dayoftheoctopus Archive

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2	Boys in America are significantly more disadvantaged than girls Sorry you're having to deal with that bud. Drove by a high school the other day and my first thought was - "god I'm happy I'm not in high school in this age as a male." You're going to have to actively hunt for quality resources for yourself. On the moneymaking side explore channels that don't require you to go through typical corporate hierarchies. If you have an aptitude in a trade or programming or something to that effect you can always find good work (freelance / employee / etc.). And suppo…	/r/MensRights	23/10/19 03:41 PM
1	Q4W: Would you date a sexually inexperienced guy? What do you think of big disparities in sexual experience? Oh haha got it - and yeah, I think "peaceful" in relation to anything in our current environment is sadly lacking ... I'm sure we'll sort it out eventually. I don't think anyone wants to live in a world with this much psychic chaos going on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/19 02:56 PM
2	Had the cops called on me yesterday for sitting in a public park reading a book by myself That's awful man. Truly awful. If that ever happens I'm pressing record on my phone and daring that motherfucker to arrest me. Then suing the fuck out of these jack asses.	/r/MensRights	26/09/19 11:34 PM
13	Men need to stop seeking validation through sex. Must be a woman who posted this. You have no idea how sex is logged for men at all. Women, being gate keepers, can pretty much always find some D when they want it. Maybe for some women it's not "easy" getting laid but it is a hell of a lot easier than the average male. Your sex drive also works differently than ours - spikes during ovulation then drops off vs pretty much always on unless stress, anxiety, health tamps it down. While, yes, guys should focus on their health, dreams, etc. - part of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/19 09:47 PM
2	Q4W: Would you date a sexually inexperienced guy? What do you think of big disparities in sexual experience? Their insecurities aren't your problem though. Live your life and experience what you want. We are living in a more open society that in the before times - guys (and girls) are going to have to get used to a more sex-positive reality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/19 03:57 PM
3	Q4W: Would you date a sexually inexperienced guy? What do you think of big disparities in sexual experience? This is spot on. As a kinky, experienced person it's all in the personality and preference of the partner ... some people are just vanilla. That's totally fine. Others need variety and range of experience - also fine. Having a high "notch count" doesn't make you a good lover, either. Most important thing, in my opinion - understand yourself, your body and what you need. If you don't know then find someone (or multiple ones) to figure that out with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/19 03:50 PM
4	The complex issue of a sexual past ...can anyone else here relate? I think there are two separate issues here - 1) Does her sexual past matter ... I'd say in general, people should have the freedom to go out, explore and not be judged for it. There's nothing inherently wrong with anyone who is or was promiscuous. If it was between consenting adults - go for it. 2) This is the core one - she's not giving you the opportunity to explore what you'd like with her. THAT is a big problem - if it's not addressed to both of your satisfactions its the sort of thing that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/19 03:45 PM
2	Men being invisible is great. You'll say that till the looks disappear. Can't tell you how many women in their 40's and 50's I've heard over the years complain about being "invisible." Truth is all humans like some attention. We enjoy feeling attractive and noticed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/19 03:12 PM
2	Positive discrimination isn't illegal Ridiculous. Well, it's not like the young men of the country won't see the writing on the wall and look for other channels like they do here. I feel bad for those male professors who worked their whole careers for the betterment of their male and female students. Maybe time for them to go band together and start their own institution.	/r/MensRights	24/09/19 05:00 PM
1	CMV: Most women are in denial about their unearned power and privilege when it comes to sex, dating, relationships and socializing. Sure - but if you're at all familiar with the standard progressive idea set you know it skews very 3rd wave, wage game is real, blah blah. Gen Z girls are slightly more conservative - but still plenty full of the progressive fervor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/19 08:33 PM
16	CMV: Most women are in denial about their unearned power and privilege when it comes to sex, dating, relationships and socializing. A lot of women just flat out don't know. So many truly believe in the wage gap, rape culture, etc. etc. Not sure if it's shifted but a number of polls pegged of 60%-70% millennial women as progressives ... which is ... crazy. If you go through life that way (you think the other gender is the enemy) your behaviors are going to help fulfill the prophecy over and over. It's sad - a lot of unneeded distress.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/19 04:42 PM
