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Sounds like you just emotionally don't want to go there. 🤷‍♀️ com·pare /kəmˈper/ verb 1. estimate, measure, or note the similarity or dissimilarity between. "They're both meals" is a logical observation to make when comparing breakfast and dinner. "They're both fucking too many people" is a logical observation when comparing male and female promiscuity. So is, "they're both more susceptible to STIs," and, "they're both more likely to get divorced", etc. I agree that male promiscuity and female p…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 03:18 PM
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Idk, man. The logical thing to do would be to agree to a definition of the "thing" before you started arguing about whether something is the same. It sounds like both of you had different assumptions about what "same thing" you're talking about, and you wasted a lot of time by not clarifying. For example, I could say, "breakfast and dinner are the same thing." If "thing" = "meal", then yes, breakfast and dinner are the same thing. If you say, "nu-uh they're NOT the same because you eat one in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:16 PM
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Interesting. I tried googling "sex with my boyfriend is amazing" and got results. Weird how search engines find the content you ask for.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 04:33 PM
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I don't think it's being honest to tell your partner that you trust them and then ask for a paternity test because of the "possibility" she might have cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 12:59 AM
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You don't have to let every ugly thought you have leak out of your head for other people to deal with. Especially when the thoughts are hurtful and baseless accusations. That's not honesty, that's social incompetence. And would you be lying to say you're concerned about your kid's health or that it's the right kid you're bringing home? Is it really important to your sense of morality to make sure your faithful loving wife knows you don't give a shit about your kid and only want the test to prove…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:12 PM
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You can get the test without accusing your partner of cheating. It's really easy. "I'm concerned about genetic disorders that might run in our families. Let's get a test so we know what to expect." Or even, "I just read an article about a baby getting switched in the hospital after birth - I know it's kind of silly and unlikely, but let's get a test so we know for sure it's our baby we're taking home." Don't make an accusation of cheating and she won't feel accused. Easy. But for some reason, a …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:15 PM
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I have to ask you; you see a sexually desirable man, is your first thought really, "gee, I wonder how he treats his ex girlfriends, does he like guinea pigs? I wonder what his favorite color is?" Kinda. I see an attractive man on the train and think, "oh he's attractive" but that's it. There's no "and I'd love to have sex with him". It generates no motivation for me to engage just because a guy exists and looks hot. I notice attractive men, but I'm not sexually attracted (as in, I do not imagine…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:31 PM
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Uh, what are you talking about? Can you link me to a website or something for this private corporation? Genuinely curious. I don't doubt that Tennessee has some fucked up administration and a lot of involvement from private interests, but that should be easy enough to Google and I'm not finding anything. Not even a lawyer blog about how fucked up that would be. Looking at the Tennessee courts and DHS websites, apparently you can pay child support directly to the court, via MoneyGram, via mail, v…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 05:55 PM
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... so you just agreed to pay 75% of your income out-of-court and rolled with it? Dude. That's very much a you problem lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 02:40 PM
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If a judge used "imputed income" to calculate your income, that typically means you were either lying about your income or non cooperative with financial discovery (either on purpose or because you have a shit lawyer/accountant or don't do your taxes). That said, it's possible you got a shit judge and a shit lawyer - it's Tennessee, after all. But that's more of a problem with the Tennessee courts than the institution of divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:43 PM
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Misogyny: women are bad Internalized misogyny: I, a woman, am bad Do you know a lot of men who identify as women? "Internalized misandry" would actually be really interesting to study - I would hypothesize that men who grew up in the 90s and 2000s when "girl boss" media became more prominent may be more likely to internalize the idea that men are bad and suffer for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/23 02:08 PM
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mask crush I used to hear the term "butterface" a lot (hot body, but... her face 🤢)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 06:39 AM
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There isn't one. Did you understand what I wrote? I can try to make it simpler, I just assumed you knew about the Cold War, domino theory, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 12:50 PM
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Aw, cute. You're doing the thing I said you guys do! It irritates me that the alt-right stole "tankie" mostly because I no longer have a go-to insult for a group of leftists I disagree with and do not like. 😤
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 04:07 AM
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And that goes on for 7 decades. You demonstrably don't know much about Korea either, so that's a bit awkward. South Korea was ruled by US-backed military dictatorship(s) until 1987, when massive protests left to the current democratically elected civilian government. While North Koreans' immediate conditions improved a lot after the Korean War/Japanese colonial rule (largely due to support from other socialist states), South Koreans under the capitalist military dictatorship were left to fend fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 08:55 PM
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Not to be pedantic, but... by its own description (it's in their constitution), China does not have a communist government. Communism is an explicit goal (allegedly), but is considered to be 100+ years away at least. China is typically described by political scientists as "a socialist market economy", which is a form of state capitalism. From more pro-CCP sources, you'll see the phrase "socialism with Chinese characteristics" to mean the same thing. The pejorative "tankie" originated within left…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 07:49 PM
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But height is a sexually dimorphic trait. It's a really silly example to use - it weakens your argument. It's like asking, "why do men always want women with less beard hair in relation to himself?"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 12:51 AM
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I heard Italy was having a serious problem with feminism fascism Fixed that for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 12:48 AM
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A woman who is 5'11 is a statistical exception, though. Most women are shorter than most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 12:34 AM
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Huh, TIL "beast" in English specifically refers to a non-human animal. My mum's family are all French speakers, and calling someone a "beast" ("la bête"), or more specifically a "beautiful beast", is a term of endearment, especially for toddlers and pets. It has about the same tone as "silly goose". Anyway, I read your comment as though someone did a super dramatic line read like, "Are women human beings or are they... SILLY GEESE?!" and it made me chuckle.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 02:46 PM
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When I searched for Bobbitt, I found a ton of jokes at his expense. He did a lot of media and some porn after his dick got re-attached, so he was kiiiinda inviting it to make $$$. He's also an abusive piece of shit, which obviously doesn't justify violence against him, but it does make him a difficult victim to sympathize with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 03:41 PM
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... I've gone to operas and orchestras and theatre shows with my literal dad loads of times. I wonder how many times I've been in public with my dad and people assume we're a couple. 🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 01:01 PM
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Here's what's currently on the top page of TwoX when I clicked: Why are women assholes to other women but not men? Complaint about a (female) friend being flaky Post about abortion laws in Wisconsin Anecdote about a terrible mom being homeless and needing help from her adult daughter Question about whether inviting a man to your house or going to his is safer, weighing pros and cons of each Article about suicidality in Afghan women Post about how incel rhetoric turns her off of dating men Discus…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 03:05 PM
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my mom spent more time cleaning the house than she did trying to do fun stuff with me as a kid. I’m willing to bet that’s why so many men have mommy issues. Where was dad? Why didn't you help? When I was a kid, I spent a lot of time with both of my parents by helping them clean. They taught me a lot of important, useful skills for my adult life too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 01:10 PM
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My feelings aren't hurt by it. Why would I take that kind of vitriol personally? I don't think clouds hate me specifically when it rains. It's just not a useful strategy for women to offer help to these men directly. What would that even look like? Like, literally explain to me in concrete step 1 step 2 what actions I could take to realistically "help" a guy with this mindset. I'll keep directing my help where I've found it to be more useful, thanks, although that does mean I can't help the curr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:25 PM
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If anybody genuinely cared and could offer these men help, rather than pissing all over their self-esteem, confidence, and chances of recovery, they wouldn't feel the need to resort to trying to sneak intimacy out of unwilling victims or sit around online all day using terrible epithets about women. If I offer help and the response is, "you're a stupid cunt" or "you're lying because AWALT"... eventually I'm gonna stop bothering. It's not that I don't care, but I'm not willing to subject myself t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:22 PM
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If he had assets, I would think it's smart. If he doesn't have any assets, it's... let's say "cute" that he thinks a prenup would be to his benefit lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 04:56 PM
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Women carry babies like that all the time, but I'm not attracted to women's arms lol. Toddlers on shoulders is another one that would get me, yeah. Demonstrates strength + good with kids. It makes me imagine making babies with him, which, uh, is sexy by definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:48 PM
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Don't blame me for your ambiguous writing. You wrote three stories like this in a thread about stories of men being arrested for approaching. Apologies I assumed you were making a relevant argument instead of... pivoting to argue that neurotypical people are also capable of catastrophizing simple situations. Yes, no shit, I agree with that. Do you agree that men who believe they'll be arrested for approaching are catastrophizing, whether they are autistic or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:42 PM
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Wow, three whole unsourced stories about a guy getting arrested "just" for approaching a woman?! What a convenient reason to avoid doing the thing you were scared to do anyway!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:23 PM
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OK: a man holding a baby is sexy. Especially if they hold the baby in a front carry hold with the baby's bum in the crook of their elbow so their arm is visibly flexed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 01:18 PM
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You guys are your own worst enemy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 01:15 PM
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You guys are truly your own worst enemy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 01:03 PM
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1) it's Twilight fanfiction so there was an established fanbase, 2) boomer women fucking love Harlequin romance novels, and 50 Shades is more of that, but like, "hip", and most importantly, 3) the books are hilarious and unsexy and really easy to make fun of so they were immediately memed to shit. The 50 Shades books predated MeToo. There was a TON of discourse at the time about how 50 Shades is an example of how women feed into rape culture by idealizing abusive behaviours and perpetuating nega…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 05:14 AM
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Obviously not, but I still don't see why this story scares you away from all women. Here, let me try a hypothetical: Imagine a case where he walked by her and went home. And then the cops show up to arrest him because she was murdered that night and a male witness ID'd him as the killer. The trial plays out the same - charges are tossed out by the jury after 90 mins. He has PTSD from the ordeal. Would you be afraid to talk to men because of this?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 04:50 AM
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it destroyed his life I'm sure he'd disagree, given he's still a working artist with a London studio. He sells (honestly kinda boring) paintings for £1200 a pop. https://www.markpearsonartist.com/product-category/original-artwork/ Edit: If anything, this was a benefit to him professionally - he probably sold a ton of prints after being interviewed on the BBC about how ridiculous the charges were.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 04:24 AM
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Yes, I pull more when I'm a dick. Like an evolved form of negging. I pull less when I'm being nice and plain, like with 'how was your day' etc type of conversations. You think teasing and having a more interesting conversation than "how was your day" is being a dick? Uh... well, OK. You do you, you adorable felon. If it works for you, keeping thinking you're so bad. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 04:18 AM
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OP asked for stories of men who get arrested for approaching a woman. You provided a story about a man who took the subway and was later arrested based on easily disproven allegations by a woman he never interacted with except to share a subway platform. I googled around for the story on a bunch of different media outlets and the coverage is overwhelmingly in his favour. The cops are described as being "baffled" by the charges, there's calls to investigate the agency that brought it all the way …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 03:51 AM
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But why would men be afraid to approach hot women because of a story about an old lady unsuccessfully accusing a random man of assault in a train station? Shouldn't they be afraid of walking in train stations instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:17 AM
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Nuclear families are a type of monogamous family structure that is specific to capitalism, yes. That shouldn't be controversial - it was literally the basis of American propaganda for like 50 years. Good, capitalist nuclear family vs. genderless commies who let the state raise their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:05 AM
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I agree what happened to Mark Pearson is terrible and I'm glad a jury cleared him. That said, he wasn't falsely accused for approaching so it's not really an example of what this thread is talking about. Poor dude was just catching a train, not like he could have done anything different. This story is about how well-connected people in the UK are privileged by the courts/politicians, not women. If the accuser in Mark Pearson's case was some random shop girl, it would never get to charges, let al…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 01:45 AM
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You're thinking of Jamie Griffiths. I looked into this when it was doing the manosphere rounds because the media on it was deeply suspicious. Like, if it ACTUALLY happened how the headlines were written, you'd see it reported in more than right wing/yellow rags - mainstream media loves a good failson hero story lol. Literally all I had to do was google the original local news article to compare to the Daily Mail. And whaddya know, the local news reporting on the case included details like how po…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 12:53 AM
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Lol there's a few - I was thinking of Exo-K/M's original debut like ten years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 10:30 AM
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Do you know what Facebook started out as? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 08:48 PM
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I was studying in/about Korea during the initial Hallyu Wave in the early 2000s so have some ideas about why you might not find as many older fans of Korean media internationally... South Korea undertook a deliberate, coordinated strategy to appeal to international audiences with their media; there's a lot of government funding and support behind it. Part of it is incredibly granular region-specific marketing - this is how you get ridiculous shit like one pop group with two completely different …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 04:01 PM
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findings of paternity testing So 70% of men who seek paternity testing ARE the father? 🤔 Do you think there might be something specific about "men who seek paternity tests" vs. all men that might explain the higher rate?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 12:55 PM
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Why are men not having the same visceral reaction to this? If I take manosphere types at their word, it's because men are attracted to kids. Or at least they aren't put off by believing that their wife is a mental teenager. 🤷🏼‍♀️ My honest opinion and experience is that men do find childish, dependent behaviour deeply unattractive. They just use different language to express it, e.g. "dependapotamus", "gold digger", etc. There's a well-established set of tropes and cultural scripts for "motherin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 09:48 PM
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If he can't follow instructions that make his life easy. Then yes it's a problem. Shouldn't make you feel like his mother. He's just stupid. Adults tolerate inconsiderate, selfish behaviour from children because children are stupid and don't know better. They need to be taught to put their clothes in the hamper, or how to regulate their anger, or how to keep time, etc. Every time I have heard an "I'm not his mother" story, it was about a man who engaged in selfish or inconsiderate behaviour and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 07:32 PM
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Your not changing a man's diapers. Your making him some food, or cleaning his clothes. Something your mother would have done for your father. As a child, I often had to be reminded to pick up my clothes off the floor and put them in the hamper to be washed. My dad put his clothes in the hamper to be washed. Do you understand there is a difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 04:14 PM
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"If I have to do things for him like his mother would, It dries me up". Yet what gets these women wet is us doing things like their father would. You think putting up shelves is something fathers do for their children? When women make this complaint, they typically mean: do things for him like his mother would for her child. You're comparing it to a man doing things a father would do for his wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 02:06 PM
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It's a bit like a man doing gender studies. Lots of low key comments and jokes about men that just make you uncomfortable, and you realise 'why am I doing this? I'm not supposed to be here'. Early childcare is the worst for this. I preferred a male co-teacher and have advocated for hiring more men in daycare and preschool classrooms (it improves learning/behavioural outcomes for young boys especially), but I completely understand why men rarely stay in the field. On top of the generally terrible…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 03:58 PM
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Or it could be traditional from the 1800's format The weird thing is that isn't even remotely "traditional" for the 1800s. The average middle class woman in 1850 worked outside the home for at least some of her lifetime - e.g. as a cook or maid or nanny for a wealthy woman who could afford not to do those things. Depending on their level of education, women worked as as governesses, secretaries and recorders, shop girls, gardeners, washerwomen, dressmakers, farm workers, milliners, in textiles a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/23 07:31 PM
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OK, an army of people who want to give you... the opportunity to give him many blowjobs, not just one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:44 AM
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Yeah, that's pretty rude. Fair. I realize my thinking was influenced by OP's description: Usually it is: the guy was an ass, immature, doesn't know how to communicate like an adult, he showed his true colors by taking the easy way out, etc. This made me think of situations where I've used similar descriptors and been accused of "ghosting"... but it wouldn't fit your definition. Hm.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:35 AM
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People who ghost, effectively say nothing so you don’t know if the conversation ended or not. Just say goodbye to make that clear. That's precisely my point. It feels rude to suddenly say goodbye unless some outside force intervenes to signal the end of the conversation... but everyone is on their phone all the time; there's no outside force. For some people, one type of being rude (actively rejecting someone) is harder than the other (not responding to a message). It's a struggle of face-to-fac…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:14 AM
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Sure, it's polite to do that. I'm not convinced it's automatically rude not to, though. It depends. My main point is that texting/DMs don't work like regular conversations where there's a natural point of closure. In real life, the bus arrives and triggers you to make plans or say a platitude or whatever. When you're texting or DMing, there's no expectation that the conversation is over because someone went to work or fell asleep. We might be thinking of different situations and calling it all "…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:02 AM
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The abuse thing is a red herring. I think this is one of those places where the established social etiquette just doesn't really work with new technology. Imagine you're standing at a bus stop, and someone walks up and talks directly to you. How rude is it to ignore that person if you don't know them very well and you want them to stop talking to you? Pretty rude, right? You only have to be polite and make smalltalk until the bus arrives, and then you can say goodbye and never talk again. But wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 11:05 PM
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Chicks don't cold approach for cuddles though. She wants to cuddle 'cause she didn't get off lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:11 PM
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I appreciate that plenty of men are willing to reciprocate pleasure, but they are still approaching for their own benefit, not hers. How many men are randomly approaching women to offer cunnilingus without getting their dick out, y'know, just for her? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 08:58 PM
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No, it's an army of people who want you to give them pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 07:08 PM
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Is it "bullying" when a man reacts poorly when he finds out his girlfriend has a higher N count than expected? Jw.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 11:54 PM
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Yes, and if it's not sexual interest, she stops smiling. That's what the OP is about. Presumably your Trader Joe's piece didn't give you the RBF when you smiled at her, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 03:53 PM
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Predominantly female pro-ana and self-harm communities were quarantined/banned off the internet back in the late noughties before incels existed. Men and women deal with feelings of ugliness differently, so they won't congregate in the same spaces. Different vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 03:25 PM
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You're both right/wrong lol. This is a semantic disagreement: colloquially, people use "average" for any measure of center in a dataset (mean, median, mode), similar to how people say "Kleenex" for any tissue... AND they also use it as a synonym for ordinary, typical, mediocre, regular. You're using different definitions. :) Of course ordinary men are equal to ordinary women, in the moral/social/political sense. In the data analysis sense, the arithmetic averages (i.e. the mean) for men and wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 07:52 PM
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Childless men don't pay for single moms, at least not any more than you "pay for" bombs or firefighters or street maintenance. Child support is collected from the non-custodial parent directly, not through taxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 04:22 PM
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Woman criticizes her man for the way he dresses: Normal and common. See it all the time. Man criticizes his woman for the way she dresses; Huge red flag, probably an abuser. Can you give me an example of the criticism you imagine the man and woman saying? Do a little roleplay of the scenario in your head and tell me the line. E.g., "Brad, your tee shirt is ugly." Are the man and woman saying the exact same words and the response is different?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 09:25 PM
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gamer gate a rebellion against the women pretending/lying to like video games just to get close to men Lol I thought the Gamergate party line was for men to pretend/lie that they care about "eThIcS iN gAmE jOuRnAlIsM".
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 02:54 PM
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From your own link, women literally are splurging on their man's consumables: women handle the bulk of purchasing decisions for everyday items like groceries and clothing, even for those items targeted at men. 50% of products marketed to men are actually purchased by women. In addition to being responsible for most of the day-to-day purchases, women are also heading up or influential in large ticket purchases like cars, homes and appliances.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 11:02 PM
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With your male friends, this would never happen. Yeah, I know! They forget their wallets.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 11:52 PM
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Do you have any lasting feelings for the guy you lost it to? Nah. I remember him fondly if something reminds me, but I don't think about him otherwise. I'm grateful that my first experience was with someone who I could laugh with about how was awkward and silly it was. A lot of people aren't so lucky. Would you get back with him? No, we broke up for good reasons on good terms. Was the break up harder because he was your first? Nope. We'd been friends since middle school and mutually agreed to go…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:49 AM
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I meant he thinks for his area which may be above 50k. ... which is contextual interpretation.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:50 AM
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Except in your example the woman is straight-forwardly saying what she wants: "financially secure", i.e., enough money to feel secure and have the power to make life choices without worrying about finances. That's what the phrase literally means. You can google it. The man in the example is pulling a number out of his ass based on assumptions/context. 50k is nowhere near "financially secure" in a high CoL city. That's not taking her words at face value, that's not knowing what words mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 10:53 PM
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i.e. they find other men intolerable for anything but sex
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 05:35 PM
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Seriously? Do you know many gay men? ETA: Females can be friends with gay guys but straight guys and feminine women don’t seem to take well to friendship. Theory: straight women and gay men can commiserate over their male partners because they have similar experiences, while straight men and lesbians have different dynamics/experiences with their female partners and can't relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 05:08 PM
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Not in theory. In practice, yes, turned off. Story time: in a fit of "cool girl", I once asked my ex husband (while we were married) to show me some porn he liked. I like porn sometimes, it can be fun, it's a good way to get the oven preheated, y'know? I was hoping we'd watch some clips together, engage in flirty commentary, get some insights into each other's turn-ons, and then mostly ignore the screen to have sex with each other. What actually happened: he clicked through a horrifying series o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:54 PM
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Why is it other people's responsibility to intuit your needs? If you don't want people to ask about your stink face, control your stink face or remove yourself from their sight. I have met three year old boys capable of putting themselves in "timeout" to calm down when they're in a mood or overstimulated. Surely you can acquire such a skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:54 PM
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When my little sister died, my partner at the time withdrew and became oddly selfish similar to how you describe your gf acting. A death in your partner's family typically = meeting the family, appearing together at one or more public events as a couple, offering emotional support, shouldering more responsibilities temporarily, having grace and empathy for how your partner expresses their grief, being confronted with the existential idea of death and dying, etc. Some people, like my ex bf and pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 01:38 PM
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Sure, same way it's "just fear" that stops you from running across a busy road 24/7. You might check both ways first to make sure there are no cars, or walk to a crosswalk to wait for the lights to change. I personally don't consider basic risk aversion to be "fearful" behaviour, but I'm not gonna tell you otherwise if that's how you feel when you do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 04:05 PM
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the type of men women usually have casual sex with are in that “higher risk” category Yes, and the type of women men usually have casual sex with are too. The venn diagram of "women who have casual sex" and "women who engage in high risk behaviour generally" is basically a circle. Most women are not having casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 03:45 PM
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Out of curiosity, are you OK with gay couples fostering/adopting kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 08:14 PM
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Idc. I'd think it was gross and wrong if a 30yo man had sex with a 16yo girl, and it's gross with the genders flipped too. You might have initiated it and wanted it - idc. The older person should know better.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 03:15 PM
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Exhibit A - the reason people don't take sexual assault against boys seriously is because men think it's great.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 02:48 PM
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Probably a combination of things. People are having children later in life. Educated men and women especially are having children later in life. Autism is correlated with older sperm.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 02:41 PM
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Is this a pre-prepared script you have ready to go? Are you an AI that generates text soup from PPD posts? What does anything you wrote have to do with what I said?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 08:35 PM
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It usually isn't the woman's fault... or the man's. Dudes sometimes just get nerves and need help to relax or get out of their head - same as women who can't orgasm. I've been sympathetic and understanding when a partner has trouble getting hard. Sometimes they need oral or a body massage to get relaxed, sometimes shifting focus to cuddling and intimacy helps them feel less pressured to perform, sometimes talking about things they've done before that I found really sexy or body features that I f…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 02:39 PM
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"Female" and "male" are adjectives that qualify a noun. A male teacher or female athlete or male/female child are all fine. "Male" and "female" used as nouns are common in a) the military, where the explicit intention is to dehumanize the person; b) biology, where it would be inappropriate to refer to, say, a dung beetle as a "man"; and now also c) the Manosphere, where "depedestalizing" women is the stated intention. It's sexist because you know it is and mean to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 02:04 PM
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I love that the obvious troll doesn't consider that like 99% of the responses are probably trolling back? Ngl, if I saw that profile, I'd probably engage because a) the profile is so elaborately bad it has to be a dedicated troll, or b) he's dead serious and I'm gonna see how far I can out-crazy him. "omg im 13 i luv nazis plz fuck me daddy~" typed the post-wall broad, after crowd-sourcing her opening line from her drunk friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 02:25 AM
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Someone could potentially accuse you of stealing their wallet or vandalizing their car or assaulting them - why aren't you worried about that? Your issue is apparently with the abstract concept of Law itself, and has nothing whatsoever to do with Bill C-16 or federal/provincial human rights legislation. The standard for criminal harassment in Canada is spelled out in the Criminal Code very clearly. "Politely" refusing to use someone's pronouns is a dick move, but obviously not a crime. See secti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 11:17 PM
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Are you suggesting that this bill does not leave people liable to charges for "misgendering," i.e., using pronouns in reference to sex rather than gender? Yes. You, a private individual, are not a public service or business or school where it is illegal to discriminate on the basis of protected grounds. If you publicly incite a genocide against trans people, or commit a criminal act where it can be proven you were motivated by hatred of trans people, the Crown might add a hate crime charge on to…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:43 PM
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Thanks for proving you'd be laughed out of any honest court, at least. When he said he has lots of experience as a pro se litigant, I laughed out loud. So either he's doing something shitty to get repeatedly sued in court and deciding to self-represent, or he's suing multiple people as a pro se, which is a huge red flag for assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:01 PM
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Timbah on Toast on youtube does a good video on the Hoogland case. He refers to the actual court transcripts (that Rob Hoogland published online) and it's pretty obvious from the testimony that the dad is a religious twat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:19 PM
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He wasn't. Robert Hoogland was arrested for violating a court order. There was a publication ban on the ongoing case and he repeatedly ran his mouth to the media about it. He didn't just make offhand comments; he published confidential court documents online, including the full names of minor parties and testimony from medical professionals about his child's medical history. He could have said, "I love my trans daughter ❤" when he dropped those documents and still been jailed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:17 PM
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It does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:13 AM
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Please fill me in on C-16. Not familiar with that. It's the reason you know who Jordan Peterson is. Bill C-16 was a Canadian bill that passed in 2017. It amended the federal Human Rights Act and Criminal Code to add the following words to the protected grounds: "and gender identity or expression". That's it. Peterson decided that this addition to the HRA and the Code was somehow "compelling" speech from him. It was not. That's not even close to how that works. Peterson's take was so fucking dumb…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:57 AM
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Steve Buscemi I think it might be possible to be kind of objectively creepy looking in such a way that it horseshoes into weird hot daddy vibes or something. Steve Buscemi in Boardwalk Empire really did it for me, and I started finding him attractive in interviews out of character.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 02:15 PM
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Codpieces used to be an essential fashion item for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:56 PM
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(dunno about theatre) You typically wear way more makeup in theatre. It's easier to see facial expressions from the cheap seats if you wear makeup that highlights points of movement (dark eyebrows, bright cheeks, exaggerated mouth etc.).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 01:36 PM
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I have a guess about the baby study: it's something Jordan Peterson pulled out of his ass. This talking point only trickled into the manosphere and alt-right spaces after Peterson published 12 Rules for Life so I'm pretty confident in saying that's the source. Peterson references a baby study in his book, but of course doesn't cite it directly. I haven't been able to find a study exactly like he describes, but I've found several studies with elements of his description. Given Peterson's intellec…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:23 AM
