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yay! Let me know what you think!
/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 04:48 AM
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Yea I think there is an exception to every rule, and I think many parts of Europe (bigger cities especially) are following a more progressive and liberalized trend. The feminist movement has also become bigger there. However, I've noticed in the smaller cities or more rural areas women maintain the old ways but I guess that could be applied here too.
/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 04:46 AM
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I've visited Europe in general and my parents are both immigrants and my mom (from Europe) always had a sense of femininity in the way she dressed and took care of herself. I always remember her being appalled when she went to grocery stores and saw women that looked like they rolled out of bed and were still wearing their pajama bottoms.
/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 04:44 AM
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haha yes please let me know what you think! The movie was pretty good (by no means mind-blowing) . It kinda addresses the French expression of "Cinq à sept" when it comes to relationships and how some approach marriage in a more open way, so the movie doesn't show relationships in a traditional sense. However, I just found her character's elegant and feminine way of carrying herself interesting.
/r/RedPillWives20/03/17 04:42 AM
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My mom always tells us that you should never fight to win, because when your goal is simply to win, then you're turning your partner into a loser. Wise woman. I really like this, and that your mom set that example. When I was young and growing up I'd watch my parents fight and developed the thought that arguing was about who had the last word and who "won." I would always see that none of them really walked away as a winner, nobody was happy, and the relationship was continuously falling into de…
/r/RedPillWives27/01/17 05:36 PM
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I think I got goose-bumps.... That's insane, but now everything makes way more sense
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 02:45 AM
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I didn't expect so many Gilmore Girls fans and viewers! Yay! Exciting! It was my favorite show growing up. I totally agree with most of you that I was completely shocked to see Rory's character transformation. I didn't enjoy what they transformed her into as I felt like the way they set her up in the beginning she seemed to have so much potential to grow positively. I always had a soft spot in my heart for Logan. It broke my heart when she denied his marriage proposal, but he deserves better.
/r/RedPillWives26/01/17 02:40 AM
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:D
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 08:45 PM
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Haha it totally is, we laugh a lot, but she's tough on me because I know she cares.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 04:14 PM
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Im grateful for my SO always making an effort to plan different and unique dates, even when I know he's tired and I tell him he doesn't have to. I'm grateful for his thoughtfulness in general, it makes me wanna work harder. I'm grateful to my sister for training me at the gym for free and always pushing me to do that extra set. I'm grateful for the simple things, coming home on a freezing day to a warm apartment and a beautiful cup of tea.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 03:18 AM
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I think this is the route I'll go cause I've seen a few minimalism styles, and I think I could manage those without pulling my hair out from the amount of perfection involved with most of the other styles.
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 03:57 AM
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Now I'm intrigued haha
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 03:55 AM
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Holy crap...just holy crap :) Edit: in reference to your cover
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 03:55 AM
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I love this! Ok, I don't know if this is cheating :/ but this spoken word poem reminds me of how I felt when I didn't think I'd find love again and to the extent that I'd find it. It makes me think of all the quirks and imperfections I love about him and how I hope he never closes the door on our love.
/r/RedPillWives16/01/17 07:30 PM
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I've recently started a gratitude journal and try to make sure I write in it daily. It has helped me end my days with positive reflection.
/r/RedPillWives16/01/17 07:21 PM
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YES. SECONDED.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 06:46 PM
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Those sound heavenly! Garlic and potatoes couple so well together that it almost feels like its at the soulmate level. I agree about the breath being a downside though, if only it could taste the same but make your breath smell like a field of flowers.
/r/RedPillWives11/01/17 06:42 PM
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Ugly: Adult acne sucks. I really want to try out curelogy and get some a-grade stuff. Sorry kinda late, but have you ever tried retin-A? I just started on it and its been pretty great so far with acne. I've tried almost everything since I was a teenager, and this is honestly the first thing that I see a marked difference with. There are some side effects like dry skin and redness and may break you out more in the beginning of treatment, but so far the side effects have been manageable.
/r/RedPillWives19/11/16 03:05 AM
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hahaha wait I love this, laughed the whole time...it's so evil but not entirely harmful and super hilariously subtle. hmm knowing what kind of work enviornment you have would help. Is it more of an office setting? I've heard of the keyboard key rearranging prank where you take off a few and switch their places, a good typist would go nuts with this. Or on the same note if she has a desk/office space, you can subtly rearrange things or move things a little out of place each day. cue evil maniacal…
/r/RedPillWives19/11/16 02:16 AM
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SO slaps you in the face with some love. haha now that's kind of slap I can get behind
/r/RedPillWives19/11/16 02:01 AM
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This is an interesting study. I think I might be a flip flopper and if I like most of their other characteristics, physical or otherwise, I could probably care less about their facial hair. It is strange though cause a couple years back I thought full facial hair/beards was the hottest thing a man could do to improve his appearance. Now after meeting my S.O. who is usually clean shaven, I think he's the sexiest thing ever. He also has the cutest cheeks and I think that the facial hair would hide…
/r/RedPillWives18/11/16 07:38 PM
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I've just recently become a little too obsessed with pinterest (I know, super late) but I'll definitely check it out.
/r/RedPillWives17/11/16 11:08 PM
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thank you! Good point, I'll definitely run it by him
/r/RedPillWives17/11/16 11:07 PM
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That looks so good. I'm definitely gonna try it! if not for this situation then just for myself hehe
/r/RedPillWives17/11/16 11:06 PM
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My recommendation is to bring something homemade & delicious (check with BF), dress in something that you are comfortable & confident in, try to remember everyone's names but know you may not be able to, listen more than talk, smile, breathe deeply and avoid alcohol. This is such a good suggestion. Any idea of what I should make, I'm not the best baker.
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 08:55 PM
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This actually helps a lot!! Thank you, thank you, thank you. It's laid out very well and makes me feel a bit better because when I'm nervous I tend to forget a lot of things and how to act, and these are good points to remember when my mind will be all jumbled. Be light but specific with compliments. Could you give an example of this.
