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cynical-mage/r/MensRights05/10/18 05:47 PM
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Run like your balls are on fire, dude!
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/25 09:57 PM
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That's what will carry through; despite whatever, she loved them, as do you. Knowing that will help the healing process for you all, I suspect 🫂
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 03:10 PM
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The firsts are always the hardest after a major loss, poor kids 😢 if you have pics or even videos, you could compile an album for them, so that they know that part of her is right here with them still for Christmas? Ofc organise therapy for them, family and individual, and just love and be there for them. You sound like a good man, and I'm glad that they have you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 12:26 PM
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Not just greedy, but stupid as well then. Checks out. I have grandkids, and if my daughter were to pass away, I'd be trying to actively support their father in making the transition as gentle as possible for them, because, y'know, their wellbeing is the priority.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 07:03 PM
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How dare they?! Those kids lost their mother, and they think cutting out their father is the correct course of action?! God, that is ridiculous. But screw them, focus on making sure your children are safe, supported, loved through this awful, massive change.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 06:24 PM
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Common areas only, though. Last thing he needs is for the crazy to be able to accuse him of being a perv. God, I really hate this sort of behaviour.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 07:28 PM
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They're a pretty decent bunch in my experience, and it's definitely helpful for perspective for both genders imo. They pull each other out of 'woman = bad' spirals, and uplift and encourage one another to be their best selves. And you are spot on; ditch this witch, because when you have kids, you are a parent first and foremost. It's such a bugbear of mine. If you don't want to deal with stepkids, don't get involved with men/women who have children. Pure evil to try pushing them out, you know?
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/25 11:17 PM
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I suspect that, male or female, we are subconsciously 'trained' to normalise or downplay fucked up dynamics and behaviour, first within our own families, which then makes us more vulnerable to awful partners, who then refine the whole process. Your normal-meter is set waaaaay off, and some people can, and will, prey on that. Gently escalating ofc, and you rationalise it; it's not as bad as xyz, and then you become trauma bonded and afraid of the unknown, of being unloved and alone and worthless,…
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/25 07:55 PM
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Get your head in the game right now. Your kids need you so much, in ways you can't even imagine, for what lies ahead. Everything she's doing will reflect poorly legally speaking, and I personally wouldn't risk letting such young kids travel to a different country (how would that even work? Unsupervised, other than a flight attendant? Or her flying in and then accompanying them?), with potential language barriers, unable to give authorities contact details in the event of eg an accident, unable t…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 11:16 AM
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Too much damage is done when either unsettled doubts worm in, or secrets are outed down the line. Here are the facts, testing done as standard, is better and more fair for all concerned.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 11:18 PM
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Every person should know where they came from and who they created. As long as it's done with sensitivity and transparency, I can't see why not?
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 11:13 PM
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I wouldn't leave just yet. Where will you be going afterwards? This is incredibly important. You will need to have, not just adequate, but damn near perfect accommodation moving forwards; moving in with relatives could be seen as you having familial support, or too overcrowded for the kids. Appropriate number of bedrooms, or you won't be meeting their needs. Location, kids need stability, especially during divorce; if it's too far, too much travel, pulling them away from familiar surroundings an…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 10:20 PM
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Noooooooo! Do not do this! Male or female, keep the higher ground morally - just quietly get your ducks in a row, get your affairs in order during their affair, evidence, legal advice and representation, all that stuff. Doing the same shit would only put weapons in the hands of the enemy.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 11:38 PM
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It's better to get out of a bad marriage, no matter the expense, than to throw away happiness and the rest of your life. If you share kids, focus on being a great and involved parent. It's a better example for them than being raised in a toxic or miserable two parent home.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 08:26 PM
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You're better off without her. Concentrate on being a decent, stable, emotionally as well as physically available father to your children, because they are going to need you. She is going to self destruct massively in the not too distant future, and it's going to be an absolute shit show.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 11:26 PM
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It won't look great for custody either, she's compromising the level and standard of care, not to mention adding stress and insecurity to their child when a smoother transition during divorce is best, just to screw him over.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 12:24 PM
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If you aren't compatible, it is what it is. You're spot on with not bringing kids into the mix; they put incredible stress on even the most stable and healthy relationships. A good long-term relationship ought to be a partnership. Doesn't matter who does what, as long as it's something both want, both agree to, and both working together for the good of 'us'. Doesn't sound like you have that.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 05:42 PM
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That's one positive, assuming she has nothing that could corroborate her version of him being the violent one. Withholding the daughter may also tread into parental alienation territory, but not until/unless he is shown not to pose a threat? Financially, she'd be entitled to a certain standard of living to which she'd become accustomed, but if the assets are tied up in businesses, costs, employees rather than merely properties, and something he built, he owned,.way before she turned up, surely t…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 08:52 AM
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Is there any documentation of her inflicting harm, any kind of report or paper trail? Have you checked the security of premarital assets with the lawyer?
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 08:37 AM
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I'm glad the stuff from my youth fell out of practice (you name it, it could be used as a weapon, and nobody in authority questioned what went on behind closed doors), but it's sadly all too common now for parents to want to be their child's friend first and foremost, and sadly no accountability. Got to have balance I think. Support them, but also raise them to be functioning adults.
