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2	The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamy Please recieve the mental image of that meme of two very brawny armed individuals clasping hands. In a more just world, corporations that know their products can be misused should have some personal stake in protecting the consumer who trusts the service to have basic standards of conduct for its users, especially when the stated end goal is in-person interaction. That is not where we are now but I think broad awareness is a key part of getting there. I think it is reasonable and forward thinkin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/25 05:53 AM
2	The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamy I didnt intend to leave this unacknowledged, apologies. On this, we are agreed, and I'd argue given the identity leaks, it's likely already caused major risk to some.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/25 05:07 AM
1	The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamy Please find the words "good idea" in any of my responses.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 03:55 PM
1	The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamy One might argue that society is the male analogy, but that is ultimately a different conversation and imo, not worth having. We literally agree the Tea app will not provide longterm benefit and may even actively harm, please stop acting like I feel otherwise. You cannot highlight the failure of women using this app to observe consent for the sake of personal safety and then rugsweep the lack of consent that fomented it. They are related and dependent on one another. Shut down the app- there will…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 03:52 PM
1	The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamy There is a wide gulf between "okay" and "understandable". This app exists in a context, and it is one that has not valued women's consent, historically and contemporarily. Of course men deserve consent- but when "consent" as a cultural value has been so eroded, it seems silly to me to expect that women will hold the line on a standard of behavior that is actively disadvantaging them and not being adequately observed in their preferred dating pool. As I mentioned before, this app is a reaction to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 03:41 PM
2	The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamy I don't know where I said it can't get worse? I didn't, I literally said I don't think this is good for anybody. Like, just because I can reason how this happened and what it's rooted in, doesn't mean I think it's a net positive. I just think that without a meaningful solution to the actual issue this app tries to mitigate, we will continue to see people race to the bottom in an attempt to keep from being taken advantage of. FWIW, I don't have a solution either, but I think thats the harder but …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 03:32 PM
1	The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamy I also think some folks are also just emotionally unavailable and mistake that as an issue in their dating pool tbh, and I think its an equal opportunity blind spot. After all, if you're emotionally unavailable it's really hard to tell- it's often more about looking at your patterns of behavior over time, which a disproportionate focus on the "other" can help you avoid.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:57 PM
–	The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamy Lmfao, I won't lie, this is the truth. I have quite a few gay male friends. One of them married a man I considered very handsome and he was straight sized- and he's an absolute delight to boot, cooks amazing food, sweet and kind- I'd be lying if I didnt say I had a moment of envy here and there. A mutual gay friend, when we were commenting on their upcoming wedding, literally says "It's so heartening to see X is so much less shallow." Clearly Implying the choice of partner wasn't up to snuff, lo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:49 PM
-5	The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamy For once, the notallmen tag is applicable here. Not all men are on this app getting roasted- so, no, an entire group is not being punished. What's more, this app is also used to indicate that someone is a safe and considerate date. Would those men have something to say if the feedback was "made sure we both got off"? I'm not sure about that. The point being made was that men do have these same systems, oftentimes far more harmful, and have for a long time. Women who use this app are not uniquely…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:24 PM
-7	The new Tea app kinda proves hypergamy I don't use the Tea app nor do I care to, but this claim that men do not have their own groups in the wake of Gisele Pellicot and the discovery of the Telegram "Rape Chats" that totaled over 70k members is not factual. Reddit itself is often used as a hub to disseminate nonconsensual sexual imagery to a primarily male user base, as requests for pictures of other men's girlfriends and partners abound, as well as offers to share them- and these are just in cases where it is explicit that there was…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/07/25 02:10 PM
1	Q4W: how common is it that women masturbate without an object of desire? The intent isn't to say that the internet isn't real, it's that it's a part of reality- meaning it isn't accurate to say it represents the whole. Instagram falls under this too. I'm really not saying more than women ARE attracted to men, and I gave a personal anecdote, since I am a woman and I am aware of women who find men attractive, but I am not willing to argue about it- I only offered my perspective because I thought it'd be reassuring. Take care.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/25 07:20 PM
