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3	Newly divorced guy here. Started flirting with a nurse. Got her IG but now I don't really know what to text her back. Any ideas? 30-40 minutes of initial in-person convo is great! I would just ask her out. Anywhere you go alone for fun, I would invite her to meet you there. I don't know what you talked about, but going somewhere related to your shared interests would be a good idea too. But, text her a definite date plan and make it clear you're putting the date on your calendar and you look forward to seeing her. You don't need to keep texting her after making the date. A lot of us text ourselves out of a date, because w…	/r/seduction	30/09/24 12:54 PM
1	I have put "short term fun" on Tinder and still get likes from women who have put "looking for longterm relationship" in their bio. Should I respond? Just be honest about who you are and what you're looking for. A lot of women are embarrassed to put anything about one night stands or FWB. If a woman initially likes you and you think she's attractive, I think you should respond. I don't think there's anything wrong with you bringing up your apparent relationship goals differences immediately. Make it fun and flirt with her.	/r/seduction	25/09/24 01:14 AM
2	Everyone says I'm very attractive, but I have 0 game Hey, I was where you are right now. I was very insecure about my appearance and I had irrational fears. It was all in my head! When I look at high school photos of myself and knowing what I know now, I would have asked girls out. First, do you have any friends who are really good with girls? One of my best friends was tall, handsome and athletic and he was very popular with the girls at the school. The reason I didn't ask him for advice was because I had a traumatic experience where I shared som…	/r/seduction	23/09/24 02:46 AM
-1	The most honest PUA/dating coach? Alex Allman. He's also very accessible. I pay $25/month for his Masculine Mastery program and he has regular Zoom meetings where we can ask questions. I would say that his big thing is having an attractive mindset and behavior. Not using manipulation, but being your best masculine self(not toxic). You can find most of his work on How To Man TV and I think if you subscribe, you get access to his Zoom meetings too. You can watch his videos on the How To Man TV YouTube channel and see if you like h…	/r/seduction	22/09/24 09:10 PM
1	Dates ending with a kiss but they still friend zone me I'm interested in what you have to say about deeper conversations. It's natural for me to have deep conversations, but I think it might be a turn off, especially if she starts sharing personal trauma and problems she's having. Don't we go on dates to forget about trauma and other serious things in life, like financial issues?	/r/seduction	22/09/24 01:51 PM
1	Dates ending with a kiss but they still friend zone me I'm interested in what you have to say about deeper conversations. It's natural for me to have deep conversations, but I think it might be a turn off, especially if she starts sharing personal trauma and problems she's having. Don't we go on dates to forget about trauma and other serious things in life, like financial issues?	/r/seduction	22/09/24 01:51 PM
1	Dates ending with a kiss but they still friend zone me I'm interested in what you have to say about deeper conversations. It's natural for me to have deep conversations, but I think it might be a turn off, especially if she starts sharing personal trauma and problems she's having. Don't we go on dates to forget about trauma and other serious things in life, like financial issues?	/r/seduction	22/09/24 01:51 PM
2	Dates ending with a kiss but they still friend zone me I'm interested in what you have to say about deeper conversations. It's natural for me to have deep conversations, but I think it might be a turn off, especially if she starts sharing personal trauma and problems she's having. Don't we go on dates to forget about trauma and other serious things in life, like financial issues?	/r/seduction	22/09/24 01:51 PM
1	How can I make her want to touch me? When you see her, go for a hug and a kiss on the cheek, like it's no big deal. Extend your hand for her to take on your walk. Talk to her leaning in closely, as you're walking hand in hand. Stop to look at something together and put your arm around her and give her a kiss on the cheek. Look deep into her eyes, down at her lips and back at her eyes, tell her you want to kiss her. You don't have to do a Dirty Dancing routine in the swimming pool. You can just go in the shallow end, go in the pool …	/r/seduction	22/09/24 01:43 PM
1	OLD doesn’t work for me 💯 Just work on your life and goals and you'll find someone. Most likely, she'll find you.	/r/seduction	21/09/24 08:55 PM
1	Why do women think I want to hang out as friends? Good point.	/r/seduction	21/09/24 03:01 PM
7	OLD doesn’t work for me Maybe you just have what more women want. I'm authentic about myself too and most women I see on dating apps just don't share my interests. For instance, I'm not an outdoorsy or sports guy, but well over 90% of the women I see are super into sports or going camping, skiing, fishing etc. Pickleball, tennis, and golf were other things I saw women interested in. In the three months I was on Bumble, I met one woman who I really liked. Unfortunately, despite going on two dates, I apparently wasn't wh…	/r/seduction	21/09/24 08:27 AM
1	Why do women think I want to hang out as friends? In order to avoid this in the future, you've got to use date language like saying, "What are you doing Friday night? I'd like to take you out!". If you say, "I'd like to hang out with you." Or "Let's hang out" it sounds like you just want to be friends. You should also make eye contact and stand close to her. Lightly touch her when talking. She should have no question what you're interested in. This way it forces her to make a decision. She can reject you totally, or suggest you go out as friend…	/r/seduction	21/09/24 08:08 AM
