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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
32	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship	ADVICE	csorker	/r/RedPillWomen	30/05/18 10:57 PM

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1	Husband has stopped trying, need some advice! Also would like to add: His lack of interest in his appearance may be something he’d seen at home too, or even something he associated with being a young bachelor. My ex similarly began to neglect his appearance. He even said he “couldn’t wait” to stop caring about looking good when he’s older, because he’d have settled by then. For him, looking good and keeping fit/healthy was directly attributed to being single and making a good impression on women. His father was also overweight, ate crappy f…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/01/19 10:12 PM
8	Husband has stopped trying, need some advice! I just left my ltr for these very reasons, he even did the baby voice. A lot of what you’re saying could indeed be depression, but it could also be laziness. My ex’s habits stemmed from his home environment. Mum was always in charge, his father just did as he was told and kept quiet. My ex was never expected to step up, make decisions, or be responsible. His parents also spoiled him, which further contributed to his laziness as an adult. Couldn’t take care of himself because he was never expecte…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/01/19 04:28 PM
1	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship His job has recently become even more consuming than usual, and it was bad to begin with. I’m really trying to get the message through to him that his way of living isn’t really living at all, and that it’s going to have implications on every part of his life. He agrees, but doesn’t seem to be taking any action against this.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/06/18 09:47 AM
2	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship Honestly I’m not even super outdoorsy, I enjoy fishing every now and then, walking my dog, seeing my friends in town. I’d definitely say I’m of a pretty average activity level, though I do go to the gym for fitness. The reason I’m going on about this is that I just can’t seem to find guys of a similar activity level that aren’t glued to a screen of some sort. It seems to be the hobby of choice for inner-city guys (I live in the inner city).	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/18 07:20 PM
1	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship I do want a man with drive. He does recognise these issues, especially the weight and activity problem. He has mentioned it on his own accord, and how he’d like to change, but he seems to be “all talk”.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/18 06:48 PM
2	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship Ok I’ve now done some reading about dread. From what I’ve gathered, the best way to apply it is just to be the best partner possible so that he’s so scared to lose me. Honestly, being raised by a Slavic mother it’s kind of innate for us to “pamper” our men and treat them as the head of the home - this isn’t really my issue I’d say, and probably the root of my inclination towards r/redpillwomen in the first place. I’m all about these values, always have been. I really do endeavour to embody the r…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/18 05:21 PM
7	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship I’ve never treated him as though he were “beneath me”, actually, quite the opposite. Our differences in upbringing are not a question of superiority vs inferiority, rich vs poor, rather what the differences in our understanding of things like money management, child rearing, or family involvement might be.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/18 04:03 PM
3	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship Depression is out. I’m pretty sure it’s a normal mode of being; he’d been single for 5 years before I came along. We have been long distance for a fair bit of the relationship, so during the concentrated periods of time that we saw each other, I didn’t really get the chance to see him in his “natural state” until well into the relationship. I think he does need a bit of “fire under the tush”, not sure how to go about doing that, though.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/18 04:00 PM
6	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship Ah this freaks me out ! MIL and I have had some tense moments. She’s a primary/elementary school principal/headmaster so she’s used to being around five year olds every day, and speaks to adults the same way. She talks to me like I’m a child. It’s so patronising! Drives me up the wall! Bf doesn’t seem to find it that irritating, he knows she does it, but “it’s just the way she is” has been the response when I bring up MIL’s behaviour. Edit to add: she also never used my name up until about a yea…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/18 12:56 PM
5	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship Are they many men under the age of 40 these days that -don’t- do the video games thing? Really all my exes had the same issue. Blobbing on the couch and being a complete zombie in front of the monitor for hours on end. I see it all around. My friends also have a similar issue. Can’t find guys that have hobbies and interests outside their jobs.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/18 11:30 AM
3	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship He actually watches a fair bit of Jordan Peterson ! Doesn’t seem to be applying it to his own life, however. He is a bit of a “beta buck” I guess - financially well-off, good job, talented and artistic with good taste, but on the flip side, is unmotivated to strive for bigger and better things, complacent, overweight, and quite the couch potato now that he’s got a committed relationship. Do you think I can change his outlook if I put enough effort in? I do tell him that I’m not happy about his l…	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/18 11:25 AM
3	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship The women that “married down” in my family had a very tough time adjusting to their in-laws and some of their husbands behaviours. My bf’s family is pretty conservative so they also expect marriage to be a kind of merging of families, which I’m not too keen on, to be frank.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/18 10:41 AM
5	Having a hard time determining the long-term potential of my relationship Honestly a big part of this issue is that I don’t want to have to be the one to get him to “fix himself up”. I’m sure if I was more assertive about the weight and activity issue, and really knuckled down on getting him to walk to work etc., I could get him to work on his weight a little. What irritates me is that he doesn’t mind being fat. He doesn’t mind looking like crap - which for me is very concerning. Once he said, “I can wait to be older and a father so that I can eat whatever I want and …	/r/RedPillWomen	31/05/18 10:34 AM
1	Q4All: What are your relationship flaws? I bottle my feelings and vent to my friends instead of expressing myself openly to my spouse. I’ll shut down and avoid conflict, and just get all quiet and moody. I’ve also been told that I don’t communicate positive things either. I don’t really talk about my feelings, constructive or positive, in general, really. I’m good at picking up on others’ nonverbal info so I kind of expect it to work vice-versa too (it doesn’t).	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/18 08:46 PM