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| 2 | Recent text from ex-wifeA simple resolution - block her number or change your number. She will not stop so remove the choice from her consideration. There is no stranger behavior only manipulative. She is not longer a part of your life do your best to keep it that way. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Talking to ex after divorceNo it is not wrong. The marriage is over as is any obligation to her. She had a habit of being negative - that isn't going to change. You can attempt to lay down a boundary or you can simply ghost her and the boundary is laid regardless. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/25 08:42 AM |
| 18 | Why did she become so EVIL?She has always been the way she is now. She merely chose now to drop the act. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 08:04 PM |
| 9 | Wife Threatens Divorce if I Don’t Delete Pics of Scratches/ClawingYou delete those and any false allegations made by her will land on you hard. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/25 10:26 AM |
| 7 | Confused as hellYou aren't kissing her ass. That is now your replacement's job. You didn't act bothered by your replacement that is also a problem for her. Don't be confused she will continue to try to provoke a reaction from you anyway she can. Unfortunately because you have a child together you will have to endure this behavior for many, many years to come. Do your best not to respond. Any reaction is fuel for her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/02/25 01:04 PM |
| 6 | It’s final….So she is returning back to the state and city you live in. Just for the hell of it? She is up to something be on your guard. Since the situation is final / divorce, if you have no children go no contact if you have not already. Her offer of friendship is merely an opportunity for her to attempt to weasel her way back into your life for when she needs something. You have no need of a friend that would so callously betray you as they did while married to you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/25 01:23 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys get along with your ex’s boyfriend/husband? Especially if you have kids, how has that been?I see my replacement as the man that gave me a second chance. I had the opportunity to start over with a better woman while he was left to suffer in my place. I have no doubt he thought he was saving my ex wife from me. The reality is the only person he actually saved was me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/25 01:16 PM |
| 1 | What made you cut ties with your children from your first marriage?The choice was made for me. Ex made false allegations to gain custody. My lawyer advised that family court does not enforce a fathers right to visitation. She had already been playing games. With some long hard thinking I realized there would be nothing but conflict and I would not likely see the child anyway as she held all the power. Also as another poster has said it takes money and resources to fight. Money and resources I did not have as a young man fresh out of university struggling to fin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/25 01:17 PM |
| 17 | Falling for the same old trapIt is all a game. When they put divorce on the table push it through to completion. Game over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/01/25 01:07 PM |
| 6 | When your ex just can’t take accountability…venting and curious how you all deal with it!Covert narcissism. How to deal with it? Offer no reaction to anything she does. Love, hate, conflict are all good fuel/supply. She was disrespectful because she is no longer in control. As you said, you see right through the bs and games she's playing. Such people turn hostile when you see who they really are. That is why she attacked you. Leverage/possible exposure. Next meeting take the time to discretely video / document her reactions and behavior on your phone. Get all her anger and disrespe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/25 10:50 AM |
| 3 | Almost there… regrets?Then depend on the instinct of those who have gone before you and whom you have asked for advice. There is nothing shocking or new or unknown in what you have shared to those of us who have gone before you and offered you an answer. She is a manipulator and must possess some skill to have you second guessing yourself. That is reason enough to proceed and complete what she started. If you want to waste time giving her a second chance do it after the divorce completes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 01:17 PM |
| 1 | Almost there… regrets?She gets nothing now other than she no longer has any control. What will change if you choose not to go through with the divorce? Nothing. Complete the divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 01:13 PM |
| 5 | KARMA! Is it real?All choices have consequences. Poor choices have consequence. Take solace in this. Life is not fair and the universe does not care about balancing interpersonal scales. Don't waste your time on what comes back to get her and what is fair. Worry about your future and rebuilding. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 01:06 PM |
