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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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7	Does texting reflect an inauthentic/incongruent personality, since we can take the time to compose what we are writing (with potentially incongruent emojis, “!” and a sense of humour)? One might not be the same in-person. You can lie and misrepresent yourself in regular conversation if you want to as well	/r/seduction	15/02/21 03:01 AM
2	Can Anyone Expand On “Just Be Yourself” just be yourself means don't try to be someone else because you will be bad at it. Playing guitar is only cool if you don't suck at guitar. If you play clarinet rock the fucking clarinet. More people will respond to some baller ass rhasphody in blue on clarinet than stumbling through yankee doodle on guitar.	/r/seduction	26/10/17 06:59 PM
1	I should know better than to be sickened by such attitudes. I think the more important point would not be protecting people from the social stigma of being accused. The greater danger is false accusations leading to conviction and that is something that can happen and the idea of sending a rape victim to prison for some number of years should be considered equal to the possibility of sending someone who is innocent of rape to prison for that crime for what would likely be a much longer sentence.	/r/MensRights	14/04/11 10:04 AM
1	Guys, how would you react to a girl being "alpha?" I think you need to ask yourself why a principle works. Alot of this stuff is actually based off of some kind of basic psychology and most things have reasons for why they work. Some things can probably be expected to go both ways and some things can't. In general I would expect most pick up things that work on women to not work on men because men and women look for different things and are sort of wired to be turned on by different stimuli. Actions that when done by a man that make him appear s…	/r/seduction	10/04/11 07:44 PM
1	Science of Sex Appeal (Some notes from this documentary) Sounds like alot of good could be done if you became aware of things that caused a dopamine rush in people and tailored your interactions to include those things.	/r/seduction	10/03/11 04:27 PM
18	Lesson 2: Alpha Body Language & Tonality AND MORE (from RSD) Is that yours?	/r/seduction	21/02/11 07:10 PM
12	Trying something new (Ways to make your eyes look sexy) I think this touches on an idea of controlling your state (of mind). Basically, It take to much effort and thought to fake smile all night or focus on what your eyes are doing. You wouldn't be able to fake it all night. Instead you need to get into a state of mind that causes you to do those things. For example, don't keep a smirk on your face by controlling the muscles just think of something that makes you smile and you will naturally smile. If you want to have a look in your eyes think of som…	/r/seduction	05/02/11 10:55 PM
2	Should you tell one girl that you have a date with another girl? When people know their is competition they are more pressured to make a decision. If you are thinking buying something that there is only one of you are much more likely to try and secure the purchase quickly and at the asking price if you know you could loose it if you don't. Basically it takes all the power from the buyer. In the absence of competition in their mind you need them and its their decision. With the knowledge that someone else might buy puts the pressure is now on the buyer becaus…	/r/seduction	23/01/11 06:32 PM
2	So, you've banged her... It does work this way but clearly we have a different set of experiences which leads us to a different conclusions. Enjoy your dysfunctional relationships with women you don't respect.	/r/seduction	07/01/11 06:02 PM
1	For all you straight girls interested in seducing men, here's some videos by a master made just for you... Studies have shown that it is usually women who give first indication of interest. So really women seduce more we are just so stupid we don't realize that we are responding to their signals of openness more often then they are being won over by our charm.	/r/seduction	07/01/11 05:39 PM
3	So, you've banged her... I think we obviously have different philosophies and I don't want to get to into things but I think the main thing I disagree with is that your attitude and approach seem to take on a very adversarial character. It seems to come from a place that a girl is your opponent to be coerced and controlled and in reality I would not want to be in an actual relationship that was so combative. I think it the ideal relationship is one between equals and involves trust. Everything you seem to advocate is th…	/r/seduction	07/01/11 05:04 PM
10	So, you've banged her... Disagree. For all the strength and control you seem to value this post stinks of a person that is insecure and scared. Are you just trying to control women and use them? If so then yea do all these things and have a series of dysfunctional relationships with insecure girls who will deal with your bullshit because they don't think they can do any better. I read this post as: "because you are not what she wants and know that, you must constantly keep up a pretense lest you be discovered as the les…	/r/seduction	07/01/11 03:05 PM
