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Yeah I don’t like when men sleep around. Coming from a woman, if he is over a certain point I believe were incompatible because he doesn’t view sex the way I do.
/r/seduction30/04/22 04:32 PM
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We worked together. He knew how old i was from the start because everyone(including him) asked when i first started
/r/seduction16/04/22 09:06 PM
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There are exceptions to the rule. The majority of 18-23 year olds are in school and working on getting themselves established in life. 30 year olds for the most part are already established and looking to settle down.
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:52 PM
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And thats my point. Why does he want me and not women at the similar stage of life as him? A 34 year old wanted me when i was JUST 19.. Long story short he turned into a stalker. It’s extremely creepy.
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:46 PM
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No, I mean in terms of similar life stages. 26+ year olds(with some exceptions) are looking for marriage, kids, etc. alot of the 20-23 year olds i know are looking to travel, date, finish college, etc. they are at different life stages. No, older women aren’t better, and younger women aren’t better. But there is a difference in life stages.
/r/seduction16/04/22 08:44 PM
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As someone who is 22.. If an older guy was interested in me my mind would instantly go to: “well why don’t women his age want him?” If you’re 32 and going out with a 20 year old.. why do 27+ year old women not want you? Thats instant suspicion right there.
/r/seduction16/04/22 03:27 PM
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The “oh I’ve cheated on women, but i would NEVER cheat on you”. They never got a second date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:47 AM
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I have quite a few aquaintences, but we all hang out in a group setting and not very often. I only have one very close guy friend. Me and him are 21 and have known each other since we were in 7th grade. Im very close to his family. Whenever i started dating, I was very transparent about our friendship with all of my all boyfriends from the beginning(including my current). They did not have an issue with it due to my transparency. I think a close and healthy friendship CAN work, but only if both …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 02:39 AM
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My mom told me growing up that there was a big difference between “independence” and a man providing. I can have my ducks in a row as my independence, but I can also allow the man to be the man and pay. So i was never ashamed when dating and expecting the guy to pay. The men who pursued me knew it too. The only guys that had an issue with it were bums(doing drugs and/or selling drugs all day) so I didn’t care what they thought because I didn’t want them anyway. Men who have GENUINELY cared for m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 03:12 AM
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Men: “it’s so much easier for women to date! They have so many options!” Our options:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:18 PM
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I had to get an exam because i was bleeding in my rectum. I went to the hospital because i was worried. A male doctor walked in and was over 6 ft. Huge guy(think football physique) and told me he would be performing my rectal exam. Not only was he a male, but the fact that his hands were huge made me SEVERELY uncomfortable. I asked if there were any female doctors and he said no and i started getting very bad anxiety because i just got severely uncomfortable, and his reaction.. i kid you not was…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:42 AM
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I usually dress as if im going out with a girlfriend for lunch/dinner. “Nice” casual if that makes sense? I usually wear my black high waisted skinny jeans, a floral top, and my nude wedge/sandals! Then i do some makeup, minus the lashes and straighten my hair. When i go OUT OUT, I’ll put on more makeup and lashes and all that good stuff, but on a date, and especially at the beginning i just stick to “nicer”casual attire! I put in effort when i go out on dates, but i go “as i am”. I dress how i …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 04:10 AM
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If a guy is friends with his ex(es) i will never be with them. I remove them as a candidate to date me. I personally can’t be friends with exes. I can be nice to them if the situation requires it, but all of my exes are otherwise blocked, even if I don’t have ill feelings for them. It’s out of respect for my future relationships, and so that I don’t have to deal with them messaging me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 05:36 PM
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We use condoms, and spermicide! i also track my ovulation period and avoid sex during that time! I really just have bad anxiety over things like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:29 PM
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Yes ma’am! The only time I considered ever living with a boyfriend was with my ex when i was 18, but I clearly realized(hindsight 20/20) that was a BAD idea to even consider LOL. My first priority is my education! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:14 PM
