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... not even my coworkers know how much I make. When you answer her questions you are qualifying herself to her. That question specifically only has downsides for you. Other variations: "What do you do?" "You must be very smart" etcetc. All of them very bad for you. I agree that you should be proud of how much you make, but after some mistakes you learn to shut up about it and hope nobody ever finds out again. Humans can be very, very shitty.
/r/askTRP18/06/20 04:45 PM
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The problem is when it is in the open like here and the girl (thinks that she) loses social standing because of it. Social standing is everything for them. Also, it hurts the ego. It would have been fine if she hadn't known for sure.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 09:01 PM
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I know some girls that are bipolar (manic depressive), and they'd just have this thing where'd they totally like you one day and not care at all another day. It's annoying but not that bad for you. They wouldn't try to kill themselves, or manipulate you, really. It's just that their emotional "level" is not stable (at all--oscillates on a daily basis). On the other hand, the BPD girl would manipulate you all the time. The entire relationship would be based on manipulation. Who they are is basica…
/r/askTRP09/06/20 11:45 AM
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She probably has Borderline personality disorder. Look it up. Get out while you still can. Source: I barely survived a BPD relationship. Bipolar is not so bad, just annoying. It's not at all in the same ballpark as BPD. Are you sure you meant Bipolar?
/r/askTRP08/06/20 03:56 PM
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The air and water is clean, no homeless people, I have dogs and a river nearby and I’m happy which is more than I can say when I was at school. Yeah, school is stressful. A friend of mine finished a masters in economics fifteen years ago and he still has nightmares that he would fail a specific exam now. In a lot of countries the piece of paper that says that you finished university (almost any degree) can open a lot of doors, and not having it can give you a very real glass ceiling in your care…
/r/askTRP29/05/20 11:07 AM
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Just don't be butthurt about it. When you run into her, have pleasant empty small talk (Oh long time no see! How have you been!) then excuse yourself after 5 min (just say you have an appointment, no details). Not any longer than 5 min.
/r/askTRP29/05/20 10:40 AM
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Then I'd let her down gently and never do it. Don't reject her in an obvious way, just spend less time with her and be less forthcoming slowly and let it fizzle out.
/r/askTRP24/05/20 04:39 PM
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Is it a job or a career? That is, let's say she completely tanks your image in the company and gets you fired. Can you then go work somewhere else in the industry without problems? If it's a job and you don't care, go for it. If it's a career in something specialized where everyone knows everyone else, and you want to stay in the career, NO WAY.
/r/askTRP24/05/20 11:27 AM
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If you were Brad Pitt, would she do it?
/r/askTRP19/05/20 01:29 PM
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Most people have relationships in their 20's Yes, but do they have successful relationships? The point is that you have to learn with different girls. You're free not to believe us--but it's absolutely true. Most men in their 20s see the girl as the prize, have no idea how to vet a girl; jump through hoops to get or keep a low value girl, give away their time, their money and their commitment too soon, get married too early and finally get divorced by her. None of those things make any sense to …
/r/askTRP19/05/20 12:46 PM
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is it a struggle in the future with money? No one knows, especially with economic crisis now. But in the past I advanced in positions at companies over the years (by working smarter, not harder) and money increased a lot. So saving in the beginning is not so useful comparatively speaking (saving rate is like 0% too). However, investing in the beginning is a mighty good idea. That said, healthcare costs for me personally are getting higher and higher. Source: 37 yo.
/r/askTRP18/05/20 02:43 PM
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There's a difference between what women say and what they mean. Womanese is not really English. the amount of gals complaining about the fact that their male friends try to hit on them and how that sucks..... is insane. What they mean is they want it to be known that they are desireable enough that multiple male friends try to hit on them, so they are awesome. ​>so basically it seems to really bother a lot of women that they can't have male friends without shit getting complicated. Those are the…
/r/askTRP26/04/20 08:18 PM
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There are other possibilities. You can also use parallel construction. Now that you know, implicate them some other way that doesn't look so suspicious (if possible). If that's not possible, you can also make your gf think it's her idea and have her do it. I wouldn't expose the back channel directly--it would make you lose the back channel in the future.
/r/askTRP31/03/20 05:35 PM
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Look, there's nothing wrong with liking women as human beings, even being friends with them. But! So I left again. For like 9, 10 times. If you don't want to be with her, don't be with her. Her problems are her problems. You are not responsible. I should've kept in my rotation, she was a solid 9 and the sex was crazy so so was she. Also not on my level intelligence wise, but her being alone after her mom passed, man as a man I couldn't ignore that thing inside. Unfortunately women and society do…
/r/askTRP19/03/20 12:39 PM
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Look, it's something that you have to feel. If you feel you could kiss her now then you could have kissed her 10 min ago. That means do it right then. Also, don't overdo it in the beginning! As I already have made out with her, should I go in for the kiss immediately when meeting with her Usually I don't kiss her much then, just a normal hello kiss. Sometimes I say hello and walk next to her a little (like 5 steps) then turn and kiss her. But really, it depends on how you both feel. There's no r…
/r/askTRP17/02/20 03:37 PM
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Dating healthy women is ok, but have you guys ever dated any woman who openly or tried to hide her mental illness? I did the latter and barely survived. For the love of god don't date BPD (borderline) women. The other stuff is not that bad, but a BPD woman is life-threatening to the man. Given that I've now dated a lot of non-BPD women and saw how relaxing that is, there is no way I'd ever date a BPD woman again.
/r/askTRP10/02/20 08:03 PM
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... dude, what else could "her own reasons" possibly be? Flaking on plans, not inviting me out. Some other man she liked was at those events. She admitted that she was in fact avoiding me for her own reasons. Because of some other man. She won’t tell me what. It was some other man. She’s since changed and has become the person I wanted at the start. The other man gave her the boot. It was blue pill of me not to vet her properly. But it is what it is. /u/depressedthrowaway3y: Yeah, so now that yo…
/r/askTRP05/02/20 10:20 AM
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But part of being a man is rising to the task and takings risks, and as bad as divorce rape is, it's not getting gored by an 8-foot tusk. Taking calculated risks. Just calculate the risk/reward ratio there. There's no reward for men - and extreme incentives to be bad for the women (so enormous risks for men). Marrying and having no women at all are not the only choices. Just don't marry and have your women anyway. That has only benefits.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/20 07:08 PM
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I believe some relationship splits are very needed but most can probably be avoided if someone cares enough to swallow their ego and try to understand the other person. Not really. If divorces could be avoided they would be avoided, especially by the man--who can lose so much. I agree that both should try and not just the man. However I would bet almost every case that’s left her in the circumstances she’s in was a pussy boy chad to begin with. Women are the gatekeepers of sex. That is their rol…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/01/20 06:59 PM
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Crabs in a bucket. They try to keep you down. Once you advance, a lot of old "friends" are going to resent you.
/r/askTRP29/01/20 11:21 AM
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So wbu? How do you know? I frequent traveller bars so I'm the guy who hooks up with them. It's very easy.
/r/askTRP29/01/20 11:15 AM
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it might be beneficial to talk to women directly about why they may behave the way they do I doubt that. The plural of anecdote is not data.
/r/askTRP25/01/20 03:24 PM
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Any rational man hopes for the best and plans for the worst. It's just that the worst is really bad (losing everything in a - very probable - divorce, possible jail). It does affect women--see "where have all the real men gone". Something that is this bad for men will also be bad for women, eventually. We are in this together. If it doesn't affect you, I'm happy for you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/20 02:59 PM
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Men are particularly bad at forming deep, emotionally supportive friendships, So we should learn that--and we do learn. especially when most other men are married. Translation: The wifes of the other married men don't like them to spend time with others outside the marriage. Aging, becoming debilitated, and dying are long, unglamorous processes that only those who love you will accompany you through. Most women won't stay through that. Some will, but you are more likely to win the lottery than t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/20 02:55 PM
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Very very effective. (I went only like 10 h total; I'd at least go three hours because the first two are spent just finding out what's wrong) While you are at the therapy sessions you don't feel much happening and its not really a normal conversation like in the movies. (Accredited) psychologists are very good at knowing what makes the mind tick and how to coax it to do something--like someone else would be good at auto mechanics. He did ostensibly very little--but it changed me forever for the …
/r/TheRedPill25/01/20 12:30 PM
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To know my worth and ask for what I want. You'd be surprised how much you can get when you just ask (or, really, woo) the right people. In the end I don't flaunt it. If they do flaunt it, you'd have to ask why.
/r/askTRP22/01/20 12:10 PM
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I'd just ignore the shit test failure (it was one) and, on Friday, just send her that you are on the way for the sleepover (don't get her highness' permission). Don't message until then. It's not a big deal. There is one of the ways women's chatty ways help you: She probably will talk so much to other people in the interim that she'll forget all about your fuckup.
/r/askTRP21/01/20 02:57 PM
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It's their loss.
/r/askTRP17/01/20 01:26 AM
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She wants the attention from other men, with no risk, in order to spice up her boring relationship. If she doesn't put out (whatever the hell the reason), NEXT. Also, no contact.
/r/askTRP17/01/20 01:07 AM
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And that all the extremely good looking guys can get with girls that have boyfriends and even husbands? I can ask girls (where I know they have a boyfriend) point blank if they have one and they'll deflect the question and never ever say "yes". See it from their perspective: Why would they personally ruin their own chance?
/r/askTRP11/11/19 10:27 AM
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It's college, who cares about your "reputation" there in this case? Nobody will know in the working world - if that's what you are worried about. Of course women don't like you doing man things like not committing to women. She is a woman (even if she's your sister, she is likely not looking out for you - and even if she did, she can't understand being a man anyway). Check out what the evaluation of players by women actually is: they get wet for them. If one other girl likes you, that's preselec…
/r/askTRP03/11/19 05:00 PM
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Try it yourself. Just flatter someone way more than warranted. You'll see that it's demeaning to both. The feelings are: inauthenticity, embarrassment, suspicion (!), hurt. For some reason, women made nice guys who always flatter too much. I know, I was one. But by dialling it to 11 a few times I still saw how bad it was and how unfair it was to the other person. Nowadays in the rare cases I respect someone new you can be sure that I mean it. Of course society tries to go the opposite way with t…
/r/TheRedPill17/10/19 08:06 PM
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The only way forward that doesn't result in more problems for you (boy do you have problems already) is to hold frame. Don't hide yourself. Do not apologize, it would be an "admission of guilt". And DON'T apologize in writing (that includes e-mail)--or admit to anything you don't have to. Trickle truth them. Don't mention what they haven't seen. How Dominant Men Speak But look for a new job anyway.
/r/askTRP16/10/19 12:52 AM
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You know, you seem worked up. Calm down and look at some flowers. Life is beautiful. I learnt cooking pretty well from a course. So it's not too late for you. I can recommend it. Name-calling stopped being cool when we were 8 yo. Throwing an adult temper tantrum b/c a meal is not on your table is not a “preference”. I would leave a LTR if she didn't cook for us. That's definitely a preference or demand or whatever.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 07:32 PM
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Many women like cooking--and also it's a easy way for her to impress me. I don't like cooking so much. So when I come home to my LTR, some good food is on the table. In the morning, some kind of food is on the table or I'll not return. Those are my boundaries and I communicate them. Even flings know that and do the (small) cooking--so if a LTR didn't cook for us then that would be bad... for her. I can cook. But it's her job. I'll fix the lawnmower instead or swap the tires on her car or somethi…
/r/askTRP15/10/19 08:26 AM
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Most women with an IQ of more than 115 don't spend much time in clubs and bars I've met women who are neuroscientists in bars. They are living in the same city as everyone else--where else would they go for a fun night out? Maybe the bar scene is different for you, but in Vienna those are definitely also in bars.
/r/askTRP12/10/19 12:40 PM
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Society can counter nature tho. No, that is delusion. I understand it's nice to think that we are independent--but we do what nature does. We are nature. We can't run counter to nature even for a minute. We can delude ourselves that we are doing that, but it's bullshit. It's a logical impossibility. For example, survival of the fittest. Society is set up to counter this, it's now survival of the rich. I don't think that "fit" in this context means what you think it means. The reproductive succes…
/r/askTRP12/10/19 12:29 PM
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How in the flying fuck do you guys stay detached from multiple girls who display no red flags and are your EXACT type, basically the dream girls of your blue pill days? By making the mistake of overcommitting and then them losing interest, over and over again. Eventually, you understand that you must not make them too comfortable ever, and, even if you like them, don't supplicate ever. You have to be in control all the time and they have to be submissive (they like it more anyway).
/r/askTRP04/10/19 01:35 PM
