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Oh, it’s not universal. More of an adage to keep in mind and when the situation is different, you get to be pleasantly surprised. But you’re absolutely right
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 06:15 PM
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Women tend to be the gatekeepers of sex, while men tend to be the gatekeepers of commitment. At least, I’ve always thought so.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 01:12 AM
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If you don’t have safety issues when dating then you’re not a woman. My safety is always in question when dating men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:04 PM
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“you admitting that a guy has to AUTOMATICALLY bring far more to the table than average and most guys just don't even register as someone you'd date.” This is exactly it. You’ve literally figured it out
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 02:22 PM
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Yeah, I just wanted to hear more of your thoughts and observations really. It’s fascinating. You’re absolutely right that it’s hypocritical AF. Thanks so much for the reply!
/r/ExRedPill05/11/24 12:02 AM
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Like what? I’d love to hear some examples. This is fascinating to me
/r/ExRedPill04/11/24 06:38 PM
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No, you’re absolutely spot on. I’ll admit to this. I absolutely have this bias. I have a negative bias towards traditionally Asian people. I grew up in a small town packed full of old wealth (and ensuing behaviors and rules) just outside of LA and the new wealth that was there was primarily Chinese. Racism towards Asians was SO prevalent. I think I actually used to use slurs when young, not knowing it was bad, but definitely knowing it had to be whispered and only around some people. We all pick…
/r/ExRedPill01/10/24 06:18 PM
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I know several “straight” men who experiment or didn’t in the past with men. I think it’s the label that’s scary right now because it is so not in fashion for men currently.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/09/24 07:57 PM
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Is that what he means? He only had one ball? No one cares about that. I’ve never heard a friend talk about her man’s balls before. Like ever. And we used to get deep into sex discussions in our 20s
/r/ExRedPill04/09/24 07:56 PM
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Who are all these terrible women you know? My god, move away from wherever you are.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/09/24 09:31 PM
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I wouldn’t mind if a guy was bi. As long as there’s a real connection and we’re compatible, why would it matter? He’s not going to cheat on me with a guy more so than another woman. Also, I find it hot. Both the fact that a man can be so open and experiment or be secure with himself and do exactly what he wants to without any shame. I love it. That’s so fucking attractive to me. And… guys together are hot. I like seeing two men in the same way men like seeing two women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 10:12 PM
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SIGH. Not all women turn down coffee dates. Women are not a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 04:28 AM
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Underweight? I am too now. I’m currently at 95lbs because I got super sick and been really stressed lately and can’t seem to put 10lbs back on. Thanks for reading that. I guess it just makes me sad when people think that being thin equals healthy. And overweight equals “fat” which always equals lazy and overindulgence. But you have no idea the pressure there is to be thin for women. Well. Probably the pressure you feel to have a bigger dick, be taller, be better looking. Whatever your flaw is th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:24 AM
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Here’s the thing. I’ve been alive for nearly 50 years. I’ve been overweight and I’ve been thin and had a great body. In fact, that’s where I’m at right now I look better than I ever have. You wouldn’t believe me if I told you how I keep the weight off tho. No one ever does. Doctors and science say losing weight is as easy for this person as it is for this person. Calories in vs calories out, right? I lost the extra weight by doing low carb. And after a few years I wanted regular food again. So I…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 12:06 AM
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Okay. But I’ve been told over and over again that my preference and attraction to shorter men is simply untrue. I’m either lying or I don’t understand my own desires. So tell me. I’m a pretty woman who’s pretty fucking normal. And I prefer short men. So, everything isn’t universal, is it? And listen, if you want to defend calling people names that aren’t kind in the name of honest and directness, have at it! What you do doesn’t affect me so if you want to call people names that hurt but you feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:59 PM
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Goodness gracious you certainly are edgy, sir! Not sure I can keep up with such massive honesty and absolutely no baggage behind this whatsoever. Just a straight up, normal, logical opinion with facts to back it up! Can’t argue with that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:56 PM
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No, yeah. He totally hates them. It’s very obvious now 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:37 PM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:59 PM
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You might want to give a little thought to how you refer to people. Calling people “fatties” turns them one dimensional and into their worst trait, in your opinion. I don’t get it. You guys complain all the damn time about how unfair it is for men out here. Look at the way men who are short are treated by women. If you were short, would you mind women calling you and those your height “shorties”? I live in LA and I’m so tired of hearing conservatives go off on “illegals”. They’re HUMANS first. N…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:28 PM
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I don’t get the joke
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:23 PM
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I can’t date someone with my dead brothers name. Tried once when he was still alive and it was creepy. Now that he’s no longer alive, it’s worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 03:31 PM
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I’ll acknowledge it. Women have more advantages when it comes to dating. Anyone who says different is misinformed or lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 04:23 PM
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Oh, I’m so sorry! I feel like a jerk now. I apologize. It’s been a fucking battleground on any sort of social media lately, especially Reddit. I’m so used to people trying to poke holes in my logic or tell me I’m wrong or make fun of me. So much more recently than ever before. It’s odd. And I must be defensive. Not a good look. I’m going to lighten up a little bit. Thanks for the reminder, new Reddit best friend whether you want me or not. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:13 PM
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Saying yes all the time does not equal a pushover. You’re the second person to ignore what I wrote and take it to an extreme that’s unnecessary. Def of agreeable: enjoyable and pleasurable; pleasant. "a cheerful and agreeable companion"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:43 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:48 PM
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Agreeable: enjoyable and pleasurable; pleasant. "a cheerful and agreeable companion" No one said anything about someone who can’t make up their own minds. That would be terrible. You’ve taken it to an extreme that was unnecessary. The way I see agreeable is a partner who goes out of their way, or is just naturally the type of person to not get anxious and uptight about things. Or get super upset over little things. He’s not a laid back person generally. And I’d love it if he could let go more. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:26 PM
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I don’t subscribe to the ideals spouted in here. I think some bits have merit, but for the most part, I find this sub to be VERY online. The really world is different for everyone. So, yeah. I married someone I was just platonic friends with for about 2 years prior. We both just became attracted to the other and we’ve been married for 20 years. Absolutely marry your best friend. That said, he is not an agreeable man. We are not that compatible in some big ways and it causes problems. I’d love to…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 05:22 PM
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Me too! I’d LOVE to have an agreeable man!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 01:54 AM
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I already answered you. It’s not my fault you can’t read well enough. I changed my requirements after money became something I no longer needed to worry about. Leave me alone now, please. I tried to be kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 12:00 AM
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You think we didn’t talk a lot about finances and marriage and kids and how we would do everything while dating? Who does that? We were friends for a few years before we dated. So, yeah. He knew how I saw the world and dating. We’re still married but are separated for right now. Still raising kids together and trying to figure out if we can make it good again where it needs to be, or if we should split.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:58 PM
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Yeah. But those weren’t my requirements then. That’s what they are now. I have less need for money now. At 29, having a career where you can support yourself was important.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:33 PM
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I don’t give a fuck about money. He just has to be really good at what he does or really happy with what he does for a living. Looks are subjective. What I find hot, others might not. And define status. Because status can be found anywhere. Status is being the owner of that little joint on the corner and daring a waitress there, if you play it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 07:28 PM
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Okay
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:58 PM
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Why would I do that? I have no incentive to explain anything to you. Im sorry you’re offended that women are more scared of men than bears 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 06:35 PM
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Yes. Please try to talk us into believing that we’re not more scared of men than bears.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 05:37 PM
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💀💀💀
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:57 AM
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It’s consistently happening here as much as it always it has, it seems like. I live in. Suburb of Los Angeles. Most of my friends have been married, had a family. Some chose not to. But only one or two didn’t and it’s due to their insecurities. In both cases. Statistics may say otherwise. Mine is purely anecdotal. But here we are
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:44 PM
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Any sort of fame is an aphrodisiac to most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 11:40 PM
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Depends on the woman. I wouldn’t bat an eye at the troll. I regularly ignore rude comments, inappropriate remarks, insults. All of it. I wouldn’t say I’m beautiful but I’m pretty. And I will 100% go for kindness in anything over someone being a dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 12:32 AM
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One of the biggest factors in dating never gets taken into account here with the seriousness it should. Random luck. Most people feel that they struggle to meet and have a healthy, lasting relationship with someone who returns those feelings. A lot of those people do seriously struggle and are very lonely, but the rest of the people are out there and (trying to) dating and seeing friends and building lives. But creating opportunities to meet people. And so many of those people don’t find someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:37 PM
