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Low end: Logos bible app, study Bibles How would you go about picking a study Bible? I'd like to get one for my Kindle so I can bring it everywhere. I'd like to get away from using a computer or phone. Too distracting. I'm seeing a bunch of highly rated ones on Amazon / Goodreads. How do you narrow down the choices? I'll be curious how that goes for you. Remember to pray (1 Corinthians 7:5) and treat this as a spiritual fast. Yesterday was the first pretty big trial after being away for a few we…
/r/RPChristians30/07/25 07:19 PM
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OYS #20 Background: 31M, married 3 years, together 8, no kids. 6'3", 205 lbs Overall Objective: I want to be a man who fears God and lives by faith. Putting God first, seeking truth and living a disciplined life is what makes me powerful as a man. I want to be honest with myself and continually forge a life of discipline. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Book of Pook Currently reading: Atlas Shrugged After about a month, I finally understand the book of Ecclesiastes. I read it many t…
/r/RPChristians29/07/25 04:46 AM
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I’m a 50 year old Christain male and I’ve been married for over 10 years now and this is a second marriage for both. Things started out fantastic but slowed down after our children were born. I’ve been reading and following the red pill for over three years. I make good money and provide for the family. I work out a couple of times a week but need to lose about 20 pounds. I feel like a dancing monkey as my all efforts have had little effect. I get more respect but little attention and affection.…
/r/RPChristians01/07/25 02:16 PM
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A couple things: What you're experiencing is very normal and is the case for many Christian men We're fortunate that God is merciful and just when we repent for our sins. There are many examples of this throughout the Bible. The story of David the king is a good one to read into. Virtuous man of God, sins by coveting Bathsheba and indirectly having her husband killed...but is ultimately considered a good man that God makes a covenant with because he repented and humbled himself before God. Jesus…
/r/RPChristians06/06/25 05:24 PM
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I don't mean to open a philosophical can of worms about whether it's compatible. There will always be diverging thought on the subject and it all boils down to implementation on the individual basis. Truth has led me to believe I need God in my life. I believe that without God, everything else in RP withers away. Financial security is important up until a point, but there's a steep drop-off the curve once basic financial security is in place. If I'm being honest with myself, I've spent the past …
/r/RPChristians05/06/25 03:56 PM
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Are you working on an overall statement of mission, vision, calling etc.?
/r/RPChristians05/06/25 03:05 PM
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Hey, good to see you are still alive. You too, congrats on the pregnancy. We are still reading the same books apparently. There's a way that classic novels frame Bible stories in a way that's modernized and expanded, bringing a new understanding to the biblical stories versus if one were to just read the story out of the Bible itself. It makes sense that these books take 600+ pages to weave the story. Do you have any recs for more classics? I'm looking for another book for book club. Zorba the G…
/r/RPChristians05/06/25 02:57 PM
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OYS #19 Moving over from the main sub due to what seems to be a prevailing belief that Christianity is incompatible with RP. I'm not finding value there because what I'm looking for is spiritual in nature. My last OYS was about 7 months ago. In reading over that, I'm realizing I have a lot of recalibrating to do. For this reason, this OYS is going to be a long entry. Background: 30M, married 3 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 200 lbs Overall Objective: I want to be a man who fears God and lives…
/r/RPChristians03/06/25 05:15 PM
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Welcome to OYS! A few things I've found about style/wardrobe...trying to fit myself to a certain 'look' became somewhat limiting / counterproductive. What matters in clothing is that your shit fits right and in good condition (no holes, stains, tatters, etc). After that, the actual styling doesn't matter as much as long as you're owning it. At the end of the day, no one really gives a shit about what kind of clothing you like. One solution to styling I found has been going to thrift stores, look…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 04:34 PM
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Yeah, I find it helpful to look back on my weak, pathetic self from a year ago when I made this account and was posting on the DB sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/24 04:17 AM
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I can drive the bar straight up with left while my right is struggling and imbalanced. Some dumbbell work could help with this. I.e. dumbbell BP or incline press. Directed what we would do, and did it. I got a warmer response, but failed to do what I really wanted. I'm realizing a hard truth. My wife needs verbal intercourse in order to focus and enjoy sex. Your wife is a grown woman capable of figuring out what makes sex enjoyable for her. It's not your responsibility to figure her out. You're …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 05:24 PM