36	OLD doesn’t work for me Yeah, it doesn't work for most of us. I found most of my gfs online. But, I think there's something psychological where you swipe for hours and send messages out and it's the 10 percent rule. 100 messages/10 replies/1 date. You're so tired of all the swiping that as long as she isn't unattractive and obnoxious and you have some things in common, you hope the date goes well and you'll soon be in a relationship! None of my relationships have been good. When we broke up or just mutually ghosted eac…	/r/seduction	21/09/24 07:22 AM
8	3 Worst Texting Mistakes Guys Make On Dating Apps Dating apps suck. Most of the women aren't interesting or attractive. I swipe left for hours. If I have to think too much to get a woman to go out with me, she's probably not right for me. Very few are anyway. I've recently come to the realization that I need to work on my goals and create the life I want, and attract women that way. I've deleted all of the apps and will not be using them in the foreseeable future.	/r/seduction	21/09/24 02:04 AM
-1	I need your worst pickup lines Absolute worst: "My friends say I move too fast….will you marry me? Ooops I meant to say hi.”	/r/seduction	15/09/24 11:25 PM
2	Understanding Christian girls? Do you like her? Have you gone down her? I came from a devout Christian background and when I would go down on a Christian woman and make her have an orgasm, she was more prone to want to go all the way. If you like her and want something long-term, she's more prone to go all the way with you too. She just doesn't want to feel like a sinner, by having a cheap hookup or ONS.	/r/seduction	07/09/24 08:42 AM
30	I fucked up the best opportunity I've ever had We all have these type of regrets. The next time you're in a similar situation, you're going to talk her up and get her number right?	/r/seduction	02/09/24 08:38 PM
2	How Do I Dance With/Potentially Pick Up A Woman At A Concert Without Seeming Creepy? It's best to talk with everyone around you. I don't know about you, but when I go to a concert, I'm usually pretty excited. I'm in a room or at a venue, surrounded by people who like at least one thing I do. Start talking to the guys, "Man, I hope they play..." or talk about the band as you would a friend. Then, you can move over to the women and continue talking about the band. "How many times have you seen [the band] in concert?"	/r/seduction	01/09/24 09:05 PM
2	How Do I Dance With/Potentially Pick Up A Woman At A Concert Without Seeming Creepy? Partnership. You can work on your shared goals together. Have you ever heard of a "power couple"?	/r/seduction	01/09/24 06:38 AM
2	Need advice: I'm a great funny intelligent good-looking guy that is actually really great at having fun funny conversations with women - but I rarely think about asking them out and rarely when I do they lose interest. You can start out light, with an opening joke or humorous observation. But, you don't want to continue as if you're doing a five minute standup set. I really need something to give reason for the approach, besides being attracted to her. I always look for something she's wearing or is carrying that is a tie-in with a movie or show I like. Most likely she'll enjoy talking about that movie or show for a few minutes, during which I can make it more personal, like tell a funny personal anecdote rela…	/r/seduction	01/09/24 01:33 AM
27	How Do I Dance With/Potentially Pick Up A Woman At A Concert Without Seeming Creepy? At any event you attend, you automatically have something in common with the women in attendance. I wouldn't put too much thought into feeling creepy, you're sharing an experience with a woman you find attractive. At a concert, I wouldn't normally try to dance with someone, but before the concert if there's an attractive woman, I would strike up a convo with her and start talking about the band. It helps if you feel really good about yourself and your life, that you have something great to offer…	/r/seduction	01/09/24 01:19 AM
2	Dating is so draining. Never get second dates. Rather than thinking, "I'm lonely and want intimacy" start thinking that you're looking for a woman who adds to your life and will be the best partner for you. You don't want companionship and intimacy from just anyone. With that mindset, it's going to affect every area of the date. Are you spending a lot of money on your first dates and are you trying to impress her? Don't spend a lot of money on the first date. It could be a meet-up at a Starbucks or a walk in the park. If she refuses, then th…	/r/seduction	29/08/24 05:15 PM
1	Dating is so draining. Never get second dates. You stated you feel lonely and miss the intimacy. Could you be coming off as needy? How much texting is happening before and after the dates? I would look at your desire for companionship and intimacy and see how that is affecting your behavior on dates. Maybe go into a date not focused on seeking companionship or intimacy, but on deciding if you like her and how she would fit into your life?	/r/seduction	29/08/24 11:47 AM
4	Are girls turned off if you don’t escalate to sex on first date? What about the 2nd date? I fear I turned off a woman I went on two dates with because I never initiated any kind of touching except for a hug and kiss on the cheek at the end of both dates.	/r/seduction	28/08/24 06:22 AM
3	If she asks to bring her friend should I not go? Let her bring her friend and have fun with both of them. I love hanging out with two women at the same time!	/r/seduction	28/08/24 05:20 AM
