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My wife and I were characters in our Exes stories. Once we played our role, they replaced us. This seems to happen a lot. Some people aren't looking for a life partner, they just need someone so they can check off a life goal/achievement.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 12:52 PM
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Do you feel like it is your story together, or do you feel like you are a character in hers?
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/26 06:18 PM
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If that is the case, she made that decision ages ago. You’re just finding out. Happens to loads of us, men and women alike. What you need to do now is grieve and heal. Therapy is great. Time is amazing. And lastly working on yourself will be a net positive. Good luck. You will get through this.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/24 01:16 PM
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She’s right. I wanted to stay in the city and she wanted to move in with the guy she was fucking.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 09:38 AM
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I joined a run club. I got exercise, be social and have a drink or 2. Then I explored other interests
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/23 10:18 AM
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I hate all of this splitting things in half so much. It should be a fair assessment. If I contribute 40%, I get 40%. If I have to give up my career, the. 1/2 is fair. If I’m a lazy turd and don’t do shit, I don’t get shit.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 02:14 PM
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I joined a run club. I ran and drank beer. And I talked about my feelings to people I trusted.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 12:27 AM
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You probably felt an immense weight lift when she initiated it. Now you’re in the throws. It does get easier and eventually gets better. We’ve been there and we know your pain. Invest in yourself and your happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/22 07:30 PM
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If I would have left her when my gut said so and my friends told me to, I would not be where I am now. I wouldn't have my kids either. It's a double edge sword.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/22 04:43 PM
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She abducted your child.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/22 11:25 AM
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I believe in alimony as a temporary solution to help someone to get on their path to financial independence. 1 month for every year married. That should give them enough time to get additional education, sort out budgeting and find a place in their price range.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 10:39 AM
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This is the correct answer. I know men and women who were devastated.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 02:07 PM
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Your time would be better spent working on getting to know yourself again and healing. Focus on things that make you happy and interest you. I have been where you are and it suck, but it gets better. There is no time limit for your healing, but the sooner you start, the sooner you can move on. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/21 07:14 PM
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I did a divorce without a lawyer. My advice, get a lawyer. I got screwed from trying to be peaceful and not bring lawyers into it. I wasn’t thinking with a clear head. You need someone outside to look out for your best interest.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/21 05:20 PM
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The only reason she doesn’t want to use a lawyer is because she plans on manipulating you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/21 08:37 PM
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I’m in the same boat, op. Every once in a while, I just feel blue. I think in the back of my mind I still mourn for what I lost. Will it ever stop affecting me, I don’t know. I hope it does or maybe I need it to help me appreciate what I currently have.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/21 07:48 AM
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Excellent. Keep the positive vibes going. Meeting a new SO that doesn’t suck the soul out of you is amazing.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/21 02:56 PM
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STOP! You are not in the mindset to make any decisions. You are in a reactionary mode. You need to not agree to anything. You need someone with a clear head and experience to help you. Next, every thing you are feeling is temporary. You will come through all of this. But you need to take care of yourself from an emotional and health standpoint. Read, listen, exercise, and eat. Good luck. We’ve all been there and made it out. You will get through this as well.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/20 02:28 PM
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That’s probably a better time frame. But I had to fight to get the one at 3 to six months in there.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/20 10:41 AM
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I built time periods into my separation agreement to prevent these situations. Like you can’t introduce someone to the kids until at least 3 months of dating. And no sleepovers till after 6 months.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/20 01:47 AM
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Get the most expensive lawyer you can afford.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/20 06:42 PM
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This is the only way to go. You will be lied to and manipulated if you try to work it out together.
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/20 12:44 AM
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It’s ok to cry. The person you married and trusted betrayed you. You will continually find out new information about how shitty this person was. The wounds will be ripped opened again, from time to time.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/20 02:26 PM
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Welcome to the surprise divorce party. This shit happened to a lot of us. And it sucks. But you will get through it. An easy way to make friends is Start running. Join a running group, When all this shit is over. Best part about running group is drinking and hanging out afterwards.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/20 04:33 PM
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"I wonder if you are ok. And yet, I hope you are fucking miserable." ​ This, I felt this pain. I still feel this pain. One day maybe we won't have this pain.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/20 12:53 PM
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Everyone goes through a midlife crisis. Some people look down the path they are going and run away. Some people try and change their things about that path. Some people fill their life with material things to help them ignore their path. Some people become more spiritual. Some people become self destructive. When I hit my crisis. I got a new job and moved to a new state. Kept my family. When my ex hit her crisis. She ran. Now I only get my kids half the time.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/20 05:27 PM
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When my wife blindsided me with separation, she threw her back out while moving her stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/20 10:10 PM
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Blind sided is the worst. I was blindsided after 13 years together. She was out. No talking, no Counseling, nothing. And it only took 5 months for her to be super happy and in a new relationship. It took me 6 months to get over everything and the loss of my future and family. But now I’m doing good. I met an awesome woman and I do what I want, spend money on what I want. Focus on who the person you were with for who they really were. That helps.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/19 01:00 PM
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Thanks. Constantly analyzing failures and successes.