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my own goals of having and exciting and fulfilling sex life What are these goals? What does an exciting and fulfilling sex life look like to you?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 05:09 PM
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OYS #18 Background: 30M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 193 lbs, 15% bf Overall Objective: Putting God first, seeking truth and living a disciplined life is what makes me powerful as a man. I aim to be a man who fears God and is honest with himself, while forging a life of discipline. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: The Rational Male, Year One (40%), Book of Pook (80%) Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (120/365). 13 books compl…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/24 04:52 PM
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OYS #17 Back after around 7 week MRP hiatus. Background: 30M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 195 lbs, 17% bf Overall Objective: Putting God first, seeking truth and living a disciplined life is what makes me powerful as a man. I aim to be a man who fears God, is honest with himself while being wary of self-deception, and who forges a life of discipline. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: The Rational Male, Year One (40%), Book of Pook (60%) Reading Goals:…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/24 06:13 PM
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I enforced one of my boundaries and shortly after, my wife expressed something like "I am feeling negative emotions XYZ towards you, do not try to touch me". Writing this out, I realize I've tried to mindread what this means and should just look for actions instead. I might be enforcing this in a stupid way that isn't lending itself to compliance. What was the boundary you enforced and in what context? At this point, I have goals that I cannot meet unless I enforce this religiously so I don't ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/24 03:34 PM
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I was reading your lifts in lbs but if they’re in kg, disregard.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/24 05:48 AM
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She seems like she’s ready to call it quits about any day. Probably just doesn’t want to have to get a job. Or maybe it's because you're a fragile loser who got his panties in a bunch because a random stranger on the internet said something that hurt your fragile little feelings.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 04:02 AM
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Lifting would solve 90% of your problems. General: Long time without posting, long time without actively working on myself. Lots of "stuff" happened, nothing changed. As to be expected. Improving your lifts will cascade into improving other areas of your life. And I am still fat. Lifting will solve this. I'm often slipping into old patterns of eating like shit and snacking. This too. I often end the day too exhausted to follow up on personal interests. Goal: Draw clearer lines between work and o…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 03:48 AM
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Are you tracking your calories and do you have macro goals set? I wasn't able to legitimately gain weight and strength until I logged my food on Chronometer for a solid 1 week and observed I wasn't having enough calories + protein.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 03:33 AM
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You're denser than a bag of rocks.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/24 03:28 AM
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In writing out this OYS and re-reading it, it's clear that the entire thing is just a pathetic victim puke. All of the career shit is word vomiting and lamenting in self-pity without actually doing anything. I've stated what the ideal path forward is to sell my business, buy a house and launch a different career. I've already taken the appropriate step by getting in touch with a broker and seeing what my options are to sell the business. I've taken the appropriate steps to buy a house. The next …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 08:28 PM
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OYS #16 Background: 30M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 192 lbs, 15% bf Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: The Rational Male, Year One (30%) Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (82/365). 10 books complete…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/24 08:04 PM
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Fucking absolutely. I kept the same handle and post history for posterity so I could look back and see my award-winning victim pukes. And be reminded that those days are an arm's length away.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 03:50 PM
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Relationship / Sex: fucked 1x, blown 1x
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 03:18 PM
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OYS #15 Background: 30M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 190 lbs, 15% bf Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: The Rational Male, Year One Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (64/365). 10 books completed, 2 b…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/24 04:58 AM