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If people in a relationship have an agreement in which the mother has a career and the father stays home, that's fine as well right? The most important thing is that a child gets raised with love and care. I mean that could in principle happen. It almost never happens because--among other things--men are shamed if they want the leisurely safe job that is the stay-at-home parent. Furthermore, women want a man that earns more than her, that's not going to happen then. But from your point of view i…
/r/TheRedPill03/10/19 10:54 AM
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If a new client/customer has a commission for you so urgent that they will pay a premium to have it done yesterday, assume that it is a scam and that you will not get paid. (Guess how I know this?) Yeah, fuck those people. They are the reason why I charge part upfront...
/r/TheRedPill03/10/19 09:45 AM
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Hi there fellow banker. I'm doing both--banking and having my own company (seperate). For some reason they don't forbid me from doing that (although one has to tell them because of regulations) and I'm certainly not going to complain. If my company fails, I don't care much. If my banking job fails, I don't care much. That makes me very relaxed.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/19 09:28 AM
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Them trying to ban TRP was advertising for TRP. Not using that to our benefit would be a grave mistake (although walking on eggshells would be, too). Of course trp.red should be finished first and, after all the noise has died down, then we can move over.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/19 12:01 AM
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Eventually. It's remotely possible that there's no drama--but usually eventually something will come up and it will be where you live and sleep. That's also why I don't cohabitate even with a LTR. The downside is massive and I don't have enough time to find new lodging/change the keys whatever all the time. Kinds of drama: Trying to lock you down now that you had sex; or conversely cockblocking you when other girls are there.
/r/askTRP27/09/19 02:28 PM
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If you are young, don't take the self-righteous romanticism of Chris Mccandless too seriously. I did, but I snapped out of it in my 30s. In fact we are all in nature and all that you need to do if you don't like your peers (because they are suffocating you etc) is to change your residence (depending on how far you go there are very very cheap or free residences in strange places where no one will bother you) - not check out of society for good with no damn preparation for the wilderness. In orde…
/r/TheRedPill25/09/19 10:48 AM
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There can be many causes - I've even been to the general practitioning doctor and told him about it (that was awkward but he was surprisingly supportive) and we tried a lot of things: Penis exam, Psych evaluation (turned into psych sessions), Cialis etc. But it didn't really fix it (Cialis is a workaround, but it does work) - fucking another girl fixed it, now I only have ED twice a year or so (no medication at all). The previous girl was just bad news (it turned out) and I think I somehow knew.…
/r/askTRP23/09/19 11:05 AM
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Women communicate covertly because it benefits them. They do not like people overtly pointing out their strategies, just like you wouldn't like someone pointing out your plans before you could execute them. Betas knowing what's up could very well fuck up women's entire life plan. TRP points out women's strategies very overtly with no possible misunderstanding--it doesn't sugarcoat anything and calls out on anyone who tries to sugarcoat (i.e. lie). No surprise that they hate TRP. Because of proje…
/r/askTRP22/09/19 12:09 PM
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Yeah, I have been there. It's only a problem if it keeps happening. In the end of it, your mind has to be at ease. Anxiety is the new normal, but it's a huge problem for staying hard and also for cumming. Try to stay in the moment only, not too many ruminations about the past or future for the duration of the fuck. Also, don't be too much goal-driven, it doesn't have to include penetration to be enjoyable sex (don't force it). If you (happen to) shut out your own feelings, you also shut out plea…
/r/askTRP22/09/19 11:40 AM
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Nothing wrong with that--there are all kinds of relationship models. Check out OLTR if you want.
/r/askTRP22/09/19 11:17 AM
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Not really (I read about it), but I have a friend who's a carpenter and I talked to him for a bit. I've also talked to carpenters at events (weddings etc). I've got a physics education, so it should be safe and not break down from a forces point of view. When you try it, wear gloves - because no matter how careful you are cutting, there are going to be some tiny splinters that can annoy you a lot (after cutting real wood).
/r/askTRP20/09/19 10:03 AM
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I just built the sofa I'm sitting on. It's fun and easy to get started in (just need an electric drill, a (manual) saw and some screws for wood) and rewarding.
/r/askTRP20/09/19 09:55 AM
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Welcome to life as a contractor. Of course once they see that someone knows their shit, they want them to do all their work, too. (1) Do charge by the hour (or at least very good money if it's on a per-project basis). If you charge much more than one of their employees cost they'll give the employee the shit work so you don't have to. (2) Never do more work than you want. It would make your gut feel really bad if you did. Think you feel bad now? Wait until you experience that. Do not recommend. …
/r/askTRP18/09/19 01:10 PM
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Many men get hit on by nobody. Some male friends think you are lying when you say that some girl hit on you. So it' s a sign that you are on the right path. It will suck for a little while more (eventually both fat and fit women will hit on you) but eventually as you progress the fat women will get intimidated in your presence and not hit on you anymore (because your SMV is too high). Other than that, word does get around. A really good friend of mine is only known with my other friends as "the …
/r/askTRP18/09/19 09:01 AM
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I remember that phase. It will pass. Continue lifting. (after two years of lifting it's much better. I got the love of a makeup artist who looks the part, for reference) That said, learn to talk about silly stuff with people you don't much care about. You'll need it with colleagues of customers in professional life, too. Talk to her about the weather for a minute (be sure to seem distracted), then look at your watch say you have to run (even if you don't). At no point should you entertain a rela…
/r/askTRP18/09/19 08:53 AM
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That's probably how the friend of her framed it, yes.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 07:11 PM
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That's good. Since she least showed that intent on her own it can work (but make her work for it for another month or so). That said, the upsides of an exclusive relationship for guys are really few. And watch her take up all your free time. And the downside is that security kills attraction - sooner or later. Maybe later, who knows. Also, you are going to get bored of one woman. Why a man would want that, while he's knowing all the facts, I don't know.
/r/askTRP26/08/19 06:16 PM
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What I'm not going to accept is her, reluctanty and begrudgingly, cutting her plates loose after we agreed to be exclusive because I tell her to. She should be ecstatic to be with me - and women want one quality man anyway. So what the hell is she doing? These are my boundaries. Yours might be different, but they have served me well. Her attitude is either a HELL YES or I take it as a no. Just think of what you are losing. Your freedom. She better be enthusiastic and you better like her a lot - …
/r/askTRP26/08/19 06:11 PM
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If she wants a relationship with me, she's going to have to give up all the other plates she has on her own without my prompting or there's no deal. Quality women will. What I'll not accept is her not giving up any plates yet and then me agreeing to a relationship and then she letting go of the others. Hell no. She knows I’m out here fucking other girls so why would it be fair to say she can’t fuck other guys? Who cares whether it would be fair or not? You are the prize so you set the terms. Fai…
/r/askTRP26/08/19 06:01 PM
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This guy gets it. Basically make it obvious that you don't jump to her texts. If she wants validation, she can get it in person, possibly in your house. I'm doing that regularly and boy does it work (as in, her texts get more and more I-want-to-go-to-your-house-ish).
/r/askTRP22/08/19 08:34 PM
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I agree. It also means that she noticed a LACK of texting despite all the other texts from other guys she's getting, which means she is obsessing over him (otherwise she won't have noticed a lack or something - try noticing a lack of something, it's not easy). So all around a good thing.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 01:54 PM
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It depends on your time in life. Since I found my mission, I have no time to waste. I still meet women of course, but two flakes and I'm done (and she better tell me before, otherwise it counts double). It's not even personal - I can't afford a flake. I don't even have to tell them, it just shows in my mannerism. If they are even a little late they call me and apologize - they know it's inappropriate. If you have enough time then maybe it's different. But you not respecting your time is unattrac…
/r/askTRP01/08/19 07:14 PM
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Everyone judges everyone else. Why do you care when you are judged? I am judged, you are judged, everyone is judged. The difference is I don't care if people judge me, because I know that I'm in the right. And maybe she had to tell you because she was in your place before. You know, compassion.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/07/19 01:23 PM
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going on about someone's "character" is another no matter what it is and what they're doing. I agree, but that's probably not what she said in the real world. It's easy to embellish things in order to get support. In the end it's a she-said-she-said situation which is why nothing will come from complaining - it could even all be made up. Some of it is - there are telltale signs (nobody talks like that). As a man trying to get a vasectomy, one well-meaning doctor said something like "If you do th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/07/19 10:05 AM
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No, you are right. That's why you have to spot the deal and only buy those - best after an house inspector took a look at them (inspection costs EUR 1000; architects do them). I had a house that you describe and it was burning a hole in my pocket. I sold. Everyone told me I was crazy selling it. But people only saw the "finished" house. Of course the house looked good, but at what cost (both in my money and my time - I learned a lot of maintenance skills I really didn't want to learn)? Three yea…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/19 07:58 AM
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It depends on how important your friendship with him is. He might decide he does have a problem with it after you did it. That said, I've done it before and it worked out fine (he was poly so he was quite okay with it).
/r/TheRedPill29/06/19 12:16 PM
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It takes time to develop a spine. Since you identified the problem in yourself you can fix your handling of the next similar woman (there are lots). That said, clingy girl won't have changed in time.
/r/TheRedPill29/06/19 07:38 AM
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she lives 3 hours away from me (currently i have a girl at work so this its beneficial) Ah, that makes sense. only gave her 1 or 2 hours of time on ever[y] "date" That's good! (increase value through absence). If she's not oblivious (she isn't; she's 28 and had enough time to learn), if she comes to spend the night with you, she'll be DTF (usually happily preparing right now). Should she not put out, then tell her that you'll send her home (right then). The message then comes across. That said, …
/r/TheRedPill28/06/19 08:28 AM
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I just started dating a girl from another state What does that mean? Does she still live there? You far away? she only had a previous sexual partner, she's 28. She's probably lying. Possibly about both, but pretty sure about the first one. so far i've seen her 3 times and made it to 2nd base, how should it move from here?. It's your time to waste but I think it's hopeless with her (except if she was on the rag or something).
/r/TheRedPill25/06/19 09:20 PM
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It's not a hard and fast rule, but know that if you bring her to higher-tier events she's gonna provider hunt you. That's why I (learned to) take first dates to places beyond my tier. It sucks that one has to be so careful, but women gonna woman. Just wondering at what point it results in a loss of frame or gives a vibe of low self-respect. If you pay because you want you two to have a good time, she'll know. If you pay because you want to establish a covert contract, she'll know. If you pay bec…
/r/TheRedPill24/06/19 08:00 PM
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Cafe for a quick check that she's not a psycho and then an activity (even if it's only running around in a fair). It's always the same cafe for different women and I think by now the servers caught on :)
/r/TheRedPill24/06/19 07:57 PM
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There are tricks I use, for example body language. You can show interest, show understanding (even when you don't understand a word), point at things, take them by the hand (just a little if you just met) and finally isolate them to a less loud location (still inside the club!). If you cup your hand around her ear, she'll hear better. Also if you put your finger above her earlobe and speak onto it instead. In any case, if you don't like loud clubs, find less loud clubs, or bars, or anywhere else…
/r/askTRP20/06/19 09:16 PM
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That's the truth. One of the most successful non-trying seductions I had: I was out with friends. I just spent time with my friends and joked with them (about everyday stuff we experienced) - it was an anniversary -, then just once said "hi" to her (a stranger) when passing her and then went on to the friends. No conversation with her at first, just social proof by being fun with my friends for our sake. She turned down four other guys who wanted to dance with her and followed us to the next ven…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/19 11:15 AM
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At that point you can just open your own business and reap all the rewards.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/19 05:01 AM
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I think the most important thing to understand is that some feminists are employed at political positions they carved out for themselves. They have to have something to be upset about, otherwise they'd lose their job. If there's not something readily apparent, just make something up. It's a political tactic as old as time.
/r/TheRedPill21/05/19 01:05 PM
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If not it’ll make his divorce a hell of a lot cheaper. That's not how it works. The court figures out how much you could potentially earn and then uses that amount.
/r/TheRedPill21/05/19 09:43 AM
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For reference, white men are a minority in your country (< 50%; they are 31% to be exact [1]) and by Mastodon's own admission DO hold systemic power. Not everything is about number of followers and in-groups and out-groups. In a republic, the number of such people in the constituency only have an indirect effect (and should). So the "systematically" thing has two conflicting definitions in your sentence. Which is it? Majority? Or power? [1] https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/the-fix/wp/2014/10/…
/r/MensRights16/05/19 08:24 PM
11

