crx687 Archive

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1	Some Feminists Advocate that False Rape Accusers "Should Not Be Prosecuted" I think this discussion needs to focus more on the gray area of rape accusations rather than the black and white. If the facts are that a man raped a woman I'm sure both sides will agree he deserves to be punished, and if it's a known fact that a woman false accuses a man of rape, I'd like to think both sides can also agree on the proper course. Lisa Longstaff's comment seems more to mean to be regarding the cases when a rape occurs and there's little evidence of it or not enough to convict, or …	/r/MensRights	30/01/11 02:08 AM
1	Why Chinese Mothers are Superior - response from a Chinese daughter So you basically defined an action that potentially has negative consequences, but in my case did not and benefited me greatly as "abuse" and are telling me that I was abused and will continue to be the "abuser" in ALL cases?	/r/MensRights	13/01/11 06:26 AM
1	Why Chinese Mothers are Superior - response from a Chinese daughter The majority of parents in China do do it. The result is a high depression/suicide rate, but also a stronger work ethic and more resilience. Which is my point, this type of parenting attitude is a double edged sword that needs to be applied appropriately.	/r/MensRights	13/01/11 06:24 AM
1	Why Chinese Mothers are Superior - response from a Chinese daughter By that logic I should treat my kids as strangers? Yelling in these specific circumstances achieved the goal of motivating the kid toward successful behavior and eventually, in my own case, good habits without long term damage. If you want to call that "abuse" sure, but I know it works in these circumstances and see no reason not to do it.	/r/MensRights	12/01/11 04:42 AM
1	Why Chinese Mothers are Superior - response from a Chinese daughter Yeah, I got yelled at quite a bit. But most of it motivated me to work harder... just like it did in the story. Not all yelling is "abuse". I'm not going to argue that yelling hurts. I'm arguing that "abuse" implies wrongdoing and there's nothing wrong with yelling to motivate when IT WORKED.	/r/MensRights	12/01/11 03:22 AM
1	Why Chinese Mothers are Superior - response from a Chinese daughter But how did yelling and demeaning the kid hurt the kid at the end? It actually looks to me like an effective tool for teaching/motivating the kid in this case.	/r/MensRights	12/01/11 01:11 AM
1	Why Chinese Mothers are Superior - response from a Chinese daughter Was her child hurt at the end of this?	/r/MensRights	12/01/11 01:10 AM
1	Why Chinese Mothers are Superior - response from a Chinese daughter You're absolutely right that commonly done does not make it right. But I'm going to argue that higher suicide rate in this culture does not make it abuse either, but rather being too pushy when it won't do any good is what makes it abuse. The average Asian parent will forcibly push the kid a lot more than the average American parent, and it works well most of the time. The depression and suicide comes in when the parents pressure the kid AFTER the limit is reached. In this case it clearly was no…	/r/MensRights	12/01/11 01:00 AM
1	Why Chinese Mothers are Superior - response from a Chinese daughter You made a judgment that these tactics are "abusive". The key is that the mother put in hours and hours of work WITH the kid, that's love. Albiet I have a very biased sample size given my experiences/friends, but I've shared this article with many of my friends who can appreciate it and the general reaction is a sense of pride and thankfulness toward our parents. Plenty of people learn resilience precisely because of this type of parenting. That said, I'm not advocating doing this toward everyon…	/r/MensRights	12/01/11 12:52 AM
2	Why Chinese Mothers are Superior - response from a Chinese daughter good mental health, good education, going into a career that I love doing, generally happy with major life choices? I don't know what you're looking for here... That's besides the point though, my point is that growing up in China the sentiment described in the article is the norm and not many parents would say this woman is crazy or disapprove of the majority of her tactics.	/r/MensRights	12/01/11 12:49 AM
5	Why Chinese Mothers are Superior - response from a Chinese daughter But as a Chinese son who ended up successful, I want to thank my mother. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying this method works on everyone or is superior to the typical American method, but there are pros and cons on this. Asians have ridiculously high depression and mental health rates, but those who make the through the system are hard workers and generally pretty successful. And I am a little biased, because having grown up in China, I can say the vast majority of parents I knew were like this…	/r/MensRights	11/01/11 03:39 AM