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Yes. ThredUp is loaded with great dresses in this price range
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 07:57 PM
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You’re not the asshole. She has unreasonable expectations and you’d be dealing with that forever
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 09:07 PM
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I do not believe being a leader has anything to do with being controlling. A high value guy wouldn’t feel the need to constantly control his first mate, he would know he could rely on her and trust her judgement. To me controlling behavior is a sign a man isn’t as mature or actually in control of himself as he’d like others to believe
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/22 03:56 PM
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You know what’s sad is how common it is, and how people are sort of primed into thinking it’s okay because so many other people present it as being okay. I had never even considered if it was a bad or good thing (it’s not something I watch but it seemed “normal” for guys to watch it for lack of a better word) until I dated a man who somehow was not interested in pornography. It’s a night and day difference and I do think it has a negative effect on men. I hope your therapy journey goes well and …
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/22 03:51 PM
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First step: forgive yourself for the past and work on that unnecessary guilt you’re holding on to about doing laundry too often. You can afford to do it as often as it needs now Make a schedule since you’re good at them! You can just say “I’m doing my laundry on Tuesday and Saturday” from now on and stuck to that (or whichever days fit your work schedule). Try picking a time of day to shower and just stick with it. Btw, if you have dry and sensitive skin be sure to only use warm water, never hot…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/22 01:53 PM
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I hate how unaffordable therapy is. As for journaling what worked for me was setting a schedule, I journal every evening before bed to get my thoughts out and I’ll even write “I have nothing to say” if I don’t feel like journaling that day just to be sure I stick with the habit. I would probably try to journal after school every day if I were in your shoes, or maybe before family dinner if your family eats together so you get the gunk out of your head before you have to interact with others
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 06:11 PM
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If you have the money/insurance, I suggest therapy with an accredited therapist, you can’t just stop being angry but you can figure out why you’re angry and learn healthy coping mechanisms and better approaches to communication through cognitive and dialectical behavioral therapy. Don’t be afraid of it, and don’t worry if the first therapist or few therapists aren’t a right fit for you, that is totally normal. If you don’t have access to therapy, maybe try journaling? Like you said about ranting…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 06:05 PM
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I know people are saying lift or swim (and I don’t disagree at all) but also. Like what is your sex life actually like? Because sometimes our blocks towards expressing ourselves sexually as women have nothing to do with our actual physique and simply getting in better shape might not fix that. Are you able to relax when you and your boyfriend are kissing etc? Do you tense up? What would happen if your bf gave you a massage (not necessarily a sexy one)? Do you have a history of sexual abuse or ma…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 12:32 PM
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This is good advice tbh
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/22 12:27 PM
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I don’t think that would be dramatic at all. You’re in the vetting process and this guy isn’t showing his value to you. I’m also suspicious of that 11pm-2am thing. I know plenty of lawyers and they have time to text over lunch etc, but I also should say I don’t know his specialty or if maybe he’s currently working a really difficult case with long hours
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 12:59 PM
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What your mom did was wrong and she both scapegoated her anger onto you and enabled the abuse you endured from your father. Those feelings towards her are natural. I can see that being worse, and I hope you find an actually decent therapist to help with this
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 07:39 PM
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TRP doesn’t cover this because TRP is about adults having sexual/romantic relationships with other adults. I think you really need to consider that framing what happened to you the way you are is doing you no favors
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 06:25 PM
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Aside from underscoring what others have said about seeking help from a qualified and understanding therapist, I actually don’t think you should be ashamed of yourself for that final interaction necessarily. A married couple brought in a third party and either didn’t realize that their fantasy would blow up in their faces or simply were too interested in gratifying a fantasy to consider that a possibility. It’s extremely common for threesomes to end up as big points of conflict for couples. You …
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 04:06 PM
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For books by Jung I’d start with The Undiscovered Self, though my favorite is Memories, Dreams, Reflections. I don’t love Jordan Peterson as much as a lot of people do but he does have good lectures on Jung (if I remember right, Jung is his specialty in academia) if you’re into watching YouTube vids/lectures. I also like this documentary on Jung, it has a lot of footage of him
/r/RedPillWives17/05/22 04:21 PM
