at least aware of the situation. I think say something like, "Let's grab some socially distanced ice cream outside sometime." It's confident but also acknowledges the current pandem… | /r/seduction | 15/08/20 01:45 AM |
| 3 | "Why are you talking to me?" < why do girls ask that, and how to answer it?Yeah it's mostly curiosity and sometimes when I come across like this where it might be difficult to see from the other gender's POV (for eg here, I think men don't usually think about being assaulted by a random stranger all that frequently), I share my thoughts in hopes that it helps! (: I know it's v male-oriented but hopefully my occasional comments are appreciated and help! | /r/seduction | 13/08/20 07:08 PM |
| 2 | How to fix confidence?Middle-aged jokes sound way up my alley and you "dress too nice"?! Are you kidding, I love when a guy actually puts effort in and your outfit sounds great! (I'm only a couple of years older than you). Coming across as cocky could be a big deterrent. I can be extremely attracted to someone until the second they act as "holier-than-thou" or arrogant. It's good you're aware of this though which means you can work on maybe being more humble about your accomplishments, or taking the conversation topi… | /r/seduction | 13/08/20 04:51 PM |
| 2 | "Why are you talking to me?" < why do girls ask that, and how to answer it?A tidbit in addition to what everyone has said, is that it depends on the context in which you're approaching her. At a bar or a club, a girl may be expecting to be talked to by strangers more. If I'm loading my groceries into my car in a parking lot and you approach me, or if I'm minding my own business shopping and you approach me, I am often surprise and all the headlights go up in case you're someone with bad intentions. I know that all guys aren't going to try to assault me or mug me or wha… | /r/seduction | 13/08/20 04:45 PM |
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