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You would have to get it notarized every time you got someone pregnant.Which shouldn't be that often. Nope, it'd be super easy to void the contract if she claimed she was under duress, and a lawyer could easily argue that being pregnant is a form of duress. Not saying they'd be correct, just that a contract signed after the pregnancy begins would be really easy for any half-decent lawyer to throw out. E.g. "He knew I was pro-life and said he wanted a baby, but then we broke up and now he doesn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 01:04 AM
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Why should I? You are not a good faith actor. My argument is, "all people should have the right to autonomy and freedom of association", and your argument is, "no, suck my dick". Not exactly riveting, productive discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 12:07 AM
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I've never seen a man say that. I have. What I've also seen is the lack of "financial abortion" being used to justify restricting access to actual abortions. Much to your disappointment, you'd lose that bet. I'm in favour of men being allowed to opt out of child support in a situation where the woman refuses to abort and he has made it known he does not want the child. The only practical way to enforce it would be by contract, though, so you'd have to get that shit signed and notarized every tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 11:59 PM
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the handsome men that they'd normally naturally pair off with Why don't we limit their rights, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 10:56 PM
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They are showcasing them 😂 Ah yes, hilarious. The anti-Semites... have the right to play. They even like to play with discourse for, by giving ridiculous reasons, they discredit the seriousness of their interlocutors. They delight in acting in bad faith, since they seek not to persuade by sound argument but to intimidate and disconcert. -- Sartre
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 10:12 PM
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What about being socially ostracized, pressured into marriage, and artificially disadvantaged economically is "good" for women, exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 10:06 PM
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If women aren't capable enough to make do on their own without having to resort to sucking dick, that's on them. Yes, exactly. You want policies that limit women's capabilities so they'll be forced to suck dick. Are you still in favour of "financial abortion" if women don't have access to actual abortions?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:44 PM
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There can be no good faith discussion when one side is advocating to violate the other's rights. What does it actually mean to "enforce" monogamy/chastity? What do you imagine that entails? Because traditionally, historically, logically, "enforcement" involves things like legal coverture and honour killings. To quote Sartre: The anti-Semites... have the right to play. They even like to play with discourse for, by giving ridiculous reasons, they discredit the seriousness of their interlocutors. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 09:18 PM
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This would make women prioritize stability and relationships and thus make the distribution of sex more even. "We don't need to literally enslave women, guys. All we have to do is make sure women are poor and desperate to feed their kids (which they can't abort lololol) and then they'll have to trade sex for food and shelter!"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:29 PM
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If that outfit were optimal for performance and comfort, that’s how uniforms in the NBA would look. A few things to consider: Women are more likely than men to cross-train with activities like: yoga, pilates, pole, aerial, dance, etc. I imagine NBA players would wear tighter shorts if basketball regularly involved lying on the floor with your feet above your head. Much like guys wear their basketball shorts to the gym because that's the workout gear they already own, chicks wear leggings to the …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:23 PM
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I think the title statement implies an ignorant disinterest in fashion that is typical of a certain male perspective that discounts any female-dominated technical field as frivolous. Fashion is a technology, and it requires very skilled labour to produce. Fashion is also extremely socially meaningful and inherently political. There is a reason sumptuary laws for clothing have existed throughout recorded history, limiting what certain classes of people can wear. There is a reason why men get beat…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 08:13 PM
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If I have a son in subsidized daycare, does that count as a "female using tax dollars" or a "male using tax dollars"?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 08:56 PM
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This is really sweet. Yo guys, gas up your friends more.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:06 PM
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can women be too thin? Yes, but only at the extreme. I was anorexic in my teens/early twenties. I got the most attention from men around a BMI of 16.5 (5'2, 90 lbs, like 18-20% bf) but when I lost another 5lbs I became very visibly ill and looked like a dried up raisin. The attention dropoff was steeeeep.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 05:55 PM
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The actual description on that sub: /r/TheBluePill is a satire of /r/TheRedPill and the strategies discussed on that particular sub. Do you know what "satire" means?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 01:27 PM
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https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3576965/ See Table 5 and Discussion. I wasn't raised with your weird American hangups, man. Most men I know are uncut. If you actually think circumcision is bad and not just something to get angry at women about, you'd be interested in what drives people to circumcize their kids so you could figure out how to do it less.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 05:03 AM
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Yo don't lump Canada (30%) and Mexico (15%) in with the Americans here (70+%). Circumcision is very much a USA, Middle East/North Africa thing. Also: the biggest predictor for whether a child gets circumcised is whether the father is circumcised. You'd be more effective at reducing rates of circumcision (and familiarize the new generations of American women with the joys of uncut dick) by "recalibrating" circumcized men to stop mutilating their kids. Most women don't have a strong opinion and de…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 12:06 AM
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Setting aside all critiques about the validity of Hofstede's work, you are straight up not using the words "androcentric" and "gynocentric" to mean the same thing that Hofstede does. A society where women are required to dress modestly (e.g. cover their hair, wear a burqa) is considered more "gynocentric" by Hofstede. A society that doesn't have universal healthcare, like the US, is considered more "androcentric". There's even a handy website: https://www.hofstede-insights.com/country-comparison…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 09:42 PM
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Yes, that's exactly what you'd expect. "Men ordered to pay child support" is a larger, more varied subset than the subset of "women ordered to pay child support". Men typically don't even ask for primary custody unless the mother is fucked up somehow, i.e. addicted to drugs, personality disorder. The same demographic factors that make a woman likely to lose primary custody also make her less likely to pay child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 01:48 PM
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The average woman is 5'4" in. A 5'4" man is in the 4th percentile of height for American men. Literally 96% of men are taller than the average woman. I'm a woman who is shorter than average. Less than 1% of men are shorter than me. The only adult man I have met who is shorter than me had literal dwarfism... and was married to an average-height woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 09:59 PM
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Eighteen... Nineteen... Twentyteen?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 01:47 PM
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Nope. I was pro-ana in the noughties. What actually happened: around 2004ish (pre-HAES), ISPs and hosts started cracking down on pro-ana content for "advocating self-harm/suicide" after a few deaths hit the media. A lot of sites were taken down and public content was quarantined or slapped with banner warnings. Pro-ana groups either whitewashed ("we're a support group now!") or went underground ("check out our new members-only site!"). Sound familiar? :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 05:10 PM
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Pro-ana groups might apply, although I'm pretty sure that peaked online around 2005 or something. Pro-ana has the same culture of group-reinforced self-hatred as incels - e.g., "here's my pic, please tell me how fat/ugly I am".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:51 PM
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people pretend they are just "calling me out" for being a creep who... wants to date a girl That ellipsis is doing a lot of work.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 05:58 PM
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Agreed. As I said in my top level comment: it's not arrogant to only talk about yourself in a job interview. It's just... a date isn't supposed to be an interview. Whenever I see a guy posting about how he feels like a "dancing monkey" or like he has to constantly perform on dates, this is what I imagine happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 10:04 PM
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Eh, it's not specific to men. People be like that. It makes people feel good to be treated like they are interesting. Humans like and want to spend time with people that make them feel good. If I make my boss feel good by being interested in what they say, they'll be more likely to give me a promotion. If I make my date feel good by being interested in what they say, they'll be more likely to sleep with me. It is plausible to me that women experience the situation described in the OP slightly mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 09:33 PM
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especially given the differential between genders initiating the divorces That differential says a little bit about gendered expectations re admin/paperwork, but says nothing qualitative about the divorce. In states that don't allow for joint filing, one spouse has to formally file and serve the other with divorce proceedings. That means a lot of joint divorces are classed as "woman initiated" in stats because women tend to be delegated as secretary and do the actual filing of paperwork. E.g. my…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 09:42 PM
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The "insanely difficult" part of divorce is not the divorce - it's custody and property division, which are not exclusive to marriage. A "divorce only" divorce is sliiightly more paperwork than a high school breakup. My ex and I had no kids and separate finances. All we had to do is stay broken up for 1 year (easy), and then file a joint divorce application online (also easy). No lawyers required, we split the $200 filing fee, done and dusted. I've spent more money and effort on going out for di…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 06:11 PM
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I honestly think this is the #1 factor behind women filing for divorce more often than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 05:32 PM
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A hundred years is only 3-4 human generations, i.e not a long enough time frame for sexual selection to affect height across an entire population. The increase in average height since the industrial revolution is caused by improvements in childhood nutrition and caloric availability. You can have the potential to grow to 6' (genetics), but you need to eat enough calories while growing to actually get there (epigenetics).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 04:31 PM
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This is not "tik tok" behaviour lol. Have you never seen a drunk guy start a fight because someone looked at him funny? Drinking makes people act like assholes (or like bigger assholes than usual). If you went bar hopping in 1892, you'd find lots of dumb drunk broads making crazy eyes at randos and mouthing off, same as now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:17 PM
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Ah yes, the "beginning of time", back in 1840.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 04:26 PM
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The act of agreeing to marry someone with an officiant/witness is the contract. It's a legally binding agreement. No. You don't "agree" to be married. You ask the state to please legally recognize you as part of a married unit. The marriage licence is an application to become a married person, and the officiant is acting as an officer of the court by signing off and filing the application. The issued marriage certificate is basically a certified copy of a judgment that you are to be considered "…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 05:12 AM
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A marriage licence/certificate is paperwork filed with the state to create a legal entity. That legal entity can then enter contracts, but it is not, in itself, a contract. If a court requires or orders you to disclose financial assets during divorce, it's not for breach of marriage contract; it's because it is the law to disclose assets to the court when dissolving a legal unit. Corporations also have to disclose assets to the court and other parties when they are dissolved.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 12:22 AM
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Body dysmorphia.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 12:23 PM
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Sure, I wish they wouldn't. I've noticed some men online use "female" the same way. It's definitely dehumanizing, doesn't even have to be willful. "Male/female" as a noun is used specifically in a biological context to refer to non-human animals. You wouldn't read in a biology text, "the man can roll a ball of dung 1,141 times his weight" - dung beetles aren't people, so referring to one as a "man" would be weird and wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 06:28 PM
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I cant help but wonder why you mixed them? Because that's how English works. "Woman" is a noun, and "male" is an adjective modifying a noun phrase. Using "man" would be objectively incorrect in that sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/20 05:38 PM
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You could wear a skirt, why don't you?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 06:04 PM
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Do you wear pants in public? SHEEP.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 05:18 PM
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Local politics is huuugely contentious in my city, you'd be surprised.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/20 03:39 PM
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I assume your roommate didn't file for support when you stopped living together, and if they had, you'd be able to prove you weren't in a "marriage-like" relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 10:58 PM
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Woops, mobile. Meant to reply two above you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 10:51 PM
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Cohabitation agreements are a thing, at least in my jx.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 10:49 PM
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No, it's not just three years of living together. Otherwise there would be a lot of commonlaw roommates splitting property in Ontario. You have to prove it was a conjugal relationship. Don't share utility bills, don't put her on the lease, don't have a kid with her. Problem solved. In other words: don't treat your girlfriend like a wife and then get all surprised that she can claim quasi-marital benefits in court. Commonlaw in Ontario also explicitly exempts your home from property division - ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 10:48 PM
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So what you actually mean is women wouldn't date bisexual men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 09:31 PM
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It's a cultural meme for women to fall head over heels for a guy and then find out he's gay. "Why are all the good ones gay?" Etc. Methinks the reason women would never date gay men is because by definition gay men do not want to date women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 08:40 PM
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"Love Island" is a literal game to win money.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 08:33 PM
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*In the context of a relationship or FWB or whatever (this goes for any gender combination) Treat discussions on politics/philosophy like flirting instead of Oxford rules. No scoring points, it's not zero sum. If you can manage not to get judgmental or mad, you can create a vibe of "opposites attract" and play up your differences in a sexy way. Debate is very arousing. You feel pleasure when the other concedes a point. Your heart rate increases when your point is attacked. Push-pull, the pulley …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 03:00 AM
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Okay, you've smacked the olive branch away a few times now. Bye.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 01:03 AM
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Could this whole thread have been avoided if I'd asterisked my original response to make it more clear that I wasn't talking about you? *many men? When I said "I'm sure you're a stellar human like many men are", I wasn't being sarcastic. Take your own advice and stop assuming you can comprehend intonation or how another human is feeling based off text. Kinda leery now that you've jumped to "dishonest" and "misandrist". Again: proving my point... I wasn't even disagreeing with you in the first pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/20 12:35 AM
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.... I genuinely can't tell if this is amazing satire or if you're unironically proving why I shouldn't bother. How was your weekend?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 11:59 PM
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Kinda proving my point about taking things too seriously here :P I'm sure you're a stellar human like many men are, but the idea that men, in general, have negative associations with women expressing opinions is well studied and long-entrenched in many cultures. Hell, women tend to have negative associations with women expressing opinions. In the same way that lots of red pill guys "know" AWALT, women "know" AMALT. Until the guy proves he is the elusive unicorn (which are rare in aggregate, not …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 11:38 PM
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As a woman who enjoys talking about abstract concepts and institutions over personal things, and works in a field where this type of woman is overrepresented: Attractive, smart women are VERY aware that men have zero interest in their opinions on the latest municipal budget report, unless her opinion is that she should stop talking about it so she can suck his dick. In relationships, I have been explicitly told that talking about these things is "repulsive". I've learned when guys bring up abstr…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/20 11:06 PM
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I inherited mine, family heirloom, $0, and had to argue with him not to buy a different one. :/
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/19 02:47 PM
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Figure out what kind of hair you have (fine/thick/straight/wavy/curly/kinky/etc.), and then experiment with products made for that type of hair. This applies to shampoo/conditioners, but also brushes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:36 AM
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You shampoo your roots to clear away oil and dirt and dead skin cells. You condition the shaft/ends of the hair to prevent damage and make existing damage less obvious. Thus, if you have short hair you don't actually need dedicated conditioner. My hair is waist-length, and I would rather just not wash my hair than use a hybrid shampoo/conditioner. The shampoo-y part is too harsh for the shaft (= frizz), and the condition-y part leaves deposits on the roots (= limp, oily-looking).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:08 AM
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You're not being rude, you're avoiding addressing the logical flaw in your construction. How does "obsessing over a perceived flaw" compute in your head as "does not have flaws"? You've clearly only read the first few paragraphs of Wikipedia, read more.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 01:36 PM
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This means to qualify for BDD you have to look (almost) flawless as otherwise the flaw wouldn't be imaginary. How does this follow??? A: obsession with perceived flaw B: ??? C: has no actual flaws What is the logic you're using for Step B? If I perceive a bird to land on my window sill, but it was actually a plastic bag blown by the wind, that doesn't lead to "therefore there are no birds that exist".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 01:07 PM
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If you have BDD you look fine. Otherwise you wouldn't qualify for BDD. Erm, no. A fugly person who decides they would just Feel Better if they amputated a leg would have BDD. A slightly below-average dude who thinks he's Quasimodo and refuses to take off his sunglasses even at home would have BDD. An emaciated, hideously skeletal anoretic with a busted up face who believes she is a landwhale and could lose 5 more lbs could have BDD. It's measured against what is "normal", not "attractive".
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 12:42 PM
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I feel this lol. I'm 95 lbs and around 21% bf on my last DEXA. Primarily weight training and HIIT, although lately I'm focusing on flexibility goals and a "mini-bulk" because if I drop more weight my doctor will pitch a fit. 98lbs at 20% and I will switch to maintenance. I've tracked every calorie I've eaten for years - being tiny is a bitch; a restaurant entree is often more calories than my TDEE. People close to me know and tolerate it. My husband finds it mystifying but at least he doesn't mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 02:19 PM
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This is an important distinction, and it makes more sense to me than the blanket "awalt, dread 'em" mantra - as long as you're willing to admit there are women who would never cheat... In my own experience: I'm a homebody. I don't drink, don't party, don't have straight male friends. On Friday nights, my friends and I are waiting in line to see an opera, not going to a club. When I did party in college, it was with my boyfriend... who is now my husband. The idea of him running dread on me is fra…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 06:07 PM
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Vaganova Academy Omg. I was never good enough to even consider applying, but 13-year-old me would have worshipped you lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 11:09 PM
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Parental supervision has increased, which probably has a lot to do with it. More afterschool activities, more planned socializing, a lot less privacy. Like, I thought my parents were pretty involved growing up, and they made rules like, "let us know if you're gonna be home for dinner or not." My little sister's friends -- in high school, like 17-18 year olds -- had rules like "we need an itinerary of your weekend and we'll be tracking your phone to make sure you stick to it."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 10:45 PM
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I think the rule for facial surgery: if you can tell, it's worse. I unquestionably look better now that my nose is fixed, but I also asked for "same nose I have, but not visibly crooked". Facial symmetry is more attractive, and you'd never be able to tell I had it done unless you were looking up my nostrils with a light for some reason. The change is honestly probably not worth how much it cost lol. My mum on the other hand has surprised botox brows and that makes me sad. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 10:02 PM
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I think it's supposed to be a sequence of events: teen sits at home, eats food mom made, plays cod young guy socializes enough to find wife married guy sits at home, eats food wife made, plays cod
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 12:56 AM
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They are developing diagnostic tools that better identify women/girls. It will be forever before anything is actually implemented, but I did my diagnostics at a research centre and agreed to let them include my results in their future study on the "female phenotype". Gender differences in autism are a pretty neat little sample, I think. Currently the average women with autism is statistically "worse" than her male counterpart-- lower functioning, lower IQ. But it's looking more and more likely t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 08:59 PM
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Remember: we're talking specifically about casual sex. To most women, the soggy old egg salad sandwich is equivalent to the value an offer of casual sex has. She does not want or need it, may even find it viscerally gross, and would rather metaphorically go hungry than risk a bout of diahhrea. There are some slutty women with iron stomachs who will eat any halfway edible thing offered, sure, but they aren't the norm. There are loads of guys who offer good sandwiches, but we're talking specifical…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 07:45 AM
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Depends how you define who is "Japanese", I suppose? Korea had been a Japanese colony for 35 years prior to WW2, so a lot of Koreans spoke Japanese and/or had Japanese names and/or worked for or collaborated with the Japanese state. There were also a lot of Koreans born/raised in Japan proper as well. "Comfort women" were typically rural and poor; they were abducted in a lot of cases under the false pretense that they were being hired for factory work to support the war effort. It's not a stretc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 05:47 AM
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I'm formerly anorexic, and spent large swathes of my teens/early 20s in hospital because actual starvation, unlike sexlessness, can cause organ failure and death :D
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 04:16 AM
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Hey, homeless guy, you want this soggy half-eaten egg salad sandwich I found in my desk drawer? No? Why not? You're a human that eats, you get hungry, so you must appreciate this sandwich. Sure, it's completely inedible and probably going to give you food poisoning, but you better fucking appreciate how privileged you are that I even offered.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/19 09:59 PM
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Are you suggesting a rape victim can be at fault without being morally culpable? Or the reverse? Or just pointing out that fault isn't the proper focus?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 09:58 PM
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"Reproductive abuse" is legally meaningful in the context of litigating support obligations and/or divorce proceedings, was where I was going with that. But yeah, rape it ain't.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 07:16 PM
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It's not "rape" but it is considered "reproductive abuse".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 01:17 PM
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Sure, I would be okay with it in the short term like say 6-12 months if we had a baby, Comments like this completely flip me out. How the fuck is 12 months being a "SAHM"? But then, oh yeah. America is a shithole with no maternity leave and you guys think this is normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/19 01:10 PM
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It's very convenient that you don't define sexual violence as violence then.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 12:35 AM
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Oh good we agree: men are indiscriminate violent mongrels.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 03:59 PM
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We did a charity auction one year and had a bunch of lightly used shoes on offer. Sold well, actually. Mind you, they'd been painted and barely worn. Costume dept decided the Sugar Plum Fairy should be FUCKING HEAD TO TOE PURPLE one year, and not sharpie purple but like deeeeep indigo, so the principal/alts had to dye a bunch of shoes with Rit. They all had blue feet for ages haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/19 01:55 AM
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Erm, went to an arts high school. Sorry to confirm: there are a non-zero number of men who will buy pointe shoes from teenagers on kijiji and get very upset when they learn those shoes aren't well-used. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 10:52 PM
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Read history. Any of it. A recent case study (i.e. there are living people today who experienced this): Japan's system of military prostitution involved kidnapping women from colonized territory, bringing them into active war zones to get raped by 30 men a day (not exaggerating), and then abandoning them in enemy territory or "assisting suicide" when troops were withdrawn. There are several documented cases of women being killed for food. Around 3/4 of these women were dead before the war ended,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/19 09:11 PM
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I know women who play ball multiple times a week, compete in tournaments (dance, trivia), perform stand-up, produce charity threatre, and ffs, play poker for real money. You have an admitted bias here: the only quality that is important in a woman for is is her looks If you only care about women's looks, why would you select for women who want to talk about their hobbies? Why would you pay attention if they did?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/19 12:13 AM
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What. Okay, I will elaborate: I was inquiring in abbreviated form why you would answer my question at all, because the information I was inquiring after is the particular definition the author of the original post is using when he speaks of "a hobby". Only the author would know his own definition, and so when I recognized that your username is different, I asked whether you were the same author using a different pen name to sign your electronic messages. i.e. (are) you an alt(ernate account of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 11:46 PM
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Yep. alt = alternate account, i.e. "are you op?"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 11:34 PM
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a) Women do all of those as hobbies, so like I said: apparently, men have absolutely no personal hobbies? b) you an alt?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 11:30 PM
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What are most men's personal hobbies? What is a hobby? I genuinely sat here trying to think "what personal hobbies do most men have?" and uhhhhh. I have no idea what criteria you are using. Most men have absolutely no personal hobbies either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 11:12 PM
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Banished, if you're into city builders. It has a very Bob Ross pacing, lots of fluffy little sheep. Can be super relaxing as long as you don't mess up your supply chain and starve the whole town four hours in. The Long Dark on sandbox mode, if you like first person exploring. Play on lowest difficulty if you want only relaxing - otherwise you'll get mauled by wildlife, no chill. I replay Planescape Torment or the Baldur's Gate series every couple of years for the nostalgia comfort. Dunno if it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/19 10:00 PM
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I knew it - TRP thinks "women stop maturing at 18" is a compliment because they know men stop maturing at 17. Makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/19 02:39 PM
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Maybe she said she lost her virginity in college, and her sister mentions a boyfriend she had in high school. Idk, it's a hypothetical woman and a hypothetical lie and I'm using said hypotheticals to point out why lying is stupid so...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 04:36 PM
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A list that is fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/19 04:08 PM
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I can't speak for all wombats, but there's no reason to bring it up BUT ALSO no reason to hide it. For the most part, people figure out a ballpark "n count" organically. Like, just looking at some of the photos in my parents' house, you can tell I had a couple boyfriends before I met my husband. He has vacation pictures with other girls from before we met, etc. I swear like 99% of n count conversations are because a dude sees some kind of contextual evidence and then asks about it explicitly lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 11:49 PM
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Nope, this is one of those AMALT things where every answer is the wrong one. Bring it up, he thinks you're a lying slut and will disbelieve any number you say. If he brings it up and you don't answer or explain why it's a bad question for the health of a relationship, he thinks you're a lying slut because only lying sluts wouldn't share. OR Don't bring it up. If it gets brought up, lie like a rug, and then be a liar and be rightfully accused of lying when your sibling mentions some dude you date…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 11:19 PM
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Because if it ends up a relationship, and it comes up after living together for two years, you'd get all weird about it and feel like you were lied to anyway. Up front there's less investment if one of you turns out to be a bitch about it - i.e. women are honest because it vets partners for compatibility, just like TRP insists they are supposed to lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 10:33 PM
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I think even the left-leaning "social justice" types on PPD roll their eyes at these people too, so not sure how much discussion you're gonna get here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 10:22 PM
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This may be a quirk of my field, but the employer I work for would WAY rather pay for 1 or 2 years of mat leave and hire a young woman than risk investing in a young man. Because of the specialization required, the company is huge on talent cultivation and will fund a lot of training and certification, even pay law school tuition... But they are very loathe to waste that money on ambitious young guys who soak up the value of a public company and immediately bounce to a private firm. Tbf, I live …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 04:15 PM
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There is an entire body of research on how to change your own thoughts. CBT/DBT are some of the most well-studied, evidence-backed therapeutic techniques that exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 01:22 PM
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or the human love of stories (which became available once a game could contain enough data to tell a compelling story) It's weird to me that you fold in role-playing games (I assume tabletop?) and then come out with that. I played a lot of tabletop RPGs as a kid, not just D&D but Shadowrun and WW etc., and the whole point was collaborative story telling.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 04:55 PM
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It's weird to me how many rich dudes collect pinball machines.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 04:45 PM
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How do those things look different?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 01:11 PM
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No, my argument is that women who communicate directly with men are actively penalized for it, and learn not to. Indirect communication works. I have had arguments with men where I have said "DO X. I WANT YOU TO DO X. LITERALLY X." And the dude is like, "wtf why so indirect what do you even want." And then I go, "oh I heard about this other guy who does X, looked kinda cool, maybe you should have a look-see and tell me what you think," and ten minutes later, dude is doing X and soaking up all th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 01:08 PM
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Lol wanna see a fragile ego, try auditing a male lawyer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 11:34 AM
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Men prefer direct language made in good faith from other men. When a woman speaks directly: bitch, stop nagging, you're hysterical. You can't believe that women are inferior "oldest teenagers in the house" incapable of logical thought AND also somehow be deluded enough to think you'd listen to anything she says in good faith, no matter how direct lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 11:28 AM
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Commenting so I can find this later when I get around to making that post about how pilled guys don't read and especially don't read about history.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 08:42 PM
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Most male celebrities already do the shit I'm talking about, I dunno if you're picturing full-on drag or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 05:51 PM
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Men really underestimate how much more attractive women would find their fugly "bone structure" if they learned to tidy their ratty ass eyebrows. American men are super delusional about how low their standards of self-care are compared to other places in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/19 01:45 PM
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Men are a huuuuuuge cosmetics market internationally, eventually some corporation will figure out the right way to advertise to macho Americans. They're not buying mascara and lipstick, because women don't find neoteny attractive, but skincare and foundation and eyebrow pencils etc. will get popular. The equivalent of women's "bareface" basically. Men reeeeally underestimate how much of a difference subtle things like shaping and filling in your eyebrows makes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 03:16 PM
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I assume she was in preschool at least 18 years ago. I'm not disagreeing with her experience, I am explaining how it has changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 12:27 PM
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I said: Pathologizing normal child behaviour is still bad, ofc. And yes, of course. Boys hear it too. It's not appropriate to masturbate in public, just like it's not appropriate to go to school without clothes on, or to put on shoes before going outside. Children need to be socialized, and "don't stick your hand down your pants in class" is one of those things. That kid can stick her hand down her pants in her room or after bed time or in the bath all she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 12:19 PM