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Re: first paragraph—don’t take it as an indicator of anything about you if your first try at therapy didn’t work out. It’s super common that it takes a few tries to find the right therapist and also I feel you on the cost/lack of insurance, i didn’t get into regular therapy until my late 20s for the same reason actually. As to the second paragraph, all I can tell you is you’re being very harsh on yourself and in my experience that harshness actually can cause a person to get stuck in the depress…
/r/RedPillWives17/05/22 02:01 PM
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I’m curious what may have happened in the intervening months that caused you to lose your confidence—don’t feel like you have to tell me about it, just consider whether whatever that was is something you might need some outside help with. There are great therapists in the world, and plenty of them are Christian or more traditional leaning if that is a source of concern for you. It kinda sounds like you had a bad experience or string of bad experiences that left you disconnected from yourself. I …
/r/RedPillWives17/05/22 01:17 PM
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Oh honey. I don’t have much to say that the other commenters haven’t, I just wish I could make you some tea and give you a hug. I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I’m glad you have good friends (even if their political opinions make you roll your eyes sometimes) I do see the part where, aside from this night of violence, you have some issues going on that don’t make you the best partner. But I think the actions of that night outweigh any previous behavior on your part, personally. I thi…
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 11:25 PM
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I agree
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 05:24 PM
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There’s a difference between the advice you’d get at r/relationships, which is really like “leave him and do nothing to fix or improve yourself because he’s the only problem and you’re perfect as is,” and most of the advice I’ve seen here advocating someone to leave a relationship, which is really like “leave him and take a good long hard look at yourself, your behaviors, what you’re doing to attract low quality dudes and why you’ve been willing to tolerate or even accept their bad treatment of …
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 02:51 PM
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I feel like I need to be honest and say I’m not so sure about this as a blanket rule. I agree in general, and rarely ever say anything like that to posters here, but we do get posts from girls and women who are pretty clearly in abusive situations from time to time. Staying with an abusive man isn’t RPW to me. Working on a basically healthy if not ideal relationship is RPW to me. Does that make sense? I also think there’s a big difference between saying, “quit dating this guy you’ve been seeing …
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/20 12:08 PM
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Getting to 1-2 am from 6-8am is more than a marginal improvement! That’s a huge thing, good job
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 08:10 PM
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I love this question so much! My ideal lady is aware of her comportment/manners, but not stuffy or uptight. She can talk to anyone, she’s warm and inviting. She’s involved in her neighborhood/community and her church if she’s into that sort of thing, but her involvement isn’t just a way to derive a sense of superiority to others—she actually cares about people and wants to see her community thriving. She’s well dressed in a timeless way, and she knows what colors make her shine. She smells good,…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 08:08 PM
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I fully agree and I think good posture makes even larger people look more graceful. It’s hard to train yourself to hve better posture but so worth it
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 01:06 PM
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I feel like at least some nerves early on in dating is totally a normal thing. If it’s debilitating you try to remember to breathe and maybe ask your therapist for some exercises you can do to calm the anxiety down
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 01:05 PM
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I’ve been getting into indie perfumes lately! It’s turning into a whole hobby. R/indiemakeupandmore has been my go to place to learn about indie perfumes and other products. For mainstream perfume, I love Serge Lutens and Dior. If anyone is looking to buy a higher priced perfume and wants to find a deal, check fragrancenet.com! They’re a discount site and I’ve ordered from there before with no problems.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 12:07 PM
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Do you know how to cook and bake? That’s a pretty accessible hobby, and it’s so good to be able to make your own food. Consistent walks are a great idea, and maybe listen to audiobooks or a podcast on your walks!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:38 PM
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I’m glad you mentioned age, I do think that is a salient factor here.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 02:34 PM
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Absolutely send her some flowers, that’s a sweet gesture and I’m sure she would appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/20 09:28 PM
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Yeah I understand that. It took me four times to find a good one, and it’s normal for it to be hard to find the right therapist, but it’s a totally crappy feeling.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 10:30 PM
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Also, the title of your thread says you want men to protect you/gravitate toward you, but you are going out of your way to criticize men repeatedly in this thread, which is incredible. Yeah not insulting and belittling guys would go a long way towards being the kind of girl they like and want to protect lol
