dbhe Archive

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2	I'm lost in-between different age groups and cultures For that, no idea. I'm 22 and still learning so I don't want to come across as an expert. I would assume though that it has more to do with how you're asking and the initial interactions than just the coffee/ice cream place. Also, what the girl needs changes over time and on context. Don't view the girls as "comfort girl" so she only needs comfort, "value girl" so she only needs value. I imagine that what she looks for on a date has more to do with her inherent value system, aka is she a more ex…	/r/seduction	24/07/18 04:46 PM
1	I'm lost in-between different age groups and cultures “Comfort” vs Value. Seems to me that you don’t understand the two concepts and aren’t adapting yourself to each girl. Every girl is different and needs different amounts of comfort and value . In general you seem more value focused. Hence your results. The foreigner situation is one where you already have a lot of assumed value, hence why they don’t need so many push-pulls. I’d agree with your observations.	/r/seduction	24/07/18 06:55 AM
2	I am afraid of showing interest in a girl if I know i will have to keep contact with her afterwards. How do you continue if she is not interested? I actually disagree with the other two comments here. You should take it seriously because of reputation. In a lot of cold approach geared towards flirting (but also sometimes socializing), there’s a decent amount of risk involved. There’s also a fair amount of breaking social norms but also invading other people’s boundaries. Only sometimes btw. In my opinion, the solution is two-fold. Learn how to do social approaches. And learn how to express intent in a way where you’re not ignoring every so…	/r/seduction	13/04/18 04:48 AM
1	Is it too early in friendship/relationship to ask girl to go on a vacation with me? It’s pretty early. But, if you’re ok with that and aren’t hung up on forcing a yes, then I think it’s fine to ask. Having sex with a stranger after two hours is also too early, but if you two like each other and want to it doesn’t matter. Just my opinion. There are probably guys with more experience in this thread than I.	/r/seduction	11/04/18 02:11 AM
1	When daygaming should I text every number I get? No problem. Todd recommends texting girls at least once a day as an exercise, for good practice. In my experience, it's pretty good practice, but sometimes you don't have anything to talk about and it might've been better to do other stuff.	/r/seduction	16/03/18 09:06 PM
2	When daygaming should I text every number I get? I'm in a similiar situation. Just starting to getting more Day 2's/dates. I'd still recommend texting them. You don't even need to try to hang out. Practicing having conversations, adding emotions, getting over silence, re-initiating over text, etc. are all really good skills that can be applied to platonic relationships as well as romantic.	/r/seduction	16/03/18 08:58 PM
1	Got a non-committed answer asking a girl out. Is my next move just to wait and be cautiously optimistic? In sales, there's a concept that later = never. So, you do need to eventually create a concrete date. That onus is on you. She probably is busy, but, even if she isn't, you should just maintain/learn good text game, keep the lead warm, and be patient.	/r/seduction	22/02/18 05:55 PM
2	As a woman, what tips do you have for approaching and asking out a guy in my class? As a caveat, since you're in college, you also don't have to put too much pressure on the "date". The goal imo is to see him again, regularly, rather than establish a flirty frame right off the bat. Setting up plans from a friendly frame with sexual/flirty undertones is good too. You don't have to explicitly say "I'm interested in you sexually/romantically" (in one form or another) if it feels too abrupt in the beginning. You can establish the man-to-woman vibe more strongly when you hang out.	/r/seduction	22/02/18 05:47 PM
1	How to handle extremely challenging girls? She sounds like the girl version of the guy who's constantly gaming his gf (and not in a good way) because he's insecure about being himself. Be honest with her, set boundaries/communicate what you don't like, and realize that she's probably doing this stuff out of insecurity. Other two possibilities are that she's only using you for validation (unlikely if she actually likes you/state of your relationship) or she just really likes being chased when she says no. Probably a combination. If it's o…	/r/seduction	22/02/18 05:39 PM
0	22 year old female virgin, never had a boyfriend and am graduating college soon. How do I turn things around? Learn game and work on your looks. Most girls rely on their looks and sexuality to attract guys. But, most guys also suck @ game and would never do cold approach outside of a bar/club area where they can drink. For you, your looks may matter more than a guy's. Idk, since I've never had any experience learning from a female POV (though I do know one person). In most cases, I think it can only be a help, so don't use bad looks as an excuse. The only area where you could be disadvantaged is that gu…	/r/seduction	19/02/18 09:00 PM
1	What are your typical escalation 'moves' Kino is not Boner. And Boner is not Kino. The point of touching the girl isn't to play tag with her body or achieve physical moves. It's to touch her in a way to turn both of you, primarily yourself, on, to arouse yourself. If a physical move feels odd, not merely scary and also pleasurable, then it's probably not something you actually enjoy. For example, I probably wouldn't touch her leg. I'd hold her close by the small of her back and pull her in, because that's the type of physicality I enjo…	/r/seduction	17/01/18 04:36 AM