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That sounds more like they thought you were being sexually abused, not "degenerate". Although I suppose it might vary based on demographics... Pathologizing normal child behaviour is still bad, ofc. I'm not sure when you were in preschool, but these days the official, backed-by-research line is more or less, "yeah, that feels nice, but it's something we do in private. Why don't we [do an activity, something that fulfills a similar need: bored and seeking stimulation? self-soothing before sleep?]…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 03:04 AM
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chafing That's why. That's why the blood like 99% of the time. You were downvoted because you're an idiot who has never googled what a hymen is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/19 02:32 AM
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I'm not defending GoT, I'm attacking your reading ability.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 12:55 AM
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... Game of Thrones is explicitly inspired by the War of the Roses, a historical event.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 11:16 PM
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Have you read 50 Shades? Or even googled the plot? The BDSM is a bad thing - the romance hinges on the dude agreeing to have vanilla sex and acknowledging he's only into BDSM because of mommy issues. Like, "my birth mother, the crack whore" is one of the most meme-able things to ever come from that dumb franchise. Game of Thrones is written by a man and based on a period of history when women were literal property and executions were public entertainment. Also it isn't portrayed as being fun or …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/19 10:36 PM
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Those aren't really comparable: women aren't competing with men for other women, men are competing with men. Hypergamy doesn't take place within the male hierarchy, more like adjacent to it. The woman is not competing in the hierarchy, although she is affected by its outcome. This is why guys can be chill about "nah, not yours, just your turn." There's no uppity lady questioning his position; he lost to another man, fair and square. Either way, he's still superior to that whore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 10:40 PM
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Er, both? My best friend is a gay man, and my friends and social circle include a lot of other gay men. I regularly go to gay bars and drag brunches and pride parades. I co-founded a gay-straight alliance that basically became the hook-up network for my town's young gays pre-tinder. "Fag hag" is a trope for a reason: gay dudes tend to have female friends. I have observed enough gay dudes, both as close friends and in the wild, that I feel like this is a pretty informed opinion, but if you have d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 06:45 PM
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It's inherently homoerotic, at least. lol Most gay men genuinely like women in a way that straight men, especially TRPs, just do not. They seem to find most of the TRP imaginings about ~the mysterious inner workings of the female mind~ as pathetic and off-base as women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 06:07 PM
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I think this is one of those "watch what they do" things. Men think they'd like that, but they forget that they perceive a man and woman doing the same thing very differently. I say this as someone with a lot of stereotypically masculine hobbies: gaming, weight-lifting, political policy wonkery, etc. I will choose the three-hour documentary on the Vietnam War over any reality TV or boring TV drama 100% of the time. None of that wins any points with men. You know what does? Being fit and blonde a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 04:50 PM
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She has to be sexually voracious and also into whatever hobbies and interests you are... and also tolerant of your distain for her hobbies and interests?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/19 02:41 PM
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this girl in hs who would change drastically depending on This is basically a description of teenagers, tho? Someone who does this at 25 is a psycho, but at 15 this is normal. I knew loads of guys in high school who changed completely depending on which friend group they were hanging out with, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 03:10 AM
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sobriety plays a big role Inhibition makes it harder to orgasm, whoa new information could not have predicted.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 10:52 PM
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Yeah, for the purposes of hooking up, yes/no is all that's required. But I dunno how useful it would be for judging attractiveness/how it's perceived; as I said, the guy I'd rate as a 10 is a "no, would not fuck", which would be misleading despite being true.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 04:48 PM
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You could make the 1-10 scale work by adjusting the numbers based on one's self-score vs. their score from opposite sex, I think. A few people here were kind enough (lol) to rate me on the picture thread we had ages ago, and it averaged out to an 8. I would never rate myself an 8 - maybe a 6 in makeup on a good day, just because I'm not overweight and I know the average woman is. If I rate myself a 6 at most, then rate a guy 5, 6, 7 , I would date those guys and find them attractive -- they are …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 01:38 PM
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... my issue with people who identify as agnostic is that they tend to deliberately or ignorantly insist that atheism = "hard atheism" despite most atheists not holding that position; and also tend to inadvertently provide support for the religious position by formulating an argument that easily justifies Pascal's wager and "both sides" behaviour. How do you know that the answer to the religious debate is unknowable? How can you have knowledge of what knowledge we do not know? You've just kicked…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 05:50 PM
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... I'm a size 2 and have never been able to play those pool games where you dive for things at the bottom because I float too well. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 04:31 PM
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I read this and was like, "c'mon really?! 15+ and it's over?!" ... And then I realized you're talking in kg. Yeah, totally reasonable. 15 lbs is fixable; definitely worthy of comment, though. 15kg is too much, and that kind of gain is a sign of a deeper problem (unless it's a woman who is currently 8 months pregnant with twins - which is a deep problem in a way lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 04:26 PM
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I think some men feel a lot of shame for being "emotional" and then externalize that to their partner. "I'm ashamed that you saw my feelings" ----> "How dare you shame me for my feelings." It's a great way to smack down a hand offered in support, or to imply that the offer would be unwelcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 11:39 PM
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Why only count video porn? There are scads of woodblock prints from Edo Japan with images of explicit fucking, fluids and swollen members depicted in detail, and contemporary references to people masturbating and having sex while looking at 'em. Both men and women. When the Victorians dug up Pompeii, they found so much porn. Wall to wall murals of orgies. The Romans were precursors to modern furries, apparently, what with all the half- or mostly-animal gods involved. Also stuff like this: In Mes…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 10:20 PM
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You either know a lot of hairy women or a lot of smokers idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 09:40 PM
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Dude I studied North Korea in grad school and worked with Andrei Lankov, pllllease try me. I said most women work on the black market (not private firms wtf) and won't get the benefits anyway - state rationing collapsed in the 90s and "housewives" have been driving the North Korean food economy pretty much ever since. The point isn't that the existence of North Korean mat leave should justify anything the US does or doesn't do -- it's that even a communist shithole dictatorship like North Korea …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 01:41 PM
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Fun fact: in 2015, North Korean maternity leave was expanded from 150 to 240 days. Most women in NK are working in the black market so it realistically affects a minority of women, but still. They also have free daycare (with varying degrees of exploitative implementation). Kinda proves your point, though. Brutal dictatorships that torture and intern thousands of their own citizens for political thought crimes are still more progressive than the US on maternity benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 02:09 PM
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Is this an American thing? "Hey, stop by for a vape" is no different than "Hey, stop by for a beer" around here, even before it was legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 09:53 PM
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I saw a really good comparison of actual female vs how-males-imagine-female gaze someone made using the 50 Shades movies somewhere... In the first movie (directed by a woman), there's a shot of Christian Grey with his shirt off. He's framed in the doorway, kinda backlit. Bare foot, low slung jeans. He saunters toward the camera. This man is coming to fuck you. In a later movie (directed by a man), there's a shot of Christian Grey with his shirt off. He's well lit, he's working out and doing some…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 01:19 PM
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You have it backwards: generational wealth correlates with a childhood diet rich in protein and vitamin A and D, and lacking in physical stress that would inhibit growth. This is why North Korean children are 3" shorter than South Koreans on average, and why gymnasts are tiny.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 06:39 PM
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Yes: a lady is chafing and wants to stop having sex. Some guys are having a wanking contest and whoever jizzes first gets the P1 controller. Guy cums on the shirt of some messy hobag instead of knocking her up and paying child support for 18 years. The sperm bank closes in five minutes. The premature ejaculation causes dude to seek medical treatment and avoid worse issues. Now what is a "pure compliment"?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 10:19 PM
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You're changing the goalposts. Is "quick" an objective compliment? Or have we just agreed that the subjective situation affects whether something is a "compliment" in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 10:01 PM
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I could propose a hypothetical greeb teapot in space and wr could talk about that. But if you want people to imagine how that hypothetical teapot makes them feel, while also insisting that their subjective experiences of teapots and green do not count... what is the point of such a question?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 09:58 PM
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I'm engaging in the Socratic method to help you realize your question doesn't have an answer because "compliments outside of real life" don't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 09:43 PM
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What is "objectively positive"? If I sleep with a dude and he cums too fast, is it a compliment to tell him he's "quick"?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 09:42 PM
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And "all women are like that" is clearly not referring to all women, but just the subset that are like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 09:36 PM
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Why aren't you being honest? If you were honest and transparent, you'd say: "there's no evidence of this teapot, but if it does exist, I don't know what colour it is." But apparently you understand the social convention of "joking" well enough to play along by saying something you know not to be true. Why would you do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 09:31 PM
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What is a "pure compliment"? It's like you're trying to define "wet" or "thought" as some kind of free-floating essence that exists apart from reality. These are emergent qualities. There isn't such a thing a "pure wet".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 09:26 PM
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Can you describe the teapot orbiting Mars? Is it blue?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 09:16 PM
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Having shared a bathroom with a little sister who never cleaned up after herself: probably setting powder? That shit gets everywhere, especially if you're "baking" your foundation. It doesn't stain, but it doesn't rinse out with just water because it clumps when wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 03:49 PM
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I've been shouted down by a tram driver because I walked by an out of service fare machine to tap at the next one (like you are supposed to), and he then berated me about fare jumping and how people like me are responsible for budget cuts while we waited for transit control to arrive and do a fare check. They checked and verified that I already paid. No apology for holding up the line, or accusing me wrongly. Can you imagine what would happen if he did that to a man?! (Psst: transit drivers are …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/19 01:50 PM
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You couldn't read the literal next sentence? Like living off the grid or something, it's very counterculture to the right crowd Counterculture is by definition not normal. I get it though. People often feel confronted and defensive when someone states they don't do a thing that you do, as though they are implying you're wrong for doing the thing. Especially if there is evidence that the thing you're doing is bad for you or for society. Y'know, like some people get aggro at the idea that Vegetari…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 10:14 PM
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I remember being asked for my Facebook instead of my phone number by a guy in like 2005, and I was so weirded out. You want my surname? Blech. I acknowledge that my aspergers makes me a massive outlier, but I've met other people my age (i.e. millenials) who aren't "into" social media, or limit their use of it to certain platforms or times or topics. I think the cultural zeitgeist is shifting in such a way that, as long as you aren't preachy or totally inaccessible, not having social media is eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/19 04:31 PM
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Men on PPD: "how dare you call us violent gasp! women are just as violent (for a very specific subset of "violence") shock! appalled! and men are the main victims of violence (nevermind by men, not the point) horror! how DARE women suggest such a thing, how DARE they be afraid of us!!! Also Men on PPD: "women are solipsists and hate generalizations and men aren't like that"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 01:16 PM
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Isn't that the case by definition?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 01:06 PM
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I think it's the plot to a few Disney movies where the guy convinces a Very Ugly Girl to take off her glasses and whoa she's a babe now with inheritable property.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/19 01:04 PM
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I cut my hair in high school, not even very short, like chin-length, and even though 99% of people told me it looked great, one random guy said, "you look a bit like a German boy." That was like 15 years ago, and I've never cut my hair that short since lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 02:04 PM
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Wait, how is she a slut for sleeping with one guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 11:51 PM
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I don't think most women are constantly subconsciously scanning the environment for opportunities to bone in the same way a lot of men are. Even when single, and especially if not in an "appropriate" space like a party or a bar or whatever. Y'know how sometimes you'll get really absorbed in a task, and you won't notice you're hungry until someone goes, "hey, wanna go out for dinner?" and then you realize you're starving? It's kinda like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 11:46 PM
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Tbf, you probably notice the gay guys that act like that more than the ones that don't. We jokingly call my best friend the "fag wizard" because he has a magical power for sniffing out totally straight-presenting gay/bi dudes to hook up with wherever we go somehow without using Grindr lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 11:22 PM
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If gay men were into women, no woman would date a straight guy lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 10:15 PM
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Some women 1) have an anatomy that positions the internal parts of the clitoris near the vaginal wall, making it easy for any dick to stimulate. Some 2) have an anatomy that will stimulate the clit via a dick that is curved or the right length or whatever shape matches welll. Some 3) have an anatomy that does not allow for enough internal clitoral stimulation to orgasm from it at all. You are calling a woman's experience "weird" because she is describing 2, and you have (to your knowledge) only …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 10:05 PM
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You realize both dicks and vaginas can vary in anatomy? Your dick shape matched those two hole shapes better.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 09:51 PM
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Wah wah waaaah.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 09:50 PM
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It's so sad that I find it genuinely impressive a man on PPD admits women are capable of being fathful lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 09:48 PM
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That's why I specified non-fat non-athlete lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 08:42 PM
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No -- sloppy writing on my part, sorry. That's what I get for attempting to reddit on the train instead of waiting for a computer. Not lowers lifespan, but lowers QoL as you age. I should have said: Short bursts of anabolic acitivity and mild caloric restriction are both correlated with long-term health Those things are correlated with longevity, but so is (I think) running marathons... although I'd be willing to bet a lot of money that is a result of lifestyle factors rather than marathon train…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 07:35 PM
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Most athletes are very "fit" but rarely "healthy" over the long term except for certain low impact sports. Short bursts of anabolic activity and mild caloric restriction are both correlated with longevity; the ability to run a marathan or lift 500 lbs - with or without drugs - is correlated negatively.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 01:20 PM
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That sub section of men who claim to like "smart" women, what they mean is smart enough to get the stuff I want to talk about. If you are smart in an area they have no interest in, they don't care. To add to this: if you are smarter than them, especially on a topic they want to talk about, you are an arrogant bitch and a know-it-all and show-off and talk too much and women are so irrational.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/19 11:17 AM
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Yeah, men get uncontrollable boners for an amazing cut crease. Surefire way to turn a guy on: contouring!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 01:27 PM
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I swear this might be the only place I have to argue such obvious stuff.Sports are a ,mainly, male product.Just because some dudes take their girlfriends with them it doesn't mean that women are the main consumers of sports I wonder if this "it's for men" perception might be specific to American football, maybe American college football? Or American sports? Idk, sport culture is definitely a for-the-whole-family thing in my experience. It's possible this is specific to Commonwealth sports cultur…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/19 03:58 AM
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Majority of psychology and biology grads are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/19 03:01 AM
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I married a Korean dude. But originally I was interning at DailyNK.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 10:42 PM
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Cool, which bubble were you in: TEFL or military? It's a common trope that esports players don't keep girlfriends because it makes them play worse - hookups only. Which isn't hard. They are literal celebrities. I'm talking about professionals, not just semi-decent players in pc-bangs. Like I said: competence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 09:57 PM
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I'm genuinely not. I've lived in South Korea lol. Those guys have actual groupies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 09:44 PM
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Yeah "allowable" was probably not the best word choice then. But I still disagree that a specific set of hobbies is attractive. Competence is attractive. Professional Starcraft players are drowning in pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 09:12 PM
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Yeah, okay, you pedant, no one "needs" anyone. Point being: video games are only a detriment if you're a loser already. Most regular dudes under 35 grew up playing video games, continue to do so, and manage to get laid and/or maintain relationships just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 08:56 PM
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If you (general) need your wife or girlfriend to "allow" you to pursue whatever entertainment you want, you have fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 08:48 PM
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A lot of men find any talk about babies kind of alarming and react as though you've tossed a grenade in their lap. I've been accused of being "baby crazy" before. I do not want a baby. I have never been nor tried to get pregnant. Buuut I worked with babies, and so for almost 10 years most of my "how was your day" or "what do you do" stories involved babies. I have ended up in multiple bewildering Serious Talks because apparently talking about babies in any way whatsoever = baby crazy. Like dude,…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 04:13 PM
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My experience being close friends with various gay dudes over like 20 years is that gay men are the ones who want fuck all to do with straight guys (except for the "straight" guys on Grindr). In general, they seem to find straight men as insecure and fragile and egoistic as women frequently do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 03:49 PM
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You don't think men and women's general attitudes about and level of interest in children affect how they raise children?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 11:37 PM
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b/c women don't care about another woman's kids Nonsense. Women overwhelmingly dominate in pretty much any child-related field: childcare, pediatrics, obstretrics, child psychology, elementary education, child occupational therapy, speech-language pathology, etc.. One woman isn't squeezing out all 30 kids in a daycare class -- those are other women's kids she chooses to look after. She even chooses it over other, potentially more lucrative career paths. A lot of women genuinely like children. A …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 11:15 PM
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Depends where. Toronto, Vancouver, Montreal? No one cares. Medicine Hat, Alberta? People care lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/19 10:49 PM
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North Korea is a better example. 25% of the population is in the military, almost 6 million people. The regime is very aware that keeping young men fed, loyal and busy is the only thing preventing a violent coup from lighting that shit on fire.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 09:55 PM
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"Slight male majority" and "about 50/50" mean the same thing in this context. It is about 50-50, with the "about" part being a slight male majority, excepting apps and sites explicitly marketed to women/religious people.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 07:12 PM
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Some women select for manchildren for some inexplicable reason, and then get angry the manchildren act like children. Hardly inexplicable at all: plenty of women, especially ones who marry/LTR in their twenties, select a man for his "potential". Then the potential is never realized, or she was flat out wrong it existed in the first place. If your average dude makes a bad investment and it's abundantly clear it will never return any profit, is he going to cut his losses? Research says, nah. Not l…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 07:09 PM
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Traditional OLDs with good rep hover around a slight male majority -- although again, bots. When surveying living humans, twice the number of men than women report using apps or OLD. The more hook-uppy the app, the more dudes. On the other hand, Christian dating sites are overwhelmingly female.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 06:43 PM
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Remember when that Ashley Madison data leaked? It was like 99% dudes and bots lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/19 05:14 PM
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I say things like "I'm very attracted to my husband" because any more detail than that is going to invite discussion into my private life. AMALT. You might not, but some dude will try to goad me into describing a sex act so he can call me a slut or a frigid harpy if I refuse. We've had entire posts on the topic before. A happily married wife doesn't offer her husband out for other dudes to shit on. Red pillers are going to hamster that you're lying or delusional or lying to yourself anyway, so w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/19 11:43 PM
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The limp dick and latent homosexuality are probably worse for your marriage than the beer gut ever was.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 10:25 PM
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... This gives so much insight into your deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 10:01 PM
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Dudes in Hong Kong are out punching police carrying shotguns in full riot gear - alpha as fuck. All that T in the water, amirite?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 09:58 PM
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Soooo skinny Asian dudes are high T alphas, got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/19 09:50 PM
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It's one of my favourite texts, the book especially. There's a whole chapter about the hottest women in Florin by rank, and Buttercup is like #5 until she evens out her wrist fat and the reigning #1 gets wrinkles from frowning one time in her entire life lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 05:29 PM
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Is that a BP movie tho? Buttercup is dumb as fuck and literally has no qualities besides Being Beautiful (this is hilariously made even clearer in the book - she names her horse "Horse" because she lacks imagination). Wesley is Chadly hot so she doesn't care he's poor and disrepsects her, and then she's Alpha Widowed and gets snapped up by a wealthy dark triad RP prince who plans to fuck her and then murder her - a literal pump and dump. Princess Bride is a deconstruction of BP romance fantasy t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/19 04:46 PM
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You know what's funny a lot of women still believe in horoscopes, psychics and fortune tellers. Men do too, except they tend to prefer the "conspiracy nut" or "virulent nationalism" varieties of the same bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/19 04:33 PM
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Omg Tuxedo Mask!!! I used to make my mom tape episodes of Sailor Moon on VHS because it only aired when I was at school. Re-watching the Japanese with subs years later explained a lot of the wtf in that show. "Oh, so they aren't cousins. That's a relief." Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 10:19 PM
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I interned in an office literally across the street from the SM building, so "meet" is a strong word haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 12:00 PM
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I saw Taemin in person back in, like, 2010...? Ugh, the prettiest ladyboy. He was the skinniest little genderbending thing and served as thinspiration for anoretics the world over lol. I adore Korean "flower boys" but in a weirdly self-assessive kind of way? Like the same way I'd look at pictures of skinny female models. The more masculine Korean celebs - they tend to get into acting, especially once they age out of the youthful pretty. I find T.O.P really attractive, for example. Korean actors …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/19 11:46 AM
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Heels and stockings and breeches were designed for showing off men's shapely calves. Before that, it was all about accentuating dat dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 04:08 PM
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Nope, married one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 10:08 AM
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South Korea has mandatory military service for all men and there are still a metric fuckton of angry virgins there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/19 01:39 AM
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You're really reaching for a charitable interpretation here. Her parents have lives of their own; they aren't retired old coots with nothing better to do. They are going out of their way to help under the assumption that he is working. He is lying that he is going to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 09:18 PM
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Yeah, in a thread about dead bedrooms. A woman having to take on the male role while the man fails completely at both the male and female roles is going to result in a dead bedroom every time. It's not my fault men will apprently put up with un-maternal shitheads and outright financial abuse for a whiff of pussy. Get good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 08:17 PM
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How have you managed to turn an anecdote about a man WITH A JOB and a woman WITH TWO JOBS into bitching about sahms? He is supposed to be working. He is not. He is pretending to work and lazing around at home while his wife's parents look after his children.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 08:05 PM
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foists responsibility for his children onto his on-laws
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 07:56 PM
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How? Having sex doesn't affect the hymen most of the time. If you fuck a girl with a flexible hymen, is she still a virgin because her hymen is intact?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 05:24 PM
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You want to find out if a woman is a virgin, so you check the status of her hymen. If it is intact, you declare her a virgin. Except this doesn't apply to all the women with intact hymens who are not virgins, and all the women who are virgins and do not have intact or visible hymens. Those are the majority of women. What is the correlation? That some women with intact hymens are virgins?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 05:16 PM
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How can something be proof in any case if it is an unreliable indicator of what you are testing for? There is no correlation between a woman's virginity and her hymen. I'm not bitter. I'm merely pointing out that you are uninformed and/or spreading misinformation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 04:25 PM
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Hiiighly dependent on field. I work in a government-related job. Those jobs are where the government is, i.e. capital cities. I need to live in the capital or drive to it for work, and the suburbs outside the capital for at least two hours' drive are just as expensive to live in because the density is so low.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 04:15 PM
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If a woman never had a visible hymen or her hymen is flexible enough not to be affected by intercourse, how is that proof of anything? You might as well say it's sufficient proof of a man's virginity to look at his dick size. Vaginas whittle down a man's dick like a pencil sharpener, so small dicked dudes are sluts. Science.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 04:10 PM
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And then spend 4 hours of my day driving to and from that city because that's where all the jobs are? No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 03:56 PM
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Except it's not proof of anything. Which African, South Asian, Near or Middle Eastern culture are you from?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 03:53 PM
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This is explained in the introduction on the Wikipedia page, so you've apparently formed this opinion without even informing yourself of that much. Fewer than half of virgin rape victims have any damage to the hymen at all. I'm willing to bet quite a lot of money that most men couldn't find a hymen on a real woman with a diagram to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 03:45 PM
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Women can be born without noticeable hymens. They can also be born with stretchy hymens. Hymens are also capable of healing from damage. If you fuck a girl and she bleeds, 99.9% of the time it's caused by vaginal friction from lack of wetness, not her hymen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 03:18 PM
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called either delusional or liars when they say stuff that goes against the red pill Even if women agree with Red Pill stuff they say that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/19 01:06 PM
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Doing chores falls under Rule 2. It doesn't make you more attractive to do chores. It makes you less unattractive to do chores. She goes to work and then goes to her other work and then comes home to feed and bathe and put the kids down... and he's been watching rugby all day and left dinner dishes in the sink, and wasn't even with the kids all day - her parents had them. If this guy ran up $15,000 and then came to his wife and said, "I fucked up. I am going to take a second job to pay it off," …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 04:51 PM
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Also, what woman under 50 buys paperback romance novels anymore? Even my mom reads that shit on her Kindle.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/19 03:39 AM
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It... it depends? Like, are you trying to make her feel feminine and sexy? Trying to get her to agree to go to a secondary location with a stranger? In general, people like and trust with people who are similar. People are attracted (or repulsed) by difference. You probably don't want to play up your increased muscle mass and aggression when inviting her onto your boat, but if you want her to feel like the duchess of cocksuck in bed, the muscles and aggression will help.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 10:56 PM
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The reason seems pretty obvious: she discovered he'd wracked up $15,000 in debt. She got a second job to help him pay it off. Then she discovered he'd been lying about his work hours, he's basically part time and not doing childcare. He's been going to "work" and just, like, wasting gas. And then I overhear him joking/bitching to the neighbour about how his wife won't put out. Lol no fucking shit. I anticipate a divorce in their near future.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 10:30 PM
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None of that applies to erotica. It is all free online. Even the stuff that isn't. 50 Shades of Grey was originally a Twilight fanfic, and if I cared to look, I could probably find drafts with the names switched up on a blog somewhere. You want niche, weird shit? Write it yourself or drop a request to a writer you like. Hell, search the tags, it probably exists. 99% of the weird erotica is for the lulz.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 09:51 PM
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Who the hell pays for porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 09:27 PM
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Erotica is usually lighter fare. Lol is it? Head over to Archive of Our Own and peruse the selection of tentacle body horror, "ABO" fics (boys with vaginas INSIDE their assholes! also PREGNANT boys with vaginas inside their assholes!!!), anatomically impossible BDSM, incest, and every ensemble character ever getting spitroasted by the entire cast of whatever franchise they're from - including the ugly and non-human ones! Groooooot!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 09:18 PM
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guys' ability to tell if girls are wearing makeup or not Women can't even tell these days, guys who think they can are delusional. I get compliments from female coworkers/friends on my "natural skin" because it looks like I just wear mascara and chapstick. I colour correct the shit out of my skin, paint better skin on top, blend it out, and seal it with drag queen shellac so I can have my face mushed into pillows without leaving smudges. The result is "natural bareface~ omg you have such great s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 08:59 PM
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It's inappropriate all the time, but sometimes she can enjoy an inappropriate thing. This is a good way to frame it. Also why a lot of successful random approaches include a line that acknowledges it's inappropriate: "hey, I never do this, but..."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 08:36 PM
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I never said it was? But, uh, I have definitely been called a misandrist for saying RPW-style shit. A whole bunch of terps on PPD had a tantrum and called me manipulative and gross because I talked about giving my husband compliments and blowjobs to keep him from getting ornery. Y'all are the biggest bunch of pearl clutchers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 05:52 PM
