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| 1 | Would you trust them?Maybe your therapist is saying you're letting these beliefs affect your outlook on life in a negative way. I think there's some truth to it, but I've also come to believe youth, like beauty, is influenced by a state of mind. When you act trusting, sweet, faithful, open minded, it's associated with youth and is therefore attractive. Same as when you act attractively (assuming positive intentions, being confident) they associate it with beauty. An older single woman has the stereotype that they mu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/23 05:39 AM |
| 2 | Becoming a stepmother the RPW way.What would happen if you yielded to the stepson? Listened to him and asked him questions and take him seriously? "Oh you think our budget should be x dollars, why is that?" I don't have children so I'm not sure where is the line between being the model of punishment and control vs when to treat them respectfully like little adults What I do know is people act like little kids when they feel disrespected and hurt. Of course this kid is extra hurt. He probably feels unimportant. He couldn't do any… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/23 12:18 AM |
| 4 | How can I be a better girlfriend and become his wife some dayThere's the general things, like being loyal, being pretty, learning to cook, clean, and take care of yourself. But beyond that I think it's self defeating to try and cater yourself to a guy, because they'll feel it if you're insecure and inauthentic. The best thing you can do is be yourself, be relaxed and comfortable. Hold yourself to a high standard of integrity and values. He can take it or leave it. Pressuring a guy to get married or changing yourself for him is not attractive (different fr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/22 04:38 AM |
| 0 | Trauma, high libido, insecurity questionThank you :) I know I have kind of unconventional views on some things, that I think may be helpful if more widely known. I'm glad to have the opportunity to talk about them somewhere. Thank you for making it feel a bit safer to share my thoughts. I obviously mean no ill will with my post. I'm not condemning her or anyone. I'm saying this stuff comes from personal experience. I know that it feels shameful to admit to wanting sex more, when the cultural norm is that women are always turning the g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/22 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Trauma, high libido, insecurity questionI agree with your views, I feel like you have misunderstood my view point. I think in a healthy relationship both partners will naturally and easily get the amount of sex that satisfies them. I didn't say women don't desire sex. I wouldn't give her advice on how to become more desirable and make sex more enjoyable if I didn't assume she wanted sex. I didn't say she should never have an orgasm. I think when their relationship is on better terms, he will easily want to please her and take as long … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/22 04:22 AM |
| 1 | Your definition of conventional feminine interestsMakeup Fashion Arts and crafts Yoga Collecting (crystals, dolls, etc.) Baking Cooking Sewing Storytelling, writing, filming youtube storytimes Dancing Honestly arts and crafts is a huge one. I think it's a woman's privilege that we can devote ourselves to aesthetic pursuits, the finer things in life, luxurious things like a taste in art, while men have to worry about making a living. I think they love that about us. They want us to worry about the right shade of pastel purple for a painting or t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/22 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Where do I find an actually helpful therapist that won't tell me that there is nothing wrong with me and iT iS oKaY tO fEeL wHat I fEeL?Omg haha I went through the same thing, like 30 therapists and about 5 or 6 that I saw for a long period of time Get a life coach. Those crazy bastards change your life completely in an unimaginably short period of time. Cause they can tell you what works, instead of what is approved by educational systems and an industry. The very thing that makes people turn their noses at life coaches (that they're usually not accredited by any institution) is actually their greatest advantage that they can f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/22 04:06 AM |
| 3 | My partner has “Peter Pan Syndrome” and I feel guilty for wanting to leave because of that.What was his place like before you moved in? Was he capable of keeping the place to his liking? If he was never able to hold down the fort, he can't blame you. Are his standards of cleanliness higher than yours? And this has to be before you moved in. He can't just expect you to be his maid if he can't even do it himself. If his standards are higher than yours and you are causing the mess, you may need to clean it up or consider budgeting for a housekeeper if it's too high of a standard for you.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/22 03:55 AM |
| 3 | Disagreements over who should payReassure him that you love him and you want to see him, but the tickets are just out of your budget right now and you want him to pay. You just can't pay right now. You can even go so far as to subtly hint that he would be your hero if he could pay for your tickets. I mean, can he afford it? If he really can't, don't be disappointed but you don't have to force yourself to pay. You'll be too resentful if you did. And that's not very authentic of you. It's better to authentically say no to tickets… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/22 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Disagreements over who should payI just wanted to say I love your response. I never thought about how when women are pushy for things or if they pay for parts of it, he will never get to prove for himself how much he really wants you I also wanted to add for OP that even if a guy is grumpy about needing to pay for her tickets, a win is a win 🤣 let a man complain and don't take no for an answer. I may be stubborn in that I know if I paid for tickets I didn't want to pay for, I'd be too resentful, so I'd rather not go at all. If … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/22 03:34 AM |
