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I have 50/50 but it's every other week. I just spend the Sunday they go home cleaning up. Makes me appreciate how hard it is to be a single parent.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/26 04:16 PM
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Honestly my 50/50 split is kinda nice. When the kids are there we do family activities and I'm a 100% attentive father. When they're gone I do hobbies, chores, and adult activities with the girlfriend. Keeps it fresh.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 06:31 AM
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This folks is why getting married makes no sense for a man nowadays.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 08:34 AM
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Buddy most of us were blindsided when our wives decided to end it for... reasons. First of all she has probably cheated if she says she has someone in mind. Second, I would book it back home with the kids and file for divorce there first. Don't get stuck there. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 01:40 AM
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I read the linked article and it is an extremely biased one sided collection of anecdotes. It's a diatribe against tradwifes and doesn't look at any statistics or studies. Also, divorce happens to those fsmilies who have two working partners just as much. Journalism is a joke.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 04:26 AM
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My wife also got addicted to men bad, women good, fight the patriarchy tik tok bullshit. It's intentional.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 04:20 AM
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Sometimes I have these same sorta thoughts. Then I snsp out of it and realized she treated me like shit and wanted me oit of her life. Good riddance.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 11:14 PM
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I called a local vasectomy place and they said I needed to talk to my GPMD first beforehand and get a referral. WTF. I'm 45 with 3 kids. Snip it you bastard!
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 12:50 AM
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Hire a lawyer, maybe get a therapist, read the book No More Mr Nice Guy, and just go Grey rock. Once a woman decides it's over, it's over. I'm 2 years out of divorce and I'm happy, financially stable, and mentally in a good place. It feels like hell now, but you're going to be OK.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 02:29 PM
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I wish my ex wife would give me back the ring. I'd love to sell it and fund a vacation.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/26 07:31 PM
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No. Not just no, but hell no! She left, cheated, came home, left again, and now wants YOU (a suckered in her eyes) to help raise her affair bastard now that the other man fled. FUCK. THAT. SHIT.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/26 02:29 PM
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I completely understand the feeling. It's easier as a team. But as you yourself said your team mate had already begun belittling you. That's not what teammates do. I'm 2 years out with split custody and I'm finally almost debt free. I budget, cut my spending, sold my boat, and did everything I could to get financially right side up. She's in debt up to her eyeballs because she changed nothing. In reality she was my albatross because we weren't playing for the same team. So hold your head high, e…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/26 04:00 PM
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Yeah, being grilled by a person with a dead end job, a couple baby daddies, and no pot to piss in is hilarious.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 02:10 AM
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My theory is too many women are raised as Disney princesses/Daddy's little girl with an emphasis on old school chivalry. Then they grow up and get introduced to modern feminism, tik tok therapy, and the patriarchy. Now it's all men's fault and they are oppressed.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 07:19 PM
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Emotional labor they call it when they do it. Manipulative is what they call it when you do it. You can't win.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 06:52 PM
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My guess is the office is staffed with a majority of women. They secretly hate you and think you're a jerk. Just my guess... BTW I'm a HS teacher and listening to the anti male vitriol in a female dominated profession is eye opening. If it was a bunch of men talking about women like that in the office lounge it would be an HR report and mandatory training. But if I said shit I'd get retaliation.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 06:34 PM
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It's weaponized against men at this point. If it was anyone else getting treated this way in a harshly systemic fashion the ACLU would get involved.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 06:15 PM
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The problem is marriage is inherently a religious institution and we're not a religious country anymore. Vows made before God mesn nothing when one party decides they want out. For better or worse my ass.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 11:12 PM
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I dunno man. I think so. I'm sitting here and my kids just went back to their mom's house and I was doing pretty good. But now everything just feels empty. There are no summer family activities to look forward to. Just an empty house, or me taking them somewhere. I have a girlfriend, and I like her, but I'm not in love. I dunno if I can fall in love again. I no longer believe in love or marriage. I was working towards building something better for my family. Now my family unit is broken and I no…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 11:09 PM
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Leave the country before they take your passport? It's criminal how much the guy gets fucked over.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/26 04:24 AM
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I can't believe you posted that misogynistic diatribe you heartless Neanderthal. /s Seriously though social media and pop feminism combined with traditional gender expectations for men and jot for women has turned everything hostile.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 10:54 AM
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You know what, two years out, good riddance. She wasn't happy and needed space. I'm so much happier not dealing with the toxicity and unrealistic expectations. She went to find herself and found out the grass wasn't greener (mainly because I wasn't there to fo yard work) Meanwhile I'm much happier. So, while the process sucked I'm so glad I'm free. Young guys, here's my advice, don't get married. They're your soul mate abd ride or die right now, but give it ten to 15 years and you'll be the reas…
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 03:11 AM
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Guys who are just going through a divorce, it gets better! Seriously, in the beginning I was devastated and sad. Now I'm happy and wouldn't go back for anything.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/26 02:12 PM
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My Ex had to get hernia surgery, so she got a mommy makeover too with a boob job and tummy tuck. Helped her get her masters too. Once she had new boobs and a better paying job she wanted out. 15 years down the drain because she wasn't happy.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/26 05:34 PM
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Wait... Your wife showed you her felon ex was getting out and you were a place warmer? Am I reading that right? She's for the streets. Actually fuck that, streets are too good. Straight up gutter trash.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/26 12:34 PM
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I have a girlfriend who i like. I told her point blank early in I'm never getting married again. There are many fish in the sea.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 09:55 PM
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I noticed in my marriage my wife always had a reason we couldn't do stuff with ny friends, but we did couples stuff with her friends. By the time we were divorced I was estranged from my friends and her friends husbands cut ne off.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 09:36 PM
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I call it the there's no crying in baseball phenomenon. Men are told to suck it up, man up, abd move on. Women are told to let it all out. I learned to "embrace the suck" when I was young and found solace.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 09:30 PM
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She initiated and at first I was devastated. That was 3 years ago. Now I'm living my best life with 50/50 custody and no more headaches. I wouldn't go back to that for the world.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/26 06:48 PM
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I remember your original posts abd thought it was crazy you had to do all the driving. All in all this seems like a decent outcome.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/26 06:06 PM
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This is why most men avoid single moms. I have zero desire to be someone's step dad.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 06:21 PM
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This hits close to home because I'm the boring dad... Because I enforce rules, bed times, screen time limits, make healthy meals, etc. Meanwhile my ex wife let's them do whatever they want. She even does fun things like spontaneously adopting a kitten (she has a bunch and the house smells like cat piss). Being an adult is hard. Hopefully our kids follow our leads and grow up to be successful adults and not time blind hoarders with too many cats.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 11:40 AM
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Couples therapy was a waste of time. Individual therapy was pretty good. Group therapy when I was feeling depressed was very helpful.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/26 02:47 AM
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We tried to reconcile 1.5 years after the divorce and me moving out. I took the family on a vacation and she reminded me why it wasn't going to work. I told her it was over and she started crying saying I was her safety. She initiated the divorce because she wasn't happy. We coparent mostly amicably, but I have no desire to be part of that chaos.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/26 07:30 PM
