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You asked me what else could she value from me if it's not money. I made short a list. Excuses? she's not after me for money, I have little money. She makes six figures.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 07:52 PM
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Read definition of 'hamster'. Still don't know what you mean.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 07:28 PM
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Okay I think I understand. But how do I show her that this girl is interested me in? If I say nothing than she will never find out.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 05:10 PM
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You don't need to break up with her. You just need to demonstrate that she is not your only option in this world. How do I demonstrate that she is not my only option? Do I go to bars solo on Friday night and approach women? I don't have women friends, so I'm unsure how to do this. Actually there has been this one girl who's been texting me every month or so , and essentially asking if I'm still in this relationship. She showed interest in me from the start, but I chose to be with the girl I'm wi…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 03:44 PM
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lol damn, I hope you were never Captain Cuck, especially in that last paragraph. And I was absolutely thinking about buying her flowers and of other ways to make her feel good about us to save this relationship. But you're right, she will probably resent me if I try too hard. Unfortunately I wont 'next her ass'. I will see this to the bitter end and come out of it a stronger man. We're never going to have kids and I'm not married with her. I will try to recover by mostly focusing on myself and m…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 03:39 PM
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You're implying that a woman like that can only be after money. Clearly that's wrong, seeing how she makes multiples the amount that I make. She must be getting value from me in other forms... I'm younger, most of the good men her age are either married or dating younger women. I'm physically attractive and fit (not fit to the standards of people here though) I listen to her talk about her day, and let her rest her head on my chest and all that lovydub sensitive stuff that I'm good at. Her kid (…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 03:31 PM
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u/persaeus is spot on. Your girlfriend is deeply insecure. She's a decade older than you, probably post-wall, and has a kid. She's playing these games with you to prop up her value in your eyes. It's like overt dread, but she seems to be making it up most of the time. If she plays those games, you simply remove your presence and attention. I agree. There were times when I noticed that she is just as insecure about herself as I am. She IS playing these games to increase her perceived value, you'r…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 03:24 PM
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True I do have Oneitis. It's because she offers me so much things that I value: https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/9ne3mv/is_this_blatant_disrespect_or_shit_test/e7m3kjt/ And I know I will have trouble finding these things in other women. If I were to break up with her today, then I would lose all she offered me and I would be forced to go to bars and pubs alone and approach women who I know nothing about again. I'll probably run into more crazy bitches and girls of lower value, and it wil…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:47 PM
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She's not looking for a provider. She makes plenty of $$$, more than me and likely more than anyone in this thread. I don't have much money.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:37 PM
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I prefer your viewpoint.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:31 PM
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woah
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:30 PM
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Wow that video. You're right, that's me. I need to stop kissing her ass and realize this relationship is likely temporary and that there are plenty of girls in the sea. Lol damn that video is spot on.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:27 PM
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Thanks. Believe it or not, there are other women out there who will do all these things for you and more. You're operating from a scarcity mentality because you don't see yourself as the prize. Trust me, Yes you're correct. You are good enough that she can use you to validate herself. And she even plays these mind games with you to validate herself more. Not only are you giving her attention. She can make you jealous. Tingles galore... Shit. What do you mean by 'using me to validate herself'? Wh…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:21 PM
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I had a monogamy talk with her, why is it BS? We sat down and I ask her what her intentions were in this relationship, or more so I asked "What are the rules of the game?" (using her words). I told her that I only date 1 person at a time, and expect her to do the same. She was really caught of guard by this conversation and asked me "Does it look like there's anyone else in my life? My free time is spent with you or girlfriends". But in the end she said "I don't share", implying monogamy. What m…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:08 PM
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How do you leave without seeming butthurt? Clearly someone who leaves his SO during a movie is upset. Do I just laugh, get my bag then drive back home? and let her figure out what was wrong.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:55 PM
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Boundaries are a whole topic unto themselves, but it doesn;t mean drawing a line in the sand and threatening her if she crosses it - that's weak and reactive. It means drawing a line and telling yourself that you won't tolerate crossing it and defining your own behaviour or response to that if it happens. That behaviour is in your control and could be anything that YOU control: from leaving the house, leaving the relationship, deciding not to go on a trip, whatever you think is appropriate to th…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 04:37 AM
