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dcapt46/r/askMRP25/01/18 04:33 PM
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Red Pill Exampledcapt46/r/askMRP16/01/18 08:18 PM
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As others have said DROP THE PORN. Then if you are really that horny masterbate. Unlikely you will MB as much as you used to and over time your desire and performance will increase.
/r/askMRP08/06/18 03:31 PM
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Laugh at her. Get out of her frame. If she uses the big guns you do too. "That's not what Candy says..."
/r/askMRP15/05/18 06:18 PM
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So turd you mention Sex God Method in passing. This is a pretty important resource. Bring out the slut in her will her best be enough to satisfy you?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/18 07:23 PM
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In what sense? Menopause has some chemical, hormonal and physical changes for a woman but it doesn't change the nature of women. It becomes another factor to take into account but essentially changes nothing. In some ways it makes women internalize that they have hit the wall.
/r/askMRP11/05/18 02:51 PM
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Superfit ripped guy looking at girls butts is interesting. Slob looking at girls butts is creepy.
/r/askTRP10/05/18 07:53 PM
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Healthy masturbation if you have to. No porn just focus on the feelings and sensations. Stop if it is not working don't go to the porn. Do this a few times and it will disassociate the Fapping with the porn. And what the others said. Gym often so you are physically tired and distraction.
/r/askTRP08/05/18 07:05 PM
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Move on to Sex God Method. Now that you have negotiated with her to let you fuck her you need to make the next part happen. Dominance, Emotion, Variety, Immersion
/r/askMRP08/05/18 01:55 PM
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Wow wall of text. Good work on lifting heavy, eating better and losing fat. Fix the shoulder should be a priority now. I have had multiple shoulder injuries (Dislocate, broken collar bone, torn due to dips too deep too fast when I first started working out. I couldn't move the bar without it clicking at first. I worked with a trainer and did lots of shoulder accessories like all style of flys (upright, bent, reverse). Lots of band work with shoulder/elbow rotations. I did as much as I could BP (…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/18 05:26 PM
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Similar situation. I grow a solid beard but last time I had one was... when she and I met. Coincidence? Funny how I could get her then yet I caved in to her for years about staying shaved. Regrew recently and decided to shave the central portion keeping 'mutton chops' think wolverine. It makes me very memorable and I decided I didn't like the itchiness on the nose and neck. Grow a beard if you want to. Don't if you don't. OI/IDGAF attitude if she turns you down due to beard will lead her to thin…
/r/askMRP02/05/18 08:21 PM
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I have been doing NMMNG, MMSL, and now red pill for a few years. Admitting I am a little slow to turn everything around I have become much more stoic, funny, strong(literal and figurative) and incorporated many more alpha behaviors. Recently my wife had surgery and needed help for a few days. This was a time to apply beta. She was in physical pain and physically couldn't do some basic things. So I helped her a lot. However it was only for a few days because that was the whole point of the surger…
/r/askMRP01/05/18 02:50 PM
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Scratches on the bars and hurts for heavy pulls. I put it in my shorts pocket (zip). Other than that I DGAF. Also don't wear gloves tough hands is part of the benefit.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 02:38 PM
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I like how you got the sarcasm.
/r/askMRP18/04/18 08:42 PM
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Thanks will give a try. Snoring has crept up as I have gotten older and I think I sleep ok although I almost always wake before 7 hours of sleep. So I am not sure if I am getting enough. - Avoid caffeine after mid afternoon. - Family uses melatonin but I haven't bothered as I have no problem falling asleep is it helpful with sleep quality?
/r/askMRP18/04/18 08:41 PM
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Lift. Be more Social. Get Shit Done. Have a mission and work towards it. This is hardcore shit.
/r/askMRP17/04/18 08:35 PM
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Yeah the author presents this lie so smoothly in this book it suckers guys in thinking WOW this is how open honest communication will get me what I want!!!!! Only the joke is on the guy as all it does is dry her up and cause her to disrespect you. Another similar resource that I thought was great pre RP was "Love & Respect" so long ago I don't remember it but essentially it said 'if you love her and she respects you all will be good'. Problem is the respect has to be earned because you OYS and a…
/r/askMRP11/04/18 04:26 PM
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Sex has never been an issue yet you found yourself here? Really? So you walk in the door and she kneels in front of you and pulls down your pants.... BULLSHIT. Who are you lying to? Tell me I'm full of shit because I don't give a fuck about you. But consider would you really have found your way here if Sex was never an issue. I saw a therapist 10 years ago (way before NMMNG/MMSL/RP) and I told him sex was not an issue because when it was good it was good but was it an issue? Yes.
/r/askMRP11/04/18 02:59 PM
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Is she obese? Does she take care of herself. Often when a woman stops taking care of her home she is also not taking care of herself. How big does she have to get for it to be an issue for you? 150#200# 250#?