| 2 | Trauma, high libido, insecurity questionI'm sorry that you're struggling in this area. Yes I think if you had a perspective and mindset shift you will feel better and things will be easier. My reply will be long because this issue is very similar to how I used to be and I have studied it up and down. Here is the root of the problem 1. Recognize that women don't want sex, they are actually seeking validation. 2. Having less of it makes sex with you more valuable and enjoyable for him 1: biologically speaking, women risk a long term con… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/22 03:20 AM |
| 1 | Do all men lack sexual boundaries?I would say yes, men are sexually "depraved" (they just want it more) relative to women, but no, ones who are emotionally mature should have boundaries. I used to be upset like you are about how obsessed with sex men are, but I have read some female-centered relationship books and this was designed and exploited by women to get what they want from men. There's a joke that men can't be house husband because when they want something from a woman they can't just with-hold sex. I also think your dat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/22 04:02 PM |
| 9 | Should I just keep faking it?I think just fake it. As a professional, you put your work ahead of your own ego. People who make their art all about themselves, how liberal and feminist they are, probably aren't good artists and need the extra attention and edge being popular is. What you believe is none of their business. If you're really good at art, you can be as authentic as you want, and people have no choice but to support you because you're the top 1%. I'm quite certain some of the top artists are based but don't talk … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/22 08:29 PM |
| 1 | A little inspiration (from the woman not to be)I'm glad it helped! My life coach actually recommended it to me! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/22 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Every other thing we talk about turns into an argument. It wasn’t like this before, how do I fix it?whoa this is actually a big clue on why he's talking over you and disrespecting your opinions. He feels like a lesser man next to you, so he HAS TO put you down or disagree with you. That's why I think being the first to prophylactically build him up will help. If you're always like "you're the smartest man in the world" and "you're so smart" "you're the best man ever" etc. etc. he won't feel the need to defend himself around you, he'll know you already respect him and think the best of him. Sin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/22 08:28 PM |
| 5 | Every other thing we talk about turns into an argument. It wasn’t like this before, how do I fix it?They feel disrespected when you offer suggestions and opinions different from their own. It's funny I can kind of tell you're in a negative state too because you've asked "how would the world function if men are just constantly offended by discussing things?" which has an emasculating implication that they're too weak and sensitive. I think to answer that question, yes, you can show a different viewpoint by asking like "how do men receive different view points and opinions without feeling emascu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/22 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Losing weight in order to secure a better future?I have such a history with weight loss... I used to be the fattest girl in school and that greatly impacted my self esteem, and I still have a bit of a complex about it. Being fat signifies that nobody loves you - your parents didn't care that you were ostracized, and you overate due to emotional issues. You clearly don't love yourself. So men see it as a gut feeling of "Stay away, this woman is unworthy on some level". If you can't love yourself, no one else will find a reason to. Then, I had a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/22 07:26 PM |
| 2 | Appreciation postThank you :) I realize redpillwomen get confused with redpill; because it seems like "these women must hate themselves to be attracted to men who only want to spin plates!" when I realized that's not true! redpillwomen is totally different and it's about opening your eyes to see what works in attracting and keeping good, long term relationships that benefit women! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/22 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Redpill and perfectionismI think the final pill there is about femininity is that the most feminine thing you can do is be confident and love yourself. Because from the root of that comes all the outpouring of taking beautiful care of yourself, patience, kindness, and empathy that makes you so compatible and attractive to men. The thing about website and YouTube traffic is whatever makes people the most emotional and insecure is what keeps them clicking. Manosphere youtubers thrive off men edging their rage at low value… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/22 07:14 PM |
| 8 | Every other thing we talk about turns into an argument. It wasn’t like this before, how do I fix it?If things are getting hostile, I think you need to be the initiative in instilling good will. You cannot just be equal/reciprocal at this moment, you need to flood him with good will (thanking him, praising him, showing respect) Set a timer on your phone to give him thanks, appreciation, or respect 3x a day. In Gottman's research, you need 5:1 interactions of positive to negative, so you can add to the 5 by giving him compliments regularly. Also apologize for times you have been disrespectful to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/22 06:38 PM |
| 7 | Should a woman go "the extra mile" for a man during the vetting phase? RPW and TRP opinions welcome.I was exactly like you in the past!! NOOO STOP!!! I learned that doing too much for a man is a turn off. Most men are raised to believe that they're worthless unless they're useful, so they're confused if a woman starts off wanting to help him! They wonder if there's something wrong with the woman that she has to "try so hard to get him" This puts them on edge. On the other end, being too demanding and entitled also puts them on edge. The happy middle ground is reciprocity. Consistency in it is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/22 06:18 PM |
| 1 | He’s perfect but not financially stable. Am I wasting my time?This is the first relationship I'm going to say no, you're wasting your time to. Because it doesn't sound like you love him, you desire marriage and family more, and that's okay. If you loved HIM you may stay and figure out how to get him to be a provider. But you value family and marriage more, so the advice should be to find a guy who is also aligned with your goals. Honestly if he really wanted to make youtube work, he needs a good work ethic. The creators I know who all made it didn't quit t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/22 06:20 PM |
