dadstartingover Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Wife left because wasnt happy Of course. It's always another dude. Maybe one she's infatuated with and not really dating... or a full-blown relationship. There's always a dude. Speaking of morphing into something else. My ex was cookie-cutter mom. Somewhat domestic. Not really concerned much with her physical appearance. Just concerned with her job and kids... that was it. She was well-educated and a hard worker. Then she met HIM. She got a giant tattoo on her back, blue hair, took steroids and became a swinger. Yes, you rea…	/r/askTRP	13/04/16 05:38 PM
3	The cheaters script This is so spot on. Very well said, my friend. Been there, done that... know a few guys who have been through the same. All the stories are alike. Every detail. Then you read the thousands of similar cases online... yep, all the same. People are meat robots. Push their buttons in a particular order, and you get the same response. It's our innate programming. Nobody likes to hear that. It takes constant effort to not let the car (your life) go off the road and into a ditch. Gotta keep your hands …	/r/TheRedPill	28/03/16 01:45 PM
2	An example of AWALT - LTR of 7 years and how I handled that shit(Wall of Text) Hysterical bonding. This is cheating woman 101. You're reclaiming your territory and she's hoping you forget all about her misdeeds... While she continues doing them. Keep snooping. It ain't over. You shoulda taken the bottle of whiskey to a buddy's house and slept on it.	/r/MarriedRedPill	08/03/16 12:48 AM
2	Book suggestion: "The Erotic Mind" by Jack Morin Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel came to the same conclusion. There's a very definite divide between comfort and desire. She basically comes to the conclusion that dread (the fear of losing each other) keeps us horny for each other. Seeing your partner in the limelight getting attention from others, if they're far away, etc... all these things build up desire.	/r/MarriedRedPill	07/03/16 02:09 AM
1	I'm a single dad. Still no single moms? A few months after d-day? Dude... you're dating WAY too soon. How do I know? Been there, done that. "I genuinely like this girl"... you caught some feelings for her. No biggie. We've all done that. Try your damndest to step outside of your emotions right now and see what you're doing. You're three months removed from finding out the love of your life cheated on you (for two fucking years), and now you find yourself with a single mom... who has admitted to cheating on a few boyfriends... and has …	/r/askTRP	20/02/16 04:24 AM
1	Mateguarding- Don't do it. I call this "keeping your woman away from the inappropriate line" and wrote about this topic on my blog: Keep Your Woman from Approaching The Line I think it's still a form of mate-guarding, but much more subtle. Of course you care and don't want to lose her... that's precisely why you tell her you're going to do equally stupid stuff. You gotta shock her out of her little temporary stupid state.	/r/TheRedPill	11/02/16 03:21 PM
1	How does not wanting to date a rape victim make someone an asshole? Nobody likes being told that they are damaged goods. Nobody likes to deal with damaged goods. It's really a numbers game. In my post-divorce world, I've learned that just about 90% of the women have baggage of some kind. Daddy issues, infidelity, mood disorders, etc. They're human. Humans aren't perfect. I get it. But as a man who won't just let ANYONE into my life, I have to weigh the pros and cons. I have to be pragmatic about this. I have a life. Kids. Job. I don't want to waste my time and e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/16 03:27 PM
3	Finally talked to my wife about our finances. It went a lot better than expected. "I don't make enough money for you to continue living the way you do on a daily basis. You need to watch yourself before you take us into the poor house. I have rules that you need to follow, or else it will get bad very quickly. Scared? Good. Here are the rules." -- What part of that sounds sexy? It's real life and it HAS to get done, but it ain't hot and desirable. Just makes her want to push away to an escape, unless you provide that escape. I would reward her when she does good things. Do al…	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/01/16 05:52 PM
2	Finally talked to my wife about our finances. It went a lot better than expected. It's natural. You're a dude.. a fixer.	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/01/16 04:06 PM