1	What is the Current Social Climate Like for Men and Boys in the United States? Independence - yeah exactly. As someone who has been married, while I love the idea of lifetime partnership, there's no way I'm going to be in a position again where I can lose everything. Unfortunately that changes what pair bonding actually offers people in our culture. Has lost something crucial. It seems to me that men in general are wisening up - watching their fathers, uncles, brothers, friends get used (like appliances!) and, if not dumped, often heavily mistreated has scared off plenty. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/19 02:31 PM
1	As a guy reading women's Reddit, the amount of posts pertaining to sexual harassment/assault surprises me. Do women actually get harassed this often? Can someone please clearly define what they're logging as "harassment?" These definitions have gotten really slippery. As a guy I've had my ass grabbed, had women be pushy and obnoxious, etc. - I'm not walking around saying I'm a victim of sexual harassment. People are assholes a lot of the time. I have friends who have dealt with serious assault and violent rape - we have to draw a line between things that represent a general annoyance vs legitimately dangerous behavior.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/19 02:11 PM
4	What is the Current Social Climate Like for Men and Boys in the United States? The mixed messaging is really difficult for men to deal with - seeming expectations vs actual incentives / reciprocal treatment. As an example - "good men" take responsibility and have a family ... some do, sure, but how does that square with the state of marriage as a legal construct? How do you function effectively with the Sword of Damocles above your head all the time? Another - "good men" support women having a good experience in the work place without harassment. Again, that's all fine - b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/09/19 05:27 PM
2	Based on these studies, the orgasm gap is resolvable by women picking symmetrical, masculine, attractive partners. Oh jesus christ you don't need a study for that - if you are comfortable with your body you know what makes you cum and what doesn't. It's pretty simple honestly. I've helped a lot of girls who said they couldn't cum get there and it was through communication, creating a safe space to explore, and their own efforts to open up, relax and understand themselves. Try it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/19 04:35 PM
1	True or false "If you’re smart, don’t drink much, stay out of fights, display a friendly personality, and have no criminal history – then you are the population most at risk of being miserable and alone." That's it exactly. I started typing a response but yours was better haha!	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/19 04:26 PM
1	Hoe Phase Depends on the person. Someone who is really sensitive and introverted may end up having bad experiences. Others love the variety. Long enough to have a good time. Short enough that sex doesn't start feeling banal. I wouldn't marry anyone ... but if I were going to, this wouldn't affect me. There isn't a "too many." If someone has uncontrollable compulsive behavior that's one thing but there isn't a moral cut-off as long as everyone involved were consenting adults. Yup. It was amazing at times a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/19 04:14 PM
4	Based on these studies, the orgasm gap is resolvable by women picking symmetrical, masculine, attractive partners. OR women can actually come to understand their own bodies and have an open line of communication with their partner. WHAT A NOVEL CONCEPT! :D	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/19 03:59 PM
2	2019-Sep-12: Dr. Warren Farrell will be hosting an AMA on /r/IAmA Just wanted to confirm that this is still happening today??	/r/MensRights	12/09/19 06:43 PM
1	Don't women 35+ have a vested interest in turning younger women against men? I notice a lot of women in their 30s are pretty sour on younger ladies, particularly the ones that flaunt their sexual power. It seems like this is more peer-to-peer vs older-to-younger - and that women are more likely to try and shame the guys than the girls (the "why can't he date someone his own age" and "so creepy that he's dating a girl so much younger" complaints). The girls are "taken advantage of" (as you note) - though I'm sure they would have bristled at that claim when they were in th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/19 04:24 PM
1	Don't throw it all away by getting married Out in Australia - seems like things have gotten pretty bad over the last 20 years? A ton of the content I see on the topic from Australia - seems like it's pretty actively part of the conversation.	/r/MGTOW	11/09/19 03:15 PM