It's worse: The magazine is insinuating that they could make articles painting his dating 21 year olds in a negative light (including his pick up past) if he doesn't pay up. One step removed from actual blackmail.
/r/TheRedPill12/05/19 08:48 PM
1

It depends on the job. If it's a grunt job to pay the bills, sure. If it's a career job, no way in hell.
/r/askTRP03/05/19 08:36 AM
1

Finish your education. It's important. I just compare the no-degree-holders with the degree-holders in my friend circle... and it's like they are in different worlds. The degree-holders never had to look for work. Ever. What they do is they choose where to go in their career. The non-degree-holders get fired for stupid things like not coming back from lunch on time. So just make global progress - nobody is after you, so you can also finish it slowly. But do finish it. The piece of paper is worth…
/r/askTRP30/04/19 06:31 PM
11

Can't we all just treat each other with respect and live our lives? Yes, that would be humanism. We've had that long before feminism. Apparently, everyone is trying really hard to ignore it.
/r/PussyPassDenied24/04/19 10:32 PM
7

In the end I kind of gave up trying to control everything. Life is like it is, you can either accept it or fight windmills for the rest of your life. Some things are like they are, why worry about them when you can't possibly change them? Your mom will never return, and neither will mine, why worry? I've internalized this paragraph--my character is like that now. People pick that vibe up that I'm way more easygoing than the average person now. Earlier, I was a worrywort. On the other hand, if it…
/r/askTRP16/04/19 11:34 AM
5

Someone outside, even with the best intentions, can't give you what you crave. You have to give yourself what you need. Because of your broken family you couldn't experience that. When growing up my mom was always there and my dad was absentee. Let me tell you that even with mom there all the time she couldn't give me what I needed. It's impossible. They are different from us and so they can't, even if we try really hard, help us (or even really understand us). Also, like it or not, everyone has…
/r/askTRP16/04/19 11:20 AM
1

You know, you can learn all those things in a reasonable time. Where I live taxes are very high so I save a lot of money (thousands a year) by fixing my own car instead of letting it get fixed. But I learnt it slowly, together with friends, and by watching youtube videos about it (had an absentee father). If you want to learn it, it's going to be fine for you, too. For example I don't know how to change a car tire, jump start a car, fix a car or practically anything about cars. Changing a car ti…
/r/askTRP15/04/19 10:25 AM
32

I don't know why other people "shit" on video games but I do because the successful ones are designed to be addictive on a primal level. That's not healthy. But you are right that if you read the newest crime entertainment series you have the exact same problem. But I at least really mean "reading non-fiction factual books" when I say "reading".
/r/askTRP08/04/19 09:05 PM
4

... it's true. If she sets up hoops, don't jump through them. It's a shit test. Her: "I wanna get flowers, be wined and dined etcetc" Yeah, no, they really don't. Her: "People usually don't go home with a guy the first night" The hell they don't. I once thought I had to jump through all those hoops. It was all in my head and because men take things too literally. What she wanted to hear is the confident answer "No" to these funny ideas. Now I'm much better. Aint nobody got time for those hoops. …
/r/askTRP04/04/19 10:41 PM
1

I’m 10% body fat and workout almost every single day, I’m well above average [...] looks wise. So it will take about one try until someone wants to boyfriend you again. Don't give in. Sample them, don't commit.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 07:41 PM
2

I took a job ten years ago which required an extensive background check (finance) and my god is the quality of the people good. Nobody steals, nobody gossips in a bad way, calm collected people, everyone has basic table manners, safe workplace (guards at the entrance) etc. A few people there are even red pill. And the women dress like women. Chances I'd ever take a grunt job again like I did in the distant past? 0%. So I'd advise you to look for a better job.
/r/askTRP04/04/19 07:09 PM
1

But making a habit of paying women to pretend to enjoy taking a ride on your dad bod sounds pretty beta to me. I agree. But going to hookers in the first place is already something that society looks down upon and you took the first step in getting freedom for yourself by going to a hooker and thus removing a lot of power from women. Just don't keep doing that specific thing forever. Also, damn, are hookers provider hunting. The latter lesson was worth it all by itself.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/19 05:50 PM
1

What's that about? There's no useful meaning in a relationship with a woman. Believe me, I tried.
/r/askTRP28/03/19 11:16 PM
2

If you ever find one you don't get bored of I salute you. Never happened to me so far.
/r/askTRP28/03/19 11:15 PM
2

A woman is a being with her own agenda. It's her nature. I'm not angry at a snake for biting people either. It's a shame (and I think it's terrible), but that's what snakes do. They bite. Tilting at windmills does nothing productive. Likewise, there are people keeping tigers as pets. One day the tiger could eat them. And it would be the person's doing - and it would be silly to get angry about the tiger. It's what tigers do. No matter how hard it is, if I let myself be in a situation where a wom…
/r/TheRedPill27/03/19 08:31 PM
2

In many cultures the father of the girl gives you cows and sheep etc in addition to the girl (dowry). I keep seeing it referred to as "pay for the wife" but that's usually not what happens. As a man, you get the money and the wife from the father of your wife.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/19 07:47 PM
1

... wow. That quote has to be satire or some reverse psychology recruiting drive...
/r/askTRP25/03/19 11:35 PM
1

Just from a practical standpoint: Some women are really bad at sex. Do you want to form a "connection" and then find out she can't do it? What do you do then? I mean you can just have a connection and not have sex, that would be a friend. But what if you want her but she friendzones you? Or worse, doesn't friendzone you but you two can't have sex when you eventually try (brother-sister dynamic etc)? It's just a bad idea all around. Just fuck a new girl after the first date. If you really have to…
/r/askTRP21/03/19 10:33 AM
2

I agree, but demanding it verbally is necessary. At least I was phenomenally bad doing that in the past. I now pretty much say a version of your latest sentences to friends - and it works out fine. Once is enough, but many don't even say it once (in fact they try to imply the opposite as much as possible).
/r/TheRedPill11/03/19 04:56 PM
2

The book goes overboard with this idea of "covert contract". The idea that you should not cooperate with other people, by being the first on who does something "for" the other party, because it somehow implies you expect a "covert contract" is not only wrong, it is insulting. That's not exactly what he is saying. Nice guys are terrified of asking for something. Therefore, they will do all kind of things in the hope of getting something they need without asking for it. Then when the need inevitab…
/r/TheRedPill06/03/19 07:33 PM
2

People are different and it's a matter of their age, too. If they are young, they might be oblivious. After 25? No.
/r/askTRP05/03/19 08:15 PM
5

After an eviction notice you still have time to find new accomodation, usually. I know what you mean, though. If he just locked them out it would show low class (in some countries it's even illegal). But he did it the official way and there's an established process for eviction and a deadline that is far in the future, not the same day or anything. That said, it would have been better to just confront them head-on. But it's not reasonable to expect OP to have the level of development necessary t…
/r/TheRedPill03/03/19 05:36 PM
2

I'm not a statesman so I have no opinion on equality, gender rights, gender roles or what needs to change in society, except for the people I care about and myself. However, I do know how to effect change. I have no issues with men's rights activism to improve things that need to be improved. I agree, but they are going about it wrong. Society does not care about men the same way they do care about women, so the men's rights movement adopting feminist strategies (as they do) will not work. At th…
/r/askTRP05/02/19 05:28 PM
2

Yeah, but it's not seeking validation.
/r/askTRP04/02/19 11:18 AM
5

Of course there's a risk it goes sour, but that's true of everything. A greater than 50% risk. For examples, look at the most successful people on the planet. I really don't care what other people think/do. If you didn't procreate, you've failed at the most basic biological level. I can decide what my goals are - and procreation is not it. I didn't fail because I didn't set out to do that in the first place. What's next? Eat shit because millions of flies do it? That's a silly way to decide what…
/r/TheRedPill26/01/19 01:00 AM
2

Am adult brain will punish themselves for days, months, even years for a single failure. Only when you are overthinking. You know the difference between a successful man and an unsuccessful man, even in business? The successful man failed 100 times, the unsuccessful man once, and then he didn't get up again. have fully defined 6 pack. I have no six pack and no problem. This is one of the things I think either gets lost in transmission or people are not clear about it enough. Lifting helps YOU me…
/r/seduction25/01/19 08:28 PM
3