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I had a pregnancy scare with the guy im currently with. (Turns out i stressed myself out so much my period was delayed) The guy who many are commenting about the love bombing was a guy I spoke with for a few days and got bad vibes from. I made a post in FDS about him and told him he was giving me bad vibes, and you guys agreed that it was love bombing and to run, so I promptly blocked him! I met my current partner a few months(2-3) after. Though when I mentioned in my post that i have been with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 10:56 PM
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I had to look at my history because i was confused about your comment about the love bombing. That was a different guy! The love bombing was a guy i briefly talked to, two months before i met my current partner. but the pregnancy scare was about my current partner. I blocked the love bombing guy immediately. He seemed nutty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:45 PM
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I don’t plan on moving in with him for another few years!(if we are still together) i just wanted entail for the future with anyone. Id rather have advice over the next few years than little to no advice at the age of 25! I want to be as educated as i can when it comes to this I will keep this in mind! Though based on the comments, I am leaning more towards waiting to get married before moving in with anyone than engagement, since it seems to be a safer route. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:35 PM
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Yeah! I just didn’t know if FDS supported the “let him pay for everything” or the percentages. Everyone’s answer IRL seemed different and it always confused me. Thank you so much! I don’t plan on moving with anyone unless it’s the most safest for me, but early advice doesn’t harm anyone while im working on my own things atm :) Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:14 PM
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I have! I don’t plan on moving in with him now, or in the next few years, while i am getting my education and buying my own things accordingly. By the time I’m finished with school i will be around 23-24! I would rather know all of my information now, at 21, than at 24, hence why i posted! Though i can understand the many concerns of ladies who are worried that i plan on moving in with him now or sometime soon, which isn’t the case! IF I’m with this guy, I wouldn’t be moving in with him until AT…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:58 PM
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Agreed! I 100% agree with everything you are saying. My mother experienced this(i spoke of that in replies to other comments) but she had a hard time leaving because she was a stay at home mother in another country. Once i get my degree in teaching(which wont be for another 2ish years), I already told my mother i plan on buying myself a small house and either living in it, or renting it out depending on what stage our relationship is, or if I’m even in a relationship at that point. I also have a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 05:02 AM
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My 5 year plan has been mostly set already! He doesn’t know of this, but I do plan on purchasing a small house before anything else with the hopes of renting it. This is so that if he(or any man down the line) that i get married to, i have a house that is already in my name, and my name alone, as an escape route for me and my future children. My mother didn’t have much of an escape route since she was a stay at home mom in another county and she told me how stressful it was to leave when she had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:48 AM
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Are there any signs to watch out for? FDS has engraved that into the back of my brain when it comes to men 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:33 AM
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I see alot of my classmates having children and marriage already and I personally see that as a big risk, so I’d rather know what other women(who probably have more experience) think of all of this! Im in no way considering marriage or even kids atm! I’d rather know information to have in my back pocket for later, if that makes sense? Oh I’ve seen the women supporting men who level up, and I’ve been watching that. Are there any signs to look out for when it comes to that? Got it for the married …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:29 AM
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Oh i know! Im no where near considering it now. Alot of women my age are getting married right now and having children and I’m just NOT about it at least until my education is finished. It’s too much of a commitment for me right now. Plus, i only plan on getting married once, so I’d rather thoroughly vet him first. I would rather just learn from other women about how finances go or how their experiences were, whether its with this guy or a different guy in the future. Id rather be prepared now, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 04:10 AM