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The blog poster states: "there’s really no such thing as ‘mixed messages’ and that women’s behaviors will generally inform a guy as to what a woman’s real intent is. This is a basic behavioral psychology principle; behavior is the only true measure of motivation and intent." Using his logic, my LTR only talks about hanging out with guys in intimate settings, but she doesn't actually follow through and do it. So I should disregard what she says and look at her actions. Her actions show that she n…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 04:15 AM
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Thanks. will read.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 04:00 AM
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See, this is where I feel conflicted about advice I read about in other subs. I read that if a woman wants to cheat she will do so regardless of her being out of town or home, or on Friday night during her night out, or during lunch on Monday. If she wants to cheat it will happen, so there's nothing I can do. Show her that you're a confident man by not asking about her nights out and not trying to keep her chained to you. But you're saying that I should confront her and tell her how annoying and…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 04:00 AM
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Nothing happened. She keeps bluffing with these plans with male friends and she NEVER follows through with them. She enjoys getting a jealous reaction out of me or something. Or she's just waiting for me to react and sabotage the relationship. I don't know.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 03:56 AM
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Edit: just saw you history, you have a db. She will leave you. Shit. I hope not. Lol. I wrote that deadbedroom post on a slow week. Some weeks are really slow and makes me question things. But some weeks (like the last one) were good at we had sex plenty. It's all very confusing to me the constant shift in behavior. Sometimes she doesn't touch me all day, then at night she cuddles closely and kisses me. No idea what to make of it. Must lift harder. Must work towards goals. Use dread. Make female…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:32 AM
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Thanks. You're right, it's a lack of respect. When we first met I was doing good and I was confident. But lately I've been forced to leave my career and start in a new field (pretty much at the bottom), so my glamorous job is gone and apparently so is her respect for me.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:24 AM
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But using you're logic: I'm unattractive. Why would dread work as an unattractive guy?
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:19 AM
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I just don't understand how you could possibly take a girl like this seriously. Do you have no love or respect for yourself? I only highlighted the negative in my posts. I never mentioned that she invites me over each weekend, cooks me candle lit dinners, lets me drink her wine, takes me out to nice dinners and pays a lot of the time, wraps herself around me at night, make breakfast together, sex, blowjobs, anal, thanksgiving dinner and smiles at me in a way that my beta heart glows. But there's…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:14 AM
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yes, though we've been together long time.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 02:10 AM
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What would be a good example of AM in this situation then? Could you plz provide me with one.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:43 AM
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lmao. I'm 30 and this is actually my first LTR, so a lot of the issues stem from my inexperience.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:41 AM
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She was not testing to see if you were controlling like her ex husband. She was telling you she keeps orbiters and backup plans. So essentially, she was using 'dread game' on me... using TRP techniques on me.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:37 AM
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What would I have done? Picked up my phone and made up something about how you forgot you have plans and leave the house. Wouldn't that of revealed that you're 'butthurt' and that she got to you? I did nothing because I defaulted to a strategy I read about here where you don't give a fuck and don't react. She was looking for a reaction and I never wanted to give her what she was looking for.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:34 AM
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What exactly is she projecting onto me? Are you suggesting she felt shitty about texting the guy while we were cuddling and watching the movie, so to deal with her internal shitty conflict she made an effort to make me feel shitty by amplifying the situation by amplifying the situation and making me believe that she could cheat. Sounds about right. But she does this all the time, and never follows through. Example 1: Out of town male friend was going to be in the city. She told me that she may l…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:32 AM
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Thanks a lot. Good insights. So act calmly, let her know how i feel calmly using the AM approach, then punish her bad behavior by removing time from her. Ok, i'll check out that post. But the thing is, we're not married, although this is an LTR. We were at her house and it was like 10pm on a Saturday. I wasn't going to go to bed and I couldn't go home because I was there for the weekend and live 40 minutes away. It sucks when this kind of situation happens when I'm at her place, because I no whe…
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:16 AM
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Working towards the man I wan to be. I realize the my biggest issue was lack of experience, so I set a weak frame from the start and I've been trying to make it stronger since. Will read more sidebar, may check out that 'no more mr nice guy' book..