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 06:57 PM
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First: be your actual self. If your self isn’t that great right now, work on it. But don’t be fake. Don’t fake interest. Don’t be overly saccharine or nice. Guys (and people in general really) can sense and react to fakeness and desperation
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 06:52 PM
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Your husband needs therapy. He really does. OCD is not an easy thing to live with, and having a professional help you navigate it makes a night and day difference. It’s literally life saving. I hope he can see the light on that eventually. I know some people really reject the idea of therapy as somehow being weak, but it isn’t at all.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 06:36 PM
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I’m so glad he got everything in time! It sounds like he knew he got short with you when he was stressed and realized he should apologize for that, which is a great quality for anyone to have.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/20 06:25 PM
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I feel a couple things: One, this seems true of both sexes. RP guys obviously won’t be focused on the other side of the equation, but I wouldn’t marry a dude with an insane n count who hadn’t clearly grown and changed his ways. Two, the people arguing about whether or not someone can grow up and move past being promiscuous seem so cynical to me. Anyone is capable of maturing and becoming a better person if they’re willing to do the work.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 06:02 PM
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Thank you! I don’t see why asking why someone would do something is being equated with taking no responsibility. You can’t solve a problem you don’t know you have.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/20 05:48 PM
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I can only assume “infiltrate” means read two threads and draw wildly inaccurate conclusions from it. I showed up here knowing nothing but stereotypes about mens redpill stuff and expected what the article described, and instead found a lovely community. That said this sub absolutely has an issue with lurkers leaving bad opinions on some posts, but it seems like the sub does a good job of downvoting those.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 07:44 PM
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Agreed! That book is super informative
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 12:45 PM
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I’ve seen so many of my friends shack up with a guy and end up desperately seeking new housing before the terms on their shared lease was up. That alone is a great reason not to move in until you have a commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/20 02:09 AM
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Sometimes. Usually I follow that guideline that says basically, if you’re showing cleavage, cover up your legs/if you’re showing leg, cover your cleavage
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 01:05 PM
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Spring/summer rolls! I always have wrappers and glass noodles on hand, so the prep is just cutting some veggies and then rolling them up
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/20 01:19 PM
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I agree, looking for partners within the kink community seems like the wiser and easier path
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 11:36 PM
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Like puffy bags? Probably a combination of all of that. Get something cold to hold on your eyes, or a cooling gel eye mask that can help with depuffing and carry a water bottle so you don’t forget to hydrate!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 11:35 PM
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This is really good advice and very well expressed
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 07:44 PM
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Honey you need to be completely single and find yourself a good therapist or counselor. Neither of these men sound like good partners, and you seem like a young woman who has no idea who she is or what she wants yet. Let yourself grow into a person before seeking out any other romantic relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/20 03:23 PM
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I started making my bed every day just recently too, and I absolutely love it! It feels so good getting into a made bed at the end of the day.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 04:57 PM
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Same here. I love blogs still, even if they aren’t popular like they used to be
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 12:53 PM
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No problem! I hope you find a good guy to settle down with. Sometimes people just aren’t compatible after all
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 03:06 PM
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He’s a research scientist, in his 30s. He’s very likely truly apolitical. And he doesn’t want to talk about politics probably because he sees it as a subject that inevitably leads to emotional reactions which if he’s anything like the scientists I know, he probably hates Tbh, if it matters this much to you, you should seek a different mate.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 03:05 PM
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This is probably true for close one on one opposite sex friendship, but to say someone can’t hang out with their friend and someone else who‘s the opposite sex is taking it way way way too far. That’s like being offended if my husband hangs out with his buddy and his buddy’s wife at the same time or something. Similarly being upset at your husband for hanging with an old male friend of his and a lesbian would be very weird.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/20 01:59 PM
