culturedindividual Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	I think I'm sexually repressed? :(		culturedindividual	/r/seduction	21/01/16 10:14 PM

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1	Ex-red pill: What made you change? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AyU1-ZwrkwE	/r/ExRedPill	13/05/26 11:18 AM
-1	Has the meaning of Red pill changed? Fair enough, you did concede. Apologies. Forgive me if I don't remember every comment I post on Reddit. No need to project your neuroticism onto me with foul language. People make mistakes. Again, I didn't negate any apparent toxicity within the space, I just stated that it wasn't majorly part of my experience until recent. OP asked for experiential accounts, which I provided. Generalities/stereotypes can provide utility, which is why people use them. Obviously, you can find a woman who would be…	/r/ExRedPill	20/04/26 08:50 PM
0	Has the meaning of Red pill changed? Thank you. It’s prolly gonna get downvoted though lol. Idk why I bother.	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/26 04:34 PM
0	Has the meaning of Red pill changed? I'm not using nuance as a shield. I'm giving an accurate account of my personal experience and the specific content I was consuming, which I've been transparent about throughout. You're essentially arguing that because toxicity existed in 2015, nothing has meaningfully changed, but that sidesteps the point entirely. The issue isn't whether TRP was ever benign, it's that the content, the audience, and the ideological trajectory have all shifted towards something more extreme and more widespread. …	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/26 04:22 PM
1	Has the meaning of Red pill changed? Fair enough, and I'll acknowledge that misogyny has existed in the space since its inception. Though I'd argue how much you encountered depended heavily on what you were actually consuming, which is why I was specific about that in my original comment. Either way, I don't think that undermines the broader point I was making. The manosphere has been proliferating and becoming increasingly misogynistic over time, and there's data to support that. Research consistently shows incel communities are g…	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/26 04:11 PM
0	Has the meaning of Red pill changed? No worries, you're not alone. Worth keeping in mind that r/exredpill isn't exclusively made up of people who were actually in the red pill. A fair portion of the community appears to be people who were never in it to begin with, whether that's blue pill or feminist leaning, which means some of the commentary can lack the contextual understanding that comes from having genuinely engaged with the material. It's just all misogyny to them, removed from nuance. You can see it in how my comment was re…	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/26 03:54 PM
0	Has the meaning of Red pill changed? I didn’t say there weren’t toxic elements e.g. negging. But as someone who was actually part of the red pill, I’ve seen it become progressively more toxic. I do not need to take another pill lol. The red pill was enough.	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/26 03:39 PM
1	Has the meaning of Red pill changed? Yes, I agree. As it has become more radicalised, it has also become more dehumanising.	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/26 03:07 PM
1	Has the meaning of Red pill changed? So do men: Blind men prefer a low waist-to-hip ratio Btw, I do think patriarchial systems exist and have contributed to our social conditioning. But I think it's ludicrous to disregard evolution's role on our species biologically and psychologically. Blank state theory doesn't make sense to me.	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/26 03:06 PM
2	Has the meaning of Red pill changed? That's how they paint it but they cherry-pick studies and come up with irrational arguments such that actual evolutionary psychologists don't condone the red pill. For instance, I know for a fact that many researchers in the domain have beef with Rollo Tomassi. If you're a fan of evopsych, just go to the source. It provides more nuance.	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/26 03:03 PM
0	Has the meaning of Red pill changed? Yes, I agree. Back in 2015, the red pill was largely centred on game and self-improvement, think Simple Pickup, RSD, and books like The Game by Neil Strauss or The Mystery Method. The framing was broadly actionable, and the most controversial edge of it was tactics like 'negging'. That looks relatively tame compared to where things have drifted. Now you're seeing content like Myron Gaines' 'Why Women Deserve Less,' which isn't about self-improvement at all. It's outright misogyny being packaged …	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/26 02:59 PM