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 08:53 PM
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First of all I would recommend that you try to calm yourself down. If you go into this being too hyped up and anxious you are going to come across as too high strung and over eager to please. This is very much on point and happens to me all the time, thank you! Find out whether or not you will be expected to take gifts. Ahhh I actually completely forgot that I might have to get some sort of gifts!
/r/RedPillWives16/11/16 08:51 PM
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omg your dream gave me a combination of goosebumps, shivers, and hardcore mental imagery. I will never be the same again... edit: it totally reminded me of this dream I once had where I had some sort of skin condition where when I shed skin, green moss grew in its place and when I tried puling it out, there was no skin in its place, just raw flesh. It creeped me out for weeks afterwards.
/r/RedPillWives29/10/16 06:16 PM
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Ask yourself, "Is it worth it?" This is mostly related to unnecessary snacking. If I'm wondering if I should stop for a latte, have another cookie, buy a snack that I don't really need... I'll ask myself if it's really worth the possibility of guilt, stomachache, that icky "I need to brush my teeth" feeling, the extra calories. Often, an impulsive treat seems like a good idea until you swallow it. I totally did this today and am dang proud of myself! I had a long shift and didn't get time to get…
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 12:42 AM
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Absolutely love all of these. I also may or may not have tried to visualize that badminton game haha.
/r/RedPillWives21/10/16 12:30 AM
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I am grateful for my SO always making time for me even though he is so busy and making me feel more cared for than I've ever felt. I'm grateful for my family being close and always being there for me and making sure I'm ok. As corny as it sounds, I'm really grateful to be healthy
/r/RedPillWives18/10/16 05:23 PM
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oooo thanks for the recipe, those look amazingggg
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 09:14 PM
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I stuff riddles or puzzles in his jacket pockets sometimes. I love this! What kind of stickers does he like? Do you remember the fuzzy soft stickers, I used to love those as a kid and forgot about them until just now gets immersed in nostalgia.
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 01:05 AM
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making an advent calendar for him this year. His love language is gifts, so 24 little presents leading up to Christmas will make him feel pretty spoiled, I think :) This is such an adorable idea. Is he crafty at all, does he like putting things together? If he is, I've heard of giving a piece of something that will come together to make one thing, like say for example a model airplane. So each day he gets a piece or few pieces that he can connect to come together to one whole surprise model at t…
/r/RedPillWives17/10/16 01:03 AM
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It's my pleasure! I'm really interested in neurology and psychology and their connection in human development, choice, and action. This particular one was intertwined with what is talked about a lot on this sub, so I thought it might be of interest :).
/r/RedPillWives15/10/16 08:46 PM
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be in jail for ten years: I'd rather be conscious, so I can work on improving myself. Prison workout anyone? I love that you put that spin on it, even though its an absolutely miserable time, at least you are still a mentally, physically functioning human with that time and the ability to use it. edit: also, this reminded me of the documentary "The Fear of 13" (highly recommend). The protagonist is a prisoner who personifies self-improvement in even the worst circumstances. By the time he is rel…
/r/RedPillWives13/10/16 08:39 PM
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Also watch how the mom treats the son. It usually signifies how they want a woman/future wife to treat them whether they admit to it or not. Especially if they baby them, placate them, or tend to their every need they will seek out similar characteristics. Or the opposite can also be true, if they had a harsher character of a mother they will seek out more of a nurturing, loving, soft nature in a partner to make up for the lack of nurturing.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/16 10:22 PM
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wow you said everything I was thinking and in a very organized format! First dates are really just to get a good feel of each other, is there something of potential there? Am I enjoying their company? are there commonalities that can be built on in future dates? Is there attraction? etc. Hope it goes well OP! Please update!
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/16 10:14 PM
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I think fall and the crockpot go hand in hand, whenever I think of fall and food, I think of hearty and warm. Soups and stews! Argh I'm craving them just typing this.... like this one http://www.eatingwell.com/recipe/250654/slow-cooker-moroccan-lentil-soup/
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/16 10:03 PM
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Hey, Thanks for posting this! I'm always looking for more YTubers like this. I've especially been getting more into Korean skincare so I feel like this will help the process :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/16 06:40 PM
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I'm young You ARE young, so DON'T waste time and your youth on this guy and going back and forth with him because if you do and you look back years down the road you will regret having wasting your time and youth for nothing. I'm really broken and I really love him. I hope I can stay strong These are the initial emotions you are feeling due to severing a bond/connection. They will pass, especially if you focus on the negative about him and the relationship to help the process. Remember he will t…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/16 06:36 PM
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I definitely worshiped at the Church of IDGAF and believed its gospel, touted by oh-so-many rom-coms, that the chick who doesn't try is the chick who gets the guy. haha favorite line!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 10:16 PM
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Congrats on the bundle of joy! I've noticed my fears drive me to try to control situations even subconsciously, but I've been trying to catch myself. Sometimes I feel like if I don't do it.... how will it get resolved or what if it all crashes and burns. I'm in a fairly new relationship and have been leaving the reins-taking to him. However, I still find myself in moments freaking out internally that if I don't make the plans or bring up certain topics, it won't get done. However, I'm working to…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 08:36 PM
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I made this realization recently too, especially with the help of this sub. It's so strange when you are overwhelmed with your emotions, in the moment they can feel like everything and like it will always be that way. However when they fade you think "wow that wasn't life or death...life moved on..I'm ok...everything is ok."
/r/RedPillWives29/09/16 08:30 PM
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Also, I'm not sure men really miss women the same way that women miss men, if that makes sense. can you elaborate on this a bit, I think I know what you mean, but I don't know if I'm clear about the distinct differences.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/16 01:23 AM
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One of the biggest things I did when I first started dating my partner was to never, ever contact him first. I can count on my two hands the number of times I texted him first. This meant that my partner was always in control of the pace of the relationship, and that he never felt like he had to chat with me just to chat, instead he only talked to me when he wanted to. It's interesting that you bring this up because I was thinking about this a lot recently. For the most part I try to do what you…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/16 12:08 AM
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omg! I want to be your guy's friend, you sound like adorkable people :)
/r/RedPillWives25/09/16 09:47 PM
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Thank you! hmm, did you date/have a relationship during med school, if so how did it go for you?