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Morticia Addams is a great role model I think. She and Gomez have such a good marriage, and she really is very elegant and feminine
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 04:41 PM
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I have a friend who’s about a decade and a half older than me. She’s beautiful inside and out, very kind, involved in her community. She’s an artist with a thriving career, which isn’t really my career path but I know how hard that is and can respect how much effort she’s put in to get where she is. I’d say she’s one of my role models for sure. My sophomore year English world lit teacher is another. She was retiring the year I had her class, and I feel so lucky still to have had her as a teacher…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 04:31 PM
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This is so sweet! My grandmother is one of my role models too.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 04:24 PM
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How the heck does this guy expect to support a stay at home mom and kids with no job? He’s unrealistic. Having kids is expensive even when both parents work.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/20 04:20 PM
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This man is not at all worth your time or energy. I know you love him and breaking up will be hard, but let his actions speak for themself. You’re worth more than what he’s willing to give you. I’m sorry you’re in such a bad situation.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 10:22 PM
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I’m sure it does! I was imagining a necklace or earrings specifically so it would add some sparkle near the face and I bet your necklace has that covered
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 03:32 PM
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Another suggestion might be to find some jewelry you really love in a high quality metal that won’t irritate your skin. That would add a feminine flair to your appearance without you having to wear any makeup or mess with your delicate skin
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 03:16 PM
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I’ve had good luck with Shein too! I really appreciate the return policy. My only problem is sometimes I get overwhelmed looking at the app because there is just so.much.stuff!
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 01:39 PM
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If he’s in worse shape than you and you want to keep working out together as a fun couples activity, bump down the difficulty of the next workout video you two do. It doesn’t have to be super easy, just less difficult than whatever activity you two did last time. Or start taking evening walks together, which is a great way to tone up and spend quality time out in nature
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 01:28 PM
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Walk away, this guy is no good and there are plenty of good men out there
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/20 01:25 PM
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Hosiery would be the easy way around this. Lighter denier in the summer, heavier in the colder months
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/20 09:31 PM
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Not who you’re replying to but I learned a few hairstyles from these videos
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 12:47 AM
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I think this is half true? It’s absolutely true for some men. My bff’s parents were like this: her mom worked her butt off to keep a roof over their heads while her dad finished med school and he did leave her for a younger, fitter woman once his career took off. But she also married him because he was going to be a doctor, and he’s a sort of narcissistic man who cares way more about status than about anything else. What I took away from that is to avoid men who are status focused, not to avoid …
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/20 09:00 PM
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I just wanted to say you made the right choice not getting fillers from that place if the nurse looked bad. There are so many doctors who do filler now, it’s important to be sure you’re choosing the right one. I’m glad you didn’t just jump in with that clinic
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 12:30 PM
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You don’t have to be religious to want a long term relationship or form a lasting one (as your parents show). I don’t think most of us here are perfectly gorgeous leggy blondes but I can get where you’re coming from. It’s probably good to limit your exposure to femcel if it’s getting toxic, that’s a smart move. How is your relationship with yourself, dating/men aside? Do you like who you are, have hobbies that bring you joy, stuff like that? I would say that’s a good place to start if you aren’t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 12:11 PM
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Therapy will work, sometimes it takes a long time to find the right person. Maybe try looking for a faith based female therapist? I feel like that demo would be the most understanding of you and your current issues. I do want to say, 2 is nothing. Your husband doesn’t seem bothered by it, and you’re both in your mid twenties—by this age, virginity is rare and so is having a body count of only 2.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 12:10 PM
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My favorite YouTuber who covers femininity topics is Feminine Fancy, I definitely would recommend watching her stuff if you don’t. She has a great focus on all aspects of femininity from manners to hygiene to more personal spiritual aspects. I agree with the commenter above who said don’t go too deep with men’s RP stuff. Their perspective is pretty different from ours!
