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cvbnjk/r/askTRP25/09/20 02:45 PM
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cvbnjk/r/askTRP18/07/20 05:52 PM
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I think the key is to think: "I am enough now. But I want to be better tomorrow for my own sake. Because I have goals and they aren't finished yet."
/r/askTRP27/09/20 06:17 PM
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She more or less straight up asked me out
/r/askTRP27/09/20 05:45 PM
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Yeah you're probably right on all counts... She messaged me again at midnight last night flat out asking me to hang out and she also replied to my insta story (again) Kind of throwing herself at me, I'm a bit surprised lol And yeah the scarcity mentality was there for good reason but has drastically decreased over the last few years (still there though I'm working on it)
/r/askTRP27/09/20 03:37 PM
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Yeah I could just not respond to her and ignore her. But I'd rather try to keep her interested and on the backburner like she did to me for the past year.
/r/askTRP27/09/20 01:13 PM
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I agree, this is probably the best method. I have an update: at midnight last night, she now flat out asked me if I wanted to hangout...like a direct invitation. She also responded to my instagram story (again). So how do you suggest keeping her on the backburner? What sort of breadcrumbs to leave her?
/r/askTRP27/09/20 01:12 PM
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Yeah agreed, very true. Got a lot of thinking to do on how to best handle it. Want to keep her interested and on the backburner, like how she did to me
/r/askTRP27/09/20 01:11 PM
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Yeah definitely won't make me a billy beta. Update: at midnight last night, she now flat out asked me if I wanted to hangout... But I'm just wondering on best way to handle this so that she stays interested in me. After all, at this point, it's already been a year since we first started texting... Safe to say I wasn't her top choice back then So now that she's texted me again, how to proceed so I can keep her interested...
/r/askTRP27/09/20 01:10 PM
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That was definitely the case, but I have an update: at midnight last night, she now flat out asked me if I wanted to hangout...
/r/askTRP27/09/20 01:07 PM
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How did you guys meet? And what has made you stay together for so long?
/r/askTRP23/09/20 04:56 PM
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This is normal man, it takes time. Don't give up and keep at it. For men, even the highest SMV men, it's a numbers game. I understand how you feel, I've been in that same position asking tons of girls for their numbers only for many of them to not respond in text I would just say keep going, increase the numbers of women you approach, wait a day or two before texting them and text them something different or random, not just asking when they're free. With this you're trying to be unpredictable i…
/r/askTRP22/09/20 01:05 PM
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Let me just start by saying you are on the right path. Every man has been where you are now and they've overcome it. So you shall as well. Girls lose their viriginities at an earlier age for obvious reasons, don't compare yourself to them. But you are on the right path, don't give up, and continue on that path. Imagine you go through hell working out, approaching dozens of girls, getting tons of rejections - imagine how much stronger you'll come out the other side The girl who lost her virginity…
/r/askTRP05/08/20 04:43 PM
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I experienced this with a girl who blocked me for 3 months when we were together since her father passed away. When she unblocked me, she sent me a message, which I ignored. Then she sent another one, and I responded to that like 2 days later. The point being she did not want to hook up but "give me closure" or some dumb thing like that. Overall the advice is good, esp if she's looking for a way to come over, but even if she doesn't - mention it once (a hangout) when she reaches back out. If she…
/r/TheRedPill30/07/20 12:44 PM
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Yeah I don't think it's the possessiveness necessarily but more so the assertiveness as other commenter(s) have said Because the possessiveness can turn into jealousy and mateguarding which TRP says you should not do. Another thing is that this is something girls think they like based on movies they've seen or books they've read. Even the books written by female authors or movies written by female screenwriters, have these alpha high SMV man with possessiveness or jealousy issues that girls fall…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/20 03:34 PM
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How do you even meet or find these girls?