1	Q4W: how common is it that women masturbate without an object of desire? I think its important to remember that the internet isn't an unbiased, random sample of people, and are not necessarily population representative. You're more likely to get disagreements to stated opinions than validation and we subconsciously seek out things that confirm fears and biases we hold- it's human nature and its across the board, no matter how impartial you might think you are or how much you're trying to control for it. The culture of a website and even a forum within the website als…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/25 04:29 PM
1	Q4W: how common is it that women masturbate without an object of desire? I mean, I think of my male partners when I'm masturbating. shrugs	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/25 02:28 AM
1	Are you woried about feminism? Why are we talking about what you think feminists believe? My question was "in what areas do you think men are falling behind women". So yes, your responses were understood to be your beliefs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/25 06:13 AM
1	Are you woried about feminism? If women are powerful, with superior agency to men in every way, why do they need to pretend there is a system that victimizes them? What function do you think that would serve? Actually, we could take this a step further. If we're enslaving men via subterfuge, given our superior role in society, why not outright? Could we not change laws so you are seen as property once we marry you and we can benefit off your labor without needing to worry you'll leave and find another woman to support?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/25 04:27 PM
0	Are you woried about feminism? If men fall behind women in everything, it stands to reason waiting to marry a rich man to exploit would be not be a sound strategy in the slightest, given how few men there would be that would be able to outpace whatever earning potential she would have. If a life of luxury is the aim, as you say, and if men are disadvantaged in every metric, a much sounder strategy would be partnering consistently with gay or bi women, as they would be much more likely to have earning power- and since sex is n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/25 06:49 AM
0	Are you woried about feminism? You contradict your first assertion with the rest of your comment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/25 06:17 AM
1	Are you woried about feminism? I think you're thinking of "equality" which is differentiated from "equity". Equality treats every person the same, regardless of what is needed. Equity acknowledges the differences in what is needed to succeed. Because of this sensitivity, there is able to be a baseline established of what we deem appropriately successful. In a system of "equality", no one should hold more wealth than another in order for everyone to be the same, yes? In a system of "equity" we first have to define the goal- wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 04:14 PM
3	Are you woried about feminism? In what areas do you think men are falling behind women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/25 06:35 AM
1	Are you woried about feminism? I agree equity is likely not achievable but I do think it's pursuit is worthy. I'm not sure it's necessarily always the case sexes must be treated unequally in order to better matters of inequity. For example, our maternal mortality rates (meaning the US) are not equitable when held up to other countries with equal means. The solution here does not lie in treating men differently. Inadequate health care for women requires more research on their bodies- not necessarily less research on men. And m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 03:42 PM
2	Are you woried about feminism? Why is equity not seen as an important goal?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 12:32 AM
2	Q4W: how common is it that women masturbate without an object of desire? Girl, with a résumé like THAT? -it couldn't have been a surprise.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 08:36 AM
3	Q4W: how common is it that women masturbate without an object of desire? My friend, the RomanceBooks subreddit has got everything you will ever need. It is absolutely the horniest sub on this site, and they are passionate about their smut.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 08:25 AM
6	Q4W: how common is it that women masturbate without an object of desire? Women have different arousal tendencies than men that they're often not even aware of or how it works or even that it differs. This is partially because the default understanding of what is sexual is largely informed by a more masculine perspective of desire. I do understand there's a sentiment floating around that women aren't attracted to men, but if I'm having a sexual relationship with a man, I'm not just attracted, I'm wildly attracted, and a huge part of that attraction is who he is. I thi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 08:18 AM
2	Q4W: how common is it that women masturbate without an object of desire? Genuinely made me lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 08:09 AM
3	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies You can feel however you want, and I certainly can't stop you, and you can decide whether or not you want to have sex etc- this is your life, after all. As long as you aren't actively harming others or immiserating them you don't have to like anybody you don't want to. The issue comes when that dislike crosses over into a need to impose your perspectives onto others in order to satisfy this dislike. For instance, if a man told me he wanted to stay single because though he's straight he doesn't e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 07:18 AM