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/20 11:36 AM
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I think we can’t consider either gender solely to blame for the way things are, personally. A lot of these things come down to how much an individual or a society values tradition and what those traditions actually are. Some traditions help men as a demographic more and some help women as a demographic more and many exist to keep a society in a functional state without actually helping individual men or women much at all I do however take issue with the idea that marriage was men’s only access t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/20 06:26 PM
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Well, they may have a high sexual market value but it sounds like those men would be just as bad at being a husband as women with high counts would be at being a wife based on these studies. RPWomen usually aren’t looking for plate spinning dudes, our whole thing is valuing commitment
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/20 03:20 PM
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I don’t normally say this, but I’m so happy you’re getting that divorce OP.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 12:17 PM
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I remember her other posts and from those it seems like he’s been the way he is for a long time, so if he discovered TRP it was a while a go
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/20 12:17 PM
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Id worry showing him TRP would give him the wrong idea. You want him to be more manly, more comfortable being himself, but showing him TRP and implying he isn’t that already might really hurt your guy’s feelings and make him feel inadequate and lead to him going down the bitter TRP route instead of the self improvement TRP route. I’m surprised no one has recommended The Surrendered Wife/Single by Laura Doyle or Fascinating Womanhood by Helen Andelin for you to read. Those books can guide you in …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/20 01:06 PM
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I want to stick with using my bullet journal daily, finish remodeling my bathroom, and read at least five books this month
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/20 08:33 PM
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It could be BC but also as we get older our metabolism can naturally slow down. I also think it’s normal to be less active in situations like grad school where we’re so busy with other things that it’s hard to make time for the gym. If you want a recommendation for a home-based workout you can do that will help tone you up, I love Pilates and YouTube has some great videos, look for Mari Winsor or Blogilates
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/20 05:55 PM
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I don’t see how you could end up with people assuming your promiscuous if you’re going to be single and not dating a whole year! I feel like anyone who would presume that about you wouldn’t be worth your time, really.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/20 12:24 PM
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I’m so happy for you! It sounds like you’ve made a lot of great progress and are in such a better place.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/20 12:21 PM
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Do you have any favorite stores for finding skorts?
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 02:36 PM
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So, one thing about a nice lingerie is it sets the mood for you. Say (when life goes back to normal), you and your husband are out at a nice restaurant for a date, and you have on a gorgeous lingerie set or a slip that makes you feel extra sexy and glamorous. This boost in your mood will pay off for him. And you can give him a little glimpse, say of a stocking top, which will get his imagination working overtime
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 02:23 PM
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Also, This may be the biggest part...when he’s wrong, do it with the utmost discretion, and even go so far as to wait until you’re alone. I maybe wrong and there isn’t a ton of info here, but I am a red pill male and I want a woman who always looks supportive “on the street”, but can tell me the truth in the sheets. Maybe I’m immature like this, but I seem to value her opinion a lot more when it doesn’t make me look like a jerk. ;) I don’t think this is immature, that’s just being respectful to …
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/20 02:16 PM
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Okay, I just have to ask, when did 5’8” become considered that short for a man? When did our culture start valuing height above all the other factors that are considered masculine? I really feel like I missed a memo or something lol
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/20 05:07 PM
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I hope you get to make your escape soon. I swear something about the heat of the kitchen turns otherwise decent guys into total jerks, and in most of the restaurants I worked at, even front of house guys would kind of play along with that culture to fit in
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 09:04 PM
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This is really good advice, in this situation and in general.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 09:00 PM
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Ugh. The restaurant industry is the worst for this, I feel your pain.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 07:22 PM
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I love this comment, and yeah I agree. Men’s trp has plenty of good men in it when you peak below the surface, and I think that’s really cool
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/20 12:39 PM
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I actually found this sub by accident and expected it to be like these stereotypes. I was totally prepared to scoff at you but instead I lurked and found out that this is really a lovely community of women and that women’s red pill is NOT men’s red pill at all. I’ve really learned a lot in the months since I’ve been here. I really enjoyed your post
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/20 05:55 PM