/r/RedPillWives25/09/16 09:26 PM
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This is what I'm going to try, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 08:31 PM
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So do you have more free time during third and fourth year?
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 08:31 PM
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I think this is great, and your attitude is admirable.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 08:30 PM
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Actually one of the most flattering moments was when he got called in during lunch but didn't leave until he finished eat what I had cooked for him (even though he had to eat it over the sink while trying to pull on scrubs). I knew that he wouldn't make himself late for me, but he must have thought my food was that good! That's the freakin cutest! I'm so glad you guys are going strong. Just keep the mindset that you are doing it for you, not so much for him. Woah that gave me pause. You are righ…
/r/RedPillWives25/09/16 12:09 AM
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It's a good sign he tries to prioritize you, but his goals were set before you met. Make sure you assuage his guilt for not seeing you or having enough time for you, otherwise resentment can build on both ends. Yes! I've thought about this and am trying my best to do what you mention because I don't want that resentment to happen. That being said, don't blind yourself during the vetting processes as a result. thanks for mentioning this; I feel like it is so easy to get caught up and lose track o…
/r/RedPillWives25/09/16 12:07 AM
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Thank you so much for your response! I'm glad to hear from someone that went through something similar. Can I ask did it get easier/better for you guys now? or is it an ongoing time struggle/compromise? Those are some of my fears cause it is still very early and I'm only getting a taste of things now, so I'm still a bit wary. I definitely think he is a person that would be worth the compromises and sacrifices. Thank you for mentioning the thing about surprise visits!!.. cause I had began thinkin…
/r/RedPillWives24/09/16 10:55 PM
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I noticed that if the jackets/coats are more fitted or even cinched at the waist, it instantly adds a feminine touch to something that could be bulky and shape-hiding.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/16 09:56 PM
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I have heard from a few people that I know that have gotten some work done and even most plastic surgeon's openly advise their patients "DO NOT get work done for anybody but yourself." If you are not pleased with a part of your body and think you'd be happier and more fulfilled by changing it, than that is your choice. However, if you make that kind of change of that magnitude based majorly on someone else's opinion or approval, it will backfire majorly in the future. You might end up regretting…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/16 03:59 PM
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I do agree with most people here and think that the party idea is not great. It would freak him out at the least. However, I do not agree that you should give up on him and the possibility of a relationship with him unless he strictly lets you know once again that he has no interest in being with you anymore. The reason he gave seems to be vague which usually means it's something else, but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. There is a chance it could be the honest reason but the odds are tha…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/16 03:50 PM
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Yea, I noticed this too; I wonder if she is pulling her weight in the relationship and doing all those things for him as well. The old adage holds true: that the people that are nice to you, do nice things for you, respect you constantly and consistently you don't appreciate or pay attention to as you do with those that don't treat you well but occasionally throw you a bone. OP probably has to observe where her attraction and values lie and what she wants long term in a man, relationship, and he…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 11:31 PM
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yep definitely crossed my mind.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 09:16 PM
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This is the most redpill consistent advice I've gotten so far and seems 100% accurate and logical. Thank you, I will follow this!
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/16 04:29 PM
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Yea I honestly have no idea if he has a gf, he hasn't mentioned anything and I kind of feel weird overtly asking him "hey also by the way do you have a gf?"
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/16 02:47 PM
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yea, that's what I was afraid of with the number thing. If I see him again I'll try the "get together sometime thing."
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/16 02:45 PM
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I said something similar because he mentioned he really likes hiking, and I said I do as well and am always looking for new spots and hiking partners but he didn't say too much to that so I figured he must not be interested.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/16 02:44 PM
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I was just about to post this same link!!! I thought I'd scroll down a bit first and see what was new just in case, and lo and behold hahaha. Yea, I was very surprised too cause I've seen a few of her videos before and wasn't expecting this kind of advice from her with her being pretty mainstream with most other things, and it was sad to see all the negativity she was getting.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/16 09:26 PM
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I have thought about this a lot previously and also when I read the article. It seems to me that you shouldn't be "withholding" things like domestic duties until you're married, and that a man is less likely to want to commit/marry you before he sees the full package, not just "oh I promise I'll do this after we get married". I totally agree with this. I don't know if there is a right answer or solution cause I think it just comes down to a case by case basis. Some couples will end up living tog…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/16 08:41 PM
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Ummmm......were my thoughts reading this post. I think the answer is very obvious or at least it should be. You said "you don't want to be used" "you feel like he doesn't treat you well" which is saying the same thing in different words. I don't know if this is fully RPW advice but I think it crosses over. Firstly, of course he wants sex, this is man 101, and of course he'll try to get it from wherever and however he can which includes maybe telling you things that will make you give it to him. …
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 04:32 PM
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I was just gonna post about headspace when I saw that you had lol. It's one of the few apps I've found that really helps with a foundation.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 05:37 PM
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this is SO sweet. It was so kind of him to do that for you. Maybe next time (if such a thing occurs again with a similar circumstance) you could give him a massage after to soothe his tired muscles. :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 01:47 AM
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Hahaha don't overthink this, I'm sure your health is a priority to him as much as it is to you. Certainly more so than a party, just tell him you'll make it up to him ;)
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/16 02:34 AM
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Why does not having the choice, and I'm not even talking about a requirement to state an opinion or cast a vote towards the direction you want your government's political state to go in not appeal to you? You would rather go back to the time when you didn't even have that ability or option? Please explain why
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/16 02:32 AM
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chair butt hahaha "chair butt" the fear is real. BTW I love your username <3
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 09:46 PM
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Your class sounds really fun and interesting. I think group or partner based workouts/classes are really motivating. I was in denial that working out could make any volume difference on your butt. I used to think whatever I was given genetically was as good as it was gonna get, but after actually committing to squatting and other booty targeted workouts, I slowly started noticing a difference. At first I thought maybe it was some sort of placebo effect, but when other people started commenting o…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 07:51 PM
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Yea my hymen never tore when I lost my virginity. I remember looking down expecting blood and being surprised.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/15 03:36 AM
