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You can use the same techniques to minimize trauma if you go the other route. For example, let's say your 4 year old's only memory of the dentist is bad, if you focus only on the positives of the experience "new tooth brush" and "afterwards we had a happy meal." The child will focus on the good parts of the memory, and if you ask them about the dentist they will respond positively. In the case of this event, it sounds like everyone recalled a regrettable incident and reframed it over and over un…
/r/MensRights17/10/15 04:54 PM
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Not really, I was thinking of "Satanic Panic" and all of the false accusations in the 80's - that were actually coerced/altered/implanted memories in people which made them believe they were victims of some terrible things. It's interesting, and fits in really well in this context.
/r/MensRights17/10/15 12:34 PM
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This reminds me of children that made false accusations about being in satanic cults based on coaching from adults. With the right suggestions, if you hear something enough, or are told something enough about your own experience you may later re-interpret it. It seems at colleges that rape is the new "satanic cult" accusation.
/r/MensRights17/10/15 09:23 AM
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I quickly read through the book after seeing the author on a documentary several years ago. It was very very interesting, and I do think she learned a lot in the process. However it's frustrating too, because I think pretending to be another gender means that all of her interactions were essentially deceptive and I question the authenticity of her whole study. It's not like she was transgendered and was making a transition; frankly I've learned more about the difference between men and women fro…
/r/MensRights09/09/14 02:17 PM
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Men and patriarchy don't sexualize women or men. Being human does. I think feminists are trying to deny and create bizarre social structures around human sexuality. I think this is the root of the issue. It's a fundamental denial of how human sexuality works overall. First and foremost, following attraction humans try to engage and initiate with one another on a sexual level. Eye contact, smiling, nodding you head, changing your posture etc can be all be classified as a sexual behavior. Literall…
/r/MensRights29/08/14 12:43 PM
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It's also worth noting that in the MRM, we need women as part of the leadership of the movement... not just because equality is a good thing, but because society won't listen to any complaints about men's issues unless they're presented by a woman. Been there. The argument/commentary I presented on "Why we need to do more for boys in education" in real life was actually listened to; whereas the 2 men in the room who made the exact same damn comments were nearly ignored. I'm happy to carry the to…
/r/MensRights25/08/14 03:02 PM
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You are so completely welcome! You feeling better is the whole point. Your work life is hard enough, but when you layer on inconsiderate co-workers it can make an already stressful situation unbearable. I'm glad you received help. I'm also happy you're willing to give them the benefit of the doubt, because this makes it easier on you more so than them. Trust your manager is keeping an eye on things, and if anything else does happen in the future you know how to handle it. /no need for gold, your…
/r/MensRights13/08/14 09:31 PM
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First, your immediate reaction is, rather than believing him, to assess his social skills and professionalism to make sure he isn't in the wrong. Would this be done regardless of gender? 100% every single time. You're not the first person to wonder the why of it. Life is full of grey area, and I assume most people tell the truth, but I always allow for the idea that maybe some people are lying to me. And act with caution. I never - ever reprimand anyone for something I don't have some sort of di…
/r/MensRights13/08/14 08:14 PM
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I've seen complaints like this go all sorts of ways, but most of the time the people saying things like "weirdo" thought they were either: being playful, like when your friend calls you jerkface affectionately being hip/ironic, Hey weirdo was an awkward way of saying "I'm like you" being assholes, and thought so little of the person they didn't care if they overhead, and maybe wanted him to overhear (which is what I suspect happened in this case). On the serious side we have establishing dominan…
/r/MensRights13/08/14 02:36 PM
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Evil HR Person here: What you experienced is unprofessional and if repeated over-time can create an unhealthy working environment, but it's very minor. And you should treat it that way. Here is a short email you can send to HR or your manager that should get their attention. Send it in email so you have a record it went out. If you need to edit this: Do not mention the employees names or genders and keep it short. Why? When you write me a 2 page letter on a very minor issue I will see you as som…
/r/MensRights13/08/14 12:45 PM
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this is all true, and has terrible consequences for everyone.