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For example people owe me fees, friends. They are slack, have financial issues That's not your problem. Your problem is that your finances are on survival mode. I struggle to ask them for money because I don't want to lose them as friends or students. Something else too. You're in a scarcity mindset. You don't believe there's an abundance of customers who will pay you for your services on time. You don't believe you'll be able to make more friends if a few of your friends drop off. You don't val…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 04:25 PM
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Performance is not an issue but I just lack the interest. Not sure if it's physical or if I'm just depressed. What kind of training are you doing? Are you lifting? You only post numbers for BP. Lifting and sleeping should generally help T problems. And help with depression too.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 04:00 PM
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Almost the entirety of your OYS reads like you're doing this for pussy. To reiterate what u/Spiritual-Maybe7887 said, rethink and unfuck yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/24 03:28 PM
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OYS #14 Background: 30M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 188 lbs, 15% bf Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: The Rational Male, Year One Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (56/365). 9 books completed, 2 bo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/24 11:50 PM
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I'll suggest reading Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl if you haven't already. If you have and it's been a couple years, it could be worth a re-read.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 09:04 PM
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Seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and aligning myself with what is good. FWIW, having faith, believing in God and acting accordingly is a choice and something I can control. It's not some 'Jesus take the wheel' cop-out for what I do in life while being abdicated of any responsibility. It's quite the opposite.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/24 08:54 PM
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Can’t stop thinking about 4 years ago when I was swimming in pussy and happy as I’ve ever been with a big group of friends where I was captain, popular in the community and my girl (then: plate, now: wife) was completely enamored with me. You're holding onto every last ounce of validation. Have you considered the fact that 4 years ago you weren't chasing any of those things? They just came naturally because you were living in the present? Constructing your mission around pussy, being top dog in …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 05:23 PM
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I am revisiting the breaking free exercises and doing some CBT exercises to try and rewire my thinking. When you say you're revisiting the breaking free exercises, are you going back, reading them and saying 'Ahh, that makes a whole lot of sense.' Or are you actually doing them? And I feel better in the moment, but I do wonder how to make permanent change in this area. Like grizz said, by doing. You don't get anything out of NMMNG if you simply read. You actually have to do shit. Start with the …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 05:07 PM
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After listening and reading a bunch of sidebar I realized I've been making sex my mission which is pretty fucking stupid. What is your mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 04:55 PM
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OYS #13 (after 1 month hiatus) Background: 30M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 186 lbs, 15% bf Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: The Rational Male, Year One Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (42/365). …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/24 04:44 PM
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OYS #12 Background: 30M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 195 lbs, 15% bf Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: The Rational Male, Year One Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (32/365). 8 books completed, 2 bo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/24 03:13 PM
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1- I am using dumbbells. Do you still recommend going to barbells only or do the adjustable dumbbells count as free weights? At a certain point loading is more feasible with barbells but I'm not there yet. At your weights you can absolutely use a barbell. Beginner programs like SL 5x5 start off with the empty bar and there's nothing wrong with that. Then you progressively overload. There's a sub for it r/Stronglifts5x5 Dumbbells have their merits but if you want to benefit quickly from newb gain…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/24 03:18 AM
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No matter what you tell me you are not going to convince me that the girls I see in porn (most, at least) are not honestly enjoying the sex they give. Are there any fakes? Sure. But there is genuine willingness in most. And I would like that. Is wanting to have a passionate, willing woman to expect validation from her? I don't know. In any case, I want to have that willing, lustful, sex I see in porn, and that's why I am here. You're weak, pathetic and out of touch with reality. If pussy is the …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/24 09:12 PM