4	Finally talked to my wife about our finances. It went a lot better than expected. Don't get carried away and stay in the stern money manager role 24x7. You'll put a lot of stress on the wife (her sense of security just took a hit when you budgeted... I know, it's retarded) and she will turn into a cold fish in no time. You'll go from hubby to dad/boss. Not attractive. Put the rules down. Monitor. Reward good behavior. Still have fun.	/r/MarriedRedPill	14/01/16 02:00 PM
3	Speaking of Mystery, let's have a discussion on the state of Style aka Neil Strauss Neil is/was a neurotic mess. Zero confidence. He questions every decision he makes. He relies on everyone else around him to give him guidance or tell him what to think. He relied on the affection of women for any sense of self-worth. HOW on Earth does that make him an alpha male?? Oh, he banged a lot of women? He's a nerd with the all of the cheat codes needed to woo and bang chicks. He would tell you the same thing. His woman's baggage was prominent in the book. The book ended with her going t…	/r/TheRedPill	09/01/16 12:12 AM
35	Speaking of Mystery, let's have a discussion on the state of Style aka Neil Strauss I just finished it. Neil is an admittedly deeply flawed man. He was raised by an extremely disturbed and narcissistic mother, and beaten down father. The childhood stories are beyond painful to read. He has zero self esteem. Along his path of discovery he makes every single mistake he can possibly make. RP guys will read and scream at the book. Neil is not a player or alpha male by any stretch of the imagination. In the end, everything finally clicks for him and he figures it out. He flourishers…	/r/TheRedPill	08/01/16 12:10 AM
4	LTR texts her ex about mundane things. What to do? Flip the script. Tell her "sweetie.. I didn't tell you about this gal I used to date. My first love. I hate her. Anyhow, I think she still likes me. We're going to have coffee. You have nothing to worry about."	/r/askTRP	07/01/16 08:54 PM
7	LTR texts her ex about mundane things. What to do? Random thoughts: You said what you wouldn't put up with (boundary). She did it anyway. And then you....? Did nothing? That's not good. There's zero logical reason for her to keep in contact with him. You know this. She knows this. But, she likes the emotional connection. It makes her feel good to talk to him. You cannot stop her from talking to him. You just have to ask yourself WHY she feels the need to keep in contact with him. What is it that she is missing that she gets from him? Note I didn…	/r/askTRP	07/01/16 08:00 PM
4	What do you do when you can't accept things as they are? You're not treating the root cause here. You're putting a small Spongebob band-aid over a massive head wound and pissed that you haven't healed up properly. PUA, RP.. these things are great for a guy who has all of his mental stuff in line, but just mask the problem for those that don't (as you have discovered). Stop kicking the can down the road and do the really hard work. "Dad had everything to be super alpha but got bitch slapped into painfully blue pill behaviour by his mother and my mother…	/r/askTRP	07/01/16 01:39 PM
9	What's an event that strengthened a TRP truth for you? I was newly divorced. Chatting with a gal in a completely non-sexual way. I kinda sorta knew her from the past. I know she had a long-term guy that I met a few times. Really nice and hilarious dude. We're chatting about my divorce and what a crazy bitch the ex is, and I don't remember how the topic of underwear came up, but I said something to the effect of "You strike me as a granny pantie kinda gal". In no time flat she was telling me about her thongs.... and then, of course, sending me photos…	/r/askTRP	03/01/16 01:23 PM
14	Wife only has sex with me when she thinks I may be straying or am getting frustrated Yeah, she's experiencing a world of hormones and body changes you can't fathom. Cut her some slack. She's the future mom of your kid.	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/12/15 04:56 AM
2	Enough tourism, I've decided to stay. You're too comfortable. You do JUST enough to feel... ok. Not great, but not horrible, either. You need some kind of "holy shit" moment to boost you up over the wall. For a lot of us, it was some life-altering event like discovering infidelity or loss of job. Something that made us improve our situation because we felt we HAD NO CHOICE. It's amazing what you can do when you feel you HAVE to do it, or life as you know it is over. To give you that oomph, I think you need to go beyond Reddit and ot…	/r/MarriedRedPill	19/10/15 03:26 AM