3	Abuse directed at men by women is normalised to such an extent in society that it's a common theme in children's tv shows and movies Have noticed that too - particularly disturbing that it's laughed off. I saw a study on teen dating violence a little while back (last year? points for anyone who can find share it here) showing that girls were more likely to attack the boys ... the point was clearly made that this was tied to current socialization.	/r/MensRights	10/09/19 05:20 PM
1	Bad dog? No, not at all. That's heartwarming ... need to get a new little buddy soon	/r/MGTOW	10/09/19 03:21 PM
-16	TRUE hahaha the second I heard this joke I KNEW the MGTOW forums were gonna run with it forever ;D	/r/MGTOW	10/09/19 03:09 PM
2	Monogamous relationships are necessary for survival of western civilization. Let's modify that - it's no longer UNIVERSALLY ideal or relevant. Is it still vital to maintain a sustainable core? Probably - particularly if you look at the better outcomes kids raised in two parent households enjoy. But that being said who knows what the split is going to look like - could be 50% are monogamous / hetero ... 20% non-monogamous / hetero ... 15% monogamous / lgbt ... who knows?! The other thing to consider - we live really long lives ... we could slide in and out (no pun intende…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/19 02:45 PM
1	Don't throw it all away by getting married Haha yeah I have too - full blown white knighting. Wasn't she on Tucker Carlson a long time ago before he semi-red-pilled? I do wish the MGTOW / TRP networks would do a better job of broadcasting voices like hers and Warren Farrell vs the 21 convention crowd (I like these guys but that is certainly more niche appeal). Another great one is Bettina Arndt out of Australia - she's got a real sense of humor too. Any others you like?	/r/MGTOW	10/09/19 02:39 PM
2	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? There ARE lots of kids out there who need support from male role models to be sure - encouraging mentorship from a young age for boys would help a lot with that IMO. From the time I was about 14 to my mid 20's I was either an assistant instructor of some sort (sports / mixed martial arts / etc.) or a teacher and the experience of taking on responsibility (in part) for someone's growth and well being was hugely rewarding. Think we should all look to encourage boys and men to start developing more…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/19 02:31 PM
1	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? Again that is true - but the likelihood of that approach going well is very very slim. Kids aren't dumb - that little person is going to wonder why he or she doesn't have a loving father around. It's going to be a tall order to tell that child that "well you didn't need one and I filled those roles with a hodge-podge of guys who will never look at you like a real father will." This whole argument greatly devalues the role of father in child rearing even though the data is unequivocal : children …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/19 04:25 PM
3	Standing by idly when women say sexist things about men is toxic masculinity. Personally I'm not a big fan of wasting breath on deaf ears - if someone is already ideologically possessed and hateful, you're not making a difference. Now if you feel absolutely compelled to chime in - make fun of them. Humor is the most effective weapon against the current insanity (look at the gnashing of teeth over Chapelle). It's better to have real conversations with people you already have some sort of amicable relationship with. Friends and family are going to be much more inclined to g…	/r/MensRights	09/09/19 03:36 PM
17	Don't throw it all away by getting married Helen Smith presents these issues really well - good interview when she gets out there. Wonder why we don't see much of her. That book pretty much hits the nail on the head. Any women questioning the state of things should pick up a copy.	/r/MGTOW	09/09/19 03:26 PM
70	This is what we're taught in canadian public school. Jesus christ - starting at what age?	/r/MensRights	09/09/19 03:19 PM
1	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? Well, she can go for it but adoption is no joke. Can you find a steady male presence? Maybe - but that is a huge factor to leave to chance. Not having a father isn’t trivial - it sure gets treated like it is though. Personally I think this is beyond irresponsible.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/19 12:49 PM
3	Men have no friends, women most affected Said it before and I'll say it again - women are unlikely to make substantive adjustments to how they conceptualize (let alone treat) men until the plight of men is so bad that it affects THEM in a negative way. Having said that - we need to just get a move on rather than expecting change from the ladies. It's all well and good to point out how selfish these sorts of "takes" are ... but that's not going to solve the problem. Best to get our own acts in order, support guys in their efforts toward…	/r/MensRights	08/09/19 09:05 PM
2	I Think it's Time To Check Out on Women The sea is a healing thing. Go get back on it man. You'll be ok. Good luck.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/19 08:59 PM