/r/seduction28/09/19 08:19 PM
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It was the music, the mood, the lighting, and the atmosphere in general.
/r/seduction28/09/19 03:50 PM
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Good Music, Good Food, Good Wine, Good Conversation, and Candles that will remind her of someplace or thing she loves. That's literally all you need.
/r/seduction04/09/19 12:47 PM
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This right here. The friends will judge you and work against you harder than the woman/man that you are pursuing. I had a fantastic relationship kicking off with an amazing woman. And every time she spent time with her friend, our relationship started taking an nose dive (and the friend never met me). Eventually it ended. Friends will work against you if you do not meet their iconography.
/r/seduction04/09/19 12:42 PM
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I feel like it all depends on how things ended. How vested were you in the marriage. How much post breakup contact you have. You ability to talk through all of your emotions. All of these things are factors in your journey to move on. I thought I was ok 3 months out, then maybe I was ok 4 months out. Here I am about 6 months out and still I’m not fully moved on. It all takes time, but the schedule is personal. You’ll know when you are ready. And if you’re not sure, jump out there and see if you …
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/19 01:10 AM
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Enjoy your couches.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/19 12:48 AM
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My ex flaked out on me when we were supposed to tell them together. I’m still bitter over having to be the bearer of bad news to them.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/19 10:07 PM
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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=c709rGYW8v0 This. I listened to this everyday, sometimes multiple times a day, for two weeks. Then when I was starting to grieve, I let myself grieve for a bit and then Jocko would pop into my head and tell me what I needed to hear. Once I got to a certain point, I was able to not think about the future I lost. Now I’m focusing on the future I want. Good luck man. It’s a journey that definitely has an end.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/19 05:06 PM
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I don’t think you’re over your marriage yet.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/19 02:28 PM
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It’s the same story for so many of us.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/19 08:42 AM
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I hear you Brother.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/19 04:05 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c709rGYW8v0&feature=youtu.be That helped me. I listened to it everyday. It took me a while to heal. I am still healing, but I feel like I am in a better place.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/19 07:09 PM
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You need to stop those outings. You are just reopening the wound every time you are with her. You need to have little contact with her as possible . Also, you are confusing the kids. They probably think there is hope for you guys to get back together. I still battle with anger towards my ex. She rolled out on me without a reason or giving us a chance. Every time I see her, she is texting someone. So My mind fucks with me, the same way yours does. Good luck man. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/19 10:48 PM
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Turn off cable and internet. If that does not work, then gas and electric.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/19 09:11 PM
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Man I went through the same shit last month. 12 yrs 3 kids. Let me guess, she's in her mid to late 30s. You need to get a lawyer, stat. And you guys need to work out the details. And then you need to go absolutely no contact with her. Every word you speak to her drives her away.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/19 12:51 AM
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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=c709rGYW8v0&feature=youtu.be Watch that. It’s becoming the voice in my head when I think of my ex.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/19 07:55 AM
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I watch this everyday, sometimes twice a day. It has helped me more than anything else.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/19 09:26 PM
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Wait did we marry the same woman? Holy shit... Are you me? I am literally in the same situation and asking the same questions. The only difference is I have 3 kids. Right now I am working on a 3 step process. Be OK being by myself. Be OK being by myself in social settings (like parties and such). Be OK meeting women and going on dates. Once I have made it through all of those steps, then I am ready for a real relationship. I figure this will take around 6 months or more. Also, I have been going …
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/19 02:32 PM
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Thursday Night. I am in fuck that bitch mode. Which is great, because Karma has been working overtime. This weekend I have been truly #blessed.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/19 05:36 PM
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