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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 57 | My parents’ relationship has taught me that I want a man who is everything my father isn’t.We’ve had tons of conversations about it over the years. She has a damaged relationship with my older sister who resents her for not leaving and protecting us from my dad’s behaviour. My mother maintains that she knew this is who she was when they married and that things are complicated but she accepts him. I will always be there to support her when my father’s behaviour upsets her but convincing her to leave is a lost cause at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 12:32 AM |
| 149 | My parents’ relationship has taught me that I want a man who is everything my father isn’t.This is a really good point. I’ve never really spoken in depth about my expectations of a relationship with anyone except my close friends, women in my family and family friends who know the kind of man my dad is. I would never want to disclose this to a guy I’m dating or interested in. I think right now I just feel so angry and disappointed in him that i want to shout from the rooftops about how awful he is. But you’re right, this information should be reserved for those close to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 07:59 PM |
| 6 | I’m tired of scrotes trying to mask their attraction to minors.An old coworker of mine just graduated teachers college and secured a full time teaching position around the same time he was dumped by his girlfriend. He’s in his late 20s and decided to hop on tinder for a rebound. Proudly showed me all of the profiles he was swiping through. Age range was set as 18-24. He is currently a high school teacher. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 01:26 PM |
| 1836 | That time I walked out on a date after his first sentenceI will never understand why men think complimenting you by belittling another woman is supposed to make you feel good. I absolutely hate receiving comments like that. Same energy as “you’re not like other girls”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 04:06 PM |
| 14 | Men who are hot/cold and don’t expect you to bail when they go cold...?This is my favourite response. You’re so right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 03:28 PM |
| 53 | Men who are hot/cold and don’t expect you to bail when they go cold...?I used to be the same way so I definitely feel this lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 01:11 AM |
| 14 | I’ve reached a point in my life where I advise my child free friends not to procreate with men. Exhibit a:As someone who has no knowledge of what happens during residency but always hears about these fucking insane hours, is it required of residents to work this much? Why is it like this? Also, I’m really hating the thought of someone who can’t even empathize with his own partner entering medicine. Do better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 02:15 AM |
| 41 | “Women catch feelings easier than men”Exactly. I feel that it’s easier than ever to do this now that people communicate all day through text. It takes 2 minutes to keep someone on the hook by stringing together a few nice messages to them throughout the day. One of the most helpful vetting strategies I’ve learned here is to limit communication through text. Words apparently mean nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 11:33 PM |
| 65 | “Women catch feelings easier than men”I hear you. I can’t believe how common it is for people to think this is a bad thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 09:16 PM |
| 173 | "If you aren't attracted to 17-18 year olds, your either abnormal or a liar". This makes me feel so afraid for young women. As this becomes even more normalized, the number will just keep dropping.I’ll never forget an evolutionary psychology professor of mine preaching to a class of 18/19 year olds - 75% of whom were women - about how neotenous features are and will always be the pinnacle of female beauty. He was 58 years old. I was always creeped out by the thought of him scanning his audience during a lecture and making mental notes of which of us he thought were attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 01:34 AM |
| 18 | Any thoughts on this take on the “heterosexual double bind”?This doesn’t make any sense to me. If men need sex as a precursor for emotional intimacy or to feel closer and more connected to their partners, why is the Madonna-whore complex so common? If any of what this user said was true, wouldn’t a man be more inclined to commit to a woman once they’ve slept together because he feels that it’s “safer” for him to do so? There’s so much more that just doesn’t make sense to me, and this reasoning seems like a way to absolve men of responsibility in a relati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 04:31 PM |
| 34 | Response to 40+ yo men who want kids "someday"Sound advice. Funnily enough my ex was in his final year of flight school when we broke up. Dumped me because he wanted to take a job on the other side of the country when he graduated. In hindsight I’m so happy we’re not together. Don’t think I’d ever consider dating another pilot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 03:39 AM |