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I think you’re right and wow. I never thought about it that way. Some people genuinely get off on tearing people down that they perceive to be doing better than them. It’s sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:28 PM
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Also, women’s BC and men’s are very different. There’s no way in hell I’m putting all those hormones in me for no reason at all, if he can wear a condom.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:12 PM
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You’ve written and posted something almost exactly like this before haven’t you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 08:11 PM
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LOADS of Americans are coming around on this. I saw it when I had my kids and I’m seeing it even more now. People and women included, are getting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 02:06 AM
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Can you give some examples of you being “constantly rejected” before you were given a chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:15 PM
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UNEQUIVOCALLY YES
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 05:12 PM
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We are just different people 🤷🏼‍♀️and that’s okay. You seem smart and nice so
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 11:11 PM
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I do. I’ve had naturally large breasts my entire life, starting at 12. They’ve been stared at so hard and groped more times than I can remember, without my consent. Was even held down once so several could do it. It feels really fucking violating. Every single time. Like I said, we just have very different feelings on being touched without our consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 04:07 PM
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Oh. Okay, so you’re cool being touched without your consent? Alright. We just fundamentally disagree on things, I’d surmise.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 06:07 PM
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“If some women are going around living in fear, it’s not rational.” “Men really are in more danger of being assaulted.” How many times have you been raped? I’ve been raped twice. Two different men, both in my twenties. How many times have you been sexually assaulted? For me, I’d say we’re in the teens here. I’ve had to hit a guy in the face to get his hand off my boob. He thought being in a crowd gave him permission to grab my breasts. There’s just so many instances of assaults that I can’t even…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 11:40 PM
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Yes, I believe you are correct. Men are not to blame for the higher standards we’re held to when it comes to appearance. It’s men, women, society’s standards, what is in fashion, etc. However, we come from a very heavily male dominated world and only recently have gotten closer to equality. It’s the way everything has been set up and done for years. It’s that the current structure was built for men and women have to adjust to fit in. But yeah, we adhere to these standards because of many differe…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 11:12 PM
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You can ask anyone anything you want. That’s your right. And they can answer however they choose. I’m glad to hear you’re cool with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 04:20 AM
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Good! Glad we’re in agreement!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:40 AM
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You don’t get to know someone’s body count. Expecting that you’ll get to know how many people she’s slept with or how many were casual is not going to help you in any way. It’s none of your business. And if you feel differently, find a girl that agrees. Some people don’t care about privacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 10:30 PM
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Doesn’t really matter who calls it what. There’s cheating with someone. There’s situationships where things aren’t defined. There’s sex with an ex. There’s booty calls. There’s sidekicks (see cheating). Doesn’t matter what it’s called. They’re all still happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 09:03 PM
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Situationships and FWB are two different things. Don’t forget about all the ex sex we get to have too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:28 PM
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My point was and is that men rarely, if ever, understand menopause. Menopause or peri can start as early as in your twenties. It can be natural or can be induced. Your gotcha moment wasn’t what you thought. My point still stands. I don’t remember ever saying that whatever point that was being made could only happen to perimenopausal women and NO ONE ELSE EVER.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:26 PM
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Oh my god a bravo themed bar? HEAVEN
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 08:24 PM
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Oh, god, of course! I’d respect anyone I meet out anywhere, but I’ll be respectful and protective if anyone else is a dick. I’m older so I don’t club anymore but when I did, it was usually with my gay male friends and girlfriends. I’d love to be able to relax and be around women, regardless of sexual orientation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 06:18 PM
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Exactly. Doesn’t know what perimenopause is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 06:16 PM
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Doubt they even know what perimenopause is. Or rather, could explain it beyond a very simple definition
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 06:16 PM
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Do the women care that you’re not lgbt? And where do you live? I’d love stuff like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 04:13 PM
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This one thousand times. Yes! However, bars and lounges without men would be no fun. Actually, it would be great to have no men bars. But not all of them. Go to the ones with no men when you just want to catch up with your friends. And then hit the co-ed ones when open to meeting people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 04:12 PM
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I said “my mistake”, when corrected. I meant #1. It’s livestock steroids. Which makes it even funnier.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 04:10 PM
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My mistake.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 09:47 PM
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Why? He sounds like loads of other guys in here
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 07:29 PM
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I know, right? I almost stopped after reading he’s doing steroids on number 2. But then I would’ve missed him saying a woman’s kid will have Fetal Alcohol syndrome from her partying in her 20s. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 07:28 PM
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Uh, he’s acting like weird and gross. If you like a female friend, try flirting or telling her outright. Not being cryptic and stupidly unappealing like this guy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 09:21 PM
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If men don’t have friends, they should aim to make some. Everyone needs friends. Regardless of your dating status
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 03:33 AM
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Not always true, but more often than not, yes. If we’re talking strictly objective beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 01:12 AM
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Is he as attractive as the women he wants? Water tends to seek its own level.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 01:10 AM
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Moms can destroy a daughter in a very special way that I don’t think dads can. I don’t believe this is a gender thing. Any parent can mess up a kid to a point that dating becomes super difficult
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 07:03 PM
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Nope. Try to understand women better. I do the same with men. Why wouldn’t we?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/24 06:33 PM
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It’s almost as if different women want different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:05 PM
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I think we all settle on some ways. That’s life. You get some of what you want and some of what you don’t. And that should be applied to a lot of aspects of relationships. Looks, values, money views, social views. Find someone compatible but not exactly what you want because that rarely happens. Isn’t that settling? One should never settle on marrying someone they’re not actually in love with.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 01:10 AM
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Are you under the impression that women can’t do those jobs? Are you really that … you can’t be. What did you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 05:30 PM
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I’m twice her age. Okay, not really but almost! And I agree with what she’s saying. People in here live to find the worst answer possible for their problems and then blame the shit out of it, while not doing a whole lot to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 05:28 PM
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That’s a great house and one I’d be proud to live in.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 05:26 PM
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Yep! And guys do it all the time too. They don’t have a word for it tho
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 09:35 PM
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And shoulders, hands and dicks never go out of style for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:37 PM
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Almost everyone works this way. Most of us are influenced by society’s trends and what’s not acceptable. And most are influenced by friends and other people of the same sex. It happens with men and women. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/24 07:04 PM
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It’s really not that hard. A “Nice Guy” is the kid that appears to be super friendly and caring but only wants to get their dick wet. And if you say no, you’ll get called a fat slut whore regardless of what you look like or your dating history. A “Genuinely Kind” guy is exactly that. He’s kind. End of story. Kindness and no anger outbursts or yelling or anything of that nature is something very important to me, considering that my last relationship was filled with them. Some traits are more impo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 07:59 PM
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Go back and read literally anything I’ve written. I’ve not lied once. I never claimed to not be “dickmatized”. Not sure what you’re going for here, but I don’t think this is the “Gotcha!!” moment you were looking for You guys are still totally oblivious to why women can’t get over a man for a period of time. And you all keep boiling it down to barely-truths and copes. But no, continue on. I’m sure it’s working wonders.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:07 PM
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I’m clearly exaggerating but it really feels like there is no safe topic anymore. Or rather, there is no safe dissent anymore. Everyone MUST abide by the rules we’ve put in place recently. And if you differ in anyway, be prepared for an onslaught of people telling you how wrong you are, completely content in their smugness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:04 PM
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If we’re being honest, I’ve been dickmatized… god, maybe 3 times. Some people are just absolutely irresistible. Thing is tho, thats why you go back. If you’re not in a relationship and want some company or you’re horny, you turn back to the exes. You have your fun and you keep your head out of it enough to enjoy it for what it actually is. I’m good with the Alpha Widow concept. And the dickmatized one. You guys just haven’t gotten the reasons right.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:18 PM
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Oh, absolutely. Everyone is the virtue signaling police lately. I agree with you on all the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:14 PM
