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cowsbelikemoo/r/seduction12/07/15 06:01 PM
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I think she wants to change. I get that impression that she's tired of life constantly disappointing her. If that's not the case... I'll definitely leave.
/r/seduction14/07/15 03:16 AM
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Nothing seriously wrong. Just some heightened anxiety. I've been with her long enough to know there isn't anything really scary being veiled there.
/r/seduction14/07/15 03:14 AM
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We're doing a book trade. She gets me something to read. I get her something to read. I've actually chosen this title for her to checkout. It's meant for guys but I think she'll still find it kind of handy. Plus it'll help her understand where I'm at because I went through a similar eye opening experience with material similar to it and I feel pretty good.
/r/seduction13/07/15 09:58 AM
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I agree. I want to help. Not change. But maybe that's the same thing to some people. I've definitely considered just walking away...
/r/seduction13/07/15 09:55 AM
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There was. She has PTSD which is likely a big contributing factor.
/r/seduction13/07/15 09:55 AM
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I'd like something like that as well. Which is what makes this tough. I care about her but I have a hard time respecting her. She can be very weak. But I used to be like that too. So I understand that it takes time to build that in yourself.
/r/seduction13/07/15 09:51 AM
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You're right on the money. She grew up not having her voice be respected. Without getting too personal her upbringing was ROUGH. There is trauma that took her voice away. I want to help her get it back if I can and I do care. Thanks!
/r/seduction13/07/15 09:49 AM
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Definitely. Nobody says she does. She had an entirely different life and upbringing. Nonetheless, some of the behavior stands out. It's the same frustrated behavior I used to have when I would constantly ask; "why am I not getting the things I feel I deserve? I'm so NICE to everyone!!"
/r/seduction13/07/15 09:46 AM
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This uh... hasn't been working. She thinks I'm "lucky". She has no idea that behavior is tied to success. She feels she's consistently being victimized by others. =\
/r/seduction13/07/15 09:44 AM
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I also wouldn't call myself alpha at all. Just... she exhibits some very very beta qualities. Everyone, from work, to family, really just kind of walks all over her.
/r/seduction13/07/15 01:34 AM
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Yeah, we actually read a quote from Glover that she really related to. I'm considering picking that up for her. Haven't read it myself but it the material seems solid.
/r/seduction13/07/15 01:33 AM
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I don't want to. I like that she's nice. What I don't like is when she's... too nice. When she lets people walk all over her. When she doesn't voice what she really wants from life. When she doesn't stick to her guns. When she doesn't know how to express herself.
/r/seduction13/07/15 01:15 AM
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Yeah, she absolutely has too much forethought. She can't seem to just let go and be "in the moment". I'm not sure you're suggestion quite makes sense to me but... I think you're on to something nonetheless.
/r/seduction13/07/15 01:11 AM
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It's the same deal here. She kind of shuts off when things become stressful. She's already had a lot of bad things in her life so now she's got this thing going which I'm calling "turtle mode". Where she doesn't even know WHAT she's feeling because she just kind of stuffs them up.
/r/seduction13/07/15 01:09 AM
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Oh snap! This is REALLY fucking good. Thanks!!
/r/seduction13/07/15 01:05 AM
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Thanks, that's helpful. Something I've definitely been doing more of is just being straight with her. I think I sugarcoated things before because she is very sensitive. But now I'm being forward when I think what she's doing is a bit... pathetic? Err I'm trying to say it in nice ways. But you know what I mean!
/r/seduction13/07/15 01:00 AM
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I've being reading so much on here for just... years. It wasn't one thing really. Which is why I don't know what to tell her. I wouldn't even know where to begin. >_<
/r/seduction13/07/15 12:59 AM
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Yeah, this is good. If I tell her it's a turn on it may be less about making her feel criticized and more about something that's just exciting for me. Thanks!
/r/seduction12/07/15 10:24 PM
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Agreed. I don't want to change that. But I also don't want somebody who doesn't have a voice of her own and who bottles everything up in fear of rocking the boat or disappointing others. =\
/r/seduction12/07/15 10:18 PM
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This. Exactly.
/r/seduction12/07/15 10:15 PM
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I honestly wish I could change the title to "beta" now. "Nice guy" is such a misleading term. Yes, being nice is good, but being beta is not.
/r/seduction12/07/15 10:14 PM
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This is very sound advice. She's been a bit of a doormat in the relationship which I CAN'T accept. We don't feel like equals. Which is why I've been teetering on the side of breaking up. But maybe I can help her find her voice the way this community has done for me? That's what I'm seeking help with. Thank you!
/r/seduction12/07/15 09:49 PM
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I'm not asking her to be a... guy. I guess I should define what I mean by "nice guy" and why the behaviors associated with it don't translate well for attraction or once you're in a relationship. But all of the beta traits that people exhibit: fear of rocking the boat, putting your partners needs ahead of your own, not being confident in yourself. That's what's hurting the relationship and I don't know how to explain to her that I went through the same thing and had to learn to be my own person …
/r/seduction12/07/15 09:46 PM
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She can be kind of a doormat. Doesn't challenge me. Can take everything very seriously and because of it, doesn't always know how to have fun. You know... just like the nice guys who come to this subreddit seeking help. Whether you're a girl or a guy exhibiting these kind of traits are never good. They're just more commonly associated with "nice guys".
/r/seduction12/07/15 09:33 PM
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