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It really wasn't about submissiveness, but regardless: describing what that looks like in actions a woman can take is interpreted by men with male ears and minds as "exploiting men for fun and profit".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 05:41 PM
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The original RPW was literally taken over because men didn't like what the women were saying lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 01:53 PM
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Women who are successfully implementing that advice are invisible to men. It's not dating advice as in How To Get A Man, it's relationship advice as in How To Live With Your Husband For Forty Years Without Divorcing Him. If you're a man who needed RP to get laid, you've already missed your window for finding this chick. We're just not in the same milieu. My mum was 18 when she married my dad and they'd been dating a few years. My sister and I both married at 24 to guys we'd been LTR'd with for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 01:26 PM
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I never said it was...? Most women are naturally red pilled, not members of a niche sub on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 01:02 PM
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No shit it sounds mercenary and predatory. I deliberately used edgelordy RP nonsense jargon to make it sound as malicious as possible. If I said, "Men do not think like women do and have different priorities. If a woman wants to be in a happy marriage, she needs to learn how to communicate her needs in ways that her man understands and is receptive to. Women also need to learn how to overcome the resentment caused by typically male behaviours, and use positive behavioural strategies to reinforce…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 10:16 PM
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Uhh, I meant my mom as in "women are naturally red pilled". Her mom taught her, and her, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 09:42 PM
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I have never had a woman go "wtf are you talking about" when discussing the basic tenets of RPW. I learned that shit from my mom. RPW-as-run-by-RP-men reads as Stepford Wife fantasy, sure, because RP men didn't just bitch about how unpleasant they find the language - they took that shit over and turned it into plate school. The original female founders were smart enough to abandon and disavow the ship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 09:26 PM
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I'm aware, I'm literally talking about RPW lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 09:04 PM
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Hemorrhoids is why squat toilets are better, it's not about shitting more lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 09:02 PM
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Well, if you stumbled across a sub where women discuss things like how to manage men's egos, how to lock down a good provider and how to manipulate men into being pleasant to be around, based on the premise that men are egotistical manchildren completely oblivious to the emotional states of themselves and others, I'm sure you'd just leave that be. Spoiler: that's not what happened. The menz just faiiiiiled to understand that it wasn't meant for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 08:55 PM
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Do you not have any basic notion of history Nope. TRP and right-political spaces in general are ahistorical by design. The goal is to convince people that a) history didn't happen; b) if it did, it wasn't that bad, and c) if it was bad, it's nothing like what we're doing right now, even if it is exactly the same thing, how dare you. There is no "argument". It's rhetorical theatre. Classic authoritarian playbook: force the other person to engage on your level. Distract them from your mission by m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 06:55 PM
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It makes sense that TRP's relationship advice boils down to How To Get Her To File Divorce 101. "Save the man, not the marriage," etc. He gets the intermittent panicked end-of-relationship sex while she's still trying every trick to evoke a scrap of affection, and then once she gives up and leaves, he's free to pursue the 72 virgins he was promised...? I think that's how it's supposed to go. PS: Love your username.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 06:32 PM
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A "looong time ago"? You realize that many of the people impeaching Clinton in the 90s are still actively working in government?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 06:13 PM
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Female. I've never had sex with a stranger. I have no interest in that. Sounds like a great way to get a stalker and/or STDs. I have had what I think most women think of as "casual sex": while single, I had a few sexual encounters with guys in my extended friend group. There was no romantic emotional connection, but we'd had a few deep stoner conversations.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 05:54 PM
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The whole broken bird vibe really does it for some people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 05:38 PM
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NEETs aren't overworked themselves; they are prevented from working by the over-worked. Paying one person to work the hours typically worked by two people drastically reduces the number of available jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 04:01 PM
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You too. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 03:29 PM
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Let's make the topic something less rife: "A lot of housefires are caused when someone forgets food on the stove." "Nuh-uh, housefires are caused by the rapid exothermic oxidation of combustable material." "Uh, you don't think leaving food on a burner is a reason that fires happen?" "Not really. Combustion is a function of the temperature-dependent composition-specific vapour pressure of a material and how easily it can ignite at ambient temperatures." "Uhhhh, sure, good job. You're technically …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 03:21 PM
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Can a man with 10/10 face and body who is unconfident and submissive and lacking game lose attraction from his wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 02:43 PM
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"Game" in a marriage involves kino/seduction, i.e. doing things that make her feel loved. You're not even disagreeing with me, you're just winging that I didn't use the Special Red Pill Man Words.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 02:38 PM
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I'm using the common definition of sexual attraction, as in, "the desire or quality of arousing sexual interest", not whatever sneaky TRP term of art you've made up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 02:26 PM
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or has dissipated over time for whatever reason Uh. You don't think "I feel unloved/unwanted" is a reason to lose attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/19 02:14 PM
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Law will be absolutely dominated by women and gays soon, if not already; it's becoming super obvious as the boomers age out and are replaced. The only straight dudes in my office these days are forensic auditors and investigators.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/19 04:25 PM
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That too!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 08:08 PM
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My issue is not with the statistics or data itself, it's with the tendency to skim abstracts and assume a study says what they want it to rather than what it says. Of course this is not exclusive to TRP, but they frequently use declining marriage rates as a proxy for increased single motherhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 07:20 PM
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The number of children born out of wedlock is not a substitute for the number of children raised by single mothers - they are measuring completely different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 07:04 PM
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When trps about single mothers, they’re not differentiating between a woman who had kids out of wedlock and a mother who was married but is now divorced. The statistics that they cite, however, do.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 06:43 PM
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It's not flaired tho?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 06:05 PM
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Yeah, there's definitely a sense of "now you feel our pain" lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 05:47 PM
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Hit the nail on the head, I think. A lot of dead bedrooms are the result of both partners expressing love in ways the other just doesn't get, and then a feedback loop is formed: men need sex to feel loved, women need affection to feel loved; men won't give affection when feeling unloved, women won't give sex when feeling unloved.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 04:20 PM
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The earliest levels of dread are supposed to involve "seducing" your girlfriend/wife. So RP basically acknowledges and then immediately blows past the idea that most women need to feel sexy to have sex, and the way to do that is by touching and flirting. A lot of men start out a relationship stroking her neck, squeezing her hips while she's doing the dishes, kissing her randomly, snuggling in bed, telling her how good her hair smells... And then they live together for a while, and all that is re…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 04:16 PM
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Here's one: a "single mother" is not the same as an "unwed mother".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 03:51 PM
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I studied Japanese colonialism in Korea and the development of the North Korean state. I worked with Andrei fucking Lankov. The amount of people who have asked me if I met my Korean husband because of k-pop makes me want to kill myself. Korean studies departments are overrun with fucking weebs now, I hate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 03:37 PM
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My sister literally ripped from hole to hole. Askfthizbxugugggh.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 01:27 PM
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It's amazing to me that TRPs can seriously believe in unproven evo psych claims about the influence of caveman social dynamics on modern dating, but the documented, easily researched origin of things like internet message boards and trolls and PUAs is somehow ancient, irrelevant history.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 05:57 PM
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I agree it goes both ways, which is why I specifically said "people" and not "men".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 05:50 PM
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Spot the difference: "Why aren't we fucking anymore?" "What can I do to help you get in the mood?"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 05:42 PM
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The internet was invented in the 1970s, I'd say that's had a pretty long-reaching effect on culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 05:21 PM
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Well, they tried something. A lot of people struggle with what communication looks like, and don't have the skills to do it or facilitate it with other people. So you end up with people who think they are "communicating" but are actually just nagging or complaining in a slightly different tone of voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 05:12 PM
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... you think the 70s and 90s are "long gone history"?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 05:05 PM
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And then you fuck again before bed, I guess? Are we talking full penetrative naked sex or duty blowjobs or what? Is she getting off or is it basically masturbation/free use?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 05:04 PM
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I can't even fathom how you would have the time. Are you unemployed?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 04:07 PM
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Pretty important? I guess? The habits that go with being overweight are more unattractive to me than the weight itself, but I married a skinny Asian guy who barely works out, so apparently I'm more forgiving of the slenderman type. I dated a guy who was overweight during my gap year, and I found him attractive at first but it died quickly. I need a guy who gets my fasting habits and lets me be if I wanna eat protein powder and spinach for days at a time. He liked to cook and would give me these …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 10:33 PM
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The rules governing mass and energy don't magically change when you take medication. The problem is still "eating too much". Some medications/hormone changes increase appetite, i.e. you eat too much. Medications and hormone changes can also lower your BMR. Being less active because you are ill or too depressed to move will lower your TDEE. If your body requires less and you are eating the same amount as before, you are eating too much. The issue is more that people don't know how much they need …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 06:01 PM
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Yes please!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 11:52 AM
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Exactly this. Why the hell would I take marriage advice from 40-yo bitter male divorcees or 21-yo desperate college boys or dumb just-engaged Susan? My mum and aunt and family friends have been happily married 30+ years, I'll listen to them, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 11:38 AM
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Yeah, cause no one knew who he was.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 11:30 AM
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TRP's approach to history is the most beautiful post-modern ahistorical imagination project ever. I wish there was a Drunk History-style show: "TRPer Uses Novel Published in 1831 to Explain Medieval Marriage", etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 10:56 PM
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I very distinctly remember the first time someone asked me for my Facebook name instead of my phone number when hitting on me and I was so repulsed. Like, my digits, fine, but you want my surname and my friends and where I work too? Wtf weirdo. Buuuut now that's the normal thing. Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 09:37 PM
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I love the contortions you guys are going through to insist that women are incapable of recognizing when a guy is approaching. If women couldn't recognize that, none of y'all would get laid. You aren't being sneaky lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 11:33 AM
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The world has the potential to blow up in the morning too. I don't need to rationalize my discomfort with that by telling everyone about how fickle and inhospitable planets can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 12:06 AM
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How do you know what people are capable of besides by how they ACT? I somehow manage to have boundaries and have, for the most part, avoided rape and abuse and crime without needing to believe all men are potential rapists or abusers or criminals. E: We may be using different definitions, or at least understandings of the word "potential". Like, my couch has the potential to spontaneously combust right now, but there is no reason for that to affect my life in any meaningful way. If there is a bo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 11:49 PM
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How does it follow from your experience of failing to set boundaries with a woman (or even some women) that all women are like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 11:39 PM
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Oh, so you had to blame other people before you could take responsibility for yourself. Seems legit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 11:29 PM
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See, you managed to articulate that without stereotyping or over-generalizing! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 11:25 PM
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How does AWALT help you when dealing with individuals? Are you just reeeeeally uncomfortable with the idea that "some people are like that"? Why does there need to be a universal essence to justify behaviours you don't like in some people?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 10:23 PM
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Do you seriously need to believe that women as a whole are Macchiavellian, immature and inevitable cheaters in order to set boundaries for yourself? I'm genuinely autistic and don't struggle anywhere near as much with splitting and over-generalizing as TRPs seem to. It's not a "boundary" to believe your wife will cheat on you without evidence - that's paranoia.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 10:17 PM
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You are looking at 3/4 and going, "Well, that has the potential to be 1. So it is 1."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 10:03 PM
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I just don't understand the impulse to force yourself to think that 3/4 = 1 and 1/4 = 0 when you are perfectly capable of understanding fractions, yanno?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 09:55 PM
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It is possible to take precautions to mitigate risk and set boundaries without also believing dumb shit. I'm not bothered by setting boundaries. I'm bothered by the weird rationalizations you're making to call "I deliberately believe in things I know not to be true" a boundary, instead of acknowledging that it is the same magical thinking you were doing before with the adjectives flipped. If you think all men are Machiavellian, cheats, and immature as well, I suppose that's at least consistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 09:19 PM
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How does "I let myself go" lead to "all women are hypergamous, solipsistic, Machiavellian, and immature"? You're basically saying: "if I don't generalize my assumptions to the entire population of women, I will blithely follow my dick into bad decisions; therefore, I have to assume all women, my girlfriend/wife included, are terrible harpies out to get me. Sure, I 'let myself go', but if ALL women are hypergamous, even if I didn't let myself go, she would have cheated/nagged/left/dead-bedroomed/…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 08:00 PM
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How is it "taking care of your own shit" to ascribe negative traits to whole populations because you were wronged by individuals? I assume the female sex, collectively, did not take your money.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 06:23 PM
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Why do you advocate for treating people according to actions you assume they've thought about but have never committed then?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 06:07 PM
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So basically TRP is in favour of thought crime?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 05:55 PM
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I get the idea you're thinking "suburban bus stop", which yeah, weirdos. But I live in a major urban centre and work downtown; everyone takes public transit because it's faster than driving in the downtown core.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 05:45 PM
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Also can't read usernames! Hilarious! What next?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 05:23 PM
1

Dunning-Kruger in action haha
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 05:05 PM
1

Yeah, awkward aborted come-ons are a thing that people do at bus stops.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 04:50 PM
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So you'd probably say something like, "Do you know where your MIL got it?" or "Cool, thanks." I assume you wouldn't stop smiling, heel-pivot, and go wait somewhere else.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 04:28 PM
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If he was establishing a certain amount of friendliness while waiting for the bus, literally heel-pivoting away to wait elsewhere the second I mention I'm married is a really ineffective way to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 03:46 PM
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It's not even an autistic thing. I, an autist, interview people with trauma for prospective legal claims, and it isn't difficult to, like, read about it. The acute and long-term effects of trauma are well studied.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 01:23 PM
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I was waiting for the bus and a guy came up to me, looked at my chest for a moment, and said, "Hey, I like your necklace. Where'd you get it?" I said, "Thanks. My mother-in-law gave it to me." His demeanour immediately shifted from friendly to standoffish, and he walked away without another word. I made no implication that his question was unwelcome - I answered him honestly. I was smiling. I'm quite open to chatting in queues and stuff, do it all the time. But let's not kid: he commented on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/19 01:00 PM
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We are what happens when you let big business run a country. It's jarring, as a non-American, watching American TV. The level of pro-corporate propaganda is unreal. I was explaining The Price Is Right to my husband, and we looked up some clips online that were recorded with commercials and all. We sat through the commercials because they were so odd. My husband actually said, "Is this real? This isn't an SNL sketch?" The advertising is so over the top, it doesn't seem real. Like, the fact that y…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/19 01:45 PM
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It's probably way higher than 35% among the younger demographic now that everyone can google How To Anal Sex. Intergluteal was traditionally more popular. Also, everyone imagines the stereotypical 1980s pre-AIDs club kid gays and forget about all the normal-looking 40 yo dad types frotting in front of the TV.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 03:47 AM
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I like how you immediately thought "handjob" instead of something that would pleasure your partner lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 12:20 AM
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Depends hugely on age and demo. I've seen 35% from some studies, higher in others.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 12:16 AM
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The average gay man is versatile, so you'd have to put up too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 12:09 AM
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I said nothing about craving sex less. All of the quotes in OP are things I have heard both women and gay men say.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 11:55 PM
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I think a lot of men are reeeeeally uncomfortable not being the provider. And they will torpedo their relationship over it if you let them. One of the more serious disagreements I've had in my marriage was because my husband wouldn't let me use my money for us. My paying a bigger share of the rent, let alone supporting both of us for a few years so he could go back to school, was appalling to his sensibilities. And he was willing to force us to live in miserable, self-imposed poverty over it. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/19 01:23 PM
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No, it's 1) be attractive, and 2) don't be unattractive. Unattractive =/= ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/19 03:00 PM
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For the record: Schopenhauer was in favour of pederasty, was deeply obsessed with his mother's sex life, and managed to fuck a few actual teenagers before dying alone with his pet poodles. And he probably had syphilis. Exactly the sort of person I'd expect TRP to hold up as an authority.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/19 06:01 PM
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Authoritarianism is the only way to reconcile hypergamy and keep a population productive long term IMO. Define how you're using "authoritarianism" here, please.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 11:06 PM
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I wish you guys read enough history to realize that young men have been marrying heiresses and wealthy widows to improve their wealth and status for centuries.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 11:59 AM
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Okay, I'll amend: Apparently most men don't know what a feminist text is to bother reading one.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 03:00 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 11:51 PM
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Did I fucking stutter?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 11:01 PM
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He'd lose if he played, but he's not playing so: he'll hook up fine
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 10:01 PM
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Of course getting laid is all down to looks. What else would it be based on? Women aren't charities handing out no strings pity fucks. And if she's not looking for a relationship, who cares if the guy is an asshole? They're fucking, not buying property together. Top reply was expressing surprise that some men think otherwise. Like, when women say they want to marry/date a guy who isn't an asshole, I get how TRP autists miss the implied "and is also attractive". But where the fuck did these guys …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 09:54 PM
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he'll hook up fine
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 09:14 PM
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... no shit. This is literally what the top reply was saying. You and your five personalities seem very confused by the flow of this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 09:07 PM
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Do you have, like, five alts? If a woman only intends to have sex with him WHO CARES if he's an asshole or not - attractiveness is the only criteria. An attractive asshole loses the dating game, but he'll hook up fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 07:24 PM
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Uh, I guess I'm claiming that millenial men, the ones who end up in TRP in particular, are bad at critical thinking because they mostly don't read any books, let alone feminist ones. Invariably when a red-identified person says "feminists did this!", they mean "this thing benefited women so I assume feminists are to blame regardless of easily-researched historical fact". I'm not a feminist and have no interest in defending its merits; however, one area where feminism has a massive leg-up on TRP,…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 09:18 PM
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I'm not a feminist and don't care who claims to be, but it's idiotic for TRP to blame feminism for their inability to recognize fantasy narratives from reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 07:39 PM
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It's believed to be common by men observing the penguin enclosure, certainly. The belief also requires actively ignoring the flocks of birds flying overhead.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 07:36 PM
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Chadfishing is meaningless, but more because of sample bias than anything else. If I wanted to prove that birds are screeching liars that can't fly... I'd ask the penguins, ostriches and emus at the zoo.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 06:44 PM
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"Attractive assholes can date, therefore all women want to date attractive assholes" is really terrible logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 06:29 PM
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Most millenial men haven't read an actual feminist text in their life. Maybe they should - learning to critically examine a text would probably reduce the number of male retards who unquestioningly consume media not marketed to them and get their panties in a twist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 06:21 PM
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"In the summer, I like a jacket that looks good. In winter, I want a jacket that looks good and also keeps me warm." Is that statement "two-faced"? Y/N?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 06:15 PM
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Did I mention feminism? Did Atlas? Did OP? Please share what you are smoking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 05:45 PM
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How the hell is it two faced to want different things for totally different situations? Is it two-faced to wear a winter jacket in winter if you wouldn't wear it in summer? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 05:25 PM
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... you picked two cheaters and a widower who hates his children as the "ideal" for women? Wtf is this cluelessness?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/19 12:18 PM
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Try Grindr. Or... there's one for gay guys with beards exclusively. Scruf? Woof? My best friend is a gay man, and every time he's in the city I swipe his various apps for amusement.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 10:38 PM
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Menstrual cycles are counted as 28 days; an unborn baby is dated according to last menstruation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/19 10:23 PM
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But secretely, I think they would rather get plowed by a Jason Mamoa type. Funny thing about Jason Mamoa: women imagine him as Khal Drogo - a powerful, masculine man... who marries and treats her like a literal queen and wants her to have his babies and raise little warlords together. Even so: Jon Snow has 500000x more filthy porn written about him by women than Khal Drogo.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 04:31 AM
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This was my first thought too. Like 99% of those model men are accounts run by some 17 year old hustler working for organized crime in Ghana, and those ops specifically target fat and old women because they're desperate enough to send 5k to their "boyfriend" after a few weeks of sweet talking. I doubt the specific contents of the profile matter. There's almost definitely an algorithm combing for any flags that indicate an easy mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 03:42 AM
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... you're thinking of "capacity" or "competence".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 09:17 AM
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I don't think "agency" means what you think it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 07:56 AM
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... his life experiences of dating older men?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 07:56 AM
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Can't have it both ways? People over 18 don't have agency in everything. Cognitive dissonance solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 07:52 AM
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If I want to look at a particular star in the sky, I'll ask the guy with the telescope and not the guy who saw a telescope once and drew a picture from memory.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/19 07:43 AM
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If she insists on the more expensive place, she's picking the venue and therefore should expect to pay for it. And if she doesn't... either get used to paying or stop giving these girls the time of day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 05:15 PM
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That's my rule too. Setting up a date is like hosting someone in your home. You're supposed to be generous. It's always nice when a guest helps with the dishes after dinner, but I wouldn't think twice if they don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 03:47 AM
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There's a middle ground these days, at least for people who can afford to buy out of the public system. Evidence-based, common sense childcare is really popular among yuppies who can afford a career nanny or private childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/19 03:21 AM
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I worked in toddler/infant care for a while, and once had to explain to a student assistant "wtf of course you can pick them up, they're babies." Won't be at all surprised if all these touch starved future sociopaths cause a spike in crime rates in a decade or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 06:26 PM
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She might not be able to personally find the guy, but a lawyer she hires probably could. Social media + legal/gov't searches can find practically anyone who hasn't fled the country. My job can sometimes involve exactly this kind of research - although not family court-related. First name + city + literally any other piece of identifying information is often enough to get a full name and address for service. Bonus if she knows the name of any of his friends or acquaintances who were there (i.e. h…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 11:40 PM
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It's a lot easier to verify with a casual hook-up that a guy has put on a condom correctly than it is to verify that the woman has taken her pill every day at the same time for at least the preceding seven days. If she has taken her pill correctly, she is taking responsibility for her contraception -- but how the hell does he know that? It would be irresponsible of Mr. Random Casual Hook-up to take her word for it, but that doesn't negate her taking responsibility. The fact that you have no way …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 11:09 PM
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Statistically, based on real facts and data, you live in China or India. If you claim that you don't, well then you're an objective, statistical outlier. Sound logic! If you didn't laser-vision on the "ideal average" (or in your case, the "non-ideal") and label anything that doesn't conform as an "outlier" you'd probably get some useful insights. Like maybe the fact that I was raised in a largely Anabaptist region with a lower divorce rate than the provincial and national averages. Or maybe the …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 09:27 PM
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Not quite lol. Anatomy varies, and some women are lucky enough that the internal bulb/wings of the clitoris are closer to the parts of the vagina that a dick can conceivably reach.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 09:59 PM
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Of course not lol. You realize what quotation marks are for? And we are presently on PPD where that lingo is meaningful. Obviously I don't think or use these terms in real life, but the whole point of lingo is that I can say "high beta" on PPD and people know that I mean "a man who is both attractive and marriageable". Also: alpha wolves probably aren't a thing either.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 06:18 PM
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Got married at 24, so apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 06:40 PM
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To get laid, no. To get married to a "high beta", definitely worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 06:00 PM
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It isn't really about "positive thinking", more about pattern recognition, and then learning to make bumps or stops in the thought pattern to prevent a spiral, or replacing the behaviour that results. It's operant conditioning that you do to yourself. It's really helpful for people who tend to catastrophize, e.g.: this girl doesn't want to talk to me... therefore NO girls want to talk to me... therefore girls will NEVER want to talk to me... therefore I will never be happy and I will die alone. …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 03:42 PM
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My husband; together nine years so far, married five of them. My ring was $0 since I inherited it -- he wanted to buy a new one, but thankfully I convinced him not to before he paid for it. I did insist we move into a nicer place after the neighbours at our old apartment had bedbugs, though. I personally don't think "no bugs" is an unreasonable demand, and he was totally on board for that one. The kind of woman you're talking about is alien to me. She just isn't around me - the women in my famil…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 01:59 AM
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When women make a statement about men as a class, I have no issue with it. Look at feminism, for example. All men are rapists, all men are trash. To feminists, and most women, all men are rapists and all men are trash. Duly noted: guess what, not gonna hang with you. The MGTOW thing is not "hate women" though, it's an accurate assessment of the fact that women CAN DO THINGS to men and DO EXPECT THINGS FROM MEN. There was a thread recently, where 80% of replies were people being baffled that some…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 12:32 AM
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It's the same basic game plan as men: improve your physical appearance to be more attractive; improve your social skills/attitude to be less unattractive; and go outside where people are. How this fugly autistic duckling molted into Stacy: therapy & groups; this includes "mindfulness"-based traditional therapies like CBT; I also attended a social skills development course for adults with aspergers, joined a public speaking group (similar to Toastmasters), started rock-climbing and yoga classes i…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 11:58 PM
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I don't disagree that the dynamic exists, but experience tells me that a lot of men do these things because it is self-serving. Men want to be impressive and appreciated, and acts of service and gifts tend to make women impressed and appreciative. I fucking hate gifts. And surprises. I especially hate surprise gifts. I will not be grateful, and I make sure to tell anyone in a position that might socially oblige them to gift me something that I do not want it. It will literally ruin my day. If I …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 10:21 PM
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When I realized my career was shaping up to require significant amounts of public speaking, I paid an old woman to teach me how to literally talk from a different part of my face, i.e. how to shape air over my anatomy so that the sound produced is higher, softer, less creaky, etc. It wasn't entirely due to voice coaching, but if you listen to recordings of me speaking ten years ago compared to now, you'd think it was two different people. I have a very, very mezzo feminine voice... and it's a pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 06:37 PM
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My husband is Korean and 6'1". Koreans are the tallest Asians; same average height as Americans (5'9").