/r/MensRights17/07/14 02:36 AM
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The majority of people living in poverty are children; poverty is and always has been a "gender neutral" issue. Supplemental government services for the poor are typically divided by age: think school lunches and medicare for older people. Non-profits, churches and other groups that serve the poor tend to break out services even further and focus in on specific constituents. This is where poor women get a greater variety of services and poor men tend to get far fewer sources. For example: When I…
/r/MensRights15/07/14 11:19 PM
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The idea of "historical oppression" or "latent patriarchy" is precisely what makes me find the new feminists ideologically corrupt. Philosophically it's no different than the anti-semitism found in Mein Kampf, or any other politically motivated hate-speech which blames an entire group of people for the historic actions of a few members of that group. I find extremely worrisome, particularly since laws are favoring women over men in the family courts to a degree where men are losing due process. …
/r/MensRights11/07/14 09:21 AM
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I was a feminist, in the 90's back when feminism was about "equal rights, responsibilities and opportunities." I believed being female shouldn't make it harder to become an engineer. What I experienced was that my gender wasn't an issue at all, my career has been awesome. I'm no longer a feminist because apparently the word changed to mean: "More rights and opportunities than men, because 30 years ago men had WAY more privilege and all men (and boys) should be punished for that - - indefinitely.…
/r/MensRights11/07/14 12:58 AM
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I completely agree. As a woman you either get to be a princess/special (which means you get and expect special treatment) OR you get to be an equal. You can NOT be both. It is impossible to be your partner's equal, and simultaneously get special treatment. Period. This IMO is why feminists destroy their relationships: they expect their partners to put up with this contradiction. It just doesn't work. Of course people who love each other do special things for one another, however when one partner…
/r/MensRights10/07/14 04:51 PM
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That is sad. I think it is horrible that you can't be a decent person anymore to children, if you have the "wrong" genitalia. I was at a technology convention a few years ago and it was terribly crowded. I felt something press up against my leg, and it was a 2 or 3 year old boy. He was crying, scared etc. and I think he was being pushed by the movement of crowd who were all trying to get free t-shirts nearby. I instinctively picked him up and carried him to security. Within a few minutes his mot…
/r/MensRights08/07/14 10:39 PM
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This list would not pass an IRB (institutional review board) for this reason. Also many questions are so ambiguous they don't even seem answerable in a serious manner.
/r/MensRights27/06/14 09:29 PM
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I think it goes deeper, it's flat out hate-speech, condemning/blaming a whole group of people. The lack of action or reaction to this quote is horrific... what's next .... "I know it's sexist. But I don't want my kids interacting with men."
/r/MensRights19/06/14 06:13 PM
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"I know it's sexist. But I don't want my kids sitting next to a man on a plane." FWIW: it's this sort of statement is so outrageous that I hope it will drive more people, especially other women towards learning about Men's Rights. I find it offensive beyond measure - being a man does not make someone a child abuser or child molester - nor does being a woman make a person immune from being an abuser or molester. I hope this quote is repeated often in as many sources as possible because it should …
/r/MensRights19/06/14 05:53 PM
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Totally agree. If you agree to share finances/responsibilities/sex/housing in a marriage, any type of withholding is selfish. If you don't want to share, don't get married.
/r/MensRights17/06/14 01:55 PM
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yes! I just think this is where women who expect preferential treatment make a huge error; in return for chivalry they need to be gracious. The attitude here is "I expect X" and it comes off as entitled because there is no give and take mentioned. It's rude and treats men like they are servants/lower than. If my husband opens a door for me I say thank you, however I can't imagine just standing there waiting him to hold the door open for me - which is the impression I get from the article. If I a…
/r/MensRights16/06/14 03:33 PM
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Chivalry is such an interesting concept. I think it has a virtuous core, take care of those who need it, but the expectation of chivalry and demanding preferential treatment is often in direct conflict with simple good manners. This is why this article and others like it make me angry. The author thinks good manners don't apply to her based on her gender. If I invite a friend to coffee, I'll pay. It's not a gender thing, it's good manners. I invited you, therefore I pay. If you're carrying an ar…
/r/MensRights16/06/14 03:08 AM
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So MRAs believe in bidirectional sexism. Feminists generally believe in unidirectional sexism. If you believe that, anything that helps men more than women is just increasing sexism against women, and thus must be anti-equality in their minds. This is precisely the issue I have with with young feminists. I find myself constantly disagreeing with their views (and tactics) but I do not express it anymore. It is impossible to have a debate with a group of people who are so rigid in their position o…
/r/MensRights11/06/14 05:19 PM
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Sorry, I don't understand what you posted here.
/r/MensRights30/05/14 04:28 PM
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There are some of us who came to learn more about MRA because we were made aware of one of the issues in the article you linked, then stayed because overall this sub is very engaging. If I had seen even the tiniest hint this was a "hate-group" - I would have left a LONG time ago. I stay subscribed because I am disheartened by how often boys are expelled from elementary schools. I was trying to understand why so many young boys no longer succeed in schools as compared to a study I was reading fro…
/r/MensRights30/05/14 02:32 PM
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