/r/askMRP11/04/18 02:53 PM
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But, I’m not doing this with any intention of staying in my marriage. That part is already clear to me. There’s nothing to try to remake. We’re not good partners and we never have been. Your first job is to unfuck yourself. For now your task looks no different if you stay or if you divorce. As you work through the sidebar eventually you either fix this relationship or get to a point where you are ready to actively pursue other women. I suggest that when you get to that point kill the puppy. For …
/r/askMRP10/04/18 10:37 PM
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Working hard on nutrition to cut. Fuck this. Eat more and bulk before you worry about cutting. Get your squat and DL to 2x bodyweight before you cut. Then you have the mass to be a dominant man instead of a defined twig. Are you pulling 350 yet?
/r/askMRP05/04/18 02:16 PM
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Last night I was out getting our son from work (he is a referee for younger kids). I get a text from wife. She and daughter would like chips! Then proceeds to list the chips they would like. What's my response? Ignore. I can't put the food into her mouth but I don't have to put it in her hand.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 05:26 PM
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This. Responsive. I have tracked and generally I see 3 maybe 4 stages. 1 OV more horny responds to very direct approach. 2 Flat stage ok with it but requires kino/buildup/foreplay. PMS/early period uncomfortable/crampy requires extreme amounts of kino/buildup. 4 Late period/pre OV most eager as soon as the cramping etc is gone.
/r/askMRP21/03/18 01:33 PM
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Weights. Look up Stronglifts 5x5. Easiest way to get started in the gym and get great gains.
/r/askMRP20/03/18 02:55 PM
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Gold
/r/askMRP12/03/18 09:24 PM
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Shes not attracted to you and sex isn't good. This is no surprise, these go together. Do the work. Get fit/muscular/attractive. You will find it funny how the sex will improve as you do. You are lucky that she has realized that her SMV(options) is going down while yours is stagnant (or going up if you improve yourself). She realizes that she has few options but dreams of them. So she is unlikely to jump ship unless you do something really stupid or go full beta and put on 50lbs. But she is not a…
/r/askMRP28/02/18 07:29 PM
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After we were preg with 3rd I had decided we were done. Discussed with wife and at the time of the discussion she agreed we were done. Ended up having a C Section and Dr offered to tie tubes since he was in there. I agreed right away. Done. Later wife said she wasn't really sure.... wish we hadn't.... Brings it up as a shit test from time to time. I love it. Easy to shoot down I just offer to try for 4 now anyway - maybe the surgery didn't work.... She has tried to get me to mine snipped in 'sym…
/r/askMRP27/02/18 06:39 PM
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Once you open the door it is hard to close it. You have been asking for an open relationship and now you don't want one because she has options that aren't a girl. Options; Say yes and the door is open for her to do whatever she wants. Say no and say the boundary is other men. Only other women are ok. She either accepts this or gets really upset over the double standard and fucks him anyway. I think the other options I can think of are worse than these two. Your call.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 07:43 PM
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another crack at it, but I won't get many more mulligans. Assuming Good resource but also this is not rocket science. Mostly it is immediate after you are done. Stay there, hold her, ILY, say nice things about her - particularly things like "you make me feel - (warm, good, etc", nuzzle. Talk about plans for the future (up coming trips, adventures, activities to do together). Crap that is all that comes to mind. Check out MMSLP and SGM I think it had some too.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 07:36 PM
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Voyeur trolling through /TRP, /MRP and /Adultry looking for a thrill.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 07:13 PM
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I think my autism may be manifesting itself here. I have really avoided overtly asking for sex or stating that to her as I feel it demonstrates some weakness and gives her too much control back. I was trying to lead primarily by actions as I feel that gets close to negotiations when I start blabbing about my male needs. Are you at a point where you need to be able to differentiate between her shit tests (Fighting you for control) and her comfort tests. When you had the extended duration of incre…
/r/askMRP26/02/18 07:02 PM
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Ask the new family up front what their expectations are and then do what you can within reasonableness to fit in with that. Set out for them what your commitment and priorities are regards to being at your internship and attending functions versus time you expect to plan to spend with them.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 07:20 PM
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He is saying - do stuff. Camp, Hike, Hunt, Carve, Forge, Invent, build with wood do something physical, create.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 07:13 PM
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Nice Analysis. I'm sticking with MRP approved only.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/18 03:44 PM
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Why do most guys eat shit too? Obesity epidemic remember. Primal brain craves sugar, fat, salt.....