/r/askTRP24/07/20 05:28 PM
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Yes I definitely agree with your notes above, and actually prior to asking I had scoured TRP and AskTRP for what people had said and commented previously It seems to me that everyone falls into two camps: 1.) don't say anything about boundaries or limits at all because you shouldn't have to since you are a high value man, and you don't care, and you're pursuing your mission. she should understand the boundaries and if she strays, you drop her and next bc she's not LTR material or 2.) say your bo…
/r/TheRedPill23/07/20 07:48 PM
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How does one differentiate between mateguarding/jealousy versus setting boundaries in your opinion? Plus in this day and age, women have more options than ever: whether it's a "guy friend" she's known for years or the random guy that approached her at a bar
/r/TheRedPill23/07/20 01:54 PM
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"Depends on what I'm in the mood for" or just don't say anything
/r/askTRP22/07/20 07:32 PM
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Hi /u/UEMcGill, thank you for the great advice, been dealing with a situation myself and trying to figure out next best steps for me. I've received some great advice from you and other a couple other sage TRP experts from some stuff I posted You can read my post history if you'd like for the details. But trying to figure out what to do next and if I should go snooping around in her past/let her past get to me/take up my mind before committing fully to LTR. I'm afraid if I don't do that ("snoop" …
/r/askTRP22/07/20 06:44 PM
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Based on her past behavior and personality, probably didn't need to mention "would like to get to know you more, see where it goes". I feel like that would seem beta-adjacent to a girl like her But not too bad really
/r/askTRP22/07/20 06:04 PM
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I know that now, and that's what sucks in hindsight. I should've just said "ok" and not contacted her at all after that I kind of cringe at the memory for a variety of reasons, but mostly because I clearly made the wrong moves which I only realize now. Thanks for the advice mate. These lessons are very harsh
/r/askTRP22/07/20 05:14 PM
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I've been in this exact situation years ago and alcohol didn't really help. Well, I drank a fuck ton so it had the opposite effect aka whiskey dick. If you're gonna drink, have ONE drink to calm the nerves. But I'd even suggest to trust yourself and try without the alcohol. If you're living a healthy lifestyle and decently active, your body will respond on its own... As for escalation, start off small, like touching her hand or arm. Or playfully poke her nose or sum sht. Then escalate to small o…
/r/askTRP22/07/20 04:09 PM
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Yeah that makes sense, I've learned that the hard way. Still figuring out what to do with this girl. I think I will make things official, as a way to test her to see if she stops her behavior, and also she's bent over backwards for me in the last 7 months. But I will set boundaries from the get-go if we become official. Like things I'm not comfortable with (alone time with a guy, any form of flirting, staying out til 1-2 am). So not telling her what to do, just setting boundaries, drawing a line…
/r/askTRP22/07/20 04:01 PM
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I am in a very similar situation man and I'm not sure what to make of it. You can read my post history if you'd like, but I kept running into this girl last year who had a BF at the time. But I'd see her hanging out at the bar with her best friend (without her boyfriend) and stuff every now and then. We didn't do anything while we randomly ran into each other. Not kiss, not dance, etc. Eventually we exchanged instas and she broke up with her BF and started things with me. And it's been like this…
/r/askTRP22/07/20 03:57 PM
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That's the ideal response, and one that I see TRP advocate everywhere but...it's a very difficult state to achieve where as a man you're in that position. Make ton more money, much higher SMV, fucking way hotter girls. It's very difficult and it's only getting harder because girls have gone from being the selectors -> myspace -> facebook -> twitter/instagram/youtube -> patreon/onlyfans. I mean the amt of messages and attention and validation they receive today is ridic, and the constant dopamine…
/r/askTRP22/07/20 03:41 PM
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This happened to me once, where the girl broke up (by saying she needed a break since her father had just died - understandable), but in essence she abruptly broke up with me. I became a beta faggot by trying to plead and reason with her, which I'm sure hardened her decision all the more. Logic can't trump emotion But I cut off contact, didn't say anything and she reached out after 3 months of blocking me. She unblocked me and then texted me. She agreed to meet (and to this day we only just met …
/r/askTRP22/07/20 03:29 PM
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When women tend to become dissatisfied in the relationship they up the brattiness. They see you as failing to lead, they lose attraction, etc. So they start to treat you with contempt. How do you ensure women don't become dissatisfied to the point they are bratty? I'm reading NMMNG, but it's hard be mentally strong and disassociate my value as a man to her. I've gotten better but not there yet.
/r/askTRP22/07/20 03:19 PM
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What should you do if she reaches out after 3 months or after 2 years? It might not be because she wants to get back together It could just be a test to see if you're still interested in her or pining over her
/r/askTRP22/07/20 03:08 PM
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What should you do if she reaches out after 3 months or after 2 years? It might not be because she wants to get back together It could just be a test to see if you're still interested in her or pining over her
/r/askTRP22/07/20 02:48 PM
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I've been wondering the same thing. I was just asking a couple TRP experts the same question. How do you set boundaries without coming off as mateguarding and jealousy? I think I understand now - not 100%, but a bit better than I did before Setting boundaries is more about you, what you're comfortable with and drawing the line. Mateguarding makes it about her and telling her what to do in a situation where you feel threatened or lack abundance (when you shouldn't be in that business) So what you…
/r/askTRP22/07/20 02:38 PM
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Thank you Uncle Vas, this has definitely really helped. Hopefully I maintain frame One last question: how do I set boundaries without it coming off as mateguarding or jealousy? Like sure I can be happy go-lucky all the time as if nothing fazes me but she might take that to mean weakness and she can flirt with whoever
/r/askTRP21/07/20 01:15 PM
