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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
0	Women who choose to remain single are viewed as empowered, men are not There's an assumption that men want casual sex and women do not. If a man stays single but is still sleeping around and is successful in other aspects of life, he's viewed as more of a player or a playboy vs an incel	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/26 07:58 PM
7	Does it Get Better for Women Over 35? Thanks! You might get some more measured responses in /r/datingoverforty or similar, I think this sub is pretty acrimonious	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/26 05:37 AM
16	Does it Get Better for Women Over 35? Women can do one night stands and they can do boyfriend/girlfriend - but friends with benefits is hard to maintain. Yeah, this makes sense. Speaking as an early 40s divorced woman myself, I am very keen on having my own space and independence and just enjoying my time with someone with no expectations. But I still want it to be a romantic relationship vs a friendship. I do feel that I'm in a good and peaceful place fwiw.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/26 05:30 AM
19	Does it Get Better for Women Over 35? Have you dated any women who are in a similar place as you (divorced and not looking for a serious relationship)?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/26 04:58 AM
2	What exactly is "the new" redpill and what is "the old"? I'm old enough to remember when TRP guys would post "field reports". Like actually leaving the house and talking to women. The controversial stuff was along the lines of negging, pushing back against "last minute resistance", spinning plates, etc	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/26 01:59 AM
–	Writing about your experience online is viable strategy for finding the right partner She sounds amazing. Did she also let you in on an incredible crypto investment opportunity?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/24 06:32 PM
5	Women have more options than men in the dating game until their 50s when the game starts to shift in favor of men commenter misrepresented what i was saying so i corrected them it's not about being old, it's that being old doesn't mean you stop caring about relationships	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 06:05 PM
3	Women have more options than men in the dating game until their 50s when the game starts to shift in favor of men IDK that I said anything about the wall either way tbh. Just that I think that commenter is inaccurate in what she thinks it feels like to be a 40s/50s woman. Practically, your dating pool will reduced to men in a similar situation who are looking for something similar. If that's "the wall" that's fine. I don't spend time worrying about men who are looking for someone to have children with or who just want to sleep with 23 year olds, and I don't put any energy into competing for their attention.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 05:43 PM
4	Women have more options than men in the dating game until their 50s when the game starts to shift in favor of men Not sure what those things might be. IDK either. Being established in your career? Having adult children who are out of the house? I don't understand what these things are that 50 year olds are supposed to be worrying about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 03:25 PM
8	Women have more options than men in the dating game until their 50s when the game starts to shift in favor of men As a woman in my forties I promise you it feels nothing like that. You've done all the hard work setting your life up, you want companionship and to enjoy it. Lots of people (men and women) have left toxic marriages and are going through healing and self-discovery, ready to form healthier relationships. Men are a lot chiller and less sex-focused. "Hitting the wall" is not so much a concern but not for the reasons you're thinking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 03:15 PM
5	Women have more options than men in the dating game until their 50s when the game starts to shift in favor of men I don’t think a lot of women are too worried about dating once they reach that age. Men die on average earlier than women anyway so women would be alone regardless if they have a man or not. Lol I realize that when you're young 50 sounds soooo ooold where men are dying off and women are just cashing in their chips and waiting for death but I promise you it doesn't feel like that at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 02:56 PM
-1	Where does the belief that women only show interest in/ have sex with men in the top 20%, but then later settle for the bottom 80% come from? It comes from guys who have zero luck with women so they extrapolate that to "80% of men share my lack of success so there's nothing I can really do about it"	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/24 09:34 PM
2	Why do men get so much hate from women nowadays when lesbians have the highest rates of divorce & domestic violence and their relationships don’t last? There is tons of lesbian drama and shit talking each other you're just not privvy to it	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/24 01:36 AM
–	Obesity and general slovenliness of the population are large factors in why people are struggling I agree with this. People need to take an honest look at their level of effort before dismissing anyone who can attract the opposite sex as the absolute top 20% of chiseled good looks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/24 01:00 AM