/r/askTRP22/02/18 10:41 PM
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OYS is remarkably close to the same as your safe person.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 02:41 PM
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Mmmmm Skittles!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 08:26 PM
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Crap man you are arguing with a pregnant woman because you have to be right. When she gives you some shit about some applesauce where is the A&A - won't have time to spoil because I am going to lick half off it off you tonight! Demanding she name one other time...... what is the point? Do you think she is going to go "Huh he's right this really doesn't happen so much"
/r/askMRP15/02/18 08:19 PM
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It would be different if she wasn't pregnant. If you are truly that far down the path you could ramp up the levels of dread and make yourself scares if she gets bitchy. Eventually you could set a hard boundary in regarding her behavior that you would be ready to leave her over. But you shouldn't dread pregnant hormone crazy.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 08:16 PM
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Wife is pregnant and upset and he rambos the dread with 'blow me'. He is not laughing off her insecurities and emotions he is "Sick of this shit". Mother of 2 of his children with a 3rd on the way gets bitchy and he is ready to leave because he is sick of dealing with her. That is the point of "Fuck this". Anger phase has boiled over.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 04:30 PM
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Holy shit man she is pregnant! Her hormones are going haywire. Where is her oak? oh yah. Fuck this.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 03:58 PM
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Gave her a card on the 13th. Sent some jokes via texts on the 14th. She was so pleased that I sent jokes that she read the clean ones off to the kids at dinner.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 03:38 PM
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Sounds like your challenge is you were butt hurt because she wasn't home on your time off and you tried to hide it by being worried about her. Whats the difference between Cocky and Pissed? To her being cocky when she came home probably came off as pissed. What are you doing to be fun, interesting, exciting to be around? Break the silence? How about some jokes about it. You enjoy the quiet. I love how the house has been so quiet lately. etc Where is the fun?
/r/askMRP02/02/18 03:52 PM
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She knows I do. Sometimes she asks me when she's getting her period. Nothing Covert. But I don't talk about it unless she asks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 02:51 PM
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Yep tracking the cycle is useful. I also started tracking my teenage daughter for mood and energy level. I like how you explain how the tests get harder during Ovulation. Early on after MMSLP (before Red Pill for me) I started tracking her cycle. After a couple months I thought I had it after a couple good sessions at the end of her period and there was the expectation of ovulation was coming = horny sexy time. Fish in a barrel right? Being early in my journey I fucked up when she got bitchy and…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/18 11:24 PM
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You are describing a low value woman that either married up and it just took the man that long to figure it out, or married even and the man grew past her and she didn’t catch up. SMV was probably comparable when they met/married but with the delay in the Men's peak and women hitting the wall he surpassed her. That would be my case.
/r/askMRP01/02/18 03:25 PM
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Looked at the responses above and I like the best is ring pop and hand written card. I would get one of those cards that have a nice pic on the front but no words and blank inside. Then write something simple meaningful like "I like it when you x." Well done that you recognized that the fancy ring wasn't the way to go even if you could afford it.
/r/askMRP31/01/18 03:16 PM
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I started with NMMNG, Way of the Superior Man and then MMSLP after finding some other sex positive relationship resources before I found Reddit. Thinking back though I would suggest to start with MMSLP. That really opened my eyes and was much easier to digest. I would hold back MRP until after he has read at least MMSLP and come back to you looking for more.
/r/askMRP30/01/18 10:55 PM
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So like, treat her good in the morning like nothing happened? I worry that that rewards the behavior. So if it comes up make a joke about it. Show her you are unaffected by her emotions and moods. Show her she has no power over you. You don't punish a pregnant woman like swatting a puppy with a rolled up newspaper.
/r/askMRP30/01/18 06:37 PM
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This is just another covert contract. Look at meeee mommy. I did good. Do you have some more starfish for me! You do that shit (making money, moving into a better house etc) because you are a man and you take charge of these things. Not to make her VERY happy.