/r/askMRP12/10/18 01:08 AM
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I can handle it. It's just a waste of time shifting through 90% shit in this sub to find the gems. Going to gym, while the mod of this sub weakandsensitive sends me 10 more replies insulting me and searching through my post history. Pretty ironic, and sad that the mod is behaving like a butthurt 12 yo.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:20 PM
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Expected that you lurked through my post history after insulting me in 5+ separate posts alone in this thread. And you tell me to get therapy. Lol the irony. My post history is focused on improving myself by asking for help and providing advice, and yours is 90% insulting people. You should mod a few more subs to fill the gap your parents left you in your life.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:19 PM
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Expected that you lurked through my post history after insulting me in 5+ separate posts alone in this thread. And you tell me to get therapy. Lol the irony. My post history is focused on improving myself by asking for help and providing advice, and yours is 90% insulting people. You should mod a few more subs to fill the gap your parents left you in your life.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:17 PM
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You sound very damaged my man. I'm sorry they hurt you. You should definitely read up on theories like pressure flipping or some other obscure theory and write a 5k word post about it on reddit, then follow that by insulting new posters. Again, i'm sorry they hurt you.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:14 PM
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Tell me, how did your parents hurt you?
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:10 PM
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Checked your post history quickly. It's nearly all bitter attacking remarks towards OPs. Way to use your time productively bro.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:06 PM
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What do you mean by 'kill the puppy'? You think she wanted me to start an argument to end the relationship?
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:04 PM
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Yes... STFU, that's what it's called. It was the only strategy I could think of in the moment from TRP so I followed it. I have a mission, and I lift (though I'm a bit of a beginner), and I'll still have to face these annoying shit tests regardless
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:03 PM
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I mean, she tried to end the text conversation and told me "Okay, my last text should have ended it." , then when he responded she never picked up her phone. The thing is, he's a superior to her at work. I don't know man.. Aside from this shit I have a good relationship with her. I hate to ruin it over her texting while we watch a movie. In hindsight I should have said something
/r/askMRP11/10/18 11:01 PM
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You're asking what you should have done in the situation. Well, you should have confronted her right there on the spot. "I'm sorry, but say that again? You got high with him in a hotel room, both of you alone? And you tell me this just now?" Okay, clearly people are misreading my post. She got high with him before I even met her. She was talking about getting high with him in a hotel room and watching this movie during her next conference , which is happening in a few weeks.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 10:56 PM
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So her attention would rather be on her phone messaging a guy rather than enjoying cuddling you, watching a film that she loves and waiting to speak to him the next day. Not understandable to me. Yes, that was infuriating. A few texts would have been fine, I get it, they have inside jokes and they're long time friends. But later into the movie as the guy was texting her she was making an effort to politely end it, she even told me "Okay, that last text should have done it. doubt he'll respond.",…
/r/askMRP11/10/18 10:52 PM
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Thank you. I only did nothing and stayed calm because I never knew what to do, and defaulted to advice I read in TRP before about not reacting to shit tests. But it seems like this is a more serious shit test. I was torn between getting pissed, stopping the movie and probably starting an argument with her that ends in me leaving. Or to do what you suggested and go for AM, but it requires more skill. Is a good example of AM: "Ahah okay, so you're going to stay in this guys hotel room, get high an…
/r/askMRP11/10/18 10:41 PM
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Yes they once ate edibles together before I even met her. I didn't ask for a shortcut. Where did I ask for a shortcut?
/r/askMRP11/10/18 10:31 PM
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Why are you losing your shit against me? What useless posters. Do something better with your time useless POS. I post here for help - it's what this askMRP community is for. Posters like you make it TOXIC.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 10:25 PM
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Now that I think of it I should have stopped the movie and told her "What the fuck?? Trying to watch a movie with you and you're texting this guy throughout the entire thing and now talking about getting intoxicated with him in a hotel room. Do you have any respect at all for this relationship??" Then if she doesn't apologize I should have... walked out?