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The second. If I’m settling down to spend the entire rest of my life with a man, it’s much much more important that we’re physically and emotionally connected and have good rapport and chemistry than that he could just spend lots of money on me. Also, unless you’re marrying one of the absolute richest people, even wealthy people run into periods of financial instability sometimes (often through no fault of their own, like everyone who’s recently lost so much due to coronavirus and lockdowns etc)…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/20 03:15 PM
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Yep, that context is important. OP, you haven’t lost anything. A guy who would rather delete an account than block a cam girl is not a guy you want to spend your whole life with.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/20 12:32 PM
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I don’t mind that men comment, so much as I mind when men comment without respecting our perspective. Even in the replies to this there are examples of guys who are here in good faith (say, they want to get married one day, or they want to understand women better from our own perspective), and then there are guys who are... not here in good faith. I don’t mind the first type of male commenter and there are threads here where I think their perspective can be particularly valuable
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/20 12:12 PM
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I watch Jeopardy, lol. My family always watched it when I was growing up so I still turn it on during dinner. My family is a bunch of nerds though
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 05:49 PM
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For me the answer is a qualified yes. They need to have smaller holes, like a more retro style of fishnet. And they need to make sense with the outfit.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/20 10:35 PM
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I remember your post. I do not believe you’re someone incapable of loving other people, I think your husband broke your trust so deeply that your connection with him is deeply damaged. And if you do choose divorce, it may be a journey to get to a place of trust with someone else, but that does NOT mean it’s impossible for you. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, it must be very hard.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 02:12 PM
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Fully agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/20 02:55 AM
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That makes sense. Maybe OP could look at r/coloranalysis for advice if this sort of post isn’t against their rules?
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/20 01:41 PM
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Would an imgur link to the picture work?
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/20 12:13 PM
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You seem like a lovely, sweet woman with low self esteem, and I think you’d be better served with a therapist or life coach to help you work on your self esteem than any kind of cosmetic procedure. I checked your post history too and I think you’re cute. Also, even if you were genuinely ugly facially, that wouldn’t preclude being a loving, feminine woman. Plenty of the older women who I look up to/whose marriages seem to be very healthy aren’t stunning beauties, and their husbands still love and…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 02:30 PM
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Muscle tone.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/20 01:38 PM
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I agree with the other women who’ve commented. It can be hard getting over low self esteem especially when it comes from bullying! There are lots of books out there but I’d personally recommend to try therapy out if it’s in your budget and you have the time. Having a therapist can be really helpful, they’re good for accountability and just talking about this stuff out loud can really help to get over it too.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 08:37 PM
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Our society’s focus on climbing the ladder and having the most prestigious career can be so damaging. I seriously can’t imagine looking down on anyone for choosing teaching if their heart was in it—good teachers are a literal blessing, and good science teachers are especially lacking at least where I grew up. I think it’s very admirable you became one.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/20 03:36 PM
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It’s so funny. This article is like a mirror of the bad/wrong ideas I had about this subreddit when I first discovered it and started lurking here ages ago. In reality I think this sub is actually pretty dang diverse in terms of our backgrounds and politics, and it’s also just a good subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/20 01:36 PM
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Always remember that men (just like any other group!) aren’t a hive mind. Sure lots of guys are jerks, but lots of guys are great too. You don’t like it when men paint women with overly broad strokes, so it’s intellectually honest to be sure you catch yourself when you do that to them
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/20 12:56 PM
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Watching people have regular sex would be one thing, but most popular porn categories these days have weird, questionable twists. Like bdsm, or incest, or gangbangs, or weird racial stuff. That adds to the problems porn can cause. I also think there’s a big difference between having a magazine or a few video tapes like back in the day that you use to get off, vs having every flavor of pornography at your fingertips.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 12:39 PM
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I genuinely think a lot of women feel peer pressured into pretending they enjoy porn and don’t think it’s a big deal. Because if you admit you’re anti-porn to regular people who aren’t aware of why porn is/could be bad, they just assume you’re a prude who doesn’t have fun. I know I used to feel pressured to say things like this, when I was in my teens and early twenties.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 12:24 PM