0	Help me not grow resentful I don't deny that patriarchal systems exist or contribute. I just think biology and evolution deserve a seat at the table too. It sounds like you're able to engage with that more openly than most in this space, which I appreciate. What I'm pushing back on specifically is gender feminism and radical feminism in its more extreme expressions, where social constructionism tends to function less as a hypothesis and more as an axiom. That's where the nuance gets lost. Take crying as a straightforward …	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/26 05:03 PM
0	Help me not grow resentful As I mentioned, I don't dismiss social conditioning entirely. The question is whether it's the only cause, and I don't think it is. On the hunter-gatherer point, that's a fair challenge and worth acknowledging. I'll concede that both height and weight preferences in women may fluctuate across cultures, which suggests environmental factors are at play there. But waist-to-hip ratio preferences are a different story. Those have been shown to be remarkably consistent cross-culturally, and crucially,…	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/26 02:27 PM
0	Help me not grow resentful I understand the premise, I just don't agree with it. I'll acknowledge I'm probably an outlier in this subreddit given the feminist lean here, but I find the evolutionary psychology lens more compelling, the idea that natural selection shaped our mate preferences long before culture had a chance to. Female preference for taller men, for instance, is more plausibly explained as an instinctual residue of selecting for protection and physical capability than as a product of patriarchal conditioning…	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/26 04:45 PM
0	Help me not grow resentful I don't subscribe to that ideologically, but I appreciate your perspective.	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/26 03:52 PM
2	Help me not grow resentful What characterises an incel is coalescing around beliefs that actively uphold their own singlehood, treating rejection as confirmation of a fixed truth rather than a temporary obstacle. As long as you recognise you still have agency, you're not there. Height is a genuine preference for a lot of women, that's just true. But preference isn't the same as a hard filter, and it's rarely the only thing being weighed. Confidence, humour, social presence and how you carry yourself all factor in, and tho…	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/26 03:50 PM
0	Help me not grow resentful I'm not sure how female standards in attractiveness (i.e. wanting a man to be taller than them) equates to "patriarchal society's standards".	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/26 03:36 PM
1	How does the red pill manifest in everyday? I'd be interested	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/26 03:30 PM
3	Do you believe men have a peak? US stats actually show that higher income men have less of an age gap (for married men aged 30-54). Source: https://x.com/MackenMurphy/status/1947308972618260750?s=20	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/26 02:09 PM
0	Do you believe men have a peak? I came across some dating app stats which found that "the average woman’s desirability drops from the time she is 18 until she is 60. For men, desirability peaks around 50 and then declines". It’s worth stressing this is from one app, based on a few large US cities, so it may not generalise. A evolutionary psychology interpretation is that men and women, on average, prioritise slightly different traits in mate selection. Male preferences tend to place more weight on cues linked to fertility (e.g…	/r/ExRedPill	25/03/26 02:04 PM
-2	Thoughts on new Louis Theroux Netflix documentary? I thought it was well-made and fairer than I expected. It didn't feel agenda-driven (unlike Adolescence) or editorially leading, the questions were genuine rather than gotcha journalism, and it largely let the subjects expose themselves. Most of them came across poorly. Justin Waller was the exception, he held himself relatively well. The standout moment for me was HS calling out the genocide, that was a legitimate point that landed aha. Only thing I'd add is that interviewing Rollo Tomassi and …	/r/ExRedPill	22/03/26 11:48 AM
11	Former Red Pill members—what changed your perspective? I was initially drawn in by the self-improvement angle after my first heartbreak (e.g. go to the gym, improve your game, start cold-approaching). But over the years the space became something else entirely. The research actually maps this shift well. Singlehood is a predictor of poor mental health, particularly among men, and is associated with increased misogynistic attitudes. That psychological vulnerability has fuelled the proliferation of the manosphere, which has evolved from relatively ben…	/r/ExRedPill	22/03/26 11:40 AM
2	Guys do you think red pill will decline in the coming years? Singlehood is a predictor of poor mental health, particularly among men, and is associated with increased misogynistic attitudes. That psychological vulnerability has fuelled the proliferation of the manosphere, which has evolved from relatively benign origins in pick-up artistry and men's rights activism toward more extreme subsets like inceldom and Men Going Their Own Way. These communities actively reinforce singlehood as an identity, which perpetuates the cycle. So I don't think the red pill…	/r/ExRedPill	22/03/26 11:37 AM