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Wait. You think a woman can only be “dickmatized” once in their life and they’re forever ruined after that? Yeah, I don’t work like that. Sorry. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Perhaps I’m not using these terms correctly…? Dickmatized: stupid attracted to someone. Crazy attracted. Cannot keep your hands off them when alone and wont be able to see the bad things about him because she’s so fucking into him. She’s kinda delusional because she wants him so much and can’t stop herself from seeing him when he calls. Close? Alp…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:04 PM
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I’m not pilled anything. I see some merit in some red pill ideology and methods. And I’m older than 20. Hope you’re having a good day.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 06:57 PM
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Thinking that a majority of girls are attracted to bad boys is being red pilled? That’s odd. Thought that was just accepted as the norm now. Guess I’m a red pill if I’ve known that for a while 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 08:30 PM
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Oh, if you want to switch definitions right now and say Alpha Widowing is down to love and fitting extremely well with one another, and you each treat each other wonderfully and all is right in the relationship so you never have reason to break up, unless something unforeseen and, for now, insurmountable, like distance and very sick family members, but still actively wishes each other love and happiness and encourages the other constantly to be their best? And actually root for them to do well? …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 03:56 PM
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If you honestly think that had to do with his size, you’re insane. She fell head over heels in LOVE. Brett was bigger. Brett was first That said, I’m done. If you want to continue thinking as you do, you are welcome to it! Hope you have a good rest of your evening
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:21 AM
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Have you NOT seen her video with Brett Michaels? He’s fucking giant too. Why is she not alpha widowed by him? Big, thick dick is big, thick dick. An inch difference either way doesn’t make a difference. So, explain please? Why is she not already Alpha Widowed by Brett, who is arguably just like Tommy in every way and some would say better? Rock stars, giant dicks, great bodies, both tall, both successful, both famous, I’m sure the list goes on and on. The reason why Pamela can’t move on from Tom…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:44 AM
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Distance (and family). We live in different countries. There were plans on both our parts for one and then the other to move countries (think Canada and Ireland. We both like each others country and they’re not crazy different. We could each make it work but I’d rather move to his country) at separate points in time but we ultimately couldn’t make it work. There were too many reasons why neither of us could move any time soon. It went on for years and we just couldn’t get it to work. Maybe somed…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:41 PM
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Distance (and family). We live in different countries. There were plans on both our parts for each of us to move to the other country (think Canada and Ireland) at separate points in time but we ultimately couldn’t make it work. There were too many reasons why neither of us could move any time soon. It went on for years and we just couldn’t get it to work. Maybe someday down the line our paths will cross again and we’ll be able to make it work. Who knows. We keep in touch. He’s a wonderful human…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:40 PM
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Let me try to understand. Maybe using punctuation could help. “LOL. Say that to Pamela Anderson. As a man that has dickmatized women, the issue is that your exes were just average at best.” Aha! Well, this is a fly by shit comment but I’ll reply anyway. I’ve been “dickmatized”. I know what that’s like too. Had two of those. Those were fucking fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:36 PM
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Thanks for saying that. Sometimes I feel silly sharing so much on here. But then again: I’m anon. And anyone can always choose not to read my novels 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 09:32 PM
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Not just some arbitrary “right” or some checklist version of “right’”. He was right for me, as I was him. He has flaws and weird things and baggage just like anyone else. He’s not a Chad or what everyone would consider amazing. He’s not genetically superior. He’s better looking than some, not as good as others. Same re: dick size. Bigger than some, but not the biggest. He was just him, who perfectly fit for me. He is one of the best people I know, aside from that. Just a great fucking man. And h…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 01:05 AM
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It’s so wild to me how different people’s views are. For me and my peers, this is a ludicrous theory. No woman I have ever known has had such an amazing sexual experience in the very beginning of when she starts having sex, that it leaves her in a state of wonderment. A state that was so magical, she’ll be searching for it ever after (imagine if Cinderella was merely dickmatized! 🤣). Sex doesn’t do that for the majority of women. Being loved well does, and sex is part of that, but not the leadin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 09:57 PM
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It’s never over for either sex. We’ve all heard of late in life love.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 02:19 AM
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I think he should pay for some and so should she.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 12:50 AM
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Oh, god. Of course! I don’t think that I actually know that no one is cheating on anyone. Of COURSE there are! I guess what I should’ve said is it’s not very prevalent in the circles of friends and people I know. It’s probably kept super secret. So it’s not common out in the open. Maybe that’s better
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 05:08 PM
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Well, the cool thing about my little town is that it’s kind of eclectic and a throwback, so it’s not cookie cutter affluent. It’s hard to explain but we have this area that’s in the foothills of the SanGabriel Mountains that is like a mini Laurel Canyon. Do you know what that’s like? It’s these winding set of streets up in the hills of Hollywood with gorgeous homes. It was known for being super hippie-ish and laid back and in the 60s with Morrison and Hendrix and all of them partying up there. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 12:26 AM
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Very possible I know someone who cheats and doesn’t discuss it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 12:20 AM
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Aha. Yeah, it’s frowned upon here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 12:19 AM
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That’s okay. I cheated first. With your brother. Sorry!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 09:01 PM
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A suburb of Los Angeles. I’m not sure what you mean by culture. It’s a small city up against the mountains that is more blue than red. But it’s also a somewhat affluent town so you’ve got your red in there, too. It’s a lot of white people with some Hispanic, Black and Asian people. It’s a kinda small town feel but that’s just cause it’s like a small town (a downtown kids can walk to and hang out, no streetlights, only stop signs, lots of people who grew up here stayed, etc). but in the middle of…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 08:48 PM
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I am not doubting you in any way. I’m only sharing my experience. Also, pls note that this is what I know to be true but it doesn’t mean it’s reality. I could be friends with someone who is cheating and just not know it because it’s not something they speak to me about. I think also, I haven’t been in the environments you have as a bartender. I’m sure I’d view people differently than I do. And know a wider swath of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 08:43 PM
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Really?? I know no one that cheats. This is weird. And I’m like, just in my 40s so it’s not like everyone’s in the honeymoon stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 03:25 AM
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I almost never see it in real life. But then again, almost no one admits it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 03:24 AM
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I’ve never heard that idiot speak and I’m weirdly proud of it. But I agree with you. Being great in social situations + other social skills can make a person super attractive. Usually confidence goes hand in hand.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 02:54 AM
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I think that it’s shitty for both men and women, but in different ways. I think it’s really hard to find good men and women who aren’t already coupled up. I think that genuinely is the bottom line. However, they’re out there. Because I see them and I talk to them and I wish I had gotten to them first. 😂 I saw another post on here today that opened my eyes big time. It was about when men had been vulnerable with women and what the women did negatively. And I was fucking SHOCKED at how many women …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 02:02 AM
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You do know women aren’t a monolith right? Some will behave exactly as you described. And some wouldn’t. Stay away from the ones who are assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 08:05 PM
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What do you need a link to? Happy to go find one. You’re not being clear. Be clear with what you want. A link to what? A source to what? Happy to rustle up some links for you. Be specific. Ask specific questions and they’ll be answered.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 06:23 PM
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I mentioned more than the wall. Do you actually not see the words or are you exaggerating to get a reaction? I can easily go find a bunch of pick up tricks if I want to Google. I can do that for you. Or you can. It’s not like this is brand new information that red pillers and PUAs cross over and use similar tactics and ideologies. Far smarter people than I have written all about it and if you need me to Google for you again, I can. Conspiracy, again: I’d Google it. Just like pick up tactics. Her…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 11:50 PM
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I’m actually bored of that topic now. I have a short attention span! 😂 Don’t feel like continuing anymore. If you’d like to reply, just reply to the other comment? Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 11:31 PM
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Most of it. I don’t remember it well enough to give you talking points because I’ve forgotten a lot. Let me go refresh. I mean, the fact that Alex Jones, subhuman, is proudly red pilled should really be enough. But, here goes: There’s the whole manosphere bullshit that is essentially just a lot of misogyny and pick up tricks. Call me crazy, but I’m not a fan of men who dislike women or think they’re better than them. There’s the “a woman hits the wall at 30” which is so untrue. I’m older than th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 10:06 PM
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I have no clue, honestly. I just know that a lot of the red pill crap is just that: crap. So knowing I think the red pill mentality is ridiculous, guess that makes me blue!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 09:54 PM
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I agree. I rarely come from penetration, but I fucking LOVE IT. I don’t need to come to have an amazing experience and think someone is the best I’ve ever had. Orgasms aren’t the level at which I measure. The person I had the very best sex with, of my entire life, rarely made me come. But then again, it’s very hard to make me come. I need to concentrate so, so much. And sometimes I don’t want to. I just want to give over to all the fun and good feelings and lose myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 09:37 PM
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Oh, I’m well aware that the loneliness of men is far more complicated a blithe comment suggesting men just be friends and it’s fixed. I was being sarcastic and oversimplifying it. Of course it’s HARD to overcome loneliness. We each have many hurdles in trying to overcome that. And I think women have figured out a good way to keep themselves emotionally happy. I believe there is a huge need for men to feel connections with other humans. Women have figured out how to bond with each other to help r…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 07:06 PM
