Honestly it takes time, I didn't see this girl three times before she mustered up confidence to see me, but after that it was smooth sailing, just make sure she kinda likes you too.that always helps.
This and the comment above, gives me hope, yes that lady is dumb AF, but u can control yourself to move on and make sure shit like that doesn't happen again.
Itt: a bunch of defeated men. C'mon guys, addiction to anything is bad. I Do like the point someone saying we can't cuss and be boys unless it's playing a harmless game.