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Physical - Dumbbells and Bench - Equipment Chest Press - 35s x 3 x 12 OHP - 25s x 3 x 12 Seal Rows - 30 x 3 x 12 Squats - 25s x 3 x 12 Deadlift - 35s x 3 x 12 Finished my wedding reception and work is ending (summer vacation) so it's time to get into gear and improve some lifts. I'm still fat and weak after repetitive so without improving this it's hard to say I've done much at all. Get a membership at a gym that has barbells. You will not get strong using machines/equipment. Relationship: There…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/24 09:07 PM
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Have not read Rollo yet. Have only listened to a few RM podcasts and YouTube videos. What Rollo book/ content would you suggest?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/24 01:17 AM
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I think my main concern is working from home means that the main exposure I get with other women is mostly at the gym and I don't need a reputation of hitting on girls there. It's also not like I don't find myself constantly looking at other women at the gym either, I do. Nice cognitive dissonance. Sex: None in the last week. I want to have sex, Nice again. I have lost so much of my attraction to her. Not really sure how to fix that. You won't fix it by bitching about it on an anonymous forum ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/24 09:32 PM
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HoA is right IMO. I haven't read your past OYS, but the entirety of your OYS this week is focused on pussy. No goals, no mission, absence of life purpose & vitality, simple regurgitation of concepts in books. You fingered your girl and she threw a little pussy your way, now you're totally loving life? Dance monkey dance. Look man, most guys (including myself) come through in here because they're sexually frustrated and want to do something about it. But if pussy is your reasoning for being here,…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/24 04:20 AM
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This is also relatively new to me too, and I'm no expert as well...but I've leaned into giving a lot of validation and praise which is the polar opposite thing to what a powerful, high value man needs. The more compliance of the woman, the more validation/praise/reward. Gets dressed up in a nice outfit? 'Hi honey, you look nice today.' with no sexual undertones. Dresses up in a revealing bathing suit? 'Hey honey, you look good today' with a smile, eye fucking and grabbing her ass. Sends pictures…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 05:15 PM
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It seems like the more I lean into my masculinity (which, weirdly, makes me feel comfortable), the more my wife leans into her femininity. I am very happy with this - I have wanted her to dress more feminine but didn’t say anything. She just did it. I'm finding the same thing. It's hard wired. It’s true what I read here that a sexual implication in the build up is a lot more erotic to a woman than saying “I’m going to fuck you tonight” (although I do see a time and place for that line as well). …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 04:42 PM
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OYS #11 Background: 30M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 195 lbs, 15% bf Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: Sidebar Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (25/365). 8 books completed, 2 books in progress. Phy…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 04:11 PM
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I’d suggest dropping your other books until you’ve read or listened to NMMNG. It’s available for free to listen to on YouTube.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/24 05:54 AM
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Practice first at times sex is impossible. i.e. before going to the gym or on your walk. This will give you an opportunity to exercise OI. See 10 levels of Kino , especially #3, 4, 5
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/24 03:46 AM
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I do feel that what I would like is a relatively stress-free life What does that life look like? Compare and contrast it to your life now. Then put together actionable steps from there. Even doing it badly is a good place to start out because you can reiterate as the path becomes clearer. The sense I get is that she would like to keep sex to once a week, but that to me clearly indicates a lack of attraction/genuine desire from her. GTFO of your wife's head. What is YOUR goal in this area of life…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 09:20 PM
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What up with that? Tall with toothpick legs. 6 months ago I could hardly do a BW squat. It's been shooting up a lot lately. Still lots to go. Which type of fish oil, cod liver oil or something else? Now Ultra Omega-3 fish oil. 500 EPA / 250 DHA per dose. Bottle says anchovies & sardines.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 08:34 PM
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OYS #10 Background: 29M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 195 lbs, 15% bf Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: Sidebar Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (18/365). 8 books completed, 2 books in progress. Phy…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 05:17 PM