They all want to take and never want to give. And then through hardship the most unlikely of people come through, the ones who you thought were for themselves and vulgar and un-PC, those come through and give. And the goodie-two-shoes are nowhere to be found. Life is weird. I also no longer sacrifice my needs for someone else in the hope that they would provide it back. ​Yes, covert contracts are so bad. It took so long for me to acknowledge (1) I have needs and (2) It's necessary to verbally de…
/r/askTRP25/01/19 07:55 PM
4

She probably talked to someone about it who she shouldn't have talked to. Now she's got the bug in her head. Did you properly isolate her the second time or were others in the vicinity? how we barely know each other, That's what they always say on the day we get into bed. of how she can't, That, too. of how she just got out of a relationship That's always the case. That, or she's in one. There are few other possibilities for attractive women. I know it's unsalvageable from here on. Why would you…
/r/askTRP24/01/19 12:03 AM
4

Is using sex to keep her bonded a total Male fantasy? Nope. Works 100%.
/r/askTRP21/01/19 03:05 PM
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She's a woman, it doesn't apply to her.
/r/seduction20/01/19 02:49 PM
3

That depends on whether you want to understand the world as it is or play word games.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 08:59 AM
1

The truth is more important than feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 12:27 AM
4

The founders of feminism were well-known man-blamers (for example see books by Warren Farrell - the head of "NOW", the first feminist organization) and I doubt that they would support anything helping men (or care about them in the first place - except incidentially to further their power). I'm not singling out feminists for that - it's natural for any us-vs-them organization to do that. And that's just the origin. It got worse over time. You can Google the definition of feminism, it's actually …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/19 12:03 AM
2

That is exactly what happens and it is in fact clingy and men shouldn't do it. But the guy treats her like a princess at first (the hook) and only then turns out to be an asshole. /s The good-looking guy never treats her like a princess. He doesn't have to do anything - and he doesn't do anything. The less he does the better it is (because she fills in the gaps).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 01:54 PM
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Do men need to hold other men more accountable as well for choosing the wrong women? We do hold them accountable. That weird padded-room-coddling would make a man angry because it would feel like the other party is treating them like a child and trying to pull the wool over their eyes. That would not go over well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/19 11:59 AM
5

Your life will be much better when you stop caring what other people think (when they can't affect you anyway). It's some serious trick women pulled when they got men to do their bidding even though they had nothing to threaten them with except some bad words. Stop it. Fuck who you want to fuck. It's legal. is this somehow going to be a problem when "mama bear" finds out? Which one? Yours or hers? Hers doesn't matter to you at all.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 04:22 PM
1

Those are all inane replies. That's the point - you are holding up a mirror to her. When someone says or does something stupid you give them rope to hang themselves on it. It validates her unfounded opinion as something to take seriously. I wouldn't do it. I did in the past, but no more.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 06:29 PM
1

Why did you not engage with her to clarify what she said? Hell no. Do not engage rationally with a woman. Nothing good comes from it, it's boring and wastes your time. In this case, agree and amplify. "Yeah, I'm like a ghost! Nothing can touch me!" or "Why don't you tell me what you really think?" and chuckle and forget the inane stuff women say.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 05:56 PM
2

Don't commit then.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 08:56 PM
1

Getting hit on is not bad Thanks! Yelling 'Nice shirt' or 'I like your hair' is flirting. How is that flirting? I tell that to my male colleagues, too, and I'm not gay. Yelling sexual innuendo or outright requests for sexual acts is harrassment that puzzles the fuck out of me. Why do you do this? Because they don't know that most women like to be obscure and covert (basically they are socially inexperienced with women - you see this often in construction and other almost completely male dominate…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 10:13 AM
1

compare an unwanted advance to, say, someone shouting insults at me, Errr. Showing that one is desiring someone else romantically is not an insult. It's a compliment. Also, if hitting on women was outlawed, how would they allow Chad to hit on them, then? (which they very much want) Frankly speaking, in the era of Tinder and OKCupid, who even approaches IRL anyway? ??? Everyone who wants to succeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 09:53 AM
0

What you (and many) are unwittingly subscribing to (and I'm not blaming you, Marxists and feminists work their hardest every day to make you subscribe) is called the Hegelian oppression/oppressed narrative (See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oppressors%E2%80%93oppressed_distinction ) and it's harmful to you, to others and to the world. I suggest that you stop identifying as a victim, and definitely stop identifying your BF as a victim (it's emasculating). Victimizing yourself is not going to impr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/18 09:04 AM
2

My problem is that i no longer find joy, and enjoyment in life. For how long? If it's more than 6 months, see a shrink (it's usually paid for by the university). It happens. Also, you need to find a reason to get up in the morning, a mission, something nice that you like and that gives you satisfaction and you can work towards. It's pretty okay at that age to not have one yet, but start trying stuff now. I found physics research. I don't think I'll ever get to the end of it. We had programming c…
/r/TheRedPill24/12/18 06:09 PM
-1

man whore Doesn't exist except as a funny oxymoron like "plastic silverware".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 03:26 PM
1

The probability of birth defect gets progressively worse with age.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 03:18 PM
0

I understand why you feel that way, but it's normal for men to play the field. You aren't the second choice - men don't want to "choose" in the sense you are thinking, that's a woman thing and if we do commit it's a favor to you personally. I know modern society tries to muddle the waters (by lying, mostly) but it is like it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 02:32 PM
2

I understand that. There are many many men who want a family and are fine with climbing the corporate career ladder (which is about as fun as having your teeth pulled - or slightly less fun) in order to make bank and support their family in any way possible. I have multiple such men as colleagues (investment banking). They have pictures of their wifes and sons and daughters in their offices and talk about what nice trip they are planning to do for them next. I got to talking to one of them at th…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 02:14 PM
2

It has nothing to do with deserve, but time waits for no one. I should know, I was way too shy for my own good and wasted years either alone or with women bad for me (much worse than being alone). No more. I am now the extrovert player and have no problem with women. So the "women like extrovert players" stereotype was true, and being a player is better for men and men should do it for a time. Huh. Makes one wonder what other stereotypes are true. Thank god I was a man, otherwise that would have…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 12:52 PM
3

Men get all beady and resentful when women aren’t in a hurry to settle down before age 30. I don't hear him being beady or resentful. But I am not as attuned to these things as women are... If your mother loves you, she will tell you that if you want to have children at all, to marry and have children etc young. Men (apart from your father, I guess) really shouldn't care much. The problem is, why would I give my youth, freedom, beauty, and womb to a man Because otherwise, someone else will. And …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/18 12:05 PM
2

I think it can also mean that my turn is limited because I will get tired of her. In any adoration, there are only two things that can happen: I disappear, or it disappears. There are no other options.
/r/TheRedPill21/12/18 06:43 AM
4

Every person is an individual and therefore different People are more alike than different. Over the years you'll see the same few people again in new people. It's not true that every person is (more than marginally) different. Especially not in a shared culture. there is no “one size fits all” way of getting laid There is, it's called game and it works very often - much more than if it were due to chance. I agree that those are the usual blue pill tips, but I don't agree that they are decent. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/18 11:59 PM
10

^ This guy has planned spontaneity down pat. I do similar things. Works.
/r/askTRP18/12/18 05:23 PM
7

I think he meant you don't need a girlfriend. Not that you don't have friends, talk to people, associate with others in pursuit of a goal etc. From time to time, girls are nice, too, but just don't attach to them like a tick. This is the Disney illness: It's always the girlfriend that's supposed to hear you out, make you happy when you are down, give you meaning, make you want to succeed ... it's a load of bullshit. As soon as I stopped expecting any of that stuff from girls (took way too long a…
/r/TheRedPill18/12/18 01:42 PM
0

Of course, same goes for men right? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 10:20 PM
1

What feminists tell women tend to make it harder for men to have sex, but not intentionally. ??? scratches head I am forever grateful to feminists that I as a man can now have any woman I want (if we are attracted) without me giving any commitment, so what's the above about? That's literally the opposite of what happened. It's a zero sum game. Helping ourselves has to mean hurting you. Sex is not zero sum. If it's not enjoyable to both, why do it (and I mean that in a practical way - I've had to…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 10:19 PM
1

I live in a country where prostitution is legal. I've visited hookers and the honesty is refreshing - the fun ones straight out state they only want your money while they fuck your brains out with no compunctions. They make sure that you are satisfied because it's a service you paid for and they want to give you your money's worth. So the sex has always been at least good (sometimes stellar) - as opposed to non-hooker women where sometimes the sex was seriously bad (as in "have you ever done any…
/r/askTRP08/12/18 05:20 PM
2

Dude, he is lying obviously. Not even newlywed couple have sex twice everyday all year long. ... I have bad news for you. Although the girls who do that usually have issues (don't they all?), but I can confirm that this indeed happens - then it will keep happening until you are fed up with her. Also, I don't think he meant with the same girl every day. But even that happens.
/r/askTRP29/11/18 11:25 AM
2

Search for "5 stages of grief". You'll get through it.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/18 11:48 AM
0

Your comment violated reddiquette (ad hominem). Heaven forbid someone wants to further his understanding of the world by honest conversation. This conversation has to happen. Stop shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 10:55 PM
1

No it doesn’t [place sex at the very base level of physiological needs, along with food and breathing]. It has a space for “social belonging”. Normally humans fulfill the social belonging aspect with things like family and relationships. Sex is not the need, belonging is. It does. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs clearly states sex being part of the physiological needs. Love/belonging is in a much later level. Casual sex isn’t a basic right, need, or anything close to …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/18 09:44 PM
1

The focus on mythical chad here was getting to me. It's a useful ideal to have in the beginning, but I meant that the motivation is that there are millions of women for you to try and you have to vet each as quickly as possible, otherwise you don't get to the others in your lifetime. If they take themselves out of the game, I ought to thank them: They've done me a great service - they've stopped me from wasting my free time.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/18 11:40 PM
8

> chad like shit. Whatever. It's just saving himself time. If the date doesn't go your way, LEAVE. I've left girls I picked up from their home after they were doing inappropriate things at the bar we were at (shittalking me, not taking my commands, talking to other men who obviously want her). I pointed it out to her (I really shouldn't). No change in behavior. I left. Nowadays I mastered "the disapproving look". She looks at her phone while we are on at a date? Disapproving look. She lowers it.…
/r/TheRedPill08/11/18 02:42 AM
9

Sure, we are not trying to prevent you from doing it. If anything, if you all could do it in a more obvious manner, that would help us wake up even more. Plus, I get more 20 year olds. So godspeed!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/18 09:42 AM
5

RP is a toolbox, not a moral code, not a movement and not a cult where you have to follow the leaders. It's like asking a stone to have a moral code. It doesn't. It's really a question of boundaries. RP has already been diluted so much, let's not dilute it further.
/r/TheRedPill23/09/18 12:36 AM
1

It's your loss... shrugs. The sub description: The Red Pill: Discussion of sexual strategy in a culture increasingly lacking a positive identity for men. What's your criticism of it? Sexual strategy includes: self-improvement (physical and mental), understanding of the world, establishing your position in the world and taking responsibility for your own life. That society lacks a positive identity for men is self-evident.
/r/TheRedPill21/09/18 12:24 AM
1

