cyberperson Archive

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1	Common dating advice straight up doesn’t work for the average guy struggling with dating A guy can't really know whether he is capable of attracting a women until he has worked on these things. It's like a person who has been overweight and sedentary not really being able to know whether they can run a marathon in a certain time until they have actually started training and trying for a while. Maybe it's not true for you, but there a lots of guys who don't have an accurate assessment of their potential and what women are attracted to. It was like that for me for sure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/26 10:49 AM
1	The term "ran-though" needs to end. There can only be one (my) dick!	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 04:05 PM
0	The term "ran-though" needs to end. It might come from jealousy or bitterness, but it's a valid term to express a certain sentiment towards women who had a lot of partners in their past without getting any of them to commit long term and are now beyond their prime. It's cruel, lacking of compassion and I don't use it myself, but it puts into a word a real perception both men and women have about a kind of archetype. It's similar to Fuckboy, "Peter Pan" syndrome or Napoleon complex in that sense, both of which terms are describing …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 04:00 PM
2	“Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex. Because they want to feel desired physically as well, which would mean that the transaction is closer to both parties enjoying physical intimacy with someone they feel sexual attracted to on some levels. Realizing that the woman isn't really into them (or sex in general) and just has sex because of something else she wants out of the relationship, is hurtful and a threat to their self-worth. Don't you understand? It's similar to what women might experience if a guy is just nice to them because t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 12:20 PM
2	“Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex. We all want to be loved unconditionally, like we ideally were by our parents as kids. The reality about most romantic relationships, and even friendships but in other ways, is that there are conditional and transactional aspects to them. And for romantic relationships sexual attraction, including physical, is part of it for most people. Regardless of that you deserve to be loved. I would suggest not mainly depending on men for that but also diversifying your social resources, investing in same-s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 12:02 PM
1	“Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex. > takes relatively little effort to accomplish? All of that combined is a lifelong effort, even for people who are willing and able. It's relative. It's much less effort than a 40h workweek or just the general responsibilities we have as adults. Grooming and basic body care for example take me not more than 15-30 Minutes a day. Many women I know put in 1h+ because they know how much of a difference it makes and how much people treat them differently based on their looks. I'm just aspiring to do …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 11:25 AM
1	“Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex. Okay, you are free to remain experiencing your reality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 11:16 AM
0	“Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex. I feel you, it's definitely more of a struggle for an average guy who isn't tall. Have you seen this video by Orion Taraban (more of a Red Pill Dude), maybe it can add some perspective to not let it turn you bitter or hopeless: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dR7T-xFpPoA (it's about how there's a real unfairness regarding height and how men can still win and be very attractive when they are short)	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 11:12 AM
1	“Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex. That's valid and it's true that life is unfair in many ways, some of which are in our favor and some of which are against. - Are very short, thin men with weak jaws seen as less physically attractive by most women? Yes. - Are very tall, fat women with masculine features seen as less physically attractive by most men? Yes. - Does the average man have a harder time attracting women merely by his looks? Yes. I'm not sure whether I buy the point about media glorification brainwashing with regards to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 11:09 AM
2	“Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex. You don't because most women can get sex very easily (plus it's more risky for women, both physically/biologically and when it comes to bad experiences), so they start valuing these other aspects more. That's just true for everything, that we value what is easily accessible less than what is scarce and hard to come by. If you talk to women who are deprived of someone desiring them physically at all (they also exist) you will find them expressing similar sentiments to many men. Also consider that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 09:57 AM
0	“Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex. That's fair, I wasn't addressing their point directly (men suffering emotional pain from not feeling desired), but more an implicit question I added myself: "why aren't some men desired physically and what could they do change that with relatively little effort?" It's like someone describing the suffering of homeless people in the cold winters and then another person (like me here) saying how there are jobs they could apply for or efforts they could make or pointing to the existence of shelters.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 08:53 AM
1	“Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex. Lmao, no benefit for women? Sexual intimacy is a strong desire and need for hetero sexual women as well, not just men. There are many mental and physical benefits to it in itself. This whole attitude of there needing to be another transactional aspect to get out of it is part of the problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 08:20 AM
-3	“Men want love too” until you explain that relationships should NOT be seen as the cost of sex. Do you do all the stuff that women (and many men as well) do to be desired though? Like taking care of your body and hair, working out and paying attention to your appearance? Developing competence in areas of your interest, socials skills etc. (not talking online but in person). If you're healthy, fit, confident (and not old) many women of birthing age (in case you want kids/family) will find you attractive. It's nothing special and something natural, just like men finding young, healthy women …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/26 08:16 AM