/r/askMRP30/01/18 02:54 PM
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Not sure how it’s all his fault is a default idea around here. I am guessing that "Fault" is the wrong concept here. I think what he means is instead of blaming her and having a pity party (as they do in DB) fix yourself and maybe she will come along or maybe - as you point out - he will improve and move on with his life with someone else.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 11:41 PM
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As already noted she does not find you attractive. What you think your relative SMV is does not matter to her. Why? Because you have shown her that for 20 you will be her beta bitch and beg for sex even if you are slightly better looking. So to her your SMV difference is ZERO. The only way to change this is through dread. Lift and dress better than you do now and be social and fun with other women around her. At least she is still providing duty sex. Never turn down sex. Her saying "Do you want …
/r/askMRP29/01/18 08:28 PM
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What does Patriarch mean (to you)? Oldest male? So if you want me to be harsh. You sound like a fit beta provider that lifts. Does she trust you? Integrity? Follow through on what you say you will do? Why is she so angry/despises you? Video games? Porn? No respect because of the depression? Don't tell me no, no, no. You find the one that fits even if I didn't list it. What do you need to do better. Remember this is about you not her.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 05:41 PM
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Sounds like you need to be more fun. A&A is happy, joking, silly laughing, everyone comes out with a grin. If your A&A is sarcastic or biting best you can hope for is a groan and if you are not in a good place to begin with .... that is why you get I hate you.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 05:30 PM
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Hormones definitely but we need context as to when she drops these bombs. Is it just any time you annoy her? How well do you captain? Do you OYS? Do you have any boundaries? I put a boundary down about the divorce threat and that threat stopped. But she believes that I mean it. Wife claims she is 'flying to Paris' every time things get hard and she gets overwhelmed. Early on I just STFU and inside I was upset but over time my mindset has shifted to if you go don't come back and I know she is jok…
/r/askMRP26/01/18 05:20 PM
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What is wrong with Dread? Be attractive doesn't always have to mean clean. Come in from working and have a good hair cut. Clothes that fit. Checkered shirt or good T shirt and good fitting Jeans look good on a fit well built guy. why not be social at the yoga/martial arts event you are leading. Don't be afraid to talk to other mothers. It is not bad because it is dread. 10 years ago my wife was begging me to be more social. Now I see her watching me as I chat and joke with the other moms. She se…
/r/askMRP26/01/18 04:31 PM
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I'm considerably slimmer now. Fat might dry up the panties but slim doesn't get'em squishy. Muscles do that. Lift. Video conference with a tight fitting shirt possible? If not send photo. Just like if you were setting up a dating profile. Hot pic showing you doing something fun and exciting (hiking in exotic local or touring with buddies).
/r/askMRP25/01/18 08:20 PM
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going to have to lift tomorrow Today
/r/askMRP25/01/18 08:16 PM
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Text is a lol different as I don't think it's covered that well... Check out some of the TRP / PUA resources on game by Texting. Im not affiliated with them but off the top of my head the guys at Art of Charm have a good resource for gaming by text. The have loads of free podcasts and a pay resource that is specifically targeting texting.
/r/askMRP25/01/18 08:11 PM
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Any kind of joking and innuendo that you can do over text to get the convo going in a sexual direction in a fun way. If she keeps going with it great the you keep going and push the boundries. If not you have to STFU and try again another time.
/r/askMRP25/01/18 07:05 PM
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Thanks for the input. The smirk and the attitude are improving but there is room here.
/r/askMRP25/01/18 04:53 PM
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Have done the shower thing. It works. Takes a lot of pushing. Scheduled? point of discussing this was that in the past even if she promised it would have not have happened if I didn't act. Ok take out the I'm pretty sure STFU. Yeah I can point to my crotch. I come up behind her and grind when she is bent over - no words etc. Sometimes talking works too. The point of this was not to be exciting and if you think I was trying to get you off too bad I disappointed you. The point was the attitude shi…
/r/askMRP25/01/18 04:50 PM
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Great to have a Kick Ass career but there is something to needing balance. Once you have kids they are a responsibility and if you are away that much and not living healthy that is not good for them. Prioritize Lifting - Must, Career - Must, Health - Must, Frame - Must. These shouldn't be either or choices you should strive for all. This is why lots of guys like programs like Stronglifts it gets great results from lifting 3xweek for about 1-1.5 hours - I don't have 10-15 hours a week to be in a …
/r/askMRP25/01/18 03:32 PM
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With regard to sex, what am I doing that is failing? I need to have more guts when initiating, be more confident/stoic, and put the work in beforehand with seduction. I guess this would be called leading her to sex better. At this point, I can say that I’m not the best captain I can be. Get her warmed up best would be ovulation after some missionary pounding. Then pull out and move her/tell her to hands and knees. "say I won't do anything with your butt I just want to play with your sexy body" t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 11:13 PM
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more like I'm always talking her into it and then shes good with it. With some this may never change however how much you have to do to convince her may continue to drop even more. I have seen times where she was clearly getting ready for it to happen (showered, trimmed, door closed etc) but if I didn't make the move then nothing.... I'm looking for the .. I'm just making cereal or some shit and she comes out of nowhere grabbing my junk. Still working on it. This is working clear sign that she i…
/r/askMRP23/01/18 08:17 PM
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The easy answer is just be the rp example yourself. Get them into sports. Play with them, including teasing(keep it fun not hurtful), wrestle with them, roughhouse etc. One thing I have been able to use as my son gets older (teen ager) is when he is feeling down because things aren't working out coming easy is stories and examples from my pre redpill days of how I screwed up and eventually fixed it. The fixing usually is a RP example at the very least owing my shit.
/r/RedPillParenting23/01/18 07:50 PM
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Nice work on the body. How's the captaining going? Being fun/funny? Doing shit. Being interesting? Once you start getting the IOI's like that it clicks in your mind that you KNOW that you could get younger/hotter/tighter if you wanted and you can be OI when you get a refusal. Now is where you find the balance of getting shit done, being fun around the wife and being scarce especially when she is being rude/lazy/boring.
