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I think my higher brain values traits like warmth, kindness, etc but from a more primal level I only feel connected with men who I think are smarter or more capable than me. Like they have to have qualities which I feel “wowed” by or admire. Otherwise eventually my masculine traits start to come out and ruin the relationship, or they get insecure which makes me lose respect. I briefly dated an engineer once who could NOT get over the fact that I would make more money than him one day, despite me…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 03:52 PM
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It sounds like you picked men who were insecure. Or maybe subconsciously you thought they were beneath you, and they could sense it (not ragging on you, I'm just saying you sound elite in many aspects and not many people would really measure up). Honestly I think you should try to date up! It's hard to really respect a man who isn't equal/better than you in masculine domains (career, intellect, capability, etc), but lowering yourself to be able to look up to someone is not being true to yourself…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 03:17 AM
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Idk, most of my guy friends (mostly high earners) tell me they set their age preferences up to their own age, and some even go above. I doubt men 30-35 would just not even consider 29 year olds, especially if they're looking to settle down soon with someone in a mature headspace. I think it's more about how youthful you look (body especially) since you'll be competing with the hot 21 year olds he's swiping on as well.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 07:23 PM
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Definitely don't put your salary on your profile. People know that engineers make money. Your profile sounds kind of masculine, like you have something to prove. "See guys, capable AND feminine! This is my plan for the future, and I can do it all!" As a woman your job in the initial attraction phase is not to prove yourself or check off his checkboxes, but to make yourself into an object of desire. You do sound very smart and capable, which means you will likely need an equally/more smart and ca…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/20 05:41 PM
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I have a home laser hair removal kit. It hasn't gotten rid of everything yet, but it makes my hairs much finer and grow in slower, which help tremendously with shaving without itchyness/ingrowns
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/20 06:31 PM
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Agreed. I thought this sub was meant to be a departure from the silly "who's more oppressed" antics. If you don't like modern feminism, the answer isn't to apply the same logical fallacies to men to equalize things. Sick of MRA "cool girls" who think they're so edgy and better than feminists. Men and women are meant to work together - let's ditch the gender wars and strive towards a more sensible and cooperative society overall.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/20 06:20 PM
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Love the knee socks idea, thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 05:14 PM
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Love her! Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 05:13 PM
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Awesome idea! I had looked into house dresses before but only found vintage things. I feel like a stretchy material wrap dress would be really comfy though
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 05:12 PM
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I've seen these and found value in each one. Just trying to gather more ideas and inspiration. You don't have to answer if you're sick of the topic.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/20 03:39 AM
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I recommend the ones in the green airtight bag in the refrigerated section!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/20 12:52 PM
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If they are the ones that come in the airtight package then you should be good! I eat them all the time and just pour hot soup on them for a few minutes to cook them
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/20 02:28 AM
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There are definitely evolutionary drives for men to limit number of partners though. Human babies are very bad at survival and require ample resources. If our male ancestors went around impregnating whoever and ditching, their offspring would likely die. That's why both genders are psychologically wired to bond and become attached to a mate/family
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/20 08:43 AM
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I am genuinely so glad that my ruined hymen wards off men like you
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 06:49 AM
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There's a difference between being an "independent woman who don't need no man" and cultivating the basic life skills to be as independent as every adult person should be. Also, there is no such thing as being simply "taken care of" as a woman. You have to take care of him in return. And if you can't take care of yourself, you're showing him that there's no way in hell you could take care of him or future children. Early 20s are very uncomfortable because everything is new and awkward and you're…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 12:20 AM
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While I agree with the general principal of being up front about this kind of stuff, I think your age also plays a huge role here. You are precocious in knowing what you want out of life. The vast majority of 18 year old boys don't have a clue, and could very possibly do a 180 in terms of their desires on major topics. Heck, you could too. My advice would be different if you were at least 22-23 but SO much growing happens in early young adulthood. So I would not place too much stock in planning …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/20 11:59 PM
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This sounds very ideal and sweet! But I feel like times have changed where many women need to work too. I honestly don't have so much energy to help someone else decompress when I need to decompress as well. I'd love to hear how RPW who work balance this kind of stuff. SO and I haven't moved in together yet but I work longer hours than him so having dinner ready, etc isn't feasible :(
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/20 02:42 AM
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You can choose to distrust women and live your life out that way. It doesn't affect me :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/20 02:57 PM
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I don't think two RP people would make a good couple, because RP is a strategy, not a lifestyle. You can't use a strategy on someone who already knows the game. That's why RP men can't turn us into plates, because we know how to vet for men who commit. On the other hand, we can't turn RP men into faithful husbands, because they know how to get sex without commitment. There's nothing essential to RP that says marriage is good or bad - RP is merely an acknowledgment of the psychological and sociol…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 12:41 AM
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The value of lifetime companionship is something that many younger men can't quite grasp. And by younger I mean under 45ish. Suicide rates are highest in middle age and elderly single men. Married men live longer than single men (whereas single women live longer than married women). As testosterone levels decrease with age, there is less desire to sleep around and huge psychological benefits to being "tied down" to a stable companionship. Loneliness is a real issue, especially in older age. The …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/20 12:02 AM
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I actually get great results with hyaluronic acid if I put on heavier moisturizer over it before it dries! Seals in the moisture before it can draw water out.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 10:31 PM
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This lady sold me on tretinoin: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dqkt9rYtt2Q&t=87s It's really tricky for sensitive skin though, so I would do a lot of research beforehand if you decide to use it. It's the only robustly scientifically proven agent for anti-aging though Edit: Just saw the comment about potential pregnancy plans! Tretinoin is the prescription form of retinol so I'd avoid that too :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/20 10:26 PM
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Eh I think it is still RP, just not in line with the values of RPW. What that lady is doing works to her purposes - using sex as a bargaining chip to get weak men to do things for her. I'd say it's the equivalent of RP men using dread to get women to be plates. But we don't want weak men in RPW, and those techniques obviously don't work on high value men.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 01:18 AM
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I've grappled a lot with how feminine to present myself in my STEM field (medicine). There is definitely a notion that high maintenance looks means you're lazy and incompetent, because you're spending time on that stuff instead of being a workaholic. And my female colleagues are always gossiping about how so and so is overdressed and tries too hard. It's pretty sad. And while I would like for the environment to change (feminine =/= weak), I'm not going to be the one to change it. In my career, I…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 09:05 PM
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I don't think religion is a must (people can have moral values without religion) but I completely agree with the notion of cherry picking values. They want submissive, nurturing, feminine women while refusing to pay for dinner, refusing the sexual and financial sacrifices of marriage, not stepping up as strong protectors and choosing to live selfishly instead.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 02:57 PM
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Trans issues are such a divisive topic on the internet. There seems to be this notion from either side that things can only be black or white, even though it's a complex subject with a LOT of gray area. If you're interested in this sort of stuff, I would recommend checking out Contrapoints on youtube. She's a funny, articulate, and entertaining trans woman who helped me better understand trans issues and formulate my own educated opinions by presenting multiple sides of an argument rather than b…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/20 02:41 PM
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Sorry you're going through this. I think TRP and RPW have fundamentally opposing interests. I would not want to be with someone who is TRP "enlightened" because it teaches men that they can "hack" human nature and behave selfishly. You are still young and have much opportunity ahead. It sounds like you were an ideal partner and he will one day realize what a rarity he gave up. I also think as time gradually heals, you will start to see more clearly the uglier parts of him, and it will help you r…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 11:16 PM
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Surrendered Single is good - someone already recommended it. Looking up "vetting" posts on here is good. Talk to people in your life in good relationships. Make a list of characteristics you prioritize, and ask yourself which ones are superficial and which will truly matter in a life partner. There might be more value to some introspection and getting a healthy sense of self worth though. It's really not rocket science identifying red flags, and his were quite obvious by your description (cheati…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 09:19 PM
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What bullshit. I've gotten annihilated in women's subs by people who go through my post history and see that I participate here. Not even for the content of what I post. I'm not even 100% on the RP train, but I learn more from keeping an open mind and having discourse with a variety of viewpoints, rather than only living in echo chambers and shunning anyone that dares to contaminate my fragile beliefs with opposing views. It's frustrating though, because people compare RPW to TRP like it's the s…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 09:07 PM
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You devalued yourself by accepting his huge red flags and prematurely giving him respect he hadn't earned. You judged him positively by his looks, charm, and sexual appeal, while ignoring the huge character flaws he laid out in front of you. Treating you kindly is the bare minimum, especially for a man you just started dating, not something to be impressed with, and especially when he clearly did not treat his ex wife kindly. You furthermore devalued yourself by acting like his wife before you w…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 08:53 PM
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Redpill men and redpill women have competing interests, so may not agree on all subjects or behave congruently
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/20 06:01 PM
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You seem like a very cool person but the type of men you will successfully attract will be the polar opposite of the type of men who will give you advice on this sub. So I hope you can take everything with that grain of salt. I think RPW strategy can be applied to any male population though. Part of the philosophy is cultivating a perspective of humility and self improvement. It's wonderful that your self esteem is so secure but your comments do come off a little like "I am perfect, and I just n…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/20 02:09 AM
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I really don't get the downvotes here. Isn't this sub about following gender roles? But we don't like the gender roles anymore if they make things harder for men? I completely agree with your assessment. Especially if the guy has much more money than her, not paying is more about a principle than the actual money itself. Hell, I pay for my friends sometimes without second thought.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 08:50 PM
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I'm entitled to whatever dating expectation I want. No one is obligated to date me. But I've had no problem finding love with a wonderful man who doesn't think twice about paying for dates. In doing so he signaled many positive attributes: being a "gentleman," generosity, enough success/wealth that a dinner is no big deal, and enough confidence in his own value and ability to judge character that he doesn't fear being used by women. Men getting on their moral high horse about women wanting men w…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 08:42 PM
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The women who insult men for opening doors are probably not the same ones who want men to pay. I expect men to pay because I do the extra work involved in playing the feminine role. I find stinginess unmasculine and unattractive. Men who don't pay and want equality can pair with blue pill women.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 05:34 PM
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Even if it's true, it's still a weird thing to say. Especially if he is of high status himself. And weird to say it without making a comment on his moral judgment of that sort of thing. Just as it would be weird for a young beautiful woman herself to say "young beautiful women can easily get away with using a man for money and screwing him in the divorce. That's just how the world works."
