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ddramer/r/seduction24/10/16 03:11 PM
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Say "sure". And then just physically escalate. Pull her in by the waist and smell her hair and go for the kiss. If she resists just act confused. "Isn't this what gay best friends do?" If she gets mad, at least she knows where you stand. And you get to see if you should be wasting anymore time with this girl.
/r/seduction23/10/16 05:34 AM
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Don't worry man, we've all been there. The "pussy" stage is just a part of the process. If you're not ready for busy girls yet, try changing up your location. Large shopping malls, supermarkets, coffee shops to name a few. You'll be surprised how many beautiful women often wander around on their own, bored, or waiting for their friends. For example, it's quite natural to strike up a conversation with a girl picking out her dinner at the supermarket. Ask her casually what she's cooking and maybe …
/r/seduction23/10/16 05:30 AM
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I see. How about joining some sort of club or sport? Girls with interests and hobbies tend to be less interested in getting drunk and are more interesting to be around.
/r/seduction30/06/16 05:32 AM
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Yes, it's a sign you can be attractive. Being drunk simply lowers the barriers you've set up to protect yourself. Be your drunk self without being truly drunk, that is the way young grasshopper. But seriously, next time just "go for it" despite everything. If I have learned anything it's that girls aren't that into looks anyway. If they think you're funny that's awesome. Your virgin days are coming to an end my friend.
/r/seduction30/06/16 04:36 AM
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Good questions. Also, have you tried just asking them what went wrong? Tell them you're not trying to convince them or anything and that you just genuinely want to know what happened so you can avoid it in the future.
/r/seduction30/06/16 04:29 AM
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Libraries are good. What's stopping you? Just use any opener you usually use. I like to pretend to ask for something and then admit that I just wanted to talk to her because I thought she was cute. Other than that, have you tried shopping malls and coffee shops in the area? Think about the type of girl you like and find out where they usually hang out.
/r/seduction30/06/16 04:15 AM
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Desperation and neediness kills attraction. You know that much. A guy who is needy and approval seeking does not value himself and seeks to validate himself through other people. Women can detect this faster than Peter Parker can say "spidey sense" and it's an instant turn off. Basically, it's about being completely comfortable in your own skin. All the mentality, techniques, socializing and meditation is just a way to achieve it. It might work for you, it might not. For some guys, it's going ou…
/r/seduction26/06/16 02:22 PM
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I think you know the answer. She texted you back and you're going out. I'd say it was attraction. Good job, let us know how it went.
/r/seduction26/06/16 01:59 PM
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Small talk is boring because it's meaningless. Most guys like to "play it safe" when talking to girls by being neutral. They don't speak out their true thoughts and opinions because they don't want to risk offending anyone. Sure, when you're neutral, no one will hate you for it, but neither will anyone like your or really enjoy being around you...Basically, they don't feel anything while talking to you which can make you seem distant or even fake. One thing that helped me was learning to be pola…
/r/seduction25/06/16 03:20 AM
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Take it step-by-step. You can't just force yourself to think you're worthy, you need to prove it to yourself. Identify the insecurities that are holding you back and either fix them or learn to overcome them (ie. body, looks, social skills, money). It's much much easier to think yourself worthy of beautiful women when you start liking yourself. After all, how can you expect someone else to like you if you don't like yourself?
/r/seduction24/06/16 10:30 AM
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It's not that you're intimidated by successful girls, it's your insecurity in regards to success (even though you seem pretty successful to me). It's stopping you from escalating with these women, as you have outlined in your examples. I think you need to focus less on what value you can give them and focus more on what value they can give you, besides their success. Make a list of non-physical and non-success-related qualities you find attractive in women (eg. same brand of humour, intellectual…
/r/seduction15/06/16 02:44 AM
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Sometimes girls just say no, but it doesn't really mean no, you know? She probably didn't want to seem like a slut (I know, despite those texts). It's just an ingrained thing society places on women. When she says no, just say "okay" and start touching her elsewhere, with more passion. Kiss her neck and smell her hair and get her excited. Then, after a few minutes, try again. She will probably let you progress a bit further and then say no again. Repeat the steps until sex. Obviously, if she's y…
/r/seduction14/06/16 07:14 AM
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Yeah. Scars don't fade completely, you just have to learn to live with them. Whats the one thing that is holding you back the most? Work on that first. Little by little you will accumulate confidence in yourself. It will only get easier. The first step is the hardest. PS: Just realized this is pretty much the same advice everyone else is giving. You should really try follow it though.