/r/askMRP23/01/18 07:30 PM
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I'll take a rubber dick up the ass. I own it, I don't fucking care.....To answer your question there is no good reason. My username is to horrify people. Well done suitably horrified. I like how you say "The more beta I went the worse she got." because that is so true. There is so much for a mom with new kids to complain about that a man really has to Own It and be confident in what he should do to help and where he has just laugh and be fun or to just hug her.
/r/askMRP23/01/18 05:15 PM
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Im the only son in my family and my wife had no brothers. All of our sisters had only girls. We have 1 boy and 2 girls. Stuff you just can't control. Doesn't matter for shit. What is the best way to pass on the red pill? Live it now. Be the example now. My son can't remember the crappy me from when he was a baby. He knows the me now that lifts and laughs at shit tests. When you live it there will be time you can drop nuggets of RP wisdom for him. You need to laugh about the ranting about Hillary…
/r/askMRP23/01/18 03:26 PM
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he will end up with a username like mine for all the wrong reasons. I know you lift and understand HRT but what is a good reason for a username like that?
/r/askMRP23/01/18 02:54 PM
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The anger drifts in occasionally. Usually at the pathetic version of me and at lost opportunities and wasted time. Sometimes I get stuck in the anger/memories when I am driving alone and have nothing to focus on. When I stay in the present I am fine.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 11:42 PM
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Lots of good back exercises in this one. Lots of fun too.
/r/askMRP22/01/18 07:45 PM
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I can see what you are saying that 5LL may provide some insight into what is important to her. I come from the perspective of having read 5LL before RedPill, or even before MMSLP or NMMNG (which came before RP for me). I now understand how gifts are bigger for her than form me. However almost always my gifts fall below expectations. Example this year at Christmas I got x gift exactly as she described it and the response was ... but its not soft enough. She had complaints about other gifts too. C…
/r/askMRP18/01/18 07:02 PM
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So I assume you are married? Tried MRP half assed (fuckingaround) for a year and wife is not fucking you raw? Is that about right? Lifts are OK but you are by no means 'there' 155lbs with those lifts I assume you are short or else you are really skinny. What about the other areas? Hygiene, Style, Game, Career, Finances, Social, Frame and generally taking care of shit? Half assed on those? Did you get a half a result from the wife? Remember the 1000ft rope if you never had it(frequent hot sex) yo…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 11:41 PM
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My love language is blowjobs. Which love language is that?
/r/askMRP17/01/18 02:51 PM
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Seeing a Good Dr. who understands this issue and following through until this is handled (treatment etc fixed) and not just one apt with a family doc then giving up because she says its OK.
/r/askMRP17/01/18 02:40 PM
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I agree the goal of this has nothing to do with shocking her or not. So I removed that part. Yes I write as I perceive it because earlier in my journey I went Rambo and had to live with that. Not the end of the world but it was longer before she was really saw me as a leader because of it. Too much asshole and you have tingles but also dislike. Appropriate boundaries and respect grows. I found this worked for me as a building block as part of getting my respect back and that is what I am sharing…
/r/askMRP17/01/18 12:38 AM
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Are you willing to make this an ultimatum? She needs to know believe that she could lose you over this. If not give up and learn to accept her as she is. How important is it to you?
/r/askMRP16/01/18 11:11 PM
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I did a session with him..he said she needs endocrine exam..he said even if I was Brad Pitt she wouldn't notice based on symptoms and descriptions I explained Sounds like you missed getting her to get tested. You may have to go as far as a speech essentially saying that she has to get tested and treated or you are out of the relationship. This could be your boundary. Until you fix that there is NOTHING you can do. That is what you missed. Fix that or you are wasting your time. If she won't you h…
/r/askMRP16/01/18 11:04 PM
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You could have stopped the title at "basic courtesy". Good point. Agreed.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:55 PM
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You have been working MMSLP for years and " In the last 3 years perhaps we had sex 5 times. I have tried in the past to discuss it with wife and suggested counseling, doctor and working on it as a team.. " Tried to FUCKING discuss it!!!! Where the hell does it say you need to discuss this? Crazy Talk. Oh, yeah"- you have it because we are married that I am the only one you can have sex with" this is just her hamster. I used to get this from my wife until I changed it. After she says "....you can…
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:44 PM
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You are referring to this comment on the OYS. So you want an ass kicking? Get the fuck to work. What have you read from the sidebar? Sounds like you should start with NMMNG. Then the rest then come back here.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 10:07 PM
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How is this boiling the frog? This is setting basic expectations of how she should behave. Polite behavior that just should be from the start and that men should never have stopped expecting. There is no need to blow up the relationship and start the main event because she says "Get me a snack". Just deal with it with an appropriate boundary. This is simply some examples of how to reset respectful behavior in basic interactions.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 09:50 PM