/r/askMRP11/10/18 10:22 PM
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For me, I’d end it for that reason. But what would you have done in that moment? Get up and left? Start an arguement and get in her face? I stayed calm and never reacted because I see that suggested all the time in TRP when women give shit tests.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 10:19 PM
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What?
/r/askMRP11/10/18 10:18 PM
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Young Frankenstein Not everyone here is 'Alpha' and a 'flaired brother'. Some of us are inexperienced and come here for help from the more experiences guys. I was expecting people to tell me how to react in that situation. I never knew what to do so I stayed calm and never reacted (which happens to be a strategy that I read often about in TRP, but apparently I'm wrong to use it here.....)
/r/askMRP11/10/18 10:16 PM
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I don't know. Maybe she's waiting for me to get fed up and break the relationship off. But then again, on one of our first dates she said something like "I have a lot of male friends and I go out for drinks with them sometimes. If that's a problem than this wont work.". Think she's just testing to see if I'll try to control her like her ex husband. I don't know man. I'll do what you say next time, and I'll make her remember this situation to prove that she does it a lot. Will definitely talk to …
/r/askMRP11/10/18 10:04 PM
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See MRP sub. Cool I can lean from these guys. I'll post. Receive insults. Faggot this and that. She's cheating on you 100%. And no constructive advice. Really useless sub each time I try posting here. 10% of the replies are worth reading, the rest is cancer. I came here for advice.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 09:50 PM
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You misread my post. She never went to the conference yet, and only talked about hanging with this guy. And I wasn't butthurt - at least I never showed it.
/r/askMRP11/10/18 09:46 PM
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How should I react in that situation though? Do I just get up and leave? Confront her and act aggressive? Go batshit crazy? I stayed calm because she did this in the past quite a few times: She talks about a male friend, then talks more about him to make me feel jealous, then says that they're going to do this and that for fun and hang out. BUT IT NEVER HAPPENS. She is all talk. She tells me she's going to golf with a male friend - never happened. Tells me she occationally has drinks with male f…
/r/askMRP11/10/18 09:45 PM
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Texting a friend during the movie does not justify a response from me. If anything it would make me out to be insecure. The friend happens to be a married man, but regardless, he's just a friend. The texting (round 1) was fine. It's the other stuff that bothered me. Instead of making an observation why don't you offer constructive advice/feedback? Are you suggesting I get aggressive once she pulls out her phone to text a friend?
/r/askMRP11/10/18 09:42 PM
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dude i'm not reading your wall of text. enough of you. waste of time. You're spamming all over my thread insulting me. Lots of constructive advice in this thread and yours isn't it. bitter cunt
/r/askTRP04/10/18 07:01 PM
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i texted my LTR 2 times during the day. you're overreacting. calm down. texting my GF 2 times in a day when she's out of town is perfectly normal.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 05:40 PM
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Thanks. Great insights. I obviously won't follow the advice that I'm not ready for an LTR. But I will work on improving my market value. As it stands, I'm in good shape and attractive, but lacking in social status and a good job - need to work on those things.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 02:45 PM
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Every taken woman I’ve slept with has text their boyfriend while with me. Damn.. that's a hard truth to swallow. I guess I shouldn't even bother with the type of 'checking in' texts we send. If texting won't help me Is there anything I should keep my eyes open for that will? Anything common behaviors that girls do when they cheat?