/r/seduction12/06/16 01:15 PM
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I'm assuming you want her as a girlfriend. In my experience, yes, there are going to be cultural barriers and you're both going to have to assimilate to each others lifestyle at some point (usually one more than the other). Its like dating any other women really, except some of their views and habits might seem totally alien to you. You never really know until you try so just go for it man. If you're just looking to date her short term then I see no problem.
/r/seduction12/06/16 05:30 AM
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One step at a time mate. None of those things are necessary to be good with women. But if they are holding you back, then you've just made a nice list of things you need to fix for yourself. Once you've overcome your insecurities, the attitude will come, and the women will follow.
/r/seduction12/06/16 05:18 AM
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Lots of good stuff here. I just want to add, don't get too caught up with signs and signals. Sure, they can be useful as a means of gauging how you are progressing, but more often than not, you'll just caught up in over-analyzing things (ie. is she touching me cause she likes me or is she just a touchy person?). In my opinion, best rule of thumb is this: if you engage her with something and she responds without being negative, then she's interested and you should move on to the next step. So for…
/r/seduction12/06/16 02:19 AM
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Yeah I know that feeling well. Just take it one step at a time similar to how I outlined above and eventually taking her home is just the natural next step. Like when you're number closing, you'll reach a point in the conversation where you KNOW she's totally ready to be asked for her number. It's the same for f-closing except rather than mostly engaging her emotionally (making her laugh, building rapport), you'll be more focused on stimulating her physically (touching, making out). From there, …
/r/seduction08/06/16 02:49 PM
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Yeah that happens. It sucks but you'll get over it with more experience. For me, the big "ah-ha" moment was when I started assuming girls were interested as long as they were reacting positively to my actions. Then, I would escalate. So if I start a topic about hats and she replies, she's interested. If I tease her about her hair and she play-slaps me. She's interested. If I put my arms around her as we cross the road and she accepts it. She's interested. So on and so on until I hit a wall (ie. …
/r/seduction08/06/16 02:32 PM
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I think you're on the right track. You've identified clubs and bars aren't your thing so you've signed up for cooking classes. That's perfect. As for approaching on the street, unless you're approaching everyday then you will have approach anxiety and some level. That's normal. As far as techniques go, approach from an angle, have an opener, smile and make eye contact and speak clearly. It doesn't sound like you should have a problem with approaching though, where are you getting stuck? Physical…
/r/seduction08/06/16 03:14 AM
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Ok cool. The date itself should just be a longer version of your initial interaction plus some physical escalation. If you're not moving forward, you're moving backwards. What kind of problems do you run into during the first date? Are you being the same fun guy during dates? Or do you get all nervous and caught up in your head cause it's a "date"?
/r/seduction08/06/16 02:42 AM
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Are you attracted to her? If yes, just shhh her and lean in for the kiss. Obviously she's attracted to you. THEN tell her to behave herself and stop chewing your ears off. If you're not attracted, well, I think you know the answer.
/r/seduction07/06/16 03:21 PM
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Need more info. Where are you getting stuck? Meeting women, approaching them, attracting them, closing, relationships?
/r/seduction07/06/16 03:13 PM
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Thank you sir. It's the result of years of failure and desperation.
/r/seduction07/06/16 12:10 PM
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Well, sure. I was assuming OP is just your average, normal guy. Hell, people even think he's funny. You don't really have to be THAT smooth for this work. Just speak steadily and clearly and smile.
/r/seduction07/06/16 06:24 AM
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lol np. Let us know how it goes.
/r/seduction07/06/16 06:06 AM
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Listen to this guy. If you're having trouble approaching directly, try this: Walk up to a girl and ask for the time, directions or whatever. Then, as she's explaining, cut her off and say "Sorry, actually, I just thought you were really cute and wanted to meet you. I'm Cmuffy." Then let your convo skillz take over.
