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He is not a good leader. He is clinging onto you because he knows that he has broken your self esteem and you're more malleable than a new partner would be. Get out and find a good man.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/26 12:41 AM
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Are you interested in building with them? Or do you want them already established in their career? You can observe if they have a disciplined and driven approach. You can ask them about their career trajectory in the process of getting to know them You can talk about what they hope to be doing 10-15-30 years in the future. That will give you insight into what they are and who they will become. If you want someone who already has strong financial assets and is in their career prime, then you have…
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/26 08:13 PM
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Being a single income household, with children, is unattainable unless you move to a really low cost of living area and have a high paying job. Well established trade Doctor/Lawyer/CPA
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/26 02:38 AM
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Most people can afford to date. But your question comes across like you're looking for them to give you wife privileges when you're not even offering girlfriend benefits.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/26 10:21 PM
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If you're looking for someone already wealthy, depending on what they work as, they may want someone who is their intellectual and social equal. If you go for someone who has a blue collar trade they will be less likely to want a spouse who has a career of their own. Also, don't take dating advice from crypto bros online.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/26 11:03 AM
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Also, do not engage in any husband/bf/male bashing talk. Definitely not appropriate at work, who knows who might overhear. It is also a good habit to keep your relationship issues private. If they ask you directly and put you on the spot, just say that you couldn't imagine being in that position. Tell them you are trying to decentralize men from your life, that will get them to back away.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 04:07 AM
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Do not discuss dating strategies at work. Talk about your hobbies and the news. You do not need to excuse your hobbies and interests as a project to find a man. You should do them because they are things that bring joy to your life, not because they are some cheat code to a man. The correct man will see them and find value in them.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 03:56 AM
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Invite her to something special and show her your off-work life
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/26 02:17 AM
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Your husband wants to have an intellectual conversation with you. Good. Maybe you guys should choose an investigative reporting deep dive podcast on other subjects that are not current day politics. Make it a shared experience. Pick a subject with ethical or moral ramifications. (AI, medical history, corporate fraud). In good debates, you need to stay on topic and not bring up other unrelated issues. Something where you can learn about how each of you process conflict about an arms length subjec…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/26 03:46 PM
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State your sexual preference and find a compatible partner (men with porn as their preferred sexual outlet, men looking for a lavender marriage, men with health conditions that prohibit/limits sex, asexual men). These men are definitely in the world.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/26 10:01 PM
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I wear a size 1/small menstrual cup. Never had children. It is not a metric I need to know in my daily life.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/25 02:08 AM
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The position of the cervix varies throughout your circle. I have no idea how to personally measure the distance between my entrance and my cervix. No interest in asking a doctor.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/25 01:35 AM
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You can't control that. It's just evidence that you're not a Good fit. You don't trust him, and he is not mature.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/25 01:01 AM
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This is an ex. Call it a sunk cost and move on. You don't want to be enmeshed in a family when you're not involved. They will choose him over you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/25 12:51 AM
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Maybe read some business books about negotiation It will be easier to find words to express any misalignment in a constructive and collaborative manner, instead of straight up rebellion.
