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Here, let me try and be of help. Think of the game as... a game, actually, nothing more. You open on a girl and say Hi, you've already won. All the rest, chatting, getting a number, kissing her, it's just a bonus you get on top of your initial win ! Most guys are uncomfortable around women because, truth be told, all they think about is sex and the possibility that it may be denied them. Reframe yourself to think of seduction as a game, a game you play to have fun, a game you play because you en…
/r/seduction05/09/17 02:58 PM
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It'll only be "be a huge turn off" if you are insecure about it. If you're fine with what and who you are, then you're projecting confidence.
/r/seduction05/09/17 11:12 AM
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What you're doing is pumping attraction only, which doesn't get you a next date. Male to female interest only : creepy, needy Female to male interest only : you're not picking up on her signals (or you're not interested) Female to male, then male to female interest : attraction only Connection/Comfort only : LJBF Attraction + Connection/Comfort : date, no flake Once you've got attraction and buying temperature up, isolate (or better yet venue change) and go for connection and comfort. You need t…
/r/seduction05/09/17 11:07 AM
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To be fair what you should do depends on both your mindset and the situation. Is it a lasting solid relationship or have they been together for a couple months and no more? If you feel like the girl could do much better (douche BF or w/e), you can always go for boyfriend destroyers. Nobody has any place judging you if you go that route, just make sure it sits well with your own morals and principles (or lack thereof).
/r/seduction05/09/17 10:43 AM
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Bite, bit, bitten.
/r/seduction05/09/17 10:38 AM
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This. Many people get stuck in A2 farming IOIs, seeking whatever validation when they should be moving on to A3 and C1 instead. Getting IOI after IOI is both fun and satisfying, however they're ultimately a means to an end.
/r/seduction04/09/17 12:00 AM
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It isn't a strong IOI, but a girl resuming the conversation or asking questions about yourself is an IOI alright ;) Girl going "So..." is an IOI.
/r/seduction03/09/17 11:57 PM
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made me spill my drink son ^
/r/seduction03/09/17 09:34 PM
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/u/PecitoRicardo , first of all congratulations about being able to make it to the bedroom, that's one nice place. However, what's up with the sex ? You can never think of it as another mechanical or logical thing. You have to feel it, be aware of her. And for that to happen, you need to have feelings for her, not just want to blow yours. Think in a girl's terms. Think of passion, think of revealing yourself body and insecurities included (which is tough on a girl), think of trusting your partne…
/r/seduction03/09/17 09:34 PM
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In my humble estimation, which may or may not be accurate, it's because you put value in what others (strangers, mind !) think of you. Her rejection, in some way or another, invalidated you or some value you hold dear. Adhere to Dale Carnegie's principle of "judge not, that you not be judged", refuse to determine your own value from what others see. Your value is your own, and nobody's gonna love you more than yourself. Once you've got that one down, rejection becomes her loss, she's missing out…
/r/seduction03/09/17 09:25 PM
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She's the one missing out on you bro, rejection ? her loss.
/r/seduction03/09/17 08:47 PM
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To be fair bro, the issue is you "got so damn salty about it lol". I mean, that girl, whatever her life, her experiences, her mood, her reasons ? She lost out on meeting you . Like really, she could have met you and she fucked it up. Her loss :) Now that we've established it's her loss, there's nothing for you to deal with ;)
/r/seduction03/09/17 08:46 PM
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I would recommend reading this excellent post from Chopan on how to converse : https://www.reddit.com/r/PUApolyamory/comments/1vu6mm/pua_masf_repost_how_i_conversate_by_chopan/ Basically his mindset is "she's already mine, nobody cares about the conversation, I'm just playing a cute game with her". There's another post I cannot seem to find from Juggler, on storytelling. Edit: found it: http://www.pualingo.com/the-story-telling-theory/ Basically he advises to "avoid searching for good material" …
/r/seduction02/09/17 09:47 PM
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HAHAHA OH WOW "you seem very casual today", fuck I'm so keeping that one. Awesome video bro, thumbs up :)
/r/seduction02/09/17 10:52 AM
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LSE stands for Low Self Esteem, if that was your question :)
/r/seduction02/09/17 10:38 AM
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You could always SOI right off the bat with the famous "If I wasn't gay, you'd be SO mine" opener or with false disqualifiers such as "I can already see us in tahiti, enjoying our honeymoon and basking in the sun, relaxing as the wind gently brushes our skins... too bad you're too old/young/short/tall we'd never work out". With regards to kino and physical escalation, do keep in mind humans are, at the core, social animals. And like most other animals, we like touch, and we like to be petted. Yo…
/r/seduction02/09/17 10:24 AM
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Nice FR and great interaction, thank you for the read OP :) With regards to "her kiss was lame" and becoming her sexual mentor, you could always gently put a finger on her lips and whisper "sshh, I'll show you". With regards to LSE, be very careful, they tend to display extreme levels of neediness and that's gonna get old real quick for you. That being said, best of luck :)
/r/seduction02/09/17 10:15 AM
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Older men is a means to an end, and the value associated with this is maturity. Luckily, one needs not be 40 to demonstrate maturity and sound thinking ;) /u/Iamflirtingwithyou hit it right on the nail when he says it was a shit test, see his comment above my friend :)
/r/seduction02/09/17 10:07 AM
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And this, good sir, is a very good question. It is not a good thing, you are absolutely correct. Of course, different PUAs have different methods, to each their own. In my (mechanically subjective) opinion, stick with Greene's advice ;)
/r/seduction02/09/17 09:21 AM
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He meant "and influence people" ' The book focuses on having very positive interactions and turning bad situations around. While some literature out there advocates actual manipulation, Dale Carnegie's adopts a win-win outlook where all involved benefit from your interaction. Greatly recommend the book :)
/r/seduction02/09/17 09:16 AM
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This book is pure gold, wish my parents gifted me it when I was 14-16. It's also a great book for learning how to listen to people, which is actually more important than speaking to them.