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OYS #9 Background: 29M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 193 lbs, 17% bf (navy) Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: Sidebar Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (11/365). 8 books completed, 2 books in progres…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/24 02:16 PM
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It's just that I also heard MRP folks telling to back off sometimes so the woman has space to initiate/show her desire. There's a difference between placing a moratorium on sex (see NMMNG breaking free activity #39) versus attempting to strategically distance yourself from your wife to see if she initiates. The former is operating in your frame. The latter puts sex in her frame, is validation seeking, and turns into another covert contract i.e. 'If I get more attractive, my wife will want to fuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/24 06:16 PM
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You say you want more frequent and exciting sex. Do you honestly believe you're going to fuck more with better quality by NOT initiating? Sounds like an ass-backwards plan to me? Your wife point blank told you she's sexually bored. She had to directly tell you because your monkey-assed brain was too dumb to figure it out. How do you kill your need for validation? By actually initiating, revealing your desire/fantasies, and calming yourself if you're rejected or your fantasies aren't fulfilled. i…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/24 03:37 AM
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Nope, and I’m not even sure I’d recommend it because of how messy things could get. I’m just challenging you to confront your anxieties and get what you want in life. You have to figure out how and own the doing part.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/24 12:18 PM
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Gym: I've been doing 5x5 for 7 months. I would like to move to a new routine. Any suggestions? Madcow or 5/3/1. I switched to 5/3/1 after SL 5x5 and can echo the positive things u/Nikehedonist says about the program. I've noticed that she is now picking up some of the slack. She's very touchy and wants to hold hands all the time, cuddle, etc. She's even come up to me to give an unsolicited BJ. I feel a bit confused by this. Is pulling the emotion/excitement to build a future the way to get what …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/24 04:31 AM
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I am now not really initiating much at all as I want to kill my sex for validation need. I need to get to a place where sex is more frequent and less rejections only then I can really push the boundaries. I'm sensing cognitive dissonance here. What happens when you initiate and are rejected? What happens when you try more fun, wild, adventurous things in the bedroom?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/24 02:41 AM
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I'm not sure what exactly I'm looking for here. I know that I want to be desired, ideally by my existing wife, and the absence of this tells me that I have a lot of work to do as a man. If you're focused on improving yourself so that your wife will want to fuck you, that's just another covert contract. You're still negotiating desire and seeking validation. Dance, monkey, dance. Might as well quit now.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/24 09:59 PM
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OYS #9 Background: 29M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 193 lbs, 17% bf (navy) Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: Sidebar Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (11/365). 8 books completed, 2 books in progres…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/24 08:23 PM
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BP- 50lb DB, Smith Squat - 90 lbs, OHP - 40lb DB Fitness - Was doing really well staying active, but think I was pushing too hard on some lifts (even at these relatively low weights) and began feeling shoulder pain often. Took a little break, got my first professional massage and got back into it last night. Still felt some issues but trying to work on form to see if thats the issue Brother, get a gym membership at a place that has barbells. Ditch the smith machine and rack up a barbell. Join a …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 02:40 PM
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OYS #8 Background: 29M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 193 lbs, 17% bf (navy) Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: Sidebar Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (4/365). 8 books completed, 2 books in progress…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 04:12 AM
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OYS #8 Background: 29M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 193 lbs, 17% bf (navy) Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG x2, WISNIFG, MMSLP Currently reading: Sidebar Reading Goals: Read 24 books in 2024, read Bible in 1 year (4/365). 8 books completed, 2 books in progress…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/24 04:10 AM
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I am incredibly proud of myself for having done my grandfather eulogy, I cried like a little bitch in some parts, but the overall reaction of people there was incredible and I felt like I made my grandpa proud for one last time. Dude, it's OK to cry. What's not OK is worrying about how you're perceived by others when crying. Some people are going to think you're a bitch for crying and some people are going to think you're cool. Powerful men own and use their emotions effectively without worrying…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/24 02:12 PM