| 4 | *UPDATE* Did you guys give your STBXW the courtesy of letting her know you were dating again?It is a game. Nothing changes in the long run. If she gets you back she will not want you and step out again. As soon as someone else wants you she will want you back. She will always be hurting as she is broken. You cannot fix her. You can decide is she will self destruct on her own or if you will allow her to drag you down with her. Alternatively for her to rise someone has to fall and that will be you - "she told my family and others that I beat her" Get out now while you can. Cut contact wit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/25 01:02 PM |
| 3 | Another cut to the old heartShe will always betray you. Not sure what more you need to know. Stop doing things for her and let her stand on her own or fail. While you may be committed to her she does not reciprocate and is committed only to her own selfish needs and desires. Start severing ties financial and legal. Stop paying for the car and F her good finance rate. Restrict communications with her. Txt or email only and topics - divorce and childcare. Anything else gets no response. No voice calls unless it is an emergen… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/24 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Stbx wife told me our child was attacked by her bf's dog while she was at his houseAssess the situation directly. Take photos if it is all true and Yes get CPS involved. You aren't there to protect your kids and obviously she couldn't give a shit otherwise this incident wouldn't have happened. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/24 03:49 PM |
| 4 | Did you guys give your STBXW the courtesy of letting her know you were dating again?Do what is in your best interest. Keep quiet about your dating because frankly it is not any of her business. Whether you tell her or she hears it through the grapevine the reaction will be the same she will try to make your life hard either way. Where cheaters are concerned there is only a one way street - they can do whatever they like, YOU cannot. The only courtesy you owe her is the same she gave to you - nothing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/24 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Wanting to get a divorceSpeak with a lawyer. Figure out who leaves and who stays in the home. You also want to look into the possibility of you being able to leave the home without it being considered abandonment by the court. Peace of mind will not be had if your remain under the same roof and in many cases the woman does not want to leave the home. False allegations and all sorts of other mental gymnastic and games will likely be played to change the balance of power in her favor. Another reason for you to consider a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/24 03:33 PM |
| 18 | She wanted this…why is she increasingly so hateful?Why is she increasingly hateful? Answer because she is broken. She made her choices but it doesn't sound like you chased after her or tried to "save" her. That is part of the resentment. The other component is you have not been destroyed by the chaos she has brought. For her to rise you must fall. Instead you have moved on. The long story short is she will never be happy so don't waste more time thinking about it. She made her choices. Minimize contact with her as much as possible and focus on t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/24 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Anyone ever filed and had second thoughts?Separation, space, taking a break typically means she is fucking someone else or wants to. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Sad"Why the fuck even marry me if it’s this goddamn easy for her." One man to pay the bills and maintain the home (you), the other man to lay the pipe. She expects she can have it both ways in her delusional world. Go not contact. Research narcissistic behavior, covert narcissist. Start the process for divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 11:42 PM |
| 2 | AmazedWhatever her intentions they will not benefit you. Do no meet with her this weekend per her request. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/24 11:38 PM |
| 8 | What was your final straw?Infidelity. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 11:37 AM |
| 5 | Songs my stbx wife has been listening toshe left to find herself/happiness = she wants to have sex with other men. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 11:36 AM |
| 8 | Woman as a friendShe seems pretty unstable; 39 years old and drinks like she’s 21. Do you really need to ask if you should just leave her alone? Let this woman go unless you require more chaos and suffering in your personal life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 12:28 PM |
| 22 | What are some of the most important lessons you've learned from your divorce that you wish you could share with younger men facing similar situations?Don't be too quick to commit. Don't put her on a pedestal. Walk away at the first sign of disinterest, disrespect or betrayal. Don't depend on friends or anyone else for that matter to be there for you. Don't be afraid to be alone. Find a new purpose. Be kind to yourself as you will find few others will be. Survive each day as it comes in the initial aftermath as you rebuild your life. Exercise. Weight training and running were my focus. Swimming, hiking, biking, boxing, whatever else comes to m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 08:36 PM |