/r/askTRP04/10/18 02:41 PM
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did she shave her legs, get her hair done, shave her pussy I don't know. We slept together (no sex) naked and I didn't even bother to notice. I'll remember this next time.. good idea. did she NOT let you fuck before she left? did not let me fuck, but then again she had to wake up early.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 02:36 PM
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Yes, look around at most of the posts here. you'll find a lot of beta behavior. That's why were here and posting, to learn, to improve.. 'Alphas' would seldom lurk a subreddit and use their time to help other guys.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 02:32 PM
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Shes with you all the time. She gets 2 days to recharge and be away for a while and you want her to still txt you every second. No she isn't with me all the time - she's with me a few nights a week. No I don't text every second - I texted her twice in one day that night. Fuck off already man. Give her room to breathe. You are exhibitig the behavior that inspires women to cheat. Texting 2 times in one day is inspiring cheat behavior? Fuck off.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 02:28 PM
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A quick look at your other replies and it's obvious you're a miserable cunt. all your posts are bitter towards the OPs.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 02:23 PM
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How old are you? 16? ?? it's common to send good night texts in an LTR "Hey babe, I'm doing X Y Z, home now." sending this text isn't showing neediness
/r/askTRP04/10/18 02:20 PM
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yes
/r/askTRP04/10/18 02:17 PM
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I don't feel desperate. I'm enjoying this LTR. Lots of benefits and good times. Would rather be with her than another girl, even if the other girl was much hotter. What I have here is pretty good. I'm just new to this shit and slightly insecure. If she cheats, I'm out obviously going to end it
/r/askTRP04/10/18 02:15 PM
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however, if you think she hasn't already picked up on both of those statements you are SADLY mistaken. people sense this shit a mile away, I would even say its next to impossible to hide. True. I'm sure she sensed the insecurity from me from my simple 'checking in' text messages. I forget how easy women sense this stuff.. I need to text less and avoid constantly 'checking-in' with messages like "Hey babe I'm doing X and Y" in hopes that she will reply. you have no control 9ver somebody else you …
/r/askTRP04/10/18 04:26 AM
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If you care more than her, she will have more power over you. Yes, she already has more power over me. I've been trying to tip the power into my favor for a month now and cannot figure out how to do it. I'm more emotionally invested and it shows. I show more interest in spending time together and take every opportunity she gives. Yes, I'm failing hard in this area. Need to pull back and monk mode a little. Can't feed the instant gratification I get from being with her. Need to sometimes say "no.…
/r/askTRP04/10/18 04:23 AM
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every time she comes up to my room... lawl Yes I need to work on myself and focus inwardly. Can't depend on other people, especially a girl.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 04:18 AM
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You're right. But she does this to me too. I guess we do it to each other when we're curious what the other is doing. Is 'checking in' like that really bad? I like being able to text what we're doing during the day. It's part of the LTR thing. She comforts me and I comfort her. I guess the benefit of not 'checking in' is to build dread game. Which I guess we do to each other sometimes.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 04:16 AM
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You should always invest only 50% of what she invest into you. You're the prize. She should be worried about you cheating. And even if you found out she did cheat you don't need a explanation just calmly pack her stuff I like that mindset. I will invest less and focus on myself more. But how do you even find evidence that something happened? How does someone come across this kind of stuff? I don't want to succumb to spying or checking her phone, because that's a shit road to go down and will onl…
/r/askTRP04/10/18 04:13 AM
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How did you find out she was cheating?
/r/askTRP04/10/18 04:05 AM
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Aren't I supposed to be invested in a LTR? isn't that the point?