2	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Sure, you don't have to want to have sex. Nobody owes that to anybody. Does celibacy include masturbation? I always thought it was just about sex with others. I know there are toys that can help and from what I hear the prostate orgasm is the best one men can have, but also if you decided not to explore that I obviously dont want to push the issue. Whatever you decide for yourself is ultimately what's best. A life without sex is just as good as one with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 04:35 AM
2	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Again- do you actually care about this, or do you just want someone to be angry with? I provided you with a link last night that shows feminists were talking about this back in 2015. I told you I myself don't support circumcision. Other commenters who are not sympathetic to feminism have even corrected you here. You told me yesterday this was the first time you're hearing of any feminist dissent to circumcision- I'm not surprised now. You seem to have forgotten we even spoke about this at all lo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 04:29 AM
2	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies I also just want to add that some men can orgasm without a penis so maybe that's something you could explore if you're despairing you will never had an orgasm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 04:22 AM
4	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Look, again- why do we have to compare these things are all?? I don't think you can speak for everyone here- only yourself. But I urge you to go ahead and take a poll- ask the men here in this forum if they'd rather be circumcised or castrated. Do you think how you feel doesn't matter unless it's acknowledged you're the worst off??? It stands to reason your dad abdicated some responsibility towards you if he allowed your mother to unilateral decide how to proceed with that decision. Neglect is a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 04:21 AM
4	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Or Gisele Pelicot, drugged by her husband while he allowed men to rape her for over ten years. Over 50 men charged. Or the victims of the men in the Telegram Rape Group Chat, with over 70 000 members once it was uncovered. We can play the oppression Olympics all night. WHY are we playing them? Your pain doesn't erase mine and vice versa. I'm already supportive of your stance but that's not enough. If I don't cosign that you have it worse than 99% of any western woman, we have an issue. Again, wh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 04:08 AM
2	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies The laser point focus on feminism here makes no sense to me. Feminists are actually talking about this. You know who isn't? People who aren't feminist and don't have an interest in a MRM perspective. Yet you have absolutely no derision for those folks, even though they circumcise their children all the time. Feminists are not a dominant population and we often aren't having children. You are railing at boogeyman, insisting we acknowledge you have suffered the most. Why? Do you actually care abou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 03:57 AM
5	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Do you mean like, anything, ever? I can't agree with that. I do think there are worse experiences than circumcision or FGM and some women endure them- also some men. Also, we are women, not females.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 03:54 AM
1	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies By 'anything', I am assuming you mean in the realm of medical procedures, am I correct? Then yes, I do not think women in western societies have any kind of comparable experience to circumcision. There is evidence it's painful and causes trauma to the baby. You're already well aware it can cause complications. It should never have been a routine procedure and it's proliferation was based on pseudoscience and puritanical notions of sexuality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 03:51 AM
3	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Thats unfortunate. I do think it's rather atypical to have a sensationless penis head, as I've typically heard that described as the most sensitive part of a penis, particularly one's that are circumcised. In any case, I am sorry you've been robbed of the full experience of pleasurable sensation. That your mother was a feminist explains why you likely think this is a route feminist perspective when it is not. Did your father support your circumcision as well, or was he in objection?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/25 03:43 AM
6	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies I understand the anatomy. What I am saying is that the most common form of FGM is not hood removal- it is clitoris removal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 05:20 PM
5	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies You're incorrect. Globally, the most common form of FGM is type 1 and type 2 which are partial or total removal of the clitorial hood. The link verifying this is what the comment you replied to is quoting- a source provided by a man who was also claiming this incorrectly. Please update your facts. They are not accurate. <that does not mean circumcision is fine and that it should be practiced.> This is the last line of my comment to you- so, also incorrect, I'm afraid. I can disagree with your in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 05:18 PM