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I love that you just told a stranger that you know more about his life and his experiences than he does 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:39 PM
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It’s very different. Women can be short and it’s socially acceptable. We’re called tiny or little and it’s cute. Men are expected to be over 6 feet and worthy of the respect that they get with that height.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:37 PM
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Why would age matter when it comes to height? I thought most women didn’t like guys who are short?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:36 PM
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This sub has brought me awareness of the discrimination short men face. I didn’t know until seeing a lot of it here and then confirming with real life short friends. It’s brought awareness to men being lonely. But I’m still unsure why men are still complaining about it instead of actively doing something to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 08:35 PM
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Oh. I was talking about life, in general, not just Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:32 PM
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I’ve seen equal amounts of “my wife sucks” and “my husband sucks”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 09:33 PM
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I don’t drink either. It’s been really fun finding something that can make you more pleasant that isn’t alcohol. But I fully get being cautious. I’d be cautious if anyone who indulged in a substance too often.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 08:09 PM
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What about women who vape cannabis at night here and there? I’ve always found it to be preferable to being that mom who drinks wine and has a “cute” saying about it on her kitchen wall. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 02:28 AM
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How about not deciding all women are like just one youve interacted with?
/r/ExRedPill29/12/23 09:25 PM
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I love boring stable guys. If a guy is out a lot, he’s not for me. Once in a while, sure! And doing things during the day and evening can happen but don’t need to be “going out”. With you on this one!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 01:51 AM
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This is so weird to me. In the real world, it’s never either or. There’s allll sorts of options in the middle. Also, me at my highest SMV was late twenties to early 30s. I can’t help when I was the hottest. It’s happening again and I never expected this one either.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 12:31 AM
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My self preservation will ALWAYS come first. The only people in front of that are my children. And if I married someone who was a really good man who loves me, then he’d come first sometimes too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 08:08 PM
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That could be said about men, too. There are awful, selfish, toxic people out there, single and ready to hook right up! Or be in a relationship with! Both men and women. And it always seems like that’s what’s mostly out there. Maybe it is, who knows. There are also so many amazing people out there too. Good ones are harder to find, of course. And needing compatibility makes it even harder. But if it’s worth it to you, then you keep looking and hopefully find a good one. Every time I comment here…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 08:06 PM
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😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 02:04 AM
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Or the food might jump down and break her things and punch walls, all while cruelly insulting her and trying to make her feel small.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 11:04 PM
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You say: women receive compliments and validation nonstop from the male gender. I’m asking: what do you mean by nonstop? Could you tell me your definition of the word in this context pls?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 10:58 PM
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I feel so shut down and now have this massive yearning to change my viewpoint. Wow, that reply was powerful!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 02:37 AM
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Ps, I know you’re convinced that women stop being hot at some age in their 30s. And that’s just not true. I’ve never looked better, I’ve never had more people interested in me, in being around me, etc. Like, it’s insane how much my age hasn’t mattered to anyone, it’s almost as if it’s made me more desirable. It’s fucking amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 12:41 AM
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The reason people hate age gap relationships so much is because: It’s a reasonable thing to be concerned about in some extreme cases, but in reality, it’s a ton of very online people who want to be offended about something. They also want to let everyone know how good they are by not doing whatever the aforementioned “cancelable sin” is. That said, there is real concern or danger there because we’ve been young girls before that were hit on by old(er) guys all the time. We know how confusing thes…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 12:36 AM
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I absolutely love men. The good ones. I love so much about their masculinity. I love the big hands, the long fingers, the angled, harder body. Those V dips if they have them. Hipbones for biting. Big strong shoulders. Being taller than me, having copious amounts of body hair, the smell of their natural scent, hot deep voices. I could go on and on about what I love about men- I love A LOT about them. And it’s not all physical either. However, men are just super attractive to me. Including their d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/23 07:29 PM
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Unconditional? Doubtful. The only unconditional love we get is from our parents or children, if we’re lucky.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 09:42 PM
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I agree with your assessment. I think most women do what I did. And just so I’m clear: what I did is NOT having casual sex, is what you’re saying. Casual sex is with someone you barely know and it’s a means to an end sexually. Yeah, I couldn’t, ever. I need to know the man somewhat to really be attracted to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:42 AM
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I engaged in casual sex with my exes when not in a relationship. But I didn’t hook up with random people. So was I a casual sex-haver or not? I honestly don’t know! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:18 AM
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So, am I a person who has casual sex? I’m curious if your definition matches mine. I’ve never had a one night stand. I tried once and it ended up in a long term relationship. I dated a lot of guys as I’m outgoing and attractive , but only had sex with the guys who I was specifically seeing and building a relationship with at that particular time. Now throughout my twenties when I didn’t have a boyfriend, I would sometimes hook up with my exes. It was more than a FWB thing and less than a relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 12:10 AM
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I’m so sorry. Your outlook is far too reasonable. No one will listen 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 11:55 PM
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You’re doing it exactly right. I compliment people all the time. You have to be genuine and expect nothing from them. And you both feel good after. Well done!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 08:41 PM
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Do you genuinely think that women just date around a bunch of assholes in our twenties because we WANT to? You think we’re actively looking at great men and thinking, “nah, I’d rather go for someone lesser than. I’ll save the good men for later!” No one does that. We all just date who’s available to us, while trying to figure out who will be compatible with us and our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 10:06 PM
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Love bombing can work on anyone as long as you know what that person is attracted to and turned off by. Just tailor the lovebombing actions and words to fit the person you’re trying to take down.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 09:12 PM
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Can I ask you something? You think that women have it so much better because we have so many options for casual sex. And you’re right that we can have casual sex whenever we want, if willing to bang some unsavory people. But WE don’t want a ton of casual sex. Most women don’t enjoy sleeping around. We don’t have this insane desire to have an orgasm, or to touch a woman. We don’t have that. We mostly want good relationships. So where is all this power being used? How do we have so much power? If …
/r/ExRedPill21/11/23 07:28 PM
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I would think it’s fucking wonderful. Men’s bodies and mental health need to be taken more seriously as well as handled with kindness. The women’s body positivity movement started because women started it and kept it going. No man out there was chomping at the bit to express loudly, “yeah, women of ALL sizes are beautiful!” So I’ve always thought you guys needed to get going on that. And I’d totally support it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:08 PM
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Regardless, thanks for talking with me. It’s been really great getting some insight into your brain. 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 11:34 PM
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Admittedly, I am older so I do see men in their 30s-50s more often than 20something guys. But I do see them. I could get pics of you get looking ones for you. I don’t honestly know what it is either. I’m certain men on here are above average in various ways! I guess Ive always thought that the people I know that are always single are the ones who are just deeply insecure about how they look or are. I have one girl friend who is overweight significantly who seems to never date, despite being a su…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 11:34 PM
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Honestly, there’s been a few. It could’ve been him 🤷🏼‍♀️. Some men in here are wonderfully open to what we have to say, even if they may disagree. And then some men here refuse to believe anything other than the narrative they’ve decided is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 11:13 PM
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I wouldn’t even consider being friends with a man who made me feel unsafe. I’d like not to be assaulted or killed. And since that’s an actual worry for us, I’m sticking to only men who make me feel safe. In EVERY aspect of life. I also got told here what I was and wasn’t attracted to, why I was or wasn’t attracted. It’s a bit nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 10:54 PM
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Thank you for replying to me. I was wondering if I’d responded to you too late. So, tell me. What are your thoughts now? I’m genuinely interested in where your brain went after seeing my examples. I’m not trying to be “right”. I’m trying to understand you guys better. Sometimes I disagree with your theories but I’m not out to prove you wrong or be unkind. I honestly don’t see real life around me happening in the ways you guys say it does. And I’m a woman so I’ll never understand it the way you g…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 04:08 PM
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Gotcha. Well, I do now agree with the Cardi and Lizzo examples!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:42 PM
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See? I did not know that! Okay, so what about T Swift? I think she’s a fairly good role model for girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:10 PM
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It would make women even more unsafe in society than they currently are. Not sure about you, but I’ve had several SAs but that have reliably kept me from feeling safe in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 07:12 PM