1	Would a women date a man, in a lower income bracket? Yeah. Just don't be needy/clingy, and have something to offer her that money can't buy.	/r/seduction	27/07/24 04:35 AM
0	Do you mention your job on dating apps? It all depends on why you're listing details on your profile. I like to just be matter of fact and tell women what I'm about. If you're listing details because you're trying to impress women or eliminating details in order to potentially avoid turning them off, that's needy behavior.	/r/seduction	07/07/24 08:52 PM
1	Just Be Yourself Be yourself, but you might need to change negative behavior to be more attractive. For instance, when I like a woman, my natural tendency is to want to spend a lot of time with her. Preferably in person, but I'll settle for texting or interacting on social media. I realized that my behavior came across as very needy and was a turn off. The best thing I can do is have very brief interactions that are fun, flirty and sexual and wait for her to keep coming back to me.	/r/seduction	26/05/24 02:57 AM
2	OLD: Call out one worded answers? I had a woman respond to me with emojis. I thought she was either a bot or just bored, so I gave up.	/r/seduction	10/05/24 03:02 AM
1	Does anyone have any tips for overcoming a feeling of inadequacy due to not being physically attractive? Relationships are temporary. Meeting someone and thinking you're going to be together forever is a fantasy. If you've been able to date gorgeous women and been in 6 year long relationships, that's better than most of us. Sure, when a relationship ends, it hurts quite a bit. Grieve if you need to, then get back out there and find some other sexy women to date! Don't mope around thinking you're so unattractive, because you are clearly attractive enough to date gorgeous women and be in years long r…	/r/seduction	01/11/22 08:39 PM
4	Am I being unreasonable with my standards with this girl ? I would go out with her. Photos are a really bad way to judge someone. I dated a woman for two years who looked horrible in her photos, but I was really into when we were together, especially when we were intimate. In contrast, I dated a woman for three months who looked awesome in her photos, but in person, not so much. When we were being intimate, it was hard to look at her face. There are other factors, such as personality that really add to the physical. Right now, I have a crush on a woman …	/r/seduction	01/11/22 08:31 AM
2	Can’t tell if the girl who works front desk at my gym is interested or not Good start. Maybe buy the cookies and cream one next time and let her know what you think. Although you might be interested in her, don't focus solely on her. Talk to everyone, use your humor. The gym is your playground.	/r/seduction	27/10/22 04:20 AM
6	Am I a pussy for not eating pussy? The thing about cunnilingus is that if you know what you're doing, it's very pleasurable for a woman. She is more likely to have an orgasm from that, then from penetration. Especially if you're inexperienced and you ejaculate almost immediately. She's more likely to be forgiving if you give her an orgasm through cunnilingus first. I was a natural the first time I went downtown. The woman couldn't believe she was my first. She was calling me begging me to let her come over. You could very well ro…	/r/seduction	27/10/22 03:55 AM
4	Can’t tell if the girl who works front desk at my gym is interested or not Are you interested in her? Just walk up to her, and try talking to her. It could be you remind her of an abusive man in her life. If she avoids eye contact with you when you're talking to her and appears uncomfortable, I would assume some trauma. If it's not trauma, she's not mature for a relationship.	/r/seduction	26/10/22 05:41 AM
0	CMV: Apprroach opportunities are very rare realistically If there's a will, there's a way. Most of us who are older(I'm almost 49) are afraid to take risks because we don't want to look foolish. But, those are the same fears we had when we were in high school, and we look back with regret. "If only I knew then, what I know now," we think. Don't be afraid to take risks. I'm just figuring this out, but don't be afraid of your sexuality. If you're like me, you were raised in a religious home and you were taught that sexual thoughts and behavior were a si…	/r/seduction	26/10/22 05:26 AM
27	Any advice on how to avoid the "i just didn't feel the spark" How did you feel about them? I just learned this, but women pick up on how we feel about them. In the future, don't be afraid to unleash all of your sexual thoughts and feelings on her. Consciously, think, "Damn, she is so sexy, I want to fuck her!" By consciously, I mean actually hear the words in your head. Think sexual thoughts about everything-- her body, how she talks and moves, her hair. Look into her eyes, when you're thinking these things. Check out her body and think how gorgeous everyt…	/r/seduction	23/10/22 11:03 PM
1	Unpopular hot take: Most men are totally okay with waiting to have sex, but we're under pressure to make moves or else we'll be friendzoned. It's under the radar. It's all what you're intentionally thinking and feeling. See above in my comment.	/r/seduction	23/10/22 03:41 PM
1	Unpopular hot take: Most men are totally okay with waiting to have sex, but we're under pressure to make moves or else we'll be friendzoned. I'm just directing thoughts and feelings to my co-workers. It's under the radar, so it doesn't get creepy. Do you have someone at work you're attracted to? You just intentionally think and feel that way towards everyone. As you pass by someone, lock eyes and think, "You are so gorgeous!" Same when they're talking to you.	/r/seduction	23/10/22 03:39 PM