1	Looking for Anonymous Interviewees in the UK I’m based in London, and may be open to this.	/r/ExRedPill	21/03/26 04:35 PM
2	Congratulations on your questioning I was initially drawn in by the self-improvement angle after my first heartbreak (e.g. go to the gym, improve your game, start cold-approaching). But over the years the space became something else entirely. The research actually maps this shift well. Singlehood is a predictor of poor mental health, particularly among men, and is associated with increased misogynistic attitudes. That psychological vulnerability has fuelled the growth of the manosphere, which has evolved from relatively benign ori…	/r/ExRedPill	21/03/26 04:08 PM
2	I often feel lucky im in the average range It doesn't even factor in until you're in the bedroom, and by that point a woman has already made up her mind about you. The only real concern is the extremes: being unusually small or unusually large. Everything upstream of that matters far more to attraction and selection: your height, personality, intelligence, ambition, how you carry yourself. I say this as someone who's well-endowed. It doesn't translate into success with women. If anything, gay men place considerably more weight on it than…	/r/ExRedPill	21/03/26 03:34 PM
0	Have you noticed that the red pill movement today isnt the same movement of 10 years ago? You didn’t even acknowledge the study where I show educational hypergamy is decreasing. You’re being disingenuous. I’m coming to this discussion with a nuanced position. You’re just projecting your dislike of evopsych which is okay. We can agree to disagree.	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/26 01:31 PM
-2	Have you noticed that the red pill movement today isnt the same movement of 10 years ago? It’s about the quality of the research, not who does the research. I already understand its flaws but it’s getting better. Anyway, I guess it’s just a matter of belief. I don’t believe social constructionism has all the answers. Evolutionary biology has some part to play and evopsych is about understanding how that manifests itself behaviourally.	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/26 01:29 PM
0	Have you noticed that the red pill movement today isnt the same movement of 10 years ago? I just had a skim. It seems he’s debunking how the manosphere incorrectly cherrypicks evopsych which is what I alluded to in my initial comment. It seems that ppl are lacking comprehension skills. Not once did I co-opt how the red pill incorrectly uses evopsych. I even posted a study that shows educational hypergamy is decreasing despite its prior existence which proves exactly what I’m talking about.	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/26 01:20 PM
-2	Have you noticed that the red pill movement today isnt the same movement of 10 years ago? Evolutionary psychology hypotheses are testable and falsifiable	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/26 01:13 PM
0	Have you noticed that the red pill movement today isnt the same movement of 10 years ago? Here's an actual study rather than some blog post: Evolutionary psychology hypotheses are testable and falsifiable	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/26 01:07 PM
-1	Have you noticed that the red pill movement today isnt the same movement of 10 years ago? I’m not sure how that discounts female hypergamy’s existence. Both genders are capable of being hypergamous. Women just tend to exhibit the behaviour more as they’re the choosier sex.	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/26 12:30 PM
1	Have you noticed that the red pill movement today isnt the same movement of 10 years ago? Not really sure what that adds to the discussion or how it disproves hypergamy. Just go read some studies if you doubt its existence.	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/26 11:14 AM
-8	Have you noticed that the red pill movement today isnt the same movement of 10 years ago? Yeah, that’s called assortative mating (homogamy), but doesn’t rule out hypergamy altogether. I’m talking about how psychologists talk about it based on empirical evidence.	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/26 11:08 AM
-8	Have you noticed that the red pill movement today isnt the same movement of 10 years ago? Yes it is. Hypergamy has historical precedent across cultures, though some of its expressions are evolving. Educational hypergamy, for instance, is shifting as women now outperform men academically. As a result, the most educated women increasingly have to partner down. This is reflected in the data. This study finds that highly educated women tend to partner with less educated men rather than remain single, while medium-educated women are less likely to partner up with highly educated men. Cruc…	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/26 11:03 AM