7	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies The equivalent of the procedure detailed in the comment you're responding to would be the total removal of the penis head. Again, as stated in many places, FGM is typically more severe and has higher complications than circumcision- that does not mean circumcision is fine and that it should be practiced.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 05:04 PM
2	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Thank you and likewise! 🤘	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 07:09 AM
1	How would you help an average man get a girlfriend? Next time I see him I'm gonna ask him how he balances his night life with his macros 😎	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 07:07 AM
4	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Aw shit, that's exactly what I did. Sorry friend, you caught a stray here. Reading is fundamental! I need to get myself to BED.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 07:05 AM
5	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies I'm aware that some men are disfigured and have disfunction as a result of circumcision. It's very unfortunate and one salient reason why I don't think it should be practiced.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 07:01 AM
1	How would you help an average man get a girlfriend? Now that I've heard your perspective I definitely think you have the right of it! Mostly I found his perspective bizarre so I was curious what the rationalization was. But correct, none of this does help OP. Sorry OP! Don't listen to that guy's advice, it's not very good at all!!	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 06:55 AM
11	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Hey man, I get it. 1. You did not have all the information and 2. You are frustrated an issue you care about isn't being seen as serious or is being belittled. The good news is, now you have a bit more context for this topic, so I hope it will follow we can update the mindset. It is hard to learn about things that you feel really opposed to. I don't find it easy to consume material from the MRA, but sometimes I think it's good for me to because otherwise I don't have a real idea about what they'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 06:48 AM
1	How would you help an average man get a girlfriend? Tbh, I admit I interpreted the admittedly highly specific man as an "example" for the thought experiment which I saw as transparently hoping to support a conclusion that there is no way to make an average man palatable in the modern dating market... I'm beginning to wonder if I'm insanely jaded. Did not intend to take away from perhaps a genuine request for help and understanding I wrongly misinterpreted.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 06:37 AM
12	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies If the quantity of a sum you're hoping to compare is unknown than you cannot make the comparison in an empirical way. That is my point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 06:33 AM
4	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies You have stated in a few comments that the least severe FGM is the most widely practiced, without caveating what you do here- in some countries. When we look at total numbers on a global scale, they are the least common. This is what I mean by distortion. I don't think you're accurately representing what the data truly reflects in order to make it better support your argument. No hate, but this is harmful as it implies the issue is less severe than it reasonable is. I think its wise to read the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 06:30 AM
4	How would you help an average man get a girlfriend? So then truly the objection is a lack of efficiency, not necessarily a futility to the approach. Might I counter with a context dependent hobby? Because I feel like cosplayers are fucking each other way more than any bar patrons are, yknow?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 06:24 AM
11	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Feminists advocate for male children to remain intact. Here's a random article I googled in 3 seconds from 2015 talking about how male circumcision is a feminist issue and identifying how the MRM is latching onto the issue. I'm not cosigning all of her takes (believe it or not, feminists are not a hivemind simply because we organize) but as you can see, this topic has been one within the online discussion of feminism for at least 10 years and in truth, longer. Many feminist values do not become …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 06:21 AM
3	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Glad to hear it! Bodily autonomy is a very important tenant of feminism, and this issue falls in line with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 06:09 AM
7	How would you help an average man get a girlfriend? I mean, what is the fundamental difference to you between a class or hobby, and a bar?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 06:07 AM
7	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies You're quoting the WHO report, which is the most comprehensive one we have, and they lay this out very clearly in it- the most practiced form of FGM is the partial or total removal of the clitoris. None of this means men should get circumcised or that it doesn't matter. Please do not distort this issue any further than it already has been.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 06:01 AM
11	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Hey, I'm a feminist. Men should not be circumcised at birth unless it would somehow endanger their life. Hope this helps!	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 05:59 AM