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Anyway you hear man bashing out the wazoo but rarely women bashing. The funny thing about this is, women bash other women all the time on a private level. Women will talk about other fellow women behind their backs, to their friends, to coworkers, to anyone around that will listen (if I may use your word) up the wazoo....men don't do this nearly as much. YET on a public platform we are supposedly all about how we love and support our fellow women. I hate the hypocrisy of it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/15 11:04 PM
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ah yes, I see what you are saying. I just wanted to re-emphasize how it shouldn't become common trope to say this or especially to participate in it within a relationship. It makes me angry and sad that it does.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 07:04 PM
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There will always be arguments, there will always be fights, she’ll throw something at him because she’s mad, he’ll hit her because he didn’t like what she did, she stormed off when he tried confronting her about her behavior, he ignored her and drove to the bar when she complained that he didn’t do what he said he would. None of this should ever be considered ok or healthy in a relationship, fights should not be allowed to get to that point by either party in a mature, respecting relationship. …
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 06:39 PM
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Omg I love you! This is awesome! Could you however go a bit more in depth explaining what those first two do exactly and how you go about them? I've never heard of microneedling
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/15 06:13 PM
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A present father figure is very important for what you are seeking to develop in them. I mean I'm sure in some cases it can be done without them but it's much more difficult. From a young age kids look up to their parents as examples and subconsciously emulate things. They will respond differently when their dad talks to them vs. their mom. Kids need a hands on guide, and the younger you start the better. Just look at trp, guys on their that have posted that said they didn't have a dad growing u…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 04:21 PM
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Yes! to everything you said. I feel like this at work all the time, everyone is always talking about everyone else in a negative way and complaining, and it's like they look at you to join in. It drives me crazy and puts me in a bad mood almost instantly.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 03:25 AM
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I love reading these, it makes me motivated to do and be more! I've been doing a lot of introspection as to my faults and what I truly want to be and what I want in a partner, and I'm learning to let go more and try to enjoy each day as it comes and the surprises, challenges, and learning opportunities that come with it. I've gotten back into the swing of school again...sort of...except for some major procrastination sessions lol :/ :(, but I got my first A on a paper after getting a B- on a pre…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 03:19 AM
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It's so weird to read this because as silly as it sounds to read now. I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't say I strangely remember having the same thoughts and feelings at 21 and they sporadically continued. I don't know what's it is, that we can't see things clearly until we are looking back. The moment is much harder to see as you are living it. I think this is where a positive and productive mentality really helps remedy that
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/15 05:36 AM
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-I started a natural supplement that is helping me with anxiety a whole bunch. Hello, may I ask what it is? I've tried a few and none seem to be too noticeably helpful, I've tried st.johns wort, Gabba among others.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 05:22 PM
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Keep your eyes open, your brain engaged, and your heart tender. :-) I like this line a lot!! I think it should be a RPW slogan
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 05:17 PM
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I remember learning about him in school in history class, but don't remember any mention of his wife. I do remember one of my history teachers in high school who was a man telling the class that a lot of the U.S. and world leaders had very supportive, intelligent, and feminine wives who helped them in many ways indirectly or directly and who without them may not have gotten to where they were or when they had "fallen" would not have been able to get back up as fast as they did without them. They…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/15 08:16 PM
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You do not want a "red pill" man in the sense that he is aware of the red pill and actively revolves it in every aspect of your lives and relationship, and is very actively engrossed and involved in the sub. I had personal experience with this and although I'm sure there are different cases my personal experience with it was not something I'd recommend to anyone. Make yourself the best, most feminine woman you can be and focus on what you can to do to improve yourself and what you can bring to a…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/15 07:01 PM
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Who else do you watch that you recommend? :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/15 03:38 PM
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That was great! Thanks for posting, I always see her suggested on my YouTube page but never thought she'd be worth watching, thus changed my mind. I wish more people could be this introspective and self-aware.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/15 02:02 PM
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I like how it takes putting something comparable in a different context to really make it click and sink in for a lot of people. This was a good reaffirmation of how important it is to continuously be working on yourself and your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 10:40 PM
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Thank you, I really like how you connected trust and patience togehter and showed how they go hand in hand. It's a good way to look at it, I need to practice this more.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 08:56 PM
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You must've gotten your certification at the same place as me..they really need to close that place down lol. Thanks, I'll definitely look into it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 08:54 PM
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Well, I think that tells you some things about him and maybe your relationship. Just because you are in a relationship, and love and respect someone does not mean you also stop valuing yourself. So think about if that's what you are doing.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/15 03:17 PM
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What? If it's a serious committed relationship they can talk about things and plans in a respectful way and she can bring up things in a feminine manner. Like when he talks about his plans after graduation, does he include her in them, do they talk about what they both want out of the future. She is obviously supportive of him but she should still know if they are on the same page for the future.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 05:51 PM
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Does he or do you guys talk about the future together? Does he mention you in his goals/plans?
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 11:31 AM
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aww thanks for posting that, I didn't know it existed online for free as a pdf or I totally would've linked it instead of the obnoxious way I did it lol. Yes exactly everything you said, I'm a person that likes to know the psychology behind my reactions, thoughts, or emotions because it helps me control and recognize the negatives better. I think a lot of people don't see what they are doing as damaging to themselves and their partner, and this book does a good job of highlighting that and also …
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/15 08:48 PM
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Yea! he mentioned a lot of these things in the book that I'm reading, they seem common sense/logical but I think many people forget to actively practice them. I like a lot of things that he says and touches on like control in a relationship and how it damages, where he says, "I have to be responsible for you, because whatever happens to you is going to hurt me, and I want to avoid pain. Then if I see that you are not being responsible, I am going to knock you all the time to try to make you be r…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/15 09:32 PM
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I second that! I'd love to hear this recipe. Seafood can be tricky...