/r/askTRP04/10/18 04:04 AM
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Chill out dude. Either you trust (but verify) or you don't. Talking to us is not going to make you feel better or worse. That's on you. you're right.. I'm inexperienced with LTRs. Always handle insecurity and jealousy badly.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 03:48 AM
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But I'm a pretty insecure guy when it comes to women. No matter what girl I'm with I will probably feel this way. Can't trust my gut. But you're right.. work vacations and conferences are where people cheat. It's the perfect opportunity. Out of town people and hotel rooms. And she has these things every month all winter. Sigh. What do i do if I can't trust my gut? I don't think she's cheating. I just think she has a good opportunity to do it. I need more shit going on in my life so my thoughts a…
/r/askTRP04/10/18 03:46 AM
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Whether I should or shouldn't doesn't matter to me. I'll ride this out until the wheels fall off. Probably will learn a lot anyways if it fails, but hoping it doesn't fail.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 03:40 AM
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conference ended at 5. she's been out socializing and drinking. Anyways, she just texted me at 11pm. What makes me especially insecure is knowing that a ton of people cheat when they're out of town for work stuff and with hotel rooms. It's the perfect time to cheat with out of town people you meet at conferences and bars. That makes me feel hella insecure.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 03:39 AM
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Well, nothing will beat college in terms of ease of friends. Accept that. You will have to work for friends now and put an effort into engaging with others. Time to join social activities. I'm in a similar situation. I lift and do yoga, but it's not like I can socialize much in those activities. I'm going to join an improv group, even though it makes me feel super anxious, but I know it will help. For talking to women: What helped me was to get to the point where I missed so much opportunities a…
/r/askTRP04/10/18 03:34 AM
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it's wednesday night. i worked, went to gym, cooked and am home relaxing. wtf do you want me to do on wednesday. im busy, yet I still feel the way I feel
/r/askTRP04/10/18 03:27 AM
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But she doesn't know that. I know that I'm insecure. I recognize that. I imagine many guys here are, but the trick is to not let the women see that. Right? I can't change my insecurity in an instant.. I mean, many guys would feel insecure if their LTR was out drinking in another town and sleeping in a hotel, while not replying to texts that night.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 03:05 AM
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How did you attain a huge circle of friend before? What's the goal: more friends or girlfriend(s)?
/r/askTRP04/10/18 03:00 AM
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I never showed insecurity through text. All I did was text "Hey babe. Long day at work. Fantastic gym session and now I'm home finally relaxing.". It's a very standard text I would send any day. She sends me those sorts of texts too.
/r/askTRP04/10/18 02:37 AM
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thinking about the future is 'blue pill as fuck'. I'm not marrying my plate. Even if it turns to a LTR - it's still temporary.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 04:10 PM
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Yup, i felt completely different about it in my early 20s too. I'm 30 now and willing to go even older.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 04:12 AM
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Fifty Shades of Grey in a nut shell. The sexual fantasies of women are almost narcissistic. It's about them (not their partner). About them being desired, feeling desired, feeling sexy. They get off on that. It's not like men where we think of the other person and how they turn us on. For women it's inward.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 03:46 AM
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It's not about being desperate. As you get older you might find girls in their 20s to be boring and shallow (as you are right now). Older women will likely be less BS, less games, more confidence (in and out of the bedroom), not depend on you like a parasite and you might even find them more hot.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 03:37 AM
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Problem isn't the first sentence. It's the phone thing. I'm dating older and enjoying it. If it were me.. I would wait until she does it when I'm having a conversation with her, tell her that it's annoying, and if she does it again I will get up and walk away.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 03:35 AM
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Scroll down and read what one guy wrote about how his LTR knows he expects sex everyday, so that's how it is. That's HIS Frame. And what if this guy wanted sex more than once a day, but 3 times a day? Should he leave his girl because she cant keep up to that demand? My frame is I expect at least 2-3 times a week to be content with the LTR, but WANT more. So I'm having difficulty trying to get more without seeming beta. But according to you there is no way to do it and the only solution is to lea…
/r/askTRP28/09/18 05:55 PM
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choosing to date a hot woman who takes me out to expensive dinners, pays for mini vacations together, sucks my cock, takes it up her ass or her pussy (depending on what i choose), cooks me candle lit dinners on a weekly basis, cooks me breakfast, makes six figures herself etc... Is Beta behavior? All because she has a kid? Hmmmm I'll take your definition of beta over behind "alpha macho 1337 mother fucker who pulls himself up by his bootstraps" any day.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 05:40 PM
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I read the posts about single mothers and disagree because it doesn't apply to my specific situation. The posts advice people not to date single mothers because they assume the mother is after someone who will support her kid. The woman i'm in a LTR now makes six figures and doesn't need a man to support her kid. Also, she's older than me so her kid isn't an infant, he's in college. I'm 30 and she's in her 40s (but hot). So my situation is very different from the posts in the sidebar about singl…