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The system is setup this way so the man pays for everything instead of the state... I wonder what eould happen if every man getting fleeced by the system said fuck it, lock me up, and just stopped paying. Seriously, my brother in law lost his job in the oil patch, judge didn't care, and put him in jail for missed child support. Now I'm divorced and paying thousands a month with little left over. If men didn't keep feeding the system it would all burn.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/26 11:55 PM
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Yes. She was on tik tok listening to all kinds of YASSS QUEEN, BOSS BITCH, YOU DON'T NEED A MAN propaganda.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/26 06:54 PM
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I mean we had problems and work needed to be done by both of us. But I was blind sided when she said she wasn't happy and wanted a divorce. She then slowly pushed me out, even though we tried therapy. She's still a hoarder who spends like crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/26 07:44 PM
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Rule number 2: have lots of money
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 03:13 PM
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No kids and the freedom to move and reinvent yourself? You're free! It sucks in the short term. But long term you will be fine.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/26 12:01 PM
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Wow, OP is here speed running marriages. I was married for 14 years. I've been divorced for 5. I wouldn't get married again if you paid me.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/26 01:10 PM
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This was helpful. It also hurt right in the feels.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 07:08 AM
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Women get their hair, nails, and makeup done for themselves saying it attracts the opposite sex. Men buy a nice ride saying the same thing.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 12:52 AM
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A good rule is whoever invites or plans the date pays. My girlfriend asked if I wanted to see project hail Mary. She paid for dinner and a movie. I asked her to dinner and bowling. I paid. I'm over the guy always has to pay.
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/26 12:50 AM
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What happens if your car breaks down? The whole system is fucked.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 10:36 PM
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The fact that you are required to provide transportation on her days is wild. How is that justified? It sounds like you should have primary custody.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 03:48 PM
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You can't afford not to have a lawyer. She's going to end up accusing you if domestic abuse even though she's the abuser. She makes 3x the money... make her pay for your lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 11:09 PM
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Brother, why are you talking yo the internet instead of the police and a lawyer. She is going to accuse you of what she's doing. You need a police report, a bodycam, and to serve her ASAP. YOU ARE THE VICTIM OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND IT'S NOT OK.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/26 11:08 PM
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Dude, tell her you're not okay with it. Set a boundary. Be prepared to have her flip out and call you a controlling asshole. Be calm and record it. Calmly ask her what exactly it means to be a hen for a day. My understanding is that is Brit for Bachelorette. Ask her why she wants to act single, and why she no longer wants to have sex? I can tell you it's because she doesn't respect you because you have assumed domestic responsibilities and she is preparing to exit.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 06:19 PM
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Mama watched too much tik tok, Instagram, and reality TV and didn't realize that isn't real life. Comparison is the thief of joy and endurance of marriages.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 03:31 PM
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I made more money than her as a teacher, I supported her from a medical assistant through nursing school. I had a masters and made decent money. I urged her getting out of the ICU because she hurt her back and got a hernia. She went to get a masters as an NP. I supported her there too and helped her with school. Covid happened, I got stuck home with the kids and "teaching" online. I went through depression. She was always gone, by 2021 she had an NP job, was making more than me, and wasn't "happ…
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 03:28 PM
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Because we're not week willed people who need an echo chamber.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 01:35 PM
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After I moved out I started saying ex. Sometimes I slip up and still call her my wife. Old habits die hard.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 02:17 AM
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"Dave's not here man," In seriousness though, she's for the streets. Get over the emotional attachment and get a damn lawyer. Save those texts and videos.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/26 05:43 PM
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My ex wife is gorgeous. Seriously stunning, and 8.5/10 om the outside. But she knows it and is a mean girl on the inside. My current girlfriend is at best a 5/10 looks wise. Old me wouldn't have gone for her as she is not tall, skinny, with big boobs, a toned ass, and long blonde hair like my ex wife. She's short, plain, overweight. But she has an amazing smile, a great personality, is kind, and sweet, and does little things to show it instead of belittling me. I almost didn't date her because s…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/26 04:27 PM
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Sure. I'll start off by saying it's a men's catholic fraternal organization, so it's religious, which can be a turnoff for many. I'm Catholic (more of sn Easter and Christmas catholic) but I needed insurance and they have it for members so I joined. Eventually I got more involved after the divorce. They have multiple events such as a fall festival where they smoke meat, a spring festival with a chili cookoff, and other things. For example the BAC (bad advice committee) meets every now and then a…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 03:33 PM
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Once upon a time men had the Elks, Masons, Shriners, knights of Columbus, Lions, VFW, etc. There were multiple fraternal organizations that were men only. Some were cultish, some were misogynistic, but almost all of them were seen as good Ole boys clubs. They are dying off with the boomers and nothing is there to replace them. I'm a member of Knights of Columbus, because they have good insurance, and I'm 45, and the youngest member by over a decade.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/26 03:12 PM
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I'd be willing to try if she was willing to meet me half way and work in her issues while I worked on mine... but she's perfect in her own mine so that's a no from me dawg.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/26 03:34 PM
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Give her what she wants. She's going to keep threatening it. Be free!
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/26 02:38 AM
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"Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned," 1697 "Bitches be crazy" 2011. More things change the more they stay the same.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/26 03:27 AM
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I invite my ex to big events like birthdays because "do unto others," and all that. I'm an adult and can be civil, so can she. Your mileage may vary.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/26 05:08 PM
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Translation: I don't even know what the fuck I want, but I'm willing to settle for strange dick.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/26 05:25 AM
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She moved out six months ago and agreed to give you the house? Document all of that and call an attorney. Seems like she agreed to vacate the property and did so. Especially if you were paying on it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/26 11:41 PM
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I was there while she got her nursing degree, then later when she got her Masters as an NP. I was a teacher so I watched the kids while she did clinicals. I helped her write her papers and covered the bills. Once she was done with the degree she wanted out. Said she wasn't happy. Got divorced and she got the house. I got her debt. Fuck marriage. It's for suckers.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 02:41 AM
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When I said for better or worse I meant it. Apparently she didn't. We were in a rough spot and she pulled the ejection seat without warning. So it's shock combined with loss. Plus, I now have trust issues and no longer believe in happiness or true love. But I'm content now, so there's that.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 12:57 AM
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I would think there would be a statute of limitations on something like that but I'm no bayou attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 03:39 AM
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Not really. But she sometimes does stuff out if left field to push my buttons. Nothing today thankfully.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 06:46 PM
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I went and it was uneventful, chill, and nice to see the kids open presents.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 06:39 PM
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This is excellent.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/25 03:45 AM
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I bought a sweater and a mug. I'd be fool to go empty handed.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:46 PM
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There's a little voice saying the same thing... but what's the angle? She starts a fight to try and ruin Christmas? I'll just smile, say hope you have a happy new year, and leave.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 04:58 AM
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Just immediate family is my understanding. Yes, at our old house that she now lives in. Good thing is I can leave once presents are done.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 04:35 AM
