datingtransformation Archive

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1	Is 'remaining alpha' actually good for a long-term relationship?? Hey, these are powerful questions to ask. I would say that you don't want to go too far down the rabbit-hole of being "alpha." It's a nice correction from the passive, people-pleaser mode that a LOT of guys are when they first get into this. I needed a little alpha I my game when I took my first bootcamp 9 years ago. But being an "alpha" doesn't even really exist. It's PUA marketing: "Be alpha and bang more girls!" I totally get it. It sells. Hell, it worked on me for years and years as I worked…	/r/seduction	07/09/18 02:00 AM
4	"Treat her like your kid sister" - Examples of how to tease a girl - Steal some of these and make them your own Some solid teaching examples here. Good stuff, man! Thanks for sharing. (Ha! Yellow Starbursts.) Teasing is something that so many men are afraid to do, because they don't want to offend her. Girls love having their pigtails pulled, as it were. But let me add one HUGE caveat, gents. You do NOT want to overdo this. Teasing is a powerful tool. But it is NOT attraction. I had to travel the world learning how to succeed with women, because I came from a super low place. I've worked with all the top …	/r/seduction	31/08/18 06:35 PM
1	Don’t Overcomplicate Things. Hey, really solid post, RenGod37. Thanks for this burst of light. You touched on one of those true-isms in dating, in life, in so many arenas: Make things as simple as they need to be. There's an elegance in simplicity, and it gets results. I used to be TERRIBLE with women, so I spent a decade training with the top dating gurus. I learned what to do, and what NOT to do. And I learned the power of the simplicity. One well-known "PUA" taught me some super powerful ninja moves, but he also jammed m…	/r/TheRedPill	31/08/18 06:16 PM
1	College student Nikki Yovino, 19, sentenced to 3 years for falsely claiming sexual encounter was rape WHY CONSENT IS SEXY True, hookups CAN be risky. I'm glad that these two young men were vindicated, and that they can get their lives back. But, as the attorney says in the article, "Many true victims of sexual assault are often disbelieved." This woman's actions are awful for everyone: for these two innocent men, and for women who have legitimate claims of sexual assault. Let's remember that, according to the New York Times, only between 2 and 9 percent of women's sexual-assault claims are false…	/r/TheRedPill	29/08/18 01:36 AM
3	How To Impress Beautiful Women Great stuff, man! The power of being authentic.	/r/seduction	28/08/18 12:28 AM
4	What is it that makes girls message you first, send extra long messages, reply in an instant? A lot of girls seem to be so interested at first but then treat you like hot trash the next day, how to avoid this? Women feel emotions powerfully, and their emotions change like the weather in Ireland -- every 15 minutes. Sunny. Then windy. Then dark and stormy. Sunny again. So quite often, it's absolutely nothing you did... it's just changing weather.	/r/seduction	28/08/18 12:23 AM
3	Love your failures. LOVE this. And big props for the honesty ("I was feeling like a loser...") Before I became a dating coach, I was a national sports journalist. I covered golf. (I know, a very weird career shift.) Jack Nicklaus won 18 major tournaments, as some golf nerds (like me) know. But what few people remember is that he finished second in 19 majors. He "lost" (19) more than he won (18). He failed a LOT. But only by failing was he able to put himself in a position to win. And nobody really talks about or re…	/r/TheRedPill	28/08/18 12:19 AM
1	Three Harsh Truths About Cold Approach Pickup It's really about strength, having a backbone... you can be the nicest guy on the planet, but you have to have boundaries, as a man. Where "nice" guys go wrong is they end up becoming people-pleasers. And becoming a people pleaser will make a woman lose ALL attractiveness for you. David Deida has a great line in "The Way of the Superior Man." As men, our job is to give women two things: truth and love. Part of "truth" is letting them know they're sexy, we want them, we care for them. Part of "tr…	/r/TheRedPill	24/08/18 05:59 PM