/r/MensRights12/04/22 10:24 AM
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I've raised 4 kids lol and frankly, I'm glad I'm finished with it. Approved parenting methods and 'rules' are very different these days....
/r/MensRights12/04/22 08:18 AM
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Might work for a kid, not so much for a spouse. And would be more abusive than nagging.
/r/MensRights12/04/22 07:47 AM
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Your last paragraph is spot on. Not just society per se, but various forms of media. There seems to be a romanticised concept of what happy ever after is 'supposed' to entail.
/r/MensRights11/04/22 06:22 PM
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Life is about change, growth, learning, not just stagnation and remaining set in stone though. Maybe x behaviour was fine, but an outward change means that adaptation is required. Might not be the fault of either party, but sometimes shit simply happens. You raise a valid point that too many go into relationships while disregarding the nature of the other person, trying to squash another human being into the dream perfect partner built in your mind is doomed to misery and failure 100%.
/r/MensRights11/04/22 05:57 PM
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Asking someone to tidy up after themselves within a relationship, and more importantly, in a shared living space isn't entitled imo. If someone went into somebody else's home and started that, then absolutely yes, that's entitled and crossing all kinds of lines and boundaries. But when you live together, it's not unreasonable to work together in maintaining things, and that doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. Would you tell a roommate that them expecting you to clean your dirty dishes …
/r/MensRights11/04/22 05:24 PM
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So what is your solution? Say, for example, you ask your child to put away their toys when they've finished with them. They say they will, but they don't. You remind them, and then they do that time. Next time, the toys are left out. Again, you tell them to put them away, which they begrudgingly do. And rinse and repeat. Toys are played with, but never put back unless you nag them. You can switch out the hypothetical child with a wife that leaves cosmetics all over the place, or a husband that l…
/r/MensRights11/04/22 04:00 PM
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That's the crux of the matter; is it relentless, needless nagging? Or is it a failure of one partner to take on board the attempts of communication from the other?
/r/MensRights11/04/22 02:00 PM
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Sometimes exes can eventually build bridges to at least be on friendly acquaintance level, but that takes a whole lot of time, and both making a conscious effort. My in laws had a terrible break up, awful games and pettiness that they dragged my husband and bil through. Hideous. But both eventually let the bitterness go for the sake of the grandkids. Your ex isn't there yet, so don't call her. Maybe a text, then she can respond or not, her choice whether to engage.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/21 07:39 PM
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I'd suggest also looking into therapy. This will at least show that you're exhausting every avenue in regards to this marriage, be that to re-engage, or how to amicably split, how to help the kids through a difficult transition. It shows responsibility, fatherly actions with kids welfare at the forefront. She's trying to discredit you, tarnish your reputation, and damage your relationship with the kids. This will counter that, be beneficial to your children, and give coping mechanisms for handli…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/21 07:13 PM
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It needs to be stopped, how gm has been allowed to carry on into the 21st century is diabolical :(
/r/MensRights06/12/21 02:05 PM
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I think it has to do with severity. Oh, mgm isn't so bad, look at fgm. Now, while true, these people need to realise that both are child abuse; one being 'worse' shouldn't take away from the other. Both need to stop. Cutting bits off kids for hygiene, for culture, for religion, whatever, is monstrous.
/r/MensRights06/12/21 09:09 AM
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So fight the system, not the women. I don't know where you are (I'm UK), but that sounds bloody awful.
/r/MensRights04/03/20 11:17 AM
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It's a work in progress, honestly. But if either 'side' gets pulled into lumping the entire opposite as 'bad', round and round we go. Shitty humans and shitty behaviours need calling out.
/r/MensRights04/03/20 10:27 AM
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The sooner we all get on the same page the better. I want to live in a meritocracy. I want my kids to be valued for who they are, not given preferential treatment, nor denigrated, based on looks, genitals, money. I'd wager that you're of a similar mindset :)
/r/MensRights04/03/20 10:17 AM
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I have. I hate the way society is going. I've seen the discrimination faced by men; my husband faced it when he was a house husband (circumstances at the time, made sense for our family) from teachers at the kids school, some of the mothers. I am disgusted by the differences in how justice is dealt for men vs women. I want my daughter to be given a fair shot, which these women aren't helping, and I want my sons to be valued for who they are, not preyed upon, or lumped in with scumbags, because p…
/r/MensRights04/03/20 09:22 AM
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I will concede that the privilege exists; we've all seen it, but that doesn't mean that every single one of us takes advantage. I won't bear a burden of guilt for what others may do, I certainly wouldn't expect you to take the blame for what some men have done. Believe me when I say that the type of woman you reference, is no friend to us.
/r/MensRights04/03/20 07:25 AM
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some women. And the rest of us ladies find that type ridiculous and entitled, for what it's worth.
/r/MensRights03/03/20 05:04 PM
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It frightens me, the way society is heading :( those guilty of such vile crimes need to be punished to the fullest extent, but it's not right that those making false accusations aren't appropriately punished. Lies ruin lives, for the innocent, and for legitimate victims also :(
/r/MensRights05/10/18 05:55 PM
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