1	"I learned everything I know about becoming irresistible to women from this Russian gangster named Bad Dima one night before they deported him to Petrograd." Look like a capitalist, live like a communist, fight like a fascist, and fuck like an anarchist.”	/r/seduction	10/12/10 08:28 PM
0	"I have a boyfriend" responses [feel free to add your own] perhaps you are the one misreading your intentions.	/r/seduction	01/12/10 02:10 PM
12	Kino Escalation: How to? http://www.vindicarlo.com/DiCarlo%20Escalation%20Ladder%20-%20vindicarlo.com.pdf	/r/seduction	18/11/10 07:39 PM
1	Need some ideas for gaming shy chick I think shy people often are just sort of bad at asserting themselves. So its not like she has nothing to say its just it isn't her nature to just jump into a conversation. So you would probably want to draw her into conversations. I think its a sort of common misconception that people want us to entertain them. We don't really feel closest to people that entertain us we feel closest to people that allow us to entertain them. So, I would say be engaging and power through her initial quietness to…	/r/seduction	14/11/10 07:05 PM
1	Alright men, help a sista out! Or just let me rant, whichever... I think your over thinking. There are no tricks that work. A lot of stuff is on how to sort of create a picture of yourself in someones mind who doesn't know you. However, in your case he already knows you. He already has formed an idea of who you are and what you have to offer. This means that there is no convincing him that you are to good to let go you either are or are not and while he may not have thought about it yet he has already made a gut decision on you. I would say be straight with i…	/r/seduction	14/11/10 06:56 PM
2	Brief smile or a warm smile they say that the way to tell a real smile from a fake smile is the muscles around the eyes. If someone is smiling to be polite they will only smile with their mouth. the muscles around the eyes are tensed involuntarily (and most people can not voluntarily use them) when we are happy so if someone is giving you a smile where these muscles are tensed you can be sure that they are genuinely happy to see you. Although it may not necessarily indicate interest because we would be happy to see a frien…	/r/seduction	09/11/10 03:12 PM
1	Just stumbled upon seddit, and... I think your preconceived idea of what pick up is causes you to see things incorrectly. So, rather than answer your questions I'm just gonna tell you how I think about it which I think will clear up alot of your misconceptions. What pick up is from a standpoint of all the book stuff is about giving structure to how you think about social interactions. While every social interaction is somewhat unique in reality most of them are close enough that they can pretty much be regarded as the same. Same…	/r/seduction	06/11/10 06:27 PM
3	Can you make a pass at a friend, without ruining the friendship if it fails? Step 1: Make move at a moment that you perceive to be correct. Step 2: if rejected don't make a big deal out of it. If you don't make it weird it won't be weird. If it works don't try to turn it into a relationship. Next time you are together try again. If it works again your probably in for a regular thing. If it doesn't oh well she doesn't want you, again don't make it weird and it won't be.	/r/seduction	29/10/10 08:14 PM
2	Problems With Looks... you probably only feel like you look like a jackass. I think a point thats lost is that we know what are motives are and are aware of every stupid thing we do. In reality most people are not paying that close of attention to you and things that you might focus on they mostly just let slide.	/r/seduction	21/10/10 02:54 PM
1	What is seddit's policy on paying for drinks? I heard an interesting argument against buying drinks. Its basically that people are attracted to people that they perceive as being higher up then themselves. We want people in our lives that will elevate us. Essentially you want to seem high class. One major trait of this is that a person of a higher class does not try to qualify themselves to someone of a lower class. Buying a drink, giving lots of compliments, etc. may all seem like nice things to do, but in reality they are detrimental.	/r/seduction	13/10/10 06:19 PM
2	Having your friends talk you up is a turn off. Am I wrong about this? I think with alot of stuff while people know what is going on they do not like it to be obvious. Even when you if you both now you are flirting its important that it remains sort of unspoken. When he is doing this he is putting something that is supposed to be sort of secret and between two people public and in front of the group and no one likes to feel like they are being watched.	/r/seduction	13/10/10 06:09 PM
0	How to deal with her challenging my suggestions for dates? False takeaway. Tell her you would have gone on the boat but don't feel like going to a restaurant (or something) actually your just gonna stay in you don't really feeling like hanging out. Don't go even if she suggests the boat picnic.	/r/seduction	10/08/10 04:58 PM