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I believe my name will be on the deed to the house! I just want to plan internally now and know every single aspect of what may or may not go wrong in terms of different ways that finances are distributed. Its a few years away while im still in school, and whether it’s with my current boyfriend, or even in the far future, id like to know now so i have all my ducks in a row. Did you mean wedding ring or engagement ring? I’ve always been okay with an engagement ring as long as there is a set date …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 03:39 AM
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I wanna just know who is conditioning these women to feel bad about letting a guy pay? My mother always raised me to offer because its polite, but the man should ALWAYS pay, and if they don’t, toss them. I ONLY pay to show appreciation if they spent alot on me. I never pay because I’m “uncomfortable” or “feel like I’m in debt” to him. I never felt bad about a guy paying because i don’t want my daughter to feel bad for being treated with chivalry, so i root out men who aren’t willing to do that. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:56 AM
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If not reciprocated(which has been 100% before my current boyfriend) it felt almost like a chore..? With my current partner, i don’t really do it? I mean i do for about a minute usually and he just pulls me in for a kiss and finishes me before going into some intimate time. He likes it, but he prefers the actual act over anything else, which works for my jaw never hurting! On occasion he asks, which i happily oblige considering he is a very giving partner in return. I think it really depends on …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:55 PM
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He expects all this in a woman but i can guarantee he probably doesn’t even wipe correctly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 03:45 AM
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I was on the pill for two-three months for the first time and oh my god it made me so depressed. I literally started hating myself due to the hormones(crying all the time, getting so angry, hating how i looked and felt). I couldn’t take it anymore so i stopped them and after they got out of my system i felt like something was literally lifted from my shoulders.. i felt SOOO much better. My mother says i should try a new brand but I honestly don’t want to experience that ever again. (I took Loren…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:07 PM
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I have no words other than- sis run 😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:04 AM
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A lot of my graduated classmates(2018) are getting married and having children right now. I personally want to wait until im out of college. I personally don’t wanna get engaged until im ATLEAST 24 and have already started my career! Not to mention, i will actually be mature enough to make that important decision. I plan to only marry once, so this gives me time to grow more as a person. I wasn’t the same person at 18, but at 21 im more mature, confident, and able to voice what i want in a relat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 07:49 AM
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Andddd this is why i vet vet vet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:37 AM
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With the current boyfriend i have now? If i end up getting engaged to him, i would 100% change my name! I personally am making the choice to only marry once, so i am extremely picky when it comes to that kind of commitment.. So if the man isn’t perfect for me, I’m not marrying him. But so far so good with this one. Would do anything for me without any reluctance, which is more than i could ever ask for considering that is what i mostly look for in a man who may father my children. My goal is to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 03:24 AM
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Thank you 🥺❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:52 AM
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Im 21 and was only with one person with a high body count(higher than what i was comfortable with) and he totally played me. Did not “bless me” like how he boasted about 24/7 before we slept together (hindsight 20/20) With my boyfriend now of almost a year(6 days yay!) was a virgin when i met him. Honestly thought he was lying due to his looks. But he explained to me that he was so focused on school, soccer, and friends, that he had no time for a relationship at the time and wasn’t the type to h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 09:24 PM
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Im 21 and im an independent but right leaning. I try to find the same! I try to stay away from the far left or right spectrum. I just see more liberal men as the 50/50 type of relationship that i am not looking for. BUT, i also have witnessed far right men becoming very possessive and controlling over their partner which i don’t like either. I like someone who is independent with a right leaning, because we share the same values/opinions and i think of them as more open minded than if they were …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:46 PM
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Instead of working on yourself to gain these “qualifications” you instead try to go for a younger girl who is naive and more easily manipulated. You’re kidding me right?