25	Unpopular hot take: Most men are totally okay with waiting to have sex, but we're under pressure to make moves or else we'll be friendzoned. I think women want to feel attraction and feel sexual desire on a date. They often say things like that because the guys they go out with don't cause them to feel attraction and sexual desire. When you go out next time, I want you to turn on your sexual desire for the woman you're with up to 11. You are going to consciously desire her sexually. You are going to look into her eyes when she's talking and think to yourself, "She is so damn sexy and I want to fuck her right now." Look at her sexuall…	/r/seduction	23/10/22 12:12 AM
1	I’m a mid twenties kissless virgin and I feel like I will lose everything good in my life that I’ve worked hard for if I don’t get laid soon. I only went down on her. I didn't officially lose my virginity until I was 29, almost 30.	/r/seduction	22/10/22 08:09 AM
1	I’m a mid twenties kissless virgin and I feel like I will lose everything good in my life that I’ve worked hard for if I don’t get laid soon. I didn't do anything sexual with a woman until I was 27. I desired sex, but I wasn't desperate. Maybe focus on non-sexual/physical things you want in a relationship? For instance, I really want to find a woman who wants to work on creative projects with me. Yes, I want to have sex, but working on creative projects together is more important to me. The girl I was sexual with when I was 27, it started very innocent. I was helping her with her English. I enjoyed having a cute Korean girl over at my…	/r/seduction	22/10/22 07:57 AM
1	I’m a mid twenties kissless virgin and I feel like I will lose everything good in my life that I’ve worked hard for if I don’t get laid soon. Not everyone who does approaches is desperate for sex like you are. It's one thing to find someone sexually desireable(the vibe you should be projecting) and being desperate for sex. AI is cool. Go with that. Think of ways to attract women by showing them what you're doing with AI.	/r/seduction	22/10/22 07:36 AM
1	I’m a mid twenties kissless virgin and I feel like I will lose everything good in my life that I’ve worked hard for if I don’t get laid soon. You give off vibes just by approaching. Computer science? Do you code?	/r/seduction	22/10/22 07:20 AM
2	I’m a mid twenties kissless virgin and I feel like I will lose everything good in my life that I’ve worked hard for if I don’t get laid soon. You don't have to say anything. It's what you're projecting. You're desperate to get fucked. You're stating you can't function unless you get fucked soon. That comes out in your interactions. It's possible that you're recalibrating before approaching, but women can sense your emotions. What are you studying? You sound like an intelligent guy. How can you make what you're studying fun and exciting for women?	/r/seduction	22/10/22 07:07 AM
2	I’m a mid twenties kissless virgin and I feel like I will lose everything good in my life that I’ve worked hard for if I don’t get laid soon. Good for you to leave religion and the abuse behind. Now, who are you? What are you doing that attracts women into your life? Right now you're very needy and that's a turn off. What you're projecting: Hi! I'm so desperate for sex. Will you have sex with me? Where you need to be: I'm doing cool and awesome things. I'm a fun guy. Women: Can we join in?	/r/seduction	22/10/22 06:50 AM
22	I asked someone out for the first time in my life ! That's great! I didn't ask my first girl out until I was 19. She was a co-worker and I slipped a very long(probably cringy) letter in her mailbox. She called me the next day and told me she was sort of seeing someone but thanked me for asking her out and said maybe we could go out as friends sometime. A year or so later, I think she changed her mind but I was into someone else and was oblivious to the signals she was sending. This was 30 years ago and I've learned so much. The thing I've learned…	/r/seduction	21/10/22 06:11 AM
1	Is it wise to rub one out before deciding whether you’re actually interested in meeting up with someone? Are you attracted to her? How well do you know her? Most women I meet I wouldn't be interested in anything long term. "Rubbing one out" helps me confirm my true feelings for her, but I do that after our date. Sometimes it might take a couple of dates before I realize I don't want anything long term. If you can just fuck a couple of times, that's much better. Just don't make any false promises in order to get laid. You're just having casual, adult fun. If you want her to leave right away after yo…	/r/seduction	19/10/22 10:39 PM
2	A girl dmd me after a month, should I answer? This has happened to me a couple of times, but years, not months. I see it as a "What if?" situation. She ghosted me for some reason and now she wants to go out. In my cases, we went out, it was meh, so now I know what would have happened if we went out.	/r/seduction	12/10/22 08:05 PM
21	Way to get laid as a TA What a way to get accused of sexual harrassment and ruin your career. Don't recommend your plan at all!	/r/seduction	09/10/22 04:02 AM
2	How do I deal with people playing hard to get? First date and you're sharing traumas and life stories? You're trying to create a connection, when you should be creating attraction. Just have fun. Get her laughing and do something fun together. You don't have to know that much about each other. She's just a girl you went on one date with. Make her want you to take her out again. If she wants to see you, she'll be the one to reach out. I'd find it a bit crazy for a woman to start talking about marriage and children on the first date...and almo…	/r/seduction	09/10/22 01:54 AM