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 11:35 PM
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Nope, it's what you tell people who describe symptoms of depression. If you find it difficult to get out of bed and face the day, you have more fundamental problems than getting laid, and it would be doubly cruel to give you advice on how to draw another person into your sadsack orbit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 12:03 PM
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Please seek therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 11:36 AM
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What point?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 06:52 PM
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Wtf are you talking about. The overwhelming majority of Indians are Hindu.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 05:37 PM
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👍
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 04:53 PM
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The majority of Indians that are not Muslim or Sikh are Hindu...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 04:52 PM
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No more than Americans. Canadians are less racist/better integrated though, so probably why Indian guys are better off.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 03:59 PM
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Indians are more likely than other ethnic groups to integrate, so it just seems like an odd group to single out. But you didn't pick 'em, so fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 03:53 PM
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Fair. Just kinda thrown because Indians are, like, the most likely ethnic group to assimilate in Canada/UK.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 03:51 PM
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Canada does have a larger population of Sikhs, yeah, but they aren't the majority of Indians in Canada.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 03:50 PM
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So why not say "recent immigrants" instead of "Indians"? Because the same applies to immigrants from other parts of the Asia-Pacific, Middle East, and Africa, arguably more so.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 03:38 PM
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Why did you put Hindus in quotes? That's what they are called.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 03:29 PM
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You're very kind to explain what someone else is saying so that I can understand. Thanks, poppy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 02:31 PM
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Lol again, this is likely me being out of touch. I live in one of the most multicultural places in the world. The biggest Chad in my high school was an Indian guy named Jihad whose on-off gf was a smoking hot white Mormon chick. I can think of three Indian guy/white girl couples that I know personally, and see loads of them out and about. My brother-in-law (Asian) is dating an Indian chick whose great-grandparents immigrated - she's more Canadian than most of the white people here. Honestly when…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 02:18 PM
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I realize this is likely one of those Canadian/American divides, but waaah? Indians, specifically, integrate super well in Western culture. They tend to be highly-educated UMC with democratic values, which is the exactly the kind of immigrant you want, and their Canadian-born children are practically indistinguishable from Indian-Canadians whose families have been here since 1897. :/
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 01:54 PM
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Do you honestly only look at hair/eye/skin colour? Maybe you have prosopagnosia??? My husband is full-blooded Korean, and I can pick him out of a baby picture with all his cousins in a row. Shape of the brow, the nose, the turn of the mouth, the high cheeks, the expression he makes, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/19 01:40 PM
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Why do guys think treating someone like a princess makes them a servant? Why not the obvious pairing - a prince? Or a king?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 05:48 PM
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I'm sorry. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 04:57 AM
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It is for foodies who go to restaurants to try new combinations of flavours and textures and write about it in magazines and produce TV shows for multi-millionaire chefs to make recipes from the best-selling cookbook they wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 03:49 AM
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Oddly, Minute Rice with chicken broth or watered down soy sauce was one of my things at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 03:47 AM
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I genuinely would have felt bad and apologized if you weren't a native English speaker. But since you understand the nuance, enlighten me as to how a hobby and a pastime are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 03:16 AM
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A small point of biology: One egg takes nine months to cook. The average cumshot takes seconds and contains up to 500 million sperm. Aren't we all nerds here? Have none of you played an RTS game? Lanchester's linear law?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 02:25 AM
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Men are interested one thing about a young, hot woman, and at best indifferent to anything else. You literally just listed the observable qualities of a hot woman as her hobbies (whether those things are actual hobbies or not). I agree women aren't interesting to men, but it has nothing to do with whether those women have "extensive hobbies". It's like when young children have a hard time understanding that their teacher doesn't live at school after they go home. The hot girl exists in a man's m…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/19 02:17 AM
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Yes, yes, and no. I'm on good terms with all of my exes - I don't talk to any of them anymore, but I remember them fondly and I have spoken to all of them at least once since we broke up. Past relationship fail: he wanted to get married and live happily in the suburbs and have three to five children. I wanted to move to the city and get another degree before having a kid, maybe. I was also in the moderate-to-severe stage of an anorexia relapse, and restriction makes people very... let's say irri…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 11:55 PM
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We met at a nerdy writing event and exchanged numbers. Chatted on, uhhh, AIM, so I was like 18-19 (funny how millenials can time-stamp memories by social media). He cooked breakfast. I'd never played Portal before, so on a different weekend I played it through while sitting on his lap. He walked me to the bus stop and held my hand, kissed me goodbye. I picked him up from the airport one time. And then like three months in, I find a thong tangled up in his bed that isn't mine. WHY THE FUCK WOULDN…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 11:01 PM
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I'm disagreeing with this statement: Young hot women don't have extensive hobbies The fact that men don't give a shit is irrelevant to whether it is a hobby or not. I'm not bothered that you find it uninteresting, I'm bothered you seem not to know what the word "hobby" means.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 09:15 PM
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Define hobby and tell me how fashion/makeup isn't one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 06:23 PM
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I think my mum had it right: she left a university textbook about human sexuality lying on a random bookshelf in our house. I have a fond memory, maybe 4-5 years old, of my mum showing me how to use the index at the back, and looking up the answers to my questions together. More of a reinforcement of early reading than sex ed, but that's what made it so effective as both. I learned "sex can be a fun bonding experience for older people that sometimes results in babies or disease and here's how to…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/19 04:21 AM
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I am willing to bet you take a lot longer to decide whether to buy a house than a chocolate bar in the check-out line.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 11:59 PM
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future time orientation sounds a lot like you're banking on his eventual promotion. You know, a money thing. It was originally a money thing. People with FTO have more savings, higher pensions, they buy insurance; investors with FTO will take small losses now to reap big gains later. FTO also includes things like: weight lifting so you don't lose as much bone density when you're old eating healthy so you don't become a fatass reliably using contraception so you don't have a kid at 16 not smoking…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 11:26 PM
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she’s going to try her best to ensure it’s achieved And she probably succeeds a lot of times, just not to her own benefit. A lot of these guys make a fantastic husbands to a second wife once they get over the resentment of being told to do the things they know they should be doing but aren't. If he has the self-insight not to end up on Reddit, he'll marry someone else and do all the things his first wife was nagging him to do without being asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 10:29 PM
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you can tell your parents to fuck off See, this is what I don't understand. Of course my parents would still love me if I told them to fuck off. But why the hell would I do that? I can be mad at them and still be gracious and refrain from cussing out the people that love me. Lack of self-control? Disrespect? Australian?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 06:04 PM
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I was the nanny for these women, and I used to hustle there for 5:00am so they could get to the gym before work... At least I got paid naps. I can sleep train a toddler like he's got narcolepsy lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 05:09 AM
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Not enough capslock.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 05:04 AM
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Ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 04:51 AM
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I have heard such a range of percentages for this stat lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 04:50 AM
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If marriage makes people feel more secure, the less incentive they have to behave well. Why would anyone not want to behave well? :/
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 04:46 AM
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A marriage is more like incorporating a business. It can involve contracts, but it itself is not one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 10:26 PM
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You're also being wrong about legal contracts.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 06:00 PM
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A legal document, sure. The only thing it's "binding" you from is marrying someone else. A legally binding contract: includes a promise for consideration. What is the consideration in a marriage? Your shining presence, which she also promises to you? is enforceable. Please go ahead and call the police on your wife for not honouring her marriage vows. If you go into a lawyer's office and ask to draw up a "marriage contract", they are going to write you a pre-nup.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 05:59 PM
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You need a judge and a lawyer to terminate parental rights too, but that doesn't make your birth certificate a contract.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 12:37 PM
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marriage is a contract It really isn't, but everything else yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/19 11:32 AM
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I'm at work and can't antagonize people, but the fucking process servers that hop all over the courthouse "holding their place in line" or "resting their feet" across the room aaarrhfkavg Every now and then some rando filing an application who doesn't have to see these people again will flip his shit and it makes me SO HAPPY.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 10:44 PM
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I think this is why a lot of RPW-oriented stuff (even the good pre/early reddit shit) reads as very bdsm-y. The whole idea of being gracious and feminine and obliging to your partner, in a way that inspires a man to be benevolent, masculine and indulgent... "so you're a sub?" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 10:34 PM
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"Set a boundary, don't escalate." -- my mother, when she worked in a juvenile detention centre
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 10:29 PM
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Studies? Google marriage records and you'll find centuries of church data online for free. I can research my maternal family back to the 1600s with free-to-access records, most of them online. Births, deaths, and marriages are some of the most reliably-recorded demographic data there is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 03:41 AM
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Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 12:22 AM
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Don't date those ones then.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 12:20 AM
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Why would you ever go to dinner on a first date? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/19 12:10 AM
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I've never been in a relationship where we weren't both picking shit to do. shrug
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 11:30 PM
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I am the one who expresses childlike enjoyment of things. I am also the one with more responsibilities like paying the bills on time, because he'll forget about it and fuck up our credit. I don't think maturity and "childlike enjoyment/affection" are remotely the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 10:07 PM
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I'm 28 -- definitely generational. My rule of thumb has always been: whoever picks the venue/makes the date should pay, but never assume you're paid for, and always offer. So if I said, "hey, let's go to a movie on Saturday!" I assume I am paying for both tickets, and will say, "nah, I got this one" if he tries to pay. If he said, "hey, let's go to a movie on Saturday!", I plan to pay for my own, but will probably think he's a bit rude if he doesn't give me a "nah, I got this one" when I offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/19 08:07 PM
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20+ casual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 09:45 PM
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I didn't see the ad until TRP flipped its collective shit and demanded I look at it. That is the topic: you're seeking this shit out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 09:44 PM
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there isn't any research on these topics How convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 04:55 PM
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... the institution would be paid for by the state, presumably? And then it will be CS all over: why should all men pay for where you, specific man, put your dumb sperm? Now they'll come after you for the mental care.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 04:26 PM
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Trauma care also doesn't prevent a person from cutting off their leg with a chainsaw. Anyone using a chainsaw consented to the risk of limb loss when they turned it on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 04:20 PM
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The quotes are describing a "manic pixie dream girl". Hasn't this been a known, obvious phenomenon forever? Men have associated "woman who has sex" with being crazy or being magical~~ for most of human history.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 03:19 PM
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Everyone has. That's what ads are for.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 02:36 PM
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I scowl at people who poke me with their bags on a crowded train all the time - there are fucking signs all over the place telling you to take off your backpack or hold your purse in front/between your legs so people can move without being tangled. Anyway: people who mistake being pressed up against someone for being groped by someone almost always realise the mistake and put it down to selfishness/bad manners not sexual assault. is the whole reason why groping on public transit happens. Lots of…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 02:33 PM
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How is the human animal different from any other animal?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 06:47 PM
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So what? What's different?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 06:19 PM
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You can't possibly value life itself or care that the deliberate act of ending it, since you are willing to eat meat killed for that purpose. You value human life in particular. Why? What is inherently valuable about a human embryo over an animal?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 05:13 PM
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I hope you're vegetarian.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 04:39 PM
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the life doesn't intrinsically have value but you break the contract by not even allowing the child to partake in their own self interest, which I would not want done to me. I wouldn't want to be aborted so I dont think I can prescribe that to any other baby. You're ascribing your desires as an adult human to something that is an inch or two across and only recently developed limbs. Why would you think for a moment your desires or interests are at all comparable? Also, can you please explain why…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 02:30 PM
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why they all wear Uggs, drink the same thing from Starbucks and live cookie cutter lives of complete and utter conformity Ah yes, AWAL... 22-year-old white girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 02:09 PM
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It didn't. I married the guy I started dating at 20, partly as a result of learning what I could/could not live with in relationships with prior boyfriends. I'd had enough experience when we met to recognize in him the qualities that I want to live with, day-to-day, for decades. I also have really great parents who are the model of a healthy, long-lasting marriage, so regardless of n-count, I'd be fine. My sister was a huge slut in uni, but she's been faithfully married since she was 24, and has…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 08:33 AM
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You seem to be mixing up the naturalistic fallacy and an appeal to nature. And for some reason acting as though "sex is for procreation" is the only naturalistic argument in favour (?) of abortion. (???) (I've always heard "sex is for procreation" as an argument against abortion, but OK.) It's not even true that "sex for procreation" is natural anyway - every animal ever has non-procreative sex. Dolphins, chimps, marmosets, penguins, loads of flying birds. Even bedbugs. we can't determine when a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 07:59 AM
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Lol no, she did not think any of that. "Let them eat cake" was first attributed to Marie Antoinette in a satire mag fifty years after she died. They probably got the idea from Rousseau: [The phrase "Qu'ils mangent de la brioche"] appears in book six of Jean-Jacques Rousseau's Confessions, his autobiography (whose first six books were written in 1765, when Marie Antoinette was nine years of age, and published in 1782). The context of Rousseau's account was his desire to have some bread to accompa…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/19 06:22 AM
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the foundation of morality Sounds like church.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 11:46 PM
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My husband almost always says no to sex before/during work because it makes him sleepy. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 03:33 PM
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Sure, there are plenty of mildly attractive 20-year-olds who can be pleasant conversationalists for a few hours around fucking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 02:55 PM
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That's literally what maturing is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/19 01:21 PM
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It'll end up a CMV and I wanted to do it on a night where I wouldn't get stoned and wander off lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 11:13 PM
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If aborted, there is no child to pay for; the consequence is accounted for.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 01:51 AM
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In this way both men and women are being held accountable for the consequences of sex. Either all men and women are being held accountable for the consequences of some people's sex (via taxes), or specific parents are held accountable for the consequences of their own sex (via child support/abortion). Pick one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/19 01:45 AM
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Seems Americans like their men unwashed, tomato tamahto.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 01:57 AM
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I love make up, but I don't spend a lot of money on it. I don't understand this mindset lol. Besides, once lots of men start buying products, prices will go down. Admittedly my point of reference is South Korea, largest male beauty market in the world. Makeup is cheap and amazing there, and most guys my age wear bb cream to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 01:53 AM
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Ah yes, Egyptians are famously extinct after centuries of men wearing kohl and wigs. Ah yes, Europeans are famously extinct after centuries of men wearing make up and heels. Etc. Makeup being female-only is literally a post-Victorian historical blip. For most of human history men have worn makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 08:49 PM
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This is laughably obtuse. Let's see: around 135,000 children adopted in the US per year... Most of those are step parents; of the ones that aren't, only about 15% of that slice are voluntary relinquishments. There are around 650,000 abortions in the US in a year. So you're not gonna bitch at all about the higher taxes that come with massively expanding adoption programs to accomodate a more than 380% increase in supply, right? And you're somehow gonna massively increase the demand for infants wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 08:10 PM
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Ah yes, rock stars are famously unable to get pussy because they are faggy and wear make up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 06:26 PM
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The male beauty market is expanding, and that can only be a good thing. Give it a generation or two for Americans to grow out of their "men who expend effort beyond brushing their teeth are gay" mindset, and teenage boys will start buying BB cream to hide their acne instead of becoming incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/19 05:43 PM
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Schrodinger's single mother lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/19 05:16 AM
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They could fake being disabled. Or get into a car accident. Or they are already actually disabled. Another option: become homeless and barter their body heat and protection for sex from homeless crackheads.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 04:42 PM
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If a so-called incel is unwilling to accept literal charity sex, they're being voluntarily celibate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 04:25 PM
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Most of our arguments tend to happen at like 1AM. I think if we were around each other more during the day, corners would work lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 04:20 PM
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Oh, that makes more sense. Yeah, I would say that fits. We'd rather just address a thing outright, and don't attach any long-term implications to yelling at each other about it. We definitely go to bed angry all the time - no one cares by morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 04:18 PM
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we dont really have "problems" that need to be discussed, we have periodic personality conflicts that can only come to a head in a fight, fights from which we both recover rapidly. Hm. I would never describe myself or my husband as "high conflict" -- mostly because the only conflict we have is the kind you describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 04:03 PM
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I always liked lack of "grace". It's not submissive to be gracious. You can graciously disagree with someone, but it's a very... hm, feminine way to express disagreement. Men tend to find it charming, even sexy, rather than off-putting. I give this example every time, but the 1970s Helen Mirren interview on Parkinson is sheer grace. She clearly thinks he's being a dick, but she's charming and playful about it, and creates a space where he can back off without getting defensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:59 PM
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It's great when a man helps with the housework/childcare. It makes me like him more as a human being. Doesn't make him sexier than he was already.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:47 PM
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Weeeeeeelll, I studied North Korea in grad school so I spent a lot of time around Koreans. And South Korean men are like, really tall and stoic (also deeply emotional but only at karaoke) and they have mandatory military service in their early/mid-twenties so they're fit on top of being Asian tiger mom educated, and Korean is arguably the sexist of the Asian languages... ... and I'm a formerly anorexic natural blonde with a graduate degree, which is a 15/10 in South Korea, regardless of how I ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:36 PM
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Still have options.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:22 PM
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I assume it is legal to leave your country.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:10 PM
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They can acquire or pretend to have a disability and get themselves a charity sex worker.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 03:09 PM
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This depends on how you define "involuntary". If incels are incels even if they refuse to see a prostitute: then femcels exist. If incels can't be incels if they refuse to see a prostitute: then femcels don't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 02:50 PM
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A good, non-slacker 22 year old guy out of college will work 16 hours a day, take on any task you assign to him even if it's not technically his job, won't gossip or complain, and if we have to fire or reprimand him he won't accuse anybody of anything to deflect blame, and isn't going to disappear to plan a wedding and take a honeymoon, then get pregnant, then start flaking and need special considerations for childcare. It's funny how company cultures can be so different. None of that is desirab…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 02:42 PM
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MRPs believe that their problem is lack of attraction. Talking about your problems and engaging in deep self-examination is not sexy, so marriage counselling probably isn't gonna help you fuck. Especially if either partner gets defensive instead of productive when discussing difficult things - not a sexy look. I find my husband very attractive; sex has never been our issue. It's the one domain of life where we actually seem to understand each other really well. Buuut I'm autistic and he's ESL, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/19 02:15 PM
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To be sure I'm interpreting you correctly: you think a woman in a cohabiting LTR is "single"? Or you disagree that more couples have children before marriage compared to a few decades ago?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 09:57 PM
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I married my husband before we lived together. Not sure why you're lecturing me. The fact that fewer people get married before having children together is not a practice I defend beyond its existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 09:31 PM
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Beauty products are mostly bunk, but the ones that aren't make a maaaaassive difference. The biggest, most important #1 product: PUT ON SOME DAMN SUNSCREEN. EVERY DAY. EVEN IN WINTER. DO THIS FOR YOUR ENTIRE LIFE. And moisturize at least once a day. Dry skin = wrinkles. If you want to get a little bit fancy, a good chemical exfoliant can make your face glow like a pregnant 22-year-old.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 07:33 PM
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Greek Maybe this is because I used to live in Greektown, but: ewwwwwwwww.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 07:17 PM
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Having a home and substantially more assets does.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 03:28 AM
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Her parents do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 03:15 AM
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It's great you're not a single mother, but many women are - with a 40% out of wedlock birth-rate (USA) that equates to an excess number of single mothers. Lol no. "Out of wedlock" != "single mother". Forty percent of all births in the U.S. now occur outside of wedlock... The data show such births in the U.S. and EU are predominantly to unmarried couples living together rather than to single mothers, the report says.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/19 02:23 AM
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Very true. Quite a few men end up in dead bedrooms by insisting that sex be "special" as well - the male idea of special, anyway, as in: 110% effort fuck fantasy. Women tend to need an alignment of forces for porn-worthy performances - not too stressed from work, not bloated or leaking or preoccupied; schedules have to align, etc. If her partner insists on ALL sex being "special"... well, she's only up to that standard like once a month. If that. She's probably up for a blowjob or a quickie or h…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/19 08:31 PM
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I have diagnosed autism. Married, been together almost 9 years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 03:20 PM
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Do it while you're awake?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/19 01:47 PM
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If it did happen, I'm gonna go with "teacher attempting to make Wuthering Heights relevant to today's kids".
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 06:07 PM
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For real, it's true the other way around. The vast majority of people who claim to be anorexic (on the internet) are fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 05:32 PM
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If someone breaks the rules in a game of chess, you aren't envious of their rebel chess skillz. You're pissed because they're breaking the rules that allow the game to be played.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 11:21 PM
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Okay, so why isn't Qatar "doing better" than Oman? *Edit: And if you mean "doing well" as in fertility rate, then Niger is doing "best"... and uh, do I have to explain why that's dumb?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 06:52 PM
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No, I'm genuinely asking. Funny how "please" on the internet reads as automatically sarcastic. I'm willing to concede your point if you can support it, but I have no idea how that graph is supposed to support it. Looking at the graph, it indicates: the wealthiest "trad-con" nation has a lower birth rate than France, and the highest birth rates are from shithole economies like Afghanistan. So how are you drawing a correlation between being "trad-con" and "doing well"? You're using birth rate as a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 06:48 PM
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Please explain how you think that graph illustrates your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 06:07 PM
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Which countries are those?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 05:43 PM
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... are you saying this is a good thing? That sounds intensely unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 01:28 PM
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I just don’t get what the appeal of stability over years versus banging hot guys with NSA even if they walk out the door right after. No shit - that's what (mainly young) men want. I find the idea of NSA sex repulsive, so obviously the blah marriage is better than repeated disgusting encounters with strangers. "Meh" > "EWWW". That said, I took the third option and married a very attractive man, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 09:04 PM
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definitely has something to do with divorce Why with "divorce" and not, y'know, a high-conflict environment during key developmental years? I'd be interested in a study that isolates joint divorces from single filings and compares childhood outcomes; I predict the act of divorce is not as strongly correlated with poor outcomes as the kind of high-conflict behaviours that typically result in the divorce in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 06:03 PM
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This is an option that is easier for you than it is for a man. It is not an option for the majority of men. This actually is a way to live life in easy mode. Nope. I realize that, as a straight guy, you probably don't spend a lot of time on the gay porn side of the internet where young, attractive men have exactly the same selling power as their female counterparts. Many a straight college athlete has paid his rent jerking off on cam for desperate homos.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/19 05:32 PM
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It is possible for people to be well-educated and credentialed in multiple fields -- Jordan Peterson is not one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/19 05:14 AM
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So you'd definitely let a professor of English teach you calculus, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/19 12:01 PM
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This is very class/location-based, tbh. In my hometown in bumfuck northern Ontario/Quebec, the 23 year old woman is hands down more attractive. Her 30-year-old counterpart has three kids and the body to show for it, she's been getting windburned on four wheelers for a decade already, she doesn't have fashionable stores in her area, she's significantly more likely to smoke, etc. But in the UMC neighbourhoods of the urban metropolitan city where I live, the 30 year old wins over the average 23-yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/19 01:55 PM
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sounds easy enough right? Sounds like the worst option is to become an orbiter in the first place: HE cooperates, SHE cooperates - They have sex and/or a relationship, so they do that. HE defects, SHE defects - Neither wants sex or a relationship, so they don't do that. HE defects, SHE cooperates - He probably still gets to bang her. SHE defects, HE cooperates - He gets weeks/months/years of sexless misery. He also has much better options like: moving on after "no", moving on after "I have a boy…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/19 12:04 AM
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I don't even want that from my husband, why the hell would I want that from an acquaintance? Sounds abhorrent.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 10:28 PM
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Makes perfect sense, actually, if you look at the "product" across generations rather than financial quarters. Raising the baseline fitness of the population through sexual selection results in a more sustainable system; the cost of the average user goes down, resulting in more resources available to be allocated based on need.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 10:14 PM
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What benefits? These guys are a nuisance. The "benefits" are things like: oh hey I showed up unannounced because you off hand mentioned moving house in a conversation I wasn't part of, and now I wanna help but am actually going to get in the way - oh and you have to feed me or give me beer after, that's basic politeness when someone helps you move, and I'm gonna interpret that as a date even though your friend was there, which will be really exhausting for you to deal with in four months when I …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 10:03 PM
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The fact that it's hard is actually the opppsite of childish: she feels bad because she has to enforce a social rule he should know very well by now.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 09:44 PM
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What exactly are the other options? It seems like either a) you nip it early and get called a bitch for presuming he's into you while he still has plausible deniability; or b) you wait until there isn't plausible deniability, and get called a bitch for leading him on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 09:06 PM
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It's hard because most people don't like to be forced into the role of "the bad guy", especially when they aren't doing anything bad. Every "orbiter" I've ever encountered has made himself a presence in my life with absolutely no encouragement from me. The stand-out was a classmate the prof paired with me for group work in uni -- am I supposed to say within thirty seconds of meeting him, "Hey dude, you've obviously noticed I'm an attractive lady, but jsyk I'm not interested! I thought I'd preemp…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/19 07:04 PM
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We have hundreds of years of marriage records in churches all over the world lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 01:41 AM
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It is logical to be selfish when you are playing a single round of a 'prisoner's dilemma' game, but not when you are playing a series of games. A relationship is a series of games. Being selfish tends to end the game before you get what you want. Yeah, cooperation leads to greater gains. No, the logical strategy is not to be selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/19 01:20 AM
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The logical strategy is to be selfish... in non-iterated games. Which a relationship is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/19 09:41 PM
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See my earlier point about the US being a puritanical shithole. Although tbf, it's regional even in the US. You likely live in an area where circumcision is the norm and women are accustomed to seeing it, so uncut is a surprise. This is not the case in most of the rest of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 02:27 PM
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Yet I've had arguments with every circumcized man I've ever seriously dated about how necessary it is for his future son's dick to look like his. Why is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 02:24 PM
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I really wish MRA types would look at the research before spouting off about how circumcision is some female aesthetic conspiracy to mangle dicks. It's a genuinely good point -- we shouldn't be performing unnecessary, potentially sexually damaging surgery on infants. But blaming women is hilariously misguided. It's fathers who enforce the standard. (And it's the same with FGM; women are pushing it for their daughters.) The biggest predictor for whether a male child is circumcized is whether his …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 02:01 PM
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That's more of a "the US is trying really hard to be a third world shithole" issue rather than anything to do with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/19 08:56 PM
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I use the data to optimize my fitness, diet, skincare, finances, fashion, household management, etc... all things my husband finds attractive or useful. If autistic men's obsessions were comparatively beneficial to their partners instead of just being really into bridges or black pill, they'd do a lot better with the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 10:58 PM
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To him, definitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 07:02 PM
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I'm an autist with an obsessive need to organize and graph personal data, so I have excel spreadsheets with every time I've ever had sex on a graph. I have documentary records to show that my husband and I have WAY MORE sex married than we did while dating. Yet he'll still say things like, "we used to have sex all the time!!!" Which is true, tbf: When we dated, we had sex 100% of the days we saw each other. Now we have sex like, 65% of the days we see each other... but in actual numbers: around …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 05:45 PM
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Amusement parks make you sign waivers for all kinds of shit, especially the fun shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 06:54 AM
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I'd argue sleeping in the same bed is "one of those things that people just do", despite demonstrably causing poorer sleep quality and lower sex frequency.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 06:38 AM
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I think it is common for xNTJ personality types Hahaha, must be. My husband and I sleep in the same bed if we fall asleep there after sex or if we have company over. Most nights, either of us is sleeping in the guest bed. It's just being considerate, really. If I know he has to get up at 4am to go to work, why would I fuck up his day by trying and failing to sneak into bed at 3am when there is a perfectly comfortable bed in the other room (where he also won't wake me at 4am by turning the lights…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 06:28 AM