| 1 | STBXW hits the nuclear button...Fighting dirty is not only personal but seems to be institutionalized as many are encouraged by others or even their counsel to make false allegations to get a legal advantage. Fight with everything you have your reputation is priceless. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 05:01 AM |
| 3 | Trying to Move On - The Aftermath of a Difficult YearCongratulations for surviving such an experience with such a woman. Your ex was more disturbed than most to have taken her own life. Such individuals typically have strong survival instincts. They all suffer collapse at some point. Hers was catastrophic. My own ex narcissist wife continues as far as I know. Regardless, survive each day one at a time. It does get better with time. Continue to focus on yourself and your hobbies. As far as companionship you may wish to suspend efforts for the prese… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Took group’s advice and escalated all the wayThis is exactly how the matter should be handled. Through your attorney. You gave her ample opportunity to play nice. Now you have dropped the hammer on her. Fuck around and find out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 04:48 AM |
| 9 | After 24 years it’s over.She found another man. That is why she no longer loves you and wants a divorce. By all means give her one. Keep her off the pedestal. Furthermore do not leave anywhere she wants you to. If she wants a room to herself she can move out of the master room. Her dreams are her problems. She expects to be strong and independent in name only, relying on you to make it happen. Do all in your power to freeze her out of your life going forward. That means you do not have any discussion with her save for o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 04:42 AM |
| 5 | Cheating, infidelity, deceit.There is plenty of time for exposure after the divorce is finalized. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/07/24 01:03 PM |
| 7 | Shift in thoughts about dating post divorce?It is unwise to ignore red flags. Trust your judgement. Pull the plug and part ways on good terms. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/24 10:44 PM |
| 6 | Using email to sustain the disrespectShe is aware but if this is the only avenue she has left her she will still attempt to get what she needs from you, an emotional response. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/24 12:18 PM |
| 0 | How long did it take your ex wife to move on after you initiated divorce?You aren't very good at projection or manipulation. Try again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 01:27 PM |
| 0 | How long did it take your ex wife to move on after you initiated divorce?You aren't very good at projection. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 01:13 PM |
| 1 | How long did it take your ex wife to move on after you initiated divorce?Since you are the one obsessing over them I am confident you can answer your own question as most fools can. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/24 01:07 PM |
| 15 | Just a thought… It’s shocking how Promiscuous women become during/after the divorce proceedings… in almost all cases though, I’ve seen it end badly for them. Anyone else notice this pattern?Promiscuous women aren't limited by irreconcilable differences. Promiscuity is being promoted and few want to be left behind. Don't concern yourself with disasters that are not yours. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/24 09:33 AM |
| 2 | Grass was greenYou have a very rosy view of the world. It is not a fair place and it is filled with those that happily misrepresent themselves to get what they want. It is a nice sentiment what you wish for and how you want things to be. No offense intended but you really need to harden the fuck up or your ex will eat you alive in the divorce. The person you fell in love with never existed. That was a persona she created to ensnare you. You sound codependent. Perhaps some therapy can set you on the correct pat… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 07:33 PM |
| 4 | My wife wanted a divorceShe wants a servant and a wallet while she cavorts with other men until she finds your replacement. Speak with a lawyer to see what your options are. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 07:26 PM |
| 6 | AITA? Or rather, the 'creepy stalker'Sounds like you need to cut both your former wife and your daughters out of your life. They just don't want you snooping around to find out what your wife has really been up to. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 07:25 PM |
| 4 | Co-parenting while seperated (divorce coming)She is playing games. Nothing more. Push and pull. You move away and she wants to pull you back in. You move close and she pushes you away. File for divorce. Restrict communications and be indifferent to her. It is all about control and right now she is in control. You are her safety net while she finds your replacement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 07:23 PM |
| 3 | How long did it take your ex wife to move on after you initiated divorce?One name or descriptor is as good as the next. Then end result is the same. Most are checked out before their husbands and make the jump when the replacement has committed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 05:54 PM |