| 2 | Dating a new guy that's ultra private. Never done this before. How do I proceed given how expressive I am?My opinion is a bit different... I'm the type who likes private, reserved guys. If he is that way to every woman, that actually gives me a sense of safety that it would be harder to cheat if it is so hard to get to him. Other men may lavish words and get you to marry them in 2 weeks, but do they really mean it? Men who know how to womanize could womanize anybody. As you mentioned, he has lots of good traits like being sweet and diligent in his work. When you mentioned hand holding to him, he pau… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/22 06:06 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on invasive cosmetic procedures?Cosmetic procedure changed my life 🥰 I couldn't be more grateful for it! Although what I got done on my face was natural and people often say they can't even tell I had surgery, the most important thing was the mental shift in myself. It gives me confidence. I feel like I've invested in myself and I'm worthy. I used to feel inferior to other women and now I feel normal. I think what fixed was on the inside. I felt good enough to dress and act feminine, and to symbolically leave behind the "ugly"… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/22 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Advice for a low-value woman?I'm really sorry to hear you classify yourself as low value. You don't know how valuable you really are! As long as you offer companionship, the ability to receive, and sometimes, fertility, THAT is what men look for in a woman and it makes you intrinsically valuable no matter what. Ever wonder why men would pay thousands to keep around sugar babies who have no jobs and do nothing around the house? Why there are men who would do all of the chores and breadwinning to keep their marriage? Female c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/22 05:30 PM |
| 2 | I like a little jealousy and possessiveness in a relationship, but am I wrong to consider this too much?I agree with the other comments that he seems too insecure and controlling to be in a relationship with you. I feel like he should have known what kind of girl he signed up for. It drives me crazy when men want a traditional, modest girl and hunt for them through Instagram pics. They should just go for the women who dresses the way they like to begin with. Doyle may advocate for you to continue dressing how you like and using social media the way you like because it makes you happy. Perhaps over… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/22 04:43 PM |
| 11 | A little inspiration (from the woman not to be)Omg I used to be that kind of woman / I used to think that kind of relationship was something to aspire to. I remember my line of thinking was "if he can handle my 'honest opinions' and at my worst then that's true love" I learned in the book The Queen's Code that when men submit to you, that earns you compliance, not love. I was quite horrified to learn that. I wouldn't want somebody that I want to love me to just be swallowing his ego and suplicating me. I agree with the sentiment not to look … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/22 04:18 PM |
| 1 | I can't seem to properly console people. Ladies, could you help me?People want validation before they want advice. When they feel like they haven't been fully understood yet, your advice will fall on deaf ears and it just sounds like "you're so stupid to have not tried this yet" or "oh your problem is not so tough I already have a solution for it." I only learned this lesson when I realized the greatest advice I ever received was when I went looking for it, not from my friends. My friends provided wonderful sympathy. So I realized between people, it's probably … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/22 05:42 AM |
| 1 | I have a higher libido than my bf but I still caught him wathching porn instead of having sex with meI'm very sorry you walked in on him watching porn, that must've really hurt. Sometimes people make promises and don't know that they won't be able to keep them. I have learned this in my own relationship, and from reading "Fascinating Womanhood" that men make mistakes because they're human. You become much more attractive to them and receive greater gifts when you have a forgiving attitude. Our blue pilled world of fear and self interest thinks that when we forgive somebody, we'll get hurt even … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/22 05:17 AM |
| 4 | I have a higher libido than my bf but I still caught him wathching porn instead of having sex with meIt's okay to feel guilty! I felt that way too when I first learned all the mistakes I made. I think it takes tremendous growth to step towards an apology too. You're well on your way to a better relationship, if you choose to stay with him. Of course it's your prerogative to leave him too, my perspective was with the understanding that you want to stay. Guilt is empowering because it shows you have increased in knowledge and power, you are able to see how your actions and mindset contributed to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/22 04:59 AM |
| 4 | I have a higher libido than my bf but I still caught him wathching porn instead of having sex with meI do feel sympathy that you feel insecure about his porn use but I want to gently point out where you may be wrong and how you can feel happier and more secure by changing your attitude about things: You assume that everybody quits porn when they get into a relationship, but it is controlling to force this idea onto him. Not everybody thinks this way. He assumed you wouldn't care, or because you used to watch porn, meaning he did not intentionally mean to hurt you. He thinks it's okay in his hea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/22 07:55 PM |
| 6 | I have a higher libido than my bf but I still caught him wathching porn instead of having sex with mePorn is addictive, and like all addictions, is triggered by negative feelings. Guilting or shaming him makes him want to run away to porn even more. I've had periods of using it myself when I was single, and hence read the entire "easy way to stop porn" guide, but I still browse it occasionally because it doesn't affect my libido and I currently have medical issues that prevent sex. The bf quit porn on his own when he got into a relationship with me, which is why I think my advice may help, but … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/22 07:39 PM |
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