/r/askTRP28/09/18 05:15 PM
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no we had more sex back then, even if it meant her sleeping only 5hrs that night. But clearly that wasn't sustainable, because she needs more than 5hrs of sleep for her high stress job, she needs nights reserved for her son and girlfriends, and one night for herself of alone time. I want sex more than 2-3 times a week. Maybe i'm getting more boring, but the kind of sex we had at the beginning is just not sustainable long-term.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 04:56 PM
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Yes I left some info out of the post that I probably should have added. Also left another important bit of information because I know how people in this sub feel about it from reading the sidebar. She's a single mom (though not looking for a sugar daddy or anything, she does very well on her own) , so dropping in for 15min sex isn't an option sometimes. Sometimes she wants nights with her son and I never know when those nights happen. SO I'm stuck subtlely gauging her interest like a beta to fin…
/r/askTRP28/09/18 04:49 PM
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No, we normally meet 2-3 times a week and have sex. sometimes twice a night. But it's during the other nights when I want it that I find it difficult to gauge her interest with losing face.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 04:39 PM
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When she says she is too tired for sex, what she actually means is that she's too tired for sex with YOU. I'm sorry, guy, but it looks like your girlfriend just isn't that into you. In fact, she may even be getting the sex from someone else, hence why she isn't interested in doing it with YOU. Wrong. If it were up to me we would be having sex every night because of my high drive. But if I came over every night we would be basically living with each other and she would have little time to herself…
/r/askTRP28/09/18 04:15 PM
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when my feelings get hurt. I just don't show it, obviously
/r/askTRP28/09/18 05:10 AM
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I was only having trouble because I never had the balls to approach anyone. Wouldn't say she's out of my league. She's hot and I think we're in each others league. No one was approaching women when I was there. All the men were standing on the side lines. Mustering up the courage to approach puts you way ahead.
/r/askTRP28/09/18 01:03 AM
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Also, get more hobbies involving people. Yes for sure. Gym and yoga are my hobbies that involve people, but I never get to talk to people during those hobbies. Need to find other ones..
/r/askTRP27/09/18 11:49 PM
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complimenting your girl isn't beta
/r/askTRP27/09/18 11:22 PM
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It worked out meaning what? Set a date with her, sex the day after, and still with her 3 months later.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 09:03 PM
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I had a drink or two, and a small dose of anxiety medication for the 1st time I approached. After the 1st or 2nd time it became easier to approach without anything. For me it was useful to cheat by drinking the first few times to build confidence which helped me later. Also, getting fit helped with confidence. Setting goals and accomplishing them. And another trick: the first times I approached was at a music bar where it was mostly middle aged people; fewer hot girls, but also fewer competition…
/r/askTRP27/09/18 08:58 PM
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perfect
/r/askTRP27/09/18 05:02 AM
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Both. I'm in the same boat as you and will travel to GF during the weekend and she will travel some weekends to me. We plan on taking Friday off some weeks to spend more days together.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 05:01 AM
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She did you a favor.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 04:53 AM
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Take it as you want. Works for me. I cummed up GF's ass last night.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 04:51 AM
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Listen to her talk without judging. Women love that. It's what gets them wet. Having a guy who they like who listens to them.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 04:45 AM
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Also, rowing is a team sport. So you will likely have much more opportunities to bond with teammates and form friendships. While fencing is solo..
/r/askTRP27/09/18 04:43 AM
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drinks or coffee, depends on the girl. First date shouldn't be interesting. It should be about getting to know the other person and seeing if they're compatible. You shouldn't be wasting much energy and/or money on planning it. It's a first date - don't get hung up on it.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 04:41 AM
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Rowing will build more muscles. But do what interests you the most, otherwise it's unlikely that you will stick with it.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 04:38 AM
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Frustration will get you out of this shit. Failure after failure and built up frustration will fix you. I was alone for the longest time, then one night I was so frustrated with the missed opportunities and being a pussy that I went to a local music venue for the third time that month and finally approached a girl who smiled at me (without a plan) and it worked out. It took me years of frustration and doing nothing to get to this point.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 04:37 AM
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Just kino won't lead to sex. You asking her out and escalating during the dates can lead to sex. Don't waste your time on kino and building attraction until you have a date planned. if she's just going to reject you 3 months from now when you do finally get the courage to ask her out then you wasted all this kino escalation for nothing.