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Like 90% of the time someone makes a "ball and chain" joke, their partner gives no actual shits, it's just an excuse given to single friends who refuse to understand that doing MDMA on a Tuesday when you're 36 isn't fun anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 02:50 PM
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I'm not referencing that dumb figure, I just did the math. Pay someone $12 an hour for the same hours a SAHM is working and it adds up. Tbf, there will be a reduction in hours after the kid starts school.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 11:17 PM
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If you paid a daycare worker for the same hours as a SAHM that'd be like 100k a year before overtime.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 11:00 PM
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If you want to know the value of being a SAHM, look at how much money women pay to outsource SAHM duties to daycare workers. They sure as shit don't pay $100k/year for it. They pay $12/hour. Actually, $12/hour makes perfect sense. If that daycare teacher worked 24/7/365 instead of 45 hour weeks, $12/hour works out to $105,120 a year. Give her a couple weeks of unpaid sick leave/vacation and you're still in the $100,000 ballpark. Not to mention daycare for children under 18 months is difficult to…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/19 04:57 PM
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Being "well dressed" actually isn't all that abstract. It just tends to be the kind of systemizing that a lot of men dismiss because they think colour theory and aesthetics are boring and/or "for girls". A lot of women are good at this kind of eye-balling intuitively, but anyone can learn basic proportions and complementary shapes and colour theory. Dressing well isn't about stereotypes or "niches" or whatever, it's just that tall people with super long legs, because of math, look better in some…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/19 06:07 PM
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i'm sure that gave me all kinds of issues but i would get past the filter. I bet it did. I didn't think it had to be said that "married parents" wasn't my sole criteria for a relationship. I dated a guy in high school whose married parents hated each other... didn't marry him. Given that I'm the child of happily married parents now happily married to another child of happily married parents, it clearly wasn't too restrictive of a criteria for me while dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 07:42 PM
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Fair, I'll amend: the divorced guys are like sluts, while children of divorce are like woman with a history of sexual abuse. Not their fault, but that baggage represents more risk than I'm willing to take, even if statistically I'm sure a lot of them are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 05:00 PM
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Sure, and there are reformed sluts capable of commitment. Still "ew" though. Not risking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 04:50 PM
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That's not a terrible comparison. I would never even consider a man whose parents are divorced lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 04:48 PM
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Pretty much. My social circle is rather "secular family values" (i.e. umc), so most get married around 25 to men they'd been dating for 3-5 years. I got married literally the day after I turned 24, started dating my husband at 20. There's a non-CC late-twenties demographic of women who were dating the person they intended to marry, but for whatever reason it didn't work out and they find themselves single at 28. They waited too long hoping he'd propose instead of jumping ship when he hemmed and …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/19 04:40 PM
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I dunno. I think I'd rather be gutted with surgical tools handled by professionals than have a baby rip me open from vag to ass like wet tissue paper. (Happened to my sister - she had a c-section for her second.)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 12:50 PM
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Wtf are you doing to your car?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 06:59 PM
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when my h is literally not ALLOWING me to do something but then he also wont do it lol Omg fucking this. Our building is old and the bathroom is really poorly ventilated, so if you aren't really proactive about scrubbing everything down with vinegar, the mold will start. I'm really short, so I need a step ladder to reach the top tiles in the tub. Every time he sees me getting the step ladder from the closet, husband goes, "Hey, don't do that. You're gonna fall. I'll clean the top tiles." And the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 06:55 PM
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Cooking and cleaning are done every day, typically multiple times (x1000 with kids). How often do the pipes break?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 06:33 PM
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Future time orientation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 05:16 AM
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Hmmm, you're maybe a "soft autumn" (soft/muted-warm)? My skin has olive/yellow undertones, but my hair is more light-ash blonde so I tend to pull from a "soft summer" palette (soft/muted-cool). I got reeeeally into fashion and colour theory when I got my first "dress up" office job because I wanted a capsule wardrobe where everything is interchangeable but not just boring grey-and-black.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 01:35 AM
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If you take a black-and-white picture, is there very little contrast between your skin and hair? Blondes and "mousey" brunettes with low chroma often find that bright colours or pastels make them look washed out, but the dusty/muted versions of the same colours look great. Gotta keep the contrast consistent.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 01:15 AM
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I’m assuming these are men who own these boats. Men I never met. Is this kind of neuroticism normal these days? How old are you? Six months is a short amount of time to be considered an "LTR", let alone getting weird about your girlfriend going on holiday months from now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 01:04 PM
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Men who intellectually respect women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 11:33 AM
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He definitely does. Part of that "grace" is appreciating his efforts, even if he (like I) occasionally falls short -- it's very difficult to be resentful while thanking someone for all they do. I have very close relationships with older female relatives and mentors, and they echo similar sentiments. We phrase it a little differently when we talk because we aren't presenting to an RP-leaning audience and don't need to use that kind of language. I trust their advice above all because they are happ…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 08:15 PM
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Whatever works.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:58 PM
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Everyone settles, it's just a matter of what you're willing to settle on. If you believe you haven't settled at all, we are either defining the word differently, or you're fronting on the internet. The very nature of a commitment involves excluding other potentially-but-not-definitely better opportunities. The thought of destroying my marriage over something so petty as my husband's indifference to my academic research interests is silly. The foundation of our relationship is built on different,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:49 PM
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I'm not American either, you racist!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 05:45 PM
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I'll get right on that, Clit-cheese.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 05:15 PM
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Yeah, exactly. You experience attraction, not intellectual respect lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 05:09 PM
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I'm not saying all men are rapists, not even close, but male sexuality is definitely predatory and closely entwined with the violent impulse.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 04:02 PM
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It's funny that I debated qualifying "men" in my original statement and then thought, "oh but the majority of men on PPD hate mealy-mouthed academically accurate language and understand that AWALT doesn't literally mean all-women-all-the-time, so surely they'll understand the nuance of the opposite statement." But nope. In your experience, you've been in an LTR with none of your friends' male spouses and have no idea how women perceive the internal dynamics of a heterosexual relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 03:52 PM
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For me, it involves consciously cultivating "grace". I'm not at all religious, but I believe that to be an inherently valuable trait, and all of the women I admire most have it in spades. Helen Mirren being interviewed on Parkinson is the perfect demonstration of the sort of grace I'm talking about. Girl game like whoa. Much like working out can be difficult and miserable during the process of pushing for one more rep at max weight, the end result is a net positive and well worth the effort. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 03:14 PM
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Personal experience doesn't make an argument Granted, as a guy, it is hard to take women seriously Lol. Kinda demonstrating the point there while missing it entirely. A lot of times women fall into a "passive and submissive" space around their spouse because they are watching what men do and not what they say. Men say they want an intellectually engaging wife, but get all ego-bruised and ornery if she actually demonstrates it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 02:48 PM
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The fact that you're conceptualizing this in terms of "nerds" and "fratboys" is telling. Men will put up with a lot of shit while dating that very quickly loses its charm after marriage and cohabitation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 02:31 PM
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OP is asking a personal question. I gave a personal answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 02:16 PM
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Yeah, definitely. Not gonna find a lot of them here, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 02:15 PM
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Men don't (intellectually) respect the women they fuck. Maybe can't. This is basic madonna/whore stuff, but I think it was so hard for me to initially accept because I have such a close relationship with my dad based on shared intellectual pursuits/projects. He respects my ideas and opinions and engages in discussion with me and wants to know what books I'm reading and what I think about political events and whether I reccommend X over Y. So I grew up thinking that if I married a man like him, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/19 07:52 AM
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In South Korea, it is actually very normal for people to lose their virginity late. A little off-topic, but I find it really interesting how common it is for men in South Korea to lose their virginity to older women. Thanks to mandatory military service, women get a two-year head start on their careers and the men get a two-year head start on parental independence. So there's this sweet-spot cohort of 25-30yo noonas with disposable income happy to wine-and-dine the fit 20-25yo military guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 06:45 PM
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My wedding set is an antique that my grandmother sold the diamond from, and my mother had re-set with sapphire after I was born. I've known these would be my wedding rings basically my whole life. My husband was appalled that we'd be spending $0 on my rings. Whatever would he tell his parents?! He got over it. We spent the money on a gorgeous inlay tungsten ring he can actually wear at work instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 06:02 AM
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I mean, I can, because that's how the common law works. The statute gives a broad outline and the courts determine what is "reasonable" (or pragmatic, if you like). It is reasonable that free speech is more protected in intellectual debate than it is in professor-student interactions at school because the student is receiving a service and the professor is acting under the auspices of a public institution and not as an individual. Legally and pragmatically, allowing Prof. P to willfully misgende…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 05:44 AM
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He can delegate student questions to his TAs (which he definitely already does; undergrad courses at UofT are 99% run by TAs). He'd have to make this a blanket policy to avoid obvious discrimination, of course, but that's already the case for male professors who want to avoid solo female students in their office, for example. It's moot anyway. Peterson's objections are purely theoretical; he's happy to use preferred pronouns with trans people he agrees with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 01:48 AM
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is there a legal duty to refer to someone by their preferred pronoun, as currently, many within the LGBT community consider the lack of use discriminatory behavior A legal duty for whom? Where? A police officer interviewing a trans person about a crime has a duty to use preferred pronouns, or to hand the interview over to an officer who has no religious/moral/whatever issues doing so. Your neighbour, that same police officer, in conversation with a trans person at a backyard bbq party, does not.…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 01:18 AM
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Ahh, why do I bother. You clearly have no intention of engaging in good faith. I'll ask again, but unless you answer, I'mma leave it alone: Where do you find compelled speech in C-16?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 02:40 AM
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Important distinction I was careful to make: I have a law degree and do legal work alongside lawyers, but IANAL. I'll assume good faith and answer, if you'll do the same. I can't quickly link you to such a test because it doesn't exist. There's the Andrews, Law, and Meiorin tests, I suppose, but these deal with legal discrimination by the state, and since the test developed in Andrews, courts have preferred to tighten the criteria for discrimination rather than broaden it for exactly the reason …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 01:53 AM
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So: "I have no idea, I didn't read it." Cool, we're done here lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 10:57 PM
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Look, I work in Canadian law. I've read the bill. I've talked about it with lawyers who litigate human rights violations. Your FEELINGS about what the bill says do not influence what it actually says. Don't just link drop the whole document. Read it yourself and cite the specific language that you believe compels speech or could be used to compel speech.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 10:44 PM
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Yeah, I figured this was a case of you not reading the bill or associated case law and just trusting that JP knows what he's talking about. He doesn't. Bill C-16 does not compel speech; Peterson made that up. The bill adds the words "gender identity and expression" to the list of identifiable groups that already have discrimination protections in the Canadian federal Human Rights and Criminal Codes: race, national or ethnic origin, colour, religion, age, sex, sexual orientation, gender identity …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 10:24 PM
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Not trying to be facetious, but: do you believe that requiring restaurants to serve black people is an imposition on free speech? Has the US Civil Rights Act had a "chilling effect"?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 09:45 PM
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But the passing of said legislation didn't introduce a burden to speech nor limit participation. Jordan Peterson believes it would, and has told people it will, contrary to legal opinion, resulting in the supposed chilling effect you're imagining. EDIT: You also ignored how Shepherd was invited onto national television to speak to a sympathetic interviewer after this all occurred. Canadians overwhelmingly agree that the panel was way out-of-line and universities need reform. How the hell is that…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 07:42 PM
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I used to think these groups deserved their own voice because I fundamentally believe in freedom of speech and thought most Americans did as well. Then I began to learn that other countries did not value free speech. At least you're somewhat aware this is your own American exceptionalism and ignorance of other cultures. Canada is not the US. Freedom of speech is not absolutely protected here, and it does not hold the same value in political discourse. Commonwealth nations tend to value social or…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 07:38 PM
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Lol no. Shepherd wasn't charged with anything, let alone provisions in C-16. The university and everybody else concurred she did nothing wrong, and that the university's diversity/equity office overstepped. If it was "chilling", Shepherd would have been charged with a human rights violation instead of, y'know, getting an apology from the university, being invited onto a national news platform to tell her story, and causing the university to revise its policies to prevent overreach.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 05:24 PM
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This is so highly dependent on location/culture it's almost useless to talk broadly. Attractive south/east asian guys slayed at my university, on par with attractive white guys. But consider: My city is around 51% non-white. My university is between 70-78% non-white (depending on year). Asian guys slay in cities where the white girls grew up around asian guys. The biggest player in my high school was a dark-skinned Pakistani named Jihad who only banged white chicks and had an on-off thing with a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 04:46 PM
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He predicted a "chilling effect" and exactly the opposite happened. That's being wrong lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 03:48 AM
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He's a very sincere ideologue, I agree. People have sincere belief in wrong-headed shit all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 12:56 AM
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And yet he's made a career out of talking about it? Must be so chilly next all that cash he's burning, poor Jeeps.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 11:35 PM
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This is borne out in research, to the point that some have proposed developing a female ASD phenotype that takes this into account. When you remove the social competence/empathy tests, a lot of ASD women score higher than men for ASD traits, even more so if you expand "obsessive interests" to include obsessions that are socially acceptable for women to have. Women with ASD don't struggle any less, really, it's just that they struggle more with the rigidity/anxiety/sensory aspects of the disorder…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 12:14 AM
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If someone who is "on the spectrum" is highly successful at interacting with people they are no longer "on the spectrum". Erm, no. That's not how neurodevelopmental disorders work. That's like saying someone without hands who learns to eat with their feet isn't an amputee anymore lol. Lacking social competence is one feature of autism, not the only one. Some people with ASD, like myself, can actually score higher than the average non-autistic person on many measures of social competency, but hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/19 10:14 PM
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I knew a girl in high school who spelled it "Dystynee". Unsurprisingly she lived in a trailer park.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/19 06:40 PM
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It's like, when women talk about guys being creepy, and guys are like, "what do you mean? I never see guys do that IRL". Lol this has nothing to do with "public morality" and everything to do with the fact that straight men aren't trying to fuck other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 11:21 PM
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One thing to be careful of with referencing literature is that these narratives tend to tell stories about upper-class women, but more importantly: literature isn't historical record. Someone on PPD recently brought up the Hunchback of Notre Dame as an example of Medieval literature because it's set in 1482, apparently forgetting that modern people don't have a monopoly on historical fiction and "tv tropes" (which used to just be "tropes). It's true that women with titles/property/wealth to cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/19 03:13 AM
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Works with rubber dishwashing gloves too!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 10:46 PM
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I smoked my first concert joint at a Bright Eyes show during the Digital Ash tour. (I am also of the obvious demographic.)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 04:35 AM
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You made the point that men without access to sex are the ones who rape, I was responding to what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 08:15 PM
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The Japanese military instituted state-sanctioned prostitution and still couldn't prevent soldiers from raping civilians. Men with access to willing sex still rape, was my previous point. Men will rape whether legal/cultural/societal consequences exist or not, and in places where those consequences don't exist they rape a lot more and will explicitly tell you it's for funsies. I'm not saying all men are rapists, not even close, but male sexuality is definitely predatory and closely entwined with…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 08:02 PM
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I just... go about my life? Wearing a wedding ring, arguably, mitigates male attention. I tend to mention my husband pretty early in interactions with new people, but that's more because he is involved in all of my stories. I don't use social media other than reddit, but again, that's because I find it boring and not because of the men who might message me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:42 PM
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Back to my original example: 1 in 5 men in Cambodia admit to gang raping women, explicitly as a past time to engage in with male friends. A lot of those men have girlfriends or wives. A common way of arranging these gang rapes is to seduce a girl for what she believes will be a one-on-one encounter, and then the friends show up once she's isolated. These are not men without access to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 07:30 PM
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It has everything to do with it lol. Society constrains male nature. When it doesn't, men en masse will rape for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 05:11 PM
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Sure, but when they are allowed to, basically all of them will. Male sexuality is predatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 04:57 PM
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If men are allowed to rape, they will.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 04:44 PM
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If 10% of reported rapes are proven, and 10% of reported rapes are false, then that tells you exactly nothing about the actual incidence of rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 04:22 PM
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Google "bauk". 1 in 5 men in Cambodia admit to engaging in gang rape, often as a form of male bonding/competition. Cambodian men aren't particularly rapey by nature, they just happen to live in a place where that behaviour is culturally sanctioned and there are zero consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 04:10 PM
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Frozen isn't any worse than fresh, nutrition-wise. Canned does tend to have added salt/preservatives, though. I'm lucky to live in an urban area with little Asian produce markets on every corner, but especially in the winter I end up eating loads of frozen broccoli, beans, peas, and brussels sprouts when I'm too lazy to shop. Frozen green beans are also good to have on hand when you have teething babies!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 11:31 PM
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Women who are 5'4" and 95 lbs care a lot about food lol - that's how you get that size. When I was the same BMI (5'2"/88lbs), I watched Food Network constantly. I planned elaborate eight-course meals. I just never ate the food I was fantasizing/talking about 24/7. Put on five pounds and that goes away, weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 11:26 PM
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So I'm a very tiny person, short and skinny. My BMR is around 1150 cals, and even on days that I'm doing weights/HIIT, my TDEE baaaaaarely tops out at 2,000 calories. This means that, if I want to avoid becoming a fat whale, I have to put some degree of thought into what I eat. I cook most of my own food, and it tends to be simple/healthy because a) it tastes good, and b) I can eat more food if I don't "waste" calories on sauce or oil or junk food. If I am going to "waste" calories, it had bette…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 07:18 PM
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Pretty sure your ideal woman is a pre-op trans.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/19 12:39 PM
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If this is the norm where you live, you do not live in Forest Hill.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 05:26 AM
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I'm aware; I live there and married a foreigner. Just pointing out there's a huuuge demographic component to what you're seeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 01:08 AM
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I mean where I'm from (Toronto) women over 5/10 and 30 and under won't even glance at a man unless he's some kind of businessman, big time drug dealer, rapper, or athlete. And which non-white part of Toronto do you live in?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 10:13 PM
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Do you not understand what the automod is more? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 07:43 PM
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There's a prodrome/aura phase to migraine headaches. I typically have a couple hours before the "magnet head" sets in (i.e. need to press my eye against something, can't sit up), and if I can get a beta blocker and a nap before then, I can sometimes avoid the full migraine phase entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 06:49 PM
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The thread is deleted for breaking said no incel/woe-is-me rule, you didn't call anything lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 04:03 PM
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Nah, I'm under automod for a reason. I find it hilarious how, when discussing female BMI, the men of ppd express shock and disbelief at the idea that frame size even exists, and then here are happily trumpeting the inevitability of bone structure lol. Y'all are adorable little headcases.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 12:26 PM
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I thought we had a rule against incel content?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/19 03:18 AM
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at my college Lol, cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/19 04:58 PM
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Why wear the label if you disagree with the group's ideas and/or methods?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 11:24 PM
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Nope. You lack understanding of the FSM and are projecting your male sexuality onto an activity primarily driven by women and gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 06:17 PM
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Tall women with angular features = great fashion models, but men don't wank to Vogue editorials. Makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 02:28 AM
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I wonder if this is why Korean men are leading the pack among Asian men in the West (willing to bet OP mainly means "Korean" when she says "East Asian" pop culture). It's partly good marketing, but also Koreans are much taller on average than other Asians, and tend to have more angular, "blocky" features and heavy brows. There's a reason "v-line" surgery is so popular in the ROK; few Koreans, male or female, have that jaw shape naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/19 01:07 AM
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I think the word you are looking for is "children".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 11:46 PM
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For sexually conservative millenial/zoomer girls, it is very true. Not at all true of groupies in the 80s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/19 02:23 AM
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My mom was part-time manager at a sex toy shop throughout my teens, so tbf my sex ed was a lot better than most lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 03:30 PM
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The cervix is the opening to the uterus (where the babby lives). If you are well endowed and/or in a position that allows for deep penetration, you may be able to reach the cervix but it is generally uncomfortable/painful for women to get poked there. Some forms of birth control work by "capping" the cervix, i.e. your dick isn't supposed to go there. The vagina is where the squeezy muscles are. However, colloquially when people say "vagina" they are often referring to the "vulva" (the external p…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 02:22 PM
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The vagina is the bit your dick goes into lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/19 01:53 PM
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I get the impression that a lot of RP guys think talk therapy is "for girls" or some kind of "leftist brainwashing" in disguise, so I imagine it would not be very helpful. While CBT and DBT have a lot of research backing them up as effective treatments, they don't work if you don't "trust the process" or do the homework that goes with it. Compounding this, a lot of people's main exposure to therapy is via high school or college resources, which are not particularly well-trained or specialized be…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 05:49 PM
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her cervix to make it tighter on your dick Lol no.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 04:44 PM
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Never dated a guy with divorced parents, definitely would never have married one, so that excludes a lot of people with "rough" backgrounds. I don't think it makes them bad people, just unlikely to have the same values when it comes to family/relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 11:57 AM
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Do you lift?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 11:46 AM
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I disagree that single men are more attractive than my married man, but if I were single myself then single men would be more attractive. If the argument you're making is that marriage makes men unattractive to their wives, well, no. Or that men who are marriage material are not attractive? No too. I find infidelity to be a huge turn-off, and I have no interest in casual sex. A married man who is actually DTF someone other than his wife, regardless of his objective attractiveness, is repulsive t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/19 11:33 AM
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In a very short timescale, yeah probably. But if you're willing to do a lot of math and macro counting for extended periods of time, it's doable naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 03:25 PM
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If I were a man, from my comparative level of fitness, and had 8 hours every day to train and staff onhand to watch my fork, and a few million dollars to earn - I could do that. So could you, assuming you are at an above-average level of fitness and not 30lbs overweight to start. Not saying some specific actor has/has not juiced, just that it isn't unlikely for someone with the time, willpower and resources to get it done. Probably a miserable effort to sustain, but doable for a short term goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 04:29 AM
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Practically any one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 04:09 AM
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Generally they take the father's name.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 09:38 PM
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Sure, makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 03:32 PM
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Uh, if my actual job was "look good for this role", I could get jacked in a six weeks too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 03:30 PM
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Not even just unachievable, but literally impossible. I have no idea how people look at insta models facetuned to hell and think human body proportions actually look like that. It goes for women and men. Seriously, guys, start paying attention to the warped-to-shit backgrounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 03:22 PM
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... keep their names?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 03:16 PM
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My husband comes from a culture where a woman taking her husband's last name is weird, so he preferred that I don't. Would taking his name in that situation be more or less respectful?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 03:14 PM
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Maybe develop some realistic expectations instead?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 03:05 PM
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Why don't you defend your claim that no one likes seeing sausage made? Sausages are delicious, and it is fascinating to watch a skilled chef make them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 08:18 PM
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No, my claim was that calling basic self-care "dread" is edgelordy nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 05:58 PM
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If you find making omelettes difficult, I understand why RP is appealing to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 05:43 PM
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Here's one group: 3, 6, 1. Here's another: 2, 3, 4, 1. Are the averages different?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 04:23 PM
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I'm not saying "dread" doesn't work. I'm saying it's not making sausage -- "passive dread" is an omelette. Everyone knows how to make an omelette. It is basic adult skills 101 to know how to make omelettes. But (M)RP guys apparently have no clue how to make omelettes, and recipes are for normies, so it gets dressed up as XXXTREME EGG PUNISHMENT to entice the alpha wannabes into cracking eggs. And if cracking eggs is too hard or too much effort, welp, drop an ultimatum and cheat on your wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/19 04:05 PM
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I get that it's marketing, and RP is targetting the edgelord mommy issues demo, but I find it hilarious that basic self-care is dressed up as a jedi mind trick lol. Ooooh, he's going to the gym and has his own hobbies like most normal adults, I am so full of dread.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 09:38 PM
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I was just using a random number, but it depends on the province.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 01:15 PM
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Women in their 50s and older who grew up reading Harlequin novels. And for 50 Shades specifically, Twilight fans.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 02:10 AM
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Must be a hidden Cassandra among us lol. Sorry for coming off so shirty.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:29 PM
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Yeah, no. Since I'm home sick and the book is literally a fifteen minute read... I read it for you. I figured a published book would slap some veneer on the message board rants, but barely: An Aspie mother might drown puppies in front of her child People who do not experience living with an Aspie have no ability to see that the relationship is problematic Is it that [Aspies] are causing their own sensory difficulties with their preference for aloneness? This is followed by a comparison to orangu…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 08:05 PM
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If the men were identifying as autistic, fine. That's "self-identifying", which I have some issues with but diagnosis is expensive and I get it. These are women retroactively diagnosing their partners with autism, sometimes years after the fact, as an explanation for abuse they suffered. If "Cassandras" were legitimately giving advice for living with a partner with those disorders, yeah, that's useful. That's not what it is. Their argument is that autistic people should not have relationships be…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:06 PM
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Ah, my mistake. Makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:09 PM
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They're like anti-vaxxers or HAES activists: a lot of dangerous misinformation. I've seen "Cassandras" described as a hate group - surprised you haven't heard of it if you're involved in ASD activism. It's mostly women who were abused by a partner, read a list of autistic traits, and latched onto autism as a rationalization for why their ex-partners were abusive. Very, very few of them (if any) have actual diagnoses. And now, like the Greek Cassandra who knew the truth but was ignored, they're t…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 06:08 PM
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Ugh, and those women are fucking nuts. If you feel like fun rage reading, find some "Cassandra phenomenon" message boards and witness the insanity. (I mean, just the name itself is hilariously absurd - Cassandra, as in the Greek prophet no one believed.) I don't doubt many of the women were abused; I highly doubt most of their partners had aspergers - maybe narcissists or something, probably just abusive assholes. Often they have retroactively diagnosed their ex-partner (ofc these middle-aged he…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 05:55 PM
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Narcissistic and antisocial disorders are more common in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 05:45 PM
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Well yeah, when you describe the mildest form and leave out half the diagnostic traits, doesn't sound so bad. I don't even agree that autism is a "male brain" thing or that it's anywhere near borderline personality disorder levels of keep-away, but your description is unbelievably disingenuous. Ever seen a grown adult have a meltdown? Or forget to shower for days at a time? How about being unable to eat in restaurants or shop for groceries or drive a car? How about developing obsessions that are…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 05:41 PM
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Not the smartest idea, I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 04:50 PM
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My point was about real property and marriage, not their specific relationship. They were selling the house either way; neither one gets it to live in it. For what it's worth, they split up over the stress of their daughter's illness, and my aunt moved into an apartment with the daughter to care for her full-time and be nearer to the hospital. She's using her 50% to take leave from work until their daughter dies, because her not-working ex can't/won't provide that care. If her ex had been the on…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 06:58 PM
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Except for the part where you talked about reddit and online communities, and immediately after said that in your anecdotal experience most guys have abysmal sex lives? Forgive me, I tend to read sentences in the context they are presented rather than as a series of non sequitors.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 06:23 PM
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I highly doubt you treat "divorce rape" statistics with the same skepticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:45 PM
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if you want kids you have to get married Do you honestly think that wasn't the case for men in the 1910s? And that's not even true today: Percent of all births to unmarried women: 39.8% (CDC, 2016) In 2010 that stat was as high as 47.5%. Clearly, men can procreate just fine without legal recognition of their relationship to the kid's mother if nearly half of kids are born out of wedlock. If you want well-adjusted children, statistically marriage is the done thing, sure, but that was also the cas…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 05:32 PM
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And those challenges apparently are... "difficult divorce" vs. "trench warfare". I don't agree with OP on the premise, but this is kinda demonstrating the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 03:53 PM
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Are you seriously comparing divorce to dying in trench warfare? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 03:38 PM
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Lots of still-breathing idiots in family law cases then.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 04:32 AM
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Most men in happy marriages aren't going to brag about it without prompting, while a lot of men in the opposite situation will tell their fucking life story to anyone who will listen. Combination of "grass is greener" and "squeaky wheel gets the oil", I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 04:26 AM
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Maybe try a low cbd sativa if you tend to smoke indica strains? I can hit a few bowls of sativa and, like, go do the groceries or go the gym or have monkey sex. Indica is for bedtime and would probably result in starfishing. Coke-dick is very real though!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 04:10 AM
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Ugh. The guy on coke has the energy to go out and get laid, sure, but the poor chick he brings home is going to regret it when she's chafing and his angry coke-erection isn't any closer to going off. Pot won't motivate you to find hook-ups, but it will make the chick you already found a lot more willing to deepthroat or do anal... because she's "comfortable".