/r/RedPillWives23/12/25 03:38 AM
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From the point of view that there is not a pimp involved, it is empowerment. If someone only ever saw their career as being in the sex industry, being allowed to practice it without becoming a pariah, it is empowerment. If someone wanted to have a different trajectory in their professional life, and ended up in SW, and have come to accept it as their main source of income for as long as the industry will have them, then it is empowerment. What is not cool, is people in the sex industry trying to…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/25 04:13 PM
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A guy who is very interested in your body will approach you more forcefully than a guy who would prefer to appreciate their future partner's personality. Boobs are visible, personality isn't.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/25 11:56 AM
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Ask to be set up by people you trust Do you have a type that you gravitate to? Make sure you're not appearing more open to guys who are interested in exercising their options and playing field than the less flashy guys.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/25 10:40 AM
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At 12??? Nah. I'm Cuban. There is no way. Couples (and parents) need their privacy and time to reconnect.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/25 09:49 PM
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How old are you? I'm past 30 and people around me are very busy with their lives and children, and try to make the most out of the connections and friendships available to them. No one is trying to one up each other in real life.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/25 02:49 AM
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Any kind of clique behaviour is immature and I severely reject it. I'm the person who would go out of her way to include someone who wasn't finding space for them in any group dynamic. Anyone who tries to enforce some sort of caste system in my presence is to be shut down. Everyone is innocent and worthy unless they demonstrate they A) prefer to be a lone wolf B) do something that merits ostracizing If someone in my group of friend tries to claim superiority by excluding anther person, they are …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 08:13 PM
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I think you have a fantasy of the man you want, and will be unhappy when you realize he is not out there. Only the social media personalities or podcasters have shaped your idea of the kind of man you are attracted to. You have lost attraction for your partner's personality and it is a valid reason to leave the relationship (if you don't think you can regain admiration and attraction for the abilities that he possesses). However, you don't have a direct example of this type of man you seek, so i…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 12:43 PM
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use a lower volume, do not talk over people. Femininity is just as much about how you carry out conversations. Don't rush to answer or fill in silence. Speak with a smile
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/25 05:03 PM
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I don't believe the vibrator is the reason he went into a spiral... Something else is going on there. Feelings of inadequacy must be happening outside of the bedroom in addition to. Work on his confidence outside and in. I wouldn't try to convince my partner to interact with a sex toy if he doesn't want to. There are plenty of kinky experiences that do not involve a vibrator. Start with just the two of you, and then incorporate other accessories. (heels, lingerie, nipples clamps, and work your w…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/25 11:39 PM
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He doesn't want you to be protected? He doesn't want you to feel secure in your relationship and future? And his reasoning is that it will lead to a shift in your dynamics? So his preferred dynamics is one where you are going to submit to him, depend on him, defer to him, and any perceived misstep in your behaviour would lead to you considerably at risk?
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/25 11:29 AM
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That is what I'm offering as help. You need to feel in control of your life, and secure in your decisions. Fake it till you make it. Not just understand what it means, put it into practice. Say it out loud to yourself. It may sound mean, but you need to say it to yourself: their opinion doesn't matter. You need to compare yourself only with yourself and improve on what you were. And half of what you see online is filters, and the other half is aspirational. Don't try to emulate it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/25 09:28 PM
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You need to realize that anyone who is not impacted by your decisions doesn't deserve to be consulted, and doesn't need to be impressed with your actions. By requiring attention from them, you are placing a burden/duty on them that they did not ask for. They will never respond in the way you want them to, because they didn't sign up for the role. And the people who are (undeservedly) in your business, generally just want to feel superior about their knowledge or abilities, and rarely have your b…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/25 03:56 PM
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Everyone is talking about food: Anticipate his needs. Stay in top of his image - set up recurring barbershop appointments, make sure shoes are professionally buffed, closet organised so that dry cleaned stuff doesn't get wrinkles. Get advance reminder of dentist and doctors appointments so that he has more than 24hrs notice before he has to attend. Gym bag - if he has a gym bag, wash his stuff and pack it back up, keep track on the levels of snacks and make an effort to buy healthy snacks. Car -…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/25 11:06 AM
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You can do data entry/bookkeeping You can do babysitting You can check in with your local seniors community if they have any task rabbit style jobs that seniors are willing to pay (cleaning, light shopping, laundry, help with their taxes, calling for Dr appointments, driving, etc.)
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/25 03:35 AM
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However, the men who express their vile rhetoric online, are still not suitable in real life if they hold those beliefs. I think women should ask their potential partners to evaluate their father's attitude towards their mothers and see if the can suss out any beliefs that disqualifies them as suitable partners. Maybe asking about a 3rd person would make them more willing to share what they believe themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/25 03:46 PM
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I don't mind if people consume porn. I would hope all porn actors are compensated fairly for risking their physical and mental health. However, subscribing to an OF feels like having a porn actress on retainer. There is a level of intimacy when you are monetarily attached to someone for a medium or long term. Subscribing to OF constitutes a type of relationship (one sided). I have some issues about accepting it as part of my relationship. If someone pays for an explicit content subscription, I t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/25 12:57 AM
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It depends what it is: a child can't behave any other way than a child. Assume they will always make the worst possible choice. Anticipate they will endanger their life and try your every boundary. a dog will behave out of instinct and immediate self-satisfaction (pretty close to a child, too) a random person who wants to get the better of me is meaningless. They have no lasting impact in my life. They are probably miserable in their lives of they have to resort to annoying tantrums. It's harder…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/25 10:06 PM
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First step: focus on your relationship. You need to strengthen your relationship so that you're communicating effectively. Not because of the whole shouting match, he shouldn't lose his cool and neither should you. The bottom line is that you're not serving your house or your family well with this amount of work on your shoulders. And you should be able to communicate with each other and make it clear that you are not in a position to handle the house, the kids, the personal development, support…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/25 08:29 PM
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For laundry: can you hang it instead of folding?