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/19 01:13 AM
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Well if someone needs “variety” they should just be single or explicitly seek polyamory. These cheating husbands instead reap the benefits of having a committed monogamous marriage while using evolutionary arguments to justify dishonesty or lack or integrity. From a RP perspective, this only happens because we as women allow it. We should not tolerate behaviors we don’t accept just because they are “natural” from an evolutionary standpoint.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/19 09:09 PM
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I hate that justification...no one "needs" hedonism and pleasure. It's evolutionarily ingrained in me to love junk food but I'm not here getting fat and expecting my partner to deal with it. We should be holding men to a higher standard.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 10:07 PM
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But what's the alternative? Our current economy requires all individuals to work for a living, leading to a excess of paid labor producing unnecessary bullshit and a shortage of the unpaid "soft" labor (childrearing, household maintenance, elderly care, community development) that can't be measured by GDP. But whoever goes into that nurturing role has to give up a lot of autonomy and financial security and can easily get screwed over by whoever they financially depend on. Thus, women have reject…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 11:36 PM
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Also a younger woman is probably going to be more drawn to pleasure and fun whereas an older woman who's more serious about nailing down a long term mate would be more inclined to display hypergamy in a pragmatic sense (income, stability, status)
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 11:07 PM
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I really do wonder what these women have in plan as far as long term strategy goes. Seems many do want a committed relationship...but it's hard to love a man if you hate men. I would be interested to see a less morally driven version of RPW though, I do see quite a bit of moralizing here even if that's not the "point."
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/19 05:32 PM
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Sexism =/= merely believing men and women are different. Unless your only exposure to feminism is crazy, bitter internet feminists. Being anti-sexist, as in believing that both sexes should be allowed the same opportunities towards employment, education, voting, human rights, is a moral judgment. It's also the core of traditional feminism. Whether or not one's moral judgment aligns with this shouldn't affect whether they can practice RP, considering RP is about pragmatism rather than morality. I…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/19 04:16 PM
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Gross. I never take male advice on this sub because I have no intention of attracting the type of man who goes out of his way to give advice on a women's subreddit. Some people are so small that they need to be condescending and vulgar to strangers on the internet in order to feel powerful.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 07:27 PM
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Can we stop passing this delusional sentiment around in this sub. I thought RP was about truths. I don't know a single normal guy IRL who would only marry a virgin. Only extremely religious dudes or weird internet neckbeards
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 07:11 PM
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There was recently a great post on here about how you shouldn't be with a man who doesn't deserve your respect. I think that captured the vibe I'm going for. Also, making a man feel respected isn't synonymous with submission. It can actually be a light manipulation tactic. For example, it doesn't cost me anything to give tons of praise when a guy helps me with my car or pays for my meal, and it reinforces that behavior. Trusting him with decisions on things that don't matter to you. Showing genu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 02:44 AM
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I peruse both subs and find a happy middle. I agree that a huge problem on RPW is all the dumb advice given with authoritative tone by males who are clearly pushing a male agenda. But I've found some RPW principles pretty helpful. I've really wanted to see a shift in RPW towards using RP knowledge to maximize the female imperative, rather than becoming an ideal doormat for a TRP man. There are definitely some major truths at its core that could be used to our advantage. For example - highlightin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 10:54 PM
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Well if we're talking about individuals then no one really has authority to say "high value men all want this" because individuals are heterogeneous. I can tell you with confidence that high income men of my generation typically require their marriage partners to have some level of social standing, generally through education or career, simply because that is the social norm. A good portion also genuinely value intellectual compatibility and shared values including ambition. Other measures of "h…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 03:41 AM
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What you're saying is not something I've observed in real life, in high income circles at least. Class is certainly important to most of them when considering marriage. My high profile boyfriend wouldn't dare to bring a hot uneducated 7/11 girl to one of his fancy work functions lol. Like I said, sexual attraction is the first filter but people take many more factors into account when choosing a life partner
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 03:24 AM
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This is just not true. A high value man will consider that 10/10 as a temporary, passionate fling. They typically settle down with people of similar social class because humans don't make major life decisions based on sexual attraction alone, even if it's the most important initial characteristic. There are plenty of good looking women who are also accomplished/intellectually compatible.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 02:40 AM
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Not at all in today's society IMO. Haven't you seen all the rhetoric about men being bitter about paying for dates, dodging gold diggers, fear of getting divorce raped, etc. Plus many men have become feminized and simply don't want to step up anymore
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/19 02:34 AM
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I'm sensing some defensiveness. And I've definitely been down this path before when I was new to dating and everything was very exciting. But keep in mind that you don't know this guy. One date is not nearly enough to assess his character. Some men will say things they don't mean or even straight up lie to get laid or manipulate us. Look up "love bombing." I definitely think his actions of not texting you is not at all in line with "passionate as hell" or already speaking in "us" terms. Going th…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/19 12:22 AM
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Something smells a little fishy here. 22 year old millionaires are generally typically not looking to settle down, especially with women they've only been on one date with. Also the fact that the first date was so intense strikes me as odd? Even if you're super beautiful and have a great personality, I feel like someone in his position just has way too many options open to him to lock down on one girl at such a young age. But he seems to have charmed the heck out of you, which puts you in the vu…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 11:17 PM
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I think we can be a little more sympathetic to OP since it sounds like she's from a developing country and fearing a life of true poverty. There's a point where romance and morals go out the window and it's all about self preservation, especially if your only asset/opportunity is your sexual value. However, the sugar daddy thing sounds sketchy as hell - there's no way this would end in a lifelong marriage with ongoing financial support. Honestly it could even be a sex trafficking thing. I think …
/r/RedPillWives20/10/19 08:09 PM
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The point is that it doesn’t matter what’s fair in the sexual marketplace. No one is owed attraction
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/19 10:03 AM
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RP is not the place to moralize. RP men objectify us all the time. It's also dehumanizing for us to be completely overlooked if we're fat or ugly, but that's just how the world is. Though I agree that narrowing your dating pool significantly by screening based on rare superficial characteristics is pragmatically silly for any woman who isn't absolute top tier.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 03:36 PM
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Weird flex but okay
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 12:01 PM
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I think the inability to handle conflict is very common in men, unfortunately. Our dissatisfaction brings them deep shame, but they’re unable to confront it and instead lash out or avoid instead. I think you’ve done everything you can to be gentle and respectful, and it’s not like you can just pretend you don’t have problems. I don’t think it’s completely unresolvable though, but he needs to be willing to cooperate. Try bringing up the communication issue in isolation from any other issue. Tell …
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/19 02:56 PM
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I promise you there are men who wouldn't care. Some might even find it enticing - you obviously have a great grasp on sexual energy and this can be intoxicating to a man. RP principles may be helpful to you, but given your past it might not all be useful, and you should broaden your horizon and also look at content that focuses more on maximizing the female imperative (feminine energy dating coaches on youtube are great). I would advise avoiding red pill, conservative, or religious men. You can …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 12:46 PM
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Obviously I'm only seeing the bad stuff but you have to brace yourself that these are all possibilities When did I group all veterans together? It's naive to hope for the best without considering the worst. Also foolishly selfless to not consider your own needs and risk tolerance in a marriage. Mental illness can be absolutely debilitating and is significantly more prevalent in the veteran population. All the guys I've met who've alienated their families were good upstanding people before their …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/19 02:05 AM
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The other comments offer good advice, but I want to stress the caution with marrying someone in the military. I spent some time on psychiatry at the VA and it's insane the kind of emotional scars that service can leave behind. Tons of alcohol and substance addiction, PTSD, and depression all directly related to experiences in the military. I sat in on several group therapy session and nearly every veteran had an ex wife and kids who he has taken anger out on, neglected, left behind, disappointed…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/19 10:07 PM
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The best way to create space is to have a real reason for doing it. Having friends, hobbies, and your own life to attend to so that you genuine reasons to not be available all the time. That will signal value and also create some chemistry from the tension. But pulling away artificially will come off as being disinterested or playing games which will likely backfire.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/19 09:34 PM
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Before RP, I dated two men who claimed to be attracted to bitchy women ("strong, spunky, with an attitude") and I tried to play the part. Turns out the first one wanted a mom to boss him around and take charge in the relationship so that he didn't have to have responsibilities as a man. The second one was a player who used red pill tactics on me (realized this retrospectively). He was so bored with how easy it was for him to get women that he wanted me to be a challenge. Acting bitchy got him ho…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 05:02 PM
