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Debateddavsii/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 01:59 AM
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most of them are good on the surface level if your goal is to attract the highest number of people possible, but the way they are marketed, like it's the ONLY thing that matters, is false. the concepts of "value" and the "dating market" are imaginary and based on what people only within a certain sphere tend to like. out of the things you mentioned, the thing i agree with the most is "lean into your individual mating strategy". i just think there should be much more room for individuality in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 05:45 PM
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i guess i'm not
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:43 PM
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performance of perfection is worse than genuine flaw
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:33 PM
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can you seriously not see the problem in that dawg. you gotta work on your true self instead of putting on a mask so more people like you. if deep down you are sour, cynical and pessimistic that's the issue. being more attractive is totally fine but ppl always make it seem like that's the sole answer to your dating problems. some people get lucky, others do it and they're lonelier than ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:29 PM
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its not bad advice on surface level it's just the way you become more attractive. seems like all dating advice is just advice on how to attract the most amount of people possible. that's shallow. you can become more attractive but there's a bunch of other problems that appear from there. and those are problems that dating market gurus don't account for. literally just be genuine and be yourself. that's better than doing what everyone else is doing because you want more eyes on you. you can end u…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:20 PM
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yes they are different. different than you, different than me. we're not hardwired to want something specific
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:05 PM
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yeah but that's my point tho, what worked for you is not gonna work for someone else. depends on luck too
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:01 PM
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lol i'm not a victim bro
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:12 PM
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i realize the problem is maybe me not being too in touch with this view, and perhaps there is nothing wrong with it if it's done with caution and room for change. good advice sounds like that to you, and to me it sounds like this: "ignore what the statistics and the people might say. they may be correct, but what's important is not following the steps to become the same ideal. the real improvement in your romantic life might come from improving yourself as you want to. get better at the things y…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:56 AM
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you are fully right. but i think there are generalizations that are based on fact (like the 1/3 of men statistic) and generalizations based on projections (like all women care only about looks, for example). most dating advice is given from generalizations as projections. people have their own opinions, and they'll have their reasons for having them, but it doesn't mean it's true for everyone. that is what i mean. maybe the reason that 1/3 of young men have no sex has something to do with them f…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:44 AM
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why would it not be bad news? you're saying a woman is never going to love me for who i am, that my only hope of ever being with one is just being attractive and working hard to keep her attraction (which will just make the relationship a living hell for me). i want love, equal love, not just physical attraction and power dynamics. why would any self respecting man want to be in a relationship in which he knows the woman is superficial and is only with him on the condition that he is attractive?…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:35 AM
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ok man sure, i just have one question. if you're right... what's the point? if all women are superficial and purely physical, why would you want to be with one? would you admit that it's because maybe you're also incredibly superficial and are only after sex? would you entertain the possibility that maybe your belief is more projection than fact? i think if you were looking for love you'd much rather stay single after learning this no? so what's the point for an average man to listen to dating a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:12 AM
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you're right, there is no "right place" and being good is subjective. i don't think i should've phrased it like that because i'm not trying to say "be in the right place and you will find love". i don't think that's honest advice. more so, i was trying to make the same point you make, that advice is often too general and not actionable. it's often very centered on becoming an ideal and the complexity of humans and their relationships is not considered. i do disagree with your last point, though.…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 07:03 AM
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well, i didn't consider that the woman in the example had specifically asked for advice on how to attract more men. if that's what she wants to do, then yeah, adhering to beauty standards is obviously the way to go. i was more so talking about individuals in general. the widespread dating advice pushes the narrative that we should all be the ideal man/woman without considering that it doesn't align with everyone. i think we should focus more on encouraging people to be the best version of themse…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 05:11 AM
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i think "rules of engagement of dating" is a really nice way of putting it. most advice nowadays is based on these rules which after all don't exist or at least aren't true in a great deal of scenarios.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:23 AM
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you have a good point, but i personally think your example of better advice isn't really good advice either. it may be true in a more general sense, but i think advice like that pushes the idea of the dating market, or the dating scene where you have to be something specific. it's true that most men will prefer fit and "hot" women and tits and ass and all that. but if the woman has no interest in being fit, then that advice is just telling her to bend into a different shape to become someone tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:17 AM
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i agree, i think maybe i worded the title too harshly. not all dating advice is bad, it just doesn't work on a general sense. advice has to be given to someone specifically, knowing their specific situation. on the most general sense the good advice is improve your looks and social capabilities. but i wouldn't fully count that as dating advice, more like self-improvement advice. i also think it's very important to acknowledge that ceiling, but i think it mostly depends on luck. it's about whethe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:07 AM
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i'm not talking about 1% of cases, i'm saying in most cases it's much more than 1%. i think maybe dating advice itself is partially to blame for people thinking these generalizations are accurate. of course, everyone knows there are exceptions to rules, but not everyone stops to think that maybe what they thought was the rule isn't actually the rule. i'm not going to pretend that people with better looks and more money don't have more dating prospects, that is totally true. i think there are cer…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 04:02 AM
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i think advice will always be messy and confusing, because it's not given by women or by men as a group, it's given by individuals. some of these individuals know what they're talking about from an objective and unbiased perspective. some others have no clue and are just giving advice based on what they've seen and perceive subjectively. advice is never objective. the same piece of advice may work for one person and completely fuck over a different person. yeah, let's be honest, dating advice sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/25 08:40 PM
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