–	Is the fate of being settled for, unavoidable? Certainly most broad female dating advice seems centered around "playing hard to get", though my point was even in established long-term relationships I think it's something women don't think to express. I've heard a lot of guys say that they want to feel desired or pursued so I try to be mindful and say it out loud to my partner when I'm thinking it. But even then it's definitely a conscientious effort and not something I would instinctively do (I think this is mostly about societal conditionin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/24 03:56 PM
–	Is the fate of being settled for, unavoidable? Couple things: I think that far too much is made on this sub of "settling" and I don't think it reflects the reality of relationships. People tend to gravitate toward familiarity and I don't think it feels like settling if you end up with someone who isn't a ripped millionaire. Personally, when I was in the dating pool, I was just going for people like me; attractive but not hot, cares about the gym and eating healthy but not super strict about either, good job but not rich, +/- 5 years of my ag…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/24 03:09 PM
–	Is the fate of being settled for, unavoidable? This 100%. I think OP is assuming that if he was better looking, it would be a driver of spontaneous arousal in women, which I don't think is the case at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/24 02:59 PM
2	The real wall is menopause Has your doctor given you any kind of hormone panel, like a day 21 blood test or similar? DnC because they're "probably" out of whack sounds really sus...	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/24 01:24 AM
3	The real wall is menopause Unless you have a serious medical issue (say a hysterectomy) you will almost certainly have to go to a cash-only "rejuvenation" clinic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/24 12:53 AM
2	Question: If a woman asks for a divorce over emotional needs, is it okay to divorce over physical needs? Both parties should be motivated to work together to drive some form of resolution. If it becomes a standoff or ultimatum there are deeper problems which may lead to divorce.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/24 12:52 AM
15	The real wall is menopause There are so many reasons for HRT post menopause beyond looks. I don't even think that looks is the primary driver for most women who go that route.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/24 09:37 PM
3	Are older single women truly the happiest? I am early 40s, F, divorced, currently in a relationship. I would say that the happiest version of me is the me in a good relationship. But I am also capable of happiness single, and I would rather be single than in a bad or loveless relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/24 06:26 PM
1	Would you date/marry a man with no job but with income? You are planning on having enough investments at ~35 to be making $150k/year on them?? Tbh if someone told me that was his plan I would question his financial literacy. Unless you are talking about stuff like real estate flipping/landlording which, while not a 9-5, is absolutely a job.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/24 04:48 PM
4	Women cannot accurately assess the wall themselves The whole "market value" misses the point imo. Lots of people are looking for a good fit with similar life experience and compatibility. For example - lots of divorced older men with kids prefer divorced women with kids for long-term relationships, and vice versa. It isn't "settling for a low value partner". People talk about fertility as the driving characteristic for sexual attraction like there aren't whole ass porn categories for all kinds of shit that have nothing to do with fertility. I fe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/24 03:35 PM
6	Every person you date shouldn’t check off all of your boxes! I honestly have no idea what people mean by "settling". It feels like a weird way of framing relationships. Maybe the people who use that term have never experienced romantic chemistry and compatibility.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/24 05:25 AM
2	Why do red pillers completely leave out young women's preference when discussing "the wall" We all know a young hot 25 yr old is going be sexually desired by men of all ages. Most women don’t despair over this, it’s actually pointless to even dwell on the obvious. Like we tell men all the time, make the best of what you have, improve where you can and optimize your dating options to find the best partner you can get. This is exactly it. You don't have to spend time crying over the fact that some people have it better than you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 08:06 PM
7	Blue Pillers constantly respond to criticism or men venting with “well clearly your attitude/personality is why you struggle” but this makes zero sense, as venting anonymously online has absolutely nothing to do with how you interact with women/people in real life how you interact with women/people in real life i am actually assuming that the more ridiculous mindsets come from men who do not interact with women in real life, save for maybe their moms.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/24 05:00 PM
2	Modern Dating Problem: Which places does this happen regionally? Very good YouTube video essay about this: https://youtu.be/hyaftqCORT4?si=b_DL7tHBXH9Fr3Qm&t=6m	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/24 03:12 PM
1	Do most people get married just to get married? How long did you guys date? Those military marriages tend to happen within a couple months or even weeks of dating, before they know it's a shit show.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/24 04:01 AM