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She cut off her family so that's not an issue. We still see each other at kids parties and sports stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 04:30 AM
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Marriage ended because ex said she wasn't happy anymore and wanted a divorce. 3 kids. 17, 10, and 9.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 04:27 AM
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Good advice. Thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 04:22 AM
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I used to. It's actually better now. I get to choose what parts I enjoy and celebrate. I even decorated, although minimally. I'm sitting here now watching Home alone with my kids after a Christmas party. Feels good feeling good again.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 04:42 AM
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Here are the ones I ignored when I got married. 1: bad relationship with her dad. Not her fault but he left when she was 4. 2: Abusive and alcoholic step father. 3: Mom was a hoarder 4: She was messy, not hoarder level but close. 5: financial basket case. But she was gorgeous, sweet, loving, and dynamite in bed. Made it 15 years before it imploded.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 11:17 PM
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I'm confused? Is there context? What is this rant?
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 04:36 PM
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My ex wife is a nurse with a tik tok addiction and childhood trauma. Apparently I was doomed from day one.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/25 12:12 PM
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Holy shit. Reading this thread it 100% describes my ex wife. Childhood trauma due to an abusive step dad. Mom who was a hoarder and she was messy as hell. Addicted to tik-tok and Taylor Swift. Loved drama. Body issues including getting a boob job and tummy tuck. We need to do a better job of teaching young men to avoid these pitfalls.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/25 03:56 PM
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My Ex had an abusive step father and a dad who abandoned her. I tried. I failed.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/25 03:50 PM
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Ex wife also had childhood trauma. Abusive step dad.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/25 03:47 PM
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"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, you can't get fooled again." GW Bush. Don't be a fool 2x.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 12:30 PM
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45 yr old divorced man here... it was great for a while (5 years) good for most of it (6 years) and miserable for the last 4 years. I love my kids, but I will never, ever get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/25 11:51 PM
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Before the divorce I told my now ex wife she goes out of her way for strangers but won't get off tik tok to help with something while I'm doing something like cooking dinner. She complained about emotional burden. I'm so happy I dropped all of that emotional burden.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/25 03:07 AM
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Short term: 1. Lose 50lbs and get back into the gym 2. Take my principal certification test 3. Sell my boat and pay off debt 4. Go on a vacation by myself Long term: 1. Get a good paying administration job in a small town with a big lake 2. Sell my house and buy a lake house with a dock 3. Buy a new boat
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/25 02:45 PM
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Truth
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 12:00 PM
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Divorced friends, tik tok, and perimenopause... The 3 horsemen of the divorce-apocalypse.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/25 09:03 AM
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Yeah, fight the patriarchy by ending alimony!!!
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 08:28 PM
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I teach high school and I can guarantee it was created to do exactly that. It microdoses Jerry Springer level dysfunction directly into the brain.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 02:33 PM
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First of all sorry about your dad. My great grandmother and my grandfather died of alzheimers and it ie truly horrible. Secondly, what is it with ex wives turning into tik tok zombies? Mine did too.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/25 12:11 PM
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The better question then would be why do 85% of parachutes fail and women cheat? The root causes of both of those issues are what need to be studied.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 03:29 PM
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You sound like you're describing my half Lebanese half Hispanic ex wife whose dad left when she was four and who had an abusive alcoholic step father.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 03:26 PM
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Too bad it seems like > 25% of modern adults have emotional baggage/problems. According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), the prevalence of mental illness among women in the United States is higher than among men. Women: 26.4% Men: 19.7%
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 03:23 PM
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The Reddit feminists that read this will screech and call it incel propaganda... But the truth is only a man who has raised kids and had a family truly understands what it is like to have it fall apart. And while it takes 2 to make a marriage work it only takes one to tear it apart. I was one of those guys blindsided by the "I'm not happy and want space" wives that were ready to move one before I registered it was over. I will never let myself be that vulnerable again. I will never be emotionall…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/25 12:45 PM
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I really liked no more Mr nice guy.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 05:47 PM
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You're letting your enemy set the terms of battle and wondering why you got fucked. Pay your own expert for your own appraisal.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/25 09:20 PM
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Parking a prius in an airplane hanger.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 07:57 PM
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It's a trap.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/25 06:15 PM
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Great post, OP. I'm feeling the same way now. It wasn't always this way, especially in the beginning. But it's nice getting my life back.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 03:08 PM
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I'm one year and one month post divorce and moving out... I no longer have to deal with passive aggressive bullshit. I no longer get my buttons pushes until I lose my temper. I eat what I want when I want, and I don't have someone constantly complaining about the choices I made because she refused to make any. I get it sucks right now. But it's really the start of freedom.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/25 01:30 AM
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She helped me get over loving her through her actions. I do still care about her as the mother of my children.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 10:26 AM
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Say nothing. It doesn't exist anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 09:24 PM
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Not everyone knows acronyms. What's a GAL?
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/25 08:25 PM
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Mine is on a Saturday. I took off Friday. Me and 4 friends from college are heading to one of their properties in the country. It will be filled with steak, BBQ, bourbon, beer, dominoes, poker, shooting, and bullshitting. It's going to be great. It's not for my birthday. it just happens to coincide.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 04:28 PM
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Writing this out can be cathartic. Don't send it. Enjoy your birthday.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 11:49 AM
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This, too, shall pass. I understand the feeling of emptiness. You went along with everything to make things work and build a future. That ended, and right now, you are rudderless. But the journey is more important than the destination. That meaningless self-improvement is actually the point. You have one life, make it the best you can.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 02:27 PM
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Definitely. I actually do MORE stuff with people now that I'm single. The only thing missing is the warm body watching tik tok and being annoyed by my presence.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 04:39 PM
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Too many guys can't be alone, apparently. I find it liberating.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 04:30 PM
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Prior to my divorce, my ex-wife started watching tik toks about strong, independent woman, you don't need no man, yaaàsss queen type content. It's the harbinger of unrest.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 05:52 PM
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We're free men, and we paid for that freedom... I like that OP. I'll never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 03:34 AM
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Not really. Most men seem blind sided by wives wanting a divorce or by cheating wives.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 10:49 PM
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Men: "What do you bring to the table?" Modern women: "I AM the table." GTFO with that. My ex was terrible at any type of household chores. I did almost everything and it burned me out.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 02:52 PM
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She said she would lie? Find out the recording laws for your state and get that on tape. Look up silver bullet divorce strategy. And most importantly, lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 12:34 PM
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Sitting in a drawer somewhere. It's titanium so not even worth pawning.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 09:55 PM
5

