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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
23	Bad night	Rant	crzysnk18	/r/Divorce_Men	03/07/26 01:38 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Dating after Divorce Same here	/r/Divorce_Men	19/08/26 08:50 AM
2	"You Weren't Planning on Having Children... So Why Did You Even Get Married?" I wanted kids but she didn’t. That should have been my first red flag	/r/Divorce_Men	18/08/26 02:30 AM
4	Counseling ? The counselor I had was fantastic. She helped me break free from my “white knight” complex and was very blunt when it came to my short comings and very positive when it came to my triumphs. It all depends on the counselor.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/08/26 04:47 PM
7	Would you buy Marriage Insurance? It’s called a prenup and they cost far less.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/08/26 08:59 PM
9	How many of you feel that you're better off since your divorce? Share the reasons why and the ways life has improved. I truly believe that my life is far better in every way. I am active in my church again, I am not worrying about finances, I can actually enjoy the fruits of my labour, I can do any DIY I wish without a condescending attitude behind me, my days off are truly days off, I have a great relationship with my neighbors, I can eat what I want. I haven’t dated seriously since the divorce but truly, I am not eager to dive into the cesspool that is dating in this day and age. Also my body isn’t physically…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/26 12:50 PM
3	What’s the most ridiculous thing your ex wife ever tried to do to you? Oh it’s worse. She was more than happy to have work 3 jobs until my mind and body were so exhausted I went catatonic for 3 days. When I woke up she said “Finally. Stop being lazy and clean up around here”. She made it abundantly clear that she never wanted the divorce I filed. She wanted to stay married, enjoy all the money I brought in, and never wanted to touch me in the future.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/26 11:49 PM
1	Im done with this world I am going through the process as well. My STBX is trying to get me to pay money I don’t have. I have $175k in marital debt I am handling alone and know that she will not contribute one cent. So yes, I feel your situation. We aren’t the same but I’m in the same ball park. My best advice is to keep going. The one thing that has kept me sane is working and not giving her a second thought. I have court in 37 days, but I will not give her free rent in my head. I would also say don’t stay indoors fee…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/26 09:40 PM
1	Really dont want to leave my home Neither do I but it must be done.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/26 03:05 PM
3	What’s the most ridiculous thing your ex wife ever tried to do to you? She tried to convince me that it was normal to have an open marriage where we live in separate houses….like her aunt and her husband do.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/26 02:56 PM
7	Men that initiated their divorces, what things led you to that decision and what was the straw that broke the camel's back? Over the last 15 years we stopped being partners and little more than roommates. Heck she never paid any of the bills and I never saw any benefit from paying all the bills, keeping the house clean, as best as I could with her just throwing her muck everywhere, doing the dishes, laundry, yard work, car care and registration, helping her most weeks with her work, she was a teacher, cooking all the meals and grocery shopping alone. The most I got was a tepid and rehearsed “I love you” as we went to…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/08/26 12:05 PM
1	Was it a wrong choice ? I will always look back on the first 4 years of my marriage as some of the happiest in my life. The last 17 years was absolutely a mistake and I should have divorced my STBX a long time ago.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/26 01:52 PM
8	Wife had an “Emotional Affair”, now wants to fix the marriage. See details for full context. My STBX told me she had multiple “emotional affairs” and that she wanted to still stay married but that we should have an open marriage and live in separate houses. Yeah I filed for divorce and she lost her collective ish. Also, after I filed one of her coworkers sent me an email expressing condolences about our divorce and that she figured I would have found out eventually that my STBX and her mail coworker were having some very loud training sessions in their portables. Too bad we are in a no …	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/26 01:51 PM
2	How long after divorce you felt like you are yourself again? 4 months before the Absolute Divorce hearing.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/07/26 01:44 PM
1	Should I feel some type of way? Best thing to do is to live your life and don’t give your EX any more thought than is legally required. If you are divorced…you could be dating 4 strippers and having nightly orgies and she will have nothing to say about it. Don’t give people real estate in your mind for free	/r/Divorce_Men	22/07/26 01:34 PM