| 1 | When did you call it quits?When I figured out the true reason she wanted us to separate - another man. My revelation came two months into the separation. I blindsided her with divorce shortly thereafter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 07:53 AM |
| 1 | How old were you when you get divorced?Began divorce at 24, was finally finished after I turned 26. Mandatory 1 year separation followed by her generating delays for the other 1.5 years | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 07:46 AM |
| 24 | What did you learn the hard way from your marriage and divorce experience?Don't be too quick to commit. Don't put her on a pedestal. Walk away at the first sign of disinterest, disrespect or betrayal. Don't depend on friends or anyone else for that matter to be there for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 07:40 AM |
| 15 | How long did it take your ex wife to move on after you initiated divorce?Many women move on before divorce. They do not leave without a safety net in place. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 07:38 AM |
| 11 | Struggling with STBXW’s glow-upIndifference. She wants you to be jealous and at a low point. Know that she does this on purpose and that the less you show her that you care the more it will bother her. Turn the tables on her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 07:47 PM |
| 4 | My ex mother in law called me 5 years laterThe winning team is your MIL and her daughter. You are designated to be the clean up man where your MIL is concerned. Once any utility has been had from you, it's back to the legion of the wretched you go, the villain once more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 11:30 AM |
| 2 | Nothing in this life is sacredNothing is sacred. Protect yourself. Two rules every man learns in divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 09:27 AM |
| 3 | Divorce Almost FinalLost my first born due to my ex wife and her game place. Only months old when we separated and divorced so they would have no memory of me. Now they are late 20s and want no contact. Grieve your loss and move on. Get through each day you will get there. I ended up remarrying and having more children. As for your girlfriend leaving her behind was the correct choice. Those that have not experienced what you have will never understand. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 09:25 AM |
| 10 | Why does she keep asking me to hang out with her and the kids?She has no longer has any means to actively control you or who you interact with now that she has you out of the house and divorced. That is what this is about. Control. Your children are the only vehicle she has left to attempt to exercise control over you. If you don't want to spend time around her then don't. People like your ex will always play games till the day they die. Restrict communications with your ex. No voice calls save for an emergency with one of the kids. Txt or email of all oth… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 09:17 AM |
| 10 | Talk Me Out Of It BoysYou recognize the path to ruination and you are still contemplating walking it. No one can help you. Good luck anyway you will need it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 09:08 AM |
| 8 | My ex mother in law called me 5 years laterEvery husband and/or boyfriend is a wretched thing after the wayward wife gets tired of them. Somebody has to be the villain and it certainly can't be her. Your former MIL doesn't respect you. How do you figure she does if she can say horrible things about you while you are divorcing and now is singing your praises. It isn't respect that's motivating her reevaluated opinion of you. She wants something from you. You should be who you want to be irrespective of any other opinion. Others will alway… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/24 08:57 AM |
| 3 | Ex wife play mind gamesYou have the long view and it will pay dividends. Save yourself and the children otherwise she will drag down whomever she can with her when she falls. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 07:09 PM |
| 12 | Divorcing after 3 months of marriage after finding out that she & her mother want to baby-trap meLet her know nothing. Make your preparations and departure in secret. Do not give any advantage to those who would use you and destroy you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 06:56 PM |
| 22 | Wife happiness above kids stability and happiness. Your thoughts….You don't recognize her anymore. Incorrect. You are seeing her clearly for the first time. This is who she always has been. She recently stopped pretending/acting for your benefit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Did it feel like your S.O. "flipped a switch"?As best you can. Restrict topics of communication and the means of communication. Voice calls only if it is an emergency with one of the kids. No other exceptions. If she calls for any other reason end the call, don't waste your time with her excuses and explanations just drop the call if she refuses. Text or Email: childcare, divorce (if still ongoing), nothing else gets a reply. use a 3rd party to exchange the children. if you don't have that option keep her out of your home and stay out of he… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 06:27 PM |