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We're talking about engagement within the timeline of finishing my graduate degree. We'll be getting a prenup. Money does add to a man's value. In the same way that being hot and young adds to a woman's value. And in the same way, it's not all that matters, but it certainly is a component of "high value." A man who can provide is hot, and making money signals capability. Red pill men are 100% right that women care about money. But they are hypocritical when they morally rebuke women for followin…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 08:11 PM
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You made the right decision and you are now free from a toxic cycle and have the world ahead of you. I would recommend you read about the theory of attachment styles (anxious and avoidant) and the toxic cycles that perpetuates when anxious and avoidant types get together. Basically it goes like this: Avoidant types will look for flaws in anyone and constantly push you away whenever he feels a weakening in his barrier that keeps him safe from vulnerability. In turn, anxious types are wired so tha…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 07:39 PM
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I have NEVER experienced high value men caring about this at all, unless the girl is sleeping with so many people that she has a reputation for it. I've only heard of religious and red pill men valuing chastity as a positive, otherwise it's been a neutral or a negative regarding lack of experience/prudeness. I really think low n-count is one of the tenets that's touted on red pill without any real life actual substantiation or practical consideration of the modern dating climate. I've gone on da…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 07:25 PM
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Wish I could upvote this 100 times. It boggles my mind why some people take the energy to be hateful over things that don't impact them whatsoever.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/19 07:02 PM
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Lol guess incel guys know better about what women want than actual women. Let me tell you the oldest ugly woman would not want to subject herself to your shitty personality. So good luck
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/19 12:29 AM
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Your first sentence, yes. That’s life. Second sentence- for the 1000th time, incels can fix their shitty personalities and/or get rich to. become more attractive. If you’re resistant to this being true, then whatever, doesn’t affect me, have a nice life.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 11:59 PM
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No, I think you're absolutely wrong, but there's nothing I can say to change your mind, so I'll respectfully let you go on believing what you believe and continuing to be miserable.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 11:49 PM
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If you believe that then there's nothing we can offer you, so kindly go away.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 11:45 PM
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This is great advice, but a note on the quads. I think people have different genetic predispositions to how quickly they grow certain muscles. I've always had bigger quads naturally, and when I began weight training they grew like crazy ("newbie gains") in just 2-3 months. My legs looked significantly bigger and I had not gained weight. And I'm a scrawny, unathletic girl who everyone told "there's no way you could get bulky if you even tried!!" Now I avoid quads completely, so no squats for me. …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 11:42 PM
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Yeah, because "fix your personality" is the right answer here, whether you agree or not. The fact that you're an incel means that whatever you're doing right now isn't working, so I'd suggest you consider others' advice instead of insisting on sticking by your own warped beliefs. What's the point of asking for advice if you're just going to reject it? People are taking time to help you, so listen or gtfo. The vast majority of people settle for less than what they wanted in some aspect, as there …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 11:23 PM
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You need to make it clear to him (and to yourself) that you're fully prepared to walk out if serious changes don't occur within a certain timeline. Otherwise it will be an endless loop of him doing just enough to get you back to "okay for now I guess." I'm seeing a lot of misplaced factors that are causing you to shy away from an actual breakup- sunk cost fallacy, fear of being alone, fear of starting over with dating, comfort/safety of a loyal boyfriend. He can probably sense how "locked in" yo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 11:03 PM
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All men will notice whether our bodies and faces look nice. Everything else is up to personal preference. Men are individuals, not a monolith. Figure out what kind of look is most desired by the type of man you're trying to attract. For example, high class men generally appreciate a more polished, feminine classy look. Edgier dudes probably like a girl with tattoos and piercings.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 10:39 PM
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Your personality is super weird. I'm not saying fixing your personality will magically fix everything, but I can say for certain that it makes up a large portion of why you're an incel. No one wants to have sex with someone who is lamenting about how his genetics are so awful that it would be morally awful to reproduce. It's weird af. Normal people don't think about genetics this much. There's a subconscious drive to seek genetic superiority but our base preferences can easily be overridden. Sto…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/19 10:32 PM
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While the advice on cultivating self esteem is good, it's still beneficial to approach high value men with a degree of skepticism and vet for intentions. We're internet strangers and don't know if you're actually high or low value. You could be a lower value woman that he wants to date/hookup with but wouldn't consider for marriage. Alternatively, you could be a high value woman with low self esteem that he's pursuing seriously. Try to gauge your situation cautiously and wisely.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/19 09:14 PM
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I think the first thing for you to worry about, in order to have success in both your personal life and career, is to improve your self esteem. Your words are important and you shouldn't insult yourself like that. Through life, you will always be your own best friend - would you say something like that to your best friend? Being feminine is not always the best choice. It's a powerful tool to inspire people, particularly men, to want to love and protect you. However, it will not help you in your …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/19 08:09 PM
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It's just common sense to find out what the best your SMV could afford. Before commitments have been made, why should an attractive 20 year old settle and be submissive for the first decent accountant that comes along if she later realizes her SMV can also afford a hot lawyer who's more confident, better in bed, and a better partner? As long as she accurately knows her value and appropriately vets for commitment rather than sexual interest, it's in her best interest to find to best partner in he…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 12:28 PM
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Broken feelings are certainly not attractive, but love isn't about being turned on all the time. I (and most reasonable women, IMO) have a certain threshold of tolerance where I will put on my therapist hat and expect nothing of him and accept his brokenness because I care for him as a person. There just has to be enough positive to counteract those moments. Everyone has weaknesses and it's unhealthy to hide them. The people who go on and on about how women leave men who open up were probably to…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 11:39 PM
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I've found a lot of wisdom on RPW but also a lot of bullshit. There are so many TRP guys on that sub and like half of the mods are men. It's like we're not even acknowledging that female and male imperatives are at odds with each other, and thus male advice will be biased. I wish the sub leaned more towards catering the female imperative ONLY by applying red pill concepts, in the way TRP works for men. But there are men in there lecturing us that being RP means being a "good girl." There was rec…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 10:46 PM
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Preach. RP women need to remember to act in our own self interest, and that's not at all incompatible with core RP principles. This is a shift I would love to see on this sub. Let's riot! ;)
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/19 12:02 AM
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Because RP was originally created by males and has a strong male bias. I think hypergamy is natural and advantageous for a young woman in her prime. She should be branch swinging to land the best possible mate that her SMV can afford. I'm sick of hearing stories on here about hot 19 year olds trying to be the perfect RPW for some douchebag and not wanting something better for herself because that would be hypergamy. It's the same thing with men shitting on women who care about money, but say it'…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/19 11:45 PM
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It depends on where you're starting. A majority of women could improve significantly with diet and weight training. This is probably the single most impactful move. Next is skincare and neat grooming. Something I notice is that women will pour loads of time into details like nails, hair, and fashion, makeup...while shying away from addressing the much more pressing issue of body shape. Yes, it's emotionally harder to change your lifestyle than go to the nail salon, but the payoff is astronomical…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 11:52 PM
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I wouldn't say being an alpha plate spinner is the male fantasy either. Maybe in the short term, but men can be quite romantic deep down. That's why TRP always says that only men have a true capacity to love, whereas women are only pragmatic. (Don't agree with this, but just illustrating that even TRP men have that romanticism and desire for companionship, love, and understanding). I think the equivalent of striving to be a playboy alpha is striving to be a rich princess trophy wife who gets wha…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 09:02 PM
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I think this is the most accurate equivalent. It's about "cheating" the game to have everything in your favor. The other suggestions on this thread (getting a good man to commit) are what we achieve by playing the game by the rules, not getting the best deal for ourselves. I find it interesting that we don't advocate or give tips on how to do this on RPW, while TRP teaches men how to be that hedonistic pleasure-seeking alpha. I find that on RPW we strive for something more emotionally fulfilling…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/19 08:57 PM
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It took me forever to figure out that dairy was causing my acne. I never had bad acne, only comedones here and there, so I never really thought about it. But they disappeared once I quit dairy.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 11:20 PM
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I totally agree with blowing out! I always considered it to be a skill that was too difficult or time consuming for me to realistically incorporate. Also my straight hair looks "fine" as is. But learning how to do a blow out really took it to the next level! The volume frames my face in a way that dramatically improves its shape. And I found it was worth the effort once I got the hang of it (and got a nice hairdryer attachment).