/r/RedPillWives02/01/25 12:40 AM
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Any chance you can de clutter and eliminate things from the house that don't serve any purpose but get in your way? Broken toys, toys that never get used but take up storage and not make it easy to clean up, minimum number of mugs and bottles so that they are encouraged to reuse instead of using up a clean one? Same for adults. Meal prepping: maybe do the seasoning and portioning/chopping but don't cook it until day of? Meat goes in the slow cooker early in the day, veggies in the air fryer/toas…
/r/RedPillWives28/12/24 01:32 PM
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I would like to have the confidence to ask how many times a girl cried because of something they did (in their presence or behind their backs)? How many times they broke a promise to a woman? Any kind of promise, regardless of whether they had a valid excuse or not. How many times they disrespected their gf's? Complain about them to their friends? How many times they made up an excuse not to be part of an activity their gf wanted to do? How many times they compared their gf to an ex (regardless …
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 11:27 PM
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Anyone who asks, and expects an inventory, is not really looking at you as a person. They are looking at you as a tool/object. How many bjs, how many times you made out? Does it matter if you gave 100 bj to 1 guy in 2 months? or 10bj to 1 guy, in 2 Years ? Does it matter if you had 3 night stands in 1 months in the course of 3 years? If they are comfortable enough asking you that question, they should have known you for a length of time that they should know your value and caliber. And they shou…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/24 11:13 PM
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The o my reason to be an influencer is to sell products. They are a lesser tier of product endorsement and brand ambassadors. Do not attempt to mimic an influencer's style, aesthetic, schedule, vacations, shopping list, or financial advice. They can serve as a 'vague and superficial aspiration' but never the goal.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/24 10:36 PM
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How much do you make? How much do you think your classmates make? You are in the age when people are starting their careers. You will need to be part of the success of your partner before you can be safely home while they take the reins financially.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 01:32 AM
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It's important for OP to know that at her age most men are starting their careers. Of course they are not as financially secure. And they are in the same situation as her: in school, working part time, student loans, renting, etc. She has to expect from the men the same level of security that she is currently able to provide. Just because is willing to do housework labour, it doesn't mean that a man from her age bracket is going to value it. They need someone to build with them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/24 01:28 AM
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My boy, my man, darling, love. I try whenever possible not call out for anyone. If you need them, and know where they are, go find them and bring them with you wherever you need them. If I call out a name it better be for a positive purpose. Don't let them associate you calling for them with a negative connotation.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/24 12:20 AM
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Do you fear it's a dating app, since you said you don't recognise it? Or something like Discord, or other social media app?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/24 12:08 AM
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Thinking about the last words of the other guy is going to mess you up. You're trying to become worthy of him, and keep checking up on his interest. Either message him and ask him straight out if he wants to be in a relationship, or close that door. It's not fair that he basically sent you to 'grow up' and leave you the hope that if you become good enough he may consider you again. He may have meant it, or he may have wanted to let you down easy. Either way, he was not willing to embark on a pat…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 04:55 PM
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How often do you think about your previous relationship. It sounds like you're not over the guy. Regardless of the quality of man you meet, if you're not past the rejection, or the fact that the choice to end the relationship was taken away from you, you will not successfully connect with anyone. I'm not sure what would the right course of action be if you're in the middle of dating someone. You may lose them forever and then regret it, or you may feel relief at not having to fake emotion/intere…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 09:23 AM
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I often subscribe to ideologically opposed subs. It's unfortunate that mods don't know how to best deal with fanatics that ruin discourse and exploration of ideas.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 05:12 AM
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It was r/interestingasfuck my bad!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 05:07 AM
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It happened to me to with r/mildlyinteresting No great loss, but it was a surprise.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/24 05:05 AM
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I don't know how to bring you closure. I do know that making room in your life for someone not willing to do the same, will lead to heartbreak. Your best option in the dating world is someone who is as eager as you. This person you're envisioning is not real. The vision you have involves this person being an attentive and committed partner. The real man is not demonstrating those qualities.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 04:11 PM
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If there are other kinks you guys engaged in, nd sure you highlight your interest in those
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/24 03:48 AM
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What if you specifically said: I really enjoyed our breakfast dates, could we get some time together soon? Etc. Just curious what his attitude is to a straight forward request for his attention.