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I did see that one. It is a better explanation of frame but I think for someone new it is hard to see what actions they should take which is why I outlined these items they are some concrete interactions that I saw change in my life. "It's not good" I agree it is not comprehensive. It is just meant to give some easy steps a newbie can act on without going Rambo.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 09:40 PM
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If you truly want to improve your life and become a better parent then you are at the right place. What example do you want for your son? What do you teach him? If you want to wait until your wife stops fucking you completely and is having an affair then just don't do anything. Eat/Drink whatever got you up to 270 and play more video games. Then when she is totally disgusted with you and won't touch you come on back and do the work then. In all seriousness do you believe the mainstream "do more …
/r/askMRP16/01/18 09:15 PM
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It will probably never stop completely, women need to be reassured they are with a strong (in all ways) man. However you should be able to get to a place where there are fewer tests and a longer time between them. To my experience the tests shift from 'shit tests' to more "comfort tests" as my SMV/attractiveness/dread increases.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 08:23 PM
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Answering only your question. Women want their husband to man up. They will try all sorts of different things to try to get him there. Lots of them do it by taunting and teasing to test frame but also to get men angry and show they are in charge and have emotion. For years my wife hinted at what she wanted in me but could never say directly that she wanted me to be in charge because she wants to submit to me. So consider yourself lucky that your wife likes you enough to try to get you to get you…
/r/askMRP15/01/18 10:23 PM
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Edit: I did help her move, in order to get her out of the house that was sold. My Favorite edit of the day!
/r/askMRP15/01/18 07:15 PM
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My 15 year old son is squatting sets of 225 and he just nexted his girlfriend for not wanting him to talk to other girls. So I think he is in a much better place than I was at that age. But what do I do for my (younger) daughters. I want them to be fit, feminine and with good home skills but also enough confidence self control to be able to hold out for a man with a good mix of alpha and beta. Best I can do for now is talk through some of those things when chances come up and model it with the w…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/18 04:06 PM
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Your name is appropriate. This is like "surprise wife I am Red Pill now!". And she thinks it is all just an act, something temporary. When you have been regularly going to the gym for months even after she says "I don't really like big muscled guys..." then she starts to believe you. When you take care of shit at home instead of drinking and playing video games for months then she starts to believe its real. When she has rejected you for sex and it has no effect on you (not angry not, petty, bit…
/r/askMRP10/01/18 08:32 PM
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Tell us what you are doing to be more fit, more attractive, more social, more busy...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 09:01 PM
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Massage only when you are happy to only massage. Don't use it as a covert contract to sex. Initiate hard when you want sex and keep pushing until she is the one who give a clear no. That way there is no butt hurt because you massage when you want to massage and sometimes it doesn't lead to sex. Also you are not pushing her away but she is as she holds you off (she should have the sense you can't keep your hands off her).
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/18 03:48 PM
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Women find it very easy to drop threats "I'm outa here" "I'm going to run away to Europe" "Divorce" etc. They can say this many times without doing it but it is a GIANT RED FLAG that you need to work on yourself and get un fucked. If you don't she will jump ship with the next best Chad goes by. Question: "...Take it slow or switch it up" What the serious Fuck???? Improve yourself as fast as you can. Be a little careful about going Rambo. She needs time to believe some of the changes in you are r…
/r/askMRP04/01/18 05:43 PM
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This should be pretty obvious. Larger, stronger, more endurance, more sports, do heavy jobs around house, pick her up, move her around in bed.
/r/askMRP04/01/18 05:25 PM
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As one who saw lots of starfish in the past, also ~20 yrs in. I have found that pushing through,pinning her, moving her where I want and pounding hard leave her panting and clutching my back even if she wasn't into it from the start. Also have tried to be more than happy to have mine and be done if she is not interested in more. If she clearly wants more then I am all in but if she seems content then Im done. She has never complained about this. Lately she has commented/Joked? that this is going…
/r/askMRP04/01/18 04:07 PM
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Holidays Summary Had a great holiday break. - Ate and drank way too much, wife baked great cookies, had sweets around the house - Went to the Gym 7 our of 9 days and still gained 4 pounds. You can't out lift bad diet - but at least I felt good every day. - Wife not happy with gifts I got her but I didn't let it bother me, held frame and her grumpiness was gone by the end of boxing day. - Stuck inside too much because it was really cold until NY day. Led family into some games and watched movies …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 04:58 PM
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I wouldn't deny it was positive and negative but I wouldn't do it again if I could help it. It took too long break out of. Granted at the time we were close to divorce. It took a couple years to take the relationship off life support after the moratorium. But In hindsight if I had a stronger frame and was further down my RP journey at the time I wouldn't have cared. No way I would accept that now.