/r/seduction07/06/16 04:32 AM
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I used to be like that. Approaching was a damn CHORE. My advice, quit porn and limit your masturbation. I'm serious. Less guilt, less time spent at home, more energy, better approaches.
/r/seduction07/06/16 04:23 AM
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This. Or if you're at a night club go there early (like 10pm) and just introduce yourself to EVERYONE. Guys, girls, staff, bartenders...Then, later when more people start filing in you will already know most people there, giving you a nice boost in social-proof.
/r/seduction07/06/16 04:16 AM
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Most guys would prefer a girl to be alone. Most the time, girls are creeped out by guys that are alone. It depends of course, but most guys can't pull off the strong, lone-wolf-but-loving-it personality.
/r/seduction07/06/16 04:07 AM
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I like your selfie plan! As people have mentioned, playful touching awesome, butt bump her as you walk, brush hair from her eyes, hand holding etc... You could also try some role reversal role play: Walk ahead of her and accuse her of checking out your ass. Mention how secluded the area is and tell her she better not be thinking of taking advantage of you because you can scream really loud. Tell her how strong and powerful her legs are as she climbs ahead of you.
/r/seduction07/06/16 04:01 AM
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See post above
/r/seduction07/06/16 03:52 AM
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I actually agree with this. Plenty of other girls out there man. But there's no harm in shooting out a text. Just don't put all your eggs in that basket though. As for what to text, this one has worked for me and some friends to rekindle after rejection sometimes: The mindset: she knows she rejected you. You know she rejected you. This is the pink elephant in the room, which can actually be used to your advantage... YOU: Hey, I need to talk to you about something... HER: Hey, whats up?? YOU: I'v…
/r/seduction07/06/16 03:50 AM
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I dunno...IMHO it kinda sounds like you're just looking for reasons to chat with her. This is fine if you like to play it safe, but since you've been rejected once you need to be more bold, more funny and less boring. Make her laugh and force her to see you as a new person, not the one she rejected.
/r/seduction07/06/16 03:31 AM
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Need more info. How close were the two of you before? If you were close, make her recall your more intimate moments. So if you used to tease her for eating a whole pizza herself, say something like "How much pizza have you had today? Be honest."
/r/seduction06/06/16 11:10 AM
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No problem. I know it sounds like really obvious advice, but once you're part of a social group you won't feel so weird and out of place anymore. You'll also have more opportunities to interact with people so your social skills will improve naturally. Plus, the women you meet will have at least one similar interest and have higher potential to be responsive to you and vice-versa. So join club ASAP! Remember also to talk to as many strangers as possible to get over your issue with communicating o…
/r/seduction06/06/16 11:00 AM
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This. Shit tests are only bad if you succumb to them. Depending on the girl, I usually play along so if she's asking how many girls you've brought back, say something like "Congratulations, you're the 10,000th visitor! Now can you hurry up I have another appointment at 10." OR, if she's the shy type, something more playful like "Actually...you're my first. Please be gentle with me." As long as you're funny, they hardly ever get mad. And as long as you've communicated your intentions properly, sh…
/r/seduction06/06/16 09:41 AM
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You have some great credentials mate, and you don't seem to have a problem meeting women and getting dates, so your problem isn't about getting women to notice you, it's getting what you want out of the relationship...which is a relationship :p In my experience, the times where I was Friendzoned were times where I gave too much too soon. Physically, through spending a lot of time with her or buying gifts, and mentally, by waiting for her texts, trying to impress her or getting jealous and sulky.…
/r/seduction06/06/16 09:29 AM
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Dude, you just described about 90% of men out there. You're definitely not alone in this so don't worry. In fact, you're probably better off than a lot of guys. Just from what you said, here's a few things I think you have going for you: Moderately attractive. Some guys would kill just to be decent looking. Not dumb (this is a big deal) You work in a prison, think of all the amazing experiences/stories you have You can communicate. Your problem isn't a lack of social skills in a non-work situati…
/r/seduction06/06/16 09:11 AM
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