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What’s wrong with cardi b and Taylor swift?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 07:10 PM
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A genius in our midst.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 07:10 PM
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<image> Don’t know him either. These are average guys to me. They all have some pleasant features and some unpleasant. I find these men to be average.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:35 PM
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<image> Don’t know him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:34 PM
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<image> This guy was married and divorced. Two children. Has a girlfriend who’s cute and nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:34 PM
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I’ll post a few replies with pics of men who are average looking to me. Some from real life, some from internet. <image> This guy has a wife and kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:33 PM
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Whatever you do, don’t come live near me. You’d be shocked at how wildly wrong you are. Especially the last one.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 03:13 PM
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Okay, I’ll make sure to tell all those average guys I know that their wives and girlfriends and hookups aren’t actually happening. That or they aren’t actually average. They’ll all be so thrilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 02:22 AM
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If women aren’t into average men, then how are so many of them dating, hooking up and also married?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 01:04 AM
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I have high standards. But they don’t include making men pay for me all the time. Sorry, but I dont think that should be a measure of a good man. Yes, it’s nice to have someone want to pay for you. But I love treating people too! They both have joy in it. It should go both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 03:24 AM
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Have you ever known a girl who is attractive but you’re just not into her like that? Sure, you could bang her. It’d prob be fun, but she’s just not the type you feel compatible with for anything beyond some attraction sexually because she’s pretty That’s how.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 07:13 PM
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You know what that means then?? We are now to become Reddit’s Greatest Writing Duo! All we need to do is: agree on absolutely everything. Shouldn’t be hard. And then we follow each other around and any time there’s a comment to be left, you bat-signal me somehow. Maybe shine a giant R against the clouds? Then we get to work! 😂 Oh my god I’m so lame. It’s 7am here and I’m a bit delirious from little sleep. Forgive me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:11 PM
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You just summed up my comment in like, one sentence! I love it. Can you teach me how not to be so verbose all the time? 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:04 PM
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I haven’t read comments, I just want to say this: Do not stop what you are doing. You’re enjoying your life to the fullest. You’re becoming the best version of yourself if you choose to be. You’re growing and learning and living so much. Don’t stop! And yes, a girlfriend will get in the way. Well…. Until she doesn’t. If you’re LUCKY enough, you may run across a soulmate who loves everything about you and everything you do (or at the least, enjoys that you enjoy them. Not everyone can have everyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:22 AM
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You can tell usually. Men treat you differently if they’re into you and want to hook up than when they’re not actually that into you. It’s fairly obvious. It’s only happened a couple times, but it’s just super obvious when a guy wants sex but not you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 08:40 PM
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Honestly? Anywhere is acceptable as long as the approach is treated with kindness and respect. Any man can try to strike up a conversation with any woman almost anywhere as long as he is kind, respectful, understanding and takes the hint if she’s not into it. I can’t think of places that are off limits. Funerals come to mind, but often funerals or wakes, etc allow you to reconnect with people from your past and as long as it’s handled gracefully, even then, as long as they’re not the grieving pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 09:13 PM
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Both men and women do this, tho. I really don’t see either sex doing it more than the other. I’d say we’re fairly equal there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:18 PM
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It’s also sexy as hell. You’re making sure she feels good, both internally and externally. Can’t complain about that!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 01:42 AM
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This is exactly it. I admire anyone, man or woman, who puts in a lot of effort and is very disciplined. That’s wonderful and they get beautiful bodies out of it. But I have zero interest in a gym lifestyle. I enjoy eating good food. I don’t like gyms- I prefer exercising outdoors. It’s just a different lifestyle that isn’t compatible to mine. That said, of course I enjoy looking at most men’s bodies who have muscle and definition. Not too big of muscles tho (just a personal pref). But sure. Yeah…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 04:48 PM
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What a loser that guy is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 11:29 PM
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I love everything you linked to
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 08:18 PM
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We don’t experience less arousal! We just can’t orgasm as easy because we don’t have a dick! Having a dick makes it super easy to come. Girls? Not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:04 AM
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Are you referring to the rape of Ukrainian women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:13 PM
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Agreed. Started for me around the same age. And I developed very large breasts pretty early on. Middle school. So, I was subjected to some really scary shit that felt like it went beyond just trying to sexualize me or get me to let them do stuff to me. It felt repulsive. I felt dirty after some of the things men said and tried to do to me. As a child. They’ll never understand what it’s like to live as a woman and how oppressive men can be when they don’t even realize they’re doing it. I don’t ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 07:54 PM
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Women have all sorts of different preferences. Just like men, we are all different. You’re assuming far too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 06:58 PM
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I totally get it! We all have our own preferences and I have some odd things men are or do as my turn ons too!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 07:29 PM
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I actually prefer that the man have a little extra weight on him. I prefer sturdy, bulky, etc. Not hugely overweight but a little is great. Just find that I’m not that into slim men. Nor do I like very muscled men. Just a normal body, but heftier if I could choose. I’m short so I really like short men. Ideally, he’d be somewhere between 5’6-5’9. All that said, I’m very open to dating someone who is not my exact preference. Im often surprised pleasantly by people. I am into confident men, but it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 10:07 PM
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Of course we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 07:48 PM
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A “leftover woman” 🤣🤣😂🤣😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:44 PM
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I’m curious too. Where will you see a ton of men hanging out? I can imagine a nascar race would attract loads of men. Maybe a sporting event.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:43 PM
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Very true but I think OPs point of it being the zoo and not a random restaurant is that you’re not typically going to see super good looking people hanging out there as it’s not considered a “cool” place to be or take pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:42 PM
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Interesting. Would love to see this.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:41 PM
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Some men prefer women to be a bit overweight 🤷🏼‍♀️. Everyone’s got different taste
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:40 PM
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What makes you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 05:23 PM
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If ugly people end up alone, then how have I seen so many that are married? Genuine question asked in good faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:25 AM
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Well, then, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 01:44 AM
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I’m so confused. Was your comment facetious or genuine? I was only answering OPs question 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 10:17 PM
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I can only speak for myself and my friends. But, yes, we did like and were attracted to “bad boys” In our early twenties. By our late twenties, we could recognize “bad boys” easier and knew to stay away from them, even if we were sometimes still attracted to them. Once you get more mature and have more life experience, the “bad boy” isn’t as appealing. You’re looking for trust and honesty and connection. Something to build on.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 07:47 PM
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I agree with you, actually! Problem is, I see a lot of men on here complaining about the unfairness and yet they don’t do anything to bring about change. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 01:14 AM
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Or how about, life in general is not fair. Is anyone under the impression that it somehow is?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 01:01 AM
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Also, re: confidence. It’s really true the ‘fake it till you make it” thing. Pretend you’re incredibly confident and others will react to you in positive ways. That will build you up as you continue faking it. Over time the confidence becomes real.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 08:55 PM
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I agree with SO much of what you’ve said. I really take no issue with anything you posited. I think what you’re missing is that it took decades upon decades for women to gain all of the validation we get today. We weren’t allowed to vote even until 1919. So that’s about 100 years of fighting to be taken seriously and gain the equality we’d been denied prior. Yes, things have gone too far. Yes, men need more validation, body positivity movements, normalization of short men and small penises, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 08:52 PM
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In order to make it “fair”, then women would be having sex with a lot more men, all kinds, all over. Men wouldn’t be so desperate for sex if they were getting it from many girls. And on the flip side, women would be able to choose from a lineup of men who were fully into long term relationships. Commitment offered from most men. Then, the world would be fair. But we both know that it’ll never happen. It’s ludicrous. It’s not about it being right or wrong. Fair or unfair. It just is. Both sexes h…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 10:10 PM
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Women compliment each other all the time. In fact, I love getting compliments from women a bit more than men because you can usually be certain it’s genuine coming from her. With a man. It may be genuine or it may be a way of trying to get in your pants or a combo of both. But yeah, women get compliments from older people who aren’t out to fuck us, from men, other women, family members, service staff, all sorts of places. Compliments are the best and I try to give them out as much as I can to ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 07:53 PM
1

