dabrewmaster22 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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6	Most dating advice from women here appears to come from an unacknowledged blind spot. Yeah, it's the same across the pond in Europe. Where I live, regular cooking classes aren't really a thing, and the one-off classes are mostly filled with retired people, mostly men even.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/26 08:36 PM
1	Women don’t need men So yes women can live in a world without men but it’d be a totally different less advanced world. That is, until society collapses because it has a birth rate of 0... Seriously, people on here are so deep into their own ideology that they're completely blind to the basic practical and biological realities of what they're envisioning.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/25 06:44 AM
2	Women don’t need men That's kind of the core issue with many of the arguments on this sub. People hyperfocus on the individual level, but at the same time want to expand their opinions to society as a whole. Yet, the only reason their individual ideal is feasible to begin with is precisely because society as a whole is not like that. This is also why many of the ideals espoused on here would basically result in societal collapse after a few decades if they were actually followed through, usually because nobody would…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/25 06:36 AM
1	"Nice Guys" are basically an urban legend You use the term "urban legend" very loosely. Usually urban legends are based on the supernatural and truly extraordinary. Like a man who can fly on the back of a moose has been spotted on this particular bridge at midnight. Not necessarily. They can contain supernatural elements, but they can also be surprisingly mundane. The big thing about urban legends is that they're stories that sound believable, but aren't true. For example, one popular urban legend is that restaurants stopped serving sau…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/25 06:25 AM
17	Even if a large group of men didn't truly had sex it wouldn't lead to a revolution or an apocalypse I mean, if that big a proportion of the population doesn't have sex, it means they're probably also not having kids. With the average number of kids in a household as it currently is, that would definitely lead to a societal collapse, because we're looking at a serious shortage in younger generations and way, way too many old people proportionally. But even if we ignore all that, the idea that society would suffer if more and more men remain sexless (or maybe more accurately, without relationshi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/12/25 06:57 PM
5	Male sexuality is a net harm to women and women are better off decentering men or entering relationships with each other. I mean, if the population crashes fast enough, it's your own life that will suffer greatly under it when society around you collapses. I really don't get this perspective. It seems to come from a selfish mindset, but it's actually in everyone's selfish best interest that the population remains stable (or at least just doesn't decline too fast). Are you all really that shortsighted?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/08/25 05:51 AM
5	Why do men assume gorgeous women will have a bad personality ? Why judge a woman unfairly and harsh ? It's more a counterreaction to the just world fallacy. The just world fallacy is the belief that people have good things happen to them because they're good people (and vice versa for people who have bad things happen to them). The 'good things happening to them' in this case would be being pretty, hence just-world thinking is assuming that pretty people are are always good people (also known as the halo effect). The counterreaction is thus arguing that pretty people aren't actually good people.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/25 06:37 AM
1	Having kids has no benefits to women If we didn't have kids, we'd go extinct within a century and society would collapse well before that, affecting you as a member of said society. There's your benefit. There's no problem with some people not wanting kids, but if a big enough portion of people who don't want kids, everyone's basically going to be fucked a few decades later. There's a simple reason why most people want kids: natural selection. Populations whose members don't want kids simply go extinct.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/25 07:15 AM
5	We don't really need more third places, we just need to treat each other better. The problem is that people drift apart after graduating. Many will spend all of their time either at work or with their partners Not to mention that people will also drift apart in a literal sense. Many people move away after graduating, whether it's for a job, or because they're following their partner. Hell, some even move abroad. And it just becomes more difficult to maintain a friendship the further you live apart. Not only the logistics of meeting up get harder, but people will just natural…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/08/25 10:27 AM
2	Emotions and ethics aside, it's just pointless and counterproductive to blame women for the things that men do to other men (in regards to the loneliness epidemic) Thing with the loneliness epidemic is that it's really genderless. Men and women are reporting increasing feelings of loneliness at similar rates, the difference just being that with men it more often comes with a side of sexual frustration. But when you look at what exactly makes people feel lonely, it's mostly that they perceive all of their relationships (whether that be family, friends or romantic interests) to not be meaningful. Basically, their relationships are superficial, shallow and di…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/07/25 05:45 AM
15	Why do men here seem to think that the only way to approach women is by cold approaching strangers and asking them on a date on the first meeting? Why don’t they understand getting to know someone over time? Eh, in my experience people in their 20s don't seem to do these things period, men and women alike. I volunteered in a wild animal shelter for a while and I was the youngest volunteer by like several decades. The only people of my age were the occasional animal care student doing an internship there. A friend of mine once dragged me into a sort of cooking club thing (not really a regular club, but more a one off thing that was organized like a few times a year). Everyone else there was already r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/07/25 06:56 PM