-6	Have you noticed that the red pill movement today isnt the same movement of 10 years ago? Yes, I agree. Back then, the main premise was acknowledging female hypergamy and the fact that life doesn’t play out like a Disney fairytale when it comes to dating. And the recommended course of action back then was self-improvement and pick-up artistry. Nowadays, the “manosphere” in general has become more misogynistic and nihilistic. I remember that the red pill would cherry-pick studies from evolutionary psychology which is what piqued my interest the most. But it got a lot of things wrong. …	/r/ExRedPill	20/03/26 10:53 AM
1	Do you think David Buss's study is accurate? Evolutionary psychology hypotheses are testable and falsifiable	/r/ExRedPill	05/03/26 11:01 PM
1	40 first dates, 1 second date, 0 long term prospects... Can anyone relate? I’ve only been on 1 first date and got the spark comment. I can’t imagine doing 40. Damn, I feel for you. I’d try to analyse the issue. D’you not match or photos, or does your game just suck? Once you’ve found the culprit, try and fix the issue.	/r/seduction	04/01/26 06:25 PM
2	How do you lads get women through Instagram or Facebook. Yeah, I wouldn't say they're necessarily dumb - but some of them are highly attuned to assessing how others stack in the social hierarchy. Also, if all they have to go off is what your profile looks like, how are they meant to gauge how well-rounded of an individual you are if you don't display it. I'll give you an example. I've been on 12+ holidays over the past 3 years, and I've only posted 1/2 of them. If I invested time curating photos of each holiday, then my profile would be conveying the …	/r/seduction	07/10/24 09:30 AM
8	How do you lads get women through Instagram or Facebook. I have the opposite problem where I sleep with girls I meet in person, then we follow each other on IG and she discovers that my profile is inactive and there’s little photos of myself. Whereas hers usually has loads of curated selfies, with comments from her friends saying how beautiful she is. But yeah, 50% of people are meeting online nowadays whether that be through dating apps or social media. As you’re literally going by what you can see, what matters is how you appear to be. So it’s about…	/r/seduction	06/10/24 05:34 PM
3	Suddenly, I have a lots of female friends... Good thing or? It gives you social proof and will make it easier to attract other women. Just make sure you don’t catch unreciprocated feelings for one of them.	/r/seduction	03/02/24 01:26 PM
1	When you say you’re an anti feminist and a feminist thinks you mean anti women’s rights. Exactly. After reading George Orwell and Machiavelli, my view on people changed. A lot of people's identity is just sculpted by what they've been taught by their society. They're cognitively dissonant to reaching out of that box. All they see of Africa is charity adverts of skinny children batting flies out of their eyes, or safaris. They feel slavery was a service to the African diaspora, and in fact, was a means of civilisation. It's ironic really.	/r/AntiFeminists	03/05/20 01:06 AM
1	Why do people get into relationships and break up if they’re not compatible? I think there's many reasons. One may be codependency, where the dysfunctional relationship often reflects an individual's upbringing/insecurities. Another could be status i.e. trophy wife. I also feel it depends on your definition of compatibility. I'd describe it as subjective settling.	/r/seduction	02/02/18 01:17 PM
1	Do you ever give up on a seduction because you have a lack of iinterest in the girl Oh ok, what your doing is fine then. The ironic thing is that when you start distancing yourselves from girls and ignoring them (unexpectedly), that often gets them more interested in you. Lool I used to get off of the validation from this but I realised that was a dick move.	/r/seduction	04/09/17 07:17 AM
2	Do you ever give up on a seduction because you have a lack of iinterest in the girl Yeah, it used to even turn me off and make me go into defensive mode when the girl was much more into me than I was into her. It depends on your goals though, are you a lover of women and coitus in general i.e. scoping for girls DTF. Or are you looking for something in particular?	/r/seduction	04/09/17 07:11 AM
1	I think I'm sexually repressed? :( The thing is I've attracted 8+'s and been too much of a pussy still. I'm leaving that behaviour is 2015 now though.	/r/seduction	26/01/16 04:55 PM
1	I think I'm sexually repressed? :( ing like this (i mean all people h thank you, I can actually do 100 push ups lol	/r/seduction	23/01/16 07:01 AM
1	I think I'm sexually repressed? :( Thank you, I get what you mean. It's my own doing. The thing is I get girls approaching me so I don't understand why I'm even freezing up. It must be worse for guys who have to rely on solid game to score.	/r/seduction	21/01/16 10:46 PM
1	What do you do when a girl texts you back after a substantial period of time even though she is online on facebook? "Sorry, who is this?" (you delete her no.)	/r/seduction	21/01/16 10:08 PM