/r/askMRP02/01/18 03:54 PM
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You can read some of the materials on the sidebar but be prepared with an answer WHEN she asks what you are reading. For example I read Way of the Superior Man and 48 Laws in front of her. Similar ones are ok also there is nothing wrong with self improvement. The other ones that are more like 'game' or RP are better to consume away from her where feasible.
/r/askMRP02/01/18 03:49 PM
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Tried a Moritorium, included No Fap. It was successful at proving to her and to me that I could be near her and give touch without it leading to sex. Did it help? Increased my anger at her that she wasn't impressed with my accomplishment. Distanced us from each other because now she felt like I didn't want her. For me the only thing that broke through that stage was Kino especially when there was no chance of sex. Pushing for sex often and OI when getting hard no. Making sexual jokes and comment…
/r/askMRP28/12/17 09:08 PM
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Are you tracking her period? If not start now. Information is valuable. Mine actually asks me when hers is coming. lol
/r/askMRP12/12/17 12:06 AM
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Interesting instead of "C: Have a plan, execute that plan, take care of shit." he chose D: she's in charge and he will work around her. This relationship won't last.
/r/askMRP07/12/17 11:07 PM
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$50/month is going to do F#ck ALL to $210,000 debt. If you are waiting for that to get paid off then.... too bad. Work out your financial plan. Income/expenses/budget. X$ per month to go to debt and it will be paid off in x months. Fix the finances then this is easy. If you have a real plan and have your shit taken care of and she still says "no not until all debt is paid off" then she is being unreasonable and you can call her on it. No need to go Rambo. Get your shit done. Have a plan be prepa…
/r/askMRP06/12/17 10:58 PM
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refusing to play them... Refusing to play is STFU. Go to the next level. A&A, Humour, Amused Mastery.
/r/askMRP05/12/17 10:01 PM
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So here is where you have a dysfunctional relationship. "Wife, I would like to spend $50/month to go to ABC fitness center". This is not abusive. If financially you are so broke that this would take food off the table or cause the power to be cut off then fix the finances before you try to solve everything else. You don't need to be independently wealthy but you need to have spare cash to the point that you can handle a reasonable hobby each. You have to fix it all not just the parts you want.
/r/askMRP05/12/17 09:58 PM
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I'm actually doubting wether or not she will ever be attracted to me in that way. But I'm starting to realize that the goal for me is not to make her attracted to me, the point is to improve my life to a point where I don't at all care about wether or not she is attracted to me. Exactly get to the point where you are so 'attractive' that it doesn't matter. Either it is her wanting you or someone else wanting you. No need to assume she can't be attracted to the best you until you are that good.
/r/askMRP04/12/17 09:18 PM
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I have come here many times thinking I should ask MRP about her doing x. And as I started writing I think through something from NMMNG, MMSLP, Family Alpha, BPP and realized that I knew the answer. Almost always it came back to one of my failures to hold frame(not be butt hurt, not gloat, not be condescending), get stuff done or lead. I pretty quickly realized that I knew what to do and I wasn't doing all of it. I think you don't get 75% of the benefits for doing 75% of the work. You need to be …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/17 07:40 PM
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Here is where you find that you don't need to whine and complain to strangers to fix your shit. There is a GOLD mine here for the taking and you really only need to post to give back. Thus there is no "Shit" for her to find.
/r/askMRP17/11/17 09:51 PM
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I might never be top 10% MRP guy. It's not easy to admit, but I think, I've plateaued and don't have the juice to invest much more. My current relationship sucks out my life energy tbh. I'd feel better off alone. Lots of honesty here. I am in a similar boat with an imperfectly implemented MAP but after swallowing the pill I am happier and can't go back anyway.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 07:13 PM
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This is the one. Don't hide it like you are getting caught with some secret. Do Not Give a Fuck what she thinks of what you are reading. If she asks for more details you can say "it is an interesting look at how some men have lost their focus on a purpose in modern life" or some other thing that should lose her interest. But yet it is true.
/r/askMRP02/11/17 03:29 PM
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You put in the work and become the one that she remembers last and best. I am late 40s and recently had a session in the car that was way hotter than last time we did it in the car 18 years ago.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 09:48 PM
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Use a common calendar. We use Gmail. She enters 90% of the entries (kids stuff mostly). I enter mine and some common ones. Challenge for me is to check what is upcoming so I have some idea what needs to happen. One of us needs to drive tonight, or both, or need help from grandparents/teammate etc. I try to check the next 2 days every day when I am on the train so I know what is upcoming. When we are booking bigger stuff like out of town we talk about it etc. It is tough to lead when she is more …
/r/askMRP27/10/17 07:08 PM
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...hint one is actually gifts Last time my wife complained about not enough gifts I brought home a new Vibrator. ... all you ever think about is.... She Loved it.