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/15 02:40 AM
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I was at a grocery store being weird, feelin up all the tomatoes. This guy approached me and said "are you planning on fondling all of those." I laughed and smiled and said "that was the plan :)." He asked me a few questions and I stayed polite then he asked for my number, I nicely turned him down because he wasn't my type, but I think sometimes if a guy sees an opening or an opportunity of something clever he can start a topic on or ask you about, he will approach. I think some guys look for ce…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 02:51 PM
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my ex cried a few times in the beginning of our relationship too, and it made me feel closer to him, like he trusted me in a deep way to be that vulnerable in front of me. It also didn't make me lose attraction, I started losing more attraction when he took that away and would close off and refuse to show any emotion besides anger.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/15 10:42 PM
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I agree
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 06:56 PM
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If she doesn't respond, he will likely assume that she no longer has that number. which will lead him to possibly attempt to contact her through another form, email etc because he'll think "oh maybe she didn't get the message or has another number...". If he knows the reason which is followed by her blocking him in every way and not responding to him in any form. It will send a clear message.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 06:53 PM
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True she doesn't owe him anything, but if she just blocks him, he might think it's a fluke or her playing hard to get, and might continue to try to reach out to her in other ways. I've seen it happen to many girls where the guy will continue to try and contact her through other forms even after a block. If she makes it clear verbally followed by action he might understand she's serious and why.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 06:50 PM
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I think you should make it clear to him that you are In a LTR and not interested in staying in contact with him whatesoever and then proceed to block him, which will make it extra clear to him that you are serious. That way he will understand and hopefully not try and contact, reach out to you in another way sometime down the line.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 05:44 PM
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ah the graphics on this are so adorable and simple. I love it, thank you <3
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 04:59 PM
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I think the fact that you are going and improving yourself especially when it starts showing visibly should naturally inspire her in itself. Working out with a SO is a GREAT bonding experience because you are working towards a goal together, releasing endorphins, and looking good. I like when a guy teaches me and guides me on proper form and stands there encouraging me. It's a great feeling, and a lot of women have the natural instinct to aim to please. So when you hear your guy complimenting yo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 06:34 PM
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you have not been in a relationship with her. this is in fact true haha behind closed doors she was just wayyyyy too dependent on him emotionally hmm maybe this is true, I'm not sure. As a friend she rarely talks about her emotions and is hardly ever negative or complainy. She's one of those you have to probe to find out how she really feels about something i.e. upset or hurt etc. Like with her breakup I had to really probe to find out how it happened and how it made her feel, she kinda just shr…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 05:27 PM
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Where would you say the line is, the balance?
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 05:23 PM
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I see your point, I see what you are saying. That might be the case for her in her relationships, I'm not too sure.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 05:22 PM
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Hmm yea I mean as a friend I really like her, but I'm not a man so I guess idk how she is exactly with them or how they see that behavior. So maybe it could be annoying? What should I suggest to her?
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 03:09 AM
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Hmm I don't get the "meh" vibe from her. She's kinda the up for anything type of person. So if I'd suggest trying a new type of restaurant or seeing a cool place she'll be like "sure." She doesn't usually suggest things on her own...so maybe she's not very much into leading and organizing plans. I don't really know the guys, I've only met the one.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 03:01 AM
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I was not at all trying to say she has no opinions, likes/dislikes, interests, or cant function on her own like some overgrown, needy child. She is just more submissive and likes to defer to others.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 01:17 AM
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I don't think that's the case with her, I mean she is on the quieter side but we talk about a lot of topics, and she always has interesting things to add. She just usually defers to someone else's decisions on things.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 01:05 AM
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no, no she isn't a pushover. She says if she's uncomfortable with something, she is just naturally submissive and prefers someone else to lead. I'm not too sure about him, I only met him once but maybe that's it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 01:03 AM
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can you elaborate on "weak niceness"?
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 12:20 AM
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wow I never looked at it that way, that's an interesting perspective because that phrase bugs me too.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 12:08 AM
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I think that hit the nail on the head. I get anxiety because I compare myself and my life to others all the time and most of the time I think it's become subconscious. I always care about others opinion and whether someone likes me or not, or what they think of me.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/15 12:53 AM
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Can you give some examples? Do you get nervous in social situations? Sabotage yourself when it matters most? Do you hold back from doing things because you are afraid of failure? Yes, Yes, Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 08:22 PM
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I've found those who appear confident are good at maintaining eye contact, which can also help shut your thoughts off. This is a very interesting point and mental trick, im gonna practice it. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 01:55 AM
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Even if my friend Samantha fails, she failed in her own Samantha way and she will pick herself up and move on in her own Samantha way, and that to me is great. And I believe one day a great guy will come along and love her because she is Samantha. She's not faking it, she's not forcing herself into a shape that someone else created for her, she's herself and she will find her way herself. This was sooo sweet and made me smile. I never thought of it that way, thanks
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 01:54 AM
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Soon, I didn't have to think about keeping those negative thoughts at bay anymore because my mind was already full of positive, happy ones. :) :D
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 01:11 AM
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I also found this old RPW post about a similar topic https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/2k62he/girls_with_more_guyfriends_than_girlfriends_what/ Also pay attention to Camille's comments Yes exactly! Limiting your interactions and always respecting the boundaries and wishes of your SO are key when it comes to time spent with the opposite gender. I knew you'd understand :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/15 06:46 PM
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My ex wasn't comfortable with me having guy friends and hanging out with them which he told me. I understood and respected his wishes. I don't think it would be appropriate for adults in a committed relationship to run around with friends of the opposite sex, and luckily he didn't do it as well. He even once told me that this girl that he was once friends with for a long time who he would've sworn he would never have feelings for or be attracted to, with time he developed an attraction to her. T…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/15 04:12 PM