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Yep, she's mentioned being into it and I've ordered some bondage stuff off Amazon. So what do I do now? Do I check her phone again to make sure I can trust her? I don't really want to be in the business of doing that but I want to make sure for my own sake before committing to be in a relationship....and you know, it could be I don't find anything But when I checked her phone Friday night, she even told this acquaintance male friend of hers that she was going to a party rather than saying she wa…
/r/askTRP20/07/20 06:26 PM
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So how do you beat this, as a man? Like how do you conduct yourself, so you ensure it never happens to you? I mean yes, there's the sidebar, but just curious like what are the most important points to remember or guidelines to follow?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/20 06:21 PM
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One other quick thing in addition to my other reply above is she mentioned to me she was sexually assaulted 10-11 years ago And she also mentioned: sometimes she doesn't feel safe (physically safe) because of that and it gets her in a depressed mood. It's very rare though. But she said I make her feel safe, and that I'm the only one she's told about this sexual assault. But I'm getting a lot of warning flags around these statements Like if she doesn't feel physically safe sometimes because of he…
/r/askTRP20/07/20 05:40 PM
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Thanks man. Was there anything you did or you said, you think? Or you think it was inevitable that it happened? I'm considering a relationship, but I found out something recently about this girl (see my post history if you want) by trusting my gut so now I'm not sure if I want to enter into one
/r/askTRP20/07/20 05:36 PM
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Yea I guess if she wanted commitment sooner than later, she might have dropped subtle hints like "what are we" or "where is this going" but even if she did that, she could've still been flirting with other guys. Like even if she brought up commitment, nothing prevents her from flirting with other guys until I commit And she's spending entire weekends with me. Legit Friday - Sunday night 11 pm. So I've never had a reason to question her til now
/r/askTRP20/07/20 05:32 PM
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That's true, she might have dropped subtle hints like "what are we" or "where is this going" but even if she did that, she could've still been flirting with other guys. Like even if she brought it up, nothing prevents her from flirting with other guys until I commit Well she's spending entire weekends with me. Legit Friday - Sunday night 11 pm. So I've never had a reason to question her til now
/r/askTRP20/07/20 04:31 PM
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It's increasingly difficult. And it's worse with the younger chicks, the chicks now just hitting 18-22, because they grew up with social media and everybody constantly telling them how special and beautiful and amazing they are 24/7
/r/askTRP20/07/20 01:03 PM
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How long into the relationship was it when you found out? And were there any signs or just your gut instinct?
/r/askTRP20/07/20 12:46 PM
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Yeah agreed very likely have oneitis and didn't even occur to me to think of that In the last couple months, I was actually talking to 3 other girls. I've since stopped talking to them as much since I spent more time with this one girl I mention in the OP. But out of those 3, I know 2 that are still pretty interested I think the girl I'm with now could've asked me but maybe she was afraid to and didn't want to rock the boat. Because I haven't discussed or told her what I want and she was afraid …
/r/askTRP20/07/20 12:37 PM
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In the last couple months, I was actually talking to 3 other girls. I've since stopped talking to them as much since I spent more time with this one girl I mention in the OP. But out of those 3, I know 2 that are still pretty interested I think she could've asked me but maybe she was afraid to and didn't want to rock the boat. Because I haven't discussed or told her what I want and she was afraid to bring it up
/r/askTRP20/07/20 12:33 PM
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Hi /u/VasiliyZaitzev, thank you very much. Your reply was a lot more helpful. There were other replies saying demote to plate, and I mean she was a plate before all this right. Being a plate is what created this situation in a sense. I've read in other TRP posts, that if this is the case, the expectation should be she flirts with other guys, because I am doing the same thing with spinning other girls/plates/flirting with them. I don't want her to be obvi, but if we're not official, then I can't …
/r/askTRP20/07/20 12:29 PM
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She never sent me any pics until after she broke up with her ex I get what you are saying. But how long should I have made her wait? It's been like 7 months or longer by this point. Neither of us getting any younger lol At some point she's gonna wonder right? Where this is going? And she might feel bitter or hurt or something by the fact i haven't asked her to be my GF
/r/askTRP18/07/20 08:19 PM
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I see what you're saying but this girl has been doing everything for me and bending over backwards for me. Spending entire weekends with me, giving me her entire body (and i mean everything), sex on tap but it's just been so long now that I haven't asked her to be my GF that....maybe she's wondering where this is going. Isn't that fair of her to think so? She's doing all this stuff, giving everything to me, spending all this time with me, and I'm not even asking her to be official...and she's se…
/r/askTRP18/07/20 07:03 PM
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Yea that's exactly what I've been doing but it's been like so many months now. I wanted her to bring it up, but actually I don't think certain types of girls will bring it up. Not every girl will have the courage to say "hey want to be my BF" just as most girls don't have the courage to ask their LTR to marry them - and why the guy does it
/r/askTRP18/07/20 07:00 PM
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Fair, fair. My go-to has been approaching in person (day or nighttime), but can't really do that cuz of Covid. How does one game in times of Covid? Everything I've seen involves social media and dating apps, and they're...just...so bad And I'm not a girl, so unfortunately I don't have hundreds of DMs from the opposite sex who just want to fk me
/r/askTRP18/07/20 06:58 PM
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I get that too, I see what you're saying. Situation is difficult with Covid and I'm actually swamped with work and studying. Just have had no time
/r/askTRP18/07/20 06:50 PM
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I see what you're saying but this girl has been doing everything for me and bending over backwards for me. Spending entire weekends with me, giving me her entire body (and i mean everything), sex on tap but it's just been so long now that I haven't asked her to be my GF that....maybe she's wondering where this is going. She is a plate currently and was doing all the things that would've caused me to promote to LTR. But I delayed in doing that, it's been many months now. Maybe I could've avoided …
/r/askTRP18/07/20 06:46 PM
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