We're those friends named Jody by any chance?
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 01:07 AM
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Mine was watching a bunch of girl boss, Yolo, You don't need a man, live your best life stuff. We weren't perfect, but it wasn't miserable either. Then she said she needed space and to find herself. Then she wanted divorce. I remember telling her the stuff she sees online is fake.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/25 01:05 AM
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It makes sense. You are still trying to subconsciously grieve. Grief is not linear.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 08:19 PM
5

Why marry OP? Spend some time with your own self. Make a list of things you want to do, and do them. I'll never marry again. I may never cohabitate again. I'd like a long-term monogamous relationship with a lady I like... but why give up my autonomy? Was your divorce not stressful, emotional, and awful enough? I guess some guys like to keep pissing on the electric fence. Me, I've learned it shocks me and to stay away.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 06:11 PM
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NEVER!
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 06:05 PM
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Ex used it on me recently in front of the kids. I'm not name calling... she is.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 03:48 PM
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But then they get angry because all the good men are gone!
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 03:47 PM
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They're the dating equivalent of the guy selling a used high mileage Altima with body damage for full blue book value... because they know what they've got!
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 03:44 PM
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Thanks for putting what I've been thinking into words OP. I'm dating again and have a decent relationship with a woman who appears to be compatible... but she wants more, and I don't. I've learned to enjoy being single, having my own space, my own budget, my own hobbies, my freedom, and my autonomy. I enjoy her company, I like doing stuff together, and I don't mind being monogamous. But I don't want to move in together, I don't want to mix our families, and I will never get married again. Of cou…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 03:42 PM
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Exactly. I lived my life for my wife. I was concerned with the happiness of a woman who would get angry over something I did in her dream. I was the simping nice guy. I am never giving anyone that power over me again. I will be a life, and they are welcome to join... but I'm not bending my own happiness for theirs ever again.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 03:13 AM
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Ex wife and I said the let's be friends thing... we tried. Or at least i did. But I quickly realized that our "friendship" just like our marriage was just manipulation and convenience for her. Now, I am friendly towards her for the sake of the kids and coparenting. But I will never be friends with someone who betrayed me so she could have some space. Friends don't destroy your world.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 01:48 AM
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One thing I've noticed as a divorced man is that when you get invested in married life, everything becomes about family and career. Your new friends are usually connected through your wife. Husbands of her female friends, dad's through kid's school or sports, or work friends. For me, my old friends got married, and their spouses and kids took over their lives, too. So we drifted apart. Now that I'm a single divorced male, the married guys treat me like I have leprosy or that they'll catch the di…
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 01:21 AM
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My Uncle Moe got divorced in the 90s. It was a terrible divorce, and he lost everything and had to start over from scratch. He rebuilt his business and eventually retired on 100 acres to his dream house. He has a long-term girlfriend, but he refused to remarry. He told her she could be his girlfriend, but he wouldn't marry if that was a problem she was always free to leave. He is my hero. He is happy, and his kids and grandkids are all part of his life.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 01:07 AM
20