16	Best compliments to give during making out/sex It should be organic. You're complimenting her on what you're really thinking/feeling. So her body, how she looks and smells and tastes and feels, how good she makes you feel, how you feel when you're together etc. I think your compliments should help her overcome any insecurities she might have. But, use words sparingly. You're complimenting her non-verbally. How you kiss her and touch her, is a compliment in of itself. Also, your desire for her. Let her feel it, in how you touch her. I think w…	/r/seduction	09/10/22 12:44 AM
2	How can I (22F) approach guys? What do I do if I catch them staring at me but they never approach me just stare??? Yes, it's definitely your tone. Say it with a laugh or smile. Joking/flirty way. Definitely don't say it angrily or annoyed! Lol	/r/seduction	08/10/22 10:41 PM
1	How can I (22F) approach guys? What do I do if I catch them staring at me but they never approach me just stare??? "Hi! Do you see something you like?" I'd be so embarrassed if a woman I was looking at said that to me, but it would also break the ice so I'd be comfortable talking with her.	/r/seduction	08/10/22 10:20 PM
5	I think I just (miserably) failed an occasion to get laid Lying on her bed, sounds kind of intimate. If a woman's on my bed, or I'm on hers and I like her, I'm going to at least try cuddling. Never pass up an opportunity. I'm like you, where my natural instinct is to be the nice guy who doesn't try anything. But, I've recently learned that if you like her, it's better to just make a move. What's the worst that could happen? She cuts you out of her life? I've found that it's not a big deal, especially if you have other options.	/r/seduction	08/10/22 03:21 AM
2	Kind PUA Focus on her, not her pleasure. Like when you're licking her clitoris, focus on the clitoris, how it tastes and how she looks, moves and sounds. She will feel your desire for her. Don't ever think, "Man, I'm going to make her cum licking her down here!	/r/seduction	06/10/22 10:45 PM
1	Kind PUA Like, "I'm gonna make you cum!" No. Definitely not. Now she's under pressure to cum and you're under pressure to follow through on your promise.	/r/seduction	06/10/22 10:33 PM
3	Kind PUA Sounds good for the most part, except you should never focus on making her cum. Focus on her, your desire for her, how she feels and tastes, smells, how her touch feels etc.You might be able to make her cum with technique alone, but you'll really make her cum by not focusing on it.	/r/seduction	06/10/22 10:21 PM
1	As a woman, I've noticed some things. Why do (some) men do this? Good question. This year, I've been doing a lot of self reflection and realizing a lot of things about myself. One of the things I realized is how my religious upbringing kind of messed me up. It wasn't as bad as a lot of people have experienced, but I still got an understanding that there was a right way and a wrong way to live one's life. In addition, I was concerned about what others thought of me. Most of the people I knew were religious, especially relatives, and I wanted their approval. Th…	/r/seduction	05/10/22 02:45 PM
5	As a woman, I've noticed some things. Why do (some) men do this? It's because they don't know what they want in a relationship. I'm almost 49 and I'm just starting to figure relationship stuff out for myself. This year I've had a paradigm shift in my thinking, where I've stopped thinking marriage is the ultimate goal and now see the potential for having different types of sexual/romantic relationships with women, all equally good and important. The important thing is to be upfront with her about what's happening, so we're on the same page. I'm not about hurti…	/r/seduction	05/10/22 06:22 AM
9	Do you ever feel like its too much pressure to be good in bed as a male? It can be, especially if a woman tells you about her previous experiences and how great they were. But, here's what you do: get all of that shit out of your head. There are no expectations. Just focus on each other's bodies. Focus on what you're experiencing as you touch her body, and she touches yours. As long as you aren't thinking about what you want to happen(e.g. making her have a squirting orgasm) or afraid to happen(e.g. she crowns you "worst lover ever") and are thinking about your desir…	/r/seduction	04/10/22 03:07 AM
1	How does one stop missing sex and dating? I had two back to back 2 year relationships, and a casual fling from 2003-2007. I spent 2007-2013, focused on my daughter and my career. I rarely thought about sex or dating, but after a while I got lonely. I started dating again in late 2013. But, staying busy and having a healthy social life, is a surefire way of not being focused on sex and relationships.	/r/seduction	02/10/22 05:35 AM
1	How do you not become bitter? Being bitter doesn't do you any favors. When you talk to a woman, she can sense your insecurities because of the way you carry yourself and your mind game. You're setting yourself up for failure. You need to develop a new mindset. Watch movies with actors who are short and not traditionally attractive, but they get women. Make Danny DeVito your new hero. If women were only attracted to tall, super attractive men, men like Danny Devito would never get laid. Sure, he's a famous actor/producer/dire…	/r/seduction	27/09/22 04:00 AM
3	How to get over being rejected by a girl I thought was in my league Move onto other women! That's how you get over rejection. The problem when we're first starting out dating, is we focus all our energy on one woman and when we get rejected it's the end of the world! Think about all of the hot, single women out there and how they could be potential gfs. Most of them are probably better than the woman who rejected you. You just need confidence and learn how to attract women.	/r/seduction	25/09/22 02:13 AM