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I went through something very similar, I guess you could call it the "anger phase." I actually posted on RPW about it for help and a lot of the comments are what helped me move past it in a positive, productive manner. This is the post, if you're interested, some of the comments may help you as well https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/3ekwx3/accepting_reality/ Other women have posted on here and have gone through similar feelings and situations, which you can look up and read about. L…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 10:37 PM
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Im an INFP-T, I've taken a few versions of this and sometimes it varies a little. It'd be interesting to know what your SO's are, I wonder if we really do attract opposites or if it's mixed.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 02:48 AM
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Fyi-- I'm just morbidly curious if his car got towed lol. yes! OP, please update lol
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 08:21 PM
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sold. signing up :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 08:05 PM
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do you have to be pretty flexible for this (barre)...cause im not so much
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 07:34 PM
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hmm haha I'm still trying to develop an evening routine, I'm usually all over the place, and it depends what my day was like. So it varies most of the time...... I like to do my "light" exercise towards the nighttime, so I'll either go for a short jog cause I like the cool breeze of nighttime or do some yoga. I've also been trying to learn to meditate or get better at it, so I'll usually try and do that and reflect on the day at night too. I might watch some youtube videos and/or netflix. If I'm…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 04:26 AM
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agreed, that could be taken the wrong way even if you didn't mean it to come across that way.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 10:49 PM
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I did this with my ex before, he was a very good driver. However, on the highway he would sometimes scare me because he hated tailgaters like we all do, but he would purposely slow down or brake check and it would scare me that it would get us in an accident or piss off a dangerous person. I'd try holding it in but once on a particular long road trip where it was happening often I couldn't take it anymore and exploded in a nagging way about it and started crying. It did not go over well, it got …
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 06:04 PM
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agreed, you said everything I was thinking
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 12:23 AM
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:D
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 12:09 AM
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I am very sorry for what you are going through. A a nurse working in LTC I would see what you described often cause I work with a population that is dying. So, I'd see daughters of the elderly coming in obviously distraught that their parent was dying and I'd see them snapping at their husbands. It's obvious when we are emotionally distraught we seek an outlet to unload those frustrations and hurt that's been building. ...but don't make that outlet your husband, don't unload on him in a negative…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 08:41 PM
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I would get this a lot too followed by like a questioning glance in my direction. I'd get it from guys and even friends too, and I always felt like they wanted me to explain or counter their statement. It definitely is better though, they will take you more seriously when you say you are looking for a ltr and not hookup.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 05:11 PM
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This is great! And a great reminder of all the little things that can add up to make a big difference.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 04:31 AM
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Hello, thank you for doing this AMA. From your male perspective and from a man that has been successfully and happily married for many years....what qualities should a woman look for in a prospective husband or longtime partner? Also what is your favorite quality in your wife and in women in general? Also If you wanna slip in any other secrets to making a successful happy marriage, that'd be really appreciated haha. Thanks :)
/r/TheRedPill18/08/15 07:22 PM
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Ah yes, jackpot! Thanks so much
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/15 01:03 AM
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I love MFP, it's such a good resource! I buy a Shiseido one that's ten bucks on Amazon, and it goes on thin and smooth and actually makes my skin look better the way a makeup primer would. Would it be too much to ask if you could link the one you use when you have time that sounds super cheap for the brand teehee, I've heard a lot about the brand, is it a sunscreen/moisturizer duo or just sunscreen? Many thanks
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 05:56 PM
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Doing that 21st century post-graduate job finders' dance right now (which I can't even pretend is a "but nobody understands me!" type problem haha) haha it's fun isn't it? I saw a therapist awhile back and she said anxiety is a lot about control and the fear of not having it. People who are more anxious have a great need to "know" how things will be in order to best control it. They have a need to predict in order to avoid "disastrous things that could possibly happen." I can relate to this a lo…
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 05:42 PM
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I don't really do OCM, even though I did hear about it. If I do cleanse with oil which is rarely, I'll use the natural ones like olive or coconut. That's usually only if I have stubborn eye makeup cause the natural oils break it down so beautifully....I just apply some oils as a topical moisturizer like rosehip or vitamin E. "but if you see all the gunk come out how can you be okay knowing it's just sitting there? hahaah my mom said something similar and it haunts me when I skip. She also makes …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 05:30 PM
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I love all of this! I agree with and do a lot of the same things you mentioned. I'm also obsessed with skincare and learning as much as I can about it. You did a beautiful job outlining everything out. I would only add that the skin care routine should just only be slightly altered depending on your age group as well. Prevention is also key, so I'm glad you added the sunscreen. Introducing some retnoid derivative creams is important once you hit a certain age. Oils I found are also great. There …
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 05:03 PM
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Did this happen early in your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/15 04:40 PM
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I don't think using lube should be a big deal, has he specifically said he has something against it? I know you said your ex did, but he is not that guy. Does he know you can't self-lubricate well? It will be more pleasurable for both of you. Just use lube or some spit, see how he reacts. If he has an issue with it, you can respectfully and lovingly bring up your concerns. Same with foreplay, it should make it better for both of you. It doesn't have to be a half an hour long, but I can only see …
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/15 08:15 PM
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personally, I think dating more than one at a time would be stressful and a bit confusing, but i guess it depends on the person. As long as you do the no sex thing before commitment, I guess it could work for you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/15 06:59 PM
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H&M and forever 21 are among my favorite. They aren't too expensive and they have different sections depending on your style. sheinside.com and sammydress.com also have very cute cheap stuff but you gotta be careful and know how to look cause some of their stuff is also trashy since they are aiming at the young demographic of clubgoers.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 08:48 PM
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Thank you for posting and linking this. I had struggled to find something that explained the definition and misconception as well as you put it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/15 12:34 AM
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I once gave my ex a facial, complete with steaming his pores, cleansing his face of anything, and then applying a clay mask which was the best part seeing how he reacted to the mask hardening. It was really fun and led to a few laughs mostly on my part seeing his reaction. I remember feeling really close to him when i was standing over him with his face in my hands. I recommend doing this with your SO if he'll let you, he may even come to enjoy and request them.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/15 05:38 PM
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haha this made me laugh. He actually requests tickles? That's adorable :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/15 04:56 PM