As someone who has been divorced for a year... why get married again? The idea of marriage sounds awful now.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 09:19 PM
14

Fool me once... Fool me twice... Fool me three times, I pity da fool!
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/25 06:56 PM
5

It's almost like life is suffering. But honestly, I am officially one year out, and I no longer regret my divorce. I mourn the loss of the future I thought I had... but that wasn't reality. Now, I am free from gaslighting, manipulation, hoarding, and chaos. I am free from the constant spending, refusing to budget, and general lazy sloppiness. I told my mom this week I am at the point where I am happy the lie that had become my marriage is over.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/25 02:57 PM
6

It's by design... and the second you give in, they lose respect... and if you never give in, you're a narcissist.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 05:58 PM
4

My ex was complaining about how hard the kids were on her own... mind you, I did most of the domestic work in the marriage. She got exactly what she wanted and now has buyers remorse.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 03:09 AM
3

I needed this tonight. Thanks! We got this!
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 02:13 AM
5

Ex-wife would yell at me about things that I did... in her dreams! Then, she has the audacity to lecture me about emotional maturity. It would be funny if so much wasn't at stake.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 03:02 AM
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God I fucking hate the phrase, "my truth." No, it's at best a warped perspective and at worst a bald faced fucking lie! Courts should never take someone at their word.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/25 01:56 AM
4

Knowing how the "sausage" is made will make you nauseous.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/25 01:55 AM
2

So you take away their iPad, and your ex-wife beats the kid's ass?
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 07:42 PM
1

Insurance benefits. That's all I got.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 04:20 AM
1

That first sentence... LMFAO.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/25 02:21 AM
1

True. I was at the WW2 museum from 10 am till 5 pm. No one was complaining or whinning or wanting to leave. It was bliss.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/25 05:28 PM
8

If you don't want the horny young women sending nudes, please feel free to send them my way. Thx!
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 02:03 PM
1

Down voting because there's no video
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/25 01:25 PM
4

The fact that a woman can make a BS DV claim with zero proof of history of DV and it gets treated as fact, instead of unsubstantiated accusations, is insane. Guilty until proven innocent should be the norm.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/25 01:24 PM
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Same. Same. It was definitely a mental block for me, too. The first time, the little soldier chickened out because it felt like I was cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 05:53 PM
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It's the constant societal and social media push of women don't need a man and strong independent woman combined with weak men who roll over. I was that yes man who did the dishes, housework, yardwork, etc, while making more money. It just fuels the entitlement.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 03:09 PM
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Recommendations, please!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 09:02 PM
1

I'm a Texan, but I wish you California guys all the best!
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 07:05 PM
4

Jesus, there's more red flags there than a may day parade. Why did they break up in the first place? Did she cheat? Is she still with new guy but wants to cheat with your friend? She's not worth it. She has a pattern of leaving for greener pastures. There are better women out there. Block her and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 03:06 PM
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Things are rocky or possibly over with the new guy. So she is throwing out bait to see if your friend bites. Best case this will either lead to her fucking him for a while before she moves on again. Worst case, she wants her ego stroked or to make new guy jealous. My advice. Block her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 02:45 PM
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This was worth the read. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/25 04:26 AM
2

This made me laugh. I pictured Muldoon from jurassic Park with his SPAS12 saying, "Clever girl."
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/25 02:20 PM
9

Wait, you still pay child support for an adult? Here, child support ends when the child turns 18 and graduates high school. Paying child support for an adult in college is crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 12:20 PM
2

So she refused to 10k of your property that a judge awarded to you? How is that just contempt and not grand theft? I mean, if someone stole 10k of stuff from your house or a store that's a real crime.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 09:47 PM
1

If you don't care about custody, just go to Vegas. Blackjack, hookers, and blow.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 02:32 PM
11

I'd be tempted to just get fired, file bankruptcy, and work for cash as a day laborer. That or go to a foreign country. Fuck this broke system.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 04:45 AM
5

What happens if you stop paying and file bankruptcy?
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 04:41 AM
1

This. The divorce wasn't my decision. I would have fought to rekindle the fire.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/25 03:35 AM
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/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 06:31 PM
5

Think of it this way: she wants you to react. She gets satisfaction knowing she can goad you. By letting her get to you in your head, you are letting her win. The biggest win for you is not giving a fuck.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 01:58 PM
1

Black eyes? That sounds like physical abuse. Document it with pics. Maybe call CPS, then gry full custody.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 11:15 AM
5

Yeah, leave it alone. No good deed goes unpunished.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 12:50 AM
5

