dazedandlost12 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
0	I loved her but couldn't love her in sickness.		dazedandlost12	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/22 02:15 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	I wasted half my life Found several scientific articles of the risks of autism and childhood cancers going up 6x the risk with offspring of men over 40. I'd check into that. That's pretty fucked that youre so concerned about Downs but not autism or cancer. Lol	/r/Divorce_Men	20/10/22 02:50 PM
2	I wasted half my life You're too old to be a dad or a figure for a child to aspire to. You'll be retiring in a few years and also most are dead in their 50s. Youre literally almost 50 dating someone 30 and wanting kids. What the fuck. Even your ex was 6 years younger than you so your need for younger women for whatever reason (this was before she was too old for kids so no excuse) If women your age aren't interested in you and you have a history of dating trainwrecks which you've admitted, here's your clue. Healthy y…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/10/22 02:45 PM
1	I wasted half my life Yes it was the norm before we progressed as humans and stopped seeing each other like arm trophies or babymakers You're in your 40's though too. It's borderline cruel to have children and you living to be in maybe 5% of their life. Your time ran out. I've always seen numerous women in their 40s make babies so unless you have something personally unethical about the woman being old and not the man, you should be fine. This was a weird conversation. We are overpopulated, adopt, fuck.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/10/22 09:32 PM
10	Spouse with mental illness and financially dependent on me. Leave. Save yourself. I did and I may have gotten a lot of hate for it on here but you aren't obligated to be anyone's caretaker.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/10/22 04:29 PM
2	I wasted half my life Why, though? I have no attraction to young women and only slightly younger women. 11 years is an incredibly large gap and a little weird. They are often unstable and have father issues when they like older men. You seem to have a type, saying that kindly.. id be real careful	/r/Divorce_Men	18/10/22 04:27 PM
3	Mid-divorce, daughter won't respond My boys didn't seem interested in speaking to me today.. reading this post filled me full of so many wild emotion. She's been so peaceful and out of the blue, small things started like this. I am worried she is speaking badly to me to them like this or they feel some sort of obligation to her to act cold to me around her. She should be discouraging it. she refuses to even speak to me in their presence so I can't even confront her. I'll have them next week but this'll be the longest week of my li…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/10/22 03:53 PM
3	Introducing kids to new partner Yeah that's way too early. 6 months minimum, I'd wait a year. You don't even know this person friend	/r/Divorce_Men	18/10/22 08:37 AM
1	I loved her but couldn't love her in sickness. Give me a chance here. I know how bad it sounds but I've never been around or exposed to any of this sort of thing. This happened so quick and I don't know how to handle it. Shes always been the tough one if that makes sense. She literally acts like shes another person altogether sometimes and talks like a child. How would you react or feel	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/22 08:34 PM
1	I loved her but couldn't love her in sickness. I didn't delete it. It was removed or not loading for everyone I think people took that comment the wrong way. She was very distressed by her entryway disfigurement. I dditn want to tell everyone the details because its a little gross but the skin inside is all bunched up so unless we lube it up, sometimes it is difficult to get inside. She cried alot when we first got together because she felt she couldn't please me or was inept. I didn't care. I offered her solutions to better her health and s…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/22 08:30 PM
1	I loved her but couldn't love her in sickness. No no I asked her to do it to make her feel better. I didn't care. It distressed her. I didn't want to go into detail about her body but sometimes it's hard for me to go in. Her skin is disfigured and bunched up almost at her entry way. Like the inside of her vagina. I dont know what the word for it. People took that way the wrong way. She cried about that a lot when we first got together because she felt like she couldn't please me so I tried to help give advice and solution for the problem. I …	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/22 08:25 PM
2	I loved her but couldn't love her in sickness. You're right. I didn't mention it in the post but the last straw was my oldest noticing it. He was really quiet one day and it worried so me so I prodded until he told me his mom had burst out crying the night before and told him when he said he was scared of Freddy (watched his first horror movie Nightmare on Elm St. Lol) that he should never be scared of TV monsters because the real monsters were all the people around him. That he couldn't trust anybody even adults because the monsters would g…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/22 03:35 AM
6	I loved her but couldn't love her in sickness. Her sister says they have a lifelong no contact order on both of their behalf. I am speaking to my legal team on this tomorrow on what can be done with this information. She is definitely ill and I'm considering involuntary commitment as well. I swear she was a literal angel from God all of these years. I've never met anyone like her and a soul as selfless as she's been. Thank you for listening and not calling me a pos. I know how this looks. I made a vow but I have to protect my children and se…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/22 03:00 AM
2	anyone feel like they've been stripped off their masculinity? I'm sorry, guy. I am splitting it 50/50 as childcare was in our marriage, but even 50/50 is hard for me. I've always been the most hands on and losing that time with them has been devastating. I fought so hard for full but with her not really being an abusive mom and just more career focused, the courts wouldn't give me primary which I get to some degree. I will always be stuck near her in some way which always sucks. You need help getting the tools, bro? Make a wishlist. Maybe one of us better …	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/22 01:55 AM
2	anyone feel like they've been stripped off their masculinity? No. Any form of masculinity that tells you not to feel, brother, is an outdated and toxic form that we need not pass on. FEEL. HEAL. You deserve it. Feelings are human.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/22 01:52 AM
1	Wife is trying to get me out of the house I see. You seem to have this worked out pretty well. I am a little jealous. I do thing that change is good. I was concerned about your little one (sorry you're a parent too, you get it) but I do feel with your maturity they will be in good hands from your responses here whatever ss.yoj make going forward. Just try to avoid the daycare if you can. I did with mine until they were speaking. There's bad stuff that goes on in every single one. Never trust another adult with a child that young that is…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/10/22 01:50 AM
1	Wife is trying to get me out of the house Hmm. With these factors involved, do you really feel 50/50 is wise with one child being in such bad health and with your job this demanding? It sounds like you've never had that dynamic and this would just be a way to avoid paying child support which you'll pay either way during 50/50 because she won't be able to afford taking care of them much less be able to get childcare nor should the youngest go to daycare at that age. He is already unwell and putting a child that young in daycare is an awf…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/10/22 07:56 PM
1	Wife is trying to get me out of the house Are you equally taking care of the newborn and 4 year old? She just had a child and heart surgery so I am assuming she could potentially overwhelmed and exhausted. What sort of schedule do you have with the children?	/r/Divorce_Men	16/10/22 07:31 PM
1	All women hate men… I enjoyed your comments. Don't let bullies chase you off. We are all hurt and your hurt is just as valid as our's with women. Welcome to the divorce shitshow	/r/Divorce_Men	16/10/22 05:52 AM
0	All women hate men… Your wife left for completely different reasons though. You post a lot here and I sit on my hands usually because we won't hear the entirety of peoples stories but most of us were good husbands and sole providers that gave and gave and are desperate for relationships with our children amidst brutal unfair divorces.. you are someone rightfully divorced that abandoned their kids. You also moved in with your ex and did not cover the house or all the financial obligations as we did so can't relate w…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/10/22 05:46 AM