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 11:18 PM
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Yeah I agree with both of those. She has her young age going for her which is a huge plus that she should take advantage of. I don't think waiting for marriage is ever a good strategy except maybe for virgins in very religious communities. But putting out right away to try to compensate for being a single mom is gonna get her pumped and dumped.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 11:02 PM
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Can we talk longer term milestones as well? For me, the intimacy timeline depends more on chemistry than anything else. But I do think pragmatically about when I'd like to hit bigger milestones: Meet friends: 3-6 months Meet family: 6-12 months Move in: 2 years Engaged: 2-3 years Married: 3-4 years Kids: at least 1 year into marriage For reference I am 24 and would like to start a family between ages 28-33.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 10:56 PM
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Unrealistic is hiding the fact that she is INDEED a religious single mom looking for a serious LTR. What good will it do her to attract people who aren't okay with any of these elements? Better for her to be single than introduce the wrong type of men into her daughter's life. Best thing for OP to do is to recognize that being a single mom understandably shrinks her dating pool, work on maximizing her value, and know where to compromise (good looks, status, superficial features) and where not to…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 10:48 PM
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I doubt you (or other red pill men) are the type of man she wants to or should try to attract. OP, I would take his opinion with a grain of salt.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/19 10:39 PM
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This is so insightful and spot on! I think it applies to many other facets of life too. I think many women (including myself) tend to be voluntarily self sacrificing and not realize that we actually want to be taken care of. So instead of being vulnerable and expressing neediness, we get resentful and express this unmet need through weird passive aggressive shit like "Man Flu."
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/19 10:52 PM
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I don’t get why you’re speaking as if you’re the authority on what high value men want. Personally I don’t want anything to do with men who follow TRP or spend time lecturing women on women’s forums. So I find your opinion rather irrelevant unless you have any real support for the arguments you’re making. I’ve seen the strategy you’re describing fail for so many women irl.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/19 02:14 AM
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I disagree with paying for the first date. At most, do a half hearted offer to pay your own half. He should interject. If you're a high value woman, a guy who does not interject is not worth your time. I find that my opinion on this is very controversial on the internet. Of COURSE swaths of internet men are gonna say they like it when the girl pays. It's literally in their interest to encourage this behavior. That doesn't mean they will actually like you more or treat you better for it though. B…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 02:24 PM
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Not only dangerous, but probably also impossible? Do you really think you can lose that much weight in that time span? To give you some perspective, 1 lb = 3500 calories. So (66lb*3500cal)/90 days = 2566 calories per day. You'd have be a deficit of 2566 calories per day. Unless you're like 300lbs, most women only require 1500-2000 calories at baseline, so you'd pretty much have to literally not eat at all but also do an hour of intense cardio per day to reach that goal. If you had the magic will…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/19 02:12 PM
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A lot of those guys have shitty wives. Don't think it's behavior any good RPW should tolerate.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 09:44 PM
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I think biology/evolution is overvalued in RP, especially when discussing relationships strategy. I do think there is a good amount of truth in there when it comes to sexual strategy though.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 10:09 PM
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Yes! I don't get why we even have a stance on feminism. How we behave in relationships should be apolitical. I'm not going to make decisions in my relationships based on how feminist or anti-feminist that move is. I'm going to do what works. I feel like all this does is scare of women who could gain a lot from this sub. Plus, many aspects of feminism do align closely with RPW values - for example, making motherhood more accessible with better maternal leave policies.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 10:06 PM
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Idk, I feel like it could also correlate with "I take marriage seriously and want to get a deeper look at our day to day compatibility before diving in." I think the explicit reasons of moving in needs to be discussed. Many couples will move in together due to financial/convenience reasons before their relationship is mature enough to handle it. They're honeymooning and just wanna see each other all the time, have lots of sex, and pay less rent. Once they've moved in, it becomes such a sunk cost…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 09:59 PM
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I'm glad that holding out worked for you, but I also think this is not such a black and white issue as painted in RPW. Ideally, we should vet for men who are not in the mindset to pull the whole "move in and I'll reap wifey benefits without every committing" card. Outside of reddit, there is a sizeable population of men who actually desire getting married instead of viewing it as this thing they have to "give up" in order to gain something. I think a level-headed RPW can safely move in before en…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 09:51 PM
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Yes! I am often appalled seeing TRP users saying that a good career is a definite negative for men, because evolution blah blah blah. In my experience it has always been a neutral or a positive, and more likely to be positive the higher up in society you climb. Any reasonable guy knows that in today's society, both women and men need educations and careers to protect their financial security. Is a man who wants us to risk that security so he can feel more masculine really the kind of man we want…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 09:32 PM
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I find that pearl earrings add a certain touch. And a neat nude/pale pink manicure.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/19 09:53 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/19 07:01 PM
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I am asking about vetting. My SO doesn’t EXPECT me to give him back rubs or help around his house but it sure contributes to his vetting of me. “Accomplish” also functions as a plain verb. I didn’t come here to brag about my accomplishments. If you want I can tell you all about my Ivy League education and being halfway towards my MD. You are here looking for reasons to condescend, not to offer legitimate advice. Go away.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/19 10:40 AM
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I don't know how many times I clarified that I didn't expect any of these things, but I guess some people just like to jump at any chance to be snarky to strangers on the internet.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/19 09:58 PM
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For me personally, it's about learning realistic and effective relationship strategies that may be considered not PC in other spaces. There are elements of red pill dogma that I am skeptical of, and in those cases I just take what is useful to me and leave what is not. I don't align with red pill religiously or apply it anywhere in my life but my love life. I am happy to be submissive to my SO, but not a "submissive woman" to anyone else or as an identity. I still embrace my high power masculine…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/19 09:24 PM
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I appreciate your thoughtful and balanced perspective on this. You are right in that he often praises me for being smart and capable, and thus I continue to try to do that. But as I've shifted from blue pill to red pill through the course of our relationship, I wonder if I am getting stuck in the "strong independent woman" trap and selling myself short. I do think I contribute a lot of traditionally feminine things to the relationship cooking/cleaning when I'm over, being his primary source of e…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 03:00 PM
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Disagree with your last sentence. I see boyfriends financially supporting their girlfriends all the time. There seems to be a lot of negative energy around that on the internet. But it’s definitely the reality I’ve observed in my real life community. I’m not claiming I’m entitled to anything, but I do think most of my friends boyfriends would have bought the ticket, especially if they had the income differential we did (0 as grad student vs upper 6 figures).