| 486 | Response to 40+ yo men who want kids "someday"My ex’s dad was a pilot. Married in his late 20s and had kids with his first wife. Met my ex’s mom, a flight attendant in her late 20s, while he was in his late 40s. Left his family for her, moved to a different province and had kids with her. My ex is his youngest child, born when his dad was 52. He made it known how much he regretted becoming a father to young children again in his 50s. He told my ex that plainly. Ex’s mother regrets having a children with an older man because while she’s abou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 07:09 PM |
| 32 | The clearest display of “if he wanted to, he would” that I’ve ever experiencedReligion was one of the biggest factors. He is a very faithful person and wants his future partner to be actively involved in their faith, but it’s something I have no desire to do. He is also dead set on having 2-3 children in the future. He enjoyed his childhood with his siblings and wants to be able to recreate that experience for kids in the future. I know I’m in my early 20s, but I have no desire to think of children right now - at this point I don’t want them. I would hate for us to have g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 10:03 PM |
| 36 | The clearest display of “if he wanted to, he would” that I’ve ever experiencedI just wanted to say that it isn’t your fault. While I have several conventionally attractive features, I have never been the most objectively attractive woman anywhere I’ve gone. I struggle a lot with acne and sometimes I still feel as gawky and awkward as I was in my teens. But I’ve learned that your level of physical attractiveness does not garner you genuine interest or respect from men who are worth your time. If a guy isn’t chasing you because he has picked apart your appearance and decide… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 03:50 PM |
| 155 | The clearest display of “if he wanted to, he would” that I’ve ever experiencedAbsolutely. I think his situation is a little unique. He is the oldest of 3 siblings, 2 are still in high school. They lost both of their parents within months of each other about 2 years ago and he became their legal guardian. He works hard out of necessity but as his siblings get older I suppose they’ll be able to take on more financial responsibility. A bit of a sad situation but I admire him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 01:43 PM |
| 25 | The rest of Reddit is a toxic dumpster fire. (Found on a sub about a kind of relationship we don't support, you know the one)Every woman I’ve known who got involved with a much older man in her late teens/early twenties wishes that she had listened to those who advised against it or wishes that she had someone in her life that would’ve told her to give her head a shake. If a parent can’t have a serious conversation with their daughter about this, I’m going to assume that their relationship isn’t as strong as they think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 11:11 PM |
| 9 | Blocking and deleting gets easier the more you do it.Yeah, realizing my position as a placeholder was pretty shitty. If the same thing happened to me even a year and a half ago I’m certain I would’ve been looking inward and asking myself what I did to make him stop talking to me. Thank god I’m not at that point anymore. It feels good to be able to tell myself that I made my interest in him clear and put in the effort on my end. If it’s not reciprocated or if he loses interest in me it’s not my problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 01:17 PM |
| 18 | Blocking and deleting gets easier the more you do it.I hope your friend doesn’t let this guy hurt her. He sounds sketchy. I think you’re right about vetting being harder during the pandemic. Part of the reason I was hopeful about this guy is because we actually met in person years ago at a social gathering as we know some of the same people. I was hoping that if he actually wanted to just fuck around and waste someone’s time he would do it with randoms from online dating instead of someone he has mutual friends with (me). Oh wellllll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 04:08 AM |
| 22 | Blocking and deleting gets easier the more you do it.Sounds like we both dodged bullets lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 04:05 AM |
| 28 | Blocking and deleting gets easier the more you do it.Another really good point. We live in a pandemic hotspot and the only things open as of this past week are grocery stores. I personally am not comfortable visiting each other’s homes this early on so we essentially had no other options for the time being. But I definitely hear what you’re saying and I’ve been guilty of it in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 02:22 AM |
| 34 | Blocking and deleting gets easier the more you do it.Great point honestly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 01:42 AM |
| 124 | Yeah sure let's put the blame on a girl and victimize a man who in 99% of cases was the pursuer. Funny how people don't even get enraged that hard at raped victims who had their lives ruined. Omg.Why does the poster act like teenagers are the ones who go looking for adults to fuck and not the other way around? Was this actually true for anyone growing up? My high school was full of teen girls who were getting pursued by men in their 20s, not the other way around. We had guys in their 20s at our senior prom...how that was allowed is beyond me. It’s not that hard to verify the age of someone you’re sleeping with. Keep it in your pants until you figure it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 05:13 PM |