10	Went on a date with a girl, I think I was being too much of a nice guy. She’s been dry on the text backs. Is this a bad sign? The problem is we generally try to make a connection the first date, rather than creating attraction. We tell our dates our life story, want to hear hers and listen to her problems. We're often too agreeable, when she says something we disagree with. If she shit tests us, we become defensive. We try too hard to impress her. She's our only option, so we come across as too needy in person and in our texts. My guess is she's not feeling it. Move onto other women. If she replies back, act as if she'…	/r/seduction	24/09/22 06:03 PM
-1	When a girl brings up a perceived weakness of yours… twice Probably a shit test to see how insecure you are. Just treat it with humor. You can say something like, "Just think, I can wax my head and bend down and you can use my head as a make-up mirror!"	/r/seduction	24/09/22 05:10 PM
2	If I delete all my social media, will it make dating significantly harder? I recently read something that was interesting about social media and dating. A woman will get a dozen texts from men she gave her phone number to the night before. But, rarely does anyone ask her for her social media. When you message her on fb messenger or IG, you stand out. She can also see your profile and it helps her remember who you are. I rarely ask a woman for her number and get her social media instead.	/r/seduction	24/09/22 03:16 PM
18	Don't women get bored of the same questions. I would think that they do get bored. That's why you don't ask the same boring questions. When you approach a woman, you're doing so in a spirit of fun. Guys generally approach a woman and try to create a connection. That's boring. Be the fun guy who says something way out of left field. Openers: "Is your name, Angie?" Probably isn't. Tell her you recently read an article about doppelgangers, people who aren't related but look alike and their amazing similarities. Tell her she looks like your ch…	/r/seduction	24/09/22 02:56 PM
2	I don't think i have any chances at hookups, only LTR's Buy the Friends With Benefits System by Mike Haines. https://friendswithbenefitsnow.com Unfortunately you have to sit through that video and it's kind of bs, but the system itself is solid. Also, you can change your appearance to look less nerdy and more cool. For examples, look at before and after photos of writer Neil Strauss. You can find them online. Just type "Neil Strauss" "The Game". Also check out actor Martin Starr. See how he looked in Freaks And Geeks vs Silicon Valley. You have to re…	/r/seduction	24/09/22 03:52 AM
1	"I'm busy this weekend, but maybe next weekend" ... is this legit or a soft-rejection? Right. Have a fun ten minute convo that creates attraction and interest and ask her out. There's no need to text for hours, days or weeks. You have better things to do. Keep in mind it's just a date. You're just having fun. Your messages to her should convey fun. If you're talking about boring stuff like work, she's probably not going to be interested. By talking about fun stuff, like mutual hobbies and interests and use humor, you're more likely to gain her interest and get a date. My point was…	/r/seduction	20/09/22 07:53 PM
49	"I'm busy this weekend, but maybe next weekend" ... is this legit or a soft-rejection? I agree with those who say you make one offer. She can make a counter offer, like, "I'm sorry, that doesn't work for me. How about..." But, saying things like, "No, I'm out of town that night" sounds like lack of interest to me. I once had a woman cancel on me, but reschedule immediately and then she paid for our date. Women who are interested in going out will generally make time and not give vague answers.	/r/seduction	20/09/22 03:35 AM
9	Is intelligent conversation generally a turnoff? In the very early stages of dating, you're creating attraction and just having fun. Save the deep convos for later. If you're at a party and you meet a woman and you start having a serious convo about philosophy, you're generally going to lose her to the guy who's making her laugh, teasing her and showing her a good time. That's because the latter guy is creating attraction, while you're creating a connection. Attraction first, connection later.	/r/seduction	19/09/22 04:37 AM
3	Should I Join A Church Group Just For The Purpose Of Meeting Women? Nope. They want to date Christian guys with the purpose of marrying them. If they're part of a church group on campus, it means they're really religious. It also wouldn't surprise me if they have a lot of sexual hang ups. It's not worth it to sit through a bunch of religious bs to score with a young co-ed who is afraid of sinning sexually. I come from a Christian background and when I lost my virginity to my Christian girlfriend, she started crying because she felt we were sinning. You don't nee…	/r/seduction	19/09/22 03:39 AM
1	I feel like I have missed the boat when it comes to dating. And once that ship has sailed, it is never coming back. What advice do you have? You can always learn and improve. I asked my first girl out at 19(she said no) and didn't have anything resembling a gf until I was 27. I'm not sure the severity of your autism. Would you ever be able to move away from your parents or get a better job? Even if moving away from your parents and changing jobs is an impossibility, there are many men with gfs in a similar situation. Are there Singles With Autism groups in your area? You need to realize that you're not as unattractive as you think. T…	/r/seduction	16/09/22 06:44 AM