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When I start to move my wife during sex she pushes back on my and tells me no. Not that I dislike her favorite position (cowgirl) I happen to absolutely love that position, so I'm not really upset that it's vanilla most of the time. But I want to experiment with other positions and intensity levels to see what we both like best and to get a bit more D&V. At least in cowgirl she's excited and enthusiastic. Commenting again on this piece. NO - it is not your job to experiment with other positions …
/r/RPChristians01/05/24 03:43 AM
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OK, I'm back. I was in the car nearly 4 hours today and thought about you quite a lot. I obviously don't know you too well, but you write well, and I've followed your OYS enough to get a decent picture of your situation. Disclaimer: I am not a therapist. What I'm writing are merely theories and ideas based on my limited understanding, things I've read about, and drawing upon some of my own lived experiences. A licensed clinician would be the person with which to seek professional help. There are…
/r/RPChristians01/05/24 03:21 AM
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Hmm, I have a high level theory about what dynamics could be at hand in your sexual relationship. It could be interesting to delve deeper into. I’ll write it up this evening when I’m done with work for the day. 👍
/r/RPChristians30/04/24 12:12 PM
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Do you have a target BW you're aiming for? You've been eating at a deficit for 12 weeks. 17 lbs down in 12 weeks is fantastic. But if you want to go up significantly in your lifts, it's going to become increasingly difficult to do so while eating at a deficit like you've been. I think it would be easier to focus on building strength, THEN trim down your BF% in a cut. You'd have to eat at maintenance or bit of a surplus (clean bulk). When you make this shift is entirely up to you. Either way, it …
/r/RPChristians29/04/24 05:36 PM
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Sounds like you’re overthinking things. Look for a job as if it’s your FT job, lift, read, keep your head down and STFU. These things will help you develop frame. Incremental progress each day.
/r/RPChristians25/04/24 03:30 AM
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My full reply got cut so I'm adding another comment. What I wanted to add about the HJ thing - if she gets horny by giving you the HJ, chances are things will get much more exciting when you transfer that to using her p***sy. Allow her to watch and feel your reaction as you use her. I know this sounds lewd and possibly ridiculous, but it's true. I didn't think my wife was like that either. Your wife currently lacks sexual attraction to you. As you become more comfortable with dominance, she will…
/r/RPChristians18/04/24 07:41 PM
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Wife commented/joked that she was feeling my muscles, that was a bit unexpected. Women are sly like that. They do this to check if you're as strong as you seem.No need to get sucked into the praise. That's a validation trap. Just keep your head down and keep lifting. Powerful men internally understand they are strong and do not need validation. Wife broke off mid-foreplay because I “got lube too early,” I didn’t DEER. After she whined about how she wanted to see how wet she could get before usin…
/r/RPChristians18/04/24 07:12 PM
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Non-existent atm. Do you have any suggestions for structuring Bible time where it's not a huge commitment that becomes too easily unattainable, while still allocating enough time to get in depth? I read the OT years ago. I don't read atm besides the readings at church.
/r/RPChristians04/04/24 02:21 AM
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OYS #7 cont'd Relationship / Sex: Sex 2x, BJ 1x After months of endless victim puking, anxiety, covert contracts, and time spent hoping my wife would initiate, I'm finally moving on and worrying less about sex. Now sex is starting to more or less 'just happen'. Yesterday got what I believe was a fitness + comfort test. I'm going away for a few weeks and sensed some anxiety from my wife leading up to my departure. Yesterday she broke down and started to cry. I STFU and resisted the urge to soothe…
/r/RPChristians02/04/24 04:59 PM
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OYS #7 (joining the discussion from MRP for more exposure to spirituality & Christianity) Background: 29M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 195 lbs, 17% bf (navy) Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, HTWFAIP Currently reading: sidebar Reading Goals: 24…
/r/RPChristians02/04/24 04:58 PM
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OYS #7 Background: 29M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 195 lbs, 17% bf (navy) Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, HTWFAIP Currently reading: sidebar Reading Goals: 24 books read in 2024. 8 books completed, 2 books in progress Physical: OHP 135 lbs, …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/24 04:30 PM
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OYS #6 Background: 29M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 195 lbs, 17% bf (navy) Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG Currently reading: MMSLP (85%), sidebar Reading Goals: 24 books read in 2024. 6 books completed, 2 books in progress Physical: OHP 135 lbs, BP …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/24 06:38 AM