1	Do most people get married just to get married? Yep 100%. I think it could be innocuous if people just regarded it as a paper marriage to get benefits. But it seems like people really do just mash the accelerator on their relationship, and even having kids right away.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/24 06:23 AM
1	Do Any of You WANT An Arranged Marriage? Why? Who Should Arrange it? I'm not sure, there is a list on the Wikipedia page but it has a lot of "citation needed" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arranged_marriage_in_the_Indian_subcontinent#Match_criteria . I also only really know Indians who went to top universities and immigrated to the USA for tech jobs so my knowledge is probably biased towards those cultures/castes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/24 04:54 AM
4	Do most people get married just to get married? Well shit, I know at least one pregnant woman who is about to be unpleasantly surprised	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/24 09:16 PM
12	Do most people get married just to get married? Tell them not to get pregnant 🙃	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/24 08:14 PM
32	Do most people get married just to get married? If they get married, they get to move out of the barracks and into base housing with their wife, they get additional money, and then if they have kids they get even more money for each kid. Which in turn tends to lock those men into staying in the military because they have a family to support by the time their contract is up, and then their children are more likely to sign up. It is very much a calculated culture that pushes young people into marrying the wrong people way too early.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/24 08:05 PM
38	Do most people get married just to get married? a female acquaintance whose wedding I attended immediately started cheating on her husband once he left for a deployment (he’s in the army) People in the military are highly incentivized to get married and tend to do it extremely early into dating. What you're describing is basically the "jody" meme.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/24 07:47 PM
1	The fact that 61% of all adults in the US are lonely clearly shows that it has nothing to do with the individual, it's a problem with society Because people don't seek human companionship just to engage in novel activities together? Same reason we'd eat dinner with someone else even though we could just do it alone?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/24 03:58 PM
4	Do Any of You WANT An Arranged Marriage? Why? Who Should Arrange it? It is like getting set up if it's mutually done by both of your families, who have already done some level of vetting to make sure both families get along.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/24 06:03 PM
0	The fact that 61% of all adults in the US are lonely clearly shows that it has nothing to do with the individual, it's a problem with society I'm not a gamer so maybe there's something I don't understand. But a mentality of, "why would I go to a friends' house to play video games together when I could just do it myself at home" seems like a symptom of the greater problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/24 05:11 PM
0	The fact that 61% of all adults in the US are lonely clearly shows that it has nothing to do with the individual, it's a problem with society That's definitely a big part of it. Though when I got my first car I mostly used it to go to my job and just go to friends' houses. I think the latter (people just gathering and hanging out) is happening less with people doing more online.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/24 05:02 PM
2	Are more and more women choosing to stay single into their 30s? This. Why is this post a question for red pill?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/24 04:48 PM
2	The fact that 61% of all adults in the US are lonely clearly shows that it has nothing to do with the individual, it's a problem with society This is exactly it. When I was in high school, everyone was desperate to get a car. Now teens aren't even getting their drivers license.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/24 04:08 PM
22	Do Any of You WANT An Arranged Marriage? Why? Who Should Arrange it? I know a number of Indian people who are in arranged marriages. It's not so bad the way they approach it. There's still a vetting process and both parties have a say in desire and compatibility, but your family is involved from the start and it progresses very quickly from dating to marriage. They have apps but they call them "matrimonial apps" not "dating apps". People go into it with the expectation that there's work that goes into building a life together, as opposed to just expecting that lo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/24 04:05 PM
22	Q4M - Why do some men look down upon women who are single and child-free? If a woman is past a certain age, childfree, single, and happy about it, it obliterates the entire revenge fantasy about what happens after "the wall".	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/24 01:48 AM
4	Women have so many options that it's hard to sympathize with those who say they can't find a man. It really boggles my mind how many posts here don't think beyond dating app matches and first dates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/24 11:14 PM
4	Men shouldn't dismiss so quickly the idea that unequal distribution of housework/childcare contributes to divorces Honestly I think it is kind of a nonsense debate when it's mostly woe-is-me guys who have never lived romantically with a woman and don't have a peer group old enough to have started divorcing talking about why marriages fail	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/24 07:34 PM