/r/seduction16/08/21 04:07 AM
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You are almost 30 and you’re looking at young women fresh out of highschool..? What do you even have in common? Im 21 and im still in college figuring out what i want to do in life. When i was 17 i was in highschool and going to football games and getting ready for prom. Not to mention that you lying about your age is a major red flag in itself. No one is “jealous”. It’s actually very weird that you’re going after young women. Not only are you two in different stages of life but it’s sad. I pray…
/r/seduction15/08/21 04:46 PM
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Wasn’t last week but two weeks ago. I was at the bars with my girlfriend and two mutual guy friends and a man approached me from his group. Im 21 and the group of guys seems around 23-25 range. He state: “my friend is a little shy but thinks ur absolutely beautiful, blah blah blah” i quickly respond that i have a boyfriend but thanked him for the compliment... Just before i could turn around back to my group, the man that approached me yells over to his group: “she has a boyfriend!” The man who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 11:34 PM
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He makes 120k a year and he’s complaining about 3k? Girl bye, I cant. 😭 If He’s acting cheap for the ring, is he going to act cheap for the wedding or honeymoon too? Nope, I’m out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:30 AM
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You guys are awesome! Im 21 now and I’ve cringed over my pickme days but i am so grateful and thankful for all of you.. I enjoy sharing FDS to other young women in my life who may need help! Thank you so much ladies 🥰❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 06:49 AM
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I worked almost two years to get my mental health up to where I am now. There is no way that I am dealing with all that shit after I worked hard to where I am at today. Either they’re healthy or it’s a goodbye from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:53 AM
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I read the comments there and I’m appalled 😭 how the fuck are they okay with this? He is a FULL GROWN MAN. She is still a BABY! I’m 21 and I still feel younger than I am. Lord have mercy, this poor girl. Her mother though, Jesus Christ. You are letting your child go around with some old ass man??? There is something VERY wrong here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 11:13 AM
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No lie, out of all my boyfriends on a scale of attraction, the best looking ones treated me better than the rest LOL. I’m with the best looking one right now and he’s treated me like such a gem so far compared to everyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:07 PM
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Saving this ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:38 PM
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THANK 👏 YOU 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:13 PM
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Saving this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:00 AM
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the bar is in hell with these women i stg. i’m sorry i want a HVM man for my daughter to see and so she can have high standards in regards to men 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 01:49 PM
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listening right now, love the hosts! you go ladies!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 12:13 AM
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she might think you like her
/r/seduction22/11/20 01:01 AM
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shitttt. none LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 12:50 AM
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YOOO. QUEEN 💅🏼👑✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:49 PM
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My mother lived in Central America with me, my younger brother and my abusive father when we were young. my mother was from the states and we were born there as well but lived in Central America to be with my dad. that specific country considered me and my brother their “property” so to speak due to our father being from there. he tried to keep us in that country to prevent my mother from leaving his ass. my mother called my grandfather and he threatened to come down there and deal with him. my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:12 AM
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im DEAD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:46 AM
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i never kiss on the first date. this guy would hate “hanging out” with me lmao. Boy bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:14 AM
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holy shit i needed this 😩 thank u OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 05:12 AM
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i just saw that after i saw this comment! im only 20 and that grosses me out. no ma’am 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:54 AM
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my mom JUST sent me this. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:22 PM
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i almost spit out my tea 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 03:31 AM
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love this and needed this, thank youu❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:29 AM
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Yep! 100% correct! Too manipulative in my opinion. Im just totally turned off by the guy now. Thank you, next !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 04:00 PM
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Yep i was a former fixer so I know all too well of how they are now. Im pick on meeting parents but not after one date. Way too soon for me. I 100% agree with you! thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:59 PM
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YES! 100% YES! thats how i took it as! it was a COMPLETE turn off. At first i felt a little bad but after of thinking on it, the sympathy washed away. thank you so much! i appreciate you commenting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:57 PM
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Yeah.. Im getting that vibe from him. not worth my time 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:56 PM
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got rid! thank u:)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:56 PM
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Yeah i haven’t replied to his texts. I tend to “give men the benefit of the doubt” and always get screwed over so i’m not doing that anymore. If i feel off, i feel off for a reason. I still question myself so i decided to make a post to see if maybe i was crazy or not, and im glad you ladies agree with me! It really helps my judgement making and will help me make decisions about men in the future. ❤️ thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:56 PM
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yes ma’am! thank you! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:53 PM
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Yep. 100%. Not a fan. I know everyone has insecurities but im not going to just say everything im insecure about after two days of talking. it’s just weird to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:53 PM
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yeah! i actually thought about that. I knew him in highschool so i didn’t see too much of a big deal about it, but now i realized it might not be a good idea. LOL thank u!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:52 PM
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thats exactly how i felt! It just seemed very.. “poor me”. Im not a cold person but after 2 days of just texting...? thats weird to me! yeah exactly. If hes acting like this after 2 days. I don’t wanna find out what 2 weeks, or 2 months is with this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:51 PM
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yeah im still learning the terms! he just kept complimenting me and stuff like that, but yeah i can see manipulation. he just texted me again and said hes coming back with his family and wants to see me tonight but im not going to reply. Too uneasy about this situation and its not worth my time. dropped !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:49 PM
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Yeah! im tired of fixing men. I just want a good man that has his head on his shoulders and knows whats going on rather than being insecure, especially soo early on. thank u so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:47 PM
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im running!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 03:46 PM
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honestly, id ghost him. he clearly has no respect for you, so why should you give him any sort of satisfaction? if anything, if you ignore him and he tries fo hookup again, the ball is in your court. personally, id leave his ass on read if he dared to text me after standing me up.