It would be ideal if you found a plate that just likes no-strings-attached sex to practice. Escorts are pricey and in some countries illegal. Also, there's something to be said about the thrill of the chase - which is entirely absent with escorts. It doesn't have to be either-or.
/r/askTRP19/09/18 09:48 PM
1

WTF? You must have had some very different women. If they want me to provide, I'm leaving. So they don't want me to provide. They can ask their orbiters and lose attraction to them, not me.
/r/askTRP19/09/18 04:15 PM
2

This whole fucking was meh. Now you see how little of a deal sex is. For some reason, society is so obsessed with it and endows it with mythical things it's supposed to do - but in reality it can't. It does get better - especially if you are both attracted it's nice and you want to do it again and again multiple times a day. In the end, it's still hollow. I don't even know how to french kiss. Just make out with some women (best done in known-for-hookup bars). It's nothing to them, and you can ju…
/r/askTRP19/09/18 11:18 AM
3

I just see a future where she only sees sex (I imagine this to be the case anyway). I fail to see the downside, really. I know right now you think that women can give you so much more (like intellectual stimulation, support with chores and rent in your life, ideas for things to do, strategic planning etc), but really, they can't. And more importantly, they don't want to. Just take them as a fun diversion and don't rely on them. [first time sex with her] Just a heads-up, first-time sex with a new…
/r/TheRedPill18/09/18 10:44 PM
6

If she has unrealistic expectations (and is manipulative) she's going to hate the one that points them out to her (by you not buying her a drink). There's not a thing you could have done. She felt bad. It's her problem. I've had the same situation before and beat myself up about it. Remember: They fucked up. In my case she even returned and wanted to go to another dancing place with me. Seeing how it would probably end up again, I was not enthusiastic about it. Rubbed her the wrong way. Nowadays…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/18 09:41 AM
1

Know that women want sex too but they don't want society to know that. If you just want sex with any woman, just chat up a fat woman, isolate her and do it with each other. Usually she does the isolation if you take too long. Whether you enjoy that remains to be seen. Just go to lowkey events (for example weird indie songs, improv, readings, ...) and look at the women there (don't stare, but nod when passing etc). Chat with them in the break (just about the environment). Make sure to think about…
/r/askTRP28/08/18 07:36 PM
3

Thing you did good: not getting butthurt when she turned you down. That's good, just play it cool and watch tv or something and try again later. Yeah, I agree. You can actually see her pay close attention to you to judge your reaction after that (it's very obvious). That's because she's checking whether you flinch. Don't flinch. Just continue talking like nothing happened. Bad boys have that sexually dominant frame (or they look like they have it) and so they spark a lot of attraction in women. …
/r/askTRP27/08/18 09:19 PM
2

Go to her place, make yourself comfortable, make her get you a drink, drink it very slowly (don't empty the drink too fast - that would mean you want to leave) Sit next to her with some body contact (for example just rest your hand on her near leg like it's normal) Make sure that there's sparks flying (don't smother her but do weird gestures that signal that you know quite well that she's a woman and not a bro - that's easy to do with a cocky smile whenever she looks somewhat suggestive, leans o…
/r/seduction19/08/18 09:57 AM
1

Yeah, just work on escalating, it will improve. Also, it will not work every time, that's fine. Just enjoy the experiences for what they are. When the girl is attracted to you she will (figuratively) bend over backwards to help you - again and again until you get it.
/r/askTRP18/08/18 08:13 PM
1

Is she a single mom? If so, sounds very familiar. I've had a cockblocker mom which even cockblocked the relentless girls which just invited themselves over. If the latter happens, think of an excuse with the girl about why to go to her place and then go to her place. Then escalate. It will work (during the day is fine - it even can work better).
/r/askTRP18/08/18 07:52 PM
4

Huh, why talk about these things? Just find out a hobby of each guy and keep talking about it with him for the next 10 years. Guys are really straightforward to talk to and you really don't have to discuss sports or black-out drunken weekends, just nod and eventually change the topic.
/r/askTRP18/08/18 07:49 PM
1

It's difficult to predict, but in general I think it's better not to communicate too much when you are not there. The reasons: 80% of communication is nonverbal. Moreover, over text, she'll not see your flirty vibe, most things will come over as dry, you can be misunderstood etc. Same the other way around (she can be misunderstood etc) Even if you sext (or she does), it's not all that great compared to in-person groping. We are desensitivized by porn, so who cares? Now she can (and probably does…
/r/askTRP18/08/18 07:36 PM
14

A year from now, you'll wake up in her house (like all the other days before) to a nagging but hypersexual girl (the latter is not as fun as it sounds) and wonder what the fuck happened to your apartment (and why are you paying for it still) and wonder whether your friends will still talk to you. Ask me how I know. Never again. I mean in the beginning it can be a little bit more texts - but not that many. And not about themes you talked about on the dates. That's for the next date. She has issue…
/r/askTRP18/08/18 07:11 PM
1

For the most part I am only interested in women when I am horny. (Probably the case with most guys). This means as soon as I fuck a girl and come, interest drops to 0% - worse yet, I feel regret. I feel sad usually. Reality sets in and also post-sex sadness. I'd suggest that you reject more women and only take the great ones (there are really really great ones). Like with the cookie, just eat really good cookies seldomly. Much better. I've noticed the more 'secure' a girl is, the less attractive…
/r/askTRP18/08/18 07:07 PM
4

Ah, you had the same experience. I had one act possessive exactly like a girlfriend would (including the hand-in-hand walking), but she wouldn't put out for months. When she overtly said something like "I'm jealous about you talking to <girl>!" and brought up another man she was seeing while still not putting out (I tried), I ghosted her and never looked back. WTF, girls be cray cray. But look at it from her perspective, she gets all the benefits of a relationship with none of the work. What's n…
/r/seduction18/08/18 04:23 PM
1

To add to this, yesterday I opened a three-set without having a drink in hand. After some talking one girl noticed that I didn't have a drink - and said "Hey, you have to have a drink in <venue>". Then I did nothing. Just stood there, continued talking to them (and her) like she hadn't said anything. Then she gave me her 3/4-empty drink (!), I took a sip, she took a sip etc, and later she got the other man in the set to refill her drink while I was standing right there! Isolated her, took photos…
/r/TheRedPill18/08/18 03:30 PM
2

If you want a prostitute, go to Vegas. Cheaper and better sex, too.
/r/askTRP16/08/18 07:26 PM
1

Girls in LTRs trying to fatten their men and making them more beta is the oldest trick in the book.
/r/askTRP16/08/18 06:47 PM
2

Yeah, I agree. I know a rock star (as in, in the charts) that felt like he had no control over his life, he was trapped in a hamster wheel, that he had problems with getting women. Who knew? It was all in his fucking head. And now stop believing the highlight reel of other people's lives. It's all selective truth, i.e. lies.
/r/askTRP16/08/18 06:38 PM
4

Should men and women be treated differently, or should they be treated the same? The question is too vague and not specific enough. In which sphere of influence? To what end? By whom? When? But, overall, I just view sexual assault as very much a gendered issue. I cannot imagine, as a man, why you would ever allow a woman to sexually assault you, if you were in a physical position to resist it. Whereas I view the prospect of a woman being physically assaulted by a man as being fundamentally diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/18 12:11 AM
3

Yeah. To add to that: Why is it so bad: It's like talking through a straw, 2 km away, in the dark. With 20 other straws also in her direction, also in use at the same time (by other guys and girls). Also, almost 80% of all communication is non-verbal. So fucking be there or risk being misunderstood. (I notice the irony of me typing this on a text message board) Also, women like getting attention. So if you give her attention when you are away from her, guess what? She'll be away some more so she…
/r/seduction09/08/18 07:11 PM
3

Then a self-help group?
/r/seduction09/08/18 07:10 PM
5

I don't see where the "should" comes in. It's just a study with facts. There's no value judgment necessary. Relying on the benevolence of others doesn't seem in one's best interest compared to pursuing independence from such. No human being is an island. I've tried to be way too independent in the past. It's not a good idea to overdo it. Or maybe men don't want to work harder to attract a high value woman. What does that mean? A woman is not higher value if she has an university degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/18 06:34 AM
3

You're insecure and projecting. Work on your own opinion of yourself. You like the person staring back from the mirror? That's the guy you are supposed to like, first of all. Always look out for number one.
/r/askTRP29/07/18 11:39 PM
3

If she were a guy, would you do it? If yes, do it. If you have to move something important to make room, don't. If in doubt, take the closer/more definitive date. But understand that they wouldn't move the appointment with Brad Pitt - and plan accordingly (don't invest emotionally). Edit: Brad Pitt, not Brad Pill.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 04:52 PM
34

You did ok. Now never think of her again until she calls (if she calls). Women are attention vampires. Don't give them your attention when they aren't even there in the room with you.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 04:48 PM
2

Tonight she gets pretty loose on 4 drinks and tells me she has "residual sadness" (breakup a year ago) and is holding in her sadness around me all the time since I returned because "she thought I was one way but am actually another way" which I translated to "you thought I was this super nice sweetheart and I'm not, right," she confirms, and then I'm like "You're saying you want me to be nicer?" Dear god no. She's thinking about how she could have gotten an Alpha-that-cares (you) commit to her i…
/r/askTRP22/07/18 12:15 PM
1

Forget about your age, i have found lately that most chicks that just want to fuck dont care if you are 10 years older...if you handle yourself well...dont get hung up on it. Yeah, but the older chicks do care that you are talking to someone 10 years younger. Make sure to not have the older chicks in the vicinity.
/r/askTRP22/07/18 11:52 AM
3

Just in case, if your family consists of some sweet-talking fuckers, remember what they did, not what they say. Has anyone noticed that single mothers have a lot of single mother friends? Yeah, misery loves company. A text that reads: “You’re a moron for not acting better!!!” Was that from the sister to Sally? How can she put her friend’s ‘well-being’ over her own brothers? Yeah, it's unfortunate that for some, family is just a word. She said I didn’t know what I wanted in life and it would be t…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/18 11:01 AM
5

Women able to vote without mandatory military service.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 12:32 PM
2

All things end. Usually there's nothing you can do about it - and even should you be able to do something about it (by luck), it's not going to be the same. I did that in the past and it's so NOT worth it to try to rekindle an old flame. There's a reason things ended and that reason is not going to vanish. Stop trying with this girl. Focus on you. You are number one. You. Make your life awesome for yourself.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/18 03:51 PM
5

Focus on yourself. You have been neglecting your dreams and aspirations for god knows how long. Pick them up again.
/r/TheRedPill14/06/18 10:11 AM
2

but fuck man its just all arguing over stupid shit on the phone and its WASTING MY TIME. Set boundaries: "I don't want to talk about this click". It's not like you have to cut her out entirely, but if she wants to talk about inane stuff, she has girlfriends for that. Not everything has to be talked out. She took this weekend off to hangout and I told her I need space so we arent hanging out anymore. Not sure what to do It's not just all or nothing. Also, find out what makes you happy. This doesn…
/r/TheRedPill10/06/18 09:46 PM
2