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 12:09 PM
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I hear your concern! I do think my thinking is distorted so it is helpful to see so many people agreeing with this. And I will be proceeding with more caution now that I'm aware of how abnormal this behavior is. Still I love him and would like to give him the benefit of the doubt for a while now that I have opened my eyes to how I can change my behavior too. I see what you're saying about the ingrained desire and that's something I'm worried about too. But the feminine traits of receptiveness an…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 03:48 AM
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Not often? This is a weird question. Like I said, I've always been quite independent. My parents don't get involved in my life outside of the rare occasions I ask for help.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 03:36 AM
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Idk, I feel like my attitude is definitely contributing to the problem here. Because in my life I pretty much never have guys or boyfriends offering to do stuff for me like some of my girlfriends do. And I know it's not my looks as I get abundant of male attention. I have a lot of trouble giving off that helpless demeanor. For example I would have just figured out how to install the air conditioners. I don't know if I've given him a fair chance to be a protector since I minimize my issues and do…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 03:26 AM
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No, you don't have it straight. I am happy with him and did not accuse him of doing anything wrong. But my parents have advised me that he should indeed be offering to help without asking in situations like these, and it seems like others here agree. I came here to gather more opinions on what people feel are reasonable vetting expectations. Your aggressiveness is bit unnecessary. I'm glad you think he did nothing wrong, as that is still how I lean.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 03:17 AM
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Ask yourself, do you want to feel like this forever? The thing is, I have no had negative feelings about this. But listening to the wisdom here and my parents, perhaps being taken care of should matter to me more. I've always been uncomfortable with being doted on - perhaps a part of me feels like I don't deserve it. I'm going to make an effort to drop my front of independence and ask for help more often and see how he responds. He has never not fulfilled a request of mine - I just don't make ma…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 03:09 AM
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I definitely think my attitude plays a big role in this, and I'm really hoping that a shift in my attitude might change his. He's never given me reason to believe that he wouldn't want to help me if I asked. I'm also guilty of rejecting help on occasions ("oh no, that would be too bothersome") and perhaps he's gotten used to the status quo I've created. I do feel shy asking for favors and I think that's a self esteem issue I need to work on. I'm like that with friends too. For example, one time …
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/19 03:02 AM
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Are you in the US? And are you talking about being a doctor or different type of practitioner? I'm assuming no to one of those because you said 3 years residency. But I had a saddening experience rotating with female surgical residents in the US. One intern had a 1 year old and worked 14 hour days 6 days a week. Every day she'd make some sort of comment about how her daughter was unfortunately asleep by the time she got home and she hadn't spent real awake time with her in ages. Another was 35 a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 05:52 PM
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I appreciate your thoughtful reflection of my comment! Keep in mind that I don’t know your situation as well as you do and am just trying to offer a new perspective from a cultural standpoint. The fact he wants children badly makes his intense work habits make more sense to me, actually. Asians can tend to underestimate the importance of “softer” elements of childrearing such as affection in favor of more pragmatic elements such as financial stability and education. Many Asian children grow up n…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 03:36 PM
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I'd argue that a lot of her loneliness stems from the fact she relocated and has been unemployed and directionless for a year. What I see is a man who is doing whatever he can to provide for his future family, and doesn't have energy leftover for his wife in the present. Flawed approach, maybe, but narcissism is a major and rather baseless character accusation. My mom stuck with my dad when they were poor as hell immigrants who couldn't afford groceries. He worked 80+ hours a week for years. She…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 02:56 AM
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What exactly are you getting out of this relationship? Hold up, he's working 80 hours a week to build the nest egg she needs to start the family she wants and be a SAHM which she has stated is her dream. She's been unemployed for a year so it's not unreasonable to expect her to contribute in whatever way she can, domestically and with his work. Obviously this setup is not fulfilling her emotional needs but it's hardly unfair.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 02:20 AM
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There may be a culture gap at play here. Grew up with a workaholic Asian immigrant dad. To him, being a provider was the absolute #1 most important duty as a husband and father. Worked himself silly to singlehandedly lift us from third world country poverty to US upper middle class. For a long time I resented him for not being affectionate or present in the ways that I saw American dads with their daughters, but after seeing his sacrifices I've learned to accept and respect that as his way of sh…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 01:48 AM
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My experience on RedPillWomen is a lot of insightful, interesting, kind, no-nonsense, woman-centric discussion that really jives with me, muddied by some dude at the bottom of the comments who's a little too dogmatic about red pill theory and using long convoluted sentences to advocate that women do things that are not necessarily in our favor. I wish this sub was more active so I could get a break from that. I just want to learn how to be a better SO, not hear about what my (long gone) virginit…
/r/RedPillWives22/08/19 12:49 AM
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Yes. I think back to a relationship that I pretty much ruined by being too blue pilled. I "wore the pants," I nagged, I disrespected him, I acted like his mother telling him how to live his life, I stopped putting effort into beauty/fitness/diet, I was unpleasant to be around but demanded his attention, I always treated him like I knew better and gave unsolicited career advice (same field, but I was a whopping 10 months older), and I won every argument. It's no goddamn surprise that he fell out …
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/19 12:35 AM
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Some guys, especially younger ones, are only excited by the chase. When the chase is over they lose interest. Doesn't necessarily mean he was intentionally faking it to get in your pants the whole time, but having sex with him removed that drive of lust/infatuation and it seems there was nothing else there. Especially since it sounds like you never explicitly established your relationship goals with each other. I'm sorry. No one is ever busy enough to risk blowing it with someone they truly want…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/19 08:33 PM
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It sounds like you're a wonderful and hardworking mother and companion to your husband. Superficial expressions of femininity (nails, dresses, etc) are not as important when you're past the point of attracting the attention of suitors. However, there is more to femininity than merely servitude. To be feminine is to also to gracefully receive. Creating opportunities for your husband to satisfy the masculine drive to provide. Ask his advice. Ask him to help you with things that he's better at. Whe…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 09:55 PM
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I think you were a little on edge being nervous about the party and his actions felt disrespectful and controlling because it put you in an anxiety provoking position. But in reality it could have just been him trying to playfully get you to join in, then perhaps feeling confused/rejected that you didn't want to play and reacting to that. I think the best move for a woman is to be open about her vulnerability. Instead of making his accusatory (does he really respect me? is he trying to change me…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/19 06:04 PM
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It sounds like you have a great start! I got a lot out of reading The Surrendered Wife. It helped me see a lot of my mistakes in a clearer light. And generally cultivate a habit of respect for my SO even if he lets me "get away" with not being perfect in this regard. He's not RP either and it's really easy to fall into little abrasive habits unless I stay keenly aware of them. No one is perfect but it helps to be mindful. I take pride in being a good girlfriend so it is a little hard to admit my…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 09:51 PM
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Pretty privilege is definitely a thing. That doesn't mean attractive people have bad personalities though. I think it's something people like to say to make themselves feel better. Often times, attractive people get more opportunities to develop social skills than unattractive people who don't get those opportunities handed to them. It's like how nerds in high school can't wait to see the jocks end up miserable working at walmart, only to find that they charmed themselves up the business ladder …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 01:23 PM
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Doesn't make me feel bad at all. Has not affected the quality of my current relationship. Except better sex probably, now that I actually know what the heck I'm doing. Honestly don't understand what the big deal is on this.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 10:02 PM
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As a teen, please don't take medical advice from the internet! DO NOT take pills or supplements without your doctor's approval. Supplements are not FDA approved and don't go through any sort of process of quality of review. You could be getting pills with sawdust and lead. I am speaking as someone with a biochemistry degree and 3 years of medical training (1 year before I become a doctor). I took a quick gander at the articles the commenter gave you. The estrogen stuff is pretty much bunk. The s…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 08:09 PM
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Given that OP is about to get married, her future's husband's view on how her virginity affects her SMV/RMV worth is the only opinion that matters. OP hasn't given details but it seems he's already deemed her worthy by proposing to her. We are in a subreddit where femininity and kindness are encouraged. Harshness is used only as a tool to encourage self improvement. The commenter is soothing the OP to not be so hard on herself on her worth as a person. There are no lies in that statement. OP is …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 07:13 PM
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That's a great second point. Chemically, it's building up a tolerance to the dopamine released in response to all the rewarding feelings associated with a new relationship. Thus each proceeding relationship feels more and more meh. The thing is tolerance can be reversed with abstinence. That's why nun mode is so effective. It's not like you get irreversibly depleted of a finite life source.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 06:59 PM
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Amen. I like red pill because the core of it is to take a cold hard look at reality. But certain topics just reek of male bias and wishful thinking. I have never met a man who wasn't devoutly religious or devoutly red pill who cared at all about virginity. Many don't even care about previous partners until you're approaching skanky territory.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 06:48 PM
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Basic worth as a human being is related to purity and competence (to a varying degree in either sex). No one person has authority to say what determines a human’s worth. That’s a moral judgement. In my opinion, being a virgin does not increase or decrease someone’s intrinsic worth. People are calling this “blue pill” but red pill is supposed to be amoral. How virginity may affect you in the sexual market is a different discussion. OP is engaged so it doesn’t seem that relevant. I’m not going to …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 02:16 PM
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I think OP is talking more about virginity and inherent worth as a person, not promiscuity and worth on the sexual market. If you’re not a virgin maybe your RMV would be lower to a subset of men, but that doesn’t mean you’re a worthless human being or incapable of holding yourself to a virtuous standard moving forward. Also huge difference between losing your virginity to a long term boyfriend and having that not work out, vs sleeping with multiple people as referenced in the article. Intrinsic …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 10:53 AM