None.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 09:05 PM
1

Literally anywhere. It’s really easy to catch a guys eye when you’re out and about. If I offered up fee sex to him, he’d probably be down for it. So, we can find sec anywhere. Never done it but assume it’s that easy. I
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 07:55 PM
7

There are still a ton of unhealthy social norms that people continue doing because it’s what we’re all used to. This is one of them. A man’s height is another and the way it’s a free for all to drag someone for being short. Another is men’s body image. There’s work to be done to get these things normalized. Think back 20-30 years. You’d never see overweight women wearing crop tops and feeling confident and sexy! It’s only now that women can wear those types of clothing regardless of their weight…
/r/ExRedPill02/05/23 09:08 PM
3

Yes!! This, right here! You are exactly what I’m talking about. Great point about cuckoldry. If one of you gets off on watching your partner flirt or do more with other people, that’s cuckoldry. Not confidence when someone finds your partner attractive enough to flirt with or hit on.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 03:04 PM
2

Titillated? No. You’re trying to make this into a kink and it’s not. It’s about trust and confidence and being flattered that other people find the person who chose YOU attractive. It’s very simple. And sure, sometimes a bit of …. Not jealousy, exactly, but maybe territorial feelings happen. But the best part about that is that the person is YOURS! It’s so wonderful to be with someone you trust and communicate with, so these sorts of problems don’t arise. Others will, as nothing is perfect, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 03:02 PM
3

It doesn’t have to be an either/or choice between these two specific sentiments. There are more sentiments that could apply. For example: your man could be secure and he actually enjoys/feels proud seeing other men checking you out or hitting on you, knowing that you’re objectively attractive to others but that you’re HIS. It may sometimes arouse a bit of jealousy or a moment of discomfort, but generally speaking, you being hit on is flattering to you both. The last is my preference, obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 01:56 AM
3

That’s not actually true, in my experience and those of my friends. How quickly you sleep with someone absolutely makes tons of guys think you’re promiscuous, especially if you “give it up” the first night. And theoretically, anyone can lie about their body count. You’ll never know the truth. That’s where trust and taking cues from behavior come in.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 02:55 PM
6

And I’m saying there are good and logical reasons for women who do that. It’s not as simple as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 11:29 PM
3

Okay, I’m being honest and genuine here. I’m not just playing around with the pithy replies. But no, I truly did not get from your first post that you meant “more”. Had you said that, I wouldn’t have even reacted. Because, of course, that’s true! But genuinely, it came across very much like: women should not be afraid of men they don’t know because they’re less likely to hurt them. Which kinda got me because it’s so simple and reductive. Plus, in my own experience, I’ve been sexually assaulted m…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 11:26 PM
4