Man, you've been through hell. Glad to see that you are handling it as you are. It's good that you understand that you don't have to do everything yourself. It took me ages to find people I could trust (within reason) - but I have them now. The load on me is now so much lighter. And all I had to do was talk. They were already in my life and were already prepping me up and supporting me like stagehands, I just kept them in the dark. Woe was me. Seriously... shakes head What's more, wow, many thin…
/r/TheRedPill10/06/18 08:31 PM
2

Experiment and see which one is more effective. You have to be willing to fail at first, though.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 11:12 PM
2

Yeah, this is something you only get after you had quite a few women. I got worked up and bent up all out of shape for that? It's not all that great, really. Not worth all the commotion and ruckus. And don't get me started on the dead fish pose.
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 10:43 PM
5

Take it from an ex-office-drone. If you spend 9 h/day at the office every workday, you can and do develop crushes. The problem with hookups is that they'll (always) break eventually. If you have a good career, why risk your career?
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 05:53 PM
1

I often read stories about a guy fucking multiple girls from one group of friends, but how to put it in practice? [...] Is it possible to have a clean break with one and move onto another? It depends on how you frame it. Just hint on how sex is the most natural thing in the world and say "men and women eventually end up doing it anyway" nonchalantly. It will make it clear that you are not a clinger, and that you won't tolerate her being a clinger either. After you did have sex with one, don't te…
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 10:29 AM
2

She isn't on the site just for validation She wants a relationship and men aren't giving it to her any more
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 01:56 PM
4

The wage gap (as in "a woman doing the same job for the same hours as a man not being paid the same on average because they are a woman") is not real. If it were real, a rational actor would only employ women for his or her firm (because it's cheaper). But that doesn't happen. Just think about it. This is a general guideline I found in life - better to watch what people do (or in this case not-do), not what they say.
/r/MensRights27/05/18 11:35 PM
2

I agree. Transactional sex is ok but actually not that fun. Better to just don't buy her a drink. Or you can say that "the next round is on you". It's not that hard. Nowadays, I watch myself and if a girl wants me to buy her a drink my "time waste" alarms go off (sometimes I still buy her one - but it's counts as a point against her then). Instead, you can get her to buy both your drinks - and I do sometimes. Much better dynamics.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/18 06:51 PM
4

It's just uncommon - it makes sense to be wary. After all the women that do approach me are usually looking for some "change" to "feed their child". Sometimes they even have an actual stroller. (I'm not kidding)
/r/seduction14/05/18 11:34 PM
2

Thank you for the link! Learned something new today.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/18 06:38 PM
-1

It apparently can fuck up Insulin regulation causing you to get diabetes. I've lived like you did and stopped because of these alleged effects.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/18 03:43 PM
3

I believe you. Some girls have game, too.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/18 06:49 PM
7

... I did that at 35 with a 29 year old. Got laid (the ice cream one was the first date (she paid both), then the fake beach in the city with my beer, then a walk with her beer - that's it. What's with those expensive dates? shakes head Spending money is going to hinder you, you know).
/r/TheRedPill07/05/18 06:35 PM
3

Leave. I'm not being facetious. She has to think that you have options and if she doesn't put out she's out. So either just leave. Or better yet, call someone (anyone), then leave. I'm not necessarily saying that it will help you with her (though maybe it will), but that's what you ought to do anyway - your time is precious.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/18 06:43 PM
1

Welcome to the club. But just a heads-up, one of the unexpected results I got when bar-hopping is when I chatted up a group of 30 people which was having a birthday party (in a normal pub in the middle of the city), it turns out that all of them (also the men) had mental disorders (you'd be surprised what kind of conversations you can have when wasted). Might be luck, but also might be something to keep in mind: Maybe it's not so uncommon - and your competition really is not better. Also, these …
/r/TheRedPill01/05/18 07:41 AM
1

go nuts If you mean that literally, make sure to have an escape plan. I should know. I should have had my buddies on backup in front of the building - but I didn't. Mistake. It could have looked really bad to outsiders, and scorned women are really vindictive O_o. she's got no money and nowhere to go. You are not her father. Supporting her in an one-sided way makes you feel really bad too.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/18 07:36 PM
4

Yeah, good on you! Getting that far took me forever - even now it's a crapshoot whether I get the number or not. Insta-date is still veeery seldom, they are always "busy", you know. I think once you are that far you see women just as people - weird people, but people. It's just so difficult to not give a shit when everyone in society expects you to give a shit (more of a shit than warranted to a stranger). Be sure to keep the practice up - it can and does regress for me from time to time.
/r/seduction29/04/18 07:19 PM
2

Yeah, the cultural narrative is weird. People say all kinds of stupid stuff like you have to live life in your teens, it's going to get worse over the years etc. What a load of crap. I especially hate that they do not discriminate between boys and girls. It's supposed to be entirely different for boys and girls. You know what? Working like hell since I was 18 made me have a life at 27 where I "work" 4 h/day Mon-Fri, own a house, car, go on vacations, had an extremely long relationship I quit, ca…
/r/askTRP22/04/18 08:12 AM
1

Just go to the party spots and talk to people (men) there (about themselves).
/r/askTRP21/04/18 09:23 PM
1

This brings makes me wonder, why aren't people irl helping one another to achieve greatness but rather bring one another down? It is as if you have to have "talent" and/or "connections" first before anyone bothers helping you. We are competing against each other. It might not be as noticeable as in the days of old - but it's true. If we do want to cooperate for mutual benefit, we form a corporation. You have to have some value to some other person for them to help. If not, the easiest way for so…
/r/askTRP21/04/18 09:04 AM
6

-She found out tonight that I would only get married if we signed a prenup, and she refuses to do that. Do NOT marry her then. What possible reason could there be for her to refuse a prenup, huh? I can think of one and it's not good for you.
/r/askTRP21/04/18 08:56 AM
1

How is the carnival a great place? You have a lot of small ... shops there which if you stay some time at each will feel like she knows you forever. In the movies you already have it on your mind but on the carnival? You can have a sexual vibe (almost) anywhere. It depends on the shops how you kino (you don't have to kino at each shop). After you got your energy up and "ran" around, you can suggest a drink. Most have drink shops too.
/r/askTRP18/04/18 05:55 AM
2

If you keep this up she'll think you rejected her and let her down easy. Contact her again. Otherwise you'll fail by default.
/r/askTRP17/04/18 11:56 AM
2

It takes a long time for your unconscious to catch up. What I do is I "watch" myself passively and find out what I do wrong and why (what feelings were there in me). Later on I fix it in the next interaction. You are not ready. Nobody is ever completely ready. Wing it. You'll NEVER have complete information on anything in life. You think the others aren't winging it? They are. Failure is the only way to grow. If you only do things you are good at you won't improve anything. What do you do when y…
/r/askTRP17/04/18 11:44 AM
2

It's worth it because it makes you healthier, you live longer, you have more energy, it teaches you discipline, ALL women like buff guys, other people's first reaction is to defer to you (that happens sooner than you think). All in all there are only positives.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/18 06:44 PM
3

Edit: For that matter, do I necessarily need a role model? Ask yourself "what would a healthy male do?". Works fine for me instinctively.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/18 06:33 AM
5

Personally I don't do computer games. I would have a way to do it immediately, it just doesn't register anymore at all. Modern games are designed to be addictive - it's just not worth it. You have to understand that the real world IS way more interesting, including the male world. There's a guy preparing to go to MARS in two years. Get this. Go to another planet. In the REAL WORLD. So find some stuff that interests you in the real world and you won't ever want to play computer games again. All t…
/r/TheRedPill12/04/18 06:25 AM
1

Same here. Same solution too. I internalized replacements of what my parents should have been very very late (I knew instinctively). What helped me the most is people who tell it like it is - no feel-good bullshit. I have two close friends like that and they are ... very important to me. AManIsBusy wrote: I'm just curious if there are any others out there who were essentially parent-less, family-less, etc and how that affected your experience before and after taking the Red Pill. I was basically…
/r/askTRP06/04/18 12:33 PM
1

One of them in particular who I thought was the closest to me has almost cut me out completely and only contacts me when he needs a favor. Any similar experiences? Yeah, a very close guy friend for 20 years got into poly and now his girlfriends monopolize his time. I see him only once every 6 months or so and then one of the gfs is in tow. I keep reaching out to him but it's always the same. I never thought I'd say that but pussy isn't that important. I made new friends - but it takes so much ti…
/r/askTRP06/04/18 12:28 PM
1

I'm a 20 year old guy who's never approached a girl. I see a cute girl then rationalize a reason not to go up and say hi. On top of that I have a fear of failure. Don't overthink it - just walk up and say hi. If the conversation fizzles out it's not so bad (and still better than not talking). Guess what? Usually it doesn't fizzle out. Do it anyway or regret your life - that's how I motivate myself. It's maybe not healthy but it works. You do not want regret. Take it from me - I have lots of regr…
/r/askTRP06/04/18 10:30 AM
3

Yeah, the crabs in a bucket. There are very few people who don't do that. I try to hold on to those few for dear life. The others, I ignore them as well as I can - it's scary how quickly they drag you down otherwise (I tried talking to them - wow, I really don't have enough mental kung-fu to protect myself. Any tips?).
/r/TheRedPill06/04/18 08:52 AM
17

As someone who goes to bars alone and chats to strangers, I agree. The above never happens. What does happen is I appear mysterious (especially when IDGAF for a change - just listen to the music / watch the game etc) and girls open me.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/18 10:14 PM
3

Days? Just chill, it's nothing serious, right?
/r/TheRedPill04/04/18 10:04 PM
2

You'd be surprised how shitty upbringing can be. Very, very shitty.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 01:15 AM
1

This is a throwaway account and I don't want it to be identifiable, so let's just keep it at "I work in finance" if that's okay (it's pretty boring work but very little of it when you do it correctly. If you mess up help you god. I messed up once - never again! Shudder).
/r/askTRP31/03/18 12:35 AM
2

Hobbies. Meet people there. Try meetup.com. Find clubs (not the going out kind, I mean like electronics club, car repair club etc).
/r/askTRP30/03/18 11:45 PM
1

It’s for easy for people to tell you that women aren’t that important, and don’t matter much. But it’s hard to know that when you really haven’t sex. Yeah, it's unfortunate that this is one experience everyone has to make. Talking doesn't help - and it comes off as bragging over text. It's not bragging - it's wistful, melancholic, if anything. Also, women are different from men. They are not like you. At all. So a lot of the stuff you think they can give you they really can't. They can make a go…
/r/askTRP30/03/18 09:52 PM
11

Fucking someone in a small apartment is better. I had one for 8 years where there was: 1 chair, 1 table, 1 bed, monitor on table. The table was full of stuff and I made sure the chair was full of stuff when I brought a girl over. So where's she gonna sit? That's right. It's more intimate, too, and they won't stay around afterwards because there's no space (you don't want that anyway, right?). Also, it makes you go out more. What else are you gonna do? Sit on the bed and stare at the walls?
/r/askTRP30/03/18 09:24 PM
1

