cyclura Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
9	If you're like me and like to see fleshed-out examples of the theories taught here, here's a nice example of a well-paced opening conversation on Juggler's blog.		cyclura	/r/seduction	11/07/12 08:14 PM
0	A good refresher-course from /r/AskReddit on the understandable reasons why attractive women often come off as cold and unapproachable.		cyclura	/r/seduction	09/11/11 02:10 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
26	7 things I discovered from Abercrombie & Fitch "Your arms are delightfully fuzzy. Like a summer peach. Do you wax them?"	/r/seduction	07/08/12 12:38 AM
3	To PUA's: Are you happy? Good explanation, frogma.	/r/seduction	18/07/12 06:39 PM
2	If you want a crash course in life, social skills and confidence... go travel solo for a long period of time. Peru was the first place I ever saw girls cat-calling a guy walking down the street, (it was my cousin, and he's a handsome devil). I also got my butt pinched by a bunch of schoolgirls as they scooted by me, getting off a crowded bus. It was damn refreshing.	/r/seduction	17/07/12 09:11 PM
2	If you want a crash course in life, social skills and confidence... go travel solo for a long period of time. I found the bar & club scene in Cusco to be the easiest pick-up environment of any city I've been to. I had luck with the local Cusqueñas, the girls from Lima on vacation, and even some European girls - all on the same night. Every night. Being American, one difference that struck me immediately was how bold the Peruvian girls were with eye-contact. You would spot a girl across the bar, she would lock eyes with you, then she wouldn't break eye contact until you walked over and talked to her or a…	/r/seduction	17/07/12 07:36 PM
1	Wondering whether you should ask a girl out? I'm still agreeing with you, frogma. And yeah, maybe worrying about future break-ups is over-thinking it. If I had to boil it down, I'd say, concentrate on making friends with the women at work first. If your primary concentration is on dating, that puts undue pressure on them and you. However, if you are already comfortable with a co-worker as a friend, then you can better judge whether you want to ask her out. The more women friends you have at your office, the better your options. And if she …	/r/seduction	09/07/12 10:23 PM
2	Wondering whether you should ask a girl out? I agree. I don't have an issue with dating women at work (and had a great long-term relationship with a co-worker), but I think you first need to ask yourself some hard questions: Q: Do my breakups usually end amicably or badly. Q: Have I remained on good terms with my exes? Q: Have I reached a level of maturity that would let me see an ex-girlfriend day after day, even if she is dating someone else? Q: Have women in the past accused me of coming on too strong? Of acting like a stalker? Of makin…	/r/seduction	09/07/12 09:34 PM
2	Make drinks. Get ladies. Have teh secks. And if you want to take your home bar to the next level, may I suggest this book: Beachbum Berry Remixed, which contains hundreds of exotic cocktail recipes, (mostly rum-based), from the heyday of Polynesian bars in the 1950s & 60s. There are some incredibly complex drinks in here for the sophisticated palate, and ladies tend to like fruity rum cocktails as well.	/r/seduction	29/06/12 06:41 PM
26	[FR]If I was a cross-dresser... 2 #-closes, F-close You're not leaving any girls for the rest of the poor Joes at the bar.	/r/seduction	28/06/12 09:45 PM
2	Was just flaked on (practically stood up) by a girl for our first date. Confidence is shocked. What to do/say back to her? Pretty much this. Once you've got a lot of dates under your belt, you realize that flakes are a normal part of the game. Women flake... not all the time, but frequently. And it's not personal - there's a million different reasons they do it. I remember the first woman that stood me up and how offended I was. I acted like a hurt little girl. But after reading some knowledgeable seduction authors and getting more experience, I learned that the best thing to do is not let it faze you at all. Women …	/r/seduction	28/06/12 06:35 PM
7	Logistics of Living in the Suburbs Yeah, that's the kicker. When you're dating a woman, a 30-minute drive to the burbs is nothing, but when first meeting her it requires a different game-plan. (I live about 40 minutes from Hollywood and 20 minutes from downtown L.A. myself). The options I've used so far: Get her to take you home to HER place. Presupposes, of course, that you've built strong attraction. She almost has to have asked, "Let's go somewhere" and you say, "I live 40 minutes away. Let's go to your place." Some guys are s…	/r/seduction	19/06/12 11:02 PM
5	Seddit, how do I build a social network? I'd love to have one. When I was your age, I got lucky in that one of my childhood neighbor friends was hooked into a large social circle of over 100 other friends that he went to Sci-Fi conventions with. He eventually introduced me into this network via his wedding (I was his Best Man), and it took off from there. That circle was largely responsible for helping me build my social skills and getting my first girlfriends, so I know the value of having a good network of friends. It also made life so much sweeter, havin…	/r/seduction	14/06/12 11:00 PM
2	I'll be your target. I'm would never change my lifestyle for a girl. I would; only to become a better version of myself. I agree with the sentiment but like testmypatience, I don't think the two motives have to be mutually exclusive. I find one of my great motivators when I get home from work in the evening is to think to myself: "What would I be doing right now if I was married to a smart, funny, beautiful "10" woman?" Would I be plopping down on the sofa with some fast-food to watch 2 hours of television? Probably…	/r/seduction	01/06/12 12:49 AM