Are you friends with the neighbor? If you are friends, then yes. If not, don't do it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/25 12:40 AM
5

It's a great idea!
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 01:45 AM
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I have no idea. Hopefully, someone can report back.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 01:06 AM
2

Also, on my bucket list. I love scuba diving and the great barrier reef is a must!
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 11:42 PM
4

Japan is definitely on the bucket list.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 09:05 PM
3

Hell yeah!
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 09:05 PM
1

Nice! That's my plan for next year.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 06:10 PM
5

C'est le bon temps rouler my dude!
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 05:58 PM
8

Women (most) dwell in the realm of feelings, and their feelings become reality. They insert their "truth" because that's how they feel. They're done with the relationship, so they are fine with revising it to fit their current feelings.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 04:45 AM
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She's setting you up for the silver bullet divorce strategy. She is also probably getting coached by her friends and TikTok. It's amazing how predictable this scenario plays out. You have a lawyer, right? Begin recording interactions.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 04:41 AM
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Read the subtle art of not giving a fuck. Then, realize that if everything you do is never good enough for some people, the issue isn't you. It's them. Some people are always fucking miserable and misery loves company.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/25 04:42 AM
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Focus on yourself, stay away from the bottle, and let her find out for herself the grass isn't greener on the other side.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/25 01:33 PM
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Sorry, OP... but I disagree. I got married in 2007 at the age of 27. Of course, I knew about divorce and its pitfalls. We did marriage counseling through the church, and we had long conversations about what we wanted out of life. We were on the same page, we were best friends. Fast forward to 2021. It's the middle of Covid, we have 3 kids, she's become addicted to tik tok. We have a house, investments, cars, etc. We're not those two people anymore. No amount of prior research would have prevente…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 02:31 AM
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I decorated it myself. I bought a big lazy boy chair just for me. 75 inch TV, ps5, memory foam mattress, and a 55-gallon fish tank. Took my deer and duck mounts out of the garage and put them in the living room. Made an office with room for my hobbies and gun safe. I fucking love my fortress of solitude.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/25 01:09 AM
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Lots of truth here, I think. Women say they want equality and to be empowered, but if they have it, they're unhappy. Instead, they seem to want someone who is grounded but firm. They want a leader with the best interest of the group in mind. I stopped being a leader because she nagged and nagged. I just gave in. Then she lost interest and didn't see me as a protector anymore. I'm not sure how to avoid it, but that seems to be a recurring theme. Men that are "nice guys" stick around and get domes…
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 06:56 PM
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This should have been in the OP. The comments she is making are unacceptable. You need to talk to her about this.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/25 11:37 AM
2

Sorry. It's slang for a permanent resident card in the USA. Known as a Permanent Resident Card, it is a document that allows a foreign national to live and work permanently in the United States. It serves as proof of lawful permanent resident status.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/25 05:16 PM
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You can get arrested and kicked out of your own house for cutting up a credit card that you are the primary on? What the hell? That's insane. Sounds like she used you for a green card, and is now trying for the whole enchilada.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/25 01:27 PM
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I'm coming up on 1 year and finally feeling good again. Meanwhile, X is depressed and miserable. This shall pass, and you will realize she was crushing your soul in so many little ways.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 03:32 PM
8

1st of all, thank you for your service. Secondly, don't let this get you down. You will come out of this better. Lawyer up and go for primary custody!
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/25 02:36 PM
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I'm reading the subtle art of not giving a fuck. It's pretty good.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 03:23 PM
2

Ok, you got the opening line of a country song...
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 11:33 AM
2

Say that louder for the guys in the back!
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/25 02:06 AM
2

If it's a college fund, she's going to incur heavy tax penalties for early withdrawal for non education expenses. Also, document this when your kid asks why you can't pay for college.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/25 04:52 PM
3

Hope everything keeps going well. Don't let your guard down.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 08:37 PM
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Dude, it sounds like you're doing exactly what my ex-wife did to me. Some problems but nothing big, then boom, "I'm unhappy, and I want to be on my own." I was blindsided, and it hurt and sucks. Unless there has been infidelity, or fighting, or abuse, or a dead bedroom, it sounds like you are a selfish jerk with mo extra info.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 03:59 PM
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I think this advice is meant for people with low self-esteem and no boundaries. It's the same advice in no more Mr. Nice Guy. Everyone deserves to be in a relationship where the other person respects them. But, they can't force the other person to respect them. But they need to have enough self-respect to leave that relationship. I also don't agree that people deserve to be a millionaire. They may want to, but that's about it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 03:44 PM
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The second point is setting boundaries and expectations. If you don't respect that, then I can choose not to deal with you. If someone disrespects you constantly in a relationship, it is up to you to set boundaries or disengage. You can't control other people, you can control your response.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 02:47 PM
3

Hypocrisy and infidelity go hand in hand.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 01:34 PM
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Strike fast and hard and get out!
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/25 01:30 PM
4

"I DOUBLE DOG DIVORCE YOU!!!" Judge and Lawyers, "Ooooh!"
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 10:44 AM
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Finding someone else for security and shouldn't be taken personally? Fuck dude, I find someone cheating on me after 18 years of marriage really fucking personal.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 10:23 PM
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We had a pretty easy divorce and are on decent terms. No fighting over kids and 50/50 custody. Had i found this back, then I probably would have gone ballistic. Now it's just humorous closure.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/25 07:55 PM
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Try bringing this topic up anywhere outside of this sub, and you will get downvoted and demonized into oblivion.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/25 12:23 AM
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Talk to your daughters and ask them where they want to go for that week long vacation and then plan the coolest vacation ever and make lasting memories! I'm so happy I have 50/50 and see my kids every other week. I don't know how y'all do it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/25 04:23 PM
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Do I regret meeting her? No. We had a dozen wonderful years and 3 wonderful kids. I don't wish we would have seen the warning signs and tried to fix things or end things by 2020 instead of dragging it out for so long.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 12:46 PM
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Yeah, as a guy i don't give a fuck who you've slept with if A. You don't have an STD and B. You're currently only sleeping with me. I don't understand the obsession with body count. I'm not a Virgin. You're not a virgin. Let's make some new fucking memories.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/25 03:51 AM
5