1	How can I stop imagining my entire life with a girl I know online? My ex girlfriend introduced her to me and we've only been interacting on social media Yeah...I used to do that with women I met online. I would get infatuated and think about the life we'd have together. It's a fantasy and it stems from not having a lot of options. If you have more options, this is less likely to happen. You aren't going to see this woman for three years and you're going to focus only on her? Don't do it! It's very possible that you'll meet and have zero chemistry. As you date women here in the US, you are going to find the women from "back home" are generally no…	/r/seduction	16/09/22 05:06 AM
1	Confessing my feelings tomorrow It depends on how she responds when you ask her. If she responds positively, bring a blanket if it gets cold and you can snuggle together. Also buy her concessions, preferably fries or something you can share. Just have fun! If she's like, "I just want to be friends" hang out like you would a guy friend. Assuming you still want to be friends and she's not weirded out by your date suggestion.	/r/seduction	13/09/22 01:40 PM
1	Confessing my feelings tomorrow That's cool that you have the courage to tell her how you feel. I had so many fears and insecurities when I was your age, that I didn't do anything! I worked with the best looking girl in school and I rarely spoke to her! But, I wouldn't tell her how you feel. I would show her. Say, "Hey, there's a game Friday night. I'd like to go with you." She might ask if it's a date and you answer yes. She might reject you, but the problem is if you say no, you've mislead her and it's going to suck because …	/r/seduction	13/09/22 12:02 PM
1	If the first text you sent to a girl was "nice meeting you, (her name)!" shortly after getting her number, and she didn't respond, would you send another text or just give up? How are you exchanging numbers? One way is to have her put her name and number in your phone and have her text herself and you do likewise on her phone. Secondly, your interaction should be very memorable to her, so she wants to text you again. More importantly, meet again. None of this "nice meeting you last night" a day later.	/r/seduction	13/09/22 09:23 AM
4	So 8 days ago a random girl approached me and said something….interesting to me. What did she mean? What should I have done? Definitely hitting on you. I was just like you in high school. Had a lot of insecurities and fears. Worked with the best looking girl in school and hardly said a word to her. So many missed opportunities in my younger years. When a girl approaches you with a compliment, look her directly in the eye and have a conversation with her. You could have said anything. What was on your shirt? If it was a band, you could have asked her, "Do you like --?" Or if it was a polo shirt, "it's the buttons, am I…	/r/seduction	11/09/22 07:54 AM
2	Toxic advice in the book "models" I read The As If Principle by Richard Wiseman, which talks about how touching creates feelings of attraction. But it also talks about everything we do begins with a behavior and then our subconscious creates a reason why. So, with that knowledge, how can you spark attraction in a woman? I'm always reading books and buying products from dating coaches on creating attraction. I recently bought the Friends With Benefits System by Mike Haines. He has a lot of good ideas about approaching women in pu…	/r/seduction	11/09/22 03:23 AM
3	How do I get over the fact that I won't have sex until I'm a adult in my 20s and missed out on sex and dating as a teenager? I had a lot of insecurities and fears in high school. I had a fear of rejection and being horribly embarrassed. Everything was in my head and as I later learned, rejection isn't that bad and sometimes women change their minds. Even if my peers ragged on me for who I liked and rumors went around school about us, it wouldn't have been as bad as I imagined they would be. Even embarrassment caused by my parents, wouldn't have been that bad. But, at the time rejection and embarrassment were huge in m…	/r/seduction	10/09/22 06:39 PM
2	Toxic advice in the book "models" You have to be very organic with everything you do. In the above scenario, suddenly putting your arm around a woman is creepy. You can't lead with that. You're having a convo with a woman and there should be a lot of laughter. You're making each other laugh. Women have a tendency to touch a guy who makes them laugh. You can touch her arm or hand too as you're laughing. "Oh my God, that's so funny!"(touch arm) It should be natural. You're talking about something and you are in agreement, instead …	/r/seduction	10/09/22 05:27 PM
36	How do I get over the fact that I won't have sex until I'm a adult in my 20s and missed out on sex and dating as a teenager? I didn't have anything resembling a gf until I was 27 and she was the first woman I went down on. Two years later, at 29, I lost my full virginity to another gf. 20 years later and I haven't been with a lot of women. Do I sometimes wish I knew what I know now, back in high school? Yes, sometimes, but I have the mindset now that I'm much better off and have the skills to attract an awesome woman to be in a great, ltr with.	/r/seduction	10/09/22 05:32 AM
2	Toxic advice in the book "models" The way we process attraction in real time, is if I kiss a woman, I do so because I'm attracted to her. What's really going on is I kiss a woman, and my brain creates a story such as, "I'm kissing her, so I must be attracted to her." I think in the scenario mentioned in the paragraph, the woman will only feel arousal if he has initiated physical touch or attraction cues prior to him putting his arm around her. The key is to talk to the woman and lead her through attraction cues. The more he can …	/r/seduction	10/09/22 05:20 AM