| 4 | Ex wife play mind gamesComplete control and power over your emotions. Love, jealousy, hate, anger are all good fuel. You can't save her or even help her. Reason doesn't work with people like her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 06:22 PM |
| 14 | Ex wife play mind gamesShiny new toy/guy doesn't equal fulfillment. There are components missing: you aren't destroyed by her replacing you, you aren't chasing her, fighting for her. In short you aren't providing the fuel she needs. Yes it is a constant escalation every time things get quiet. Quiet = withdrawal, pain, suffering. This is an addict's life she is living the drug is your emotional reactions to her behavior. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 11:39 AM |
| 17 | Ex wife play mind gamesThe mind games will never stop. The less you react the more she will. Any emotional reaction is fuel for her. Your 20 stern minutes gave her what she needed, your attention. What she has done recently is meant to escalate and provoke you further. Yeah back to parallel parenting. Why so many mind games? That's easy it is her way to attempt to assert control over the situation and you. It is also meant to prevent you from moving on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 08:53 AM |
| 29 | Did it feel like your S.O. "flipped a switch"?There is no switch. There is no different person. She dropped the mask/stopped the act. The person you are dealing with presently is the real one. Always has been. She did not forget what you were fighting for or anything else. She became bored, found a shiny new toy to chase, etc. How to move on? Move on. You don't have much of a choice. Recommended that you go no contact. The person you came to adore doesn't exist. That was a persona created to ensnare you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 08:48 AM |
| 5 | Further elaboration, please!The statement is correct. They are gone and serve no further useful purpose in your life unless you share a child/children. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/07/24 02:33 PM |
| 7 | Strategizing a DivorceAnytime. Stick it to her and move on to a better life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 01:20 AM |
| 9 | Strategizing a DivorcePI is expensive but is worth the money as your state is at fault. What is Considered Adultery in SC and How Can It Impact My Divorce Case? (mtllawfirm.com) | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 12:50 AM |
| 7 | What is one line or quote you can share to help fellow divorced men?You didn't lose a wife just a lot of dead weight. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 12:45 AM |
| 6 | Happened to Me TooYes they will take you for everything they can. The entitlement is off the scale. Now that you know what you know offer nothing further. No contact. All communications through your lawyer only. She will attempt to reach out to you at some point. Do not respond. If you have no need to communicate with her consider changing your cell number if it will not inconvenience you too much. There is much peace of mind knowing that she will have no easy means to contact you. For what little consolation it … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Going through a divorce, ex hasn't talked to me at all in the last 30 days, although I hear that is more common. It's made everything harder but Im working thru it.The person you thought you married has never existed. So yes, blindsided. At some point she will attempt to reach out. Do not respond or acknowledge. Regardless of how dire she paints the situation. Radio silence. Day to day has been hard. Survive each day. Take the time to sort through whatever mess she has made for you with her departure. In the chaos you may find something you can turn to your advantage. People like your wife make many mistakes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/24 12:38 AM |
| 4 | Strategy to mitigate the AnxietyNo trouble. I walked a similar path many years ago. It will be you, not your ex that decides ultimately if you succeed. Regardless of what she attempts further, weather the storm and take the time as I suggested to sort through whatever difficulty she sends your way. I expect you will find one or more threads to pull that will send disaster back her way. Your rebuilding process is something you should guard as a secret. Most people are not as supportive as you might assume. As far as opinions go… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 06:33 PM |
| 3 | Strategy to mitigate the AnxietySmall steps. Do not critically judge your progress and do not expect fast progress. This will initially be a grind much like your divorce experience. Those that grind and endure succeed. Remember, one day at a time and whatever challenges are there for you to deal with that day. The future is far away and this early in your experience it should be a vague consideration. Motivation. Anger, hate each is useful in limited duration. The primary motivation should be your survival, your betterment. I … | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 06:00 PM |