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To be fair, I think this question is pretty well suited to this sub, but I do like that the mods limit male contributions so we don’t get overwhelmed The difference between how “the red pill” is thought about by the contributors here (female and the trusted males who comment) is pretty different than in the guys’ subs. But maybe the Christian redpill subreddit would be a good avenue for this question too, since Christians tend to value commitment and marriage
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 02:27 PM
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I find RPW always brings me back down to reality as it conveys such a genuine window into womens own goals and values. I think something happens where we all forget that we all more alike than we are different. Some men want hot bar chicks, and some girls want the chad with money. But in the middle... men and women are just as anxious as each other about dating, and self-worth, and wanting to feel like they can figure this whole "life" thing out. This is a great paragraph and I definitely agree.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/20 12:56 PM
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Not showering too much is really important. I have a tendency towards dry skin and eczema that’s gotten worse with age and cutting back on showering/bathing (I went from two or three daily to just once a day quicker showering under more lukewarm water) plus moisturizing after every shower with a lotion that had ceramides in it has been the only thing to really help with that.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 12:37 PM
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Cotton underwear was a total game changer for me too! I made the switch last year. It’s so comfortable and aerie’s designs are usually super cute
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 12:32 PM
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This is such an important but easy to forget thing!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 12:28 PM
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Darkening in that area is natural
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 12:26 PM
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If you’re looking to spend some money, I can’t recommend an electric toothbrush enough! My dentist had been recommending one to me for years and I finally got one a few months ago, it feels so good and my teeth are much whiter and healthier than before.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/20 12:24 PM
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I was doing really well on the self maintenance/care routine I came up with for myself, but I got thrown for a total loop by some sudden family drama and backslid so badly. I feel like I lost all my momentum at the exact time that everything was starting to feel like an ingrained habit that would stick. So now I have to keep myself from just giving up and try to keep optimistic because if I got to that point once, surely I’ll be back there again in a few weeks if I’m diligent about it. This is a…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/20 03:45 PM
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1.I want to know how you ladies define your submissive behaviour or lifestyle? I only submit to a man I trust and respect. Trust, respect, and submission are earned, not freewheelingly given to any man. 2.What makes your captain feel dominant? I’m happily in nun mode so I’m not the person to answer this 3.What can i do to avoid going against my values yet be submissive? Being submissive should never be more important than your values. Always prioritize your morals and values. If a man doesn’t re…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/20 03:33 PM
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I don’t think sex robots are going to advance enough to please people who don’t have robot kinks anytime in the next few decades. I think hookup apps are already going out of style, I don’t do online dating and my friends who did use tinder hated it, lots of them have already switched to more old school dating sites where the focus is on finding a relationship. I think MeToo is already dead. Liberals decided it was over when they ran Biden and didn’t want to deal with his history
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 01:27 PM
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Since so many women gave great responses on character traits I’ll say something physical that makes a woman beautiful to me: some women move with this fluid grace in their body language that I just find so enchanting and beautiful. It’s something I’ll notice in a group of women when we’re out together or just observing people in public.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 05:05 PM
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Co-Dependents Anonymous
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/20 01:01 PM
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Starting from scratch at 25 is totally okay
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/20 01:53 AM
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Have you looked into stuff like the Kibbe style system? It deals with the differences in our skeletons and helps find flattering clothes. r/Kibbe is a good little subreddit
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/20 12:29 PM
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Better or worse depends on context. How much is the husband making while the wife stays at home? Is it enough to fully pay all the bills and still put money into savings? Or is it going to be a constant financial struggle trying to raise a child with only one income? i mean which is better: a sahm mom and an overworked, underpaid dad who never sees his kid, or two parents who work at least part time? I’ll also say this—I was raised by a SAHM and a full time working dad. The first few years were …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 01:07 PM
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I feel like a lot of these goals are just as applicable when you have a relationship as they are if you’re looking for one.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/20 12:50 PM
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No, I still need to get my hands on that too! It’s such a good book. Cat Eye is another favorite of mine by her that I feel like really gets at something so deep about female friendships
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/20 12:56 AM
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The Robber Bride is one of the best books I’ve ever read, I really love it. It’s nice to see someone recommending that one!