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ah yes I see that, I'm sorry. I guess I'm more interested in the actual qualities of the men women chose as their captains, and what made them want to surrender to them.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/15 03:14 AM
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Jamie Oliver's foodtube channel on YouTube shows delicious, simple dishes, and most are health-focused without eliminating flavor.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/15 04:54 PM
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wow that doesn't sound too bad. I admire you midwives so much. It's such beautiful work and everyone praises the touch of a midwife much more than a doctor
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/15 10:04 PM
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Have you spoken to him? How does he feel about all this? I think the best advice of how you guys should proceed will come from a discussion with him. I'm glad you brought this up, being in nursing I had given some thought to advancing to midwifery down the line but didn't realize it was this demanding. I thought it had more flexibility.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/15 12:30 AM
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He also said that he sometimes feels that he's settling but that that's not necessarily a bad thing this Recently he expressed a desire to be friends with an ex girlfriend of his. He once told me that he would probably never feel a connection like the one he had with her. combined with that is a recipe for LTR disaster, whether it comes out in the short term or in the future. If he stated both those things it doesn't seem like he is mentally and emotionally fully committed to you, which could le…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/15 05:30 PM
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this was such a lovely thing for you to say. I hope it works out for you both :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/15 03:13 AM
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God that was horrible to watch, I felt so bad for him cause he clearly cares about her and makes it want to work for whatever reason...... She's on the edge of the couch, it would just take a teeny push and then whoops she's on the floor where she belongs. This is a perfect example of what you don't want a marriage to look like.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/15 04:50 PM
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I was just talking about this with my sister who is not rp. She has been with this guy for about a year. They also dated back in high school for like a year, but have been friends/ known each other for about 11 years. He is a really great guy, and seems very trustworthy. I asked her if they are bf/gf because they act like it in all the ways but never call each other such, and I was truly confused as to why. She told me they don't see the point of labels if the relationship is between them and th…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 05:00 PM
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yeaaa that's great with just a few exercises that target the key muscles ;) :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 12:17 AM
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Congrats that is amazing progress. Don't forget to try incorporating weight lifting, it's probably the most important in keeping your body healthy long term. You don't have to go crazy with the weights or reps but as long as you start with something you'll build healthier bones, muscles, and body. I just recently discovered the importance cause I always had the misconception that weightlifting was for men, you just have to approach it a bit differently than them and adjust it to yourself. Also d…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 03:52 PM
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For me I think "safe" in its most general sense is you will be safe from "hurt" in any of those arenas. He is your safe place.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 03:36 PM
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I was wondering about this kind of thing too. My exes mom had a big influence on his opinions and thoughts and she wouldn't always state them in the moment but would call later and tell him what she thought of me or a situation. I could see how it changed how he viewed things or me. It really aggravated me cause I felt like she was basing it on one thing she saw but she didn't know the whole story or hardly anything about me. It made me mad inside and hurt because I knew it had an affect on our …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 02:02 AM
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I really like how you explained this and the analogies you used. This whole post and the responses everyone gave gives me a lot more clarity and hope in a sense. I want to work on myself and be worthy of a good man, but mostly I wanna do it to be worthy of calling myself a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/15 12:01 AM
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Ah I understand :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/15 09:41 PM
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I trust him because he is trustworthy; and I had to prove I was worthy of that. this sounds like its the key, you give trust when you feel trust. When you feel secure you want to keep that feeling which also makes you strive to be better. When you lift each other up in your different masculine and feminine ways everything goes smoothly. "Wow, you've really got so-and-so trained! He does whatever you want!" I thought I was doing things right. But - none of these relationships were fulfilling. I s…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/15 02:55 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/15 01:56 AM
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This is what I've always thought too, it feels like there is no win. No matter what you do you somehow lose
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 10:25 PM
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Lol I laugh because it feels so true right now
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 10:01 PM
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I was the same way, I wasn't bad at all but thinking back I could have made much better choices if I understood things better, and I'm still learning daily. It was too easy to follow the mainstream cause everything and everyone around you convinces you its ok or right, and when you listen to that enough you submit to the wave. This process is not easy but don't ever feel like you're powerles because there are always things you can do. You are very right about this, you can always control yoursel…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 09:37 PM
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I like hearing these kind of stories because I know rpw aren't delusional or depicting their relationship wrong when they state they have a wonderful, loving relationship because I know they have that self-awareness and awareness of the realities. Unlike others who say their relationship is great but then I look at them and see how disconnected they seem or how sad and blank the guy looks, or how disillusioned the girl is, how she complains about him when he isn't there and states how he doesn't…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 09:20 PM
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When you're confronted with and working on and improving on your failings as a human and you're genuinely looking for a companion to share all of yourself with and you look around and see people like caricatures and realize you're really a slot for slobbering, begging betas or you're the next joke for the alpha who is respectable but cynical and not going to commit, yes it's bleak. This! This is exactly what makes it hard, or those that commit but still dont really trust you and it comes through…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 09:09 PM
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There are more than 10x the number of subscribers to TRP than RPW yea, I observed that and always wondered why that was, and your explanation makes complete sense. Its so much harder to be anything but pessimistic when slapped with reality, but you're right all i or anyone can do is try to be as trustworthy as possible and hope the other person shows us the same face back.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 09:03 PM
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Thank you for your post! My mindset used to be what you described, I tried not to be judgmental. I was like "everyone's different, no one can be put in a box." Then I learned about this and AWALT and AMALT and I started seeing it around me not just in stories I read, but in actual people I knew. I mean I know there are exceptions to everything, and genuine people like the women on here, but It makes me paranoid and hesitant to trust. It almost makes me second guess everything I myself do or say,…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/15 07:49 PM
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ah that was gold. I think this is a beautiful dynamic to raise a child especially daughter, firm but fair. Fosters respect and love. thank you, i wish i had this dynamic and love growing up.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/15 08:14 PM
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is this something you learned from personal experience? or just values youve collected? or is this what you live by?