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 03:47 AM
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Well, when you only look at the zoo enclosure where they keep the black swans, it seems like there are an awful lot of 'em. Still doesn't mean all swans are black.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 03:31 AM
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If you were unmarried but living together for like 40 years, that's possible, sure. If you live with a chick for 3.5 years, she's going to have a very hard time proving in court that she's entitled to the pittance you'd have accrued during your relationship. Especially if you don't have kids. Especially if you're young and you're both gonna shack up with other people in a few months/years anyway. A lawyer would laugh her out of the office. There's a really simple defense: don't treat a girlfrien…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 03:11 AM
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Welp, I actually read the article. I agree this Title IX shit is whack, but the story given in the article screams fishy to me. She was his dance instructor, i.e. he was paying for a service. She demurred the first couple times, and then explicitly told him to stop but hoped he would continue taking classes. She did not firmly say the word "no", sure, but she did "ask him to stop making romantic advances", which, unless you're retarded, means the same thing. Then he sent her a letter "apologizin…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 02:49 AM
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Not a girlfriend, but a "girlfriend that you have cohabited with for a period of time and/or have children with", yes. Hate to break it to you: that's the case in some US states as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 02:39 AM
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She can claim his pension either way. Lucky for him, she's not an ass either. He can also claim spousal support and child support now that she's moved out. It is literally only the "matrionial home" that she's not entitled to split, despite paying for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 02:13 AM
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Nope. She's liable for spousal/child support either way. That's provincial lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 01:01 AM
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Anything you would/wouldn't do in a relationship you'll do in a marriage. Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 12:46 AM
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... except in this particular situation, where being legally married would have been more fair and a lot less stressful.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 12:45 AM
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Canada. There's no legal "common law status" at all in my province, but a lot of case law has been established that allows many marital protections (e.g. testimonial incompetence) to be extended to LTRs that have lived as though married for a period of time or have children together. That's all provincial. Division of property and divorce is federal and follows different rules. Without citing the Divorce Act there's no "matrimonial home" and no entitlement to real property if the spouse isn't ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 12:01 AM
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I work in a legal field (not a lawyer). I had a fun conversation with my aunt, who recently split up with her partner. They'd been together 25+ years but not married. The house was in his name, but she paid more than half the mortgage and for the last 10 years of their relationship, she was the primary earner. (He was forced into early retirement.) Not sure how it is in the States, but I had to explain to her that she is not legally entitled to the house. At all. She paid for most of it? Too bad…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 11:32 PM
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we can assume Can we, though?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 11:23 PM
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The only place I regularly encountered the Old Guy Giving Anti-Marriage Sermons is when I worked as a bartender because, duh, men with happy lives aren't socializing with strangers in bars or sniffing around recent-teenagers in clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 11:22 PM
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Hubs has literally texted me the words "say no" before calling to "ask" in front of a single friend if he could do a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 11:10 PM
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I'll probably plan Saturday night on friday like everyone else with freedom who's allowed to go out of the house outside of special occasions This is less a "freedom" thing and more of a "lifestyle" thing. The idea of going out drinking or partying the way I did when I was 22 seems... boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 11:08 PM
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Isn't that just... general advice for dealing with people, though? I mean, some perfectly nice human being I've known for decades could develop a brain tumour and murder his wife and kids, or develop post-partum psychosis and stick a baby in the oven. It's less the heuristic itself that bugs me, and more that the same guys who believe in literal "AWALT" are the same who will react, let's say, poorly if a woman uses the same logic: "assume all men are violent and/or rapists".
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 11:01 PM
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This may be a social circle thing, but all the gay dudes I know are working 60-80 hours weeks and making bank - when you can get a blowjob from some musclehead on Grindr for less effort than it takes to order a pizza, you have a lot of time/energy leftover to go to law school or write music or overcharge for dental work or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/18 10:51 PM
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So, "teasing"?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/18 02:14 AM
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My sister married a man who looks exactly like her. I married a man who is my polar opposite. I never once thought of "balancing out" my hypothetical kids' physical traits, but I think I sub-consciously married the least autistic man possible to mitigate the chances of my passing it on to children of either sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/18 12:36 AM
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And that they would hire nannies lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/18 01:32 PM
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If someone has suspected epilepsy, and they are having a seizure right now, what is the first line treatment a medical professional would use for acute treatment of that seizure? In cases of known epilepsy, unless the seizure goes on unusually long, the typical advice is to clear airways and cushion the head until it's over. That's it. If you don't know they have epilepsy, do the same thing and call an ambulance. If the seizure goes on for longer than five minutes and acute treatment is needed, …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 03:37 PM
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The keyboards were fantastic for tiny-handed freaks like me. My wpm on my old netbook was insane!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 02:11 PM
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It's not really; slash fiction goes back to the early 70s at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/18 03:24 PM
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A 30-year-old with good skincare, diet, and regular exercise >>>> a 20-year-old with hair loss from anorexia and hormonal acne.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/18 06:31 PM
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I'm 1000x more attractive at 30 than I was at 20. If this place weren't a cesspit, I'd post pictures for proof because the difference is genuinely hilarious. I realize you're going to come back with: well, had you done all the things you do now ten years ago, your 20-year-old self had the potential to be hotter. Sure, fine, but objectively speaking: I got hotter.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/18 05:02 PM
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It's even the basis for the theory that autism is an extremely male brain, because it's characterized by very high SQ and very low EQ. Not quite. SQ and EQ are not correlated. They vary independently. I'm a massive outlier in that I score higher than the control females on EQ and higher than autistic males on SQ - still autistic, regardless of that higher-than-average EQ. "Lack of empathy" is not a diagnostic criteria for autism, because researchers figured out that "unaware empathy is required"…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 07:01 PM
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Yeah, that goes without question lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 04:27 PM
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You bring up a good point about access. Canada certainly has issues with healthcare in rural communities, and in particular in isolated (read: First Nations) regions. It's not perfect, but yeah, if you're in the GTA or a similar type of city/suburb/exurb you'll be all right.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 02:28 PM
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Okay, I've lived in Canada for more than 25 years: still don't have to wait for anything except specialist appointments or elective surgeries.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/18 01:26 PM
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Join a church.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/18 01:18 PM
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It's that Bob Woodward book on the Trump Whitehouse - your comment is in line with what he wrote. Lots of "loyalty" plays going on, apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 02:47 PM
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Have you been reading Fear?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/18 12:34 AM
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I've been informed I married a Chang, so.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 07:12 PM
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I'm very confused. You seem to be arguing, on one hand, that not wanting routine is some sort of natural state of affairs and yet you acknowledge it is necessary for people of all ages to have some measure of discipline in their lives and conclude: to state that it's natural for people to want routine demonstrates a fundamental lack of understanding regarding how society is structured Are you arguing that society is unnatural? Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 07:04 PM
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I mean... yeah?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 06:56 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 06:55 PM
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Shade is so expensive these days!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 03:38 PM
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When did you ever see a 6 year-old complaining because there isn't enough routine in their life?! The idea is preposterous. You have to drag them in from playing to eat their meals. Ah yes, children raised in total freedom famously don't become impulsive feral retards. Of course a six year old won't ask for routine, because they'd rather eat cake and watch TV and stay up late and run in the street. They'll benefit from routine, though. They wake up well-rested to play longer. They get along with…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/18 03:21 PM
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Women get dead bedroomed all the time - go click around the sub, it's like 50/50. And women end most relationships because most men don't bother; they'll cheat if they're unhappy rather than break up. Even MRP's dread levels advocates as much, which has always seemed like asking to be divorce raped instead of controlling the process (see also: child custody), but whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 03:00 PM
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Many dresses that I have bought recently have pockets. Hallelujah!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 02:43 PM
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He wouldn't get turned off from those things Sure, but he'd get turned off if she express opinions, disagrees, make demands, acts aggressively, etc. Men are turned on by femininity, women are turned on by masculinity; it makes sense that actions coded as the opposite would be a turn-off.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 02:42 PM
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Nah. My husband is the one who feels "unsafe" on my behalf - he refuses to let me take the recycling downstairs because he thinks I'll get raped in the thirty seconds it takes to walk the length of the parking garage. I live in a "trendy" neighbourhood, mostly hipsters and young former hipsters with babies. South of me is where all the grey market weed "boutiques" are, and that area gets a little bit sketchy at night, but even then I'm not worried.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 01:24 PM
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Y'know, I'm warming to you. I like that you're posting less and commenting more. I noticed you do actually seem more chill when you're not talking about Good Men (tm). EDIT: Aaaand then I scrolled down. Dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/18 12:17 PM
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So true lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 11:24 PM
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Yes. I'm almost never not stimming, but the intensity varies. My husband has said that he can tell how overwhelming I find a situation by how much of my body is involved in the stimming. Mostly its subtle enough to seem like "fidgeting", but it can be really obvious on the subway, for instance, because of the sensory issues I have with the sounds/lights/smells. I am not at all subtle about rocking or bouncing on the balls of my feet when I need to. Great calves as a result lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 05:48 PM
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I would be very square too if I felt the constant need to perform from pre-adolescence. I didn't have a cell phone until maybe mid-high school? It was a flip phone and typing in t9 took forever. Now nine-year-olds have smart phones and they're consuming social media constantly. And then participating in it. GenZs are crafting a public image in a context of being told: THE INTERNET IS FOREVER. You cannot fuck up once, because someone will film it or put it on youtube or insta or internet archive …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 04:06 PM
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It's a black market/casino in the 1970s JCSS, which is my favourite thing to have come from the Bible.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:56 PM
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Face tatoos - I'm easing up on that one as I've met so many nice young men with them. Weird, I recently thought this to myself as well. My barista had a really cute one on his temple and I was like, "huh. I guess face tattoos aren't the scumbag flag they used to be."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:51 PM
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It's happened with family and old friends too who have a conception of autism as "screeching little boy in class". But yeah, it's not nearly as unnoticeable as OP thinks, and that makes me wonder if there isn't some wishful thinking going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:34 PM
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Eh, invisible to people who don't know better. I get, "whoa, you can't be autistic!" when it comes up with a lot of acquaintances, but anyone who's spent a few hours around me at a time will go, "yeah, that makes sense." A client who I speak to over the phone and meet in person a handful of times would never notice; my coworkers definitely notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:27 PM
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Who the hell in the trailer park can afford a coke habit?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:19 PM
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Mushrooms or LSD ... I feel like those would make you want sex? Ick, no. I always get weird body horror vibes. Mushrooms just make me want to cuddle platonically.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:15 PM
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So your issue is not that you are/aren't autistic, it's that you have a self-perception that doesn't match reality and that's really difficult for you to reconcile.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 03:00 PM
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Autistic people tend to do that stuff without being aware of the impact it has. Ah, so you don't know what you're talking about and you'll post 50,000 word screeds about it. How self-aware of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 02:59 PM
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I am socially/psychologically aware of the cognitive impact it might have on them - "fuck, I don't want to read all of this" - but I'd rather set the record straight even if it means being accused of autism. This is... I mean... I just... wow. That quote is autism in a nutshell lol. Persistent deficits in social communication and social interaction across multiple contexts Obviously, check. Deficits in social-emotional reciprocity, ranging, for example, from abnormal social approach and failure …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 02:47 PM
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Move to Toronto.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 02:37 PM
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as an adult I would be far more adept at disguising autistic eccentricities, so it would be much harder to diagnose me than as a kid That's not how that works. I was diagnosed in my 20s, and lots of people are being diagnosed in their 30s, 40s, etc. Your childhood history is taken into account, but adult autistic behaviours aren't as invisible to a professional eye as you'd think. Moreover, the HFA/LFA distinction doesn't exist anymore because it's inaccurate and doesn't correctly describe the e…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 02:31 PM
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Or the people themselves. If you're presenting male/female and that's causing dysphoria, it stands to reason that you'd be more confident with the source of dysphoria removed. And confident people are generally treated "better" - more likely to be chatted in line, be complimented for appearance/competence, get offered discounts etc. As appealing as it is to look to trans people for answers about gender dynamics, I think trans dynamics are so fraught that it makes true comparison useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 02:00 PM
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I always wonder how relative "better" is, considering I have f2m friends who say they are treated better now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 12:54 PM
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biological impact lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 12:38 PM
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People don't understand allegory.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 12:21 PM
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Fun fact: if you hit an adult, it is assault; if you hit a child, it is discipline. "Slaves" is an exaggeration, but children's rights are appalling in a lot of places.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 12:05 PM
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That doesn't mean they're bad at STEM (hi India), just that women in aggregate prefer fields where they interact with humans instead of coding all day.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 12:03 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 12:01 PM
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Well, tbf "everything you see out there has been built by men" is not literally true (most everything), while "every human being out there has been born by a woman" is literally true (for now).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 11:59 AM
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Can I self-nominate as Aurora? I am blonde and I love sleeping and I hang out almost exclusively with fairies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 06:24 PM
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I thought that was a deliberate joke mixing up Stefan Molyneux/Jordan Peterson. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 06:17 PM
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I'm not bothered by the saved pics, but maaaaan the memories. I miss that apartment; its A/C was so evenly distributed compared to where we moved lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 06:06 PM
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See, this is why we need RPW. To prevent whores from crocheting tiny Pokemon.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 05:55 PM
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There's a running joke in my family that you can't be friends with me unless you time travel and meet me before high school. The only people I consider "friends" and make any effort to contact are my middle school bff and my aunt's 70-year-old ex husband. I hate just "hanging out" so I need people who are okay only seeing me when the symphony is playing something I like. I get the text/phone thing a lot with acquaintances who try to upgrade lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 05:49 PM
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Most of my social group is not white. Casual racism is not hidden. I have to watch my mouth in white company now lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:50 PM
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Serious answer: When I was 20 I met a guy who bought me drinks and took me places... and I married him. No regrets. I love being married, hated dating and would never go back. I'm too antisocial, and a lot less wiling to "mask" than my younger self, so I doubt it'd be worthwhile. If my husband dies or gets a brain tumour and becomes violent/infidelious, I'll just go solo.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:47 PM
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There are machines for that - crochet is clearly the superior skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:39 PM
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Plz halp I don't know how to girl
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:35 PM
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Ugggggh why is RPW full of so much knitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:34 PM
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Much like incels, having sex/a relationship will not solve their problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:26 PM
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My best friend (a gay man) and I have an agreement to get married if I'm ever widowed lol. He's a stereotypical gay commitment-phobe but we've been besties since grade six so he trusts me with major life decisions way more than his sister. We've talked about making a non-marital contract to say as much, because he's unlikely to settle down and early illness runs in his family.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 04:23 PM
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There's a documentary on some "look at the freaks" channel about guys with real dolls -- apparently they live in shitty apartments and spend all of their money accumulating tens' of thousands of dollars worth of various terrifying dolls to fuck and cart around in a wheelchair. That is not a scene any well-adjusted man wants anything to do with lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 11:54 AM
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So for a couple years I spent time in "autistic spaces" -- like, structured group therapy for social retards, playing turn-taking games and learning social scripts by rote, practicing making my face match my words, convincingly faking eye contact, etc. I probably wouldn't have the career or the marriage that I do if not for diagnosis/therapy - most people nowadays don't notice something is "off" about me on first impression, but everything about my appearance and social interactions is practised…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 11:48 AM
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... I adore my dad, we've always been really close, and my husband is very similar to him in personality/temperament. Dead opposite in looks though, so maybe that counts?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/18 03:50 AM
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Prostate cancer has a whole month now, yay.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 06:48 PM
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Ah yes, what a feat. Winning 98.9% of the vote with a single-party referendum during a war. Compare the two 1933 votes before and after the Nazi party seized power: 33% to 92%. You think people were genuinely changing their political beliefs? Or maybe authoritarian dictatorships don't hold real elections?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 06:06 PM
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most of the country still supported it Er, if your definition of "most" is around a third, then sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 05:47 PM
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looks in dictionary Uhhh, no it isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 03:59 PM
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I have autistic issues with underwires; I dunno what I would do with my life if I had bigger tits.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 03:58 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 03:52 PM
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HOW MANY HOW MANYYYYY
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/18 12:10 AM
3

Google did not disappoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 09:22 PM
1

No, no, he's a Chang.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 09:19 PM
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I'll have to inform my husband how much I hate him. He'll be so surprised!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 09:00 PM
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+/u/User_Simulator crumblesnatch
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 08:45 PM
1

I imagine incels on coke would just become uncomfortably twitchy and especially annoying to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 08:42 PM
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D'aww, I like when we argue <3. You don't get butthurt and you're willing to concede edge points and deep-dive into sources and I enjoy our chats. Also drugs are fun, but now that all the drugs I take are legal, it's kinda less so lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 08:41 PM
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Depends how much you like casinos.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 08:23 PM
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Lmao wow, I'm high and read that wrong. EAST. I'd say we could trade, but I doubt either of us would end up in a better position ha.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 08:19 PM
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That poor floor. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 08:10 PM
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Ewwwwwwww
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 08:05 PM
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The best man at my wedding dated his childhood friend's mom for, like, six years. She had a kick-ass cottage.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 08:02 PM
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Are there good sales on? I love a good online petite section.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 07:49 PM
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INTJs can like kids. :P We just... don't want our own lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 07:41 PM
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Did you vote for Ford?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 07:40 PM
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omg Lewis your flair made me spit my coffee
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 07:38 PM
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What is your own reasoning for not including ideology to what's protected? Unless you say it out loud, it's impossible to tell whether you're a feminist or a religious whacko or a white supremacist. Gay people are "protected" insofar as you can't ban someone from your restaurant for simply existing-while-gay, but if they start doing gay things like blowing guys in the booth or hosting PFLAG meetings at the table, you're well within your rights to kick them out. For the sake of argument, let's sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/18 11:21 AM
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It was way worse than you can even imagine. He had his eyes closed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 03:53 PM
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I don't want to introduce anything; those groups already exist. There are decades of political, legal, and social reasoning that have led us to the conclusion that it is acceptable to discriminate on action, but not inherent quality because doing otherwise restricts people's ability to participate in the public economy. How do we know you have a particular ideology? Unless you say it out loud, it's impossible to tell whether you're a feminist or a religious whacko or a white supremacist. Gay peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 03:13 PM
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He married a woman he met in grade school.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 02:34 PM
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So, are you saying that you think your urgent need to express yourself at work should be protected?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 02:23 PM
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Constant fear of what? The state isn't going to arrest you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 01:27 PM
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I have a very large extended family, which means I am regularly exposed to the sort of stupid people I otherwise actively avoid and never encounter in my daily life as a result. There are definitely girls (I say girls) who say this sort of thing, and it happens "loads" in their social group.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 06:18 AM
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When you produce original content it will come from within and you'll start to do so more readily. You are literally describing vomit, ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 06:12 AM
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See, the issue is that you think I'm saying something, and no matter how many times I say the exact opposite, you keep fucking it up. It's really ruining your gotcha! boner for me to be logically consistent on this. Contrary to the libertarian fantasy of a perfect free market solving racism, what actually happens is that citizens are excluded from the public economy if people are allowed to discriminate on sight. So that's illegal. You're correct, I don't believe it is right to kick a woman out …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 05:57 AM
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AMALT: men are insensitive, inconsiderate, self-destructively stubborn, sensitive to criticism, narcissistic, aggressive, and reckless.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 05:44 AM
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Where the hell are you from?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 05:21 AM
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It's "instincts" lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 05:21 AM
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Barf.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 05:19 AM
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I have not once used the phrase "protected groups". Are you arguing that political identity should be a protected group? If not, you've misunderstood me. You're talking about making up "protected groups" and forcing private business owners with their sacred private property to comply, of course. I am still literally talking about the exact opposite of this. "Red Pillers on Reddit" are not a protected group, I don't think they should be, nor do I think Reddit should be forced to host them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 05:18 AM
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... you think your incisive internet reviews of horror movies are increasing your SMV? Are you trolling? Lol, the cringiest ten minutes of my life were when a guy decided to serenade me on his acoustic guitar.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 03:39 AM
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How is this any different from Blue Pill? Or any other not-the-red pill? Do we honestly need a pill for "have hobbies you enjoy"?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/18 03:17 AM
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I won't argue that he hasn't said some cringe-worthy shit, but this goes back to my original point: so it's the leftiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 08:04 PM
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... this thread explicitly references Amy Schumer. Who is post-wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 06:48 PM
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forcing private business owners with their sacred private property to comply I am literally talking about the exact opposite of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 06:41 PM
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Yay!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 06:34 PM
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... Trudeau is not a skinny wimp, so I'm gonna need more clarification on how he fits the definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 06:32 PM
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You're the AMALTiest there is, so as I just explained, the only option is for me to smile and nod at your bullshit. Women can live peacefully with men when they accept that male nature is disgusting and delusionally egotistical. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 06:27 PM
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How much training is needed for “don’t be a ragecunt “? You've never lived with a man in a romantic relationship (I'm assuming). Men do enraging shit constantly; it takes practice to learn to let it go. Remember that thread where Atlas asked women to list their partner's flaws? Most mentioned "insensitivity" or similar -- men say mean shit, and won't apologize nor acknowledge wrongdoing. Which is galling to many women, because she knows that if she says mean shit, she had better apologize. Prote…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 06:14 PM
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Is it opposites day?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 06:01 PM
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Yeah, this is a youth thing, not a women thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 06:01 PM
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Yeah, because that's her shit. It's very different when you're scraping dishes because your husband forgot to rinse them for the 1000th time. Moreover: you think her place looks that tidy when you're not there? Ha. Again, none of that is exclusive to xFxx types; it's window dressing. I cook well, my room is tidy, I watch "typical woman" shit. I'm even "visibly interested" in housework, considering I have tons of household management and cleaning books, inventories taped inside all of my cupboard…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 05:59 PM
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The most glaring one is that intuitives will almost always resent household chores No one enjoys doing household chores. The sort of woman you are gunning for is the sort to say, "oh I love doing chores," and then resent the hell out of you for not reading her mind when she wants help. If you're okay living with a cunt so long as the dishes are done, power to you, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 05:29 PM
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Is "soyboy" just a slur for left-leaning? That's the impression I get.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 04:38 PM
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Even if he wasn't famous/rich, Trudeau is a charismatic, attractive man who goes to the gym and is kind to children. He'd slurp it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 04:38 PM
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I have never met a women who uses deductive logic in the way men do. I have never met a man who uses deductive logic in the way men claim to do either lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 04:35 PM
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This about covers it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 04:08 PM
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INTJs are naturally bad at these Things like makeup, fashion and household management are ideal for systematizing. All of the traits you listed are window dressing. I understand wanting an extrovert; my husband is ENFP and I'd never leave the house if he didn't drag me from time to time. But maaaaaan, find yourself an ENxx then. That xSxJ type is going to eat you like a praying mantis.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 04:05 PM
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I can't wait for purge week <3
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 03:34 PM
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Colour me shocked that no one has bothered to try for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 03:20 PM
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Perhaps a rephrase: RP men are actively selecting against women who control their hypergamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 01:35 PM
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A woman who can't find a man in the first place is the incel of RPW lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 03:32 AM
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The red pill involves acknowledging female nature, and then figuring out how to act out your own imperative in light of that information. Female red pill is the same underlying process, except women don't want to smash randoms because they are not men. Women want an attractive, high-status man to remain committed to her. The ideal is to be high value enough herself to lock a "high quality man" early; these are the women thinning the herd of "good men" for future cougars. There's less focus on fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 01:47 AM
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Yes, yes, yes. What insightful questions, fellow human.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/18 12:54 AM
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Your issue is with the nature of private property, so maybe chat with some communists and see if you can come up with some viable solutions. I don't really see it as a problem that people with unpopular opinions aren't being forced on others' ears to satisfy some weird authoritarian urge to make things "fair".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 05:40 PM
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You can buy space on the internet, and you can host your own servers. It is not illegal to kick someone out of your house for being gay, or being black, or whatever reason you want; it's your house.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 04:31 PM
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I suspect it seems really common... to people who believe it. It's largely a projected narrative. "All the girls I went to high school with did X", "the guys I work with got X'd", "you see it all around!" Like... how do you know Dan from grade 10 biology married a woman who had alpha fucks? You've never met her, only seen pictures on Facebook. It's amusing to me to wonder, what does red-pilled guy see when my husband and I board the train? Attractive white woman with Asian man, in their early th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 04:10 PM
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Where do I get "my own platform" By putting time, effort, and money into it like anything else. What's good in this? The concept of private property is fundamental to our society, ya dirty commie.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 03:26 PM
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My answer is the same as my last comment, and I am going to ignore your implicit suggestion to clarify.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 03:17 PM
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Canada's version of "life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness" is "peace, order, and good government", so you can imagine how that affects the discourse lol. Either way: Reddit banning a sub from its platform is not in violation of the first amendment, nor section 2 of the Canadian charter.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 03:12 PM
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Patient ears questing offset reptile camp.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 02:59 PM
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Won't [masturbating to your imagination instead of porn] motivate you to get a boyfriend Having a boyfriend would still require one to imagine him during masturbation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 02:53 PM
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I misspoke; I should have said "political identity". You can engage in the act of politics and say whatever you like, but if you stand up in a random restaurant and start spouting political opinions, they're well within their rights to kick you out. This could also be my Canadian showing -- it's read into the Charter that political affiliation is not protected. Not sure of the particulars on how that's handled in the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 02:49 PM
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Do people stop masturbating in relationships? Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 02:38 PM
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No, I'm arguing that banning for stating your ideology out loud on someone else's property is good. You're welcome to think whatever you'd like, and to share it on your own platform or the platform of a sympathetic party. Effectively I'm banning women I am not an advocate for equality of outcome. I also think it's fine for jobs to have standards some groups can't or won't meet.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 01:36 PM
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Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 01:21 PM
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Yes, I am, minus the hyperbole. If I own a cafe, and the feminist club wants to hold their meetings and I say fuck off, go somewhere else... that's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 01:20 PM
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Yeah, I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 12:37 PM
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I'm arguing that banning women from a place of business and banning speech in that place of business are not comparable. Sex is an inherent feature. Speech is something you can choose not to do, or choose to do and face the potential consequences of whatever dumb shit you want to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 12:37 PM
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Calm down. You can yell "I hate Jews" on your lawn all you'd like.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 12:21 PM
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Uh no, I agree with that. I'm saying that there is a qualitative difference between what you are and what you say; political speech is not a protected "class", so what anyone besides the owner thinks is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 11:58 AM
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Can you think of any qualitative differences between existing as a woman, and shouting "I hate Jews" in an ofrice?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 10:57 AM
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how to include them in the discourse And how is that, exactly? I've been reading that Woodward book on Trump, and it's humanized Trump a lot for me... but completely killed any hope that it's possible to talk to people who think like him. That worldview requires selective ignorance. Data is meaningless to them, and they find it amusing that you care.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 10:50 AM
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Oh you're in for a treat!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/18 10:31 AM
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Exactly. The whole point of "free speech" is that the government won't tell you what not to say, but the people who have to listen to it can and will kick you off their property.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 09:53 PM
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The incels who go apeshit put their communities on government watch; that's not tinfoil. But quarantining/banning is just regular reddit bullshit lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 09:35 PM
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For information on positive masculinity, please see the resources available at Stony Brook University's Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities. This made me cackle. Hahahaha, wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 09:19 PM
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Sure, but they're drowned out by the guys driving by shouting "NICE TITS!!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 07:41 PM
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No shit. Still happens to a lot of adolescent girls, and certainly teaches them something dark about "male sexual nature".