14	Advice on age gap I find women closer in age to me more attractive. Women/girls in the 18-25 range usually lack maturity and I feel like they're my daughters. I might find them physically attractive, but that's not enough for me. I'm certainly not thinking about fertility. I don't want any more children! My daughter is enough!	/r/seduction	07/09/22 07:09 PM
7	Need advice for seducing my live-in nanny You're her employer. She might feel obligated to sleep with you because she's afraid of losing her job. This job is important to her and her family. Don't be the guy who uses his power to manipulate women to sleep with them.	/r/seduction	07/09/22 04:48 PM
16	Advice on age gap There's not much of an age difference between 18 and 28. However, there might be a maturity issue. I'm 48 and I like women who are close in age to me. An 18 year old is too close in age to my own daughter. I choose to be a mentor to girls that young.	/r/seduction	07/09/22 04:12 PM
1	What’s the point in working on yourself if you have women dating guys that don’t? Work on yourself for you. I don't know about you, but I have a lot of goals I have yet to achieve. I know when I achieve my goals, I'll also attract the kind of woman I want to be with. After you're in a relationship, you continue working on yourself. That's very attractive. I wonder how long the relationships last where the guy doesn't work on himself? Maybe he's able to get a woman to go out with him or have sex with him, but is it long term? My guess it's not.	/r/seduction	06/09/22 08:28 AM
1	How much time should I spend with her exactly? Depends on what you want. If you want sex, it's going to be an hour at least. A phone number and a set up for a date, at least 10 minutes.	/r/seduction	01/09/22 06:22 AM
4	Is it possible to tell that you're just looking for fun with no commitment without the other person feeling like a toy? Ok...she's receiving sexual pleasure from you too!	/r/seduction	28/08/22 03:39 AM
4	It's not that 'nice guys' finish last, it's men who only act nice as a result of them being too weak to stand up for themselves or their beliefs that will lack success. I agree with what people have said about doing nice things for a woman, in order to get her attention. Do nice things because you want to. Imagine that you knew she would reject you, no matter what you said or did. Nice guys often become infatuated with one woman and end up overdoing it on the gifts and favors, they text too much, and like and comment on her social media posts. They become too available and agreeable. They become overbearing in their availability and boring in their agreeability…	/r/seduction	27/08/22 11:50 PM
3	My school is having a welcome week event. Any advice on what I should do to maximize my chances of getting a number/date/laid etc. I agree with everyone that you should use the opportunity to mingle with everyone and increase your social circle on campus.	/r/seduction	27/08/22 11:34 PM
14	Is it possible to tell that you're just looking for fun with no commitment without the other person feeling like a toy? I wouldn't talk about relationship goals right away. You meet a woman, strike up a convo, get her interested/attracted, lead her around the bar or club, suggest you leave together and have sex with her. As long as you didn't drug her or take advantage of her drunkenness, and it was consensual, she shouldn't feel anymore like a toy than you do. She's using you for her sexual pleasure too! After a few more hook-ups, she might ask about relationship goals and then you tell her(after sex) that you l…	/r/seduction	27/08/22 11:24 PM
3	36F here and I would love a cold approach but in an appropriate manner. I don't know what you're experiencing. Like overly sexual? I'm hesitant to approach women in public, because I don't think they want to be bothered. But, one of these days, I'm going to approach an attractive woman in a bookstore, who's in a section that contains my interests, namely theatre, acting, writing or film...maybe horror. I've been studying flirting and attraction methods taught by various teachers(men and women) and I have a pretty good idea what methods would work best for me, but it…	/r/seduction	26/08/22 06:11 AM
1	Had sex with an attractive girl now i'm depressed. Try using The Friends With Benefits System by Mike Haines. You'll be hooking up with hot, healthy girls in no time!	/r/seduction	23/08/22 07:12 AM
1	Men of Reddit, what are some of the best places to meet and interact with women? Make a list of the non-physical qualities you're looking for in a woman, and write a paragraph or two about what you're looking for in a relationship. I have very specific qualities I'm looking for in a woman and what I want to happen in a relationship. I won't settle for anything less than what I want. I have to work hard on myself to attract the kind of woman I want and it might mean that I'll be single for quite a while, but over the years I've settled for less and just wound up in dead-end r…	/r/seduction	21/08/22 07:26 AM
1	Won't I bother a girl if I approach her without her saying if she actually wants to be approached beforehand? Start talking to everyone, even if it's just a hello. At stores and restaurants you frequent, get to know the employees names. After a while, approaching a woman is second nature. They'll probably approach you too, because they'll sense a lot of positive energy from you.	/r/seduction	09/08/22 04:50 PM
1	Do you need to make friends before trying to date? I currently have zero A woman doesn't want to think she's the only thing you've got going for you. If you have no other friends, you become clingy and it's a turn-off. Work on your goals and interests, join a meet-up group. Read Maximum Achievement by Brian Tracy and How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie.	/r/seduction	09/08/22 04:26 PM