1	How do I lose my anxiety? I think the problem with not using them can be that nerves often cloud your mind and that discomfort comes through. I think they work well as a back up in case of lulls in conversation. There like a set play in sports. You have done them so much that you don't even have to think. The beauty of the set play isn't that it is some strategic gem. It works because even when your tired,nervous, scared, etc. you have that motion down and can do it without thinking.	/r/seduction	10/08/10 04:42 PM
0	How do I lose my anxiety? I would suggest using canned openers and routines. I think if you go in with a plan and know what your going to say it may be able to get you over the initial discomfort so by the time you run out of prepared material you will feel comfortable enough to just participate in the conversation.	/r/seduction	10/08/10 04:17 PM
1	HOLY CRAP I just figured something out It also brings up positive memories.	/r/seduction	08/08/10 05:01 PM
1	If you are good looking... do you still need this? Think about a team that has never been coached they just play together alot. Now from playing the game you see that some things work some things don't and you develop basic skills. However that team also is making alot of mistakes and missing alot of opportunities without even realizing it. Now if they gave their offense/defense some structure and understood some basic principles they could become exponentially better. The average man is that unorganized team. What sells PUA for me is not that t…	/r/seduction	04/08/10 04:35 PM
1	If you are good looking... do you still need this? I heard a thing from Neil Strauss where he describes the 8 point theory which I think is a pretty good way to think about this. Figure to get any girl you need 8 points in your favor. There are a number of ways to get these points and it doesn't matter how you get them as long as you do. So your very attractive 4 points but your boring, not smart, unemployed... you probably won't get the girl. Your not particularly attractive so 1 point for looks but your smart and fun 4 points your successful 3…	/r/seduction	04/08/10 03:35 PM
0	For the past 4-5 years, I've been immersed in PUA and self actualization material. My life has improved in several ways as a result, but I have yet to have a wholesome sexual experience. I wonder how much you are being yourself. I think it is good to pick up some guidelines and tips but ultimately you have to incorporate these things into your own unique style and still be yourself. Think of hitting on girls like dancing or music you can describe it in steps or notes but ultimately if you don't do it with some sort of feeling/individuality it comes off as stiff and bad even though you might technically be doing the right thing. My guess is your over thinking. Looking for opportu…	/r/seduction	28/07/10 01:48 PM
6	Whats the best way to have the "are we exclusive?" talk I think you are thinking to much about the things people will tell you to do and not the reasons behind why these things are done. If you like her you should tell her. If you want to be exclusive you should tell her that as well. Figure game is not about a set of actions that always work and that should always be adhered to. I think the main realization is that most people are intimidated and hold themselves back. So you need to realize that men and women aren't that different. You have to reali…	/r/seduction	21/07/10 04:43 PM
2	Ideas for openers/negs that work on men? In any situation the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing you can do is the wrong thing, the worst thing you can do is nothing - Teddy Roosevelt The important thing is not necessarily that you get it right it is that you try. I have not read the game admittedly but I can't imagine it offers some sacred knowledge. Most things are actually pretty simple. Girls and guys alike are not that complicated. Be confident be engaging find common interest don't be afraid of failure,…	/r/seduction	29/06/10 02:53 PM
3	I shot down a girl I like, and now she won't talk to me. I don't think you shot yourself in the foot as bad as you think. You know you were being kind of a dick. She doesn't know that, she might think that but I would think if she likes you (which your post seems to indicate....I mean honestly who pokes someone on facebook). Act like nothing happened and it will be like nothing happened. Your looking at it from what you were trying to do which was send a snarky email and then blowing her off at a bar. From her point of view it could easily look like a…	/r/seduction	24/06/10 04:46 PM
1	Last Minute Resistance - Have you ever had the feeling that you did everything right with a woman, but when you're in bed, she says no? Here's what to do... Real good point from this article: Never take her underwear off by itself. Either get it off with the pants or work around it.	/r/seduction	23/06/10 10:24 PM
4	The worst rejection of my life. I think your choice of when to approach people is wrong. Like if I was just eating with a friend and someone barged in and tried to talk to me I would feel like they were intruding not just being friendly which to me would seem very rude. I think there are certain situations where people are open to being approached and certain situations where you are just rudely interjecting yourself into a situation where you are clearly not wanted. Like if your out at a bar there is sort of an assumption tha…	/r/seduction	01/04/10 12:13 AM