2	For women who are 25 years or older, if you had to choose who is more sexually attractive—a person who is either 5 years younger or 5 years older than you—which would you choose and why?" At 25 I would have rather been with a 30 year old, at 40 I'd rather be with a 35 year old	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/24 05:45 AM
1	How big of a deal is politics in dating and the widening gender gap I feel like what we call "politics" is such a broad umbrella. I am very left-leaning, but if someone was against social programs, strongly in favor of free market economy, and believed in privatizing most government entities, I could definitely still date them even though I disagree on a lot of that. If someone is, say, extremely anti-LGBT and wants to restrict access to birth control and abortion, to me that is basic human rights infringement (I don't even think of it as politics) it would be a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/24 12:45 AM
2	Do women have a wall for men but they are too embarrassed to admit it? I am early 40s and I generally find men in their 30s most attractive. If I was going to propose a concept of "the wall" in men I'd say it's the point where they need to make a real effort to take care of themselves to continue looking good. But it doesn't take too much for men to overcome that, I just generally didn't see it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/24 05:34 PM
1	Do women have a wall for men but they are too embarrassed to admit it? most of the women guys want are taken by the time they get older That commenter self professed to having "Peter Pan syndrome". But older people don't necessarily want to avoid dating people with "baggage". A lot of it just comes from lived experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/24 05:11 PM
5	Do women have a wall for men but they are too embarrassed to admit it? Looks is just one part of attraction	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/24 05:00 PM
3	There are a lot of contradictions between criticism of women online Real traditional men don't spend their time blaming women for their dating problems Yeah, you're right - I think the word I should have reached for is "regressive". They seem more focused on rolling back women's liberation and insisting that men are systemically oppressed. As opposed to wanting a traditional relationship and thinking about their role in that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/24 04:27 PM
13	There are a lot of contradictions between criticism of women online I feel like there are people who are "red pill" because they want to have casual/sexual relationships with multiple young, attractive women, and use the "SMV" concept to think about making themselves broadly attractive for that purpose. Then it seems there are a lot of incel-types who use concepts like SMV to say "this is why I can't get a single date, the world is stacked against me". And super traditional types who will point to those concepts like hypergamy, CC, whatever, to say "this is why …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/24 12:01 AM
12	Western women and shaming gold-diggers Well, if you ever spend time in the US, if you go to say, a Dollar General on a family shopping day, a Bob Evans on Sunday after church, a Golden Corral on a weeknight dinner, etc, I promise you will see plenty of evidence of two broke people marrying and having a bunch of kids. Or a late night emergency room.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/24 03:52 PM
16	Western women and shaming gold-diggers Have you ever, say, been to a Walmart and looked at the families there?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/24 03:46 PM
3	Do relationships where a woman is with a man for his money have really dead bedrooms? I think it depends if it's a fully transactional relationship, or if wealth is a characteristic of being a good provider and drives genuine attraction. I can see the attraction towards, for example, a fully self-made successful entrepreneur who wants kids. Versus say, a 20-something woman with an 85-year-old multimillionaire.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/24 10:33 PM
2	Is settling a widespread common occurence? I feel like this is a symptom of FOMO mentality. Like "how can I possibly be happy with what I have when something better could be just a swipe away"	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/24 04:41 PM
5	What do people get wrong about the blue pill? The idea that blue pill people who give normie advice like "be yourself" don't recognize how awful dating is. It's still hard to meet people, online dating is a cesspool, people ghost inexplicably, a potential partner you were excited about turns out to be terrible in some way. Happens to absolutely everyone. But I think the blue advice is more geared towards finding love and long term compatibility, as opposed to making yourself broadly attractive to the highest number of women, or specifically…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 08:39 PM
3	Why should men believe you? Where are the bluepill success stories? I don't know anyone who would say this unless they married their high school sweetheart. It's just contrary to virtually any lived experience. There are people who have a very easy time getting matches and first dates but dating still sucks and it's a huge relief to find your person.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/24 06:53 PM
5	Why should men believe you? Where are the bluepill success stories? Everyone agrees that dating sucks and is a hellscape	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/24 02:01 AM