2	CMV: No, gender roles are not coming back. I personally predict that trans-humanism will make gender differences irrelevant, but we already see this happening to an extent. One day you may be right - that day is far down the line though. At a minimum the current gens and next couple gens are going to have to grapple with this mess. It seems from your post that you don't really get what the TPR crowd is ultimately aiming at - which is for key issues which affect men to be taken seriously, for women to take responsibility for their own cha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/19 08:50 PM
2	The gender focused movements (TRP and Feminism) makes men and women paranoid and anxious for no reason. The sentiment here is right - there should be more nuanced conversations and there's plenty of negativity broadcasting. It's certainly not "for no reason" - which I think is where you're gonna get most of the pushback here. If you're a dude who has gone through the meat grinder of a divorce or destructive relationship(s) you know how bad it can get - saying this from personal experience (mine was bad but nowhere near how far down the rabbit hole things get for some men). It's really important fo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/09/19 08:29 PM
3	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? Oh yeah - it's not gonna be any picnic for the ladies. I think their biggest issue is going to be denial and miss-identification of the problems / responses. Much as people shit on the "manosphere" there's so much content helping guys navigate. If women keep soaking up "advice" from their cheerleading friends and ideologically driven media outlets it's going to be a long road for them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/19 06:31 PM
0	The hyper-focus on online dating/looks by men on reddit is because they are socially anxious , bad at flirting/game/socializing and have small social circles with mostly men. Some fair points in what you posted. Dating apps are only one way to meet people, they are strange ecosystems and only partially indicative of mate selection processes and preferences (for either gender). Still, I think a lot of the analysis is interesting and warranted. These systems expose (pretty starkly) how powerfully certain status indicators are in garnering at least an initial attraction for women. That's useful - the more we understand what base software is operating in us humans the be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/19 06:07 PM
3	What do men offer in relationships in this day and age? Ok - I disagree with a ton of point but this one in particular : men are way less concerned about women's sexual pleasure than women are about men's, (proven by the fact that women are less likely to orgasm and enjoy sex in general less than men) This is another perfect example of women shunting all responsibility onto men rather than taking on their own hangups. Are there plenty of bad male sexual partners? Sure - but balance that against the women who don't understand their bodies, can't commu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/19 05:05 PM
1	Lisa is one of the most redpilled women out there. Will be helpful when women start pushing back against other women's unreasonable views and expectations - so yay to that. BUT awareness doesn't ensure behavioral change ... btw if anyone has links to conversations of women discussing this without the usual "men bad" bullshit, please send or post.	/r/MGTOW	06/09/19 04:48 PM
4	I shared some "old man" wisdom yesterday. Pretty much every young guy I talk to these days is aware of red pill thinking / mgtow / etc.	/r/MGTOW	06/09/19 04:41 PM
2	Saw this and although my Dad wasn’t the greatest in making sacrifices for us kids, I have witnessed greatness by other fathers. Here’s to you 🙌 It is sad man - glad you are receiving that though ... tough to say if you're the norm or exceptions but certainly at a societal level the devaluing of fathers is hard to miss.	/r/MensRights	03/09/19 09:52 PM
1	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? Oh sure - if you're a smart person you need intellectual engagement, no question. As you get a little older in life, it seems fairly clear that degrees and certifications are not directly associated with a real richness of understanding of the world, human connection, etc. Technical competence - depending on field, absolutely. I guess these checklist-type requirements or attributes (e.g. "must make 6 figures" or "must be a hottie") feel juvenile.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/19 09:31 PM
1	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? well ... when you read about the "herbivore men" ... kinda eerie ... not sure if I love Japan's current moment as our future ...	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/19 09:10 PM
2	Why do I have to lie to women The dating app world isn't the entirety of the dating scene ... you may want to try real-world channels. You get very very little real information in very limited time frames on apps - not a great way to show off a person's character. It's criterion hunting and intuition. Join some groups in the physical world and develop friendships. See what happens.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/19 05:11 PM