6	Desperate ex-girlfriends... My ex lives out-of-state now, but whenever she's in town to visit relatives, it's kinda understood that we're going to hook-up that weekend. I think ex-sex is great but I don't get hung up on it. When she leaves at the end of the weekend, I get back to dating other women. She and I never talk about our dating lives. I don't want to hear about hers and she doesn't want to hear about mine. I can display social proof and confidence in other ways. My suggestion would be to stop talking about your lo…	/r/seduction	25/05/12 09:03 PM
1	A way to get her to (accidently) open you. I think you're right. My approaches tend to be situational, and though I do use some routines repeatedly, they're usually my own. My struggle is maintaining the mindset of "be opening all the time". In fact, just reading what I wrote about that Trader Joe's incident, put me in the right frame of mind again to approach 3 women on my walk over to the company cafeteria and at the cafeteria itself. I used some situational comedy and role-play, and guess what? All three women flirted back with me. Bu…	/r/seduction	22/05/12 07:49 PM
10	A way to get her to (accidently) open you. One time when I was in line to pay at Trader Joe's, a woman accidentally dropped her basket and an onion went rolling across the floor into my foot. Luckily I had just been thinking about how many attractive women there were at Trader Joe's and why wasn't I approaching any of them, so I was in the right mind-frame to say, "Oh, so that's how you meet men at Trader Joe's, is it? You roll onions at them. That's very cute." This made her bust up laughing because she was already embarrassed at droppi…	/r/seduction	22/05/12 06:49 PM
7	How to hold a conversation??? I unknowingly say the wrong thing and push people away If only we could get Dale Carnegie to do an AMA.	/r/seduction	18/05/12 12:52 AM
6	How to hold a conversation??? I unknowingly say the wrong thing and push people away I'm not sure if she'd do it, or even if she knows about Reddit, but I would find it valuable too. Her professional job involves hosting business parties and meetings for executives, so I'm sure that's where she's practiced and honed her conversational skills.	/r/seduction	18/05/12 12:34 AM
61	How to hold a conversation??? I unknowingly say the wrong thing and push people away When having a conversation don't think of anything but what she is saying. Listen to her, process it, ask questions. Who, what, where, when, why?. Its that easy. This is really key. One of my friends has a girlfriend who is excellent at this. You can tell when she talks to you that she loves talking to you. She expertly draws out the topics you like talking about. Geeky topics that you always fear most people aren't interested in. She's always saying things like, "That is really fascinating!" or…	/r/seduction	17/05/12 09:10 PM
7	(bald guy here) What to do when other guys rub your head and try to AMOG you? I'm not surprised. It happens to me all the time as well. I'm bald on top and front, so I shave the rest of my head at the lowest setting on my electric razor once or twice a week, so that I have a nice soft fuzz on the sides and back - something ala Jason Statham, but without his good looks. I've embraced my baldness now and use it all the time to get the girl to start the kino-escalation. Like you, I'll be talking to a group of people and some guy, (friend or otherwise) will come by and rub my…	/r/seduction	28/04/12 12:26 AM
2	A (Not So) Quick Guide to Teasing, Pt. 2 I think extremely obvious, over-the-top sexism works well as a teasing tool. When I'm among a group of women and they're talking about school or their studies, I like to break in and say something like: "I think they made a mistake letting women go to college. Don't get me wrong - I think they should teach women the numbers 1-100 and the letters A to D so they can handle their age and bra size, but that's it!" Then make your escape as they start chasing you. Or put up your hands in a mock boxing…	/r/seduction	27/04/12 07:47 PM
4	[FR] Don't buy girls drinks.. lesson learned! I'm sure you're right. She's still too attractive not to have a guy back home. The difference now is that I don't want to know about it and don't care.	/r/seduction	19/04/12 01:22 AM
16	[FR] Don't buy girls drinks.. lesson learned! My marriage was a typical textbook case of everything you've read not to do here on seddit. I attracted her initially by doing all the correct alpha-male stuff without knowing what I was doing: I had an interesting life, I was funny, cocky, made her laugh, and chastised her when she misbehaved. She was fairly wild and looking for a strong male leader in her life who could keep her in line and thought I was that guy. Our first argument didn't occur until we were engaged and I caved-in to her comp…	/r/seduction	19/04/12 12:08 AM
25	[FR] Don't buy girls drinks.. lesson learned! Back when I was married to a hot young thing, she and I and her best friend and the best friend's husband, (who was a very cool guy) would often form a foursome and go to bars and clubs together. Eventually, the two girls would go off by themselves to talk or dance and guys would begin to gather round them, buying them drinks and flirting. I and the other husband would hang out somewhere else at the bar - having a great time ourselves, talking and watching these clueless young men doing all our …	/r/seduction	18/04/12 08:00 PM
1	A good refresher-course from /r/AskReddit on the understandable reasons why attractive women often come off as cold and unapproachable. I'm sorry - I should have said that the key insights come just below the comment I highlighted - about 4 down from the top. The part where the women start giving advice on how to constantly walk with a scowl on your face to avoid dealing with creepers.	/r/seduction	09/11/11 02:46 AM