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I’m really glad to hear there are so many other women here who don’t follow everything to a tee. I love reading RPW theory as a guideline, but it’s jarring to hear certain grey area topics being presented as absolute truth. People are still individuals and have preferences. I don’t give too much thought to n count. Keeping my n count low is good for ME in terms of emotional well being, but I’ve never been asked about it by a man, or had that used as a way to judge my character. Plus, it’s my bel…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 10:49 AM
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The RPW goal is not only to attract a man, but to build a long lasting relationship. If your career is a significant part of your life you can't exactly hide it forever. I'd rather weed out the ones who were turned off at the forefront. It's not a numbers game for women
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 11:35 PM
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Even if having smarts does nothing for SMV, it can definitely add to RMV. In my social circle, highly educated men almost unanimously date highly educated women. It's a class thing. It would be problematic to bring a hot girl who works at McDonalds home to mom and dad. I have never seen a man turn down a woman simply for being too smart - usually it's because they are smart and ugly, or smart and bitchy, or smart and don't want kids, etc. I'm a little skeptical that men actively want to marry do…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 11:26 PM
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This is barely coherent. It's my bad for thinking that engaging you was a a worthy pursuit.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 01:16 AM
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While I think your terms are reasonable, I think they way you're framing them is not and will only cause conflict. Men don't like being told what they can and cannot do. It's much more effective to say "these are the boundaries I have in a relationship," and holding yourself to those boundaries by leaving if they are broken. Everyone has different boundaries and he clearly differs in opinion with you on this. What's important is whether or not he chooses to respect your boundaries. The way you'v…
/r/RedPillWives29/07/19 12:03 AM
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"Sociology is the study of human social relationships and institutions." Is sex not a human social relationship? I didn't say animal biology is primitive. I said that chimps and apes are millions of years of evolution removed from us, and that our closer ancestors are dead and difficult to study. You should refresh yourself on the definition of primitive, though. It literally means being at an earlier point in evolution. Probably exactly what evolutionists should be studying, so not sure what yo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 11:22 PM
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One thing I'm working on is having good posture. I've started paying attention to it in other people and my does it make a WORLD of a difference.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 10:36 PM
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Skincare and groomed eyebrows are huge. Get rid of extraneous hair and peach fuzz. Get a haircut that flatters and frames your face shape well. What's the fuss about being totally natural though? Is it convenience or a moralistic thing ("false advertising," etc). Because women have been altering their appearance since the beginning of time. No one says getting braces is unnatural even though it's a cosmetic enhancement. You can make interventions without looking unnatural. My daily routine of BB…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 10:19 PM
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You are making a lot of convoluted claims without much substantiation. There are many, many articles about the evolution of (serial) monogamy and provider-ship in our male ancestors. Here is one for example https://www.nationalgeographic.com/science/2009/10/oldest-skeleton-human-ancestor-found-ardipithecus/ Instead of fighting for access to females, a male Ardipithecus would supply a "targeted female" and her offspring with gathered foods and gain her sexual loyalty in return. But I'm not trying…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 10:00 PM
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I appreciate the advice but this is not a problem I experience anymore. Definitely rang true when I was younger and surrounded by immature men. I'm just empathizing with the OP, given that many people are jumping to conclusions about what she's implying. Our collective understanding of our actual modern brains is extremely limited. Evolutionary theory is largely based on observations of more primitive species. And beyond that, the way evolutionary theory is used to substantiate red pill theories…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 08:39 PM
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You're misunderstanding the point I'm trying to make. Attraction, value, and conscious commitment are important and in no way am I saying they are nonessential. However, there are more abstract reasons we love a particular person rather than anyone who can consistently provide the things on our checklist and better our life. Maybe it's the way they care passionately about bettering the lives of those less fortunate. Maybe it's their artistic creativity. Maybe it's their curiosity for knowledge. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 08:11 PM
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I see what you're saying but I'm not sure if that hits the particular point I was making. I admit my first example applies more with genders reversed. But what I'm saying that love goes beyond "this person meets my needs," and a component of being loved "for who you are" definitely exists. TRP is a great model for attraction but I think love is a more complex thing.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 03:24 PM
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I mean, cooking and service are still external factors. How do you know that given the option, your husband won't leave you for a prettier woman who cooks better? That he'll stay if you become sick or disabled? It's probably because he loves you. It's that intangible thing that many of us search for. Again, not saying people should be complacent and expect love anyways. But RP can often simplify relationships into vessels to derive value from, and forget the component of connection. No matter ho…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 01:08 PM
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I don't think OP is wishing to be complacent - I think she is just lamenting about how empty it can feel to be valued on your looks. As a young woman with a nice body and pretty face, it gets demoralizing realizing that not many people care much about what goes beyond that. I experience the world as a full person, not as my external attributes. It hurts to hear that my career, a passion that I've poured so much energy into, "doesn't matter." It gets old meeting guy after guy who doesn't give a s…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 11:00 AM
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On the caution note, I’d save smiling for safe and socially welcoming situations (coffee shop, bar, grocery store) and not say, walking around a city or taking transport. Had many bad experiences when I was younger simply making eye contact with the wrong people, and not knowing how to balance being polite vs protecting myself.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 04:50 PM
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Okay dude. You are clearly very passionate about this. But there is no justice in the sexual market - it's all about economics. Is it fair that an ugly girl with a heart of gold gets passed over? No. But that's just how the world works. Your advice means nothing to me because I've had no problem attracting great men with the current standards I hold. If I were having trouble dating and being rejected, I would reassess my value and expectations. It's not my job to create justice for the genders a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 02:07 PM
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On the contrary, I've found that it happily filters out the men I don't want. Most RPW want a combo of alpha and beta traits. I've had no trouble finding a man who doesn't have a second thought about offering resources up front, and doesn't have a big complex about it because he feels secure enough to know he's not being used.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 01:45 AM
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LOL. I do think it's a reflection of failure in society though. I think these men don't have enough irl support or a way to let off steam so they turn to bitterness and rage. The sexual frustration angle is one I haven't considered as much but that makes sense!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 01:24 AM
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Using those terms, I think the error is that he has very low RMV and gave us a laundry list of SMV qualities and other random stuff that don't not contribute to RMV, which is what RPW are primarily concerned about. Finances maybe, everything else was like uhh dude okay? I don't care? Am I supposed to be impressed?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 01:16 AM
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I thought your comment was really well written and I'm glad that you see that there are tons of great women out there in the real world. I don't understand how so many internet men seem to only run into terrible people...
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 12:57 AM
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Okay. I'm going to take the time to try to break it down for you instead of straight up insulting you. The particular attributes you decided to list to prove your "high value" gives off the impression that you perceive women as superficial, shallow creatures who look at a man and want to know his height, salary, and penis size, first and foremost. That presumption is insulting to a group of smart, emotionally intelligent, kind, loving, three dimensional human women who participate in this sub. W…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 12:52 AM
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Pretty sure a deep desire to commit and men going their own way are incompatible ideas by definition. I'm sensing that you're not actually MGTOW, and instead jaded/suspicious about relationships yet still desiring one deep down, and here hoping a unicorn will change your mind about women. I'm sorry but it's not the job of women to do that. No unicorn wants to date someone who is closed off, unable to be vulnerable, or needing convincing that relationships are "worth it." That's a lot of baggage.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 12:32 AM
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What is the point of this post? Perhaps you are misunderstanding the mission of RPW, which is to satisfy the feminine goal of attaining and nurturing a happy, committed relationship. By being MGTOW, you are by definition the opposite of what we desire in a man. Your lengthy list of personal achievements (which I frankly find to reflect an oversimplified perception of what we care about when searching for a mate) does not change that. A more appropriate AMA would be from a man with a deep desire …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/19 12:13 AM
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Since online dating is so superficial and looks-oriented, I think it's important to find someone who feels "wow hell yeah" about your looks rather than "meh." A guy who's not messaging feels meh. You are directly adjacent to all the other fish in the sea. So even if messaging first gets you a date, he is very likely seeing it as a chance for easy sex rather than any sort of committed relationship. I would disagree with other commenters and say that it's not worth your time to engage and probably…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 06:04 PM
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I think given the controversial climate these days, it does vary from person to person how to navigate paying for dates. I like to feel provided for as a social gesture, not as a practical modality. I view money/resources as a masculine form of giving, while love/warmth is feminine giving. Setting this kind of dynamic is what ignites attraction for me. Coming from a privileged background, I have no want for a man's money, but feeling like a man is cheaping out on me is just so unattractive on th…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 05:44 PM
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Or, she could end up like the countless women who do all those things in hopes of getting a man's true Captain self to come out, only to realize that she's dating a bum man-child. We always say on this sub that vetting is important. It's not about being entitled, it's about using clues to discern what kind of man is in front of you, instead of hoping he'll change. I agree that first date who pays is a murky issue and isn't enough information to gauge someone's character, but I think OP is totall…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 05:10 PM
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I love this post. I have become so much happier after making a conscious effort to release my own judgments and separate myself from judgmental people. It's just so much hate and negative energy that can only do you harm. I have a relevant story - back in my BP days my very Catholic roommate and I both went on second dates one weekend. I did not sleep with my date despite his insistence, but she did with hers. She shamed me for "being a tease" and I ended up crying over it because I was young an…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 12:43 PM
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This is a lovely community overall but tends to self-select for a certain type of man that can really dampen the mood. One of the things I admire most about RPW participants is when they are able to speak the harsh truths of RP with femininity and grace. I think this communication method is overall more effective on women, especially ones who are just curiously checking in.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/19 12:34 PM