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Good call. Yeah, I cannot fall into the trap of giving improved sex too much credit. That's an ego trap telling me I can dust off my hands because the work is done. It's not just that I'm satisfied with the improvement in sex, I'm satisfied with all the ways my life has improved. I'm not anxious about sex or lack thereof like I used to be, I don't punish my wife with negative feelings if I'm rejected like I used to, I don't spend so much time wrapped up thinking about sex and how to 'get' it, I'…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 03:00 PM
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Relationship: As I become resentful for certain things that my wife does or doesn't do I realize that I am in her frame. I constructed an identity as a loving/devoted partner which was great when it was great but inevitably lacking as it eventually becomes for us. The betaization is real, as my alpha traits are all clipped for the sake of my wife. The sex is very infrequent and duty sex but why shouldn't it be because I don't have a genuine frame or MAP that I am actively following. Its two step…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 02:48 AM
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OYS #5 Background: 29M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 180 lbs. Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG Currently reading: MMSLP, sidebar Reading Goals: 24 books read in 2024. 5 books completed, 2 books in progress Physical: OHP 132 lbs, BP 210 lbs, Deadlift 28…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/24 02:29 AM
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I'm reading MMSLP rn and while I'm still a MRP novice, there are a few things that stuck out: I think some of the teasing I`ve been doing about her weight is starting to pique her self-consciousness as she`s become more vocal about her need to lose weight. You have zero control over whether someone else loses weight. STFU, lift. and stop putting garbage into your body. This stems from the constant dopamine and pleasure I get from vaping/junk food. Besides, who in their right mind would seriously…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/24 07:40 PM
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OYS #4 (OYS #3 completed independently due to Rule 9 ban) Background: 29M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 180 lbs. Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG, WISNIFG Currently reading: Sidebar Starting next: MMSLP Goals: 24 books read in 2024. 4 books completed, 2 books i…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/24 08:17 PM
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OYS #2 Background: 29M, married 2 years, together 7, no kids. 6'3", 180 lbs. Overall Objective: Putting God first and seeking truth is what makes me powerful as a man. This means constantly self-reflecting, being honest with myself, being wary of self-deception, and forging my life in the ways God wills it. Completed reading: NMMNG Currently reading: WISNIFG, Sidebar Starting next: MMSLP Goals: 24 books read in 2024. 3 books completed, 3 books in progress. Physical: OHP 125 lbs, BP 210 lbs, Dead…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/24 06:19 AM
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I did. I don't follow. Can you elaborate?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/24 05:30 AM
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Thanks for the callout, and you're right that it lacks specificity, but the mission remains unchanged. That's what I want in life. I want to put God first. Putting God first means living up to my potential and seeking truth within myself. What I need is to figure out how. Much easier said than done. I'm doing a lot of saying and not enough doing. Time to get to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/24 04:07 PM
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Horrible as of late, improvement as of yesterday. Wife told me yesterday after sex that she had felt pressured to do a specific act as to not bruise my ego. She was seeing right through cracks in my frame of course. Thankfully I remembered to STFU, smile, and give an affirmative nod without trying to justify my bullshit pattern of tying my ego to sexual validation.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/24 03:50 PM
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Hey man, I believe you're right about that. Not sure why you were downvoted - you're absolutely right to question it and it's a great call out. I'm of the belief that God is within all people and all things. Man was created in God's image. To seek God is to seek truth, love & honor within oneself and take full ownership for it. This isn't a perceived deity. It's real. That's why we have a burning conscious knowing we fucked up, could've done better, and aren't living up to our potential. We know…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/24 03:38 PM
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OYS #1 I've lurked for a while. u/vitrael2 introduced me to the sub and encouraged me to join. I came from the deadbedrooms sub and have since left it permanently. That sub did absolutely nothing besides serve as a place for me to journal, be honest with myself, and meet a few encouraging friends along the way. If you want to see an award-winning victim puke, check my post history. You won't be disappointed. Fair warning: the victim puking could induce your own physical vomiting. Background: 29M…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/24 09:17 PM
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