–	Q4W: How much do you value factors like what your friends think or how he looks on paper to other people when it comes to choosing a man? It would be hard if he didn't get along with my family	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/24 11:44 PM
2	What would it take to change your mind? Blue and I guess if I saw FAR fewer normal relationships between normal people it would change my mind. If I go anywhere that people tend to show up in couples (company holiday party, synagogue, whatever) it's just regular-ass people with other regular-ass people. Not only the top 20% of men or huge age gaps or whatever else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/24 11:34 PM
1	Women act like TRP is some kooky conspiracy theory rotting men’s brains but then tell bold faced lies like “maybe if you were nice to women and took a shower you would get a date.” This blatant dishonesty is the very foundation of red pill ideology. How old are you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/24 09:42 PM
10	If a man is failing to attract the women he wants, and he is a good person, what options does he have aside from lowering his standards or giving up? Being a good person is a base level requirement, not something that generates attraction. So you're asking what could he DO to make himself more attractive? IDK, go to the gym, dress better, take an improv class or toast masters or something to get better at conversation, learn things and become more interesting?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/24 12:15 AM
1	Is passport sis a real thing or just a meme? Have you seen 90 day fiance?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/24 03:52 PM
–	Money and status and career are not that significant for men (including being rich) I dunno why people in the comments are debating your lived experience. If you are looking for a genuine relationship and not targeting gold diggers, which it sounds like is the case, what you're saying makes complete sense.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/24 06:02 AM
1	The Fallacious Connection Between Male Insecurity and Female Breadwinners With my boyfriend, I already made much more when we started dating so I don't think it would have progressed if it was a problem for him. With my ex husband, we started dating with a large power disparity (big age and experience gap, and I was only 18) so I'd say if someone is attracted to that dynamic they may not be okay with that inverting down the line.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 04:09 AM
1	The Fallacious Connection Between Male Insecurity and Female Breadwinners That sounds like an insecurity to me. I think it can be, but I don't think it necessarily is the case. Though maybe you think I'm being too charitable in that characterization. I just think that some men feel more attracted in relationships where he gets to be the provider and breadwinner. You current boyfriend seems to be OK with I assume? Yep, it has not been a problem for us.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 01:42 AM
1	The Fallacious Connection Between Male Insecurity and Female Breadwinners I'm not sure what you mean. My two serious partnerships (now-ex-husband and current boyfriend) both make less than I, I'm just saying that I can see how men may not prefer that dynamic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/02/24 01:16 AM
2	What have you guys learned from this subreddit? I started visiting because I felt worried and insecure about getting older. Now I feel a LOT better that the most vociferous voices about only chasing twenty somethings are not the people I want to date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/24 11:53 PM
7	Ambition I think this sub skews young, and "ambition" is more important than career/income when you're dating other young people who are just getting started in their adult life. For example, if a guy in his twenties lives with his parents, works part time at Starbucks, and has no higher education, I'd want to see some level of "ambition". If I'm dating someone in their thirties or older, they have a union job in the trades, are supporting themselves well, but don't really care about progressing further,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 06:11 PM
5	Ambition Perhaps this is a more 'online' talking point, as I'm not sure I've encountered it when talking with lady friends and acquaintances. But it seems like 'ambition' is a major factor for women in these spaces on whether a man is fit for dating I've mostly seen it stated as a factor here by men insisting on what women want. Have you seen women themselves say this?	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 05:50 PM
1	When did we become so entitled? I think "never settle" makes sense if you're talking about being with someone who is an abuser, cheats on you, is mean to you, etc. But people here take it to mean that they shouldn't go for someone with an average body instead of someone who is ripped/looks like a model, etc. There's this weird dehumanizing aspect of ranking people based on physical characteristics, wealth, etc which weirdly ignores building a connection and cultivating a relationship. Like, in reality I think a younger woman b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 05:10 PM
3	When did we become so entitled? Yeah I'm not a fan of any of those terms to be honest. I was thinking more that I can see a use value in thinking about, "What are some metrics by which I can increase my appeal as broadly as possible so as for more people to want to get to know me better". Especially if it leads to legitimate self-improvement like hitting the gym.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/02/24 12:38 AM