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This breaks my heart. Thank you for sharing your experience on a topic that is not discussed enough for how commonly it happens to people.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/19 11:50 PM
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Your example for how women are inferior intellectually because there are more male geniuses makes absolutely no sense. You could make the same argument the other way - men are intellectually inferior because they are more male imbeciles. Additionally, in academic circles IQ is widely regarded as an inaccurate and severely limited measure of intelligence. Also you're automatically equating emotionally-driven to being emotionally inferior. I'd argue that more women are aware of their emotions and …
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/19 09:15 PM
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I do confidently think I can get a younger man. Probably not someone with the same level of resources as him, but I don't really need them as a future doc. It seems callous and heartless to think that way though. I do love my partner in the sense that I care about him deeply and want his happiness. But I'm not sure if I'm "in love" in the passionate, soulmate sense. I'm not sure if chasing "love" is worth it because is it even real? It's such an amorphous concept. But what's tangible is that I h…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 10:24 PM
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Thank you so much for this! I’m always looking for new reading and will definitely check this out.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 02:33 AM
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Very good point. I find it difficult while navigating red pill to find the line of being too picky vs settling. If I were 34 I would think myself to be absolutely blessed to find a stable relationship like this.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 10:21 PM
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Definitely a big concern of mine. He always promises that we will talk about it but there's always an excuse as to why now's not a good time. I mean, we're not at ready-to-get-engaged level yet, we've just started talking about timeline if we were to get married. It's definitely something I'd want to know a lot about before agreeing to marry somebody. Is that connection something that builds over time? Or do you need to have an initial spark from the beginning?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 10:09 PM
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I like how you framed that as something that holds different importance to different people because that makes a lot of sense to me. With some people these conversations come naturally, and with others you have to force it out of them and it's clear they find it exhausting.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 04:03 PM
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No. That's a dealbreaker thing for me, not him being beta or whatever. I'm going to be a doctor so I have literally no choice in having to relocate to wherever I match for residency (unless I drop my whole career) and he gets it because he's a doctor too.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 04:01 PM
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I've started to resign to the fact that most men aren't able to validate a woman's feelings in the same way her girlfriends can. But your comment does make me consider that maybe I should place more importance in this aspect. I've kind of grown used to treating my own feelings as silly - I do have a lot of them, and they often are silly. But potentially this is what is contributing to that gut feeling I'm getting. I will see if I can talk to my partner about it. We've discussed it before and he'…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 02:44 PM
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He checks all the boxes, practically. I want kids, a house, and a dog. He is wealthy and wants to provide those things for us, and basically money would be no issue ever. He's willing to follow me if my career requires it. We're aligned in how we like to spend our time (both homebodies). It's truly all perfect and a dream come true which makes me very frustrated with myself that my heart just doesn't really feel in it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 02:39 PM
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Masculine energy can be very effective in the workplace. It's just important to put it away in your personal life. While many feminine traits can be very helpful in a work setting (cooperation, emotional intelligence), we live in environment where femininity can be looked down upon or taken advantage of in a professional setting. RPW is about sexual/relationship strategy, not life strategy. I've had much more success in my career when channeling masculine traits. Just don't be one of those bitch…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/19 04:53 PM
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Yeah, I think it's totally reasonable to expect a husband/life partner to treat her life threatening food allergies with more consideration. "Taking responsibility" for your food allergies applies to social situations, friends, etc. Also more personal decision type things like veganism or "gluten free" as a fad. OP has a serious medical condition that her husband is consistently treating as unimportant, and not fulfilling his role as protector. If he is so flippant about her allergies, what if o…
/r/RedPillWives30/06/19 12:10 PM
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Finally, a sane response in this thread. I know RP is a subculture but the advice being given to this young girl is SO far removed from what I've actually observed in society. It's clear that RP men value virginity, but RP =/= high value. Out in the real world outside of religious circles, sleeping around is a negative but pure virginity isn't the end all be all. And for many regular dudes who would make wonderful loving husbands, waiting for marriage would be a deal breaker as sexual compatibil…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/19 12:46 AM
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I mean, you're not a millionaire yet. So you can use this current time to vet for men with a provider mentality and set the relationship into that romantic dynamic. At that point, any extra earnings on your end will be a happy surprise rather than a major deciding factor. In general, don't talk about money. And especially don't say things like "I anticipate my business taking off and becoming a millionaire" because honestly it sounds tacky and it's a masculine way of bragging. I'm in a weird pla…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 12:49 PM
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I just wanted to say that I completely agree with all the things you said about feeling disgust over the immoral sexual hedonism normalized by men, and it's one of the facets of red pill I just can't tolerate. We can't justify all our choices with evolutionary biology - if so, what separates us from monkeys? Humans thrived because men were able to put aside their base desires to build and support society. I think the things your husband is saying is incredibly disrespectful to you, even more so …
/r/RedPillWives07/06/19 09:24 PM
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I disagree with the other commenter. I think that's the age range where they are still just playing around, and have gotten really good at playing. Where meanwhile, you're 18 and probably don't know the tricks yet. I see marriages that mostly fall into 2 categories: 1) high school/college sweethearts, 2) the guy who got his heart broken by his first love, sleeps around with a guarded heart through his 20s, and finally settles down in his 30s. Since you're so young, I would recommend being the "f…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 06:31 PM
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This is all spot on. I got played by a RP guy when I was younger...later learned about RP and realized he followed everything to a tee and it all worked to a tee. He once mentioned "listening to self improvement podcasts" and reinventing himself and now I realize that was definitely him becoming RP. If you dug a little deeper though, this guy was so broken. After a while he let down his guard and a lot came out when he was drunk. MASSIVE insecurities buried deep under his lure of confidence. Str…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 06:19 PM
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25-30 is "ideal" but 30-35 is "still fine." Obviously women here who are early 20s are still going to be aiming for "ideal" but that doesn't mean there's reason to panic if you miss that window. Pregnancies will certainly be harder on your body at 35 than 25 - think weight gain, labor difficulty, fatigue, recovery time. But differences in the long term health of you or the baby are rather insignificant. And there are also significant positives to giving birth later (financial, mental stability, …
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 06:09 PM
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Financially though there's also the factor of how taking extended time off from work affects your ability to reenter the workplace. When the kids get older, you're gonna want that extra income for college savings, retirement, etc. Nowadays that often can't be done on one income.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 04:35 PM
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I agree with this and just want to add on that it doesn't necessarily need to be women who do it, but society needs to place more value the supportive roles necessary to nurture a family and community in general. I do think that outlier men can be suited for this role as well and should not be mocked for it, even though on average it is more a feminine proclivity. But more acceptance of stay at home dads would be a great solution for the neglected children of career oriented women. With automati…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 04:30 PM
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Uh I'm not sure how that's what you got from my comment, as I said nothing about how women should behave. I thought it was a given that women have a lot to benefit from marriage, especially early on. Men don't early on, so it's not as clear. But the payoffs come later. I'd also argue that the victims of toxic masculinity are the men committing suicide or going off to fight in wars as teenagers. I'm not very feminist though, so maybe my interpretation of toxic masculinity is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 03:15 PM
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That's a heartbreaking story and one I see far too often. This is an example of how I would define toxic masculinity - as in, the man is suffering due to an imperative to be masculine. In this case (and MANY others), it's being perpetuated by the woman. I guess you could also call it toxic femininity because she is taking the feminine role too far. And she is being incredibly hypocritical to add to that. There's a huge fallacy to women who only believe in toxic masculinity when it's toxic to the…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 03:11 PM
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Just because they "shouldn't" doesn't mean they won't feel ashamed though. I don't think any amount of feminist messaging we receive can change the fact that we generally grew up as little girls wanting to be princesses and finding our prince charming. It's distressing when our reality shifts so far from that expectation, but we simultaneously receive all these messages that that's perfectly okay. We feel ashamed and unfulfilled and don't know why, because we're supposed to feel liberated and em…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 02:06 PM
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Spot on. One of my annoyances about TRP is how much they hate on hypergamous women when it's such a natural inclination, and when TRP is supposedly amoral. But then you get trashed on for saying you want a wealthy, smart, capable man. My guess is that it triggers insecurities and elicits an emotional response, especially for lower value men. But it's the same concept as men desiring youth and beauty, and unattractive women getting offended by those desires. I mean it's shitty to monkey branch if…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 01:51 PM
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I'm a pretty traditional woman leaning RP. I literally don't care about how sluts act though, unless they're cheating or homewrecking. I care more about sluts pushing a narrative of "being slutty is empowering for women" in order to soothe their internal guilt, because I feel like these messages hurt young girls. I believe that casual sex is emotionally harmful for most women, but now it's "cool" to be slutty so no one will admit it. But I don't fear that they're converting men or whatever, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 01:45 PM
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Sometimes I feel like the people ragging on single mothers are the same ones that want to have casual sex with a bunch of women to exercise their evolutionary programming or whatever. We can either have a degenerate society where people are fickle and single mothers are common, or a puritanical society where women don't have kids out of wedlock because sex is saved for marriage/serious relationships. Or of course something in between which I believe would be the best option. But like, you can't …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 01:35 PM
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It's kind of just an annoying switch of topic and gets people on the defensive. It's like when conversations about women getting raped always end up in "MEN GET RAPED TOO!" That's true and all, and a huge issue, but not the topic I'm trying to talk about right now, and you're giving the impression that men getting raped means that women getting raped is less bad. It's all bad. They are separate issues though. I also think that "toxic femininity" has been widely addressed for a while, just not gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 01:24 PM