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/20 08:30 PM
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Then, don't force anything on them. They are going to explore the world, that's a part of how we learn and grow. Anything you try to Force will get push back. This is super important. I can’t tell you how many kids from strict conservative households that I knew who went absolutely wild with rebellion. You can’t force kids like that, it will backfire on you
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/20 03:12 AM
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Start small. Like, start with stretching and walks to ease your body into more movement, then add in short video workouts at home. Don’t get discouraged if you can only do five minutes of cardio/Pilates/whatever, just keep doing that five minutes every day or every other day until it gets easier, then add a few minutes. Little steps are the best way to avoid going in over your head or over exerting yourself and ending up strained or injured
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 09:25 PM
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I gave you a reply above about different ideas for volunteer work but I just wanted to say, after reading through this thread, that you seem like just an absolutely lovely woman already. Maybe you could use some new friends, but you’re smart, kind, self-aware, and strive to improve yourself which means you’re already well on your way to your best self. And anyone would be lucky to have a friend like you! Also, maybe take some time to try to reconnect with a few of your older friends from your la…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 12:58 PM
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Gosh there are so many cool volunteering opportunities depending on where you live. I feel like Habitat might be a great one for meeting good men especially. I know a lot of things have been disrupted by the pandemic of course, but here are a few ideas -for now you could volunteer at a local food bank. Lines are huge everywhere and food banks need volunteers more than ever with the way things are. This can be a deeply satisfying bit of charity work, because you know you’re immediately helping th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/20 12:38 PM
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consistency in doing what he said he would do This is a huge one that I learned the hard way. My last serious ex was a guy who would say he’d ___ (help me move this big box to a shelf I can’t reach/take out the trash/etc) but never make good on it. It honestly made me lose respect for him over time
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 09:50 PM
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I’m not sure as far as walking etc, but if you want to improve your posture I strongly recommend traditional Pilates. Mari Windsor videos on YouTube are a good place to start
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/20 02:15 PM
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The men on mgtow are NOT the men you’re going to want to date. Who cares if those guys only like women under 25? It sounds like men are attracted to you if you get pushy messages after parties. You might intimidate some guys by being closed off (it might read as icy or haughty) but that’s not something you couldn’t fix if you wanted to, and it’s probably for the best you have that going on in college anyways. College guys, as those messages show, are often only after one thing lol. You’re going …
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/20 02:02 PM
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I’m still trying to fully understand this philosophy but from what I’ve seen, the idea of “submitting” could be phrased alternately as surrendering or even compromising. I understand why “submitting” is used, but I think that word can be a little loaded, especially with most average people associating it more with porn or bdsm than anything healthy I’ve seen it said by women here that “submission is a gift,” ie: it’s not de facto, you don’t just submit to any man you go on a date with or any rel…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/20 06:36 PM
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That book is truly a lifesaver.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/20 09:28 PM
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I would just tell him that you support him, and that his mother will get over her disappointment at him not pursuing a higher degree with time. He knows himself better than his mother knows him, so if he knows that going into the job force is the right choice for himself, he should do it. Just be sure he knows that you support his choices no matter what they are.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 05:54 PM
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So far my entire extended family has stayed healthy and safe throughout this pandemic and I’m very, very grateful for that. Also grateful that spring is finally happening where I live.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/20 05:49 PM
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The “no” test is so important. And I bet I’m a lot less conservative than many of the women in this subreddit and I can confirm men from either/any political party can be abusive. Someone’s politics really have very little to do with how they behave in interpersonal and romantic relationships
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/20 04:58 PM
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I’m mostly a lurker here but to me it seems like it’s a lot easier to find a man than to keep one.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/20 10:40 PM
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I really recommend adding Pilates in to your workout routines! I especially love Kait Coates (she has videos on YouTube and amazon prime) and Mari Windsor. a lot of abdominal exercises actually add bulk to the midsection, Pilates lengthens muscles which can help counteract that
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/20 09:00 PM
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Umbrellas of Cherbourg
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/20 08:34 PM
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Maybe you two could video chat as a solution for this time? I kinda get where he’s coming from. My state isn’t hit hard just yet, but all the indications are there that we will be hit hard very soon, so taking extreme precaution like that seems wise to me.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/20 01:35 PM
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