1	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? I don't know bout all that. Marriage isn't the end all be all sure - certainly not the way it's constructed now. But if you have 10's of millions of people getting older without family networks that is going to have a devastating effect on the culture. Technology, etc. could provide SOME support - but as humans we need close connections, love and support. We could become more communally oriented - but that is a tall order.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/19 05:01 PM
1	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? At 25 yeah those preferences make sense ... charisma and fun don't get the job done on their own if you're looking to have kids in your 30s (which a lot of women want). Dating women in their 20s vs 30s vs 40s (and on up) is a totally different game. These conversations need a bit more nuance to be useful.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/19 04:57 PM
1	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? I think we're gonna see a lot more of that - got a couple friends that almost exclusively date self-described sugar mommas ... comes with it's own suite of challenges to be sure. But people need companionship - they're gonna find it and adjust.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/19 04:47 PM
1	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? Yeah I think this whole perception that women have to be chaste is ridiculous - when push comes to shove some guys talk a big game here but ultimately don't care	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/19 04:46 PM
15	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? Is that accelerating? I know the number of single mothers as a percentage is wild - think other groups are catching up ... how is it discussed in the community (if you have that insight)?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/19 02:28 AM
32	According to Forbes, women in their 20s without children out-earn men by as much as $1.08 to every dollar, according to some estimates. What are the implications for relationships? Oh man, it’s gonna be a long road for us all. Not sure ladies are going to have that many options other than adjust their mate wishlist or hoof it alone (the interest in single motherhood - whole ‘nother topic but seems grossly unethical to intentionally ensure a child doesn’t have a father as part of your “lifestyle choice”). Interesting that in the drive for equal (if not preferential) access women didn’t upgrade their gender-role requirements in fairly crucial ways. Pretty clear blind spot th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/19 01:53 AM
-2	A 1/10 chick admitted banging 20 dudes now wants a relationship. GYOW Dude, who cares ... as a guy who has banged a hell of a lot of girls, I can’t fault anyone for wanting to go and have fun. If she’s a shitty person - fine. But you’re not bad or good based on notch count.	/r/MGTOW	03/09/19 12:18 AM
1	For real. My parents keep saying that I’m just going through a phase and that I will change my mind a few years later... Once was enough. Never again, gentlemen. Never again.	/r/MGTOW	03/09/19 12:16 AM
2	Should you avoid women all together if I don't have my ***t together? Probably good to avoid getting into a serious thing until you have the anger side of things somewhat handled ... but you don't have to swear off the opposite sex. If you do choose to date let the person know that you are getting your shit together - no harm in that. If the person isn't understanding of that then you shouldn't be exploring anything with them anyway. One thing - if you are deeply longing to find someone, be careful if you do connect that you maintain yourself and your boundaries s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/19 11:02 PM
2	Discussion: Why are women's exercise clothes such more revealing than men's? Women like to peacock for each other and men ... let's not be naive. Certainly helps that here's utility and flexibility wearing sports wear (it's kinda every-day wear at this point) - but you think they don't know full well that those cuts leave little to the imagination? So, for the girls who keep saying - "this is for me, not for anyone else" ... that's fine (do you) - but don't pretend that most women aren't heterosexual and quite often enjoy flaunting what they got.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/09/19 10:56 PM
1	2019-Sep-12: Dr. Warren Farrell will be hosting an AMA on /r/IAmA This is great - putting it on the calendar ... would like to know if he sees a significant change in male understanding of their own predicament - the younger ones in particular ... from my standpoint (almost 40), it seems like there has been a surge in conversation among guys my age ... commensurate with the up-tick in aggression by the greater culture to tamp down the wrong thinkers. Warren's been doing this for what - 30-40 years now??	/r/MensRights	02/09/19 10:26 PM