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Short term thinking. Yeah you can get laid easily, and biology says men love getting laid by multiple women, blah blah blah. We're not monkeys anymore though. Those toxic traits will not get you a quality long-term romantic partner and a healthy relationship. Women select very differently for casual sex vs long term partnership. Might not matter to you when you're 20 or 30, but certainly matters to the largest demographic of suicide victims - single middle aged men. When you're old, your sex dri…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 01:14 PM
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I think "toxic masculinity" is the dumbest term. All it does is alienate men and it implies "masculinity IS toxic" rather than "toxicity arises from misapplication of masculine traits." And extremist feminists also misinterpret the term and run with it since they hate men, making it all the less credible. I think if feminists did a good job of communicating what is meant by "toxic masculinity," many more men would be accepting of it. IMO, it is way more harmful to men than to women. To me, it me…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/19 01:05 PM
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That's awesome! How did you introduce this goal without coming off as critical or insensitive?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/19 12:43 PM
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I love the idea of cooking for a man ("keep his stomach full and his balls empty" lol) but my boyfriend is an amazing cook himself and really into cooking, so I don't want to act like I'm competing. I always let him lead in the kitchen and just make the salad or whatever. But sometimes I wonder if I'm missing out on a core component of femininity. Plus, I'm anxious about cooking for him because while I'm alright, he's definitely the better cook. Plus, for myself I mainly make healthy food which …
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/19 05:15 PM
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My boyfriend is also wealthy. The best part about it is not the money itself, but that he has the freedom to retire whenever, work on his passions, rest, etc. I'm not really about living a luxury lifestyle or anything. I'm much more grateful for his time and attention, which he's able to give me because he's well off and not a workaholic. And of course, I love him for him. It's truly the best scenario and I feel very lucky.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/19 01:38 AM
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Lol @ everyone downvoting you because you bagged a rich guy. When hot girl/rich guy is probably the most natural "red pill" thing out there. Some insecurity/jealousy manifesting in here hmmm? To respond to your actual comment, the whole domestic housewife thing is more of a modern construct even though people portray it as "going back to the good old traditional days when marriage worked." Women being at home was a necessity before we had laundry machines and dishwashers. They had lots of labor …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/19 05:29 PM
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This is weirdly accusatory. But yes, performing the upkeep of a healthy relationship is one of my highest priorities in life.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/19 05:16 PM
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I'm sorry you had to deal with that. It's just so unfair when something out of your control leaves emotional scars that ends up bleeding into the quality of your relationships so many years later. I have mommy issues for sure. I actually never realized it until my partner pointed it out to me. Different from your usual overbearing mother issues though. She was generally neglectful and unemotional towards me. I was an accident and she made that clear, so I don't remember a time in my life when I …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/19 01:48 AM
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Well I get up at 5am for work so even on the weekends when I'm over I still naturally wake up quite early without an alarm haha, and just slip out of bed. Sorry, probably not helpful, but I'm sure you could do all those things without necessarily waking up early. It's more about noticing what he likes/appreciates. My guy likes having a comfy and streamlined morning as he's usually crankiest then.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 10:36 PM
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Hmm some little things I can think of. At the beginning I would observe his morning routine and just other little quirks of his. Now whenever I'm over, he wakes up to a glass of orange juice on his bedstand, clean kitchen, and coffee ready. No chit chat until he's awake and ready. I tidy around the house (without snooping) whenever I can. And play it off as just the normal thing to do instead of expecting some grand appreciation. Back scratches after sex. At night he gets foot rubs while we watc…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/19 09:47 PM
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Whenever I'm nervous about wearing something new I always give it a few trial runs to the grocery store. Then you can determine if you just needed to get used to it, or if it's truly not your style. Also feminine doesn't have to mean over-the-top ruffles and pink. A flattering fit that shows off your curves is the best thing to aim for.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 09:37 PM
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An unhealthy parenting style is something that gets ingrained in the deepest parts of you and follows you for life unless you actively take MAJOR steps to deal with it. Like loads of therapy and brutal honesty with yourself. Unfortunately as an outsider you have no control over whether he chooses to embark on this journey, and he doesn't seem keen to even consider there's a problem. I know how terrible it must feel, but you must consider that due to the psychological nature of things, the chance…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/19 09:34 PM
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Yeah I think that's a much better word. I read OPs post feeling in agreement that there's a certain conviction in men that is to be admired. But I don't feel like "anger" is a desirable emotion in a man, because most of the time I see it as a way to express a different emotion that they don't have the maturity to identify and deal with appropriately. Usually a way to mask insecurity/embarrassment.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 05:45 PM
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If you're going to base your concept of feminist ideology around how you see it portrayed in extremist SJW propaganda, then you'll always win. But you're not really making a point. You're just demonizing the other side so that you can easily disagree with it. There are tons of cogent arguments in this thread about why there is a truth behind the argument that society at large does not handle rape in a just way, and normalizes a culture that puts more women, children, and even men at risk for rap…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 02:30 PM
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How about lets just show that sex worker some sympathy for the fact that she just went through something very traumatizing and leave it at that. I'm sure she knows she put herself at greater risk and doesn't need us to sit on our high horses and inform her so that we can reinforce all the guilt and shame that she probably already feels. Then we can pat ourselves on the back for being edgy and helping rape victims by being so brutally honest. Like jeez, I thought this sub was about culturing femi…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 02:19 PM
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I just don't get why people care so much to prove this whole "rape culture doesn't exist" thing. What does it accomplish besides make women who have been raped feel guilty and ashamed ON TOP of the trauma of being raped? Women are already taught to make safe choices. We're given pepper spray as Christmas gifts. Things can get pretty ridiculous in extreme online feminist circles, but I've never seen a real life woman suggest that dissolving rape culture means that women should stop making safe ch…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 02:00 PM
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Thank you! I was thinking the same thing but I'm glad to see dissent in the comments. I come to RPW to feel less isolated in my beliefs about relationships, but stuff like this just shocks me. I wish we could just intelligently disagree with certain aspects of modern feminism rather than going all manosphere/I'm-not-like-other-girls.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 01:49 PM
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I don't care at all what kind of anger goes on in a separate sub that's clearly a male space. I get annoyed when that anger leaks into here.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 11:26 AM
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An ideal sub for me would be more so dedicated for women helping each other become the best versions of themselves and quality wife material, who uphold family values, etc. I'm here because it's the closest thing I can find, though I prefer to distance myself from manosphere type communities. It's not that I disagree with the core realities, it's just that I feel it attracts men who have been badly burned and therefore have a lot of bitterness towards women. And the toxicity of that can be tirin…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 11:16 AM
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"Don't you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn't marry a girl just because she's pretty, but my goodness, doesn't it help?" -Marilyn Monroe It's just the reality of how things are. Men will always be initially attracted to you over superficiality, in the same way that women get attracted to men. It's not that big of a deal unless you make it one. Love isn't like it is in the movies - it grows over time, and it grows where you nurture it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 07:52 PM
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Totally true. I think women nowadays are sold a lie that having a career is sooooo great and fulfilling and that's what every empowered woman should do! Don't sacrifice your precious career for a man! Working is HARD! I've put so goddamn much into my career only to realize I probably would have been happier going down the housewife route. I don't envy men for having so much pressure to perform and provide.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 07:47 PM
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I don't really buy that. Both genders have unique challenges that the other does not understand the gravity of. Yes we get affirmative action but we also face workplace challenges that men generally don't. Yes we get sex more easily, but we also get sexually harassed and assaulted vastly more often. And I acknowledge that men have a number of gendered issues that I won't understand the nuance of. So I think there's really no point in trying to argue who has it worse. Fact is, life is hard for mo…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 07:30 PM
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It's kind of sad to live that way, isn't it? Like I get it, tons of women are horrible, and LTRs can be bad for a number of reasons. But that doesn't mean the best choice for most men is to just give up on lifelong love and go around sleeping around and fulfilling their "evolutionary" role forever. I don't think the poster meant RPW specifically are better, but meant to convey that a man with a good wife and a happy marriage will probably be happier in the long run. Tons of data out there showin…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 07:02 PM
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I didn't know there was a level of censorship going on in this sub. I personally hate TRP and love RPW. I don't really think they should be lumped under the same universe, because outside of the whole accept-reality aspect, the goals of each seem worlds apart.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 06:17 PM
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Everything you said resonates with me so well. I'm so upset with all the people who totally dismissed my legitimate and SMART worries about balancing family life and career just because I was young. It's almost as if suggesting that a young woman consider her biological clock/whether she desires a family early on is some sort of attack against feminism, and would cause all of us to quit our jobs and become oppressed housewives or whatever. And yeah male expectations have shifted too. Nowadays it…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 10:03 PM
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I think a lot of things get passed off as feminism. Social expectations held by women who call themselves feminist are not necessarily feminism. I feel like there's a huge tendency to use feminism as an excuse for bad behavior, and that's why it has such a bad rap. And I'm quite opposed to third wave feminist messaging about "empowering" ourselves through hypersexuality. But it's dangerous to denounce the whole movement because outside of the bullshit it does such important legitimate things too…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 09:52 PM
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I dunno, I feel like no matter how you spin it, it's still harder to be a working mother unless you're wealthy. At least in today's society, women still take on most of the housework and childcare despite also working. You have to be separated from your babies all day. And it's not like small talk with coworkers is the pinnacle of social fulfillment. Most working mothers are in a situation where they don't really have a choice otherwise. Whereas SAHM are probably financially capable of doing fun…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 01:01 PM
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Will he only drive you to the doctor when you're unresponsive? This is the emotional equivalent. This is such a great analogy and hits really close to home with previous experiences I've had.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 07:30 PM
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