3	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies The two you indicate are also the ones that are the least practiced.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 05:57 AM
22	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies This can't be possible because we don't actually know how many nerve endings the clitoris has. Most recently it's been estimated at over 10,000. I do of course need to mention that circumcised men almost always are still able to orgasm and do so at a higher rate than even intact women during sex, and that women who are subject to FGM often lose their ability to orgasm altogether as that is the purpose of the act.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 05:55 AM
5	There is a double standard with how society tolerates women talking about men's bodies vs how society tolerates men talking about women's bodies Yup, and it's off. Like the comment above you says- they don't have to be equally bad to both matter. If you were to do the most commonly practiced form of FGM on a penis, you'd be removing either part or all of the head of the penis. Circumcision sucks, but its way less severe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 05:48 AM
6	How would you help an average man get a girlfriend? So, where do you think you can find women who are looking to socialize in order to flirt with them?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/25 05:44 AM
2	What do you do to be a better partners? OP, I think its OK that you're socially anxious- a lot of women are too, and might appreciate connecting with someone who can understand that experience. Of course working on it would only improve your QOL, but don't think it needs to be solved before you can date. I haven't had many romantic relationships, but I do have a lot of friends and my longest relationship was 13 years. I think the essential components to relating to others on an ongoing basis is curiosity and interest, self knowledge, …	/r/ExRedPill	03/07/24 11:40 PM
2	It's a good idea for men to get practice girlfriends Oh sure, who wants to be misunderstood? We all get a bit essentialist in internet spaces and it's tough to tolerate at times.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 04:29 PM
1	It's a good idea for men to get practice girlfriends Not necessarily. Just because I didn't find someone attractive wouldn't mean I think they're a bad person, or less deserving of respect, consideration and dignity. It doesn't even preclude our connection. The only meaningful take away would be I might not want to have sex with them. I say 'might' because I've found my sense of attraction to someone can develop or change over time as I get to know someone- like most people I imagine. But most folks want the reassurance that sex is on the table …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 04:22 PM
2	It's a good idea for men to get practice girlfriends I don't really believe that men are evil though nor do I think most men treat their relationships this way. I am of course speaking directly to men in this thread that are contemplating this approach, which seems very topical and relevant. I am responding directly to you as well. It's a shame you feel empathy is dead- I don't. I feel sorry you've had life experiences that have pushed you to rationalize cynical behavior in this way. I do not think women are exempt from behaving badly in relations…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 02:41 PM
5	It's a good idea for men to get practice girlfriends I am positive your personality is not repulsive nor are you a worse option for people. I don't say this to erase your pain, which seems deep and intense and difficult to tolerate. I would be afraid too in your shoes, it's reasonable and ok to be afraid when you see something happening for others and not yourself and you so badly want it. It's ok to be angry about it too, I think. Please have some compassion for yourself if you can. This honestly was painful just to read.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 02:25 PM
4	It's a good idea for men to get practice girlfriends I think a more meaningful way to make this point would be to engage with OP and disagree with his perspective directly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 02:19 PM
0	It's a good idea for men to get practice girlfriends Look, I hear what you're saying, but OP also explicitly mentioned "not attractive enough". Since most people are on apps, and the first thing they're assessing are looks, I think this is why this particular point is latched on to. But I do hear your point that someone being a 'bad fit' is multi faceted.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 02:16 PM
3	It's a good idea for men to get practice girlfriends I can see how it would leave the woman unsatisfied but why would it leave you unsatisfied? You can walk away knowing you have more experience. You walk away knowing you were unkind to someone who adored you and now they are devastated. You walk away knowing you've disappointed and hurt someone you likely came to care for. This contributes to a negative concept of self. You walk away not really even knowing anything because you were only ever half in, and so true effort was never on the table. In…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 02:04 PM
3	It's a good idea for men to get practice girlfriends Just chiming in to say, I think its fine the relationships end, and it's actually good that they do if the relationship lacked something fundamental- it helps people understand what they want and grow. The major crux of disapproval is the suggestion to approach relationships with a lack of sincerity or true effort, as this uses people and jades people (and I'll also add- doesn't even give you any real, meaningful relationship experience anyway if that's your approach). BUT, I do see what you're …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 01:49 PM