You are extremely accurate. The only one I take issue with is that talking to men who are average is charity. I talk lightheartedly and welcomingly to all the men who speak to me in a nice way. It makes me feel good to know someone finds me attractive, so I, in turn, want to do the same for them (not show interest in a sexual way, but to show interest in a proper give and take pleasant exchange way). So I’ll talk to whomever is talking to me- happily! Everything else though is pretty spot on. An…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 11:17 PM
3

I wrote what you said verbatim. Semantics seem to get you off, so stick with the whole I didn’t quote you thing. I don’t mind. It’s adorable that you think I care if you respect me or not. I’m good, tho! Ive had a “dude” for nineteen years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 11:05 PM
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You didn’t say “more”. I quoted you verbatim. But if you want to change it now, cool. Also, thank you for explaining to me what and who I should be afraid of. Without your explanation, I’d never have understood anything you were talking about!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 10:52 PM
1

I don’t dislike you. I don’t know you. I disagree with some of your premises but this isn’t personal. I hope you’re having a lovely day and an even better year.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 10:47 PM
3

Did you seriously just say women being fearful of men who are strangers makes no sense because it’s more likely for me to be sexually assaulted or raped by someone I know?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 10:38 PM
1

Wow. You’re an actual intelligent and logical human. I like you!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 10:30 PM
1

“We live in a time of WHOREDOM AND HARLOTRY.” I’m dead. This is amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 10:26 PM
7

If we fuck you the first night, we’re viewed as promiscuous and considered not marriage material by many men. If we make you wait, then we’re viewed as incredibly stupid and deceitful. Gotcha.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 10:25 PM
1

I don’t disagree with any of them. However, I think you’re exaggerating everything, taking it to an extreme to prove a point. As for the being attracted to people irrespective of looks? That rarely happens. Looks always play into it. But plenty of people find plenty of traits attractive that others don’t. And vice versa. Beauty isn’t objective, for the most part. Romantic and sexual interest isn’t ever determined on looks or personality alone. It’s a mix of both usually That’s one example.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 10:27 PM
2

Um, no. These are silly and you know damn well you’re talking in extremes so they’ll be easy to knock down.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 09:42 PM
1

Improve yourself. Always try to do this. Constantly throughout life and you will be happier with a happier partner too. However, if you have put in work to go from a 5 to a 7, don’t expect to get “higher value women” than you yourself are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 09:39 PM
2

So many women don’t fit into this one little traditional box that you’ve given such strict requirements that need to be observed. I’m very much a western woman who enjoyed a working in the entertainment industry, while living and going out in Hollywood in my early to mid twenties with my all my friends. Once I decided to get married and then to have kids, we both agreed that it’s best, if feasible, to have one parent home with the kids all the time. So I became a SAHM. It was my idea and I pushe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 09:00 PM
2

What is creepy is almost always dependent on who is declaring something creepy. It’s nearly always subjective, unless it’s actual frightening stuff like someone says something menacing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/23 08:07 PM
1

Easy research. You checked to see who was writing the article, who they were quoting/referencing (themselves). That’s all I meant. Most people don’t do that. They read the headline and maybe a few lines and walk away thinking they know the entire thing and it’s straight up the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:40 PM
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If there are good and normal reasons for it, then there’s no problem at all. Good and normal reasons include but are not limited to: concentrating on school or career, being shy, waiting for religious reasons, something else was a bigger priority. Many reasons. As long as it’s not: “I’m a terrible and annoying individual and that’s really obvious and that’s why no one dates me.” So, yeah. Don’t care if you’ve never been in a relationship before.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:15 PM
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If you have to do all this, while the woman does hardly anything, then run. She’s a taker. Not all of us are, despite what you read from men on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:13 PM
1

She sounds like a really bad actor. This is so fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:09 PM
2

You’ve never had that? Damn. I’m so sorry, ordinarydude. Love and relationships are so tough, but so worth it when you have a relationship like the one the previous commenter mentioned. I hope you find it. I’m sure you deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:58 PM
1

Love it when someone can do easy research and unearth any and all slants to an article/op ed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:55 PM
1

I’ve read a lot of what you’ve written. You’ve a great way with words. And you seem genuine and intentional. My heart broke for you learning your daughter died. I don’t know how you’re still standing to be honest.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/23 08:12 PM
2

Im good with joking around. Was just doing a bunch of things at the same time and some comments come out a bit matter of fact. 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 04:26 AM
1

I was asking the other poster.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 01:32 AM
9

Definitely. I stay the fuck away from angry men. Or combative, whatever you want to call it. It’s scary. I’d much rather have a man who protects me figuratively/emotionally. Have my back, be my biggest cheerleader, take care of me when I’m sick and I’ll do the same right back. And if some combative dude bugs us? I’d rather my man not fight said combative man. Not a fan of violence. Go figure!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 12:04 AM
1

Are you a man? A woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:53 PM
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And to add to that, a “combative” man is more of a threat to me, theoretically, than he is a benefit. I don’t want him in combat with anyone, let alone me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:49 PM
7

😂😂🙌🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:47 PM
2

That’s probably true, huh? Wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 11:39 PM
2

If it’s just a hobby and it’s fun, but not obsessive, then cool! Great with me! That gives me some alone time to read or go see movies alone. I love having different hobbies so that you get a break sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/23 02:21 AM
2

Nope. It wouldn’t deter me at all. I’d simply ask why he’d been single so long, if I wanted to know. But otherwise, it makes no difference if he’s great and we are compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 11:56 PM
2

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:15 AM
1

Thanks so much for explaining the post to me. I should’ve known to consult you first so you could tell me how to correctly interpret it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 05:02 PM
5

The only reason to date others while trying to strike up a relationship with someone is to make sure you don’t get too attached or put all eggs in one basket. It’s a defense mechanism, for sure. I agree with this philosophy and would be very into it if the other person was into it too. It would suck for a man to think it best for women not to date around but men can. Thanks for clarifying for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:06 PM
1

It doesn’t have to! I met my husband through a writing workshop. He was by far the best in the course. He was brilliant, witty and so incredibly talented. Everyone loved him and his writing. He was very well regarded to a small circle of us. The fact that he was such a talented writer and funny and that everyone else saw him as this made me MORE attracted to him. The type of hierarchy doesn’t matter. Mine was that he just happened to be at the top of the class for a short period of time. But yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:01 PM
1

It doesn’t have to! I met my husband through a writing workshop. He was by far the best in the course. He was brilliant, witty and so incredibly talented. Everyone loved him and his writing. It was very well known to a small circle of us. The fact that he was such a talented writer and funny and that everyone else saw him as this made me MORE attracted to him. The hierarchy doesn’t matter. Mine was he just happened to be at the top of the class for a short period of time. But yeah, it made him m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 09:01 PM
1

You sound extremely well adjusted and like you’ve got a great head on your shoulders.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:51 PM
0

Yes. The this is 100% true. I’ve found myself attracted to people I wouldn’t normally be, simply because they are higher up in whatever hierarchy it is. There’s something inherently sexy about a leader, someone who’s capable or strong, depending. Someone others look up to and admire. Someone other women think is a good man. It all adds into attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:27 PM
1