/r/seduction02/09/17 09:14 AM
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First of all, just because you disagree with someone is no excuse to be rude. You might want to look into teaching yourself some diplomacy, if only to improve your career path. Second, you'll always be in an "enclosed center of people who talk shit about eachother". I'm going to assume you have a job, is your company not an "enclosed center of people who talk shit about eachother" ? 'cause if it's not, kindly point the way, I'd love working there ;)
/r/seduction02/09/17 09:04 AM
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When I was fourteen dudes were running much stronger game than this and getting the chicks. Destroy his image ? Most of us other guys were jealous AF. That was over 2 decades ago, one would think it's even more socially accepted now. But hey, it's your right to disagree. Edit: besides, we're talking about an example here, any number of other opinion openers work just fine.
/r/seduction01/09/17 08:32 PM
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And that should reflect on you because of... what ? ;) You're the one with an interesting story actually. You're also the one who had the balls to approach this group of 2-3 chicks and talk to them in front of everyone else.
/r/seduction01/09/17 07:38 PM
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All depends on the context, whether she's alone or in a set. In the alone-in-the-bus situation, you're making the approach much harder because : - she's alone she has no escape you're gonna be hard pressed to find a time constraint (hey I need to rejoin my... friends.. in... the... bus ?) ;) Opinion openers always work, then rebound on it to kino : So hey, friend o' mine was telling us about this cat he's got right. Thing is, it's a male and it gets hit on by the neighbor's dog, my friend's all …
/r/seduction01/09/17 07:32 PM
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First off, what do you care ? remember, you don't give a flying fuck. Second, nah, your friend's the weird one, you're asking for an opinion.
/r/seduction01/09/17 07:09 PM
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Asking to follow is weak and beta. You need to show confidence in yourself, your looks, your decisions and your life. What you say when you approach is not of much importance, you could merely say "hi" and it wouldn't matter. How you approach is important however. never approach from the back, it's a 100% blow out rate ; you WILL get shot down for this approach from the front, at a slight angle use an opinion opener (topic doesn't matter much to be fair, the idea is just to get conversation star…
/r/seduction01/09/17 06:32 PM
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You tell them they look thirty and they're way too old for you, there's no way you could ever date them ;) Playful tone, obviously. An alternative could be bragging about all the anti-wrinkle cream you've been purchasing and how the shit finally paid off, then take her hand and go on about how she has wrinkled hands and she must be 30-40 or something. You pass the ST and you kino.
/r/seduction01/09/17 06:16 PM
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Congratulations to OP for his first successful approach. Now /u/obi1andkobe , as to your question of why this was a bad approach : asking for her name complimenting on physique/appearance/body asking for number directly no kino whatsoever no attraction building no comfort building OP got the number, and mustered the confidence to approach her which is a really good start, but he's left 0 impression on her, he's just a dude who approached her in the bus and to whom she deigned give her number.
/r/seduction01/09/17 06:09 PM
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Actually, here's a thought on not coming off as needy : don't give an actual fuck. Like, literally none whatsoever ;) Giving a damn about others' opinion of you = seeking validation = needy. Also, and no offense meant, your "too early or never ?" line conveys both neediness, weakness, and a general lack of confidence. She resisted the kiss means you've either built not enough attraction or not enough comfort. Avoid getting shot down during kisses with Mystery's "Would you like to kiss me ?" line…
/r/seduction01/09/17 05:58 PM
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This. It's like buying her a drink, but comes off even weaker.
/r/seduction01/09/17 05:53 PM
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I mean neither judgement nor offence here bro, however "getting it off OP's chest" is a terribly weak stance and will kill all the attraction. You can never be beta with a girl, she'll eat you alive and toss you away.
/r/seduction01/09/17 02:38 PM
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Bro, you don't need to tell her you have feelings. From your body language she knows, she knew even before you started thinking about telling her. You want to show her you have feelings, you kiss her. Inform her you're going on a date together (be in charge, show confidence), build comfort and connection (you need to be in late C1 or C2) and go for your kiss with "Would you like to kiss me ?" Either she says yes and you kiss her, or she says "I don't know" and you reply "Let's find out" and kiss…
/r/seduction01/09/17 02:36 PM
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