8	When did we become so entitled? I think that people who feel this way have a weird transactional view of relationships. There is a lot of talk of "standards" and numerical ratings and having high or low value as a person. So I think there's a level of entitlement in the same sense that one would expect that $20 gets them a burger. Reality is that there's a much more human element when it comes to falling in love, building a connection, and cultivating a relationship. It's hard to define and at the end of the day the heart want…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/24 10:56 PM
1	I think that breadwinner women should not be shocked at their lackluster marriages. Men should just make more money, problem solved	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/24 05:43 AM
–	CMV: The whole "traditional" lifestyle that is pushed by some red pillers looks unappealing and is counterproductive/contradictory I honestly feel like this is just a fantasy for young people, not much different from "I'm going to get rich being a twitch streamer". These zoomers who are still living with their xilennial "girl boss" moms seem to have a lot of criticism, while accepting the fruits of their moms' labor. Living in a house where their mom is doing some or all of the cleaning, cooking, shopping, budgeting, and household maintenance, while having their room and board subsidized by their mother's income, and going …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 07:20 PM
–	CMV: The whole "traditional" lifestyle that is pushed by some red pillers looks unappealing and is counterproductive/contradictory I'm curious how old are these friends of yours? Do they still live with their parents?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 06:49 PM
–	CMV: The whole "traditional" lifestyle that is pushed by some red pillers looks unappealing and is counterproductive/contradictory These are all super young people who are years and years away from marriage let alone kids. I think it's just a depressing job/financial/housing landscape for young people, so left-leaning are moving towards /r/antiwork and right leaning people lean towards this SAHM ideal. And the social media tradwife influencers are grifter content creators monetizing a fantasy. Yes, men have jobs in this framework, but I still think it's a fantasy where a man can work a regular blue collar job and afford a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 06:25 PM
1	Have tradcons taken over the redpill? Yeah I definitely agree that the strategy of going to clubs/bars, playing a numbers game, cold approaching, etc is outmoded due to smartphones and dating apps. And it's a lot harder to "rise above" with social strategy. I will say that as someone in my 40s who has always worked in a male dominated industry, workplace politics and policies used to be really bad and I think the pendulum swing is more due to that than just nineties lad culture. I do agree it's swung too far towards the draconian re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/24 09:56 PM
-1	I genuinely think people underestimate female toxicity Lots of women are lazy and make the one-sided decision to not work after they have a kid. But because being a SAHM is so common, nobody questions this or asks whether it was really a mutual decision or not In the US where childcare is expensive (sometimes to the point of outweighing what the woman would make at her job) and women are expected to return to work with just an 8 week infant at home who may still be breastfeeding, not to mention the lack of sleep and crazy postpartum hormones, I woul…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/24 07:52 PM
4	Have tradcons taken over the redpill? I think that the general idea used to be more about hacking social interactions, which was problematic only when it came to stuff like "negging" or getting through "last minute resistance". Most of what I see now is self-victimization cries from boys who basically complain that the system is stacked against them and female agency should be mitigated to create a level playing field. I also think that the old PUA stuff seemed centered around getting bimbo types but didn't have the same fixation wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/24 07:32 PM
1	Men having lower standards of cleanliness is not a "flaw" Picking up after yourself, especially in shared spaces, is part of being a considerate housemate	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/24 05:56 AM
2	“genuinely kind guy” is a rebrand of the “nice guy” It's so weird to see discussions around "niceness" or "kindness". I don't think about niceness really, it's more of a base-level expectation. Like "not a litterbug" or "doesn't rape people"	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/24 09:08 PM
1	Why are so many girls wanting to have traditional marriages again? This is an interesting take that I hadn't considered. I wonder if work would be more appealing if women felt like they could have a better work/family balance rather than choosing between two extremes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/24 06:35 PM
2	Why are so many girls wanting to have traditional marriages again? lol this 100%, they are not "tradwives" they are professional content creators/tradwife social media influencers. Estee Williams made a video about how she started out going to school for meteorology (ostensibly so she could have a TV career), then tried to get a reality show with her family, then tried to become a fitness influencer, and then settled on tradwife influencer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/24 06:05 PM
6	Why are so many girls wanting to have traditional marriages again? How are you "tired of being miss independent" at age 16? Is your "rad fem" mom hassling you to study and get into a good college?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/24 05:29 AM