/r/RedPillWives23/08/24 12:31 AM
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Try a wig for a few rounds.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/24 03:43 PM
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Does he do things that say 'I love you' from a distance? Worry about your health and wellbeing? Ask about your needs? Ask about the things that are important to you?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 11:59 AM
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I think that you are taking on way too much Homeschooling 3 kids and looking after your household chores is a full time job Add in your mom which requires and deserves round the clock care, and you have a 2nd job. Add in a teenager that needs shuttling and is going to a school outside of the home for the first time in their lives, and you're not going to be able to support their development. Nowhere in this list is taking care of yourself, so that you can take care of your children and mother. N…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 02:44 PM
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Realize that superficial infatuation is just that. Maybe your boyfriend is 90% the perfect partner for you. This guy just showed you he has the 10% your boyfriend is missing, but you don't know what the other 90% is comprised of. Don't compare men to each other. Compare them to your needs. If you are unhappy in your relationship break it off. If you don't feel attraction, respect, excitement, desire to contribute to the happiness of your partner: break it off. If you just want to be pursued more…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/24 02:24 PM
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I always see reddit as a forum that's privately owned not a bastion of free speech. I am never surprised nor upset when they flex their muscle. McDonald's wouldn't have people have rallies about world hunger in their diners, either. It's private property and bothers their other patrons.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 02:42 PM
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I completely agree that dysfunction is more entertaining to watch than congeniality and stability.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 05:25 PM
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I'd be wary of trying to find real life relationship philosophies from people that agree to be on Reality TV
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 05:24 PM
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She never has a bad word to say about him. They support each others' choices.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/18 07:17 PM
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Chip and Joanne Gaines
/r/RedPillWives29/07/18 11:53 PM
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Facebook groups with local classifieds
/r/RedPillWives26/07/18 02:33 PM
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I don't think it's about Territory. I think people like to complain about how hard their lives are, and the so's have become an accessory/hurdle that enhances the woman's heroism and martyrdom.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/18 11:52 PM
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If you feel strongly about a cause and want to sacrifice something, you should do it. To say that marching in this day and age accomplishes nothing is defeatist on its own. If these women are privileged enough to be able to take the day to speak up for those who can't, why should not they?
/r/RedPillWives07/03/17 02:46 AM
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I don't think social media is geared towards debate and discussions. It's mostly for validation and echo chambers. It's hard to remain thoughtful and empathetic when you're only a few lines of text on a screen. People don't behave online as they would face to face.
/r/RedPillWives17/02/17 05:34 PM
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I was impressed with this interview on NPR's Hidden Brain show http://www.npr.org/2017/02/14/514578429/hookup-culture-the-unspoken-rules-of-sex-on-college-campuses
/r/RedPillWives16/02/17 09:39 PM
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I think that the same principles about meeting a partner with whom you share interests may apply here. Maybe join communities/groups that cater to RPW pillars/femininity. Cooking, crafts, some ballet or ballroom dancing, bookclubs, even volunteering or activism in any area you are passionate about. In order to start a friendship you need to either demonstrate interest in them when they talk and ask relevant questions that prolong the conversation and allow you to share about yourself. Go beyond …
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 11:21 AM
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Books that I read: The Chemistry Between Us - Larry Young Sexual Intelligence - Marty Klein Sex From Scratch - Sarah Mirk Moody Bitches - Julie Holland (Not sure you're going to enjoy any of the menstrual cycle things, but I'm a woman) Why Men Fake It - Abraham Morgentaler (helped me understand male sexuality and dysfunction) Mathematics of Love - Hannah Fry (Funny and insightful all around)
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