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 07:40 PM
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It's whoever is around, although mainly high school boys because they're young enough to perceive 12-year-olds as "fellow kids" and tend to be proximal to middle schoolers. Still, 11-12 was around the age I realized that my middle-aged neighbour's dogs were pedo-bait, and around the same age a drunk uncle hit on me because he didn't recognize me with my newly-acquired tits. Catcalling started around then too. Part of it is height, I think - girls get tall fast; I was my current height by age 13,…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 07:38 PM
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Therapy is an institutionalised practice: it can not operate independently of socioeconomic factors such as a vested interest in the propertarian-State complex. ​You're proving his point. There are so many options for you to self-improve, but you are actively avoiding them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 02:24 PM
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I miss "geek". Pretty sure that used to be the LMC-variant of nerd, which is likely why "nerd" is a compliment now and "geek" is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 02:08 PM
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Their "pain" and "anger" is public only because of the insufferable thought police who can't help but visit their communities. Ehhhhh, having your ideology associated with mass murderers can't help.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 01:51 PM
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The fun thing about RP is that they like to take scientific concepts that exist... and then warp them beyond recognition to make whatever claim they want with an air of respectability. If you push too hard on the RP definition, they'll say, "oh but it's a social science term!" If you push too hard on the scientific definition, they'll say, "oh but it's a Red Pill term of art!"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/18 01:48 PM
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Nope. I can murder only in defense. You don't know that. You just haven't been in the right situation to want to murder someone yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 09:40 PM
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Loads, it barely takes conscious effort. Don't smoke, don't tan, and drink more water than alcohol. Even fatties can do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 09:32 PM
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actively doing things detrimental to her appearance besides aging
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 02:30 PM
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I'm not saying that 30 and 20 are the same. I'm saying that if your hypothetical thirty-year-old has "saggy" skin, she is actively doing things detrimental to her appearance besides aging.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 01:12 PM
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saggy 30 year old skin You must be fucking some tanned, craggy-ass thirty year olds. Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 11:43 AM
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Less of an issue, since it ends with them getting together and there aren't several seasons of marriage cringe lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 11:29 AM
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I'm using Beta males as they seem to believe, every single man who gets married or wants a relationship is Beta and I truly believe that's far from the truth. Yes - some men are who "women settle for" but I don't believe all marriages rely on that basis. Ugh, this. Most men who marry are not suddenly arranging marriages with 30-year-old strangers. They date a woman in her 20s for several years, and wife her once they both have decent incomes and can afford the childcare.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 11:05 AM
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Pam cheats on her fiance to get with Jim. Jim repeatedly makes major financial decisions without telling his wife. They get pregnant by accident. Pam refuses to move to Philly, effectively giving Jim an ultimatum: his marriage, or his lucrative dream job. They end up in marriage counselling, the outcome of which is that Jim gives up the start-up he's poured time and money into to work the same boring job that made him want to join the start-up in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 10:51 AM
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into an academic portal Google hits Not google, ffs. I used a university library portal search, i.e. a combination of ebscohost and jstor and similar databases, as well as municipal and university digital stacks. I limited the search to peer-reviewed texts. Those hits are for only for studies in peer-reviewed journals. confirm or refute Sure, both. That's the fun thing with social science research; people are so varied in behaviour, you can get any result you want if you measure the right popula…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 10:38 AM
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I remember enjoying Jim and Pam when it aired for that reason - sweet girl gets cool guy. I recently re-watched all nine seasons because my husband had never seen The Office. Watching it now that I can actually relate to the characters' lives, their entire relationship is red flags, and they really stunt each other's growth in the end. Depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 09:02 PM
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There is nothing stopping you from googling some skin care and basic camera magic. I think when the zoomers are older, it will be like in South Korea where skin-correcting is totally acceptable for both genders.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 07:56 PM
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... I just typed "Tinder dating habits" into an academic portal, and came up with 250+ peer reviewed results. Broadening it to dating sites in general gives me 11,500+ peer reviewed results. The results include studies about racial differences, male and female messaging behaviour, the prevalence of trolling/"dark tetrad" traits in users of dating apps, different motivations for using dating apps, people's relationship/ONS expectations, harassment, how dating apps affect body image in men, the pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/18 12:47 PM
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He's ENFP, and we're both very true to type.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 10:01 PM
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I've gotten into the habit of rounding times whenever I need my husband or brother-in-law to be somewhere. Start time for the event is at 8? "Hey guys, we need to be there by seven!" And then they are impressed with my magical power of arriving at theatres just as the lights do down...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 07:05 PM
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Introverts by and large find dating apps weird and unnatural.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 05:59 PM
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Positive: socially dominant values family/marriage high conscientiousness attractive cooks amazing Korean food Flaws: egotistical prone to sulking/"no u!" low openness avoids problems, often making them worse likes unbearably boring movies
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 05:26 PM
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When we met, my husband and I were both broke students. We were similarly broke when we got married -- the gap between his student and work visas represented an intolerable separation to us (potentially a year or more), so we got married on the cheap and I sponsored his permanent residency. This meant that for the first several years of our marriage, I was financially responsible for him. If he couldn't find work or support himself the government would come after me directly even if we separated…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/18 04:51 PM
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You must be new here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 07:00 PM
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This is the most ironic thing I've ever read.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 02:05 PM
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1: How much do you think about past partners during sex? Never. 2: How much do you compare current sex-partners to past sex-partners? Almost never? I'm sure I did when my husband and I were first dating (in his favour), but it's not something I've thought about in years. 3: To what extent does sex lose its magic/pleasure/enjoyment as you have more of it, or increase your N-count, or both? Uhhh. It doesn't? After a decade of fucking, my husband and I are way better at it than we used to be. We kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/18 12:04 PM
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This is such a doozy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 06:27 PM
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It really isn't - at least not for hook-ups. Average gay dudes do fine - it's more about proximity tbh. If you're out and you check Grindr and discover someone 250 metres away is willing to suck your cock in an art gallery bathroom...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 03:27 PM
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Hahaha, you've proved my point. Literally the first link I clicked to check the comments did have users saying things like "I'd suck that"... except they are posting under names like "Isuckstr8dick". I didn't even look for that - it was literally the first thing I clicked. For fuck's sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 03:23 PM
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subreddits where men post dick pics for the pleasure of women Links? I would love to take a random sampling of the gay men who sub to that. It's like you have no idea how much gay men get off on clueless straight guys willing to send them porn lol. I tried searching. The sub called "dickpics" has 1,200 subs and is a combination of pictures of guys named Richard and people laughing about guys sending dick pics lol. Your solipsism is showing again. You keep using that word.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 03:14 PM
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You mean the ones where they draw faces on the dicks? Or the one where they post them on social media to share with other women and laugh at? Or the one where they collect pictures of grotesque dicks to send back to men who send them dick pics?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 12:56 PM
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The fact that you think women get excited about dick pics at all is the hilarious part.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 12:46 PM
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women are more likely to get excited about a dick pic Hahahahahahahahahahaha hahah aha ha ha haahahhaha ha.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/18 12:18 PM
1

But how can he be alpha if he doesn't lift?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 11:27 PM
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So men or people*TRPs* only care about issues women have as related to sex? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 03:11 PM
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Ignore Freud and look at attachment theory instead. It doesn't have to be your parents; any paternal/maternal figure can be "attached to", but the idea is that if you learn shitty attachment styles with your parent figures, you'll act out the same shitty attachment style with a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 03:09 PM
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I can tell you that Zac Efron is hot the same way I can tell you that a Monet looks good. He has all of the features typically under the umbrella of "hot", and people seem to recognize him as such. I've grown up in the culture, so I recgnize the aesthetic. He still doesn't appeal to me sexually. There's no "ladyboner". He may or may not appeal to me in person. "Attractive" does not even remotely mean "I'd bang him" to women. Which, I've gathered, is what TRPs mean by "attraction" in these discus…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/18 10:45 AM
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There are no numbers behind that graph. Some googling has led me to the conclusion that it's something Rollo made up -- there is no non-manosphere context for that image. I also found this hilarious counterpart that outright admits it's based on the imagined perception of women. No reason to think the other graph is any less imagined.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 12:32 PM
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Not calling TRPs gay. The images they believe represent "Chad" look gay. The pictures seem gay because they appeals to the male attraction style. Very very few women read the pictures the way men do; that's the point. The images look gay because they appeal to the male gaze. Women do not evaluate attractiveness based purely on appearance, especially a flat image, so when guys post pictures of men for the purpose of showing what women find attractive women are going to give weird answers. At best…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/18 11:53 AM
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I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 07:57 PM
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I’m the go to hag for about ten gay men since 12. Ahh, I have such memories of my GSA crew in middle school. My dad thought I was a lesbian for about a decade because I had zero straight friends lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 07:46 PM
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I believe the word is "otter". A gay otter.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 07:15 PM
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... of the three, I guess I'd pick confidence? When I met my husband, he fit your definition of "ripped" (i.e. toned) since he was a few weeks out of the army at most. He's since lost about 25-30 lbs, definitely "skinny", and my attraction hasn't changed. He's been consistently confident, and I find his confidence very sexy, so if we're going by what I do regardless of what I say, clearly confidence matters more. If I cared about his being ripped, you'd think we have less sex now that he isn't -…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 07:02 PM
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I wonder if TRP and PUA and similar groups might experience this at higher rates than the average man, thus making it reasonable to be cautious of something that is population-wide quite rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 06:44 PM
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Atlas is into facially scarred blue collar workers with drug convictions lol. Of course TRP's "Chad" is going to look like a blue-eyed, flexing homosexual to her. Most of the pictures that TRP uses to represent "Chad" are hilariously homoerotic even to me (someone who is actually into homoeroticism)... Honestly, I think it's an effect that disappears with actual interaction; something about a man sexy posing just gives off "wants to suck a cock" vibes. The pictures presented as examples by TRPs …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 06:41 PM
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To the pathologically risk-averse, everything is worthless.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 05:05 PM
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It will make you successful at the goal of doing something you enjoy. You seem to agree with me that "success" is subjective , and then immediately assert your own subjective definition as the metric to measure others' success.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 04:36 PM
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If you have no income you pay no taxes. ... doesn't the US have a sales tax?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 03:58 PM
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If "success" is a synonym of "money", then the paid one. If "success" includes any other factor, like work-life balance, fame, enjoyment, etc. then it could be the other one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 03:50 PM
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Lol of course not! Men can't be losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 03:47 PM
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They want her at home tending to his needs and wants 24/7. Except not because then she's a "leech". She needs to work a full time job that makes slightly less than his income, but never mention it nor allow it to affect her life in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 03:38 PM
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Hell, simple math would prove otherwise. How? A career woman's social circle includes... career men. Of which there are more than women. Career men aren't risking half the house on a hot waitress from Wimpy's, contrary to TRP's weird fantasies; he's looking for a business wife to manage the other half of the empire.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/18 03:35 PM
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So it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 02:29 PM
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Psychologists define hypergamy as dating marrying with the goal of procuring a mate who is either on par with you socially/fiscally or superior.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 02:26 PM
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I accept that this is a thing that women do, but not that this thing is "hypergamy".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 02:24 PM
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I wouldn't say you agree to have a child with them, but you have to accept that there is some degree of risk. The risk can be mitigated to near-zero if you screen your partner well for someone who shares your non-child-related goals and values, someone you know well, someone who takes birth control properly, someone who is pro-choice and willing to abort a potential zygote, etc. If you're the type of person who hits on random women in clubs and fucks without a sober conversation, well, you're ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 02:21 PM
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All right. It refers to people marrying up or across. Hypergamy still has nothing to do with LTRs, nor "trading up". Marrying more than one partner and "branch-swinging" might very well be a thing -- but that thing is not hypergamy. There's no need to argue the official definition if you aren't using it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 02:10 PM
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Hypergamy has nothing to do with "trading up" in the social sciences. It refers to a woman's choice in marriage partner, and has nothing to do with what she does after that, nor does it have anything to do with LTRs. You're using the "something else" definition I was referring to, which can mean whatever you want it to mean, baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 01:28 PM
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In Korea, there's actually three Valentine's Day-type gimmicky holidays, and our favourite is the one on April 14 because all of the restaurants in Koreatown have specials on jjajangmyeon for Singles Day. My husband and I take off our rings and go out for cheap noodles.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 01:22 PM
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Well, it is a thing. Women tend to marry across or up in social status. TRP means something else by it, depending on who you're talking to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/18 01:07 PM
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They said having children, not just being married to a man. I dug up some data a couple months ago: 87-94% of women have at least one health problem after birth. 31% have long-term health problems. ...in about 4% of births? Full tearing, hole to hole. Here's a study (by Dawson, Pike, & Bird, 2015) where parents and children filled out a questionnaire that rated the household tasks and childcare on a scale of 1-10. A score of 1 means "only mom/wife" does this, and a score of 10 means "only dad/hu…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 01:11 PM
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But not every RP guy shares that backstory, so why would you assume gold diggers do?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 01:04 PM
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Why would you assume that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 01:00 PM
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I have no idea what this means, nor how it relates to my comment. Assume what?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 12:52 PM
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I thought this post was going to make a completely different case than it does. :/ I could see how the two are similar in that both the male RP and female gold digger are reducing the opposite sex to its most "basic" value: RP values women only for sex because they believe that women only value them for money/status; gold diggers value men only for money because they believe that men only value women for sex. But idk where you get this idea that they all share some sexist superhero backstory.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/18 12:35 PM
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Clearly something is broken that needs fixing Sure, but a lot of people, when confronted with something "broken", will immediately grab a hammer and start smashing the walls down instead of doing some research/discussion to discover that the problem requires a different tool or a more complex solution. Then they stand in the middle of their demolished house crying "WHY AREN'T YOU HAPPY?! I TRIED TO FIX IT!"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 09:03 PM
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Catholic schools are not necessarily single sex. I grew up around loads of co-ed Catholic school.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/18 11:46 AM
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My husband's friend called a particular actress a MILF and I was like, "... but she doesn't have kids?" And that's when I, the only native English speaker, was educated by four Korean/Russian guys about how "MILF" means exactly this. I defer to their knowledge; they collectively watch way more porn than I.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 10:17 PM
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millenial kids Who are all like 25+ now. You're thinking of zoomers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 10:10 PM
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Aaaaaand this is why women initiate divorces more. Ultimatum =! communication. The fact that you think so is quite telling. An ultimatum is a demand. It's the exact opposite of communication. It's saying, "capitulate or I pull the trigger" with no room for discussion. And then when women say, "fine, pull the trigger," the man... cheats? Kicks the hornets' nest and wails about getting stung. Super mature. Besides, if you were following the supposed "proper" steps of dread, you would have already …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 06:13 PM
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I have no idea whether I was being insulted for acting like a man, or for acting German. Lol, it was just a weird way of calling me bossy so probably a Hitler dig?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 04:43 PM
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I ain't no snitching BP narc. So stop bitching about problems you could solve with literally three clicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 04:28 PM
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The worst insult I've ever received was being told "you act like a German man." Lol that stuck with me as uniquely vicious for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 03:41 PM
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Women on PPD are vastly more representative of women than your imagination is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 03:37 PM
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Report if you don't like it, dude. The mods have explained a million times why this bias exists, and it's because red-leaning guys bitch about it without reporting. (Also, it's adorable you think I'm blue apparently? lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 03:34 PM
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"Give me what I want or fuck you" That's not leaving, that's issuing an ultimatum and ultimately making her responsible for your fate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 03:29 PM
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... an actual cunt?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 02:49 PM
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Most of the women responding are American, and they seem to be fine with using the word cunt to describe other women. I wonder if it's a generational thing now, actually. Because no woman I know who is >35 cares about the word cunt.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 02:30 PM
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Where'd those goalposts go?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 02:24 PM
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Except for being demonstrably wrong on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 02:11 PM
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Not pissed. I love you, Lewis, you say such amusing things.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 02:04 PM
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I bet if you made a thread right now "Q4W: Can women be cunts?" the answer will unequivocally be yes, women have that capability.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 01:38 PM
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Leaving.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 12:13 PM
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Think of it less as "social" and more as "externally-oriented". Similar to how neurotism can be defined as "susceptibility to negative emotion", extroverts are susceptible to positive emotions, especially those influenced by external factors -- happiness, excitement, sure, but also sensation/attention-seeking. The scale for extroversion is essentially "positive - not-positive", while the neurotism scale is "negative - not-negative". It's a subtle difference but it means that an introvert isn't s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/18 12:06 PM
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I think there's some important link to extraversion here. I think you're right. "Validation" is a positive emotion, after all. I'm about as low as you can get on scores of extraversion and "validation" from other people is completely meaningless to me. I imagine someone on opposite end of the scale would enjoy that feeling, and if that person were also low in conscientiousness, they would be unable to resist seeking it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 11:02 PM
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So it looks like the "promiscuous type" is low conscientious/low agreeable/high extroversion, with men being quite a lot more extroverted than women (but that's the case in general). Low openness is a male promiscuous trait, but not a female one. Neuroticism seems not to matter at all. Interesting! Not at all intuitive. I wonder if "validation sex" is a separate thing from "promiscuity" altogether, because validation-seeking is definitely neurotic. Perhaps a "promiscuous type" who is also highly…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 09:48 PM
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Really the most important part is that there is a fixed, realistic end-date to your distance instead of this whole distance thing being the entire relationship. This is it. LDRs work if they're a temporary measure.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 02:58 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/18 12:23 AM
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You were talking about the behaviour of Asian women in the parent, not men. I agree that ethnic women date white men at a higher rate. I disagree that Asian women do this out of white fever lol. It makes sense that their cohabitation rate is slightly higher with white men than Asian but not for marriage -- there are more white men where the Asian women live.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 11:57 PM
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... and are outnumbered by whites. Asians in particular are really well integrated, so they're more likely to live near white people than other Asians.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 11:12 PM
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Where do you live? The particular Canadian university I went to is like 50% Asian.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 11:04 PM
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I married one. I live in a city that's majority "visible minority" - Asian guys slay white chicks here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 08:39 PM
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They reciprocate at the same rate that Hispanic women and Black women do to their respective races, which is lower than they reciprocate for whites. If this is an Asian women phenomenon, why does the pattern also apply to Hispanic and Black women?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 08:26 PM
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they marry/date white men at a greater rate Asians of either sex are the most likely to marry/date outside their race -- according to the data you linked. It shouldn't surprise you that the gender disparities layered atop the racial disparities produce this result. Considering that dating favours a male approach, and that racial hierarchies favour Asians more or less on par with Hispanics and above Blacks, it should be no surprise that white men approach Asian women more than other non-Asian rac…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 07:33 PM
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No, because they still marry/date Asian men at a greater rate. Most Asian women date Asian men. The only context in which Asian women display a preference for white men is if a white man does the approaching. She herself will choose to message Asian men more than white men. Asian women will pursue Asian men unless a white guy pursues her first. That's very different from an active preference for white men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 07:06 PM
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these patterns are FAR more pronounced in Asian women than any other race No shit. If the hierarchy goes: White > Asian > Hispanic > Black, then obviously Asian women are going to go for Asian or white men. It's not that they are the most biased for white men, it's that they are the most biased against hispanic/black men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 06:53 PM
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Nope, not the source of that table. The fact that it's based on a tiny sample of Yahoo personals tells me it's not particularly recent data. That paper does include a table (fig. 1 on 202) that shows Asian women and Asian men are both most likely to send an initial message to Asians. Asian women are more likely to respond to white men than Asian men, I'll give you that. However, Hispanic and black women are also more likely to respond to white men than Hispanic and black men, respectively. As I …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 06:15 PM
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40% of Asian-American women with a state preference exclude Asian men as dating options You got this data, as far as I can tell, from an undated table of Yahoo personal (seriously?) ads from four American cities. Replicate that table from its original source and I might be willing to engage with it. The fact that you are linking to images instead of actual studies sets off cherry-picking alarms, especially when google searching the image gets me links to incel forums and the "Asian Justice Leagu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 05:26 PM
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Posting again so it isn't buried... According to the study you linked, Asians in general are more likely to date outside their race. Asian men, compared to Hispanic, Black and White men are also significantly less likely to marry within their race. I grabbed the chart data and consolidated married/cohabiting for same-race partners. Look: ||Percentage of Women in Homogenous Couple|Percentage of Men in Homogenous Couple| |:-|:-|:-| |White|94.3%|95.3%| |Black|94.6%|86.7%| |Hispanic|76.6%|74.2%| |As…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 05:05 PM
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Well, you've sent me on a fun deep dive. What the study mainly indicates is that non-white women are less likely to marry outside their race than cohabit, and non-white men are more likely to date/marry outside their race full-stop. This seems logical; Asian and Hispanic women likely face family pressure to marry within the community, but due to population distribution, are also quite likely to date outside of it. More pertinent to the point: Asians in general are more likely to date outside the…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 04:47 PM
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How much of an influence do male preferences have here? I've heard many men on this forum claim to be only into white/Asian chicks, no blacks or Mexicans. Yellow Fever is not a female phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 03:45 PM
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If she's Asian and lives in the US, that's not exactly surprising. They're less than 6% of the population. What about all the Asian men dating white chicks? Come to Canada, they're everywhere. Might blow your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 03:38 PM
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Probably he's Asian, so feels resentful that you're "shrinking his pool". Or straight-up racist. One of those.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/18 03:21 PM
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My husband or I will often sleep in the guest room if the one has to be up very early for work and the other is coming home late. Happens a few times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 09:42 PM
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Ah, okay. You mean "how to get a relationship" not "how to have a successful relationship once you've gotten in one"? I'd agree. Obviously my parents were together before I was born, so it's not like I saw them dating to model that behaviour.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 08:51 PM
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... if marriage rates are dropping, and divorce rates are also dropping, it seems to me like the people who don't have the desire or skills for marriage are opting out. Which is good. Do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 07:57 PM
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Not explicitly, but your parents probably modeled skills that can help/hinder your success in sex/relationships. Overhearing your parents argue constructively models good conflict-resolutions skills, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 07:50 PM
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It's still free speech when a private platform exercises their right to curate their content; no government censorship involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 07:33 PM
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Your engagement ring budget was around my entire wedding budget. I had to get creative!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 07:28 PM
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If I were a man, and a potential sexual partner said to me, "Assume you have blanket sexual consent," I would run for the fucking hills. Good grief.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 06:58 PM
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The trick: don't say it's an engagement ring. Say it's a graduation gift or a gift for a sister with the same ring size. It's cheaper to buy a birthstone in a nice gold/platinum setting and have it re-set with a diamond than to buy a diamond ring at wedding-inflated prices. Can work with dress alterations too if your dress is a borderline wedding gown. I wore a knee-length sheath dress for my wedding, so I acted as though I was going to a big formal event and just happened to wear white. Drastic…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 06:47 PM
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I technically proposed (i.e. I was the one to say "let's get married!" and he agreed), but then my husband ambushed me and did a "proper" public proposal. I just let him say he was the one who proposed first since it's on film, even though you can clearly see I'm already wearing an engagement ring before he asks lol. Straight up saying "no" is kinda jerky though, I see why you're miffed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 06:31 PM
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From the wiki page on neuroticism itself, but now I see we're actually both kinda right and it's a contested term lol: Neuroticism is a trait in many models within personality theory, but there is a lot of disagreement on its definition. Some define it as a tendency for quick arousal when stimulated and slow relaxation from arousal; others define it as emotional instability and negativity or maladjustment, in contrast to emotional stability and positivity, or good adjustment. Others yet define i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 06:21 PM
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Different types of impulsivity are apparently correlated with neuroticism, extroversion, and low conscientiousness to various degrees... a very multi-faceted trait! I was confused by your initial neuro/impulsive connection, because I am super high in neuroticism and not at all impulsive. But I'm also low on extroversion and high on conscientiousness, so it seems those are mitigating factors. I'm also trying to see if there's a relationship between promiscuity and low self esteem If someone who i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 06:14 PM
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I'm not from Europe, but this is also the case in Quebec - very culturally similar. "Unwed mothers" includes tons of women who have a commonlaw partner, i.e. not a single parent, just not married.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 04:11 PM
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He's called Jjajang, which is Korean for black bean sauce. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 04:02 PM
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WITNESS MY AWESOME DOG.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 03:08 AM
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legalish We just had a thread from a dude in Ireland, where legal abortion is so recent it's not even in effect until next year.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 02:57 AM
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The first pathway [to impulsive responding]... involves the dominance of the BAS [Behavioural Activation System] over the BIS [Behavioural Inhibition System] amplified by a highly reactive NAS [Non-specific Arousal System] which results in overresponding to rewards; this pattern is seen in neurotic extroverts (672) Mind you, that's a discussion about a theory from the 1990s that the author is trying to refine. I wonder if more recent research has been done? Big 5 research has exploded since 2000…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/18 12:04 AM
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Sadly, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 11:53 PM
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Now I see that the problem is actually the word "impulsive". The sort of high risk-taking impulsivity that I (and others) are thinking of is not associated with neuroticism; the kind of impulsivity that underlies binge-eating disorder is, which is what (I think) you are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 11:49 PM
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Not low emotional stability; susceptibility to negative emotion. Anxiety, worry, guilt, and depression are not impulsive emotions. I score super high on neuroticism, and am the least impulsive person. I've literally had the same thing for breakfast for two years.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/18 11:39 PM
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