2	It's a good idea for men to get practice girlfriends If men want to be taken at their word by women, they need that word to have efficacy. Engaging with someone and misrepresenting your feelings to the point that even the premise of the relationship- that you care about them and find them attractive- is a lie is incredibly harmful. You are using them in the most egregious fashion. If your empathy is sincerely so atrophied that you can't imagine why this would hurt, imagine if you found our your friends were just hanging out with you because you ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/24 01:38 PM
1	Are shrinking attention spans having a negative impact on dating? Idk haha, the friends need not be single or even attractive! It's only a suggestion in any case! These kinds of scenarios were how people met each other in the before times, when relational cynicism was much lower. There are advantages- you can see the kind of company someone keeps, whether they even HAVE friends to invite, how they treat them- I personally find meeting new people fun, but I know not everyone does. I'd encourage you to try it before you knock it, but ultimately you are the maste…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 04:43 PM
1	Do men and women have realistic standards for each other? So my point just... went all the way over that head, huh?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 03:41 PM
2	Are shrinking attention spans having a negative impact on dating? Its extremely possible to disagree with this without dehumanizing fat folks ¯_(ツ)_/¯	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 03:39 PM
4	Are shrinking attention spans having a negative impact on dating? I'm sure it's probably at least contributing to it. Meeting total strangers and expecting to foster deep connection right off the bat never was going to be a great formula for success, I think. I think online dating has also maybe fostered some of our worst impulses- a drive for novelty, usually a positive trait, is taken to an extreme where people are now treated as disposable, someone shiny and new around the corner. Dates become commodities. You have the same conversations ten, twenty, thirty…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 03:38 PM
–	How easy is it for you to find a romantic partner who doesn’t hold (what you would consider to be) a dogmatic or cultish ideology? I think that the world has always been this misogynistic, it's just that sexist men are now threatened enough by the strides women have made in the last generation or so to begin showing their teeth, and with the internet allowing for anonymity and access to opinion sharing on a broader level, we are more aware of the hostile viewpoints some men hold. Add to this the actual lost ground of Roe v Wade and some states advocating for the end of no-fault divorce and I think yeah- for women who grew u…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 02:50 PM
6	How easy is it for you to find a romantic partner who doesn’t hold (what you would consider to be) a dogmatic or cultish ideology? Definitely not. If I was pregnant out of wedlock I could be institutionalized and my child forcibly taken. My husband was free to rape me with impunity and no consequence of law. My right to vote was only cemented in the last four years and it was still a very contentious subject. If my husband was an alcoholic, Insane, abusive I could not divorce him. I was deprived of means to meaningfully support myself. Nothing about any of that feels safer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 01:31 AM
9	How easy is it for you to find a romantic partner who doesn’t hold (what you would consider to be) a dogmatic or cultish ideology? How do you know that woman are more afraid now than they ever have been?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/24 12:00 AM
3	What’s your opinion on the 4B movement coming to America? Moving requires capital as does starting your own business. If you are already unable to access financial means, these are already out of reach and therefore, not real options. Also, where might one move to escape prevalent discrimination in a world with no safeguards against it? Imagine if I said- If men don't want to work with women, why don't they just freelance? Can you see how divorced from reality that take is? Women also cannot gender select when it comes to the professional sphere. They …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/24 11:23 PM
6	Do men and women have realistic standards for each other? Nothing is wrong with wanting a slim partner- most people do. The problem is often the justification of this preference by making assumptions and moralizing another person's physique often with little to no context of their lifestyle or circumstances in order to avoid admitting they want a thin partner, for whatever reason- i assume mostly so they don't come off as shallow. "I just want someone healthy" is the common refrain, but truthfully, just because someone is fat doesn't mean they don't ex…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/24 08:55 PM
13	What’s your opinion on the 4B movement coming to America? These positions are not really intellectually at odds with one another. The ability to have access to financial autonomy and independence is supported by anti discrimination policy and affirmative action, especially if we look at it through a historic lens. This is the value of self determination, which also includes the freedom to select relationships without the impetus of necessary dependency to compel an association. Economic opportunity begets social freedom. Additionally, women moving into…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/24 07:29 PM