I'm a junior in college rn in stem and trying to maintain my 3.7 GPA is shitty. My day consists of going to class and heading straight into the library in the corner to study and then hit the gym and go to bed. Yeah, college for STEM is getting harder and harder over the years. Men are waking up and seeing that you should major in STEM if you major in anything at all - that has made the college way more picky (harder exams etc). But afterwards - if you are smart about it (work smart not hard!) -…
/r/askTRP30/03/18 08:36 PM
1

Get out of a bad situation. ‘sunk cost’ This is so important. OP, read this article: sunk cost fallacity. Don't marry her. Dear god don't.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 07:56 PM
3

I wouldn't live like that but it is possible - and a friend of mine did that and owns his own apartment in the capital city now because he only paid tiny rent all those years and kept saving and saving (taxes: 0). Now he won't ever have problems with money - and he had lots of free time to build a band that's touring internationally. AF/BB. If you want to be AF, be attractive. That's it.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/18 07:05 PM
1

If she acts weird she might be catching feelings - you know how that was for you back then. It's going to get weird.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 12:46 PM
2

I'm moving in with her and another girl Usually, relationships don't last that long - so make sure you know that the living situation would be weird/end after the relationship ends. If you don't have feelings for her it's not gonna get better. Since you had oneitis for her I wouldn't risk it personally - also because you can backslide into blue pill land (again and again). Also, do you want so much drama where you sleep? ("yes" is a possible answer - depends on your phase of life)
/r/askTRP30/03/18 12:42 PM
1

If she promises you something, it only holds for right now and a little while. In the future she'll alter the deal, pray she doesn't alter it any further. Think of her saying "what did you do for me lately?".
/r/TheRedPill29/03/18 08:44 AM
6

This. Tip: Many cleaning ladies also do the laundry. Her coming over every two weeks for 2 hours is enough and doesn't break the bank.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/18 05:03 PM
1

I haven't really been txting/talking to girls I haven't had more than a 2nd date with. I used to talk all the time, but I shut that down. Should I open it back up for the sake of rapport? Hell no. That's exactly right - but be sure to (shortly) chat up new girls (just giving a thumbs up is enough, actually; get the social proof up).
/r/askTRP21/03/18 08:10 PM
3

Ass is difficult - I don't usually do it until we are at (in front of the) home. (also, some don't like ass touching/slapping at all; maybe when kissing - but I've had one remove my hand from her ass but we ended up doing it the same day ... no idea what's up with that) I'm more a hand on the leg, between the legs (not on the V), brushing across her breasts innocently, hand on the stomach (be careful) guy. But it's a personal style - in a way everyone has to find out the details on each interact…
/r/askTRP21/03/18 07:40 PM
5

Yeah, it took me many tries to calibrate. At first I was waaay too timid. Now I do things that ought to get me slapped - but they don't slap me. Strange, that. Try touching everyone (also your friends etc) a little bit. The phrase "in touch" is meant literally. Being in touch creates rapport and you can't be strangers anymore. Record for me from a girl stranger (talking talking) to being in touch (hands touching) on the tram today was ~ 40 s, just for a rough idea. Other than that, it's difficul…
/r/askTRP21/03/18 07:25 PM
1

ecstasy Ecstasy just makes you very very social for a short time. But it will only work every 3 months or so - it's a crutch, and insight-wise it does nothing.
/r/askTRP21/03/18 07:20 PM
5

It's difficult to say. Do you escalate? Can you read body language? Should be easy to see when she wants to cool down or tune it up - without using any words. You have to escalate. Forget the politically correct nonsense, women are slow to warm up - you have to touch them before they can be aroused.
/r/askTRP21/03/18 07:13 PM
2

Good on you for screening them in the first place. Keep looking. Remember, you only need two or three at a time. Should be possible to do still. Is it worth lowering your standards? In the long term no. For practise maybe, if it's not too bad. girls with cutting scars, Depression. Plate or ignore. Mostly ignore. Their mood does get you down, and quickly. I have one that keeps calling me to hang out but when we do she's just always droning on how bad she's having it (although she's sex-positive, …
/r/askTRP18/03/18 08:19 PM
1

Approach anxiety. It happens, also after approaching (weird, that). What can I do to counter this? Don't overthink it. If you approached you approached. That's good success already. You can of course talk the night up in your head "It went so well already, let's see how good I can get it". It's good to have as goal your enjoyment.
/r/seduction18/03/18 12:24 PM
1

Most hostels offer lockers, but often don’t actually offer LOCKS (strangely). It's because people forget to return the locks and the employees (students, really) have to buy new locks all day every day.
/r/TheRedPill14/03/18 07:55 PM
2

Did anyone ever actually do this ? Yep, in the sense of rescheduling. My job is more important than a girl. Also, it depends on whether it's a first coffee/1h beer date. I've had so underwhelming first dates, it can easily be me that flakes for "no" reason. Girls don't really bring lasting value to me either - while my friends do (if I have to listen to yet another girl talking about "when I start a family I'll move back home to the countryside" I'm gonna puke). On the other hand, almost every t…
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 02:05 AM
2

You can't control what she'll think. You can't predict the future. So stop worrying about it already. Also, ti's going to be easy - and here's why: She's from a different school - so she won't have to think about her reputation, you are (probably) not in the same friend circles - so it's not going to be awkward later on. So just hang out and convene that you are aware of the above COVERTLY (for example by asking about parties at her school for a bit and being so interested that it's clear you kn…
/r/askTRP02/03/18 04:27 PM
2

They ask for me to pay their drinks, I've had a new prospect (met that night at a party) ask me to pay their food. Hell no. I guess there are enough other rubes who do it - so it won't ever stop. they ask for a cigarette, Usually it's an excuse. They actually don't want a cigarette. Just start talking about something else. It's like "what time is it", "where are you from" etc. If a women starts, it's most probably with those phrases. for a ride home, I can up that: for me to get something from m…
/r/TheRedPill01/03/18 04:02 PM
2

Where they are from, themselves (!), their dreams / goals, what kind of things they are wearing, vacations they did or want to do, the environment around you, other people etc. Better yet, don't talk that much about anything real, just touch her hands and talk to her about childish things (ooh your hands are so cold / warm etc) to fill the silence. Don't spend more than an hour. Even the seemingly most intellectual girl I ever knew (Lyon ecole normale superieure smart) turned into a jet fuel ste…
/r/TheRedPill23/02/18 08:25 PM
9

Go out by yourself, for yourself. Don't be like me and wait until you're middle age to do it. Go out now, explore the city. Don't explore the computer. Explore OUTSIDE (or, in winter, inside other venues), be present, be curious and really look at your surroundings. You know the people at work usually seem really bland? Usually they do that on purpose, it's a gray mask in order not to stick out in a bad way. Over time it will get your mood down. To get your mood up, go somewhere where the action…
/r/TheRedPill22/02/18 11:43 PM
2

It's good that you reach out to your friends. They will be there long after current girl is gone. Anyway my issue is still the same, I autoattach to the first girl I see for a few weeks. Yeah, it was so difficult to stop it. But it can be done (easiest if you date multiple women in the same week; not always - nobody can do that all year long; I mean schedule them in the same week on purpose) and you'll have the opposite problem after some time (which is also bad... sigh).
/r/TheRedPill22/02/18 11:35 PM
2

I'm not an expert, but I've felt the huge void in the past and no one but you can fix it. You have to understand, really understand, that it can only be you who fixes it. Others can't and women can't and don't want to fix it. It is difficult work that you have to do if you want your life to improve. Do things that show you that you can act and not depend on specific people. I volunteer with some huge projects (from time to time) which ensures that I won't meet the same people again next time usu…
/r/TheRedPill22/02/18 03:48 PM
2

In the end of the day many common psychological problems come from neglect in our early childhood. If you don't get enough understanding of your feelings by your parents in early childhood you'll try to recreate the unresolved situations in any way possible. The most common way is if you at least got some praise when you did something well, then you'll overcompensate by doing your best at all times for the praise. This will not stuff the hole in your heart, though. So you try harder and harder u…
/r/askTRP27/01/18 04:02 PM
3

Truly I am a perfectionist and to some extent I hate my genetics... Former perfectionist here. Good enough is good enough. What you're doing is hiding your insecurity by wanting everyone else admire how good you are able to do stuff. As someone who used to do that, did they ever admire you? Or only the stuff that you gave them? How does one get over their own ego? Be humble. See how much your ego hurts your life. Then vow to let go. Also, meditation. And don't beat yourself up. If it works, fine…
/r/askTRP24/01/18 12:19 PM
3

Hell no. That would even burn her friends (she'd chastize them for giving out the number and they'll be mad at you). The only way this doesn't backfire is if she already asked for your number but you forgot you ask for hers and she didn't call you yet. The reason is that you won't show up as unknown number on her cellphone. But then you'd have to CALL her, not text. It's still a difficult uphill battle - do not recommend. Just ask her for the number, it's not hard.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 10:12 AM
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Why would anyone support those who want to dominate them? What's the difference between leftist feminists wanting to dominate us and other men wanting to dominate us? NOTHING. I see what you mean. MRA will never work because there are too many male and female monkeys masquerading as people. It's game theory. Yeah, but the first step is awareness. Then people can consciously choose not to be shitty. Lying (even to themselves) like most do doesn't help. So I plead for honesty, even to myself.
/r/MensRights20/01/18 06:57 PM
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Apparently all those shitty chauvinists are right: As one of those, ask yourself this: Do you know anyone who had chauvinistic opinions as a boy? So when did he acquire them? When he interacted with adolescent girls. There are so many misrepresentations - but this weird societal misrepresentation of chauvinistic men being somehow wrong or irrational is baffling. No man is irrational in these matters. We would like women to not suck, we even thought that they don't suck in the past when we were m…
/r/MensRights20/01/18 06:34 PM
1

There are the chicks who overdress to the point of ridiculousness (gothic dress etc). These have model aspirations. If they know you a little bit (from sight), casually drop that you have a professional camera and light and everything. They'll be interested. Plus, you get nice photos out of it if it doesn't work out. If they want to take another man to the shoot with them tell them you had bad experiences with that in the past but "okay". They won't then. Note: Those chicks can be BPD.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/18 09:17 AM
1

When the weather is okay I like going sailing on Saturdays, but that's relatively boring ... one of my main girl conversation go-tos is the ocean, sailing etc. Just make a story out of it (in my case it's even true): That you grew up near the ocean, you thought nothing of it but then you were away from it in a big city and over the years you started to feel locked-in and you didn't know why for a long time. Then you went to the ocean again and the open horizon and sense of adventure called and s…
/r/TheRedPill31/12/17 12:14 AM
1

Yeah 19-21. I just don't know what to do with a girl. I can tease, kino, pass shit tests, whateverthefuck else but I don't know what to actually do. What do you like to do on your own? Just drag them along (within reason, of course).
/r/TheRedPill30/12/17 11:35 PM
1