| 19 | Patron Saint of the PickmeishasHis wife seemed insufferable but that in no way warrants being killed. Even if she saw him for what he really was, she probably would’ve seen a withdrawn, uninterested, lying and cheating husband. Not a murderer. I don’t see how she possibly could’ve predicted that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 06:32 PM |
| 195 | WHY are Males?I shudder thinking about all of the women who have probably been photographed without their knowledge. One man (member of a different location, not the one I worked at) took dozens of videos of a woman on an elliptical and, you guessed it, uploaded them to porn sites. She only found out because another man she knew from the gym came across the videos, recognized her and told her. She went to the company and told them what happened and they essentially did nothing. They only terminated the man’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 09:54 PM |
| 518 | WHY are Males?I experienced this when I WORKED at a gym. Was busy racking some random guy’s weights and in front of me was a mirror. I looked in the mirror as I was standing up and lo and behold a man in his 60s is taking a picture of me as I’m bent over. Only reason I noticed he was taking a pic is because he forgot to turn his flash off. I was newly 18, working alone, and was way too scared to call him out with no one there to back me up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 09:09 PM |
| 77 | "Pretty Privilege" is just another proof guys don't care about the women they don't find attractiveThis reminds me of my high school experience. I was by no means an awkward looking teenager, but I did not receive the kind of attention from boys that other girls in my classes did. You are completely invisible if they are not attracted to you. Sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 02:37 AM |
| 59 | "My husband and I perv on women together! Aren't we so quirky and unique!?" Bonus pickme points for saying the women should have talked to him first. Communication is key ladies! I highly doubt this was the first time she mentioned liking other women's pictures but okay.“Stop beating around the bush and expecting people to read your mind”. If a guy in a monogamous relationship can’t figure out for himself why it’s tacky for him to like random ass pics on instagram, he can’t be saved | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 12:06 AM |
| 71 | Why Guys Dump Girls They DigRight. So women are collateral damage because you can’t figure out how to have an emotionally intelligent conversation with your friends? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 05:45 PM |
| 115 | Why Guys Dump Girls They DigOld cosmo article with guys explaining their reasons for suddenly breaking up with women. I find myself disappointed in new ways every day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 05:21 PM |
| 36 | What do you think about this influencer whose husband is 18 years older, and pursued her when she was 19?My old boss was 18/19 when her husband (30 at the time) began pursuing her. She said she felt like they had an instant connection as soon as they met and that’s why she fell for him so quickly. She’s now 40, and it’s clear that she has outgrown him as complains about him incessantly. She’s upset with him because she has routinely caught him watching porn videos of barely legal girls (go fucking figure) and he cannot do anything for himself (cook, clean...). Men like this are usually just stuck i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/21 11:34 PM |
| 81 | This was a reply to a woman asking for help bc her boyfriend ogles half naked Instagram photos of a woman in her friend group and even subscribed to her OF where she posts sex videosI hate when people try to make the point “at the end of the day it’s you he’s choosing”. That’s because he’d rather keep around a girl for easy access to sex while he keeps seeking out other women than be alone. It’s so incredibly naive to assume that just because men get into a relationship, that they’ll stop trying to find other women that they’d rather be with. Hell, even marriage doesn’t fucking stop them from doing that. Moral of the story, he might not be with you because “he wants to be w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 09:00 PM |
| 109 | 14-16 was when I got catcalled the mostYup, received the most catcalls walking around in my literal high school uniform | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 02:26 PM |
| 36 | 41 y.o. husband and father is upset his wife no longer wants him to spend several nights a week partying with friends now that they’re married with a childMy father was sort of like this growing up. If his child’s experience is anything like mine was, I promise she will grow to resent him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 05:49 AM |
| 16 | Too many women retreat into gender roles because they're afraid of their potential.I would never shame a woman for wanting the things that this individual wants in life, but what makes her think that everyone else shares the same longing for the “simpler times”? Being a housewife, taking care of children, and trying to maintain my looks for the sake of appearing desirable to others sounds like my personal nightmare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 12:47 AM |
| 8 | I don’t know how to feel about this...Exactly what I was thinking | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 11:42 PM |