Where can I read more about these avoidants? I'm pretty sure my ex is one.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/25 08:57 PM
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Go to IRS.gov and download your joint tax returns for the last four years.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/25 01:22 PM
2

I'm updooting your use of chicanry.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/25 01:20 PM
5

Find some help. Divorce has been rough, but it's also been freeing. Time heals all wounds.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/25 08:38 PM
15

My hero is my Uncle Moe. He lost almost everything in his divorce in the 90s. He rebuilt his company, his life, and eventually, my cousins realized he was in the right as his ex was batshit. He never remarried, retired young, built his dream house on 100 acres, and lives with his girlfriend, who knows he will never marry. I plan on being like Uncle Moe.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 07:18 PM
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I've had luck. I had zero interest on Tinder, but Bumble has worked. I've had dates and now I have a girlfriend. I was upfront and honest, and I matched with women a bit older than myself. I'm 44, and she's 50, but she appreciates me. I'm not great looking (overweight and bald), but I'm funny and tall, and that seems to help.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 06:33 PM
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I saw your title, and I thought you just meant marriage is dead as an institution. And I agree. Also, sorry your marriage is dead.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/25 05:00 PM
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Could be bipolar. Could be narcissistic. Could just be old-fashioned manipulation. All I know is I'm not putting up with it anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 03:32 PM
3

Sounds familiar. I've started screenshoting things for this reason.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/25 11:35 PM
3

I did the search, and here are the results. Yup, that sounds familiar. Prevalence and Statistics: Studies have shown that divorce rates tend to peak during the perimenopausal years (between ages 45 and 55). One study found that women who experienced perimenopause were twice as likely to divorce as those who did not.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/25 12:26 AM
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I married her because I loved her and she loved me. We had 13 wonderful years together where we were best friends and lovers. We had 3 wonderful kids together. We enjoyed each other's company, conversation, and touch. Then, I suffered depression when my company went bankrupt. I got back up just in time for Covid to happen. She went to get her masters. I got furloughed and was at home. She was in the hospital dealing with death. I was stuck at home, with no friends, no job, drinking, and being de…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/25 04:26 AM
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Yeah, I see stuff about dating being hard... but I'm not dashing anymore, I've lost my hair and have a belly, and I've had success. Just be nice and flirty and outgoing, and they're ready and willing. Romance is definitely a thing of the past.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/25 04:28 AM
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It's about the kids, not her. I'm mature enough to understand that. They're going to remember the good time. I'm winning by not acting bothered at all.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/25 11:34 AM
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You feel bad because you are a decent person who loved her. She denies it because she is a selfish person who cheated and wanted to destroy you financially. Take the W. Both in cash and karma.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 02:45 PM
2

Same on the dream thing. Ex wife would often get angry because of a dream. She'd get angrier if I told her dreams aren't real life.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 04:29 PM
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This is the hardest part. At mom's, there are no chores, no bedtime, no rules. It's one reason why I'm no longer with her. But to kids, the laziness, messiness, and apathy just seems like fun.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 01:45 AM
3

I was going through something similar with my ex. I thought we were getting better, and she hit me with the divorce talk again. I said, "Let's rip off the bandaid."
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/25 12:52 AM
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Thanks. Although alternative penis kinda works.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 01:37 PM
3

I keep seeing AP, but I don't know what it means. Assistant principal? Assisting physician? Alternative penis?
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 01:29 PM
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I've been there. It became a fight just to straighten up so the maid could clean. What I'm saying is exhaust all avenues beforehand because you can't unring that bell.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 08:18 PM
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Hire a maid if you can afford one to help with house work. Set up time where both of you can do things without the kids. Get some therapy for both of y'all with the yelling. If all those things don't work, then bite the bullet.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 07:41 PM
2

Yes definitely.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 06:41 PM
2

It's so freeing doing something you enjoy and not worrying whether or not the other person is happy, or bored. Good for you, OP! Seeing family was so much more fun over the holidays because of this.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 01:42 PM
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She's been through a few therapists. She complains about each one. She's adamant that my definition of messy is overblown. However, she'd complain about her mother's hoarding before she cut her mother out if her life.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 04:00 PM
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Yes. We are amicable but not exactly friends. No cheating, no domestic violence, no irredeemable traits. We just fought, had grown apart, resented each other, and could no longer make it work. She wanted the divorce, and I tried to stave it off, but I realized it wasn't feasible. So I finally gave in. The funny thing is we're on better terms and talk more now that we're on our own. I'm definitely happier.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 12:57 PM
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No fucking way I'm doing the chores. I do hope my kids notice.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 12:50 PM
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We're already divorced. It was finalized in August, and I got a new place. She's never pulled any false DV accusations or other crap I hear about. I will document, though. If anything, I want to help her not live in squalor with my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 12:38 PM
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Spite? Did my post come off as spite? No, I'm both worried for her and relieved not to be part of it anymore. For years, I was the person holding her hoarding habits at bay, and she hated me for it. I also have 50/50 custody and model what a household should look like.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 12:23 PM
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Yeah. We're amicable, though, have 50/50 custody, and still communicate regularly. I'm honestly worried about her mental health.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 04:13 AM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 03:46 AM
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It was my fault when I was there. When I left and she said she could handle it, i kinda chuckled. She got mad and said, "You don't believe I can do it. I said, "I sincerely hope you can." This was August.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 03:39 AM
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"We never do anything!" Then you take them somewhere, and they're on the phone. "I just want to watch TV and cuddle..." same thing, on the phone. She's constantly looking at other people doing things and wishing she was there instead of being in the here and now.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 06:08 PM
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Yup
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 03:33 PM
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"Offered to leave the house because you're a man." SMH. I'm so tired of the double standards of modern feminism. My ex did the same thing. One minute, she's a strong, independent woman. The next, I'm getting shamed because a "real man" would do (insert task here). Meanwhile, I'm doing cooking, cleaning, house repairs, laundry, yard work, and going to my 40+ hr/wk job. Apparently, a modern man does everything while she watches a 90-day fiancee and scrolls on her phone. There's no winning nowadays…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 03:21 PM
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Because she never knew what she actually wanted so she concocted this Hollywood fairytale in her head, decided the grass was greener, and then lit a match and burned the whole thing down. Now, she has to live with the consequences and either admit she was wrong or double down. Her pride won't let her back down, so she gets mad because that's what got her what she wanted in the past.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 07:53 PM
5