| 3 | What am I entitled to in a cooperative divorce?If you have no children and the terms are acceptable to you go for it. It wouldn't hurt to consult with a lawyer simply to verify if her terms are reasonable. Has she made clear to you why she is leaving the relationship? New romances tend to fall apart rather quickly once the divorce is finalized or close to finalized. With the end of the new romance also goes the "generous" settlement offered as the reason and desire to leave you is gone. If this is indeed the reason for her wanting to end you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 05:50 PM |
| 6 | Strategy to mitigate the AnxietySurvive each day as it comes. Most important as the coming battle will be long and bitter as you have already discovered. Take the time to go through all the trouble she has caused for you to deal with. People like your wife are sloppy. That means sooner or later you will discover a thread that you can pull on to bring the situation back to favoring yourself. Recognize that you can only control the choices you make and how you react. You already know she is out to destroy you so this should be m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 05:39 PM |
| 3 | Reasons for separating leading to the gif D.Living apart is a wise choice. You have sanctuary. I have little doubt there is always need for help from her end. All of a sudden though I expect you will have become too busy to help, assuming you haven't already. You can certainly state the new terms of your association where you offer nothing but co parenting. You know her best and how she will react so whether you choose to state her new downgraded status to her clearly I leave up to you. Sometime it is best to be ambiguous and let them fig… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Reasons for separating leading to the gif D.Precisely this. As her roommate you owe her nothing. All considerations and support aside from childcare, are voided. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 04:45 PM |
| 4 | Sins of AdmissionThe sooner you are rid of her the better. Harsh truth is she may have not had sex with you on the regular but likely she was having it with others. Especially on a "secret" vacation that she purchased new clothes for. What is done is done. Jettison the dead weight and rebuild. If she is unaware that you plan to divorce keep it that way for now. Contingencies and precautions. Speak with your lawyer and see if there are consequences for you leaving the residence. A woman such as your wife will not… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 04:14 PM |
| 2 | Reasons for separating leading to the gif D.So many damaged individuals choose to use sex as a tool for control. Your wife is one of these. How can she think tossing mercy sex was sufficient? Answer there was no thinking, she doesn't care enough to have done that. You are headed for divorce so fire her properly and withdraw any and all support you offered as a husband. No that does not mean neglecting your children or co parenting in any way. That simply means all the comforts you afforded her as far as time, attention and emotional suppo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 04:07 PM |
| 5 | Just discovered long affair while on vacationPretend to consider reconciliation while you make any preparations regardless what you decide to do. You will need time to gather yourself. Avoid having sex with her. Get yourself tested for any STDs. Best to also verify your daughter is yours as other have already suggested. It may already be too late as there is typically a window depending on your jurisdiction. Still better to know definitively. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 08:59 AM |
| 9 | Going through a divorce, ex hasn't talked to me at all in the last 30 days, although I hear that is more common. It's made everything harder but Im working thru it.Her silence should tell you how much she cares about you and the marriage she threw away. If you need to speak with her going forward do so only through lawyers. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/07/24 08:55 AM |
| 3 | I am beginning to view her as she really is.No she never was. The woman the betrayed you and caused hardship is always who she has been. They all drop the act sooner or later, boredom or they find the next best thing. Be glad she is gone and she won't be able to drag you down with her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/24 02:05 PM |
| 6 | Update on life after divorceOh yes there is resentment from her and for exactly the reasons you think. Live your best life while she lives her worst. All is as it should be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/24 02:01 PM |
| 7 | I wanted to believe it wouldn't happen...but you guys prepared me.Her new situation will not last. Worry about you and your daughters. Everything she says is simply a projection or an attempt at manipulation. Disregard and ignore. You don't recognize her. Incorrect. This is the real her you are dealing with. Always has been. She found a shiny new toy so the mask has been dropped off. You are afraid of digging too deep. Your fears are well founded. There is more, much more. Focus on the here and now. Survive each day. You will get through this. When she attempt… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/24 01:57 PM |
| 3 | How helpful should I be around the house?Houses require upkeep. If you the home owner aren't doing the work you are paying someone to. It adds up fast. As do all the other complications of owning a home. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/24 04:54 AM |