| 74 | A pick me at my university replying to someone saying they're not comfortable with their partner watching pornI hate that all of us here who think watching porn is wrong are apparently in the minority. Even before I was mature enough to develop a moral objection to it, I still thought it was fucking gross the first time I saw it, and somehow thought I was weird for not being turned on by it. But yeah, who doesn’t love porn? 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 02:51 PM |
| 8 | Why is sexual harassment so common/tolerated in the restaurant industry?So informative! Thanks for the link | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 01:45 AM |
| 11 | Woman calmly confronts her little man baby about following other women on Instagram and inviting her over just to watch him play video games. He resorts to having a tantrum.It is fucking unfathomable to me that it is considered more unusual for a woman to expect her man not to follow/like random women on social media than it is for a man to just not do it. I can’t believe that so many young women have been convinced that this is something that they have to accept. I know that some women tolerate or even partake in stuff like this with their boyfriends, but it’s time to stop making the ones who aren’t ok with it feel like there’s something wrong with THEM. I would f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 07:52 PM |
| 126 | Our daily reminder that dating older men will get you absolutely nowhereStarts dating this woman when she was 19 years old...and is shocked that she has since changed her mind on marriage and kids..? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 12:44 PM |
| 85 | "A garbage collector? Give him a bar of Irish Spring and marry him."This reminds me of how men only use evolutionary psychology arguments when it works in their favour. Evolutionarily speaking it would benefit women to go for guys with status who can offer them stability. But apparently this is too hurtful for men, so women should lower their standards! But then a second later they’ll turn around and justify 50 year old men trying to fuck barely legal women because “We VaLuE yOuTh AnD fErTiLiTy!!!!! We can’t help it it’s evolution!!!!!!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 03:10 AM |
| 3 | Men seem to have a creepy level obsession with women’s fertility.Oh god don’t tell this to Stefan Molyneux | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 11:39 AM |
| 14 | Hating on your own gender to make men like you...I feel so bad for women who have so clearly never had any true female friends. I hope this girl is ok lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:59 PM |
| 11 | Men claim they want straightforwardness, no games, and honesty but subconsciously they don’t. Anyone have experience with this?Story of one of my first experiences with OLD: I had been chatting with a guy on tinder for a few weeks. He asked for my number, so we had been texting. I had a busy work week that week and hardly answered him, but he worked to keep the conversation alive. He mentioned that he was going to a cottage that weekend and wanted to send me some pictures and to add him on Snapchat. I did. Still, I was hardly answering him. A couple of days later, he asks me out on a date. I say yes, and we agree on the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 04:06 AM |
| 16 | Read receipts = automatic LVM?I personally keep mine on. If I’m at work I might open a message quickly and become sidetracked doing something else before I can reply. If my read receipts are on at least the person knows I read the message even if I haven’t sent one back yet. I also don’t mind when guys keep them on. I just like to know when my messages have been seen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 06:13 PM |
| 25 | Got ghosted...Kind of dealing with something similar. Communication with this guy just totally fizzled out and he hasn’t reached out in over a week. It sucks but please just try to remind yourself that a guy who doesn’t have the courtesy to tell you up front what he is thinking is not a guy you want to keep around. You deserve openness and honesty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 04:21 AM |
| 24 | Are men really biologically hardwired to want to look at other women?I really don’t think this is something women have to tolerate. He’s 19, he’s grown enough to have full control over his behaviour. Part of the beauty of being human is not being subservient to every single biological urge we have. I’m pretty sure this has been discussed on this sub before, but weren’t all of us brought up to not stare at other people in public? Sure it’s normal to be attracted to other people even if you are in a relationship, but the leering/staring at other people is just disr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 10:31 PM |
| 7 | I feel so bad for this girl. I hope she finds us.I’m so fucking happy that I never dealt with this kind of bullshit in high school. At the time I felt like I was missing out on experiences with guys, but waiting until I got to college to date turned out to be of great benefit for me. I was less naive and unsurprised at all the ways men would disappoint me. It did suck watching my friends get their lives turned upside down by awful guys just like this one throughout their teens though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 05:00 PM |
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