1	Three Harsh Truths About Cold Approach Pickup Some solid points here, for sure. 100 percent right: Most guys don't take NEARLY enough action. And absolutely, this journey is NOT easy. If it was, everyone would be doing it, right? I would add another essential component to success with women. Being authentic. In fact, I would say this is the MOST important thing, along with taking massive action. Most guys put on a mask when they go out to meet women. Maybe it's "The pick-up guy." Or "Super Nice Guy." Or they adopt this false alpha/a-hole pe…	/r/TheRedPill	21/08/18 01:08 PM
4	Three Harsh Truths About Cold Approach Pickup LOVE this. Becoming a more attractive version of yourself works WAY better than doing a thousand approaches and trying to perfect technique.	/r/TheRedPill	21/08/18 12:29 PM
1	A year of approaching women - This is what I learnt GREAT post, my man. Super insightful and self-aware. Sounds like you learned something powerful: success with women is ALL about intention. Seems to me that you shifted your intention from "approach & pick up girls" to "growth and enjoyment." That's a huge shift that men who learn dating success should aspire to. As a self-development coach who teaches dating to dudes, I always cringe at words like "approach," "pick-up" and "seduction." I know, I know... we're here in the "seduction" reddit, but…	/r/seduction	21/08/18 12:19 PM
1	Something I just realized about all these dating apps... Totally. The only thing that stops guys from approaching in the day is that they don't give themselves permission. They have these thought patterns that say, "This is weird... I'm at Whole Foods, and she's buying frozen peas. There's no bar. There's no DJ. I can't go and talk to her." So because it FEELS uncomfortable or not allowed, guys don't take action. I remember years ago a super stunner (at Whole Foods, actually...) LITERALLY saying (after I'd approached her), "I'm so glad you said hi to …	/r/seduction	21/08/18 11:59 AM
1	masculine energy = freedom Hey, sorry for the late reply. Took a Reddit holiday for a few days. True, true. If a guy gets good with women, after having SUCKED with women, I think there's a built-in sense of humility that's really grounding and important -- as opposed to a guy who thinks he's just naturally entitled and awesome. Like you said, "Brutal humility." I'm pretty sure Owen's never smoked or drank. He's high on Eckhart Tolle, haha. I've always admired how stone-cold sober he is, because I confess to having used wh…	/r/seduction	21/08/18 11:41 AM
6	Something I just realized about all these dating apps... Yeah, there are beautiful women on the dating apps. Women dig the apps because they're fun, like video games, and they get a LOT of validation. Attractive women match with the majority of the men on whom they swipe-right. Women also turn to apps because at night, they just get sloppily hit on. And in the day, they either get cat-calls, or not approached WELL. I love showing guys how to approach in the day because when you do it well, you make a girl's rom-com dream come true. :)	/r/seduction	17/08/18 02:36 AM
5	masculine energy = freedom Ha! Love that quote. I just did an iced-coffee spit-take! I trained/took MANY bootcamps with RSD for years. I know Owen and much of his crew. He, more than any of my many coaches, showed me what I was capable of. Much love to Owen. Here's something I wrote on my blog. From my first bootcamp with Owen, MANY years back. "RULE 5: IT’S WEIRD NOT TO TALK TO GIRLS Back when I’d just started learning success with women and dating, I was at a trendy, hotel-rooftop lounge in a New York City hotel. I was …	/r/seduction	17/08/18 02:26 AM
1	3 Body Language Tweaks That Actually Works I like no. 3. I just gave a similar tip to a client when we were out meeting women. He was talking so quietly, I don't think he could hear himself. And I appreciate that this list kept the number of things to do to 3. But there's an important "but." Guys get WAY too concerned with technique and sub-communications and monitoring all these different things. And that leads to paralysis by analysis. Instead of connecting with the girl in the present moment. Take it from me (9 years in this, coaching…	/r/seduction	17/08/18 02:15 AM
4	Magic Hour Haha, I like the term "Magic Hour." Good stuff. Fun post, with some smart points. I've been studying success with women & dating for almost a decade now, and teaching it for 4.5 years. It's the first time I've heard the term "Magic Hour." All of those logistical issues and challenges mentioned is partially why I have my guys learn to meet women in the daytime. No bouncers. No covers. No sausage-fests. The Post-Magic-Hour. There are cool, interesting, awesome women almost anywhere you go, especia…	/r/TheRedPill	17/08/18 01:56 AM