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/15 03:31 PM
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It's so strange that you say this, I was talking to my mom about this. She said she stayed with my dad for many years besides both being very unhappy and both not working to fix anything in their relationship productively "for us, the kids" but yet watching them and their dynamic damaged us more. If they seperated, We still would have had a father and a mother, it didnt mean shed automatically have to cut off contact for us from him. They became my sister and I's role models of "healthy adults" …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/15 03:04 PM
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a vacation is a great bonding experience, its like you are fully relaxed together, and do fun activities and sightsee. Its a time to be light, carefree, and playful. You almost get to see another side of each other, the one that isnt bogged down by the daily stresses, plus sexytime is really enjoyable when youre away for some reason ;)
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/15 03:07 AM
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i wonder where this fear of the naked face came from and the insecurity. I remember when i started dating my bf, feeling terrified and dreading the moment hed have to see me without makeup. I was convinced hed be disgusted and leave me right then and there. I was afraid to sleep over out of fear that hed see me all gross in the morning, sweaty and oily. But then i realized they were all irrational fears when he stuck around :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/15 03:01 AM
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aww im so happy for you, that plan of events sounds wonderful. I'm so glad things worked out for you and you kept the faith. I know those cute little suckers are like magnets, so i understand your eagerness. Good luck! :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/15 08:31 PM
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this is a very interesting point, i never thought about the other side of the coin too "imitating mommy". Its funny how deep an influence our parents play in our development and behaviors and how we really have to recognize and try to do better. Its definitely something i struggle with and didnt even realize that had an influence on me or i did until maybe this last year but i realize how important it is to try to get to that awareness so we dont repeat those same mistakes.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/15 07:53 PM
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I also think reaffirming her values, morals, and what's important to her in life will naturally help her know what situations she doesn't want to be or put herself in, or people she doesn't want to interact with. Once she becomes sure of herself and stronger in her character everything else will become easier
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 10:10 PM
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at what point does it not become her fault?? SHe stated in her story that she wasnt turning him down and was in fact encouraging him, and it doesn't seem that she wasn't open and willing to help him. So why would you say the problem is her?!?! Why can't he be accountable and responsible for a wrong that he did in fact commit here
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 08:54 PM
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It's not the specific time that is important I guess, it's more the restriction and limitation of it that bothered me, the fact that why does it always have to be like that no matter the circumstance, no matter if he knows exactly where I am and with who and what we are doing. I guess that is what bothers me more or that I have a hard time accepting, that its so set in stone, no matter what reassurance I'd provide.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/15 08:39 PM
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I guess you are right ,I see that now. I didn't even realize that I was doing that
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/15 08:09 PM
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I'm sorry, I may not have written clearly in my previous post but we've been committed for six months now
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/15 11:43 PM
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He usually explains stuff when I ask and believe me I ask, especially these things that don't come natural to me. We have been together on and off for three years and there have been a lot of changes in us and in him and now in me (trying) since that time. He was my first everything and we didn't have the red pill approach/school nor did i know anything about it during our first go at the relationship, then we broke up due to a lot of arguments and different points of view. During the off time I…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/15 08:04 PM
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This is a very good suggestion, thank you.i know sometimes I can feel myself stop listening and start creating a defense or rebuttal as soon as I start hearing it, and I have to start actively listening more before getting caught up in my mind.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/15 07:39 PM
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a more specific example that I had and still sometimes have trouble dealing with is, before we committed my SO told me his boundaries which included no being out past 10 no matter what circumstance, no guy friends, and no bars or clubs. I made peace with the last two because I didn't go to bars or clubs almost ever. it was just the first that I had trouble with because it made me feel like he didn't trust me even though I hadn't done anything and it's not that I would want to every week but if I…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/15 11:33 PM
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This is very good and true advice. I do have self esteem issues that I've been trying to work on because it effects all aspects of my life especially relationships
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/15 11:14 PM
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yes! thats always how i saw anger, it ends up hurting everyone but no one more than yourself
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/15 08:40 PM
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This was really inspiring to read. How you are turning your life around and your relationship. I see a lot of the women like you mentioned in the second part and moreso since I've been learning RP, and it physically hurts me to see these great, devoted partners/men bending over backwards and the women being oblivious to how lucky they are and how they should be doing everything to return the favor and show their gratefulness.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/15 05:32 PM
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this seems like the most fair approach without causing too much preconceived harm due to your past or nature. Kinda like the innocent until proven guilty approach. Approach with a clean slate and hope for the best, but of course always have your eyes open and if given good reason than that's a different story.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/15 07:15 PM
1

I have yet to try this soup :p :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 08:22 PM
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for me it's more of a silent one that goes on internally where I feel like punching stuff but hardly ever do, I rarely show negative emotions externally, but I've been trying to work on it internally cause I can also be super passive-aggressive , I think it's always been there hahaha...I'm not sure. What's made you get like this recently?
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 07:21 PM
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I think everyone strays from their "norm personality characteristics" once in awhile, no one is perfect, nor should anyone strive to be. I think both of you did the most "human" and best thing you can do, which is recognize that the initial emotional behavior or response is not always the best, you stood back from the situation and analyzed it before going ballistic, this is what I've been trying very hard to do too but struggling cause my mind becomes a minefield of emotion especially during th…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 07:14 PM
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i really like this! I used to have a naive view of true love, but I think what you just described really defines a truly loving, caring relationship instead of constantly making a mental tally list because it will become a never ending cycle, and nothing will be good enough. It's a dangerous game.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 02:42 AM
3

thank you so much! :) Enjoy your lunch
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 07:38 PM
5

Hello, My boyfriend actually got me your book and I am interested to read it in the near future, I heard it has some great insights :). I was just wondering how you go about bringing up that you view something differently than your partner without making him feel like you are attacking his view or without starting a fight, but also making sure that he understands that yours is important to you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 07:08 PM
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