7	This Sub is an Echo-Chamber, That Doesn’t Advance Anyone. Yeah, I'd say this sub is one of the least echo-chamberey dating-related subs on the internet. No matter the subject, you always end up seeing diametrically opposing viewpoints in the comment section, often back to back. If anything, I sometimes get the impression that people on here are just contrarian for the sake of it. Sometimes I really just want to say: come on, guys, can you really not agree on anything?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/25 07:08 PM
5	Preselection is BS. I have no idea what preselection is Preselection is the phenomenon where women are more attracted to men who already are in a relationship. The rationale behind this behaviour is supposedly that men in a relationship are seen as more desirable and safe because they've already been vetted by another woman (i.e., the woman he's already in a relationship with). Important to note that this is not necessarily a conscious behaviour on women's part. It might be largely instinctive since it has been obs…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/25 05:06 AM
3	The 25 and younger male generation will be overwhelmingly single and we are lucky because it won’t affect society one bit Not to mention like, crazy population decline if most of the population remains perpetually single. Populations are already declining quite a bit in most of the world, and the declines are strongest in Western countries (and Japan & South Korea). That means that in the foreseeable future more and more people will proportionally retire, meaning proportionally less and less able-bodied workers and tax payers. This will put a lot of stress on the pension & healthcare systems (both because young peo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/25 04:53 PM
1	Can you call yourself intelligent if you can’t deduce, breakdown, and understand interpersonal dynamics? There's certainly a pattern of people who are very rationally intelligent that they tend to be lacking in emotional intelligence. Lots of scientists aren't the most socially adept people either. There's a reason that some scientists specialize in science communication. Autistic people are also overrepresented on Reddit and having difficulty understanding (neurotypical) social dynamics is like one of the few overarching characteristics of autism spectrum disorder. That being said, I'd argue that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/25 02:51 PM
2	We need to encourage young adults to throw more house parties Most people, particularly in adulthood, prefer to expand their social circles and networks. Really? Because I've been seeing more of the opposite. When people are starting to settle down, they seem to become more and more resistant to expanding their social circle. Generally, people seem most open to expanding social circles when they're still studying, then it starts going down with each of the following events, in no particular order: When they start working a full-time job When they are in a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/25 01:37 PM
2	Most people here think strategically bout what it's just normal for the average person And the average person isn't doing all that well in romance. This strawman of the normal person that's above all this internet stuff is just...very outdated. Tbh, I don't even think it's outdated, but more so that it's never been true to begin with. Like, a matter of keeping up appearances. There have always been a good chunk of people who were perpetually alone, not necessarily by choice. Before the internet it was just easier for society to conveniently ignore these people. But, frankly, even …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/25 06:31 AM
6	Women and men behave exactly the same in dating, it’s just women get more opportunity to act cold and selfish so it’s thought to be “their nature” Are you saying that women don't want a loving partner or that most kindness and affection is a ruse used by men to get some other thing from women? I think it's more a 'grass is always greener on the other side'-thing. People typically desire more what they don't have, and simultaneously, people are less appreciative of the things they have in spades.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/25 01:44 PM
3	Is It that Men are Intimidated by Successful Women, or is it the Fact Successful Women Tend to Be Agressive? Not the person you were replying to, but I think I can give some additional insights. What type of masculine behaviors are you referring to? I'm not a fan of referring to these as masculine behaviours, even though they traditionally are, but I think it mostly comes down to behaviours like: assertiveness, risk-taking, being uncomprosing, etc... in summary behaviours that are necessary to climb up on the corporate ladder. It's also why I think that the notion that successful women have a hard time…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/04/25 05:55 AM
7	Men typically have an external locus of control mindset when it comes to dating and generally underestimate the effectiveness of working on themselves I think his point is more that it's always easy to tell someone to do something beneficial when you personally happen to like it. It's the same as people going around telling others how easy it is to make money when they happen to be interested in a field that's very lucrative. It ignores the privilege of your interests lining up with the arbitrary values of society. And yes, they're arbitrary, because they might very well change wildly in the coming years/decades.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/25 09:54 AM
0	A person with no options is NOT a better option. Depends on if you consider 'picking men who are too attractive' to be morally bad behaviour. Personally I wouldn't. But of course it's never ok to generalize like that regardless The core of the 'just world fallacy' is making a moral statement. It's really an attempt to justify why someone has problems with dating (i.e. they deserve it), rather than just offering an explanation for those problems. The line between the two can be blurry of course, sometimes people's problems are effectively self-…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/25 08:07 PM
5	A person with no options is NOT a better option. That's not 'just world'. 'Just world' is the idea that people who behave morally good will have good things happen to them, and vice versa for people who behave morally badly. Having that ideal is not bad per se (even if it's not how the world really works), but it becomes problematic when people inverse the reasoning, i.e. when people have bad things happen to them, it must be because they're morally bad (and vice versa for when people have good things happen to them, but that part is generally…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/25 07:39 PM