3	How much alimony do you have to pay and child support? We will see. We didn’t have any children, thank god, so I will not have child support. As for alimony? That is still up in the air but the reality is that she has a college degree and is well established in her career while I am running a deficit every month because I am servicing 83% of the marital debt. Nothing can be 100% where the courts are concerned but…if I do end up paying alimony it will be limited as the courts would need to come up with a way for me to pay such a fee. I will hopefully…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/26 01:19 AM
2	Just need support, I guess. We will all have these days/nights, wondering if we did the right thing. My best advice is to try and focus on your kids and the life you are rebuilding. I would say “forget about your ex” but with kids that’s impossible. Best thing is t treat her like a stranger on the street. Be cordial but she doesn’t get access to you or your empire. These nights suck but hopefully focusing on your kids they will become less and less	/r/Divorce_Men	14/07/26 01:52 PM
3	Newly Divorced Filed for absolute divorce yesterday and won’t get the official stamped copy until Monday. Then the real headache begins. My STBX is still hell bent on fighting over debt and money I don’t have. I know for a fact that when the courts order her to pay me the thousands she owes me, I will never see a red cent.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/07/26 05:56 PM
10	My wife says she wants to separate If you have joint accounts, get yourself separated financially. Do that Monday at the latest.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/07/26 06:40 PM
2	Bad night I think about the good times, however rare they were, but in retrospect they just turn to dust under the weight of I tried to provide and what I actually did. It will pass, I am sure of it. Still sucks.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/07/26 02:36 AM
7	Tell me how it was living with your soon to be ex through the divorce. Sheer hell. I would work 70 hour weeks so I would come home, eat a bowl of ramen, and need to have my shower done and settle down on the floor of the game room in my house. Not even room for an air mattress. I was literally sleeping on the floor of a house I was paying for. To top it all off my ex would barge into my room, and start verbally assaulting me and also trying to emotionally manipulate and abuse me at midnight. The day she left I was so relieved and actually excited to sleep in a real…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/06/26 11:01 PM
1	Felt like I was doing better, than saw a picture of my ex downtown... When my ex moved out, not going to lie I crashed out hard! But, after a month of feeling sorry for myself I put my ex out of my head and just started living the best life I could. It has been amazing! Do I know what my ex is up to? Haven’t a clue. Could I find out? I am sure I could but again, not interested. I have my own life to enjoy and do not care about hers. The past can hurt, it is a wonderful teacher, but if you dwell in the past, you will never know a peaceful future.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/26 09:08 PM
3	I think I’m done boys One thing I’ve started doing, definitely not the most healthy, is smoking a sweet cigar while walking. Tobacco is a depressant and helps with stress in certain cases. Again, it isn’t healthy and I will be stopping once I am free of my harpy ex, but I find it has helped with the stress. I have limited time for walks as I work 70-80 hour weeks. I buy the $2 cigars, the cheap ones, and they have helped me. Just sharing what I have learned in this situation.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/26 07:44 PM
3	Oof. Yup. Happened to me. My ex said “whatever you want, you can have. Just have your attorney send over the separation agreement and I will sign it.” I sent over an agreement that would greatly benefit her, I.e she didn’t have to pay her share of the marital debt, and she declined it. She countered with “you will pay me $20k and lawyer fees or we go to court!” So….to court we go. I have been the reasonable one, she has been nothing but a money grabbing leech. Everyone says “get things settled before…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/26 07:40 PM
2	I think I’m done boys My ex is doing the same stuff still. Dragging this divorce out, suing me for spousal and separation support as well as legal fees. She wants me to maintain a lifestyle for her I couldn’t afford when we were together. She refuses to acknowledge that with all the bill I pay, I am $500 short each month. I do what I can cover the gap, knowing full well she will try to suck that dry as well. What keeps me going? Yes I am dirt poor but the peace and tranquility I have when not dealing with her makes m…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/26 07:35 PM
4	I think I’m done boys You are at the bottom of the pit. You have been beaten, broken, abused, and left for dead. If you truly give up, then your harpy of an ex will win and you will prove her right. The best thing to do, I know because I have been where you are and had plenty of nights thinking about swallowing a bullet, is to start rebuilding and living you life on your terms. Listen to the music and watch the movies you want. So the hobbies and activities you’ve always wanted to do. Heck take a solo cruise, you wil…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/26 03:44 PM