/r/askTRP27/09/18 04:31 AM
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Okay, so we just have to become ripped billionaires. Is that the only male character in the book?
/r/askTRP27/09/18 04:18 AM
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WHOA!!!!!!! Dude...how do you just leave this out lmao. You just told the story of WW2 and didn't mention Hitler. Lol! She's in her later 40s (but hot) and I'm 30. It's my first relationship. But I don't want to be her young buck or play thing. I want a deeper relationship, someone I can move in with in the future. I do want her as my girlfriend and see her that way, but i'm not sure if she feels the same. I mentioned the word 'girlfriend' around her and it definitely caught her off guard based …
/r/askTRP26/09/18 09:39 PM
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The problem is the behavior I described in the OP and in the thread. But maybe you're right, maybe she sees it just as a casual thing. But then again, I met her son (she's significantly older than me) and have dinners with them every week..
/r/askTRP26/09/18 09:06 PM
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That's what I thought. Never do this again Dully noted. Way too soon bro. Try 6 months next time Okay! You were LTRing her from the beginning. Just plate girls to start with mkay? You need to do this to create competition anxiety in them and to figure out their red flags (such as being a psycho, which she is) Okay. But at the beginning she was inviting me out to nice restaurants and paying. She was inviting me over to her house after work for drinks and sex. She was offering to cook me dinner du…
/r/askTRP26/09/18 09:01 PM
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Definitely not a hoe. I never mentioned the good in my post. She takes me out for nice dinners and pays. She invited me on a mini vacation and payed. She cooks me fancy candle lit dinners every week. She does all the sexual stuff I want. She does activities that I like with me. Lots of benefits here.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 08:55 PM
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PS how long did you plate her before she begged for an LTR? I was the one who initiated the LTR conversation 6 weeks in. I did it because we were moving quickly: sleeping at each others places several times a week, went on mini vacation together, going on dates a lot. Not sure if I should have waited for her to ask for the LTR - I'm inexperienced when it comes to relationships. I lost my virginity to this girl 3 months ago at 30 years old.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 08:49 PM
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What should I have done then? (with the friend calling texting her 'sexy' while we were cuddling, or from the 3 situations in the OP)
/r/askTRP26/09/18 08:20 PM
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Yes I lift and have hobbies. I'm in good shape & physically attractive. I have some hobbies, but not much. But I do give her a lot of attention. Each time she invites me over I take the opportunity, even if it's late at night. I don't think I ever said "no" to her asking me to come over in the 3 months we've been together.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 07:59 PM
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How should I have handled the situation then?
/r/askTRP26/09/18 07:55 PM
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How should I have acted when faced with those scenarios? Scenario 1 I confronted her and told her that I would feel uncomfortable with male friend sleeping over and how awkward it would be if she allowed it. Scenario 2 I acted indifferent and tried to play it cool, but she likely saw that it was bothering me and comforted me by saying she acts like that with people regardless of their sex. Scenario 3 I agreed that it wouldn't be an issue if she had male friends and wen't out for a drink. How do …
/r/askTRP26/09/18 07:55 PM
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What's DL 2, 3? Couldn't find it in the glossary list.
/r/askTRP26/09/18 07:16 PM
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If she talks to the other guys more than she talks to you then I’d probably soft next her for a while. She sometimes DOES engage to other guys a lot while were out: Last time I took her out for dinner she knew the waiter that was serving us. She was talking to him like an old friend while slapping his back playfully and smiling a ton. She engaged him in conversation every time he came to the table. And the thing is, she later admitted to me that she doesn't even know his name. Another time we we…
/r/askTRP26/09/18 07:13 PM
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Yes, well.. about that. While we were cuddling together and watching a movie she was texting. I glanced over to her phone and saw the guy she was texting called her 'sexy'. I was frustrated and thinking to myself "WTF were cuddling and she's flirting with another guy by text?"" That's when I had the monogamy talk with her. I asked her what are the rules of the game for our relationship and what she expects. I told her that I want a monogamous relationship and expect the same. She never gave me a…
/r/askTRP26/09/18 07:01 PM
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