/r/seduction10/06/20 04:31 AM
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question! I’m 20 and i’ve been in LOVE with this sub for awhile. I do believe i still have pickmeisha traits but i am working on them and this sub is helping so much, but i do have a few questions! I know FDS doesnt support big age gaps, but what is an acceptable age gap for a 20 year old? I saw many women say to wait atleast 3 months before intimacy, does that count down start when you first start dating, or does it start when there is a title of exclusivity? For tinder dates, is it acceptable …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:42 PM
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ugh i needed this. Thank you so much! i love this subreddit and i actually introduced this sub to my two close girlfriends who have had issues with men in the past. And yeah my brain is running similar thoughts but i know this was all him and not me. thank u so much you made my day! many of my guy friends heard what happened through mutual friends and are PISSED because they know how i am and that i take sex very seriously, so im glad i have their support. i have a healthy friend group right now…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 04:17 PM
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knew a guy for a year and we(both 20) started seeing eachother and made it official not long after. He and many others refer me as the “cliche good girl”, very sweet, take home to your mother type. He liked that and went for it and our relationship was great, no red flags that i could detect! We recently had sex... Which is a BIG deal to me because it is very emotional to me on a deep level. 3 days later he said he was sorry and regretted doing it and said i was right about waiting longer, and h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 02:59 AM
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needed this. thank u 🥺❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 01:36 AM
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i(F 20) like to party on occasion and im always out with friends but honestly my body count is wayyy below average in my area. Guys often refer to me as a ‘prude’ if that gives you an idea! ill get drunk, party with friends, etc, but ive never hooked up with someone, i only have sex in committed relationships. i could just be an exception but i do see hookups being equivalent to how much people party!
/r/seduction27/05/20 08:51 PM
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amen sis. i could never
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:12 AM
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Hell yeah im going to put myself on a pedestal? If there is no talk about commitment there is no commitment. I was seeing this guy and i told him just that, if we don’t have the talk, i will not act as if there is commitment, which gave him the chance to stay or leave. I really liked him but my morals are above any feeling because i know my worth. i require commitment before i act like a girlfriend (no sex, any girlfriend benefits, etc). He knew i was serious and how commitment is important to m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 09:31 PM
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i could notttt. My ex always paid for everything, and i would show him my appreciation by bringing him a coffee at work if i knew he was running late or tired that dat, or a just little surprise or some sort to show him i appreciate him. but thats just... no sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:36 AM
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ive never cringed so hard at a post in my entire life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:24 AM
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two words; good bye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 08:50 AM
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lord have mercy what did i just read in this article. girl i wait 3+ months, one date isn’t enough time for me to get some “eggplant”. smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:56 AM
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yeah! i wouldn’t worry about it :)
/r/seduction03/05/20 10:41 AM
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Honestly, I(F, 20) would say shes joking? All women are different and it depends on how long you two have been talking, but i would most likely say that jokingly!
/r/seduction03/05/20 10:12 AM
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