As a divorced dad, I'm glad you're there for your dad. Let him know you love him, don't blame him, and think he's a good dad. The moving on cones with time.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 05:35 PM
2

That sounds like a win for you. Your son is learning a hard lesson. That sucks but way to be a good dad.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 07:51 PM
2

I ended up changing to group therapy. It actually helped a lot listening to others with similar problems. I've learned to enjoy being alone. The thing is, I now fill my time with stuff I enjoy doing.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 07:53 PM
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I'm on the other side of divorce and out of the house. It gets better, so I know that much. I'm no longer struggling to make someone who is never happy happy. I'm not having to clean up after a grown adult. I also have more money because I can budget and don't spend like a drunken sailor. My time is my time, and when I have the kids, it's our time. The affection part is kinda hard to deal with, but I took "my" cat and the dog, and they're always happy to see me. Get therapy and get over the self…
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 02:06 PM
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That sucks. No pun intended. I wrote her papers for grad school. Until I had enough and told her no. I did the laundry, cooked, cleaned, and spent more time with the kids because I was a teacher and had a more convenient schedule. Once she was done with her degree and got a job that paid more than I made, she was out. I felt like a stepping stone.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 11:52 AM
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Shit. This is too familiar. It hits like a punch to the gut. I did everything from household chores to making money to writing her assignments just for some affection.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 02:46 AM
5

Reach out to that guy's wife. Sit back and watch the world burn.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 07:50 PM
13

It would also help a lot to understand if there are any issues for hereditary health problems. Seems like it should be done.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 11:20 PM
2

Madrid Spain. I was there in 2003 and had the time of my life. Would love to go back. Just book the cabin and enjoy the weekend.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 12:47 AM
3

Holy shit. The childhood trauma thing was the same, and it manifested in buying useless crap.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/24 07:42 PM
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LOL, were we married to the same woman? Yeah, men being messy is a stereotypical response, but my ex was a borderline hoarder.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/24 08:04 AM
7

Guys have to stop putting the pussy on a pedestal.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 07:08 PM
2

I wasn't trying to imply you're into cannibalism. Lol.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 12:57 AM
2

Protip: You can get 2nd hand and 3d printed 40k models cheap. Embrace the weird. Or get therapy if it's Hannibal Lecter levels of weird.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 12:52 AM
2

I hear you. I lived with my ex 2 years post divorce to save up for a place. One income makes it hard. Serious question, do you have hobbies? Embrace the ones that are social. I've started country dancing, playing warhammer, and fishing. What do they have in common? They get me out of the house.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 12:38 AM
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Yup She needed space...
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 07:13 PM
5

Listen to this guy! Let her scream at your family during Thanksgiving to show your love! Surely she will see how much you care then! Or, you know, explain to her like a rational adult that other people can have different political opinions and that a majority of voters rejected hers, so she should learn how to live with that. Because being angry and alienating everyone sounds miserable.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 04:02 PM
10

Let me get this straight, your wife wants to divorce you because your family, not you, is pro Trump? That's grade A weaponized crazy. It also shows how delusional and not self-aware many on the left are right now. You have given her no reason to divorce you other than people you are related to, who you have no control over, didn't elect who she wanted. That's insane. BTW, a majority of voters disagree with your wife. Is she divorcing them, too? Sounds like she needs therapy. But good look, getti…
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 03:59 PM
21

I no longer believe in marriage as an institution, and I don't think I'll enter into it willingly ever again. I think society puts too much pressure on men to conform to societal norms.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 10:42 PM
2

It sounds like you are an any port in the storm gay. Like sailors and prisoners, if you only have dudes, you make do.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/24 01:39 AM
2

I read the title and thought your ex-wife was possibly a DEA agent or police snitch. Turns out she's worse.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/24 06:13 PM
7

Uno reverse that shit. Tell her that if she wants to restore your trust in her, she should be comfortable with showing you the contents of her phone. Also, if she respects your boundaries She'll stop talking to the guy she cheated on you with. She'll get defensive real quick.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 12:30 PM
10

She probably rekindled the fling she had as a young exchange student. By the bigger person. Buy her a one-way plane ticket back there and tell her to have fun finding herself.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/24 10:27 PM
1

Tik tok feminism has poisoned so many women.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/24 01:01 PM
12

You speak the truth. This strong, independent woman bullshit is all over social media.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 08:35 AM
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