| 8 | How helpful should I be around the house?You were fired so not your problem anymore. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/07/24 04:48 AM |
| 2 | Life updatesShe is moving on and you are her back up plan. The safety net in case her new life doesn't work out. She is using you and manipulating you. Likely whomever she is fooling around with will drop her like a rock once the divorce is finalized or close to being finalized. Many will sleep with another man's wife but very few are foolish enough to wife up such a woman. They just leave her behind when they have had enough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/24 08:47 PM |
| 3 | It’s finalDon't look back. "She came to me and told me that she hasn’t been attracted to me in a long time, sexually and appearance wise. Told me that I am gone way too much (I hunt 6 months out of the year, and work a lot). Told me that she needed space for a few days." No finer way to put a knife in a partners heart than to tell them you are no longer attracted to them in any way. Asking for space usually means they want to sleep with someone else. She misses what you used to provide as far as a husband… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/24 08:38 PM |
| 10 | Who initiated the separation/divorce? You or the wife?Ex wife sprung the separation on me. When I learned the reason why, another man, I went no contact and filed for divorce. No regrets on my end I'm glad she's gone and the other sucker wanted my leftovers. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/24 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Stbxw has left a lot of personal items in my houseIn many instances this is done on purpose. She has an excuse to return on multiple occasions. Gather up the remainder of her items so they are ready to be collected by her and consult with your lawyer as to what should be done. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/24 06:15 AM |
| 2 | Just signed the papers.Indifference is a good sign. You know you have healed when you can live your life and take pleasure in the simple things just as you did before you ever married. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/24 05:01 PM |
| 1 | Protecting from false accusations when wife is picking up personal belongings. Camera? Witness? Police?Use your phone to take video. Won't stop so long as you have memory available. There are several wireless security cameras on amazon that offer cloud and local storage on a micro sd card. Witnesses are always good. Police too but you might have to find an off duty officer that is willing and it will be on your dime. Have you already gathered together all her personal items? The reason I ask is that often times a woman will leave behind one or more of her items on purpose as an excuse to come bac… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/06/24 04:58 PM |
| 4 | How do I coexist with my wife while going through a divorce?Separate living spaces. Set her up in a spare room if you have one. Keep a lock on yours. Say and do as little as possible with her. Only topic should be care of the children. Might want to DNA test your kids to be sure they are yours. Should they prove not to be yours, life gets simpler for you and hers harder. Also consider setting up discrete cameras within your home without her knowledge. False allegations of abuse are common and used to tip the balance of power in the favor of the spouse ma… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/24 05:23 PM |
| 6 | Why does she keep asking how I’m doing?Why does she keep asking how your are doing? Because one cannot attempt to effectively manipulate in the absence of information. Also she would like you to think that she actually cares about you. You already know that she doesn't. Why would she care after 4 people and a pregnancy? That's easy she believes that she can come back into your life, that you will take her back. You are a possession to her, not a person, your feelings don't matter. The same can be said for your son. She will continue … | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 07:09 PM |
| 13 | Planning for life after divorce. My perspective."My ex-wife recently decided that its a good idea to tell me that she regrets her decision to divorce and she was not thinking straight and has started intruding in my life." Your wife is a fool. Either she is weak minded to be so easily persuaded by others or she like so many others came to the erroneous conclusion that she could do better with nothing to offer other than a marriage she abandoned. She confessed her regrets to you in an effort to garner sympathy as well as to test the waters. Li… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 07:00 PM |
| 2 | One and a half year marriage ended abruptlyShe is being amicable about everything. Work quickly and when it is all finalized ghost her. This may seem like harsh advice but you will find it prudent when the dust settles. How to keep strong? Survive each day as it comes. Don't look back. You have lost nothing where your partner treated you with dismissive responses, did not allow you to be yourself and unceremoniously discarded you. Is the grass greener on the other side? No. The grass is greener where you care for and water it. Don't be s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 07:30 PM |
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