Same story here. If you wanna talk about it, you can PM me. (I'm not a psychologist - but I can provide support and tell you what helped me: it's talking to other men without the bullshit political correctness - and finding male friends)
/r/TheRedPill30/12/17 10:21 PM
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You either man the fuck up in a TRP way and get you chick in line Good luck with that after that much time. But he can try, maybe it works for him. My last LTR i should have finished after 2 month but i dragged it out for 3 years. Biggest mistake and timewaste of my life. Same here (dragged it out for 1.5 years). Plus, I got emotionally abused and dealt it, too. The damage would have been much less bad after 2 months. I mean after I dated again I didn't understand that other women don't demand p…
/r/TheRedPill26/12/17 12:07 PM
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That depends - with intelligence often come issues (narcissism likely etc) - for men and women. How was this aspect of your relationships?
/r/TheRedPill26/12/17 11:50 AM
2

There are people that try to make you take part in a deal that is disadvantageous to you. Of course if they stated that then you wouldn't do it. Therefore, they lie and make the deal seem great for you. If you are aware of it, however, you can in turn make a deal with someone else for whom it is bad and so on. In the end someone has to be taking the deal in good faith without trying to fuck someone else over. That person is the mark. "The mark" is a term from con artists, they select people who …
/r/TheRedPill02/12/17 08:35 AM
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Check who the mark is. If you can't find the mark, it's you. Be proactive and document everything. Call in a meeting where you say that the project is behind, make suggestions what to do about it. Document the meeting too (E-Mail on YOUR account if possible).
/r/TheRedPill01/12/17 01:51 PM
1

but it feels pretty damn important It is pretty damn important. If you don't feel physical attraction, you shouldn't be her boyfriend. It's bad for her and most importantly it's bad for you - it can lead to you not seeing women as sexual beings. and sex on demand no question. Hmmm, does it work with her? I'm confused. I mean if you can get it up despite the overweightness, more power to you.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/17 12:48 PM
1

You know, many men were raised by TV instead of by friends and family. I took TV way too seriously as a child - later on I ditched TV completely, but by then there was lots and lots of false information in my head. When I hear people blabbering about some stupid and definitely false things as if they were facts then chances are they heard it on TV. If TV didn't work for the purpose intended by the elite why would it still exist and be "free"?
/r/TheRedPill27/11/17 08:28 PM
1

The book author is saying it's supposed to be a model for a new masculinity - since the old "provider", "bear-fighter" model is obsolete.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/17 08:36 AM
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Yeah, you were an enabler. Don't feel bad but don't do it again. That's how codependency is, it's very very bad for both people. I should know.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/17 10:38 AM
1

Understand that you will always be responsible for your own happiness and that you can only 100% rely on yourself. The only people you can trust to have your back, if at all, are your male best friends (if you don't have those, you should have those; don't need to see them all the time - but they have to exist) and your literal brother, if any. Women will not have your back and they don't care about your feelings. Even if they swear they do, just add "Right now I ..." in front of their sentences…
/r/askTRP19/11/17 06:04 PM
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But then again, I don't see how a therapist can help me in this situation If you were abandoned and neglected as a child (I don't know whether you were, just saying) then you'll overinvest in others. The simple reason is that you didn't emotionally learn how unreliable others are even when they are attentive all the time - because in your case they weren't. Until you learn that fact you are emotionally stuck at that level. A psychiatrist can help you with that. I should know.
/r/askTRP19/11/17 04:48 PM
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and definitely had no clue on what to say/do to hang out with her later in a context better suited for traditional escalation "Hey, let's grab a beer tomorrow." (implied "when we are not working out" because grabbing a beer after working out is stupid)
/r/TheRedPill02/11/17 10:25 AM
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I really don't know what to do guys. I really feel like just ending things already. I'm finishing my engineering degree at 35 years old (in 3 months fingers crossed) so there's that. Not all is lost. Don't give your fucking parents the satisfaction of ending your life. Live a good life in spite of them. If possible, don't be at home often. I've had a very bad "childhood" (hah, until I was 18 and could finally get the FUCK away), so if you want to talk, you can talk to me anytime. I understand. I…
/r/askTRP30/10/17 07:49 PM
3

Go see a psychologist. No one with depression can fix himself without help. No one. If you broke your leg you'd visit a doctor, so if you broke your mind, visit a doctor! It's 2017, psychology is actually somewhat scientific now with statistical tests and everything. The first thing (on the second appointment) a psychologist does is find out exactly what's up. Really. It's not that many appointments either! Just 10 h or something is already good. Also, the psychologist can only show the way. You…
/r/askTRP29/10/17 10:24 AM
3

I was in the same situation (with an insecure dependent woman) and I kept going back after it ended. It was worse every time. Eventually we had... errr... legally actionable things on both our sides and I stopped going and I don't want to go there ever again. It could have easily ended with serious injuries. Don't be like me. Stop rooting through the garbage now. Also, if you like the turbulence so much that you find normal women boring (I did), see a shrink (I did). For real. I do have feelings…
/r/TheRedPill19/10/17 03:09 PM
1

You know better than me how the situation was playing out, but I think I would have comforted her by holding her to be safe (not clinging! Just holding her like you would a child standing on the floor, really). But I think you are okay regardless, it's not that important. Comfort tests are weird in that she actually doesn't want a verbal answer. It's more like she feels anxious and wants not to feel anxious. In your above case there's nothing advantageous (and which is not a lie) you can say abo…
/r/TheRedPill17/10/17 08:01 PM
1

Basically, did she say the "do you need me" in a business-like (or worse, demeaning) tone or did she plead for your love? Was she trying to manipulate you or was she actually vulnerable?
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 04:56 PM
1

Is it a shit test or a comfort test?
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 09:22 AM
2

(1) First talk to her about some stuff in the vicinity, don't overthink it (2) Then talk about what you are interested about and make sure to give her a lot of branchpoints where she can start talking (... "right?", "What do you think about X?")
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 09:20 AM
2

I truly don't know what will then That's normal and a very common human problem. The only way to try to find a solution (insofar possible) is to try everything that seems worthwhile in sequence and find out whether it makes you happy. You might have a hard time knowing what makes you happy if you suppress emotions. I know I did (both). Suppressing emotions is NOT a good idea, so if you do that, just stop doing it. It's a matter of willpower (and not a lot of it). Of course don't show the emotion…
/r/TheRedPill15/10/17 08:49 PM
2

Then, today as I'm getting in my car to leave, she asks if I will be nice to her again (thinking to myself, "hell no") and offers her hand as a truce. I take her hand through the window and tell her yes (keep in mind I don't mean it. She then walks away and gives me a look and says, "I love you." I don't respond and roll my window down to leave. She's trying to get validation from you, also she's trying to take advantage of you. Apparently she thinks you are to be taken advantage of (did you let…
/r/TheRedPill16/09/17 08:00 PM
3

Erasmus is not the name of a place, it's the name of a student exchange program (usually in Europe).
/r/TheRedPill16/09/17 07:04 PM
1

nice to people.. to be "' religious" .. and moral Oh god. Read the book "No More Mr Nice Guy" as soon as you can! Someone else gave me that advice and I waited a year to actually do it, I was an idiot. God was I an idiot. Victim too. Woe was me. Everyone else was at fault, why aren't they grateful for my "help". slaps head
/r/TheRedPill16/09/17 06:00 PM
1

Legitimate question here - what to do if you aren't interesting and have no interests? Find your interest. Not only am I uninteresting, but I have no interests. I was like you some years ago. Now I'm in the process of letting my newly found passion kill me from overwork. So there's that. It's just a routine at this point and I have no way of connecting with people in general, let alone women. I have no idea what to say to them. That's the age old problem. But really, if it's connection you want …
/r/TheRedPill13/09/17 08:13 PM
2

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fullmetal_Alchemist - it shows sense of purpose, brotherhood, overcoming pain, changing of politics by individuals, bonding between friends, bonding between brothers, some upstanding and honorable people, strength and stoicism in men. Also, it "explores social problems, including discrimination, scientific advancement, political greed, brotherhood, family, and war" (Wikipedia). In my opinion it's pretty much perfect escapism (I've watched it).
/r/MGTOW07/08/17 02:20 PM
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Just ask directly "when are you getting off work?" [if you want then with an excuse, like some stuff you want to show her that's only open in a certain time range etc]. If she's just doing it for the tips, she won't tell you or not show up. If you meet, meet as quickly as possible (on the same day) or she might change her mind or meet someone else.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/17 07:04 PM
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For example Anime. It's very very good at hitting all your pleasure points and making the imagined world much more beautiful and kind than the real world. I'm not advertising for it really (I don't think escapism is good), but if you only know hollywood and disney movies, you have seen nothing yet in how well movies can satisfy your wants.
/r/MGTOW05/08/17 05:07 PM
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This is something that can be resolved with some tact. Whatever you may think of insurance company agents, actually they are people as well and have sympathy - especially when you are their customer. Make sure to get your dad's insurance person in on what happened. Let's just say that maybe in another situation which was entirely my fault I talked to our insurance agent and it was fine, he cooked something up so it didn't adversely affect any of us. For example they could just add you as an insu…
/r/MGTOW22/06/16 07:55 PM
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The idea is that she is supposed to have wet dreams about you. Leave something to imagine for her after the first date - and let her simmer for a few days so she does imagine. But do touch her a bit - friendzone is real.
/r/askTRP06/05/16 07:55 AM
1

Not for me. "in want of" is very old English that seems to mean something like "missing something". Not sure whether it also implies that he wants to have it, as in the modern usage. Then the good fortune, does that mean luck or wealth? It's not the case that wealthy men have no wife, so that must not be what it means... Or does it mean that for a man to be fortunate he must have no wife?
/r/TheRedPill17/04/16 01:52 PM
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edit: I just assumed based on the writing style the writer was a women. It is even worse than I thought. H/she is a mangina. Glad I'm not the only one that thought that. I've had to read it all over again to find out that it's been written by a man. In fact I still half don't believe it.
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 11:50 PM
1

Maybe it's because English is a second language for me, but I never understood what that sentence meant. Is it some old English style?
/r/TheRedPill15/04/16 07:49 PM
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Hourly positions also have the advantage of paying overtime, unlike salaried positions. That's not always the case. Many salaried positions are not exempt from overtime. See also http://fortune.com/2016/01/06/overtime-lawsuits-rules/ - especially depends on the nature of the tasks you do.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 05:02 PM
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My parents did try to "hold it together" and it was hell and we children could tell. After 10 more years they finally separated. God. Do not recommend. Living in the middle of that toxic shit-pile that was their obviously failed, loveless relationship--no matter how much they may have tried to hide it--would've taken it's toll on us kids BIG TIME. We've got trust problems even now (20 years later). Think about it, it's two people basically lying to you 24/7 for a decade.
/r/MGTOW02/04/16 11:40 PM
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Genetics and biology is the differentiating factor by a very large margin. The environment after she is born doesn't influence her much. Hell, teachers don't influence her much. I know it's popular to state otherwise, but that doesn't make it true.
/r/MGTOW30/03/16 08:33 AM
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You can just pay for an hour with a lawyer to find out what the legal options are. It's not like you have to contract lawyers for the entire case.
/r/MGTOW29/03/16 09:50 PM
1

Okay, I just have to ask: what's the difference between reproduction and procreation? I've seen people distinguish them before, but I don't get it...
/r/MensRights15/09/15 07:00 PM
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