/r/askMRP20/10/17 08:53 PM
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"I don't want to pick it without bettering myself first." SO DON'T. Get your ass busy and better yourself. What do her actions say? You bring her flowers and she doesn't really care but she wants random acts of kindness. Bullshit. She wants a guy who is fit, good provider, takes care of stuff, leads, is social outside the home, dresses well.... and brings flowers. Become the guy who's doing all those other things and worry about the acts of kindness later.
/r/askMRP20/10/17 08:49 PM
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Nice progress you are well down the path. This is sometimes referred to as the Main Event. Sounds like you handled it well and she liked what you laid out. Loads of challenges ahead to maintain momentum but good start. One tough one is to maintain your word on "I won't initiate for 3 months". But stay fun and touch her lots sexualize things lots but don't try to seal the deal and don't be hurt or upset when she doesn't. She may go at you hard for a few days or weeks and then decide to test you b…
/r/askMRP20/10/17 06:59 PM
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Do all above 100% good advice. When he says STFU he means: Don't look for approval (look I went to the gym! Look I fixed that baseboard! Look at me mommy!). But also don't hide things - "Where were you? "at the Gym." STFU Don't tell her I found this Red pill stuff..... (Refered to as don't talk about the fight club). STFU don't try to argue her emotions with logic STFU don't beg or plead for sex women like men of action. Use words of action "I want to..." not "Can we..."
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 06:23 PM
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How do you change her? Are you ready to lose her? Make boundaries that if she crosses them you are gone and you have to be willing to follow through with. She is free to do what she wants but at some point she has to know you will leave if she does. Does she know what that point is? This is where the improvement comes in. You are so jacked, killing it in business, owing it at home, leading, being fun that she doesn't want to lose that for 1 night of messing around..... Or she does and you next h…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 06:10 PM
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Agree and amplify. As others have said make fun of her way of speaking. "Ok yoga pants, If I can find a parking spot I will park (as you are pulling into the driveway) otherwise I will circle the block until I can find a spot." The point is to make hre realize you think of her in a sexual way at the same time as pointing out how silly her manner of speaking is.
/r/askMRP10/10/17 10:33 PM
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Funny how you have no complaints but go on to complain both about her social media habits and hitting on guys around you. D N G A F Be fun but if she pulls obvious shit with other guys in front of you be (legitimately) too busy for her.
/r/askMRP05/10/17 04:03 PM
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On the right track. I agree with the others about you being still not attractive enough to her. Even if your SMV is past hers it takes months - Athol used the concept of 1 month of consistent red pill you to shake off each year of blue pill you. How consistent are you? This shit is hard. No need to ask for a quickie if you are kissing her, pulling her pants off and bending her over the side of the bed. She complains... "what are you doing" answer "what do you think?" or "taking what's mine" or c…
/r/askMRP05/10/17 02:19 PM
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How long did you exercise with the empty bar? When did you decide to progress in 5x5? Once you have your form down and can complete the exercises with out pain (during and after) - a little muscle soreness is ok that is not pain. Then you are ready to add 5lb....
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 02:07 PM
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Talk less. It's validation Allow the action to stand on it's own. This. Avoid looking for the "wow you are such a big boy". Makes her look like the leader. Doing stuff without looking for recognition is leading.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 02:10 PM
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Don't steal her "thunder" by doing tasks she normally does! This is big. Laundry - my wife complains about the laundry all the time but if I do it or fold it some part is not up to her expectations. This is something she does well, takes pride in even if she complains about it (watch her actions not her words). So for us it works that unless she specifically asks me to do something (eg please throw in a load, please carry this basket up etc) I have found it best to leave this to her and take car…
/r/askMRP04/10/17 02:02 PM
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She will do lots of things to maintain status quo (her in control) AKA shit test. Testing your resolve, your commitment, your purpose etc. Example: you are just cleaning to make her look bad, feel bad. You may be doing what she should have done and she may feel bad but you are not doing it to hurt her or spite her. The key is congruence. You have to be consistent in your actions. So you can't do this one time or it does looks like you are putting it in her face. If you are consistent about it sh…
/r/askMRP04/10/17 01:55 PM
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If she is out for fun and it is still early then you will look lame at best or butt hurt and petty. If it is late and justifiable it may look ok but still boring and lame.The only better options are "not to play" (I like the thermonuclear war comment on another thread) - don't get in this situation. If that is not possible be more fun and more attractive than drunk guy. If you are still early in your RP journey then it may be hard to be more appealing than the other guy but this is why we lift, …
/r/askMRP03/10/17 11:05 PM
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A better way would be if your wife is going to the bar to have fun instead of sitting there like a boring shit go and have fun with her. Doesn't mean you have to get wasted. My wife has had some outings like this where she is drinking too much. So I go with her to guard her not by telling her who she can and can't speak with or dance with but I make sure I am the one that is the most fun there and she easily slips into my Frame and has a blast with me. One time I met her at a bar (she was there …
/r/askMRP03/10/17 10:06 PM
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