11	Why are so many girls wanting to have traditional marriages again? Agree with all of this. A lot of people neglect the fact that working moms are still cooking, cleaning, shopping, child rearing, etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/24 02:35 AM
1	The Fallacious Connection Between Male Insecurity and Female Breadwinners I say this as a high earning woman: reality is, the relationship dynamic is affected by who the breadwinner is. It may have nothing to do with insecurity on the man's part, but being the caretaker and having the most say over finances might be a big part of his attraction/arousal template. Same as some women preferring tall men, it's just a feeling.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/24 03:55 PM
2	Fundamentally the Red Pill is a yearning for control. You'd be surprised. When I was dating, I thought that by limiting my matches to people in their 30s-40s I'd surely get nothing but people who moved out - big nope! I even see people who continue living with parents after getting married, and just move their spouse in. There's also a lot of numbers about people getting their drivers licenses later in life, or not at all. I think that most people who have been on their own (or at least with roommates) for several years have a decent handle on taki…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/23 12:08 AM
2	Fundamentally the Red Pill is a yearning for control. I’ve yet to meet a woman my age (24) who can cook, clean and just take care of herself on her own. Like, if you want a relationship to be equal, then the women need to do some of the legwork too but that’s not what I’ve seen in modern dating. (Yes, there are SOME relationships and women like that, but we are talking about the majority here) It’s always the man who is expected to do everything while the woman does nothing for the relationship. I think that this is somewhat tied to people living w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/12/23 09:53 PM
–	Real talk, why is RP so obsessed with women’s age? Yeah 40s is a lot different from 30s in that regard. There's no time crunch, I don't need to "lock anyone down", I don't want to have kids, I'm self sufficient and making my own money. I can just enjoy each day.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/23 05:01 PM
–	Real talk, why is RP so obsessed with women’s age? When I was younger, I envisioned aging as something that just sort of happens to you, and robs you of more and more as time passes. Now I experience it as more of a continuous adaptation. I don't have the same ability to grind and burn the midnight oil, but I have the wisdom and experience to work smarter. I don't have the endless possibility of youth, but I have emotional maturity, insight, experience, and success in life. At this stage of my life I feel like I'm experiencing life all over agai…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/23 05:41 AM
–	Real talk, why is RP so obsessed with women’s age? Also - FWIW, as a woman in my forties, looking back I feel like 30 was a difficult time. I felt as though I still had my youth, but my time was also running out. 30 y/o woman with a 30 y/o man can create difficulties if he is feeling the same sense of youth but without the time pressure. Interestingly, now in my forties I feel a lot more relaxed about life and living in the moment. Not to mention having the success, nest egg, and patience that comes with time. I think early that early 30s transi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/12/23 01:00 AM
5	Real talk, why is RP so obsessed with women’s age? I don't think that what you're saying is at odds with my comment. A 30 year old man dating a 25 year old makes a lot of sense to me and I don't think the experience/lifestyle gap is huge. For 40s-50s the experience gap with a 25 year old is significant. Speaking as someone in my forties, most 25 year olds seem like kids to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 11:32 PM
7	Real talk, why is RP so obsessed with women’s age? I agree that the experience gap tends to shrink with age. A 55 year old probably has a lot more common ground with a 40 year old than a 30 year old with a 20 year old. However it seems that a lot of RP rhetoric focuses on womens' absolute age (under 30) as opposed to relative age.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 11:08 PM
10	Real talk, why is RP so obsessed with women’s age? I feel that this is a male revenge fantasy largely held by young, sexually-frustrated men. This idea that women in their twenties are hypergamous and promiscuous, but then once they hit thirty, they "hit the wall" and can't get a mate. Meanwhile men are all aging like fine wine and able to score twenty-somethings in their forties and fifties. The recent PPD demographics survey showed that the posters here skew young and virgin which is unsurprising. I also think that younger people have a hard t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 10:36 PM
2	Why do single women seem so happy compared to single men? Men tend to not have intimate friendships with other men. They tend to be the most close to their partner, so if they're single, they likely have no one really close to talk to. Women who are single still tend to have very close, vulnerable friendships with one another.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/23 09:45 PM
2	Do you think there are more men willing to be house husbands or more women will to have house husbands? lol yes I think there are more people willing to not work than there are people willing to support someone who doesn't work	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/23 04:36 PM