Neither, based on the info you’ve given me. You’ve provided absolutely nothing of substance with which to consider since being handsome and having had sex/lack thereof does nothing to help you choose a partner. Tell me more about their personalities pls. Then I’ll decide.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:25 PM
3

Nope! Party phase does not mean ho phase! I live in LA and I very much enjoyed going out to bars and lounges and restaurants (and so much more) with my friends in my early twenties. I drank on nights out but that was it. Not into hard drugs. I dated some guys but rarely ever slept with them. I don’t sleep with people who are banging other people so I’d only sleep with actual boyfriends. Then I got tired of that and started doing other fun things that didn’t always involve alcohol or bars or goin…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:21 PM
6

Dating without it ending in marriage is what you do so that you can sort out what you do and don’t want. What you do and don’t need from a partner. You also do it because it’s pleasurable. Being in love doesn’t always have to end successfully for it to have meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:17 PM
3

Just want to make sure I’m getting this correctly. You think that if either the man or the woman is sleeping with someone else when you two are only talking this far, they won’t be capable of fully engaging with the person they’re talking to. Is that right? And if so, do you enjoy always only dating/talking to one person at the same time? I know some women tend to think like this, but not too many men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:16 PM
1

Nah, too much of a blanket statement. I’ve been attracted to people who weren’t conventionally attractive simply because they had the ability to be genuinely witty and because they had a huge amount of confidence. Had relationships with both. Of course this is anecdotal. So, do with it what you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:12 PM
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Why are you guys railing about not being able to get a woman and be loved for all your many unfortunate traits that you can’t possibly change when once you’ve achieved maximum potentiality, you’ve decided that getting a woman or a relationship is beneath you as you are superior. So which is it? You want a good, pretty woman to love you? Or you want to be so wanted that now, screw women! Brilliant logic there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 05:40 PM
5

No. Nor does he have any other faults or eccentricities that might not attract women. It’s DEF the height. Or ONLY bring introverted. I just feel sorry for the men who are introverts. And who are 5’7. NONE OF THOSE MEN have ever married, dated or felt the comforting touch of another.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 05:36 PM
1

What is this most men are unattractive shit? I hate when people get like that. Most men are attractive, I find. Everything about them. All sorts of types of attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 02:54 AM
1

Regardless of ease, I’m sticking with: creepy AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 09:25 PM
1

You’ve actually studied the sex lives of all mass shooters? Wow. Creepy as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 07:48 PM
1

Your sources, please?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 07:44 PM
1

Can someone link me to thing on passport bros that I’ve seen several people refer to now? I’m so confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 01:50 AM
4

You can get both. We’re rare, but we’re out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:20 PM
10

And hot, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/23 10:18 PM
1

A bit off topic, but since you’ve said you’re redpilled, which subs do you frequent? I’ve been more intrigued by these philosophies lately and would love to see both perspectives. Could only find TheBluePill but that’s a snark sub, I think. Any links would be helpful, if you don’t mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 09:02 PM
1

I’d love to see the statistics on this too. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:30 PM
3

I’m not a fan of those types of people as well. Anyone who is actively feeling sorry for themselves and building up resentment towards half the population isn’t going to be able to see clearly or rationally, I’m assuming. This sub can be genuinely thought provoking and interesting. I am grateful that I am privy to seeing how different men feel and that they have a safe space for themselves to vent. But there will always be the obstinate ones who believe they’re too smart to be wrong. Or who choo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:27 PM
3

I don’t hate all men. I don’t even hate any men I personally know, not even the ones who have sexually assaulted me. There’s zero room for hate in my head. I’m not built that way. I have really great relationships with the men I know, including my husband, who I’ve been with for almost 20 years. Most men are great. Some are fucking wonderful. I could name several dozen men I know right now, off the top of my head, who are amazing fathers, husbands, boyfriends, etc. There will always be more good…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:14 PM
5

Yep. You get it. And explained it well. Too bad he won’t be able to recognize the logic in what you’re saying. Thanks for the clarity you brought!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 05:04 PM
2

Thanks for agreeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 01:16 AM
5

So you’ve never had children, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 12:16 AM
1

There’s no inherent sexual disgust mechanism in we women, like you posited incorrectly. There’s nothing in us that determines their “value as a father” somehow, that then coerces us into wanting to fuck someone or not. This is the wackiest shit I’ve heard in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:47 PM
8

It absolutely is about rape and sexual assault, since men will inevitably rape and sexually assault us.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:31 PM
11

Are you seriously calling rape and sexual assault “drawbacks”? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 11:28 PM
3

How many alpha widows do you personally know? Or at least, friends of friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 03:11 AM
3

Yep. This, exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 03:10 AM
5

You guys are so angry at women in here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 08:20 PM
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I can offer up that at my kids school, I see average or less men who are short and happily married with kids. Lots of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 12:25 AM
2

I’d argue that everyone puts a heavy emphasis on aesthetics. Or, more specifically, everyone wants someone they find to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 07:53 PM
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I’m just getting tired of seeing men (on here and elsewhere. But usually in these types of settings) get genuinely upset that they aren’t getting enough sex or enough companionship from women. And the clear implication of whose fault that is? The clear indication that it’s not the poor men’s fault in any sort of way, because they all do everything absolutely perfectly, but are looked over because of some notion that all women only want chads or are withholding sex from men just for the fun of it…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 05:37 PM
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I don’t think it’s men OR women holding either opposite sex to unrealistic beauty standards at the end of the day. It’s society and the media. It’s how beauty companies get paid. It’s how plastic surgeons and beauty “spas” are so popular. And on and on. Our economy is bolstered by our own insecurities. And the people shilling the products? They all have a hand in keeping these standards not only around, but always unattainable. And it settles into us without us even realizing. You grow up in fai…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 11:52 PM
2

I changed it to “it’s normal in big cities”. That work better for you? It was my intended point, thought the implication came through, but I guess it didn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 05:39 PM
4

Not necessarily. I live in LA and it’s very normal in big cities for men and women to have focused on careers in their twenties and start getting ready to settle down in their thirties. It’s super healthy as who you are at say, 22 and who you are at 32 is worlds of difference. Getting married later gives you a better chance I’d finding someone you’ll be compatible with for longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 05:20 PM
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Please don’t let this get you down. You may have worded things wrong or misinterpreted something but you are neurodivergent. And that’s okay. Look for women who share your special interests. Or look for places that you might find other people on the spectrum. You are as good and as attractive as any neurotypical person. In fact, I think you bring more fun to the table. Please don’t get down on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:17 PM
4

I have no clue who or how many people Chris Hemsworth dated before his wife of a decade or more, and children. I don’t care. He’s a great looking guy who seems to be a likable person. But why we care about his looks independent of however many girls he’s banged? Because he’s more fun to look at on screen. That’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:09 PM
5

Loads of people are overweight and even obese. And loads of those people fall in love all the damn time.
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 01:08 AM
1

Nothing will get better for you until you decide to fix your outlook. Maybe even overhaul this part of your personality completely. Your lack of confidence and vitriol towards yourself and the world are the biggest turn off. Women appreciate men who are cool and fun and have some confidence. Work on being more like THAT. Feeling sorry for yourself gets you nowhere. I know we all indulge in it time to time, but after a bit you gotta make changes if you want to be happier. EDIT: this reads harsh. …
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 01:04 AM
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You’re an awesome human for explaining this so well and diplomatically
/r/ExRedPill28/06/22 12:59 AM
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